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TikTok tends to get a reputation of being filled with fun dance videos, cute animal videos, and silly trends, but the app can also be used for learning. There are many creators who teach their viewers about history, social issues, skills like cooking or playing instruments, and even science. One such TikToker, Adorian Deck or “The Facts Guy”, has a video series titled “Psychology Hacks You Need To Know”, and we thought you pandas might be interested in refreshing or expanding your knowledge of basic psychology.

This list won’t teach you as much as a psychology course in a university would, but it might spark your interest in the field or teach you some tips to implement in your everyday life. Keep reading to also gain some insight on the topic from psychologist and professor Dr. Lynne Kennette, and be sure to upvote the fun facts you find most useful or fascinating. Feel free to share any more psychology “hacks” you know in the comments, and then if you’d like to continue your education, you can find another Bored Panda article on the same topic right here.

TikToker Adorian Deck has been sharing fascinating psychology facts that you might want to implement into your life

Image credits: adoriandeck

You can watch the first video in his "Psychology Hacks You Need To Know" series right here

@adoriandeck Try the whispering one on someone 😂 #facts ♬ Violin - Grooving Gecko

#1

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If someone is trying to make you decide something in a hurry, they're probably giving you a bad deal. Walk away.

adoriandeck , Vitolda Klein Report

Fry Me A Liver
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or it's the end of the sales month/quarter/year and they're desperate to make quota. Lowball 'em!

Argle Bargle
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you work in ER. Please keep deciding quickly

Michael Sanders
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I proposed I was looking for an answer pretty quickly.

StrangeOne
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Banks do this when you're signing up for a credit card they suggested for you. Won't even give you the time to read through everything. They just tell you "it's standard legalities". Don't listen. You should understand 100% what you're getting into, and be able to ask more questions. Read and know before you sign with everything.

Sue User
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They tried to do that to me when i signed for buying my house. There was a big sporting event tjat day. I read everything , amd found a mistake that would have cost me hundreds of dollars.

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miss .
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Happened to me like a year ago. I was in London just looking around at shops and stuff, and someone came up to me trying to get me to buy something from their stall. Doubt they were licensed, they were selling some stuff in packets- i think food. Really sketchy stuff with just stick-on labels marking prices. They tried to get me to decide quick but i walked away, lol. It was sketchy as heck. >D

Lsai Aeon
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless Mom wants you to decide what you want for dinner

SAF saf
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, just another way to manipulate people

Hey!
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Today only. You have 15 minutes to decide.

DJR
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boundaries 101: if you need an answer now, the answer is "no".

KellyKix
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This needs to be #1. Always think on it over night before making any major decisions.

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    #2

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    If you're suffering from racing thoughts, use the 333 rule: name three things you see, three things you hear and three parts of your body. This will help center your mind and bring you back to the present.

    adoriandeck , Ümit Bulut Report

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a grounding technique. For those who have trouble try touching a couple things with different textures focusing on the sensation. Or try holding an ice cube in each hand for a moment, maybe the count of 10. Do not do it long because you can hurt your hands on the ice. Also helpful for flashbacks.

    crazy_cat_notAlady
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This trick has also helped me through panic attack onsets and severe anxiety.

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    kf
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THANK YOU to everyone in this thread. so constructive, so supportive, so educational! More and more difficult to find these, and it really makes progress tough. ❤

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When it's at night and I'm trying to sleep the ability to hear 3 sounds is likely not helping.

    Jason
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unsure where I read it but basically you need to trick your mind into moving to abstract and constructing dreams. Think of a word like dog. Then for every letter think of all the words you can. So start with d. Do "desk" then try to imagine a desk in your mind. Walking around it looking at all the parts and sides really envision it. I usually get a few items into the first letter before I'm asleep

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    Julie Bradley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My psychologist gave me this advice (exept she said 5, 4, 3), it really works.

    Lsai Aeon
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Found this a few years ago, seems to help my friends with anxiety and my son who's on the autism spectrum Helpful-63...f43ce4.jpg Helpful-635596ff43ce4.jpg

    Colonel Cornelius Cornwall
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks, man. I suffer from both racing thought and time when I'm talking to somebody and then I zone out, stop thinking and forget what we're talking about so this would help a lot.

    Aisling Raye
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grounding techniques are great. I use a 5 step. 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can touch, 1 minute meditation (or use the 4-7-8 breathing method...in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8...until calm) Find what works specifically for you. I have ridiculously intense PTSD and grounding techniques help A LOT. The other one to do when you're out and trying to not let people notice you're struggling is to touch your thumb to each finger on your hand (thumb to pointer, then middle, then ring, then pinky, then ring, middle, pointer etc). Keeps you present, gives your mind something to do, and it's really hard to notice if you're not looking for it.

    Azure Adams
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is one version. I use 5, 4, 3, 2, 1

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awesome version! There’s a ton of them. Square breathing = in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4 (not sure why it’s called square when that always seemed like 3 sides of a triangle to me!). Also 4 6 8 breathing, in 4, hold 6, out 8, but I could never get to 8, too long for me. Just google deep breathing and you’ll be bombarded with choices!

