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49 Deal-Breaking Traits In A Significant Other, As Shared By People In This Online Group
Knowingly or not, we all have those little lists of qualities we tend to look for in a potential romantic partner. However, there's also the other side of the coin—traits we're not so stoked about. And while some of these unappealing traits we can accept or at least halfway tolerate, some of them are absolute deal-breakers that we simply can't stand. And since nothing unites people more strongly than a common dislike, let's talk about that.
Recently, Reddit user u/Pnd1528 went on the platform and asked fellow users to share an "all too common" trait they find extremely unattractive in the opposite (or same) sex. As expected, the Reddit community didn't hesitate and delivered some pretty spot-on ones. Bored Panda has compiled a list of some of the best, relatable, and most interesting answers found in this viral thread, so here you go! As per usual, don't forget to vote for your favorite submissions and feel free to talk about the traits you find unappealing in the comment section down below.
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Littering. You'd be surprised how many people dont give a f*** and throw s*** out their car window. It's disgusting.
Being rude to wait staff
This. An ex-boyfriend of mine did this, and the waiter was still a trainee. Fumbled with the wine bottle, trying to keep his composure while my boyfriend treated him like crap. I just gave the guy many "Please excuse this dumbass" looks, and insisted that my boyfriend tip him properly when paying the bill. Needless to say, we didn't last long.
Men bragging about being violent. Bar fights ain't sexy honey.
THIS IS SOOOO TRUE - neither is telling me how many women you've 'had'. The whole macho thing is extremely unattractive.
Shouting at their partners in public.
Lack of compassion. They only seem to care about themselves.
The inability to admit they are wrong or when they apologize and then justify their actions.
A general lack of curiosity towards the world
Big one. Take someone to one of your fav' places and if they don't seem to register it on any level - it's a bit of a red flag for me.
Chewing with your mouth open. F*** dude it drives me crazy
Always on their phone. This s*** annoys me so much, I want to talk to someone while looking at them. When they are constantly on their phone it makes me feel like I am talking to myself and its awkward as f***.
Everyone says they want their partner to be super career ambitious. Screw that, I say put in your 40 hours then chill. I want someone who knows how to relax
The telepathy tax. Partners who hold it against their SO when they fail to anticipate and fulfill their unspoken needs and desires.
"did you tell them that annoyed you?" 'no, they should just know' Life is way too short to waste time huffing about and sulking, just communicate with each other properly.
I've been married, mostly happily, for 20 years and for the first 10 I was ready to live & die on this hill of "But if you really knew me/ cared about me, you'd know what I need/ want" and it never, ever made one situation anything but awful. Communication is sooo much easier & effective than asking your partner to think like you/ do what you would do.
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Very sad that "if you don't know why i'm mad, i'm not going to tell you" is still a thing
I have no ability to pick up on anything that is "unspoken." You got to be blunt with me about human emotions and socializing. I worked with 4 people who were gay and I had no idea, I didn't assume they were straight, I just never once thought about it until I met their partners at a party. One of my other co-workers mocked me saying, "But it is so obvious" and I told her they would have had to wear rainbow flags with "I'm Gay" written on it in bold for me to have noticed. Same with me in relationships, I just have a mental block when it comes to people's personal lives. When my husband first said "I love you" it was such a shock to me that I didn't talk to him for 3 days, we lived together and we snuggled and still hung out everything, it just took me 3 days to come to terms with it so I just stayed silent and sat next to him so he wouldn't get insecure about it. Big Bold Letters in very clear language is what I need. Not my strong suit.
It feels like you just described my life. Hardly ever in conflict with anyone because you don't presume. BUT, I was once 6 months into a schoolyear in uni before i found out two girls i was friends with HATED each other. I was not friends with everyone and it took this one guy sitting behind me in class telling me to realise. He was like:"you know they despise each other right?" It suddenly dawned on me I was always sitting in the middle whenever we sat together. It is scary because i also cannot tell how others feel about me unless they tell me. I fear i come off as this emotionless robot when that is so not the case. Thanks for this post!
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How about parents that do that. I'm 50 and my mom pulls this crap on me all the time.
I think we all have moments of this, especially with long-time partners, but it's still a d*ck move, no matter who does it, and it means serious apologies are offered....
