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Just because something is legal doesn’t make it ethical. And just because society accepts or rejects certain things doesn’t automatically make them objectively right or wrong. No society is ever ‘perfect’ and there will always be aspects of it that could stand to be improved. However, some widely accepted things are so toxic that it’s a wonder how they ever became commonplace.

Redditor u/Nebulaud recently asked the AskReddit community to share the social norms that they personally think deserve to disappear from the world, for good. Many internet users rushed to vent their frustrations, and we’ve collected their most interesting takes. Scroll down to check them out, and if you agree with any of these opinions, give them an upvote.

Bored Panda reached out to the author of the important discussion, u/Nebulaud, for their thoughts on shifting social norms, the most problematic things that are accepted that shouldn't be, as well as how to have a healthier work-life balance. You'll find our full interview with them as you read on.

#1

Person lying on examination table during ultrasound, highlighting normalized medical practices. The one where women don't get to decide what to do with their own uteruses.

mom_with_an_attitude , MART PRODUCTION Report

HTakeover
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad thing is it's not limited to the topic of abortions. Also applies to tubal ligations and hysterectomies just to name a couple.

Heras buddy
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I don't get women support Republican leadership. They want to subjugate women. It would be like men supporting The Democrats for castration of males.

Michael Largey
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's only when we nominate a woman for president that men get castration anxiety.

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Chris the Bobcat
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man 100% agrees. Fvck using religion as justification to institute state-sanctioned morality laws.

Phil Green
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The US is in desperate need of getting into the new millennium. Women where I live have complete and irrevocable body-autonomy. What is happening in the US, currently, is not that far from what is happening in Afghanistan under the Taliban.

James016
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those who deny women the right to do what they need to with their own bodies were the ones claiming "my body, my choice" when it came to the Covid vaccine. You cannot have it both ways.

Rinso The Red
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One is about my body, the other is about public health. Total opposites

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Julia Mckinney
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was hoping to see an end to that before I die, you know, in about 20-30 years (I'm only 60+).

Gen X Feral
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 55 and just beside myself 😑 I have 3 girl grandbabies 11, 13 and 14 and heaven forbid they need an abortion. I would literally stand there with a pew pew to a doctor's head if that's what it takes idgaf 🤬

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Tim Gibbs
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am assuming this is US centric?

Jenka666
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not an American, and I think this is atrocious. What I find interesting is the emphasis on the “right to life“… but only until the second you are born and then you’re charged a fortune in medical fees if anything is wrong. It works nicely for commercialism. Very sad.

Michael Largey
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone who sincerely wants abortions to end should be all in favor of birth control being readily available. But often they're against that too. Mmm ...

justanotherweirdo
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11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be a law that women can make the appointment, no questions asked

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According to the author of the thread, they decided to ask the question online after thinking about how societal standards change over time. "Things that are normal today can become abominable as time passes as more about it is known by the general public. Other things that people judge now will become more accepted," u/Nebulaud told Bored Panda.

A major issue that the redditor sees in this day and age is how much screen time children get and the type of content they're exposed to. "The internet is not a babysitter," they said.

"At first, I thought that giving your child unrestricted access to a tablet as an excuse to rarely pay attention to them was a rare thing, but I kept seeing it happen more and more. It describes my childhood, but I now often see small children and toddlers watch things that are clearly too disturbing to be consumed at such a young age."

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They gave an example that they think is particularly problematic: "The current big thing is Sprunki, which is a bait-and-switch horror Incredibox mod with colorful characters that devolves into a gory hellscape once you get to Black. An interesting concept, but not one suitable for the children that YouTube pushes it towards with its algorithms," they explained.

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    #2

    Person sitting barefoot against a concrete wall, embodying social norms that should stop being normalized. Having a bigger problem with the victim who's complaining than the perpetrator who's behaving badly.

    beulahbeulah , Pixabay Report

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But what were they wearing? /s

    TotallyNOTAFox
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Please don't dress too provocative and keep an arm length distance to stay save" - Government of Cologne after the wave of sexual assaults on New Year's Eve 2016. That pretty much sums it up

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    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a broader problem where bad people are given license to be bad because they've already been written off, and being bad is just what bad people do.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or even worse, they’re wealthy.

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    StrangeOne
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This happens to me too often. It's hard for me to speak up. When I do it's because there's a real injustice going on. Plus, I would want someone to stand by me, too, so I stand up for people.

    Daveygravey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This, this, this, this, this..

    Annabelle
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Searching for a reason to hate the survivor because you refuse to face your own issues. After all, it's so much easier to kick someone when they're down.

    George D
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whistleblowers have this same issue which is also shocking. For some reason our society seems to look down on what they deem as complainers or tattletales way, way more than the than the person/group/company that's up to malfeasance.

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one has a problem with actual victims, raising actual issues. The problem that most of us have, is the fact that the definition of victim has been broadened to include anyone who is confronted by anything that they just don't like. That words are violence, responsibility, accountability and consequences are now "discrimination" and "hate." Certain people are celebrated and championed for standing up for their own self interest, while others are vilified.....and one of the many reasons we have a problem with this, is because actual issues, actual wrongs get lost in the sea of entitled, whiney BS.

    Severus S
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uk justice system in a nutshell, Yes he looked at Class A pictures of children but puting him in jail means he will lose his job.. Judge: Ok lets just tell him to attend 5 therapy sessions.. Thanks Kier Starmer..

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    #3

    Woman applying skincare before mirror, challenging social norms. Not accepting aging. 20-year-old girls shouldn't be getting 'preventative Botox,' and actresses showing signs of aging shouldn't lose jobs. 'Aging like milk' shouldn't be a saying at all. Normalize aging in general.

    anonymous , Pavel Danilyuk Report

    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you obsess over aging, what are you saving your youth for? You're the youngest you'll ever be and the time to live that life is now.

    Bonesko
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was 29, I remember getting really depressed and obsessing over looking younger. I'm 38 now and think what's wrong with looking 30, or 40, 50, whatever age you are?

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    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm aging like wine. And cheese.

    Hell Iz
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Aged milk is cheese. And cheese is delicious.

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    Montanavanna
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom is hyper aware of her aging and will use language disparaging getting older. I remind her how lucky she is to be able to live to the age she is. My husband has been getting more critical of his aging face. I tell him that when I look at him I still see that hot 22 year old who took my breath away all those years ago.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's inevitable. You can make it look like you're aging slower but your body on the inside will go the pace it's supposed to.

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never looked good when I was young either, and I like the me I am now a lot more than the me I was at 25. Experience is the best teacher, if only one learns from the lessons.

    Angela Jester
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm 52, I keep reminding myself it's OK not to look 20. It's perfectly normal for me not to look 20. Why is looking 20 some kind of achievement anyway? I've been through some sh!t in my life, why is society still expecting me to look "fresh" ??

    iseefractals
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Helen mirren is in her 80's, she's never had cosmetic surgery, and she has maintained AT LEAST one acting credit, per year, for more than 5 decades. Meryl streep, Sigourney weaver, julianne moore, Frances McDormand, Judi Dench, Diane keaton, Glenn Close, Marisa Tomei.....there is no shortage of older women in hollywood...so long as they actually have talent. The ones whose career's revolved around their looks? Those are the ones that get left by the wayside...and that happens because they're actually being held to the same standard that everyone else had to endure, to fight through to actually earn their place.

    Bella Sennei
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, please. I'm almost 46 y.o. and I really look forward to getting older. I'm curious to see how my face changes. And I prefer older women (and men) cause I like wrinkles a lot. They tell a story, make them very interesting and individual and they make peoples' faces beautiful.

    Definitely a Human
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've taught a high school class where the girls were talking about getting Botox. They were 17.

    Susan Hill
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aging is normal, the most normal thing there is...

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    "There are also other media that are pushed by algorithms, like other horror games, provocative music videos, politics, f****h games, true crime, etc. These also still appear on the YouTube Kids app. Other parts of the internet are also unsafe for kids due to both people assuming that most users are at least teenagers and people seeking out kids to exploit," u/Nebulaud explained that some violent or adult content that people are "frequently baited into" can "scar even grow adults."

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    From u/Nebulaud's perspective, social norms should benefit the society they are in. "If they start causing more harm than good, lose their purpose, or were never good in the first place, then they should go instead of remain as an annoying husk," they told us.

    "Ones that I hate but weren't in the thread are children being viewed as subhumans unworthy of respect, changing your mind being viewed as shameful, being expected to be fully informed of and take a side on every political issue you never heard of, automatically hating people you don't understand, and mental health being viewed as expendable."

    #4

    A tip jar with a note saying "Please remember to tip your barista," highlighting social norms. In the US, tipping.

