Someone Asks “What Makes You Not Want To Have Kids?” And 30 People Deliver Sincere Answers

This!

I’ve occasionally questioned my normal-ness: shouldn’t every healthy adult animal want to perpetuate the species, at least a little? Shouldn’t I have instincts to reproduce? But I don’t XD I want cats and dogs!

It concerns me that it is often regarded as ‘selfishness’. Your entire life is changed, completely. There is nothing wrong with looking after ‘you’. There are enough children in the world, focus on being a better human being for yourself, so the your own freedoms.

Good point. You need to be wanting kids 100%. You can’t take it back. Plus it’s important that a child is brought into the world and know they are absolutely wanted.

Yes! I'm also one of those people, and I'm taking your advice further and will cross the road over to escape children.

Thank you for being honest with your experience. Seriously

The worst are the people who tell you you'll change your mind once the kid is there. We now know that for a lot of parents this isn't true, most are just afraid to speak up. It's a dangerous thing for the potential children, and also a very condescending thing to say usually.

It’s not considered selfish if you’re choosing to look after yourself. Also, you’re thinking of the sorry world that hypothetical child will be left with in the future.

This is really important. Many illneses are inheritable but it is so normalised to have biological kids that many knew the risk and still choose to have kids. Knowing that they might live in pain for their entire life. There are alternatives like egg/sperm donnors or adoption that at least avoid the genetic issues. I cannot resoect a person that will force their diseases on a child just because they want a bio kid.

Oh my god, this

That's on the parents, if you raise your kids correctly they won't do this. Childeren who do this are in charge of the relationship, parents let them walk on them. I wouldn't have been caught dead making a scene like that. My parents didn't hit us, they would embarass us, and that was a powerful teaching method imo. If we did that, mom would turn to us and say "that's embarrassing for you" and just walk away. You stop screaming real quick when u know it doesn't work.

I have no patience with screamers. And even less with the ones who sneakily place in the cart two different objects and try to bargain with you at the checkout line

I always look at whoever I'm with and say 'this is why I have a dog.'

My daughter pulled this once and I'm one of those that refuse to allow my child to make a scene especially in public, so out we went to the car and home, returned later by myself when her father got home from work, I refuse to allow her to think this is okay and act like a spoiled brat, unfortunately not all parents think this way

I admit this only because I would never,ever do it,and the thought only lasts very briefly:I hear the screaming and the first thought that pops into my head is:Kill it.

This is why I'm soooo glad I don't have kids. I grew up with 6 younger siblings and their screaming and yelling always bothered the c**p out of me. Not only am I traumatized by babies and kids screaming, but I feel like I've already done my time, so to say.

To be fair, that has a LOT to do with the parent as well, not just the kid.

Kids just seem so selfish to me. Like, they are ungrateful and when they dont get what they want they scream. Wtf?

Kids behave that way because the parents allow it. It's not the way kids "just behave." Spoiled Temper tantrums and lack of parents handling them are the issue. Just sayin

If your kid is screaming about something that means they are lacking something else that you’re not providing with them such as proper guidance on how to behave and teaching them etiquette . It’s not about you just shopping jackass!

The first time my kid tried this I calmly took her by the hand, abandoned the cart and left. Explain in an age appropriate manner that this is not how we act. It never happened again. Also, don't take your kids grocery shopping when you know they're overtired and due for a nap or are hungry. I'm not talking about you can't run in for milk or bread but don't do a full cart order with an exhausted hungry kid.

My kids never did that. It's called discipline and consequences. Things a lot of young people today know very little about.

I know! Did you see Kate Middleton's kid throwing a fit on national TV?!? I would have died of embarrassment!!

When I was a child, and I had a temper tantrum in the store, my mom just stopped everything left the a full cart and walked out of the store as so other people wouldn't have to deal with it. She went later when my dad was home to watch me. No one does that any more, they just let their kids go on screaming and make it horrible for us that have to listen to it, that is one of the many reasons I didn't want kids.

Years ago, when I was nineteen, a miserable, disheveled young woman with three kids in her cart at the grocery, cut off my cart, looked me dead in the eye and said "Don't ever have children." And I haven't.

That's just trophy participation parenting. My kids NEVER acted like that in public! They knew better!!!

My son did this ONCE. I scooped him up like a football, walked out of the grocery and let the cashier know that I had perishable items that needed put away. Strapped him into his car seat and on the drive home he apologized no less than 10 times.

Not if you raise them right. Most people think spankings are abuse and a one way ticket to ptsd or mental illness, but as a child who had been spanked, I have no issues and(I quote my parents and their friends)"I'm very well behaved and calm" I've known right from wrong from a young age and I've never pitched a fit in a public setting(my mom has said that often). My point is, spank your kids when they do something bad and you'll be just fine.

Can I up vote this 1000x? Asking for a friend

I chose not to have kids because I have a genetic condition called nerofibromattosus. It where tumors grow either on inside of body or out I didn't want to pass it on to my kids .

Bruh my brother exactly. But I stead of talking to him about it, we leave him there to pout and probably get permanent ptsd

I actually work in a grocery store, so I hear that sort of thing a lot.

That's not all children. That's a case of "those people shouldn't have had kids either" most of the time. Some times it's an adopted kid with issues, so not anyone's fault (except possibly a drug addict that chose to continue doing drugs while pregnant). Any way, any one who doesn't add to the population is helping the Earth/curbing population growth, so thank you. ^_^

I HATE this with a passion and I'm a parent. The parent of said child ignores them while we have to endure the torture of the yelling and screaming of their child. Get ur child and leave the store/restaurant/mall/park etc. because the rest of us don't need or want to hear it.

I was that kid 😅

That's just as good a reason to not have anything to do with people in general, grown a*s adults do that as well. Sadly

That's just bad parenting

this annoys me SOO DUCKING MUCH

Raising more A-holes

Lol, my kid never did this, but I remember years ago when having a blood draw, a nurse complaining and worrying about her daughter's tantrums. My son was in high school at that time. Didn't know how easy I'd had it! Even with an easy going kid, motherhood is the toughest job. If you don't want kids, its good you know not to have them. I wanted them and had a strong maternal drive.

This is one at the top of my list. I just wish parents would take the kid out of the store for a time out. Other people shouldnt have to listen to that, it is so rude.My mother just left everything in the cart in the store and walked me out and brought me home. I guess I was so shocked she did that, I never did it again.

YES YES OH MY- This is my little sister, and I can't help but feel bad for the parents that have to deal with that embarrassment on a daily basis.

Reason 700,369,001 that I have no desire to have children, and I WILL NOT have them no matter who asks, “you might want kids someday,” or “when will I get to be a grandma?” 🙄 Never.

I have a feeling if I had children I'd also be in prison

Worse, the parents are oblivious and deaf!!

This never happens in traditional African homes, as kids we knew this was just begging for you parent/parents to kill you in public 😄😄. And trust me other adults will nod in agreement 🤣🤣.

I hear that screaming child, and I try to leave the store ASAP!

Literally never experienced this with my children because I simply enforced rules.

If it's one adult trying to do 100 things with an unruly child, I'll either offer assistance or go to the other side of the store. However, if there is more than one adult, I'll tell them to remove the child from the store.