I busted someone big time on this. We were in the car they wanted to stop and see some thing I was tired and I wanted to keep going. After five minutes I offered to pull over so that they could go see what they wanted to see and they said no. I said OK you know the same thing is near where we live maybe we can go see if there. Started another conversation about five minutes later and I got the silent treatment. I flat out said I gave you an option you took the option of not going and you’re going to hold that against me?That’s not gonna fly with me bucko
I can see both sides of this. The flip side of this is "Well, if you wanted me to acknowledge your birthday in any way, shape, or form, you could have given me explicit instructions on birthday acknowledgment, because I apparently grew up on Mars and don't know that humans expect their birthdays acknowledged".
Anyone who takes any advice, disagreement, constructive criticism as a personal attack
I think a lot of people struggle with this, doesn't mean they're "toxic".
Toxic positivity, I need to be able to feel bad for a moment when I am dealing with something crappy. It helps me get through it. I dislike people pleasers too, be kind but don’t be a doormat.
Being oblivious to different economic circumstances.
So true. At times in my life, I've been incredibly poor and it stops you from taking part in so many things that people who aren't in the same position simply don't understand.
Just general "toxic"/jeslous behaviour.
No, i do not want to sleep with the Barista because they asked my name for my order. Yes, i was told to treat as I wanted to be treated as a child so I Will be polite and smile to others from Time to Time, this does not mean i want to shag every human being i interact with.
I'm glad you don't want to shag every human being you come across, if you did, we'd have a problem. AND if the point you're making is "just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm flirting" I TOTALLY agree. I smile all the time, and I love talking to people, but I'm sick of people thinking I'm flirting just cause I talked to them. it's only happened a few times, but when it does happen it can mess you up for a while and leave you thinking, "wtf?"
People being obsessed with their social media presence.
It saddens me that some people care more about their curated online presence than their real life.
For me, its the girls who CONSTANTLY say “I’m ugly” and then you tell them they aren’t, and then they go “no, im really ugly” and it just goes back and forth. I can’t stand it :/
I would find this annoying too if it was apparent she only says it for compliments. However, some people really just have that bad self esteem. I used to be similar in my self image and have had too many experiences with people saying contrary to what they actually think that I wouldn't believe someone unless their actions matches their words. Some people are just treated badly.
Narcissistic, that goes to both genders
It could be argued that all of you, who are arguing about gender identities are being narcissistic with your beliefs while denying others their beliefs such as the OP's. Priscilla and the rest, stop trying to dictate how others think and where their beliefs fall. You believe in all genders meaning there are more than one and that is groovy but it's not a shared concept by quite a lot of us. And that is perfectly ok because each of us is allowed to think for ourselves. Stop trying to change the narrative of a post you didn't create.
Self absorbed behavior... the Kardashian/Housewives of ??? Syndrome. You are NOT the star of some reality show, stop acting like it.
The whole “let me push all your buttons, you’re wrong, I’m right, I do it because I think it’s funny to rile you up” schtick. Then repeat it immediately.
When they think that their taste in music makes them a superior person instead of just having different tastes. Applies to both genders. Edit: phrasing
Looking down on anyone because of a personal preference that impacts nothing makes them pretty douchey
Being needy and acting like your the only human in their life. Like please give me a f****** break I didn’t adopt a 37 year old child.
Refusing to do anything they think is considered more "feminine" cause they think it's gay. Not washing your face doesn't make you straight, it just makes you crusty. I may have some bias since i do lean towards more feminine guys, but there's certain limits, man.
Fake tans, like the ones where they look orange. I've seen both men and women walking around like they are hot s*** looking like an Oompa Loompa
Smell and poor hygene. No one smells just because they are a dude, they smell because they don't clean themselves. Excessive body spray is not an alternative
If I can smell your stink at a normal conversation-having distance... I don't want to know what other aromas lurk. 🤮
Making fun of my appearance, even as a joke. It’s a giant red flag and I won’t date anyone who “teases” me about it.
Very true. I don't like it when someone teases you in a really bullying way and then says 'it was just a joke, can't you take a joke?' Making you feel even worse!!