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    #3

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    If someone is making jokes at your expense, act like you can't hear them and ask them to repeat it a few times. By the time they say it the third or fourth time, nobody's laughing.

    adoriandeck , Helena Lopes Report

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But what if I think it’s funny too? Depends on if it’s playful or malicious.

    Lu Prickett
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you think it's funny then it's not "at your expense".

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    Hugo Farr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A punch to the throat works well too.

    Earl Grey
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As does the more personally engaging and thought provoking “Do you like to chew your food?”

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    Tenacious Squirrel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This applies only if someone is being horrible. You can also ask them to explain the joke. Usually they realise how idiotic they look although sometimes they’ll just ignore you by saying it doesn’t matter (but at least that puts an end to their stupid comments, if they do it again then do the same thing).

    Riley Quinn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a good tactic to use on passive-aggressive people.

    Skeeter
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like this. Also, act like you don't understand what they said and have them explain it to you.

    lauralett50
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is really bad is when you tell someone a joke, & they don't get it. Then you have to explain the joke. That's the worst.

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    Hippopotamuses
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people who do it to me, won’t repeat the joke. I don’t know why, but I like to think they’re scared to.

    kitten levels tokyo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hippos do kill more people each year than any other land mammal…

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    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's also a good idea to laugh along with them and then poke some jabs at them. Things get pretty awkward after.

    Remen Zack
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use this trick all the time and it always works.

    Casey McAlister
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming they would repeat it. They are much more likely to brush you off and continue laughing.

    Sarah Stalder
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did this recently. Someone I worked with misgendered a woman where I work-something like "that's actually a guy". I just played dumb and asked about the person by name, so it was clear she was a friend. Then another person in the conversation mentioned someone else-who I also referred to by name-as she is also a friend. At some point, they finally notice my rainbow backpack and the conversation trailed off. I didn't embarrass anyone, and I hope the conversation was educational. She's a baby boomer and not quite up to date on some social issues.

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    Having a basic understanding of psychology would be useful to every single one of us. It can help us become more empathetic, understand how to work through our personal issues and learn how to more effectively communicate with others. And while Adorian’s videos are great to learn quick tips and fun facts, the field of psychology is incredibly nuanced, so we wanted to gain some insight about “psychology hacks” from an expert. 

    We reached out to psychologist and professor Dr. Lynne Kennette, who shared with us how she feels about “psychology hacks” circulating online. We asked whether she considers these videos to be a positive, as people are sharing interest in psychology, or if she is wary of the trend, as these types of videos could allow for false information to be spread. “On the one hand, it's great to get people interested in psychology using this type of ‘hack’ or ‘quick facts’; maybe it will lead them to taking a course at a local college or university,” she shared.

    #4

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    If you're procrastinating right now, stop telling yourself that you have loads of work to do. Instead, just tell yourself you only have to work for five minutes. You will most likely continue to work even after five minutes.

    adoriandeck , Andrew Neel Report

    Tiffany Louise
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone with depression, this helps a lot. I set a timer and can usually get thro the countdown before I have to take a break.

    Izzy Jeanette
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    mmm I tried that.... was studying for hsc biology.... now im on boredpanda....

    Nadine
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or break your tasks down in parts.

    Riley Quinn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This reminds me of AA. One day at a time. For some of us, time has to be broken down into even smaller segments just to get thru whatever is troubling us, be it procrastination, an addiction, or other circumstances that seem to threaten us.

    Sue User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can do anything for just 10 seconds.

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    Hugo Farr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I felt like procrastinating, but decided to do it later.

    DKS 001
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remind myself that doing something is better than nothing

    will bower
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think BP would appreciate you telling me this 😂😂

    T. Unnamable
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. Once I get started ... the problem is getting started.

    Nannerdog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ayyy you just explained how I wrote a thesis 👌 Tell yourself five minutes and also take The Office breaks! 😉

    Jackie Lulu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's just getting over that hump.

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    #5

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    If you can't get a song out of your head, try to listen to it the whole way through while singing. Your brain is treating the song like an unfinished task in your subconscious.

    adoriandeck , Lee Campbell Report

    Alexia
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not working for me. My brain's like "It's 2 a.m. and you wanna sleep? Let SING the song of our people!!"

    Buren
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But that song never gonna give you up and never gonna let you down

    Sarah Stalder
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks for that. Now it's in my head and I'm required to pass it along to the next unsuspecting victim.

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    Jaekry
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But I have a 'radio' in my head when I wake up...it's really hard to 'change the station "...

    Sarah Stalder
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same...even singing doesn't really help-although I CAN replace a bad song with one I like-usually the last song I heard on the radio.

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    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've tried this. Didn't work for me. It just made the song stick in my head longer.

    Your Neighborhood Alien
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've found that if you play the song really fast or slow or distort it in some way, it can help to get it out of your head

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    SheilaWeila
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can get rid if an ear worm by replacing it with another song. You still have music in your head, but at least you got rid of baby shark.

    KC Lancaster
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What about songs on a loop, like the wicked witch theme or I Dream of Jennie? It just won't stoooooooop!

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    Sarah Stalder
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't believe it's 8:36 am and I've already been Rick-rolled!

