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“Tell Me You’re A Woman Without Telling Me You’re A Woman” (30 Tweets)
Interview With Author
For all the talk about gender equality, the truth is that being a woman is very different in reality, full of everyday struggles that some people might not be aware of until they’re pointed out. That’s what Twitter user Gayatri wanted to show the world with her viral thread where she asked women to tell her they’re women “without telling me you’re a woman.”
Gayatri, from Mumbai in India, caught people’s attention with her to-the-point and no-nonsense thread. She opened up by saying that she’s always on the lookout for “escape routes” whenever she’s walking in a dark alley. Other women pitched in with their experiences and Gayatri added a few more of her own. Gayatri told Bored Panda that she routinely talks about women's life and workplace experiences on Twitter. "I started this thread as a way for women to share their experiences and the prejudices they face in everyday life. The answers showed that women all over the country and world even had the same experiences. We fought the same battles."
Scroll down a read through the responses to Gayatri's thread and our interview with her, dear Pandas. What did you think of the thread? How would you answer her question? What do you think can be done to change the situation? Let us know in the comments. Gayatri’s fears aren’t unfounded. The situation with women’s rights in India is shocking, writes The Guardian, and both women and girls are frequently victims of violence.
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CatWoman312 5 years ago
Some don’t even care about that anymore. They see an unavailable woman as a challenge
John Doe AKA "READ MY DAMN COMMENT OR REPLY BEFORE YOU DISLIKE!" 5 years ago
Not like it can't be the other way.
John Doe AKA "READ MY DAMN COMMENT OR REPLY BEFORE YOU DISLIKE!" 5 years ago
But yeah, just don't insist past "no."
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Carmen Elena 5 years ago
Soo true! Some men are incapable to accept that sometimes we don´t want their company just because.
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fuggnuggins 5 years ago
Well, it's a two-edged sword. You use it as an excuse, and in such it becomes a stereotype. Another stereotype that is common and reflected by this entire "article" is women not taking responsibility for how they are viewed - which does not necessarily mean changing it but rather taking ownership of it and being accepting of it - and another would be of women being perpetual victims of every issue that never was an issue to anyone but a woman...
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Nora AlMeida 5 years ago (edited)
This is truly insane that women and girls are referred to as such, by some creeps, since it is an entirely inhumane term. We should really call out anyone that dares use such inhumane terms, by telling them that a man is fair, so just like he wouldn’t want his humanity to be disrespected whenever he’s assertive, then fairly, he should respect women and girls’ humanity whenever they are assertive as well. And remind them that only a perv*rt wouldn’t accept that, for any decent actual man would comprehend the concept of fairness.
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Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
Yeah, if you are trying to make your point: "oh must be the hormones hahah"
Mika Andersson 5 years ago
yep. anytime you is confident, or angry at someone or just having a bad day you get asked, "you having your period?" so annoying and without respect for our feelings and bodies
#3
Vorknkx 5 years ago
Marriage is treated like some kind of train that you have to catch before it's too late. So frustrating.
Betsy Gee 5 years ago
I got married at 31, and we had an almost 2 year engagement. First it was congratulations then they wondered why such a long engagement then expected us to have kids right away b/c we were “older”. I just couldn’t win. We are 33 now, no kids, but 3 fur babies we love and we’re doing fine. 🙂 Others were fine with our decisions, but there were those few that drove me crazy.
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Ami Temi 5 years ago (edited)
So true! Almost every single day I get reminded of this by people I barely know, often middleaged nosy women: 31 and not married=trying to guess what's wrong with me... Because there must be something wrong with me... And also: it's like 31 is equal to 60, while men certainly don't get this treatment. Sigh...
CatWoman312 5 years ago
Instead they shame you for doing all that and blaming that on the reason for you being unmarried
Diana Thomas 5 years ago
For me, all the achievements weren’t enough to make up for being a woman.
According to Gayatri, one of the things that the responses to her thread showed is that rights and reality are two very different things. "Instead of asking women what needs to change about women's rights, I think what needs to change is the perception of men. Women are still looked at as inferior beings who need to be told what to do and how to live every single day," she said.
"Men need to actively listen to women, overcome their biases and age-old mental conditioning, and treat women as equals. These discourses are being labeled feminism and the women who talk about this, feminists. But if you think about it, all women want is to left alone and not be told by men how to lead their lives."
#4
Ausrine Ciapaite 5 years ago
I'm kinda waiting to turn 35-40 when family will stop asking me when I'm having kids
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Iggy 5 years ago
i told my parents I was going to wait until my eggs had gone rotten and then pelt the neighbours' doors with them. They never asked again.
California Jones 5 years ago
My parents are more torn up about my crappy organs than I am. So what if I've got a shitty uterus, its not like I'm using it.
Alejandra Lima 5 years ago
I decided this at 7, much before I was even aware about how babies come to this world. I didn't know how it worked but I always knew it was my choice. I'm 44 now. No regrets.
Freezer Burn 5 years ago
To those who still get hassled, how do you usually respond? What works best to shut the convo down about not having kids? My husband and I have been told that he's not a man until he has kids and I should be ashamed for not accepting Gods will and having a brood of kids. We're both over 30.
Lucas 5 years ago
There are a few options. You can ask them why it matters so much to them and point out that they've made their choices and you have the right to make yours. Someone I know lies and says that they can't have children. I usually just say 'bring them into a world like this? No thanks, I'm not that selfish'. People who claim that not having children means you are selfish really get to me - the very act of wanting children is a choice that someone makes to please themselves and they don't do it for the good of anyone else. Gods will has nothing to do with it - if you are a believer point out that he gave us free will for a reason. Not everyone is meant to be a parent. Good luck. Fortunately I'm now of an age where it's no longer expected! People who bang on about others having children really should mind their own business.
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Kerry Alderson 5 years ago
I had kids, my cousin of the same age didn't. I (was) stuck at home with shitty nappies and snotty noses and she was jet setting around the world... she still does! 🤣😂 ....😭😆
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Katie Lutesinger 5 years ago
My little sister had a baby, so I was asked how many kids I had and when I said I didn't have any and intended to keep it that way I got this look like I'd just announced I was a space alien. (It gets even more shocking: I'm not married or dating anyone either. Head asplodey time).