Not being "teachable", as in can't be introspective or when faced with new information cannot budge on their initial opinions/conclusions, is unattractive. It comes off as stupid and arrogant and makes me feel like I'm dealing with someone who is unreasonable.
I am accused about this a lot at work. By one guy. Because I don't agree with him. He's always telling me, 'well that's your perspective'. But often it is just his personal opinion which he hasn't bothered to research or back with any credible evidence, findings or reports. So there could be two responses to this, is the person who you're referring to like him, someone who just refuses to think about or acknowledge statistics and facts that have been peer-reviewed in respected publications? Or are they like me and are simply not going to substitute whatever your opinion is for their own, just because you think they should with no viable basis for it?
Pushing you to do something you don't want to because " everyone does it and it's fun"
When they can’t take no for an answer. This is a pretty broad statement, but a lot of guys have trouble taking no. It can go from slightly annoying to really scary in a heartbeat
Playing hard to get. if you like me just f**** tell me, stop beating around the bush.
edit: i am a girl.
Or being really vague about what you mean to them, so you don't know what sort of relationship you are in. You feel like a nag if you try to clarify it all. I think it's so that they can justify the 'non' status of your relationship when they start dating other people without telling you.
Inflated egos. Entitlement. Incapability of being humble and make fun of yourself.
Lip fillers. Its super popular right now but it just grosses me the f*** out.
Squeaky little girl voices, especially if it’s on purpose.
People who only like one side of you. No, I'm not going to be upbeat and cracking jokes all the time, sometimes I wanna be serious and if you can't even pretend to care then the whole relationship feels kinda fake
Yup. Had this one. Fair weather friendship - here for the fun, not for anything else. Everybody has rough patches and bad days and we should be allowed to be prepared for all sorts of weather in life.
Feeling the need to post on social media constantly and pretending that they don’t care about it but obviously care A LOT
Acting thirsty or making sexual innuendos early on. Nothing dries me up more
If they think making innuendos on day 1 is sexy, then they probably also lack maturity/ respect.
The need to take pictures so often and record everything. This should never have been normalized.
I write everything down. On any piece of paper from anywhere. I don't know why - and I seldom use that information for anything further. Because I can't find it anyway. I think it's just a latent desire to be a writer of things and stuff.
Not taking the f***** compliment. Like, if I say your hair looks good today, and you say, "haha, no! It looks like s***!" And i try to tell you again that it looks good, if you disagree the second time, I will tell you that fine, I agree it looks like s***.
Once I was at a large convention. A woman complimented me on my eye color, and I did the above behavior. She told me that compliments are like gifts, you can either say thank you and appreciate or toss the gift back in the person's face like a jerk. 20 years later I still remember this wise woman's words.
People who do things for ‘clout’ and don’t actually care for being genuine until they need something from you.
If you're at work apparently that's called being 'professional'. Which as far as I can tell is another word for pseudo-sociopath.
"Im just too crazy😝", "Not like other girls"
b-bb-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-bb-b-b-b-but I'm not like other girls... I'm a microwave
Acting stupid for attention.
Using your partner as your therapist.
Man, I don't know why I attract the 'broken' guys, but every date I've been on where it went past the first date, they'd start telling me all about their disturbing thoughts and I'd be supportive, but I'd internally be screaming because this was supposed to be a fun time and I didn't emotionally prepare for this.
Well this last one is I guess more about Americans... I dont think that in europe people are so obsessed with dating for the sake of dating. In europe people just hang out and try to make friends,we do t get the part where I will sleep with you and you can buy me meals but I dont really like you as a person and that's ok... it's just madness what americans see as standard..
Not respecting when something upsets or bothers you. Whether its a joke or comment they made or an incident that happened. Being told to "calm down" or "its just a joke" or "you're over reacting"
That is called gaslighting and it's a common form of abuse.
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FTR, as a woman I absolutely do not believe it's okay to hit a man. Sadly, our culture often downplays a heavy handed slap across the face as some kind of bad b*tch mark of power but it's abuse, plain & simple. People should not be hitting each other, regardless of gender, period. This behavior sets a potentially dangerous precedent and is never okay.
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Am I the only one whose biggest turn off is bias? If you're racist, homophobic, transphobic, hate one breed of dog because it looks scary, anything like that, I'm gone.
