People Share 40 Random Pieces Of Advice That Might Help You Out

Domestic abuse survivor here.... never ignore the red flags. Never justify the red flags. Never make excuses for the red flags!!! They'll show up early on and you can thank your wisdom for being strong enough to get out early. It'll only get worse and more difficult to leave until you're broken or dead. Self care isn't just pedicures and food, it's having the respect and love of self enough to not be so easily duped and walking away from toxic. This goes for work and associates as well, not just romantic relationships. Edit... it's not just women either... men get physically and emotionally abused as well

Right. And don't let "he was drunk" be an excuse for his behavior. One and done.

YES!

I wish I'd known this when I was young because I ignored some alarming red flags from my now ex husband while we were dating.

It took me almost ten years to leave. I wish I'd run the first time he scared me. Especially when I asked his mother for advice (mine doed when I was a kid) and she just said to let him have his way.

This is really good advice. Believe me, I know what I'm saying. I did it couple of months ago after an argument with my son, and I felt much better after that.

My mom, dad, or stepmom never apologized to me or ever said "I love you." When my boys were growing up and was at the end of my rope and blew up I had to sit them down and apologize because the guilt was horrible and would have just gotten worse. I also never get off the phone, they never walk out the door, or go to bed, when they are home, without telling them I love them. I also always tell my parents I love them before hanging up or leaving their house.

if you do so you have good chance they'll do the same thing later in life. it's a good exemple to display

This is SO important. My parents, as great as they were at parenting and gave us wonderful childhoods, would never apologize when they were wrong. I've always made it a point to tell my 17 year old that I'm sincerely sorry when I am wrong and we have a very strong, trusting relationship. It's super important to me because his father was abusive to both of us. Prior to getting us both into therapy, my son had a ton of trust issues stemming from his father's emotional and physical abuse compounded by the fact that his father was (and still is) a pathological liar.

My mum refuses, I don't know why and she doesn't tell. I'm an adult too, just a simple sorry is enough.

As always, it depends. Bread has a LOT of wiggle room. Cakes less, but still some. Pastry not much wiggle room at all. You have to know what can be messed with and what can't. But it always annoys me that people mystify baking so much - to the point that many people won't even try it since they think they'll fail. Bread, in particular, is VERY forgiving. You can mess with a bread recipe quite a lot before it will be awful. You do have to know how, though.

baking is science, but recipes work off the assumption of "all else equal" and all else is rarely equal. sometimes you're baking bread and it's very humid out so you need more flour than anticipated. sometimes the apples you used are a little old and dry and you need to add some liquid to your bake. follow the recipe, but pay attention to the surroundings.

If Cooking is art, and baking is science, then candies and chocolates are friggin quantum physics.

I almost always follow a new recipe to the letter & make notes for the next time. It's rarely what I started with.

I’m a machinist by trade, and a terrible cook but am apparently excellent at baking. This is why.

Praise and blame are all the same! Always consider the source

Sometimes it's best not to take criticism from someone you *would* take advice from as well tbh. Wish I'd known this when I was younger. My mother for example, brilliant independent woman, incredible with any practical task you can think of, cooking, building, maintaining the car, did farm work as a kid, knows how to skin a sheep. If I needed advice on *anything* from DIY to wound dressing I would ask her in a heartbeat. Emotional intelligence of a can of baked beans though. Took me a long time to understand that there were certain things out of the mouth of this woman I greatly respected that really just needed to be ignored.

My own saying for years has been "Don't let someone without feet tell you how to tie your shoes"...basically, if it's clear they can't manage their own life, why would you trust them to tell you how to live yours?

I would say: Don't be thrown by unsolicited advice, but give it a thought or two and then move on. It is going to happen and it can be insightful. If it gives you pause - run it by a loved one.

So many take criticism so seriously. I never understood why. I've never cared wtf people think of me

My son draws random things and will then demand I ask him what they are. He will tell me "Say, what is it?" so I ask what is it and then he will tell me in detail. Or he will tell me what to say it is so he can correct me.

Also, admire a specific part of the drawing, it's more genuine than oh so pretty, etc. Ie wow I like how everyone is smiling, they must be happy. Or, a blue sky is just like it is today

My parents avoided praising art because it would feel kind of fake if they said "Good job" every time but they would ask questions, comment on the colors used, say other positive things. They also didn't want to "rate" the art, because that's a whole thing too 😑

One of the first things we learnt in our Literacy units for Early Childhood Education. Like with a lot of things, asking open-ended questions with children is crucial. It not only lets them know they are heard, it leads to more social and language ability. Also, when you make comments on it, don't just say 'It's very good/nice' compliment specific parts like 'I like the colour you used for x' this can also lead to more questions too.

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Same thing with the spouse and family of people with cancer.

Even when you are strong, there's a breaking point.