    Cee Mor
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sink the ABC song to get a song out of my head, by LMNOP, it's gone (-;

    No Name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sing (mentally) the li-li-li chorus from Simon and Garfunkel's "The Boxer", because that chorus is also how the song ends. Always works for me.

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    #6

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    If you think someone is watching you, fake a yawn and then watch them.

    adoriandeck , Miikka Luotio Report

    Fluffy mommy panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never thought of that, damn that a good one.

    miss .
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Indeed! Might have to try it out, lol.

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    Nenya
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who just yawned reading this?

    Hacknslaashing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as they're not a psychopath this could work somewhat well.

    TheEndIsNigh🇨🇦and🇬🇧in🇺🇲
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha! So many people would think I'm a stalker. I am very yawn susceptible. I don't even have to see or hear it. I literally read the word "yawn" in the OP and started yawning. 😴

    UpQuarkDownQuark
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, you can catch someone yawning out your peripheral vision and yawn in response. Then you have someone glaring at you suspiciously in your peripheral vision. 👀

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    Robert B
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It works. I used to do this to my youngest when I would try to rock him to sleep. I’d yawn, he’d yawn, and then he snuggle down and close his eyes.

    Behind you!
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, you can look at your watch to see the time. A lot of people will subconsciously think the same thing and look at their watch too.

    Alienking06
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand this one. Can someone please explain?

    Woets
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because when you see someone yawn, so will you.

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    pepper 2015
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just realised you can do something embarrassing like blowing your nose or puting finger in ears/nose.

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    But Dr. Kennette also wants to remind viewers that they should still check the facts they hear online. “Anyone can say anything they want on platforms like TikTok, and it isn't necessarily based in science,” she explained. “When psychological scientists publish their research, it is reviewed by other experts to ensure the research was rigorous and that the results/conclusions are valid based on the experimental design.”

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    “Although I don't know this particular TikTok user or his credentials, I know that most of what he has presented is based on some of the principles taught in an introductory psychology course (e.g., what we know about the science of motivation- Daniel Pink has a great book called Drive which speaks to many of these aspects),” Dr. Kennette added. “So, these types of hacks are entertaining, but before making some major changes in your life, make sure to read peer-reviewed scholarly articles on the topic, because with most topics in psychology, there is evidence to support competing theories/advice.”

    #7

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    When someone apologizes for something that you don't feel like was that big of a deal to apologize for, they're probably telling you subconsciously what actually bothers them if it was done to them. If they apologize for interrupting you, they probably really just don't like being interrupted themselves.

    adoriandeck , Christin Hume Report

    Cold Contagious
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's very understandable and good to remind ourselves that may be the case.

    Beth S
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not always the case, the person could have anxiety or could have grown up in a toxic environment. I believe this is more common that people realize.

    Michael Sanders
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People say sorry at the drop of a hat. Many times from being nervous.

    The girl who wore glasses
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then there are those of us who apologize for everything, not because everything bothers us, but because we are apologizing for existing and being in your space.

    Whitefox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conversely, if someone does things to you they may like having it done themselves. If we are in a relationship I will lightly caress you because I crave that touch myself. I figured out that my hubs will do something similar where he will play with my hair, because he likes it done to him.

    Terri Owens
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good insight. I bet y'all have a great relationship. Best of luck to the two of you 👍

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    Ahmadu Suleiman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one of the most important ones on the list

    Cammy Cat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only piece of advice I got from my Father, is that the things that bother us most in others, r often things we do ourselves

    Susan Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like interactions where people just act how they are and no one has a subtext in their head where they're trying to "figure the other person out"

    Mrs S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I it also follows that you will find most annoying those things in others that you dislike about yourself.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a younger sister with whom I no longer speak for that exact reason. She CONSTANTLY interrupted me and/or spoke over me. I finally realized that she was just so narcissistic she couldn't possibly imagine anyone else might have a thought or opinion to share, and HERS were the only ones that counted. I have no regrets at all for discontinuing our relationship. (She's toxic in many other ways as well).

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    #8

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    Plan something fun for every Wednesday that you can look forward to. You'll start looking forward to it on Monday and by the time it's here, you’ll already be halfway through the week and you're that much closer to the weekend.

    adoriandeck , Jessica Delp Report

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe just planning it for Monday night would help too. Just have to get through that rough Monday.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know how people cope with life anticipating just 2 or 3 days out of the week, then gruelling through the rest. It's basically self-sabotaging your contentment and self-punishing yourself, subconsciously blaming and pitting yourself for not being in a better position. If things in your life are making you that miserable you need to make some changes.

    DaveR38
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's your basic capitalism really, we all need to work to survive, whether we like it or not. The older I get the more I feel some sort of universal basic income would be a good solution.

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    Greta Kolding
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The last 3 years before I retired I had one weekly day off and chose it to be Wednesday. Many found that stupid and said they didn't understand why I wouldn't rather have Monday or Friday for a long weekend. They had no idea what they were talking about.

    KC Lancaster
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sushi Wednesdays have worked for us - It's when Sprouts has $5 sushi rolls on sale:)!