No, this is one for me as well. What started off as a "dark sense of humor" quickly became flat out every "ism" in the book. Funny thing is, for all their supposed superiority, most insecure & immature person I ever dated. They literally feared anyone different than them because they might be "better" somehow. Really pathetic individual.
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being proud of their own ignorance... like being proud they never read a book because "they are not geeks"... being proud that they don't know something instead of learning something new... making fun of someone else's knowledge
Ugh, this is always such a red flag. Sadly, I know so many people over 35 who still live this philosophy. Really pathetic.
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When asked their opinion about something the answer is always "I don't kmow".
YES! Omg!! I had no idea how much of a 'no' this is for me until I got into a relationship with a guy that uses "I don't know" for an answer AND as an excuse.
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I've always thought it a bit of a disappointment when a guy is surprised that I've asked him out. I mean seriously, I'm not going to wait for you to ask me. I would consider it pathetic. what else was I supposed to do other than ask him myself? I have a shot, I'm gonna shoot it.
I am both envious of & loving your whole vibe. That confidence looks great on you!
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Thinking that money impresses you. Dam I am poor but I'm not going to date/marry for it. My mental health is a bigger priority. I'd rather be sane in a cardboard box than miserable in a mansion. I'm looking for someone to spend years with after all.
Hubs & I have been the full range of income brackets & I can say with conviction that money truly can't buy you happiness or peace. If you've got issues, all the money in the world won't help (except to like, pay for therapy) Now, this isn't to say financial security isn't important because it absolutely is but if a relationship is broken, no amount of travel or stuff is going to make a person happy if they're fundamentally unhappy.
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Every one of these resonates with me. I think, as a collective, I just don't like other people.
This legit made me sad. I hope you meet some amazing person that changes that for you!
Load More Replies... The majority of these answers could fall under "what it's like to be a narcissist". I am married to one (for the time being) and it's not something I wish upon people. They basically suck the life out of you. Look up what defines a narcissist to get a better grasp and you might find out that there are narcissists either in your family or your relationships.
Similarly, undiagnosed/ untreated mental illness. My marriage was really difficult until my hubby got his bipolar disorder diagnosed & treated. Obviously, narcissism is only treatable if the person is willing to a)acknowledge there's something wrong and b) have any desire to change said behavior. I'm truly sorry you're in that situation and I sincerely hope you can reclaim your joy, whatever that looks like for you! You sound like a strong, intelligent person and I have faith you'll find your way to a better place!
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Oh, I would like to add people who think that just being a decent human being means you're flirting with them.
Trying to be "woke" because it's trendy or for pleasing others. Whatever you believe in, be honest- be polite about it, maybe open to at least hearing others- but be honest. No one wants to get into a relationship only to find you don't actually care about what you said you did. I consider myself a "woke person" in quite a few ways, but I'm like that because it's who I am. My opinion may or may not change. Open to discussion without any particular guarantee we will agree at the end. That's what I want from others too!
This is healthy growth and people who have to fake that kind of intellectual development are almost guaranteed hot messes inside. I couldn't agree with you more- be honest but educated (if you're going to come at me about x,y,z topic, you'd better know wtf you're talking about) and be open to learning but don't fake some trendy opinion. That's super gross & honestly a huge insult to whatever cause you're fronting.
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For me, Smoking is a definite turn-off. I realize it's a BEAR to quit. However, I will not pursue anything beyond a friendship (which, in MANY cases should be enough) if someone is a smoker.
I smoked until I was 30 so I'm sympathetic to smokers but as a kid who grew up in a smoking household, I totally hear you. Despite having smoked myself, as a kid and now, I hate the smell of stale cigarette smoke.
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Constantly bragging about achievements like winning the world cup or some s**t and when someone says "you didn't do that" they say "how do YOU know I'M the one who did it. Has happened several times with many different genders.
Being super affectionate/talkative via messages and then very cold when you are together. They don't like you, they just like the idea of being in a relationship.
Having one set of rules for one sex and another for the other. Whenever my father bought a new drill or power saw, it was assumed that my brothers were born with the knowledge on how to use it properly. My sister and I..well we were handed the manual for it and told we couldn't use it until we read the manual from cover to cover.