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Toasty 5 years ago
That sounds exhausting. Any chance your significant other would be able to pitch in more?
K. 5 years ago
This is what I’m talking about. Instead of saying another group of people have it hard too or stop complaining, @Toasty suggest something that would slightly alleviate a partner’s burdens. It promotes bonding and appreciation when all parties involved can empathize and help each other.
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Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 5 years ago
If you live in the house, and eat the food, then you should do your part!
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
And never have a hot meal for yourself, what with having to get up and down so much. That was my mother. It’s also why I lived alone and married til I was 40 and the guy was the right one (one who doesn’t expect me to serve him, but for the both of us to work together).
Avery S Alberico 5 years ago
This was me, now it's my little sister. She's never alone at the table anymore :)
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Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
So the rest of your family is 3 years old, and can’t write, then read, their own damn reminders on a calendar? F**k ‘em. Tell them you’re not a reminder app and let ‘em take their own damn lumps if they forget a birthday or anniversary.
N G 5 years ago
And the full contents of our freezer so *I* can "choose" what to cook for dinner tomorrow. Note, I'm usually asked this at around 10.45pm just as I'm attempting to go to sleep.
Tiari 5 years ago
My SO would get a hearty „F**k you“ for these kind of questions.
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I have to remember books due, payments, names and general knowledge that they should go research themselves.
Dark Pearl 4 years ago
I was assigned female at birth, and I left all family birthdays and anniversaries to my mum, leaving me with the birthdays of ALL my fave actors and YouTubers. Is that bad?
However, there are problems in the West, as well. Writer and founder of ‘Voice of Salam,’ Elizabeth Arif-Fear told Bored Panda that women face sexist attitudes, harassment, and barriers to entry because of their gender both in the workplace and outside of it.
Her solutions to these issues is to continue to “dismantle gender-based stereotypes about gender roles,” push for “full parity in dividing unpaid work at home with their partners,” and report incidents of harassment and “illegal questioning of their marital status in job interviews.”
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Dave P 5 years ago
Yeah, I mean women have been flying since the very beginning. I mean Arizona just voted out a senator who was the first woman to fly combat missions in the USAF. Women pilots are out there and not rare anymore.
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Patricio2223 5 years ago
well most people would just say "I'm a pilot" instead of being intentionally cryptic about it
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 5 years ago
"Fly for an airline" sounds pretty straightforward. She flies planes for an airline as opposed to flying for the army, etc.
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elfin 5 years ago
This reminds me of that idiot who commented that Dr. Jill Biden shouldn't call herself that. He claims that you shouldn't call yourself "Dr." unless you've delivered a baby. While that is ludicrous in itself, it is also a fact that Dr. Jill Biden HAS delivered a baby and she did all the heavy lifting. The Biden's named their daughter "Ashley."
Dan Pieniak 5 years ago
You should watch the Netflix special - Comedian Ari Eldjárn’s show “Pardon My Icelandic” He has a skit about when he was a Stewart on a plane that did have a woman pilot, and the stuff he would tell passengers when they asked if a woman was flying the plane..
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Karen Stanford 5 years ago
Why dont you say you are a pilot in the first place? Yes I am a woman.
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago (edited)
Oh, OK. Then I’ll just concentrate on making the coffee and let the plane fly itself. How about that, d**k?
Eva Bryson 5 years ago
Ignore the statistics and just assume she's the pilot.
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Calypso poet 5 years ago
One of the reasons I got fired, everyone introducing me as the manager. I wasn't the manager but he was never around and couldn't do my job.
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Soap 5 years ago
I don't want children. That's my answer, and it won't change. Stop making my life yours.
Christian Bradshaw 5 years ago
I'm not a woman, but I absolutely agree that people need to stop expecting every woman to have kids
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Zenozenobee 5 years ago
Fun fact, it's not even "a child"... I have 2 kids I chose to have, and now I'm heavily expected to give birth to a 3rd one. I don't want a 3rd one, so: "and your partner agree with that???" (because a man rule every woman's body) / "but you have to hurry!!!" (I'm 37 but I will not change my mind thx)/ "You had 2 c-sections, you MUST give birth naturally!!" (I won't, my matrice does't work this way, I'm fine with that)/ "you must have a lack of attachment for you kids or you'd want another one" (I didn't punch the woman that throw that one to me, I'm proud)... family, neighbors, other parents at school, my baker!!! I'm done!
Freezer Burn 5 years ago
I'm sorry to hear that. I didn't even consider what someone in your position must go through. I've not hounded my friends about having more kids because I didn't want them to ask me about having some of my own. I didn't even consider the stress they must feel when ppl keep asking them to have more if/when they don't. Those convos have to be a complete pain in the butt. It's actually quite crazy how there's no middle ground really, you either don't have enough or you have too many.
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Oh my gosh. Again with the oblivious comments! It is not the same thing with men! Men will be accepted in society even if they don't have children. According to society, women need to have a job, have kids, look a certain way, and be fine with being quiet while other people ignore them or verbally shoot them down.
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According to Arif-Fear, these kinds of actions will help in continuing the work toward “smashing the glass ceiling” that women face.
“Ladies, you can do it! Please believe in yourself!” she said. “Likewise, partners need to do their share at home, colleagues should check their attitudes (e.g. sexist comments), not mansplain in meetings, and managers and employers should ensure that they are creating fair equal opportunities and spaces at the table. Consideration for those with childcare responsibilities is also important.”
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
Oh, God. "SIt Properly". I got that one. Yeesh. Guys can hang it all out there, but I have to keep a penny between my knees and my ankles crossed. (No joke. the penny-knee rule existed at my old nun-run school)
Curry on... 5 years ago
I told my son that his girlfriend, later wife, had a 'big'' laugh. He told her I said she laughed too loud. Not what I meant at all.
King Joffrey 5 years ago
To be fair, I'm a man and was also raised to sit "properly" by my Grandma. She didn't use the vocab we use today but it basically boiled down to "don't manspread".
K. 5 years ago
I’m not allowed to drink anything and laugh at the same time.
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Xandra, The Little Hufflepuff 5 years ago
I laugh loudly all the time, if you don't like it, then leave!!!!!!!