    Biomax315 , Kelly Report

    Aidan Campbell
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pay your staff better and people won;t have to tip.

    iseefractals
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When Trey parker and matt stone did the soft opening of Casa Bonita, they decided to do away with tipping, and pay their servers a flat $25/hr. $52,000 a year, and more importantly slightly above has been established as a "living wage" for the area ($24/hr) Were the servers happy? You bet they weren't! Why? Because that $52,000 a year would be a significant pay CUT compared to getting tips.. a substantial portion of the wait staff threatened to quit over this....so Stone and Parker upped it to $30/hr ($62,400/yr).....and many still weren't happy. What was the solution they wanted? To keep the $30/hr.....AND keep tips. There is no justification for a waitstaff, or cashiers or any of the growing laundry list of people who feel entitled to a 30-40% tip. That's the problem people have, stop trying to dismiss it.

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    Chris the Bobcat
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tipping should be a consumer choice, not compulsory company policy.

    Jenka666
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s what happens when you don’t pay people a living wage

    iseefractals
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always used to overtip, everywhere when i was younger. But the entitlement of so many, expecting a 20/25/30% (or more!) fee for literal seconds to at most minutes of interaction is delusional. You're hitting buttons on a register or carrying food that someone else prepared. I'm not going to buy into the notion that you "deserve" $150 an hour for doing it.

    Sean Sean
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember when tips were 5%, 10%, and 15%? Now the minimum I usually see is 20%.

    Ace
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tips should be as much or as little as you want to give, if you want to give. having options like that on the payment machine should be illegal

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    Hippopotamuses
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I have been in the US, I have got the feeling that tipping is effectively bribing someone in order to recieve decent service. Where I live, fortunately there is a minimun wage, and tipping (though uncommon) is considered a reward for above average service.

    Sven Horlemann
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tipping should be a voluntary, extra appreciation.

    Nitka Tsar
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny that only this specifies a country.

    Michael Largey
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You shouldn't tip because the staff isn't paid a livable wage. But you have to tip because the staff isn't paid a livable wage. That's some Catch 22 the restaurant owners have going for them.

    DowntownStevieB
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a real struggle here. So, you can't just not tip until you know the staff is paid a livable wage. So, people not tipping are also part of the problem.

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    #5

    Man in a white shirt with arms crossed, representing social norms that need reevaluation. "Respect your elders"

    An elderly a*****e is still an a*****e.

    Arandombritishpotato , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always thought respecting elders was about listening to their wisdom, as they have lived longer, and accommodating them when needed. Not putting up with abuse and disrespect.

    HTakeover
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A big problem around it comes from people using opposing definitions of respect interchangeably, whichever is more convenient. "Respect" is often meant as blind obedience rather than true respect or even just deferential respect.

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    CK
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person” and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay. - stimmyabby on Tumblr

    Dog Mom to Zoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Respect is earned not automatically given.

    General Anaesthesia
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a person you get my respect on first contact. After that it's yours to retain or lose.

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    Todd
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    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An a*****e is an a*****e regardless of age. I have met many young a*****es

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Respect your elders" means to me to regard them as people you can learn from. And if they're acting like an a*****e, that teaches you things not to do when you get old. Bad examples are sometimes the best because they are often the clearest.

    O. Puntia
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A stupid old man was a stupid young man .....

    R.C.
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone gets my respect at first. It's up to that person whether they keep it or not. With some people it's gone within minutes.

    Heras buddy
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Show respect and you'll receive respect. It's a two way street. And not all elders are wise. Some are just bitter,old and stupid. I'm 64 by the way.

    Mr.Mister
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Behave like an @$$hole and I treat you like an @$$hole!

    Namea
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because someone is older doesn't mean they've earned more respect than anyone else. I respect everyone until they prove they don't deserve it. Old f***s tend to prove faster than they're selfish, entitled, and out of date.

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    #6

    A person works late in a dimly lit room, surrounded by fabric and papers, challenging social norms. Working beyond your assigned work hours. If I arrive on time, I should be able to leave on time. Ofcourse, a bit of stretch every once in a while is okay but this hustle culture of working 18 hours a day and wearing pride in eyes that look like they have been smacked hard and nice - this norm needs to be challenged and eradicated for good.

    GaloutiKababs , Ron Lach Report

    Jenka666
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m in Ireland and Work for an American company. I find some of the cultural differences around holidays insane. Thankfully, I am legally required to take X amount of days off per year. We introduced limitless holidays in the US a few years ago. it was well known that people take less time off when this is in place. I seen a meme a few years ago that really summed it up. And American says to his boss that he is having a kidney transplant in the morning and will be back in the afternoon. European tells his boss he will be out for a month. Work to live, don’t live to work.

    Chris the Bobcat
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lets add "pay a reasonable wage that doesn't force us to eat, breathe and sleep work, just to pay for lodging and sustenance."

    Tommy DePaul
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I earned my law degree I decided I wouldn't pursue this sort of fast track, mostly for my mental health. I also had a bit of family money (think $1,000/month and a very generous rental - under $500/month in Austin, TX.) I went to work for the Texas Employment Commission and worked from 9-5. My salary, sadly, reflected this choice.

    Diane H
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once told my boss that I Worked to Live, I didn't Live to Work.

    Michael Largey
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the job. Most teachers work more than the assigned hours, but it has nothing to do with any hustle.

    martin734
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to say this is not something I have ever experienced in any workplace and I certainly would not consider it to be normal.

    Bored Panda asked u/Nebulaud for their thoughts on developing better boundaries and a healthier work-life balance. "If you can, find ways to permanently make work easier. Find more efficient tools and techniques that help cut out the grind or make working less complicated. However, do not do too much at once unless you're ok with the company possibly increasing your workload. Try to reduce the mental labor," they shared.

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    Something else to consider is figuring out a "plan B job in case you get fired or your job gets too bad to continue." It might be worth doing this even if you don't have to use it, as "it will boost your confidence because you have a possible safety net."

    The author had some more practical advice that all employees should keep in mind. "If a boss is particularly bad, document what they do wrong and send it to the higher-ups or HR if your company actually has a good one. If you are talking to a higher-up, mention both the proof of abuse and how the boss's misbehavior is reducing efficiency, thus costing money. If the boss breaks the law, also involve the respective government agency."

    #7

    Young woman holding a white shirt, recording a video in front of a ring light, showcasing social norms in fashion. Sharing everything in your life online for strangers to look at.

    throwRA-disabledbrit , Anna Nekrashevich Report

    Julia Mckinney
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I admit it, I *almost* took a picture of a roast I made that actually turned out well. I was able to have it shred nicely. (historically, I'm great at cooking chicken & have a decent stew recipe, I just have problems get a roast right). However, I thought about "where would I even post it?" and decided the internet didn't need to see that I cooked a roast well.

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Julia congrats an a roast well done. I salute you for your cooking and your failure to post about it.

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    iseefractals
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it were only "Influencers" most people could readily ignore it. But it's not. People documenting the minutia of their lives and posting it to their "friend" group and expecting anyone to care about how "perfect" their eggs are, or how "blessed" they are that little timmy didn't flunk out of kindergarten again, or shaming their children online for something that is ultimately the fault of $hitty parenting. That BS has been happening since loooooong before "influencer" was even an accepted term.

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    Geoffrey Scott
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...and then complaining about being harassed. IMO, YOU put it out there.

    Hippopotamuses
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unsubscribe. Every like gives these oxygen (and money, apparently)

    George D
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless it's some income driven objective the whole process seems like an incredible waste of time to me.

    Kit Black
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's definitely not a social norm, but I think it might say more about who you hang out with, if you think it is.

    Johnny McFearless
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially when they share how many pounds their baby shat, in which position, and what was done with the product that has been shat by the bany; all for the laughs.

    Tommy DePaul
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank God I've aged out of having friends with newborns.

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    #8

    "Man in dim lighting, half face visible, symbolizing outdated social norms." Men not having/ showing emotions.

    anon , Ruly Nurul Ihsan Report

    James016
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then reacting badly when we do show emotions.

    Bonesko
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We need to accept that everyone has emotions and it's ok to express them. Women aren't hysterical and men aren't wussy's for expressing their feelings. We're all just human.

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    Jason Kennith
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    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or being made fun of for having emotions in the first place. When I was eight, I was really stressed out because my dad was being abusive. I curled up in the corner and cried. My dad walked in the room and took a video of me crying, then posted it on social media for everyone else to see. I'm not sure if it was taken down. My dad has continued to tear my entire family apart, even though my parents are divorced. I don't wish he was dead, I'm just saying everything will be better when he's gone. At this point, I don't know what to do with my life and I'm honestly feeling suicidal again but I can't tell anybody I know because then they'll just toss me back into another mental hospital. Help me.