How utterly frustrating. Conversely, my dad had no clue what to do with a girl so he taught me most things his generation (boomer) would have taught a son and I'm only now appreciative of how fortunate I was to have been offered those opportunities.
Load More Replies... I don't like it when people make fun of others. There's one dude who is really cute and I actually had quite a big crush on-until I heard him make fun of someone breathing as they hustled to class. completely ruined any interest I had in him. I feel that this is really standard, but I wanted to remind others that people who would go out with you pay attention and they don't go out with jerks
I'm not sure if it is a condition of the lockdowns but most of these seem to be more visible now than ever before.
Once heard someone with several DWIs actually say, "Hey- its not like I ASKED to be an alcoholic!"
Many of these unattractive deal breakers could be mental health issues or coping mechanisms because of an unhappy childhood or result of an abuse and these behaviours are not permanent. If you are breaking up just because of these, you may be missing out on knowing a great person. Ofcourse, it's not your responsibility to be their life coach - but if you are breaking up with someone, the best thing you can do is be bluntly honest....maybe they can work on themselves once they realize the problem.
You don't need a good reason to break up with someone that you've only been out with a few times. It's really hard to change behaviour based on mental health or abuse problems, so it might not be permanent, but chances are you'll be putting up with it for a very long time.
Load More Replies... I broke up with a beautiful woman who had been adopted from a Korean orphanage as an infant, by an American couple (her adoptive father was a Lutheran minister.) Things were going extremely well (we were both in our 50's) and the sex was absolutely insane... everyday, sometimes several times a day or so it seemed, we were going at it. After a while, it occurred to me that each time seemed scripted like a porno movie... All the exact same stages as a porno. Oral, then missionary, then cowgirl, then reverse cowgirl, more oral, then doggie, then BOOM! Every single time! So I mention this to her one day and she says "I know. I learned that by watching porn movies with my dad when I was a kid, then he'd do that with me." I was shocked and heart broken for her. When I asked if she'd ever gotten counseling for she looked at me like I had three heads and said "why would I need counseling? I love being this way." I stopped seeing her a few days later.
I need to add: be a hunter and not considering animals as sentient creatures.
I hate conspiracy theorists and those who believe EVERYTHING Dr. Google tells them, but WON'T believe a doctor who specialises in a certain field when they contradict what they looked up on the internet. Any doctor who has studied for years and then has had more years again after that in working in hospitals with real patients and other doctors and going on course after course to keep their skills updated, knows more than some idiot who just spent 5 minutes looking something up on the internet.
Flat Earthers and people who mention God or Jesus every other sentence.
People who toss their cigarette butts on the ground like the Butt Fairy is going to clean up after them
for me...a red flag(note: im single and plan on single...this is my view on my friend's relationship...that is all) for me is that you just can't and I mean CAN'T stand your partner's friends.You don't have to like them but when you hate them so much and you are literally about to ruin your relationship because you want to know if that talk about you.To clarify....my friend's partner got into a chat between me,my friend,and my other friend(the one in the relationship) that they weren't allowed in just to see if we talked about them(-w- we didn't because we aren't like that).Now me and my friend don't really trust my friend.also this all happened online...
Desert hippies - they are almost more biker gang (but not in any biker gangs) than hippie... Just strange people
You know what's effing toxic? Being so opinionated and sure of your superiority that you make an article downing others 50 posts long.
Not understanding that one's feelings are not always correct, as well as not changing those feelings when told otherwise; "I think you are manipulating because you are always right and I am always wrong" "No, I am not manipulating, you ate the last Oreo, there are crumbs on your lips and I am wrong sometimes, remember when I thought that dog was a donkey?" "But I am still upset and feel this way so that means you are manipulative". Granted, the last quote can be thought more than articulated.
What is? I don’t think any of this behavior was exclusive to a single gender.
Load More Replies... Not respecting when something upsets or bothers you. Whether its a joke or comment they made or an incident that happened. Being told to "calm down" or "its just a joke" or "you're over reacting"
That is called gaslighting and it's a common form of abuse.
Load More Replies... FTR, as a woman I absolutely do not believe it's okay to hit a man. Sadly, our culture often downplays a heavy handed slap across the face as some kind of bad b*tch mark of power but it's abuse, plain & simple. People should not be hitting each other, regardless of gender, period. This behavior sets a potentially dangerous precedent and is never okay.