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Tami 5 years ago
And clean up afterwards! 'Cause if you don't, no one else will and the leftover cake and dirty utensils will sit there forever.
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Xandra, The Little Hufflepuff 5 years ago
At my cousins wedding (I was a bridesmaid), my DAD was in charge of cake, and he had fun with it
Celtic Pirate Queen 5 years ago (edited)
I worked as a contract employee (bookkeeper) for an IT company. Basically, I am my boss and they are my client. I worked from home, but went into the office for about 5 hours each Monday. The owner asked me if I would mind cleaning out the fridge and microwave, maybe run a vacuum over the floor? I informed him that a) I don't use the fridge OR the microwave, b) I'm only in the office 5 hours a week, compared to the 3 full time employees who are there every day AND c) having a uterus doesn't mean it's my responsibility to clean up after grown-ass men who should know better by now.
#12
Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Take self defense classes. It Is important to make you feel more secure and for reducing anxiety.
River Runs True 2 years ago
I can take all the self-defense classes I want and sadly, that doesn't change a fact that I'm a 5'2 inch woman and that any man can overtake me super easily because of that.
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Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
If you have at least three keys on your keyring, place them pointed side out between your fingers. Anyone you hit—-and hit them hard as you can (then get the hell out of there as soon as you can and call for help) when they act up—-with that had will end up pretty well punctured, and hopefully learn something from it. Pair that with making as much noise as you can, because scum prefer to do their deeds in darkness and silence, and they’ll consider you just too damn difficult to try anything with.
Maripat Webber 5 years ago
I was taught never to get into an elevator with only one male passenger. Learned the hard way “they” knew what they were talking about.
Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
Although being a man myself, I feel bad about being alone with a man in an elevator, or going through a dark lane. The sense of security has nothing to do with being a man or a woman, I think.
#13
Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
I have Heard this one several times. I still dont get it and my reaction Is "ignore and keep lifting"
Calypso poet 5 years ago
My mom does this! And I'm obviously younger but also a lot taller than her. I also used to lift weights. She's never had a gym membership. I can usually carry as much as my husband when my ankle is healthy.
Akylah McKenzie 4 years ago
This happens far too often. I was helping someone move in. They wouldn't let me lift more than a box of stuffed animals. I asked why and they flat out said it was because I was a girl.😤 I just looked at them then left.
Mary McFadden 5 years ago
Had a co-worker angrily tell me that women should not lift ANYTHING.
Adrienne Early 5 years ago
Ok buuuuut apparently it's a thing where your uterus can prolapse (fall out your vag) when you lift heavy things improperly soooo.. not really a bad thing to be told to be concerned about.
Ash Lee 5 years ago
Lifting strengthens the core making prolapse less likely. It's like saying men shouldn't lift because of the possibility of hernias. They also didn't let women run marathons for a long time because doctors said their uterus would fall out. it won't.
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Jensen Bush 5 years ago
UGH that is just not right we can lift and we can do it better than you
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago (edited)
This Is true, most of the times women are in charge of child cre. When i travel kids stay with my partner, but he Is "assisted" by muy mother un law, the Nanny, and my female friends.
M Kate McCulloch 5 years ago
i used to sing for a band and we were booking a very short tour - 5 cities in two weeks. My brother said I shouldn't go because I had children. I asked if he would ever, ever say that to a man who had to travel for work? Would you? If so, kindly eff off...
deanna woods 5 years ago
My grandmother and aunt always took care of me when my parents were away, but after a summer of me being picked on by my cousins, my parents allowed my sister and I to stay at our house under my youngest aunt's supervision.
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Clever Dog 5 years ago
again this is sad, true but not a female thing, I have done the same as a man the pressure not to cry in public is even greater. Yes woman will be judged in work as being emotional but men will be judged in an almost career ending way. Showing emotions does not make anybody weak.
Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
This one Is really painful, and just wrong. Im sorry you have to go through that.
Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 5 years ago
OMG yes! I had to restrain an absolute crying breakdown when I got fired from a job for a completely unjust reason by a boss who hadn't wanted me fired but felt like he was obligated to tell HR anyway!
deanna woods 5 years ago
For me, this is more about not letting my two idiot managers see me upset. My sister told all our managers at the restaurant we work at that I have mental health issues and so two of them like to toy with me.
JessG 5 years ago
User name checks out. Crying is not weak. If you say you never cry, you’re lying to yourself. While I disagree with punching a wall-type outbursts, you should never invalidate yours, or anyone else’s emotions.
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Wendillon 5 years ago
It's not just a stereotype. Many men are incapable of perceiving the difference in similar shades. It's not ignorance, they literally cannot see some shades of colour. There are some women who fall into that category too, but it's far more common among men.
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Aaron Dettmer 5 years ago
It's actually a biological fact that men don't have as many rods and cones as women. So we can't see color as well. Just another indisputable, biological difference
mph seti 5 years ago (edited)
I know the difference between cerulean blue, ultramarine blue, phthalo blue, cadmium red, alizarin crimson, napthol red,...And the difference between a tint and a shade. Also how those pigments mix with others. Painting is cool. Many of those other names (orchid, plum, wine, etc.) are subjective and meaningless...Applied by paint (or fabric) companies at craft stores and hardware stores to sell product. Although, I think knowing how to find the Pantone code for a color is the best way to color match.
Natalia 5 years ago
No,no, there is no such a thing. It's just purple, just blue, just red....and what do you mean you had a new haircut?! It's all same to me! 😂😂😂😂
Onion rings like to make your breath smelly 5 years ago
only things i know here is the difference between purple and mauve lol
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Red Hair Blue Soul 5 years ago
If she would have raised him correctly, he should be able to take care of himself!
I want cake 5 years ago
It's not a wife's duty to raise her husband. The mother didn't say this to the daughter, it was said to her.
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
I hate this one. Who will take care of my husband? Well, my husband. Last I checked, he had four working limbs, and could boil water.
Zenozenobee 5 years ago
My partner was living by himself during 6 years when we moved up together. He survived 6 years, with cooking, cleaning, and all, by himself: was expected to iron his skirt by his mother...lol
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Viviane 5 years ago
A woman from India was raising her three sons to help with household and told them "It doesn't matter who you marry, as long as they're a good person." I told her, "Good, you're preparing them for the Canadian market." Virtually no North American would want a man who doesn't/can't help around the house.