    Montanavanna
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not the things that have happened to you. It sounds like you were never given the tools to work through your experiences and emotions in a healthy way. Jason, you have incarnated at this moment in history for a reason. You have a divine family on the other side looking out for you. We need you, please stay.

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    PhaseWitFact
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Odd, anger is permissable for them to have 🤔

    Becky Samuel
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Strangely, anger is now one of the emotions that men are being forbidden from having. While the younger generations are beginning to praise men for showing the more traditionally 'feminine' emotions, the slightest hint of anger is treated as a 'red flag' and accompanied by comments of 'Run! or 'Divorce'.

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    Jenka666
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! It has so many bad outcomes. It’s one of the reasons male suicide is so high.

    Dar Mal
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brit here whose family mantra was "Never let the neighbours know" and "Stiff upper lip" (older parents). I rarely show emotion. The issue is more with the EXPECTATION that men can not have emotions and then shaming them when they do. Don't force me to be demonstrative and I won't laugh at your weeping.

    Geordie Girl
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're not robots, we all know men are emotional, too, just like us women!!

    Heather Ball
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    11 months ago

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    Xiao Mao
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They do show one emotion: anger.

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    #9

    Man wearing jeans and a gray t-shirt smiling, representing happiness in challenging social norms. Saying “boys will be boys.”.

    BarbaraSandra48 , nappy Report

    April Pickett
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boys need to grow up and take responsibility for their actions. They should not be excused by "boys will be boys".

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always answered that horseshit by saying, “No. I expect my men to be men. Real, grown up, emotionally mature men.” That always shut the “boys will be boys” crowd TF UP, because they never anticipate not being agreed with.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saying "boys will be boys" is just a lazy excuse to not rein in bad behaviour.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bad behavior stemming from emotional immaturity that’s actually been encouraged by society for way too damned long.

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    Julia Mckinney
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't like that back in the 70's and I'm glad that that attitude hs fallen by the wayside for the most part.

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And by giving them a pass, you're ensuring they'll never be men.

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The very definition of what it means to be a boy should be modified to emphasize manners and respect while denigrating selfishness and deliberate harm.

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a boy and I know it'd irresponsible of us to not take responsibility (my parents made sure to slipper that knowledge of responsibility into my brothers and my brains)

    Anxious&Bored Bear
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Boys will be boys" used to mean boys will jump in mud puddles after you told them not to.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boys will be boys forever if you don't make them grow up.

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    #10

    Person with hand on face, appearing frustrated, highlighting social norms to reconsider. Asking women when/if they’re going to have children or if they want children. It’s such a personal question that I’m surprised people still ask.

    the_unkola_nut , Baptista Ime James Report

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you answer quite bluntly "no, and it's very rude of you to ask that" they will eventually learn to stop asking.

    Bonesko
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You shouldn't even have to say it's rude. No is a complete sentence. If I am not providing you with more details that's not an invitation to pry. I also hate when people say 'oh well what if you change your mind?' To me, that is not a good reason to have a child.

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    Lace Neil
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once fake ugly cried at someone who wouldn't stop asking me ti's question and sobbed out, " I'm infertile!" She was so embarrassed that she never asked me again, and hopefully it stopped her asking an actual infertile woman that question.

    Bean Driller
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Totally depends on context. People ask men too. There are appropriate times/places when it's fine. Read the room.

    Edison Lima
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, sure, that goes for most things.

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    Chris the Bobcat
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, if a woman (or man) says that they don't want children, respect the answer. Perhaps my reasons are out of your narrow field of understanding as well as none of your fvcking business.

    JoeKing
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ex-Home shopping Driver here. So many people used to ask me if I have kids, I say no.. They reply, well you still got time, or better get on that! I say, (1) Gay Man and (2) I don't want kids. (My Siblings are horrible people who treat my Mum like S**t.) I'm not going to spend 20 years of my life raising/putting kids first, only to have them treat me like that! As for all the BS about "Whos going to look after you when you're old" Ive seen so many people whos kids have left them to rot/struggle in old age, so its not a sure thing anyone will look after you in old age. I'm going to live my life my way!! (Edit) I know the post is about Women, just saying; why do people assume everyone wants kids. I'd rather have dogs!

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people just don’t get that certain social “norms” aren’t normal for everybody, and to quit trying to force them on people who simply do not want to participate. We are not all exactly alike, we can never be exactly alike, and the sooner people start accepting that, the better. It would be a stultifyingly dull world if we were all the same. Our differences are what make us interesting, and give the world some glamor, ffs, so we should be accepting and encouraging of them, instead of trying to force people into conforming.

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    Honey
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This should be higher

    katiekat0214
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then not accepting when they hear "I never want to have kids". That was a hill I was very willing to die on. Older childfree woman here, no regrets. Spent plenty of time saying all the way to yelling and screaming and asserting my choice, my body, my way, my life, MY WILL BE DONE. They got talked over, interrupted, shouted down, and I would not back down. Worth it.

    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, asking people if they want children is rude?

    Kim Kermes
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, it is . It's the business of the theoretical parents and no one else unless you're very close and can say it so you don't sound as if they should.

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    Tommy DePaul
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure about this one. It's almost like asking men, "what do you do" upon meeting them. We all experience difficulties in coming up with conversation starters, and frankly the answer to this tells me a lot about you and allows me to grow closer.

    Kakashisith
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, like not everybody wants to have children or some people cannot. Leave them alone!

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    #11

    A man and child hugging on a brown sofa, embodying positive social norms and affection. Forcing kids to hug or show affection to relatives they're uncomfortable with. Teaching boundaries and consent from a young age is way more important than avoiding a moment of awkwardness at family gatherings.

    kyotopa549 , August de Richelieu Report

    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The idea of consent wasn't around when I was a kid but I'm sure glad that discussions about boundaries and consent have become the norm.

    Lori Ki
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm bummed when the grandkids decide not to hug me but I'm glad that we've learned about consent and the hugs I get are a lot more enthusiastic than many of the ones I gave as child.

    A girl
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told my grandson "if you don't want to, you don't have to" when he was pretty young. 3ish I guess. My husband is a hugger. Grandson loves us and spontaneously hugs us. Periodically my husband will say "I need a hug" and grandson will use the "if I don't want to.." mantra. Forced affection is weird

    Tommy DePaul
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm adopted and grew up in an Italian family. This was one of the best parts of growing up in my family -- all the affection we showed one another . And, of course the food . . . .

    Geordie Girl
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thankfully, my parents never did this with us nor did I do it to my children, just like they don't do it with their children!!

    Hippopotamuses
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes the child is right to feel uncomfortable. Children can be very perceptive.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it humiliates the older relative in front of everybody.

    Jesse
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then let them be butthurt. Kids need to learn that their "no" has to be heard and respected when it comes to physical affection. My late grandmother always kissed me on the cheek despite me turning/running away. When I was twelve, I practically yelled at her to stop. Got her knickers in a twist, sure, but her entire brood learned to keep their cakeholes away from my face that day.

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    11 months ago

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    Bean Driller
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never had anyone in my family encourage this. My niece does NOT like to to be touched and I finally got my mom to stop hugging her. Told her that it means more to Carolyn that you respect her wishes than it does to force her idea of affection on her.

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    #12

    Child with glasses using a smartphone, highlighting evolving social norms. Tablets for little kids. We need to keep screen time to a minimum for all the little beans. It is disrupting their brain.

    BillAdamaFanClub , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    April Pickett
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please give them a childhood first, before the electronics. They should go to the park, the zoo, museums, and play with other kids. Hopscotch, king of the mountain, skip rope. hide and seek. Get them outside and let them play

    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The type of screen time kids are given matters too. Mindless videos are the worst. Educational games are okay in moderation.

    Maru
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents give electronics to their children to avoid dealing with them and do whatever they need/want to do... and since they are "entertained" parents don't have to keep an eye on them for potential "accidents" like jumping from a table or running into a wall or a door, thry want their own peace of mind above other things... if that's what they want, they shouldn't have children

    Tommy DePaul
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing has changed. Before tablets parents sat their children in front of the television . . . .

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    Don Adams
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same can be said for limiting screen time for teens and adults. Seems like most issues/problems are not really caused by politics/politicians (but they do exacerbate them), but it is the wild and wooly internet, the only thing created by man that cannot be controlled by man. Instead of people using their minds and intellect, they can click until they find something that makes sense to them, and feels "right", following whichever wackadoodle appeals to them. Flat earth, making, vaccinations, conspiracy theories and the like used to be the domain of "heard it from my cousin's neighbors sister in laws gardeners mother in law". We always had people like this, but their sphere of influence was limited by land line toll calls, or standing on a corner with a sign. Now they are as free to run as Saquon Barkley through the secondary. It is a very scary time, for sure.