Load More Replies... Am I the only one whose biggest turn off is bias? If you're racist, homophobic, transphobic, hate one breed of dog because it looks scary, anything like that, I'm gone.
No, this is one for me as well. What started off as a "dark sense of humor" quickly became flat out every "ism" in the book. Funny thing is, for all their supposed superiority, most insecure & immature person I ever dated. They literally feared anyone different than them because they might be "better" somehow. Really pathetic individual.
Load More Replies... being proud of their own ignorance... like being proud they never read a book because "they are not geeks"... being proud that they don't know something instead of learning something new... making fun of someone else's knowledge
Ugh, this is always such a red flag. Sadly, I know so many people over 35 who still live this philosophy. Really pathetic.
Load More Replies... When asked their opinion about something the answer is always "I don't kmow".
YES! Omg!! I had no idea how much of a 'no' this is for me until I got into a relationship with a guy that uses "I don't know" for an answer AND as an excuse.
Load More Replies... I've always thought it a bit of a disappointment when a guy is surprised that I've asked him out. I mean seriously, I'm not going to wait for you to ask me. I would consider it pathetic. what else was I supposed to do other than ask him myself? I have a shot, I'm gonna shoot it.
I am both envious of & loving your whole vibe. That confidence looks great on you!
Load More Replies... Thinking that money impresses you. Dam I am poor but I'm not going to date/marry for it. My mental health is a bigger priority. I'd rather be sane in a cardboard box than miserable in a mansion. I'm looking for someone to spend years with after all.
Hubs & I have been the full range of income brackets & I can say with conviction that money truly can't buy you happiness or peace. If you've got issues, all the money in the world won't help (except to like, pay for therapy) Now, this isn't to say financial security isn't important because it absolutely is but if a relationship is broken, no amount of travel or stuff is going to make a person happy if they're fundamentally unhappy.
Load More Replies... Every one of these resonates with me. I think, as a collective, I just don't like other people.
This legit made me sad. I hope you meet some amazing person that changes that for you!
Load More Replies... The majority of these answers could fall under "what it's like to be a narcissist". I am married to one (for the time being) and it's not something I wish upon people. They basically suck the life out of you. Look up what defines a narcissist to get a better grasp and you might find out that there are narcissists either in your family or your relationships.
Similarly, undiagnosed/ untreated mental illness. My marriage was really difficult until my hubby got his bipolar disorder diagnosed & treated. Obviously, narcissism is only treatable if the person is willing to a)acknowledge there's something wrong and b) have any desire to change said behavior. I'm truly sorry you're in that situation and I sincerely hope you can reclaim your joy, whatever that looks like for you! You sound like a strong, intelligent person and I have faith you'll find your way to a better place!
Load More Replies... Oh, I would like to add people who think that just being a decent human being means you're flirting with them.
Trying to be "woke" because it's trendy or for pleasing others. Whatever you believe in, be honest- be polite about it, maybe open to at least hearing others- but be honest. No one wants to get into a relationship only to find you don't actually care about what you said you did. I consider myself a "woke person" in quite a few ways, but I'm like that because it's who I am. My opinion may or may not change. Open to discussion without any particular guarantee we will agree at the end. That's what I want from others too!
This is healthy growth and people who have to fake that kind of intellectual development are almost guaranteed hot messes inside. I couldn't agree with you more- be honest but educated (if you're going to come at me about x,y,z topic, you'd better know wtf you're talking about) and be open to learning but don't fake some trendy opinion. That's super gross & honestly a huge insult to whatever cause you're fronting.
Load More Replies... For me, Smoking is a definite turn-off. I realize it's a BEAR to quit. However, I will not pursue anything beyond a friendship (which, in MANY cases should be enough) if someone is a smoker.
I smoked until I was 30 so I'm sympathetic to smokers but as a kid who grew up in a smoking household, I totally hear you. Despite having smoked myself, as a kid and now, I hate the smell of stale cigarette smoke.
Load More Replies... Constantly bragging about achievements like winning the world cup or some s**t and when someone says "you didn't do that" they say "how do YOU know I'M the one who did it. Has happened several times with many different genders.