    Sue User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Burger King Whopper deals on Wednesday.

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    Mitchell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wishing your life away…..

    Mario Strada
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They call it Stormy Monday, but Tuesday is just as bad.

    Ace
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a sad reflection of a poor quality of life. You should be able to look forward to every day, not just the weekends or any specific event. If this works for Wednesday, why not make it true for Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday as well?

    Sue User
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because life becomes a grind. Get up. Get ready to work. Go to work. It can become boring and monotonous. And you dont have the energy or funds to " spice it up".

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    Charles Wu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But what if I love my job very much, I wish everyday is Monday?

    DaveR38
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a nice position to be in. I love my job (lecturer in Further Education) but still get tired during the week, especially just before holidays. A "Wednesday lift" would sometimes be a good thing :)

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    #9

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    After you've learned something new and you've done it yourself, the fastest and best way to retain that information is to teach somebody else.

    adoriandeck , Scott Graham Report

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true. You remember 90% of what you can teach. It’s something like 10% of what you hear, 20% of what you read, 30% of what you say, 40% of what you write, 50% of watching an example, 60% of doing it yourself, etc. all the way to 90% of what you teach. (I don’t remember the exact order of things or the exact percentages, but that’s the general concept).

    SCP 4666
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, imagining to teach someone also seems to work.

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    Tam StaR
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this often. I'll call my sister and tell her what I learned and I rarely forget it. Helpful for tests. I also pretend I'm giving a speech on the topic if no one is around. Also helps.

    Gabby Ghoul
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use a variation of this technique successfully--I take the lecture transcriptions and, essentially, turn them into a book. Having to do the editing for grammar, punctuation, clarity, and removal of vocal fillers really helps me grasp the content much better than just listening to it would have.

    Jo Slatermill
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In reality usually there wont be another person to teach it too right away. so just imagine a conversation where you explain it to someone.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL I've done this at work and then I'm told I'm teaching things wrong. Can't do nuttin' right.

    DotC
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty good. And it reminds you of things you did but didn’t think was part of it!

    Danish Susanne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am sure this is good advice, but I have found, that if there is nobody you can teach, use what you have learned before you do anything else if possible. That has helped me.

    SlothyK8
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find that writing it down helps, too. I work in IT and as much as documentation is frowned on these days, writing specifications or configuration instructions really goes a long way toward helping my retention. I guess it's kind of the same thing, except I'm "teaching"...no one in particular.

    Mario Strada
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have taught many things in my life. I used to be a Tennis pro, I taught various software to newbies, I was a motorcycle racer and many other things. I find that teaching interferes temporarily with your game in Tennis (playing against lower ranked players will do that) but it forced me to analyze and process things I was doing instinctively, making me a better player or a better operator. I am on a Hellenic and early Judaism scholarly kick and I try to tell my wife what I learn. It helps fix that info in my brain. I am sorry (not sorry) to report that studying the Bible did nothing to my atheism.

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    We were also curious if Dr. Kennette would like to see the average person taking an interest in psychology, even though we can’t all be experts. “Absolutely! One of the things that makes psychology so interesting is that it can be applied to pretty much any aspect of everyday life,” she noted. “For example, the fundamental attribution error shows that we tend to underestimate situational factors when attributing the cause of others' behaviors (but not our own). So when someone cuts you off on the highway, you're more likely to think it's because they're a jerk (internal attribution) rather than because their wife is in labor (situational),” Dr. Kennette explained. “When you cut someone off, it's because you're in a hurry (situational) not because you're a jerk. So being aware of these psychological principles at work in our everyday lives can help us to more accurately evaluate people and situations, and then act in a more appropriate way.”

    #10

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    When someone in a group of people laughs, they tend to look at the person that they like the most.

    adoriandeck , Toa Heftiba Report

    Ranger Kanootsen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, so THATS why no one looks at me!!

    Headless Roach
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can turn this around easily. Say "Look at me. I am the captain now". Awkward stares guaranteed.

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    hot_noodle_soup
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    caution ⚠️ feelings will be hurt.

    the Return of Bruno
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trying to make sense of this, I think it may have to do with seeking validation. In which case, maybe it's less who they like most, and more who they want validation from the most, which understandably could overlap a lot.

    msminnie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have heard this before and I tried to pay attention to what I did in public with others. I found that I look to the person I am most comfortable with, so maybe validation?

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    Mister Gerbik
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think this is entirely true lol

    Michael Sanders
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always tell the best jokes so yeah

    Noname
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please cite sources for this bit of nonsense!

    Happy_Pandalover
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe if i have a crush on that person. Other than that i tend to look at the person in front of me or the person that is currently talking. So this is not true for me, nor did i notice this with friends.

    kumoricat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HEHEHE i know what i am going to do 😈

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    #11

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    Nervousness and excitement have the same body reaction. So if you're nervous for a speech, try to convince yourself that you're actually excited.

    adoriandeck , Nathan Dumlao Report

    Ava B.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This works for me every time. It pumps me up and makes me feel like I have something great to share.