Nora the mistake 0_o 4 years ago
him he a f*****g living human being he can take care of his ass thank you
Celtic Pirate Queen 5 years ago
My SIL asked me a similar question when I went to visit my Mom for a week. Well, he was in his 40's when I met him, fairly housebroken, managed to be employed and apparently knew how to dress & feed himself. Yes - he was still breathing when I returned home.
Mary McFadden 5 years ago
Anyone saying that to me would get a string of expletives so long it would knock them off their feet.
M Kate McCulloch 5 years ago
Assuming your husband is over the age of say 10, shouldn't he be pretty self-sufficient by now? If not, some parent out there did not do their job properly.
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K. 5 years ago
I was a 19 year old spinster double majoring in STEM fields, and was told I’m attractive and didn’t have to do that. Another reason for me to do so. Wish me luck for more degrees in my future. Now I’m a proud and voluntary thornback.
Colin L 5 years ago
Yeah, I've had to help out a female (STEM) student with some messed up self-esteem issues. She was quite pretty, so her classmates (and some of her instructors, even) thought she was dumb. She was consistently top of her class.
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
I keep old keys so I have two hands full of pointy objects between my fingers.
Dirk Daring 5 years ago
Putting your keys between your fingers is a bad idea. Your attacker can squeeze them together, causing extreme pain and even injury. Instead, bunch them up in your fist.
Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 5 years ago
Yes to the keys, always. And even though I tried and failed to get pregnant while married, even after I was divorced I had family members attempting to guilt me into giving them grandchildren!
Lorelai Dewrell 5 years ago
dont do it in between the fingers hold it like a knife or ice pick
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Iggy 5 years ago
I had a friend loudly hush me when a group of us were discussing a particular topic. It was about the field I worked in! I tore strips off him.
Susan Mercurio 5 years ago
I've had men correct me as though I was wrong, and then repeat what I just said in different words.
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Emily 5 years ago
Ooooh I feel this. Living with my MIL while I finished nursing school I reduced my hours to part time work and spent my "free time" doing things I enjoy to spare my sanity. She once very "kindly" told me that when she was married she always made sure there was food on the table for her husband when he got home from work. Now I'm a nurse caring for COVID patients and my husband is not working... he isn't cooking for me and I'd never expect him too. I don't believe she had the same conversation with her son. Such an antiquated expectation!
Eva Bryson 5 years ago
Your husband should be cooking for you just to give you a break.
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Sentinel 5 years ago
Thats not the point. She is the one EXPECTED to take care of it.
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Ivana 5 years ago
My husband does the majority of the cooking, I mostly cook big elaborate meals on the weekends while he does the fast and easy meals on the week days. When I was in graduate school I was also working full-time and would be in my office from 7am-10pm. My husband brought me dinner at 6pm and would hang out in my office until I was done and ready to go home. I will always love him deeply for that.
Eunice Bentley 5 years ago
poor health forced my husband into early retirement and me back into the workforce. For a while I came home from work and then made our evening meal. Then one night I came home and it was ready to put on the table. Not fancy, but it was food, if I remember correctly it was mac and cheese with hotdogs and sauerkraut.
M Kate McCulloch 5 years ago
No. You don't actually. And don't do it if you don't feel like it. Period. "The fridge is that way. Are your legs broken? No? then help your self..."
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Maripat Webber 5 years ago
Screwdriver in the purse. Not technically a weapon, but can do damage if necessary.
Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 5 years ago
I have my keys in my hand when I walk to my car - always! And my key is the kind that comes out of the fob like a switchblade so it looks like I have a small knife in my hand.
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Agreed. Same thing here. "She has a PhD, but is just un Cats". Fxxk them, useless, frustrated pricks.
Anna Repp 5 years ago
Yes - like that recent WSJ article asking Dr Jill Biden to drop "Dr" from her title because "well it was doctorate in education, so does not count."
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Sarah 5 years ago
Oookay. That is so not what she meant! She was saying that if a man and a woman both did the same work, both had a PhD, the woman's work would be ignored and less valued than the man's.
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Octavia Hansen 5 years ago
When both my parents fell ill, I quit everything to live and care for them full time. My brother only came to the funerals. My last words to him were "Your daughter saw how you treated your father . . . may she do the same to you."
Cynthia Souza 5 years ago
When my 87 year old father needs anything, I'm the first one he calls. Usually, I'm the only one called, even though I have two siblings.
Audrey 5 years ago
After reading all of your comments : for the sake of the rest of humanity, please seek professional help
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Red Hair Blue Soul 5 years ago
I've stopped doing this. It's amazingly freeing watching men'sreactionsthe first few times they realized that I wasn't moving.
Susan Mercurio 5 years ago (edited)
I once went to help a man in a rainstorm who was trying to put a large bunch of packages into a mailbox and hold his umbrella at the same time. I held the mailbox door open and he was so upset at getting help from a "wommin" that he dropped everything into a puddle and grabbed for the handle with both hands. Then the umbrella blew out into the traffic and then the red light turned green! Ha ha ha. But he gave me a dirty look like it was MY fault!
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Flash Henry 5 years ago
I stopped doing that a few years ago. Have also perfected the resting murder face. The looks on some men's faces is priceless.
Aunt Messy 5 years ago
Stare into the middle distance, make eye contact with NO ONE, and don't slow down. My husband taught me that, and it works.
Cynthia McDonald 5 years ago
I feel this so much. When hiking a brutal, narrow trail. A man will take up the entire space, man-spreading! I moved aside for years and got angrier and angrier. Finally, I said NO. YOU MOVE. And I never let another man take my space again.
Calypso poet 5 years ago
Can I mention this is only certain men? I was on a knee scooter for 2 years because of foot/ankle surgeries. We went to zoos for me to get out for exercise on flatter surfaces. Teens and kids always got out of my way and held doors. Black men and most people of color were always making sure everyone was out of the way. White women and men around aged 30 and up are s**t. Which is why their kids don't benefit from all the freebies I get and pass out in places we go.