    Todd
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not just true for kids...

    Carol McDonald
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except on planes! All children on planes need tablets! :)

    Michael None
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same thing for adults. I'm amazed at all the people freaking out about possibly losing tictok. I actually hears a 35 year old person say "What am I going to do all evening now? Adults used to revere intelligence, philosophy and ethics. Now we only care about stupid s**t and stupid people doing stupid things. Spending your live doom scrolling is destroying reality for a lot of people.

    CP
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People said the same thing about books. It all depends on what the tablet is used for.

    James016
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son’s electronic devices has helped him with his speech, got him into art (his hypermobility is a hindrance when it comes to holding a pencil). It also got him into piano (about to do grade 2) and more. Of course if it is sunny and warm he is in the garden running around or in his trampoline or even watering the plants. His iPad locks out at 7pm and is heavily locked down and 99% of the apps on it are educational.

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    #13

    Young woman in a red hoodie sitting by a bed in a dark room, illustrating the impact of harmful social norms. Being guilted into being ‘the bigger person to keep the peace’ - you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your own peace for someone else’s.

    letmehauntyourdreams , Sofia Alejandra Report

    CP
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one isn't a hard and fast rule. Different situations call for different reactions. Sometimes being the bigger person is the correct move.

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, f**k that. I pity the person who tries to tell me to 'keep the peace' with someone behaving badly. I will make such a scene they will be wanting to crawl back into their mom's womb.

    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes you need to be the bigger person without them in your life and keep your peace by keeping it that way.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not speaking up has caused me to be forced into taking accountability for s**t that wasn't my fault to begin with.

    Lost Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tend to do this, but not because I'm told to. I just am fed up with all the drama.

    Todd
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So lowering yourself to someone else's level is the goal?

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will be the bigger man if I did something wrong but if you did it and everyone says I have to say it, ohhhhh immabethepettiestpersonalive.

    Subaru645
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t, I was told by my ex that I needed to change, because the thief she allowed into our home would never…gtfoh.

    Sharkfin6
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your comfort ends at someone else's discomfort.

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    #14

    Woman walking on a beach, holding a folder and talking on a phone, reflecting on social norms. Being expected to be 'available' at all times. Work chasing you home, work messages at all hours of the day and night.

    Messages on vacation, sick days etc.

    StillSimple6 , RDNE Stock project Report

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand this one. You don't have to answer the phone. You don't even have to have it turned on or with you every second of the day.

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And they don't have to continue to employ you. That's the point. Most places in the U.S are "at will" employment. If your employer has a "crisis" and you are unreachable, it's all the tenuous reason they need to can your a*s.

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    James016
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once my laptop and phone are off, that's it until the next working day.

    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I talked to a colleague that was flabbergasted another colleague was beating himself up for not checking teams enough on vacation... my work phone stays in my office. period. if there is a real emergency they can call my private one, but that using work phone for private phone so many do is my worst nightmare

    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this thread about the US only?

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had an understanding with my second-to-last boss - He could call me at home only concerning matters where I'd be pissed off if he didn't call and tell me. He knew quite well where that dividing line was. My last boss knew nothing. At all. Less than nothing, if fact, because he "knew" things that weren't true.

    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. I always say"before you F up and I get a mess on my first day back: message me"

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    Heras buddy
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just turn off notifications. Leave it in the suite case. 30 years ago we didn't have them and you can live without it.

    martin734
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again not something I have ever experienced in work and certainly not something that would be considered normal or even legal in many cases.

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    #15

    A wedding couple kisses under fireworks, surrounded by guests holding sparklers; a social norm often romanticized. Weddings.

    Wedding culture under late stage capitalism is insane. Let’s normalize not asking your friends and family to shell out thousands of dollars or go into debt out of obligation. What happened to going to a local bar for a bachelorette party? Why are we planning 5 day trips to Miami?

    CleverQuill02 , Jonathan Borba Report

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally prefer small weddings that last one hour or two (I'm an anti-social hermit). Whenever my family forces me to go to LONG weddings that last from 10am to midnight I'm either acting sick or hiding in the corner of the venue where no one would find me, just scrolling through YouTube

    PhaseWitFact
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a kid and forced to go to weddings, there were no smart phones, no Internet, and I didn't have very many books. Dull times. I eloped, all my kids eloped, and we avoid weddings like the plague they are.

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    StrangeOne
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At the end of the day, the whole marriage consists of filling out paperwork and signing a document. The whole thing can be done unceremoniously or ceremoniously at City Hall or courthouse.

    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The wedding industry insists this is all necessary but you don't have to listen to them.

    Sharkfin6
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My fiancee and I are planning a backyard wedding on his mom's beautiful backyard. Since the first time i visited their house I always thought it was a beautiful space. After being together for 6 years (both in out early 30s now), i can't think of a better place for us to celebrate our union.

    R.C.
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never understood huge, lavish weddings and shelling out 10's of thousands of dollars. Financial issues are a huge stressor on a marriage. Why would you want to start your marriage like that?

    Bianca
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is something I don't understand. If you don't want to throw a Party or Celebration. Just don't do it. We had a civil marriage and afterwards went to our local italian Restaurant with our closest Family (we were max 15 People). Afterwards we had a little get together at home with Selfmade cake. All very easy and without stress. Always keep in mind, this is your marriage and you do it, like you want to.

    Bean Driller
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a mother of a sorority girl who went to grad school, I can tell you it is completely out of hand. Like really. They go to other COUNTRIES for their bachelorettes! Now they are doing it with their baby showers. 120 people are invited to a shower in February. Many coming in from out of state. Disgusting.

    BarfyCat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had 8 people at my wedding, it was lovely. Afterwards, my mother-in-law hosted everyone for a prime rib dinner at her house. I was in it for the marriage, not for the wedding!

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having been through two divorces, I'm not much for weddings. It's telling when one can get married by an Elvis impersonator, but it takes lawyers and money to extricate oneself from the arrangement. Bringing property rights into a relationship doesn't always bode well.

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    #16

    Person holding hands with an engagement ring, reflecting social norms in relationships. Overpriced engagement rings.

    MaryVixen17 , Jesus Arias Report

    troufaki13
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would like an engagement kitty please!

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandfather proposed to my grandmother (who came from an affluent family) with a ring made from a section of barbed wire, polished and wound, with a ball bearing soldered on. He was a poor Tennessee farm boy and couldn't afford a "real" ring, so he made one instead. 70 years later, my grandmother was wearing it when she died.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t even have one, just have a plain gold band, and I haven’t cared about it for the last almost 24 years. I wouldn’t even care if I had a wedding ring at all. The MARRIAGE is what’s important, not the ring, or the wedding, or the honeymoon. The MARRIAGE.

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband and I both lost our wedding rings. Me about 7 years ago and my husband 2 years ago. We want to get new ones but they will be meaningful, not expensive. We have been married 18 years, together 23 years. The ring is irrelevant in the health of our marriage. I am with you, Tabitha!

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    Michael None
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's start the tradition where men get a really nice ring in return. Equality hasn't hit the diamond market apparently.

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only engagement ring im giving/receiving would be a kitty wearing a cone that says "Marry the other Hooman". Cute, inexpensive and falls into the category of "CUTE ANIMALS!" (Ofc to make it official I'll get a ring, not that ignorant)

    Khavrinen
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Overpriced EVERYTHING to do with engagements/weddings.

    Bean Driller
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get a lab grown diamond!! They are waaaay less expensive and no one died for it!

    Disgruntled Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids in graphite mines die for it. Any diamond, mined or factory made isn't great.

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    #17

    People standing in a line, absorbed in their phones, highlighting social norms to reevaluate. Looking at your phone while talking to other people.

    TornadoXyz6429 , fauxels Report

    SolitaryIntrovert
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up years before cell phones came onto the market. I think it was a lot better then.Even now, my phone stays in my pocket when I am out.

    Callie27
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    broooo, this is so annoying, most of the time i'm just talking to myself.

    Phil Green
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The folks with whom I work even take their phones into the washroom, when they're having a c**p! I find that weird.

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    #18

    Person holding flowers in a cemetery, contemplating social norms. Never speak ill of the dead.

    _ReDd1T_UsEr , Brett Sayles Report

    Mr.Mister
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the dead was a @$$hole in his/her life, then I will say so

    Gatorraid
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yea. Imma dance on their grave and spit on it if they were major @$$holes.

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    martin734
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not? A dead twatbasket is still a twatbasket.

    G A
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes the world gets incrementally better when some people die-Gadaffi, Saddam Hussein and hopefully soon Putin and Trump.

    Dar Mal
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what are they gonna do? Huh?