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be terrified of talking in front of other people. In school I wouldn’t ever raise my hand. I’d drop classes in college if they required a presentation. But with my first job I had to facilitate trainings all the time. Simply forcing myself to do it over and over helped me get past this. I now have zero nerves and actually enjoy teaching and presenting. It’s crazy. Not sure my random thoughts are actually connected with this tip. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Kate Fei
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kinda connected to the "fake it till you make it" technique, it totally makes sense.

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    Lou Cam
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feeling like I might faint, throw up or cry really doesn't feel like excitement to me.

    Argle Bargle
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tell myself I feel nervous about this because it matters to me. And I can choose how much it matters

    KnightOwl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always done this. I'm also really good at pretending to be confident when I'm really a nervous wreck. I do amazingly well in job interviews by simply pretending to be confident and talking to the interviewer like we've been friends for years, apparently I project a very friendly, down to earth and confident personality. When In reality I'm very anxious, introverted and full of self doubts. So basically fake it till you make it really does work!

    Nya Crea
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh wow this makes total sense. When people asked me if I was nervous to get on stage my answer was always "no! I'm excited!"

    Bubbles and sparks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes! Had to open a photo exposition once and sang as a guest with a band a few times. Both made me very nervous in my head, but I managed to turn the feeling around and ended up having some of the best times ever ;)

    Luna Crow
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. This is a great hack. It doesn't always work, but I've been experimenting with flipping my anxiety about unfamiliar situations to what new things there are to be excited about

    JinxBox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went through university repeating the mantra "I'm not nervous, I'm just a bit too excited about this".

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    #12

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    Chewing gum can help you when you're nervous because your brain thinks, well, I'm eating, I must not be in danger.

    adoriandeck , Gabriel Dalton Report

    Ranger Kanootsen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's to do with your sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. Your sympathetic nervous system prepares you for fight-or-flight by making changes to your body, one being making you less hungry/inclined to eat. So eating could trigger your parasympathetic nervous system to bring hunger back and reduce fight-or-flight.

    bob van wijk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Really? I stopped smoking and got addicted to nicotin chewing gum. Now I'm getting rid of that and take normal chewing gum instead or a peppermint. Works just as good. Total panic. I forgot my nicotin! I need a peppermint. Where's the peppermint? Take a chewing gum. Calm. My goodness. It works just like a dummy for babies.

    Nannerdog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's so awesome, and congrats on how far you've come from smoking!!!! 🎉👏

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    Tinkerbest
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A gastroenterologist once told me chewing gum is bad for people with IBS and gut issues. I'm not a specialist and don't know the reason why. Thought I would share

    DuchessDegu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because you swallow more air when chewing gum

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    Hey!
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some say chewing gum while driving in bad conditions helps. I tried and it didn't help because I can't do more than driving.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anyone else find gum chewers are sassier, passive aggressive and act like they're know-it-alls, are impatient and seem too chilled for the vibe they're emitting? Idk if that makes sense. I know it sounds generalized, but that's the kind of attitude I come across with people chewing gum. They may not even be like that when they're not gum chewing. Just when they are.

    Cheese and rice, Moony!
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And they always be chewing it so loud tho and they open their mouth so widenits like "SHLACK SHLACK SHLACK SHLACK SHLACK SHLACK"

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    Max M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm that explains why i eat when I'm stressed

    Paulio
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does this work with a pen because if so then yea it makes sense

    RandomHumanBean
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    thats why i chew gum during every math test :) at my school ur not supposed to chew gum. my math teacher does in class tho.

    officerripley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only works if you have a correctly-working digestive track; if you don't, don't even think about putting anything in your mouth.

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    We also asked Dr. Kennette if she had any “quick psychology facts” to share that she thinks everyone should know. “I think one of the areas that isn’t talked about enough is how unreliable our memory is,” she noted. “It is reconstructive, so it’s not really like a camera, but more like Wikipedia, where other people and external information can change it without us being aware of it.” Dr. Kennette also mentioned that there are some great TEDTalks on this topic by Elizabeth Loftus; if you’re interested, you can find one right here

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    #13

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    Whenever you are introducing a new idea to someone, if you lead with the words “this might not be for you,” it naturally engages the person's interest and makes them feel like it probably is for them.

    adoriandeck , LinkedIn Sales Solutions Report

    Bob La Capra
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone says that to me I tell them they are probably right and change the subject to something like "why people think they can manipulate me."

    Headless Roach
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That smells of manipulation, not a fan.

    Danish Susanne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But you always manipulates people when telling them something new, so why not use the best way?

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    Asteríx Viking
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is weird? Its mostly rude to say this in Sweden. Its like saying "hey, you suck at things you do but this exist and maybe you will suck att this as well". Its a very negative thing to say.

    Michael Largey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I hear that, I rejoice and my hand is already mentally on the door handle.

    Chad Becher
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like my ADHDness would be like okay and go do something else.

    Tristan J
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. I'd instantly think 'stop wasting my time'

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    Riley Quinn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This doesn't work for me because way too many aholes have abused this technique to get you to part with your money. Approach me with this line, and I'll agree with you as I'm exiting.