Phoenix 5 years ago
When I walk anywhere naturally I’ll just move to the side or out of the way without even thinking about it. Most the time it’s not because I’m scared but because it’s just natural for me to move out of the way because I’d rather not make another person go through the hassle of moving when I can do it without any problems. Of course if someone told me to purposefully move out of their way (in a mean manner) before I move I wouldn’t just to spite them.
Csilla Kaszas 5 years ago
Sometimes I just stop and plant my feet, then they really can't expect me to steer away, as I'm not going anywhere. Remember when some years back, a male jogger pushed a women off the sidewalk, in front of a bus, on a London bridge? Cause she was in her way. He was never caught. Stuff of nightmares.
K. 5 years ago
I’m a petite 5’ 1” and my breasts have been walked into so many times. I don’t take up that much physical space. Instant bubbly feelings when both parties are considerate.
Bron 5 years ago
I’m as little and get the opposite. It’s like I radiate a “get the F away from me” vibe or something. I don’t mind cos usually, being a small, older woman, I’m invisible so that may end up sending me to hospital if my vibe ever fails.
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deanna woods 5 years ago
I do the pretend to be on the phone thing because there are some creepy dudes in my apartment complex.
Ivana 5 years ago
How about having to plan all the details of the travel? My husband says all the time that everything will work out and he has never planned and things went well. His sister and I yelled at him one year because we were like, "That is because we planned it." He sincerely thought he had planned the trip spur of the moment. I also reminded him the last trip he planned was moving to Arizona. He got lost, ran out of gas money, and ended up in Florida where he met me, but he was right about one thing, he didn't worry about it and it worked out perfectly.
River Runs True 2 years ago
I have been reading a book with earphones in my ears, at a coffee shop, studying for school. I've had men come up to me and tell me to take my headphones out just to say something stupid. I've said that I'm studying and I need to get back to it and they still keep talking. What is wrong with them?
lakitha tolbert 5 years ago
I used to wear headphones all the time, so that random men wouldn't think that my time was also their time to bother me...
Sandra 5 years ago
I just wear headphones and ignore, no need to appear busy so i would avoid conversation. I do however cross the street if there îs a drunk guy there talking with himself, being angry and the street îs almost empty. There îs a difference betwen being caucios and to see danger everywhere. What îs life if you are allways scared?
K. 5 years ago
Good for you. Please consider the environment of the females/women who make this post. The behaviors themselves are not limited to one gender. The fact that they feel the need to is telling.
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Good for you to recognize it. Now STOP. Count all your achievements un order. Say them out loud. You will feel proud.
Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 5 years ago
YES YES YES. I think we are all ingrained to do this. I remember being on the phone with a client one day (I was arranging international travel for a doctor) and the person asked me a question I didn't know the answer to so I responded "I don't know, I'm just a secretary" and the client (who was a man!) said "NEVER say you're JUST a secretary!". I almost cried :)
Wayne Bart 4 years ago
Underestimating yourself can also be a sign of exceptional competency. It means you have the competency to know that there are things you don't know, and to get to that point, you need to know A LOT. Maybe it's a lack of confidence, or even general frustration, likely brought on by societal pressures/expectations of gender. Women in STEM can discuss this all day
deanna woods 5 years ago
I used to do, but not because I am a woman. I did this because some of my family members did.
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HappyPig1723 5 years ago
Man, I'm only 12 but even I know this stuff. (I'm a girl btw) The world is a scary place.
Carmen Elena 5 years ago
It is so sad you have to be aware of that at your age.
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Bla 5 years ago
I think it's false to assume all men are bad. If you live in a bad neighborhood okay, I can understand, but else I think it's wrong to generalize and say all men all rapists or whatever. Would you say the same of your father, brother, grand father? Some female are afraid of them. I personally don't cross the street if there is a group of men, I live in a big city (4 million people)
Sarah 5 years ago
I'd still rather assume that they are bad and be wrong then assume that they are good and get raped or kidnapped.
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Eva Bryson 5 years ago
Since you don't understand the topic, please quit posting.
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Ryan Deschanel 5 years ago
The two words "woman" and "mother" are the only clues which show her gender, but it is cheating.
Ivana 5 years ago
My husband and I carpool. It is impossible to get him out of the door. I was freaking out about being late and he made the tragic mistake of saying, "So you are going to be 5 minutes late, who cares?" I spent the rest of the car ride lecturing him on how this is why we couldn't have children because we would be late everyday because he is so useless in the morning and I would have to get the kids ready by myself or wake up 2 hours early instead of one hour, I would lose my job and we would end up homeless because I make twice is salary and after going on for the entire 20 minute drive I pulled into the parking garage and said, "So to answer your question, I care."
Karin Jansen 5 years ago
How are these unsecurities and the need to apologize first related to gender? I must not be a woman then..
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
You are teaching him something really important by being strong and a working mom. Keep up.
HappyPig1723 5 years ago
My mom told me when I was younger, every time she would leave me at daycare to go to work she would feel guilty. I thank her for it every day, because it has taught me to be more independent, especially during quarantine.
Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich 5 years ago
I know my mom felt this way when she finally had to start leaving me at daycare when I was 2 years old because she HAD to go back to work. Both my parents worked and since I'm an only child, my mom was always worried about me and felt guilty.
Lord Mysticlaw 5 years ago
I'm a single mom. I used to feel bad about working a lot. Then I realised I'm teaching my daughter 1. You gotta work hard for what you want and 2. You don't need a husband to "take care of" you, you can take care of yourself just fine.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
Yes, of course. That's obviously what she meant. Why would you think otherwise? /s
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Natalia 5 years ago
Once I had a conversation with a highly educated man. He said "whenever you see s**t happening on a road you know for sure that the driver is a woman!" I was like what?!?! 😤
Martha Meyer 5 years ago
That's really ridiculous considering men cause the vast majority of traffic accidents.
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Lord Mysticlaw 5 years ago
I was once driving with my (then) boyfriend and he said something about knowing the driver in front of him was a woman because she's braking round bends. Umm or maybe it's a man who feels a bit uncomfortable driving on a dangerous mountain pass in the dark and who would prefer to go slow round the bends. Said ex boyfriend is married now and seeing the way he acts with his wife – I sure dodged a bullet.