    Littlemiss
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Saw an obituary that went viral for being so raw and said exactly what their mother was like in life. It's sad we treat the dead better than the living.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say it to their face while they're still alive. Much more satisfying.

    Tommy DePaul
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I found that I didn't begin to heal after my mother's death until I could admit that she was often mean and even a*****e.

    Tamara Arden
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like the criminal here in Australia that was shot and killed recently. Why are we even showing his funeral on the news? F**k him. Good people get killed by criminals and you don't see their funerals on the news.

    Barbara Deskins
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will speak ill of my deceased ex MIL for the rest of my life

    Susan Hill
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being dead doesn't automatically make you an angel

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    “If you consider how many workers are feeling burned out and the direct and indirect effects burnout has on an organization, it should really raise a red flag to organizational leaders,” explained senior SHRM researcher Daroon Jalil.

    According to SHRM, some ways to address burnout include staying optimistic throughout any challenges you face, giving yourself some credit, reframing your perceptions and expectations, limiting your demands, and leading a healthy lifestyle.

    #19

    Two professionals at a desk with laptops, discussing changes to social norms in a modern office setting. Demanding new hires have experience for entry level jobs that would give them said experience. Obviously, plenty of jobs *must* require prior experience, but many of the ones that do, really don't.

    Chunk_Cheese , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

    James016
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or senior levels of responsibility for entry level pay.

    Dar Mal
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The teacher rating system in Ohio recently changed. I had been ranked 4 (Accomplished ) for 5 years until it changed, now, I am a 3 (Skilled). The difference in their criteria requires the instructor to essentially perform the duties of the VIce Principals and Curriculum director in our district (while receiving "teacher pay")....grrr

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    Tabitha
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    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a vicious circle of needing experience to get the job, but having to get the job to get that experience. OK, so how the f**k do employers propose we get that damned experience then? We do not come out of the womb with 5 years experience in our chosen fields, ffs—-and not all of us are that highly connected, especially when changing fields. Same goes for those of us who went to college later in life, so weren’t really into the college age social life because we had grown up responsibilities to tend to instead, so we didn’t become best buds or frat bros or sorority sisters with people whose parents are well connected. We’re also not the children of the owner or the manager, or the children of their best a*****e buddies, or the children of the people the owner or manager wants to suck up to. So we can’t get our feet in the door that way. I would really like for companies to go back to offering legitimate entry level jobs, where freshly hired people, regardless of age, can get started in the field of their choice, or change careers to a new field. Especially if they just shelled out a load of money to get the degree that should be the only prerequisite for some entry level jobs—-but not all.

    Tommy DePaul
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or advanced degrees for entry level/low paying jobs.

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    #20

    People in business attire walking and holding coffee, representing social norms. Not talking about your pay to coworkers.

    Gresvigh , August de Richelieu Report

    Kyra Noelle
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's Illegal to say you can't share. It is for your benefit to see if you are getting underpaid. Esp. since women have historically been underpaid.

    Lori Ki
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't know how to fix this. I don't like to talk about money with anyone.

    Littlemiss
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    Premium
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This keeps the myth alive that everyone is equal. I discovered first hand how much more the supervisors were paid in one job. One came in crowing loudly about her pay rise, we thought she was being sarcastic until the other supervisor came in and loudly told her to shut up fast! We got 20 cents pay increase per hour. She said it was going to make a huge difference (she was already wealthy, the rest of us weren't). They got $5 a hour for no extra work, our work included covering their butt's because neither actually worked on the floor.

    #21

    Person in a red blazer giving a thumbs up, smiling confidently, embodying normalized social norms. Everything always needing to be positive.

    tjonkert , cottonbro studio Report

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They mean toxic positivity, for anyone confused by that.

    Child of the Stars
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. And there is a difference. I consider myself to be a generally positive person in the sense that I know most things will work themselves out, but I also don't deny (and I let myself feel instead of bury) the anxiety and fear I feel in a given moment. Learning how to do that has made a HUGE difference in my mental health.

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    StrangeOne
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There has to be a balance. If you only notice the negative, you can't complain about not seeing positivity. I come across this so much. It's just as negative to complain to someone how negative they are for having an opinion.

    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm positive my feet are going to hurt tomorrow.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So what will you do today to help alleviate that?

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    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, it doesn't, but sometimes keeping a positive mental attitude can help keep an even keel.

    Michael None
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No more participation trophies.

    #22

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted Calling ambitious women “bossy.”.

    LisaSiren95 , Moose Photos Report

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I met people who are ambitious and not "bossy" or "b****y" and are generally nice people but I've also met people who are BOTH and they are just uncomfortable to even share a building with.

    Boopsie
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    or Trump's favorite comment when women stand up to him, ugly

    Michael None
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Calling b****y women ambitious. How about we learn to know the difference? There are some really b****y bosses out there and some women who are so concerned with "proving themselves" that they will walk all over their subordinates. I no problem with women as bosses, most of my bosses have been women, but some are so concerned with "being better that a man" that they expect the world to bend to their will despite the damage.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, I’ve had several women bosses and for me it depended on the company. My previous one was like some horrible high school and my current one is totally fine.

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    Michael Largey
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once met a woman who had been described to me in advance as being "bossy". To my surprise, she turned out to look nothing like Bruce Springsteen.

    Sparky
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    11 months ago

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    Is it okay to call the bossy ones "bossy"?

    Becky Samuel
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    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only if you would use the same language to describe a man who is exhibiting the exact same behaviour. Strangely the word 'bossy' is virtually never used to describe a man.

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    #23

    Person overwhelmed at work, sitting at desk with computer and a croissant, reflecting social norms that should change. Work coming before mental health.

    OwnPainting7487 , Mizuno K Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Took a mental health day last week, just as someone suddenly quit, my teammate started her vacation and the store got safety audited. It's been stressful and I've been getting targeted in the drama. Not that day. I spent the day applying to jobs. Haven't heard anything back but hopeful.

    Tenerife
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hope you hear sth soon! Take good care of yourself in the meantime

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    lawrence Andrew
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    11 months ago

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    Eating and having a place to sleep come before mental health.

    Becky Samuel
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And having a full mental breakdown is the quickest way to ending up on the streets.

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    #24

    Checkout screen with tipping options, protein bar, and Vita Coco beverage, highlighting normalized social norms. Tipping on self checkout/retail/fast food just because the iPad told you to. Also not putting a custom tip when the options are 30%, 40% and 50% of the post tax total.

    tubemaster , _seaweed_ Report

    Armac
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m not tipping a blòódy machine

    Vermonta
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they need a hell no option

    A_UserHere
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jesus, 23 dollars for a drink and a wrap????

    JoeKing
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You want tips, get a person to do the job you expect the customer to do for free at self service.

    Tim Gibbs
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are kidding me!? That’s insane!

    Carol McDonald
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If those were the only options it would be 'no tip' for me!

    Liz Mary
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tipping anywhere! It's not mandatory!

    Bonesko
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tip at restaurants, delis and pizza places. If you're getting takeout still tip, but not as much as dining in. But what would be better if if I could get a livable wage and not rely on tips.

    #25

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted Lip fillers, Botox, artificial eyebrows and other manufactured “beauty”. It’s too much pressure on young people and creating a superficial anti aging agenda instead of balanced wellness and healthy attitudes.

    OneConsciousLife , Lucas Guimarães Bueno Report

    Boo
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so glad I'm older than dirt and didn't have these kinds of pressures growing up. Yes, we had teen magazines, but no pressure to buy them. I'm growing old gracefully and I don't worry about trying to fit in. You either like me for who I am, or you don't. I don't give a toss.

    Bonesko
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a great attitude we all need to live by. I've started not freaking out about getting older. I find the older I get the less of a f**k I give. By the time I'm 50 I expect I will give no f**ks at all haha

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    SolitaryIntrovert
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that all that c**p is popular because of "clever marketing". Natural beauty is still the best IMO.

    Zaach
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An acquaintance plucked her eyebrows and had them tattooed on - had to go through tattoo removal and never got her old eyebrows back

    Sarah Suelzle
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to mention people that end up looking like aliens.👽

    #26

    Smartphone on tripod filming people dancing; highlights social norms during a fun activity. Sharing the most personal things, CRINGIEST and stupid stuff for the sole purpose of getting views on social media.

    TraditionalAd4255 , Ron Lach Report

    setsuriseikou
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Harming animals/people for the sole purpose of getting views on social media.

    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I don't want to watch myself doing stuff then why would I think anyone else wants to see me?

    Hippopotamuses
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't understand why anyone would be interested in the life of someone whom the don't know personally. Myself and my friends have more than enough drama in our lives to keep us occupied for an eternity.