    OmBoyGanesh
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When it’s specifically referring to an idea or concept, specifically with my 8yo, I say, “you may or may not find this interesting” and it motivates him to decide whether or need he wants to hear it. It’s usually with trivial facts connected with something he’s involved in. Rather than suggest doubt to or in him, I’m giving him the choice to decide on his own if he cares to know. Most times he does, but I appreciate his honesty & agency when he says, “that doesn’t really interest me.”

    BrownTabby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me that sounds like a lack of confidence. If you don’t think it’s for me, why would you tell me about it?

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    #14

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    If someone's starting to have a panic attack, start breathing loudly and regularly. The person that is panicking will subconsciously start breathing with you.

    adoriandeck , engin akyurt Report

    JinxBox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This works, I succesfully used this mirroring with many highly autistic students. I'd first copy the anxious geatures and then start relaxing and breathing real deep.

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Different things help different people. Other tips are put one hand on your stomach and one on your chest, try to make your belly go up when you breathe in rather than your chest. Long slow breaths. Standing in front of someone mirroring this is helpful. I’ve also found blowing cold air, like air conditioning or a cool fan in the person’s face can help too.

    Léopoldine Mineo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was raped when I was 14. I used to have panic attacks and my mum would hold me from behind, pressing my belly to force me breathing with her. Did help

    Cold Contagious
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure that it helps with panic attacks but it definitely helps when I'm hyperventilating.

    Aisling Raye
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope nope nope nope nope - if I was panicking and someone started breathing loudly near or at me, I would freak the hell out. I don't think anyone who is overwhelmed needs someone making more noise or adding to the situation.

    kitten levels tokyo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely! Please don’t do weird breathing while I am panicking. Just hand me my alprazolam and go somewhere else for a while.

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    Bubbles and sparks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this with my SO. He has PTSD and sometimes he can't manage his breathing... I'll go to him, ask for a hug and snuggle up real tight, then letting him feel my breathing through his chest and in no time he's breathing calmer again.

    XrAtCaTkiD
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my friend did this the other day. worked on me just fine.

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    #15

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    If you want to make someone uncomfortable, look at their forehead while you're talking to them.

    adoriandeck , Omid Armin Report

    Stardust she/her
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a hard time maintaining eye contact so I start at other parts of the face or behind someone. Had no idea they felt uncomfortable before reading this

    Michael Sanders
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would look at boobs or crotches. I mean if you are the kind of person that actually wants to make someone uncomfortable might as well get a better view than some noggin

    Izzy Jeanette
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    or do the rule of 3. change where you look from their forhead to the left lower side of their face, and then the right lower side of their face.. and repeat! they may end up asking if they have something on their face

    Whitefox
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or, if you are uncomfortable making direct eye contact, looking at their forehead or the space just past their head will give the same effect.

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There’s a difference between making someone uncomfortable by pointing out an awkward truth and just making someone uncomfortable for the hell of it.

    williamszita
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always look at their eyebrows

    Ed Gomaz
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone can look me in the eyes while speaking to me then I can do the same from them.

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    If you're looking to learn even more psychological facts, Dr. Kennette recommends reading a free open source textbook, such as one found on OpenStax, watching some TED Talks, or signing up for a course (often free on platforms such as Coursera). “At least with these sources (TEDTalks, OpenStax, Coursera), you can be confident that the content is from an expert in the field (typically someone with a PhD),” she noted.

    #16

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    If you take an extra moment to look at somebody's eye color when meeting them, you'll be giving the perfect amount of eye contact.

    adoriandeck , JC Gellidon Report

    Greta Kolding
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does anyone really ever notice other people's eye colour?

    Luke Branwen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do. Eyes are probably the most interesting body part for me, and especially if they're as pretty as the ones on the photo.

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    Linden
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Social norms about eye contact vary between cultures and neurotypes.

    PopscotchM
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you from someone with autism :)

    Sharrow
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's actually useful. I'll try that.

    Dylan Movchan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had awkward teenage years syndrome and was an introvert most my life and yet here I am at 30 and things are reversed. One aspect that never changed was I really can't maintain eye contact, whether it's something I don't know or ADD has my mind wandering. I just can't lock eyes to this day.

    Wysteria_Rose
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to do this but feel a lot of people take this as flirting rather than just being a good conversationalist...

    kitten levels tokyo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am pretty good at remembering people’s forehead color.

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    #17

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    Showing the palms of your hands while talking to someone subconsciously communicates that you have nothing to hide and you can be trusted.

    Alexander Grey , adoriandeck Report

    Reba Jane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sod the hiding thing, This person needs some hand cream!

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They could have a skin disorder and have hand cream on them at all times. Or live in a cold, dry environment that evaporates the moisture out of their skin quickly. It could even be using harsh soap all the time. This is what my hands look like at work all day, despite putting on hand lotion throughout the day.

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    Jasia Pucio
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This are the hands that do a lot of hard labor.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please be nice about the picture, everyone. You don't know what skin condition they have. To me, looks like they have hyperlinear lines, flaking, and severe dryness. That can be caused by filaggrin deficiency, ichthyosis, etc. People with these skin conditions already have gone through enough scrutiny and bullying all their life, and are going through mental health issues because of the social alienation for having such conditions.