Gage Franke 5 years ago
Glad you dumped that moron. I feel bad for his wife though. :(
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Cordi Schmidt 5 years ago
I stopped caring whether other drivers were angry with me for driving 'slowly' - meaning not going over the max limit km/h. If there is 50 km/h, I go 50, If there is 90, I go 90. That they need to drive those 110 on 90? I don't care, feel free to overtake me, but those rules are there for a reason.
Ryan Deschanel 5 years ago
It is unfortunately true, people generally more tend to assume a relatively bad driver is a woman... And there is absolutely no explanation for that. It is just as logical as saying some stupid thing such as "this person sucks at tennis, so they must have studied german instead of french in middle school".
King Joffrey 5 years ago
That's not cool but, to be fair, whenever people see a speeding car they think "it's a man".
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
Absolutely true. I've been "chased" a few times and cursed at the guy until 'he' passed me and it was a woman. I hate speeders, especially behind me.
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lakitha tolbert 5 years ago
We also will discuss that women's careful driving results in lower insurance policies...
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
My driving-teacher said "if the car in front of you is acting strangely, too slow or jerky movements, it's usually a woman or a man with a hat". So far, he's (sadly) been proven right a lot of times. that does NOT mean women are worse at driving, but in city-traffic, I could see that some women prefer not to drive themselves so they get insecure once they have to. And "men with hats" in my country are usually above 60 years old, so the insecurity (slower reflexes, less confidence, worsening eye-sight...) comes out to play again.
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Lily Mac 5 years ago
I love how women were the ones that got saddled with the dramatic stereotype. Has nobody opened a history book or watched the news or y'know spent some time around men? People in general seem to love drama lol
Tami 5 years ago
Right, if you're a calm, logic-minded female, you're labeled as a cold fish or a b*tch and generally viewed as unfeminine and undesirable.
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Black Panther 5 years ago
Bruh sometimes we guys (Bois ,men ) talk total BS I can't believe how u dudettes survive lol
Phoebe Carter 5 years ago
Exactly! If I make a comment about my brother and he gets annoyed, my he tells me to stop and I do. But when he makes some joke I don't like and I get annoyed, It's 'don't be so sensitive' and 'jeez it's just a joke' LIKE FFS MAYBE YOU'RE THE PROBLEM NOT ME
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
People should read the task before writing their posts. "Without telling me that you're a woman"! She's got a point, but she didn't read the instruction and if this were a test, she'd fail.
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Colin L 5 years ago
I *am* a natural caretaker and I'm looked at as being less of a man because of it.
CD Mills 5 years ago
I'm sorry you get that from people. When I was a teen, my brother was shot and became a C6 quad, we were at the hospital quite regularly. There was a male Nurse that was always just so awesome with him and all of us. Sometimes he was the only one that could get my brother to cooperate with his treatment.
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
Give a woman a PhD, she can feed herself for life. Give a woman a husband, she'll have to feed two people. --- Me
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
Ha! You're cute if you think getting a PhD is a surefire way to get a job... Those days are over, Leo... :-(
Load More Replies... Sentinel 5 years ago
U are so smart for a woman. Said my professor. Another one singled me out from my group of 2 other male friends & said something to the effect of” why do u need to study so hard? Its not like u will need it once u are married” lol. That was just a few years back. I guess it will not happen today with the current landscape
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Aunt Messy 5 years ago
A car dealer once tried to tell me he "had" to talk to my husband to....I'm not sure....ask if I had permission to buy myself a car? He also tried to tell me he "had" to do a credit check on me, even though I was paying cash for the car. ...///... I went to a different dealership.
Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
My hubby was asked why he "let" me do something. He replied, "She's not my possession." :-)
Britta B 5 years ago
I think "xyz" stands for "this or that", meaning multiple things that could be listed there
Load More Replies... Freezer Burn 5 years ago
I've actually had to use this line for pushy salesman who wouldn't take "no thank you" as a response. I'd tell them, I have to check with my husband and they would immediately back off. I hate that I had to resort to that and perpetuate this cycle but I hate it more when someone won't take no for an answer.
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Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
Not so sure. My last dog - I'd have to pull him of anyone who would have tried something. My current dog? Probably run away if someone yelled at her. But she can bark REALLY well and sounds so threatening and is quite big (and black), so I dare anyone to try. She'll distract them and I'll kick some balls
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Zenozenobee 5 years ago
We once had a talk with some friends about the fact a mutual female friend just start a relationship with a man 6 years youger than her!!! that was too big a difference, they would never make it. My partner remind everyone he is 6 years older than me... well, new topic then ;p
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
"WITHOUT TELLING ME YOU ARE A WOMAN! " Sheesh. Read. The. Damn. Instruction!
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K. 5 years ago
I’m pretty sure I have very poor attraction detection skills. When someone follows you and look your path a certain way repeatedly...don’t ever compromise your safety over fear that you’re hurting someone’s feelings or possibly overreacting. The Amy Cooper(s) of the world is something else.
K. 5 years ago
Can you elaborate? I genuinely would like to know. I’ve had men make comments about me wearing an Elmo shirt and in a 7XL shirt. Males tell me to be wary of other males. They tell me not to let my guard down, even when in the company of other males with whom I’m on friendly terms.
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HappyPig1723 5 years ago
My dad travels everywhere for his work while my mom's job is more stationary, but my dad never gets asked. When me and my mom were on a trip together, we both got asked.
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Ryan Deschanel 5 years ago
There is no relationship between the situation she described and being a woman.
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
This is horrible. Please take care of yourself, and start working on the small changes at home. We can make a difference.
Christian Bradshaw 5 years ago
I don't get it either. Can anyone explain?
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Ryan Deschanel 5 years ago
That is totally unrelated to a person's sex. Anyone could have an annoying partner.
N G 5 years ago
My husband does this, but I appreciate him asking. We live quite rurally, without good street lighting in significant stretches. If I'm not home a couple of hours after expected, he gives me a call to make sure I'm not upside down in a ditch. I extend him the same courtesy because we care about each other's safety on the roads.
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Christian Bradshaw 5 years ago
Maybe for some people. My parents have me get it. Once they sit down, they've sat down
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Claire Murray 4 years ago
I've constantly been asked why I only ever wear jeans and a tee-shirt/sweat shirt/jacket.