    Susan Hill
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make an a*s of yourself for the sake of getting views if you must, but keep the kids and animals out of it

    Michael None
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's just all quit social media. It's basically a societal grooming tool at this point.

    Megan Humphries
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing is...it works. They get views, clicks, and engagement which translates in to attention and money. Until we collectively decide to ignore these things, it will continue.

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    #27

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted 40 hour work week. It's high time for 4 day, 32 hours work weeks.

    StewartConan , CoWomen Report

    PhaseWitFact
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember my early engineering days, we were inventing so much cool stuff that increased productivity and we'd dream about the future when surely our children would only need to work half as much as we did because of our hard work. 😢

    CP
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Capitalists have other ideas.

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    Montanavanna
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since health insurance is toed to employment in the US you won't qualify if you work less than 40 hours. I have seen many a company use that strategy to deliberately deny their employees insurance.

    Mr.Mister
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well actually i would like to work 40h week again.....

    setsuriseikou
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, some of us could start with that, yeah

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    Carol McDonald
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    8 hour days are too long. 4 day, 30 hr weeks!

    Tim Gibbs
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    35 or 37.5 is the standard.

    Rinso The Red
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're aren't paid for lunch, you just end up working a longer shift

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    #28

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted Gendering chores.

    SharonDoll96 , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

    KL Harrold
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gendering anything. Men can knit and still be men. Women can be welders and still be women. The sooner stereotypes are got rid of as the meaningless, regressive nonsense they are, the better.

    Kakashisith
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cooking is life skill, not wife skill !!!

    SkyyCaramba
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i'm a trans guy, i still embroider, sew, scrub the floors, do the dishes. Now cooking? i suck at that

    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gendering anything. Especially toys and clothing (at least until puberty age, please!)

    Michael None
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    11 months ago

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    Here's where I have to digress. Men are naturally born stronger and taller than women. Some activities men are better suited for that reason. It's not sexist it's nature. But yes, most chores do not need to be gendered.

    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On average this is true. But then one could also say that certain groups of people are „weaker“ or „stronger“, too. Like, asians are often smaller and thinner then for example Africans. And Europeans live longer then North Americans. Does that mean Asians should not do certain things Africans can? No. So why make a distinction with women and men? There are women bigger and stonger then the average man and men smaller and weaker than the average woman. You would have to raise them equally until you know who is the bigger and stronger one. Sure some things come easier to men/ women, but that does not mean that the other one should not even be allowed to try! (PS sorry if I confused than snd then. Those two are my achilles heel)

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    #29

    Person wearing sunglasses holding multiple shopping bags, challenging consumerism norms. Overconsumption. I think mindful consumption is so important. Yes, you can spend money on things but I think it should be things you really really value. It clutters up your mindspace, your home environment and the environment environment. There are so many ways to get your dopamine rush. Like you can even buy really quality clothes second hand on poshmark and the real real and they can be priced at shein and aliexpress prices but way better quality and elongates the garment’s life. I personally got into social work and also volunteering in my own time and I just don’t have a need for endless things anymore.

    DisciplineBoth2567 , freestocks Report

    Lost Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The last things I've bought for myself were cigarettes (yeah I know) and socks... I wish I could go out and spend lavioushly on myself.

    CK
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People should do more swaps. Things that still have value should not be thrown away, and people can consume less if they're maximizing the value of what they have by trading with their friends and neighbors.

    TotallyNOTAFox
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only things I buy outside of necessities (Food, clothes, living space) are videogames, and those are digital goods anyways

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some things are valued now and then given away or trashed later. I don't find it helpful to guilt myself for having clutter to clear, and buying what I need at the moment.

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    #30

    Thumbs up gesture against a plain background, symbolizing agreement with social norms. Toxic positivity. I struggle to find spaces where I can let my problems out so I can get help.

    TheRexRider , Donald Tong Report

    Subaru645
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This a safe space, let off and make like Elsa and let it go…

    Bonesko
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have had a horrible month and I want to go live in the woods 😭. Thanks

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    Dar Mal
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chatting with one of my oldest friends when his phone rang, and he answered. He proceeded to tell his girlfriend that he was currently being "trauma dumped on"...that was a year ago. Haven't talked since. (Sorry...am I trauma dumping again? My bad. I'll shut up now.)

    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But did he actually say that the 'trauma dump' was a problem for him, or was that your assumption? I'm perfectly happy to allow my friends to vent (within reason), and if I found out that one of them had gone on a year-long silent treatment because they overheard two words then I'd be pretty annoyed.

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    #31

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted “Man up” mentality.

    KimberlyLinda501 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

    Zaach
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Using the 'put your big boy pants on" phrase

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tend to think of "manning up" as taking responsibility for one's actions and conducting oneself in an honorable manner, but I get the sentiment of this post.

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    #32

    Couple embracing in a train station, highlighting changing social norms. Long goodbyes. When I say it’s time to go I am ready TO LEAVE. The midwestern politeness thing where you say goodbye five times and it takes an hour needs to gtfo.

    weaselodeath , Liliana Drew Report

    PhaseWitFact
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on who it is and the circumstance. If it's a close loved one that you won't see again or for a very long time, goodbyes are torture, you don't want to let go.

    Kim Kermes
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So leave. Me, I don't want to leave anyone I'm willing to spend time with. I wish I could have spent more time saying goodbye to my parents.

    Subaru645
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alleluia, a little louder now, a little louder now…

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex practiced "Irish goodbyes" as he called them (he was Irish so I just assumed it was accurate)....and he'd just walk out.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When a former date used to say "I'm ready to go", that meant there were only about five people left for her to talk to.

    April Cronin
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get such anxiety just trying to leave because by the time I decide to leave, I am already at my limit. The drawn outs and the huggings and everything makes it so much worse. :(

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just isolated as a midwestern thing. My Brit bf saying goodbyes and I love yous 5 times or more if I don't end the call.

    Mimi M
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like the Irish goodbye - just slip out.

    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uggh I hate the "Staying for a few min more chat" goodbyes. JUST GTFO so I can relax

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    #33

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted Assuming elders hate tech.

    LindaElizabeth496 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Chris
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't a generation thing, just some people are interested in it and some aren't. If "elders" weren't interested in tech, you wouldn't have the Internet, the web, mobile phones, and pretty much any other modern tech.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, if not for the “elders” inventing it in the first place, they wouldn’t have it to insult us about. Hell, if not for everyone who came before us, we’d never have emerged from the slime and grown legs, ffs. I’m 64, and I’ve been using computers and other electronics for the last forty-odd—-almost 50, tbh—-years. I may not know every minor thing it can do, but I certainly know enough to be able to pick up every new model that comes along and use it right away—-and never break any of them (well, unless I accidentally drop them, which could happen to anyone regardless of age). FFS, even tech support has to Google answers to tough questions and issues, so why would anyone think someone my age wouldn’t do that too? Especially since most of the time, just taking what you may already know and just sitting down and looking around on a device can generally get you up and running.

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    Montanavanna
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am not an elder, well, elder millennial and I HAtE tech. It seems to malfunction a lot around me so I have held onto much knowledge of how to function in society without needing too much tech.

    Irene Bucior
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My 95 year old mother in law uses her iPhone and iPad daily. She shops, downloads movies and books (she has a Kindle, too), and orders food in when she feels like it. And don’t tell her what to do…ever.

    Phil Green
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least the OP called us "elders" rather than the more disparaging "boomers". I have a PC I built myself. My mother, in her late 80s has an iPad and a laptop. We all have Kindles. Hardly any of us "hate tech"!

    O. Puntia
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All too true ..... I'm a Mac-o-phile!

    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Although, I had a great time being proud of myself for figuring out- 1st. how to do a three-way call and 2nd. how to access my phone while I'm on that 3-way call. I'm pretty sure the nice guy on the help desk got a laugh out of listening to a (semi) boomer figuring out her phone a bit more, but I probably embarrassed my kid who was the third person on the call. I'm pretty sure I heard at least 1 "mo--oom" on the other line at least once.

    Nikki Angulo
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom has TWO iPads! She has a game she plays, and she likes it so much she got the second iPad just to start back at the beginning and play it again! She’s at the end of the game on the first iPad, always waiting for more levels to be released so she can do them.

    Susan Hill
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tech things are useful at times and I use it for entertainment plus research, and I'm no spring chicken!

    Liz Mary
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was working as GP Admin we had an 80y old lady who would put all her appointment requests and medication online into our GP system. 30y would be fitigh us as they only wanted us to take the phone requests. We needed to keep the lines for urgent requests. This was during Covid.

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    #34

    Two people shaking hands, one holding a yellow folder, symbolizing outdated social norms. Shaking hands probably isn't the best idea. There's a shameful number of people who don't wash their hands after using the toilet.