    Pizzagirl 91
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn't want to diss someone about skin issues, but concern and wanting to help are different things, right? I can't look at my mother's broken thumb skin without suggesting things, just because I'm imagining how that must hurt!!

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    Ell Bee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lots of politicians do this, holding out both hands. It's off putting for me and just seems so fake, because it looks like they are posing like a painting my grandmother had: "Let the children come unto me" Jesus.

    BrownTabby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that’s a new “how can you tell when a politician is trying to seem more trustworthy than they actually are” but I’ll stick with my old faithful “their lips are moving”.

    Laurie Ostergaard-Overbey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so, clenching your hands into fists might not be a great idea?? but, that's how i feel sometimes!!

    Joeshar
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This also works for animals if you want to get closer.

    Šimon Špaček
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even better, showing the back of your hand (just one, not both) and standing tall and slightly leaning away will make the other person feel like there is nothing they can do to get your interest. I used that against a guy who insisted that I should give him my bag and and after some time he just gave up.

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    #18

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    Subtly nodding when someone is talking to you indicates to that person that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and they're going to like you more.

    adoriandeck , Mimi Thian Report

    Stardust she/her
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or you just aren’t paying any attention and you don’t want to come off as rude

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s called minimal encouragers. Nodding, eye contact, leaning towards someone, turning your feet/body towards someone, using brief phrases like “uh-huh” “mmm” “ok” “ tell me more”. All of it indicates you’re listening, you care, and you’re interested. It encourages the person to keep talking.

    Powerful Katrinka
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds as though you might be a therapist. "Minimal encouragers" is a specific skill you are taught while training to be one. It quickly becomes second nature.

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    Cold Contagious
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find myself doing this for most people who are talking to me about something. I have a short attention span and try really hard to stay on task when having a conversation with someone. I don't want them to feel like I don't care, because if I'm talking to them about something, then I do care about them.

    Justme
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Use this in moderation. I had a trainee who constantly interrupted me with “yes, uh huh, okay, yeah”. So much that I felt like I couldn’t get a word in and she certainly wasn’t listening. Completely unable to demonstrate what I just explained. She didn’t last long.

    bv7hearts
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems like it was a symptom of her dysfunction, not that she was using it consciously.

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    Riley Quinn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every sociopath knows this rule.

    Veronica Rabbit
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man, I hate it when people do the nodding thing. I can always tell when they're doing it, but it's hard to tell if it's sincere (a lot of the time, it's not).

    Sami B
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this anytime I'm in an audience and there's a speaker. I try to be quietly encouraging and let them know they're doing well.

    lauralett50
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless they ramble on for 1 1/2 hours about Taco Bell. Yes,this did happen.

    Malte Hagemeister
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the opposite is true. Ever had a stiff listener looking at you without any motion?

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    “Sometimes psychology is perceived as ‘common sense’,” Dr. Kennette added. “Like, why do we need to study this- it's obvious, but many outcomes of research actually go counter to our intuitive sense of what we think will happen,” she explained. “So it's important to study these topics (and also replicate the results of our studies in different populations and different conditions) to ensure they are ‘true’ representations of our human realities.”

    #19

    Psychology-Hacks-Tiktok-Adorian-Deck

    If you need to remember to do something tomorrow, just put something in your room out of place the next day; you'll see this item out of place and it will remind you of what you associated it with.

    adoriandeck , Christopher Jolly Report

    Try Not To Bother Me
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or you could just write yourself a note.

    Izzy Jeanette
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this one works well if you just remember the thing that you have to recall for tomorrow right before you sleep. I've done this and you chuck a pillow across the room, wake the following day and wonder why a pillow is on your floor, and then remember. I just use Alexa to remind me at the time I wake now.

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    Ba-Na-Na
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What if everything in my room is already out of place? Do I …. Put something in place?

    Whitefox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I keep a dry erase marker in my toothbrush holder and simply write myself a note on the mirror.

    TheElderNom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like I'd notice that. Or we'll I might, I can either hyper fixate on such a thing or let it go unnoticed for a year.

    RandomFrog(He/They️‍️)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is one of my greatest ADHD hacks. In the morning there is always a small pile infront of my door. If it stops me from completing my next task (getting ready/going to the bathroom) then I have to do jt

    Erin Kelley
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Ooh as someone with ADHD, is this a good strateg… whoop, no, REVERSE COURSE MAXIMUM WARP”

    Ace
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could only possibly work if you were otherwise completely neat and organised, and honestly if that's the sort of person you are you're not going to have problems remembering to do something anyway. And why not just put a reminder in yous smartphone's calendar in the first place?

    Cathelijne Van
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uhm or put it in your phones calendar with 3 reminders? Or even better, have a morning ritual where you drink coffee, have a good breakfast and look through your to-do list and calendar?

    April Caron
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this. But not just in my room. All over in the places I’ll need to remember the thing I’m trying not to forget. I need to take the food in the fridge to work for the potluck. I put a pot holder in the middle of the kitchen counter. I need to remember to stop for gas. I put something on top of my steering wheel, in front of the control panel. It’s the modern day equivalent of tying a string around your finger.