Freezer Burn 5 years ago
These posters seem to have an Asian background. Different expectations for different cultures.
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K. 5 years ago
I don’t know. Maybe it’s easier to drag them back into an antiquated, metaphorical cave.
Load More Replies... Ryan Deschanel 5 years ago
She is right about one thing : usually, people don't annoy men for having short hair.
Animal lover❤ 5 years ago
I was called names and had assumptions made about me when I choose to cut and dye my hair. I feel you
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Christian Bradshaw 5 years ago
Keep in mind not all white men do the same thing. I'm a white (almost a) man, and I can't be assertive to save my life
MistyCat 4 years ago
Aww, you're like my crush, he's a total derp-face like "uh, ok, i nguess" and im the voice of reason like "NO DON'T JUMP OFF YOU GODDAMN IDIOT"
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Stitches 5 years ago
Omg yes I speak for a lot of Women when I say we are very anxious about using ride share services
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MistyCat 4 years ago
Cheers, sista, cheers. So glad to find another 12 yr old girl, haha!
Load More Replies... Marlowe Fitzpatrik 5 years ago
I do that, too. But not because of a need to do so, or because I feel like I should but rather to make things easier. Maybe that IS a sign of being a woman? Wanting things to be easier? (and stopping arguments from happening?) Then again, if someone gets rude, forget about an apology from me! I cuss like a sailor if provoked.
Matilda Haschek 5 years ago
if i do anything that is unusal i have an escuse to why it isnt my fault so i dont get punished even when its not my fault
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ProfessionalTimeWaster 5 years ago
It's a political movement running on social media that stands for Dalit Lives Matter (a caste group in India) in the lines of Black Lives Matter.
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Claire Murray 4 years ago
I've had friends who lift their hand out of their pockets and I think they're going to hit me or something.
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Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Yes, but this is because you love them! I will hope my partner do the same thing.
King Joffrey 5 years ago
I'm a man and I do that as well. My family is a lot more important than my career!
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Uncommon Boston 5 years ago
That is your maybe your choice, or the reality of the world you live in. Either way it is an awful way to live. I bet if you don't do things exactly as expected, people make sure you know. So sorry.
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karla Meixnerová 5 years ago
When I started studying my PhD., one of my teacher told me, that they don't like girls studying for a PhD., because they leave their studies to have children...
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
I have a long list. I do all the grocery shopping, pay all the bills, take the kids to their appointments, do the Christmas and birthday shopping, remind my hubby when it is his parents or brothers birthdays so he can wish them a happy birthday, I do the bookwork for his BAS/tax etc, I do the housework and washing, I look after the dog, walk him and take turns with my daughter feeding him and I cook dinner. I am sure there is more but that’ll do. Now before people start jumping up and down about equality etc. I just want to make you aware that my husband works an extremely labour intensive job and can work very long hours. He barely has the chance to stop and go to the toilet, let alone eat so there is no way I expect him to contribute around the house etc. He is in charge of the garden and any maintenance at home though and he does pick me up from appts or our son from school IF he finishes work on time. This is how our family dynamics work and it is not for everyone.
Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Thanks for sharing. I believe is functional if it works for both of you. It would be unfair if you also worked away from home and it was expected that you took care of all of that by yourself. Every family has its own balance, what is important is to have a partner that Is willing to listen AND change habits if the load needs to be shared!
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ProfessionalTimeWaster 5 years ago
Even though I'm a woman, I did not enjoy this post and neither agree with it and some of it cements gender stereotypes, even if thru mocking. I feel it's about time discussion shifts from "how society is unfair to women" to something more useful like "what you can do". Former is giving power to the society they don't have over you and the latter puts the control back in your hands.
K. 5 years ago
Frankly, I’m not sure this article is enjoyable to read, and certainly not the culture that led these women/females to air their grievances. I’m sick of complaining too, but as long as I still see those attitudes and behaviors and subjected to them I will continue to do so. Not just for me, and not just for women. I’m just afraid that people will ask “why should we do that?” Hopefully, it’s just their curiosity and true desire to understand, but I’ve heard/read things that suggest a different, dominating mindset. The “what you can do” answers and suggestions get a lot of pushback as discrimination towards the majority group. Just because I’m allowed to show an ankle and a collarbone and vote in my country does not mean I should be grateful and satisfied with that much. The discussion topics involve each other, and necessary for coherency. One day, the former would just be an introduction to the latter and inspire solutions that reach other marginalized groups.
Load More Replies... Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
I am proud to be a woman. I wear a sundress all summer, it feels like a semi-fitted, knee length, cotton T-shirt. In the winter, I chose more feminine garments, always with jewelry and makeup. BUT, being a woman does not mean I am weak. I am firm, will argue if treated like I am idiot, and always stand up for myself. I was the first woman to hold many jobs. Instead of complaining about the unfairness of gender roles, I silently worked hard, proved I could work as well or better than the men. My feminist friends were shocked I was amoung the first females beach, not pool, life guards where we lived, the first woman bartender elsewhere and more (1970's). Me, the girly girl, was the first one over the cliff in a mountaineering class. Women dismiss me. I returned a broken tent, the woman who helped me, assumed I broke it until she unfolded it. Yes, I have hit the glass ceiling. I am counting on the women who follow me to push it higher like I did. It isn't easy, I failed often, but in the end I made a difference. So can you, like all the women before us.
Squirrelflightisawesome 5 years ago
Also, society always expects us to wear bras, modest clothing, long skirts, dresses, ect. It gets really annoying.
Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
If you prefer not to, find a solution you feel comfortable with that meets social norms of the job. Our world has defined gender roles. We choose how to meet the challenge. I have met successful women who have never worn a suit with a skirt or dress and I doubt they wore a bra. It was never obvious if they did or didn't so it wasn't an issue. If everyone there dresses in a way that you don't like, it is unlikely you would feel comfortable there. In most circumstances, nobody wants to see your boobs or men's penises. Neither should be obvious. Choose your environment and have reasonable expectations. I am thankful I dont have to wear a suit, like men. I don't wear suits, too uncomfortable. A dress with a jacket, sure, but never a suit. Other women didn't like it, but even they admitted I looked as professional as they did. For years I wore a uniform, as expected. Manners and respect work and are often part of success. As far as family, I don't want to argue so I wear what is expected. Annoying, but easier.