Being super affectionate/talkative via messages and then very cold when you are together. They don't like you, they just like the idea of being in a relationship.
Having one set of rules for one sex and another for the other. Whenever my father bought a new drill or power saw, it was assumed that my brothers were born with the knowledge on how to use it properly. My sister and I..well we were handed the manual for it and told we couldn't use it until we read the manual from cover to cover.
How utterly frustrating. Conversely, my dad had no clue what to do with a girl so he taught me most things his generation (boomer) would have taught a son and I'm only now appreciative of how fortunate I was to have been offered those opportunities.
Load More Replies... I don't like it when people make fun of others. There's one dude who is really cute and I actually had quite a big crush on-until I heard him make fun of someone breathing as they hustled to class. completely ruined any interest I had in him. I feel that this is really standard, but I wanted to remind others that people who would go out with you pay attention and they don't go out with jerks
I'm not sure if it is a condition of the lockdowns but most of these seem to be more visible now than ever before.
Once heard someone with several DWIs actually say, "Hey- its not like I ASKED to be an alcoholic!"
Many of these unattractive deal breakers could be mental health issues or coping mechanisms because of an unhappy childhood or result of an abuse and these behaviours are not permanent. If you are breaking up just because of these, you may be missing out on knowing a great person. Ofcourse, it's not your responsibility to be their life coach - but if you are breaking up with someone, the best thing you can do is be bluntly honest....maybe they can work on themselves once they realize the problem.
You don't need a good reason to break up with someone that you've only been out with a few times. It's really hard to change behaviour based on mental health or abuse problems, so it might not be permanent, but chances are you'll be putting up with it for a very long time.
Load More Replies... I broke up with a beautiful woman who had been adopted from a Korean orphanage as an infant, by an American couple (her adoptive father was a Lutheran minister.) Things were going extremely well (we were both in our 50's) and the sex was absolutely insane... everyday, sometimes several times a day or so it seemed, we were going at it. After a while, it occurred to me that each time seemed scripted like a porno movie... All the exact same stages as a porno. Oral, then missionary, then cowgirl, then reverse cowgirl, more oral, then doggie, then BOOM! Every single time! So I mention this to her one day and she says "I know. I learned that by watching porn movies with my dad when I was a kid, then he'd do that with me." I was shocked and heart broken for her. When I asked if she'd ever gotten counseling for she looked at me like I had three heads and said "why would I need counseling? I love being this way." I stopped seeing her a few days later.
I need to add: be a hunter and not considering animals as sentient creatures.
I hate conspiracy theorists and those who believe EVERYTHING Dr. Google tells them, but WON'T believe a doctor who specialises in a certain field when they contradict what they looked up on the internet. Any doctor who has studied for years and then has had more years again after that in working in hospitals with real patients and other doctors and going on course after course to keep their skills updated, knows more than some idiot who just spent 5 minutes looking something up on the internet.
Flat Earthers and people who mention God or Jesus every other sentence.
People who toss their cigarette butts on the ground like the Butt Fairy is going to clean up after them
for me...a red flag(note: im single and plan on single...this is my view on my friend's relationship...that is all) for me is that you just can't and I mean CAN'T stand your partner's friends.You don't have to like them but when you hate them so much and you are literally about to ruin your relationship because you want to know if that talk about you.To clarify....my friend's partner got into a chat between me,my friend,and my other friend(the one in the relationship) that they weren't allowed in just to see if we talked about them(-w- we didn't because we aren't like that).Now me and my friend don't really trust my friend.also this all happened online...
Desert hippies - they are almost more biker gang (but not in any biker gangs) than hippie... Just strange people
You know what's effing toxic? Being so opinionated and sure of your superiority that you make an article downing others 50 posts long.
Not understanding that one's feelings are not always correct, as well as not changing those feelings when told otherwise; "I think you are manipulating because you are always right and I am always wrong" "No, I am not manipulating, you ate the last Oreo, there are crumbs on your lips and I am wrong sometimes, remember when I thought that dog was a donkey?" "But I am still upset and feel this way so that means you are manipulative". Granted, the last quote can be thought more than articulated.
What is? I don’t think any of this behavior was exclusive to a single gender.
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