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    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never really liked shaking hands with anyone but, since COVID, I don't do it with anyone. Who knows what microbes are crawling all over someone's hands?

    Austzn
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. Always disliked it. Not going back after covid.

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    James016
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I was taught not to p**s on my hands" /s

    LizzieBoredom
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Handshaking started as a way of showing you have no weapons, but you can still smack them on the head , and run away.

    Tommy DePaul
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This fear of germs has gotten ridiculous. We will rue the day we began to shrink from any kind of physical contact.

    Carol McDonald
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes for sure this one can go! Most handshakes are either limp dishrags or bonecrushers and I don't like either!

    R.C.
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been a germaphobe since WAY before Covid. I've always hated shaking hands with people.

    JSD
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never touch door handles for this reason. Once I did that, I've had far less illness than before.

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    #35

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted Prioritizing traditions over progress.

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    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes good, sometimes bad. Depends on the tradition and the progress.

    M O'Connell
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family collectively decided to reject tradition and stop serving stewed prunes with Christmas dinner. My grandmother was the only one to be upset about it.

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    PhaseWitFact
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I heard that traditions were peer pressure from your ancestors.

    Disgruntled Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't know if that's true in all cases but being afraid of breaking a tradition is definity peer pressure from modern peers

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    Nikole
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you pointing out that they do this or declaring your allegiance?

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    #36

    35 Posts Calling Out Social Norms That Should No Longer Be Accepted There are a few that come to mind:

    Having kids - not everyone wants them

    Tipping - pay your workers a living wage

    Entry level jobs that require years of experience.

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    Dog Mom to Zoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about UNPAID internship. One should at least get minimum wage.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially in cities that are ridiculously expensive to live in. If you’re going to do that horseshit, then you better f*****g well provide safe, private, immaculately clean, and well maintained room and board, maybe include a little spending money—-oh wait. That’s paying your interns. Hmmm…

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    JSD
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why have kids? The world's becoming a more nasty place....

    #37

    Car in drive-thru entrance, highlighting modern social norms in daily life. People paying it forward in drive-thrus. You order a soda and end up paying 50 for someone else.

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    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I will break the chain every time. Why? Because baristas HATE these stupid things. It makes their job even more of a hassle than normal. I give them whatever I would have owed as a tip and end it.

    ScootyPuffJr
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. I'd rather "pay it forward" by giving extra to the people working for small wages, not the person behind me who can also clearly afford to dine out.

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    O. Puntia
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True ... never ever done that ... in either direction

    Betsy S
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can afford to pay it forward, you can afford to donate to charity...to someone who actually needs it, not someone who can obviously afford to buy fast food and owns a car.

    The Big Bad
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    USA? This is ridiculous. I get just paying something for a stranger to make someones day a bit better, but having someone else pay for mine, no...

    MC C
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    where the fvck is this a norm?

    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The US most likely. Most of these lists are US centered. Look at the other posts. 50% only applies for them

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    #38

    A couple enjoying wine at a dimly lit restaurant, discussing social norms. Paying for someone else on a first date.

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    Dog Mom to Zoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it makes it less uncomfortable to go Dutch on a first date.

    MC C
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    believe it or not the man buying is actually still a deciding factor for a lot of women, I don't like these women, but there are a lot of them

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    Kim Kermes
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One good use for coffee shops

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm going to say this, I was unemployed. And when someone asked me out to dinner, id decline and say can't afford it. If they offered to pay for it then, fine. Otherwise I'd suggest something free. But I'm totally fine with someone paying for me. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still go by that whoever asks, treats, without any strings attached. If anyone treats me like a paid prostitute, I'm walking out and they can pay the bill regardless.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If one person is going to pay, choose a very affordable restaurant. Good advice even if you're splitting the check. Why involve serious money on a first date? That's not what first dates are about.

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    #39

    Judging mental health struggles.

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    Dar Mal
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about "Using Mental Health as a badge of acceptance"? Quite a few of my students have perceived mental health issues from their "therapists" on TikTok just to fit in....

    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It seems having anxiety or depression is ok but not a serious psychiatric disorder

    MC C
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yea, and most of those saying they have anxiety or depression have self-diagnosed using a tick tock quiz

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    #40

    A hand holding a smartphone displaying social media apps, highlighting norms in online interactions. Pressure to post on social media.

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    Dog Mom to Zoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a minority==no social media at all and I'm okay with it.

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. No “X,” Facebook, IG, TikTok. It’s much better for my state of mind.

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    Brian Droste
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only social media I do is BP if BP is a social media.

    O. Puntia
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New post .... or view. Do'n care about their dinner pics ...

    Lost Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have it just to talk to friends and family since calling international is expensive and snail mail takes forever. I don't think I have posted anything in over 3 years

    Grant Johnson
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recently quit all my social media and now I realize how toxic it was for me. Now when I do something I just experience it myself without trying to turn it into a post

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is an interesting note, experience something without trying to turn it into a post. I like that. I don't have social media and haven't for a long time but your info helped me see the thought process of those that engage in it on the regular. Very interesting.

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    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use facebook and that's about it. I'll toss off a comment on Reddit or here but i just like reading the stories.

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    #41

    Two women laughing at a work desk, pointing at a laptop, symbolizing social norms interaction. Telling people you're doing okay when they ask how you're doing when you're not doing okay.  F**k that.


    Person 1:  How are you today?


    Person 2:  S****y, how you doing?

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    Socks Thecate
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a new immigrant to the USA, someone asked me how I was doing. I wasn't having a good day so I told them how I was doing. They didn't like it. It took me some time to realize that it was an expression for which a serious answer wasn't expected. In my home country you didn't ask someone how they were unless you meant it.

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like that way much better. There are so many greetings we could use that don’t pretend to ask a question, but that one sticks.

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    Lost Panda
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why should I share my intermost feelings with someone I probably don't want to be interacting with anyways?

    Becky Samuel
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then don't. The issue is with people asking and then not liking it when you answer them honestly. For people on the autistic spectrum this is confusing as fúck.

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    PhaseWitFact
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How are you is just a greeting. Not really a question. Ok, you, is the return greeting. Unless it's someone close to you, it's not really a question.

    Julia Mckinney
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll actually stop and think about if I want to just say "i'm fine" or if I want to get into more detail. it depends on my mood and who I'm talking to.

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has caused me a surprising amount of distress over the years. There is no answer that satisfies everyone. I just don’t know what to say to people anymore.

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always ask, how's it going? Vague, alludes to a superficial answer being totally acceptable. It's going..be done with it. If they want to unload more I am cool with that too. What I am trying to stop is when someone is clearly in distress and you feel compelled to ask, are you OK? Obviously not OK and being on the other end of that question when in distress just compounds those heavy feelings. We are gonna figure this out guys. It comes down to intent in my opinion. We must put more intention into our interactions and be able to see through words that might be triggering so that the other persons intent can inform our reactions. Ex. If someone misgenders you I am certain their intent was not to cause you harm, most of the time.

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the problem is more in asking a superfluous question when not actually wanting a genuine answer. It's supposed to be friendly, but in reality it's banal and insincere.

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    #42

    Dismissing feelings as “too sensitive.”.

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    #43

    People clinking glasses in a bar celebrating, highlighting social norms. Getting sh*tfaced every weekend in your late teens and early 20’s.

    djnastynipple , cottonbro studio Report

    Vermonta
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's the only time you can do it. Shitfaced in your 30s+ can be agonizing.

    HeavyMetalHeart
    Community Member
    Premium
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *laughs in Scottish* Yeah, you’re pretty much expected to do that for your whole life here.

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    #44

    The “friend zone” complaint.

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    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's when you're friends with someone, but view them as a potential romantic partner & then get mad when they don't see you that way.

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    MC C
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1) women know when they are leading a guy on 2) women sometimes lead a guy on that they are not interested in because said guy will give them attention, gifts, etc 3) To complain about a guy complaining about being "freindzoned" after you have led them on for your benefit is BS 4) Stop doing this sh!p!

    Bobby
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're parroting an incel strawman. Stfu.

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    #45

    Two professionals in a formal meeting, highlighting social norms in workplace interactions. I feel like a lot of things are outdate rn. But the one which triggers me the most, is that you have to be extremely polite when talking about money. Like, you get asked - "How much do you want to earn from this job", and you cannot just say a number straight up, you have to write a whole essay in the end of which you will be able to actually answer the question. And if you don't do it, everyone thinks that you are not polite.

    Like what's the problem? Money were invented to be used, the way they are used. Why can't we just get straight to the point?

    Useful_Base5707 , MART PRODUCTION Report

    MegDragon
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we all know there’s an ulterior motive behind that particular “politeness” norm.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "How much do you want to earn from this job?" "All that you have."