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anarkzie 5 years ago
How does being agender impact your life? I'm asking this from a point of curiosity not trying to pick a fight. I saw Sam Smith say that he identifies as gender neutral which Is something I don't understand in a person over a certain age. I get why people raise their kids as gender neutral i.e they don't want society to force certain norms on them but as an adult you simply are who you are. What does it mean for you?
Load More Replies... Karin Jansen 5 years ago
God, this whole thread is awful. Apparently, as I don't feel guilty for working and leaving my kids, I don't cook and am always to bed first, I must not be a woman.
K. 5 years ago
Some people don’t try to make others suffer like them. The things you mentioned were used to shame and guilt females/women. I’m glad you don’t feel that way; it is not a requirement for womanhood.
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RatBerries 5 years ago
I had a classmate. He sucked. Apparently it was okay for him to stare at my body, but not okay for me to look him in the eyes. I hate him
karla Meixnerová 5 years ago
When I started studying my PhD., one of my teacher told me, that they don't like girls studying for a PhD., because they leave their studies to have children...
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
I have a long list. I do all the grocery shopping, pay all the bills, take the kids to their appointments, do the Christmas and birthday shopping, remind my hubby when it is his parents or brothers birthdays so he can wish them a happy birthday, I do the bookwork for his BAS/tax etc, I do the housework and washing, I look after the dog, walk him and take turns with my daughter feeding him and I cook dinner. I am sure there is more but that’ll do. Now before people start jumping up and down about equality etc. I just want to make you aware that my husband works an extremely labour intensive job and can work very long hours. He barely has the chance to stop and go to the toilet, let alone eat so there is no way I expect him to contribute around the house etc. He is in charge of the garden and any maintenance at home though and he does pick me up from appts or our son from school IF he finishes work on time. This is how our family dynamics work and it is not for everyone.
Rocio Palacios 5 years ago
Thanks for sharing. I believe is functional if it works for both of you. It would be unfair if you also worked away from home and it was expected that you took care of all of that by yourself. Every family has its own balance, what is important is to have a partner that Is willing to listen AND change habits if the load needs to be shared!
Load More Replies... ProfessionalTimeWaster 5 years ago
Even though I'm a woman, I did not enjoy this post and neither agree with it and some of it cements gender stereotypes, even if thru mocking. I feel it's about time discussion shifts from "how society is unfair to women" to something more useful like "what you can do". Former is giving power to the society they don't have over you and the latter puts the control back in your hands.
K. 5 years ago
Frankly, I’m not sure this article is enjoyable to read, and certainly not the culture that led these women/females to air their grievances. I’m sick of complaining too, but as long as I still see those attitudes and behaviors and subjected to them I will continue to do so. Not just for me, and not just for women. I’m just afraid that people will ask “why should we do that?” Hopefully, it’s just their curiosity and true desire to understand, but I’ve heard/read things that suggest a different, dominating mindset. The “what you can do” answers and suggestions get a lot of pushback as discrimination towards the majority group. Just because I’m allowed to show an ankle and a collarbone and vote in my country does not mean I should be grateful and satisfied with that much. The discussion topics involve each other, and necessary for coherency. One day, the former would just be an introduction to the latter and inspire solutions that reach other marginalized groups.
Load More Replies... Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
I am proud to be a woman. I wear a sundress all summer, it feels like a semi-fitted, knee length, cotton T-shirt. In the winter, I chose more feminine garments, always with jewelry and makeup. BUT, being a woman does not mean I am weak. I am firm, will argue if treated like I am idiot, and always stand up for myself. I was the first woman to hold many jobs. Instead of complaining about the unfairness of gender roles, I silently worked hard, proved I could work as well or better than the men. My feminist friends were shocked I was amoung the first females beach, not pool, life guards where we lived, the first woman bartender elsewhere and more (1970's). Me, the girly girl, was the first one over the cliff in a mountaineering class. Women dismiss me. I returned a broken tent, the woman who helped me, assumed I broke it until she unfolded it. Yes, I have hit the glass ceiling. I am counting on the women who follow me to push it higher like I did. It isn't easy, I failed often, but in the end I made a difference. So can you, like all the women before us.
Squirrelflightisawesome 5 years ago
Also, society always expects us to wear bras, modest clothing, long skirts, dresses, ect. It gets really annoying.
Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
If you prefer not to, find a solution you feel comfortable with that meets social norms of the job. Our world has defined gender roles. We choose how to meet the challenge. I have met successful women who have never worn a suit with a skirt or dress and I doubt they wore a bra. It was never obvious if they did or didn't so it wasn't an issue. If everyone there dresses in a way that you don't like, it is unlikely you would feel comfortable there. In most circumstances, nobody wants to see your boobs or men's penises. Neither should be obvious. Choose your environment and have reasonable expectations. I am thankful I dont have to wear a suit, like men. I don't wear suits, too uncomfortable. A dress with a jacket, sure, but never a suit. Other women didn't like it, but even they admitted I looked as professional as they did. For years I wore a uniform, as expected. Manners and respect work and are often part of success. As far as family, I don't want to argue so I wear what is expected. Annoying, but easier.
Load More Replies... anarkzie 5 years ago
How does being agender impact your life? I'm asking this from a point of curiosity not trying to pick a fight. I saw Sam Smith say that he identifies as gender neutral which Is something I don't understand in a person over a certain age. I get why people raise their kids as gender neutral i.e they don't want society to force certain norms on them but as an adult you simply are who you are. What does it mean for you?
Load More Replies... Karin Jansen 5 years ago
God, this whole thread is awful. Apparently, as I don't feel guilty for working and leaving my kids, I don't cook and am always to bed first, I must not be a woman.
K. 5 years ago
Some people don’t try to make others suffer like them. The things you mentioned were used to shame and guilt females/women. I’m glad you don’t feel that way; it is not a requirement for womanhood.
Load More Replies... RatBerries 5 years ago
I had a classmate. He sucked. Apparently it was okay for him to stare at my body, but not okay for me to look him in the eyes. I hate him
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