    #46

    Assuming women wear makeup daily.

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    ScootyPuffJr
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or telling them how sick they look when they don't.

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Back in the day I worked for a fancy bank and we had to wear full suits, heel, makeup every day. One day I was running so late I had to skip the makeup, and was asked by nearly everyone if I was ill. TOO TRUE!

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    KL Harrold
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming men never wear makeup.

    Nitka Tsar
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And again USA. Most women here do not wear any makeup

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only wear make up for very special occasions. Since I am not used to seeing my face done up I think I look great without it. When wearing make up, holy c**p the compliments..and I don't have to use a ton to get a different effect. Win-Win if you ask me.

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    #47

    Glossing over bad bosses.

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    Littlemiss
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Happens far too often, HR protects far too many of them.

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    #48

    Ignoring workplace burnout.

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    Megan Humphries
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know they probably mean more from an organization point of view, but yeah, they just don't care. They will get someone else. Individually, unfortunately, many don't have much of a choice. I get a decent amount of time off, but many don't. No company or institution I know of is actually staffed enough and resourced enough to not stretch out their lower and mid level employees. Most people will have to work for at least 45-50 years. That is a long time and we spend a lot of time working. There are going to be days where you are tired and don't want to be there, but you have obligations, so there is not much you can do about it. One last thing that would maybe help burnout, but is easier said than done would be changing careers/jobs. That could mean starting over and some people just don't have the safety net to quit and try to find something they enjoy better.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Soem management consider that a measure of success.

    #49

    Shaming online daters.

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    Callie27
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    bruh, I mean if its a 13yo and a 22yo then yeah. . . .

    Jason Kennith
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YoUr HoNoR, WhEn ShE sAiD sHe WaS a MiNoR i ThOuGhT sHe MeAnT sHe WoRkS iN tHe MiNeS (If you know, you know. Totally agree with your comment.)

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    Lisa Searcy
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been married to my online date for 21 years in less than two weeks

    HeavyMetalHeart
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that still a thing? It seems completely normal now. I met my partner online and no one has ever said anything even slightly negative about it.

    KL Harrold
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does that happen much any more? I remember it did quite a lot when it first started, but I haven't heard anyone shaming people for online dating for a few years. Might just be that I haven't heard/ noticed though.

    #50

    “Real job” stereotypes.

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    Child of the Stars
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate this so much. My ex-husband is a kitchen manager for a local restaurant, and he loves it. I do laundry at a hotel and I love it. I'm working on my BS in computer science, but it's mostly because I enjoy the academics and computers; I don't want a 6-figure job.

    Lace Neil
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any job you exchange goods and/ or services for money is a real job.

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    #51

    Assuming marriage is a goal.

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    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would never get married again unless dueling pistols are included in the wedding presents.

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    #52

    Having work be your identity. The first thing many people ask when meeting someone is "what do you do?".

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    Child of the Stars
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meh, this doesn't bother me at all. The question is an easy ice breaker because it's something virtually everyone can answer and it can open the door to a much broader conversation. That doesn't make your job your identity, it's just something most people can relate to.

    Vermonta
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm retired so my answer is "whatever I want".

    Boo
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally hate this one. I've been a sahm since the kids were born, as soon as people find out, it's like I'm a leper and I'm shunned for it. One of the reasons I hate meeting new people.

    Montanavanna
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have also been a SAHM for about 6 years now. What I find difficult is how that question can end further exploration of learning about each other. So I will say, well I have been SAHM for 6 years but before that I did xyz and I am still very passionate about reentering the field soon. I have to give extra information to be included in the conversation. And that's fine. So many of our interactions unfold without any real conscious decision that we make them what we make them.

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    Pernille
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I worked I had a job that was complicated to explain and made me travel a lot, unless I was asked by an official at an airport I would say I was a spy, US passport control was a nightmare every time because they didn't understand my job description.

    Megan Humphries
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with this to a certain extent, but I think the question is usually just an easy ice breaker and conversation starter.

    #53

    Saying things you don’t mean to be polite (such as as let’s hang out sometime).

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    Tim Fawcett
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In that case a word of advice: Never ever visit the UK

    Lori Ki
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes you're in social situations where you have to be polite to people you would otherwise not keep company with so people just spew meaningless phrases trying to be polite. In some cases, it's better than everyone saying what they're thinking.

    Featherytoad
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm at that age where I know people just say that to be nice. I smile and just say "Yeah, that would be great.", and then I forget all about it. I never take that to heart.

    JSD
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are pretty fake in general.

    #54

    Romanticizing being broke.

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    Chris
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about Romanticizing being rich? As if it is some kind of superpower. Or something that everyone should try to obtain, or that is some kind of measure of your success in life.

    Penguin Panda Pop
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    100% this. I don't see too much romatacizing being broke, but open Instagram (and other social medias) and you will see a certain wealthy aesthetic being promoted endlessly

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    #55

    Assuming all men love cars.

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    G A
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't/can't drive. I can appreciate the design of a car but the rest bores me greatly. Sport also a non starter for me.

    Chris the Bobcat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, assuming that women DON'T like cars, instead seeing them as merely transportation appliances.

    Graham_Illegal
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best drivers and car mechanics I’ve ever met were all women. On the other hand, I’ve encountered countless men who mistake aggressive driving for skilled driving, and great cars for loud mufflers.

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    Gatorraid
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't love cars, sports or the like. I prefer books, games and animals. Which are three interests very rarely found in my home.

    Chris
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming all men (and not women) love to watch sports. I don't do it anymore, but I like doing sports but find watching them about as interesting as watching paint dry.

    Thee8thsense
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming that all women don't love cars.

    Mr.Mister
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Im into Motorcycles, not cars!

    Cee Cee
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    73 (f) here. I've been into motorbikes, riding and owning, for 48 years. Still have bikes - and old kick start Triumph Bonneville and an even older Earles fork BMW. My only concession to age is no longer riding in the winter.

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    #56

    Hugging strangers.

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    Lace Neil
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god, this is one of my worst fears. I'm autistic and only hug family and close friends. If a stranger randomly hugged me there would be a meltdown of massive proportions.

    G A
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who on earth does that? Is it some influencer thing?

    #57

    Judging how people spend money.

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    #58

    Ignoring workplace diversity.

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    Betsy S
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure what this actually means. I need more words.

    Kyra Noelle
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It has been proven that diversity makes companies/communities better

    Michael Largey
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Workplaces that treat their employees fairly on race tend to treat them fairly in other matters as well.

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    #59

    Man in a blue shirt covering face, sitting on a park bench, surrounded by greenery, symbolizing social norms. Saying "bless you" after someone sneezes. I haven't said it in probably 20 years and I encourage everyone to stop immediately. Let's make this happen.

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    Gatorraid
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So what should I say? "F*ck you" instead or "Bad health, EWWW" and walk away or just avoid the person who sneezed?

    Nitka Tsar
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    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You might say „Gesundheit“. Diane Keaton used it as long ago as the 90s or 80s in a movie of hers. I‘ve read that it was quite popular at one time in the US. It‘s German for „health“ at that is what we say when someone sneazes. Sometimes we say „Schönheit“ instead as a bit of a joke. It means „beauty“

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    alegra
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Germany we say "Gesundheit", that means health.

    Data1001
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you have to say something when someone sneezes (and you really *don't*), then 'Gesundheit' at lesat makes sense and isn't based on superstitions.

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    troufaki13
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Greece we say "yeetses" (γείτσες) which literally means "little healths" 😅

    Pernille
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We say Prosit in Danmark. I seem to remember it is German for cheers.

    MC C
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say "Gesundheit" which is a generally accepted replacement of "Bless you" in America, and it literally just means "health" or "to your health", it removes all the mysticism or religiosity from it and you don't come off as an a$$hole for not saying anything

    Data1001
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree that's a far better thing to say. But you should never feel like an a-hole for not saying anything. People need to get over that. We don't expect people to say anything when we get the hiccups, or when we cough or fart or blow our nose, so why is there still this bizarre tradition??

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    Panda McPandaface
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say the Spanish 'Jesus' - but I don't see anything wrong with 'bless you' - I know there's the religious connotation and I'm not religious at all, but I've really got better things to worry about to be honest.

    kay321
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    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Disagree with this one, I think it's basic manners to say "bless you".

    Deborah
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's wrong with this? Should I say, "I acknowledge that you have sneezed."?

    The Other Guest
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    11 months ago

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    Why say anything? Or if you must, why not something non-religious?

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    Lori Ki
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    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a woman who says "ewww" when someone sneezes. For some reason that I can't understand, people find that offensive. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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