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    #20

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    If you ask someone to do a small favor, their subconscious mind will register that they like you because they're doing a favor for you.

    adoriandeck , Priscilla Du Preez Report

    Lauren S
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you get someone to agree to a small favor, they’re more likely to agree to a bigger one. It’s called foot in the door. Conversely, if you ask someone for a ridiculously big favor and they reject you (of course) when you ask for the small favor you really wanted they’re more likely to agree. It’s called door in the face.

    Auntie Bear
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they'll resent you forever. It's a 50/50 shot

    Mistiekim
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they’ll hold that favor over your head until you are guilted into doing them a favor.

    Lily Mae Kitty
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to use this method when meeting other women when I was young and pretty. Only if they were the hostile type who tended to be insecure with other women. I'd often ask for their help or advice for something minor. Then they did not see me as a threat but as an equal who also has insecurities. Because I did and I wanted to them to like me, not dislike me.

    Daria
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It only works if you don't abuse this. If you're repeatedly asking for favors, people will eventually start saying no to anything you ask, however small it is.

    No Name
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Works better if that favor is help understanding something or getting a second opinion.

    Kyle Drury
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read somewhere (maybe here) that Ben Franklin used this hack.

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    #21

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    If you can get someone to contribute to the idea, they are more likely to accept it.

    adoriandeck , Dylan Gillis Report

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bonus points if you can get them to think the idea was theirs! Remember the Greek Wedding movie? The man is the head, but the women is the neck? Gender stereotypes aside, if you can be the neck, you’ve got skill. Or, maybe you’re just manipulative. That could be true too!!

    Sharrow
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Taking notes: never contribute to stupid ideas.

    Lisa Currey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is probably the #1 idea all of this list!

    Have you learned anything new about yourself or others from this list? We hope you’re feeling inspired to start doing a bit more research about psychology on your own time. Keep upvoting the tips from Adorian that you plan to implement into your life, and feel free to share any more psychology “hacks” in the comments down below. Then, if you’re looking to learn even more about psychology, you can find a few more Bored Panda articles on similar topics right here, here and here

    #22

    Psychology-Hacks-Tiktok-Adorian-Deck

    If you want somebody to open up to you more, ask them a question and if they only partially answer it, keep eye contact and stay silent. It will pressure them to talk more.

    adoriandeck , Priscilla Du Preez Report

    Celena Camps
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a social worker i use this technique all of the time ..

    Lauren S
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Therapists do too. Very comfortable with silence. Sometimes people need a moment to gather their emotions or thoughts and will go deeper if you give them the chance.

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    eMpTy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that's one way to kill an introvert.

    NHL37
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This would be extremely uncomfortable for people with special needs or sensory issues.

    CrunChewy McSandybutt
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My therapist does this. Sometimes it works, sometimes I stare at his forehead.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes people will just want to mention what they want you to know. If you have to play games, test them and all that, to get someone to open up more you might as well beat on a steel vault door.

    Julia Wolfe
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds aggressive. Why can’t someone answer to the degree they’re comfortable with? This is manipulative.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They say "Silence is Golden" for a reason. Law enforcement officers use this tactic quite often. Given enough silence, many people will confess their crime.

    Tracy Wallick
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IIRC this is a common technique in therapy to get people to talk more

    will bower
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An ex-boss of mine did that. I would stay silent too and we would have silent off

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    #23

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    If you want to be more persuasive, try and lose the words “I think” and “I believe.”

    adoriandeck , Jessica Da Rosa Report

    Lauren S
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, genuinely consider the opposite side of your argument. It can help you prepare to deal with those points to strengthen your argument. PS, don’t do this in a relationship. Don’t try to win the fight with your significant other. Try to find a solution for both of you. Trying to see their side or from their point of view is also helpful in this case, but not to tear their argument apart, but to understand each other. It’s not SO vs SO, it’s you two vs the problem.

    Mario Strada
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, but this assumes that "the other side of an argument" is also a logical approach to the issue. These days those things are getting rarer.

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    Kimberly Alison
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wrong. only jerks don’t take ownership of their own thoughts and feelings.

    BobTDG
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For persuasion, being a jerk is part of the game.

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    CP
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That does the opposite for me. People that don't add qualifiers makes me think they are more full of it.

    No Name
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, we need more acknowledgement of uncertainty, not less. Way too many people out there are regurgitating politicians' opinions as fact when most politicians don't have any business having an opinion about the things they're loudest about and even the scientists studying those issues have to qualify everything they say or risk getting run out of the field for academic dishonesty.

    Sarah
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And add "what if" at the beginning. It gets people engaged with imagining your idea (and adopting it as their own thought) instead of throwing up defenses at someone telling them what to do.

    BrownTabby
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only if you actually know it to be true. If you say something like “the poor are just lazy”, with or without “I think,” I’m going to say “you’re just an idiot”.

    T. Unnamable
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are subtle differences and impressions between phrases such as "I learned", "I read", ""I heard" that give more or less credence to statements.

    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a shame that rhetorical argument and debating skills are no longer taught in US schools. Certainly explains why the country is becoming more and more divisive.

    Hugo Farr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to use "Studies have found that. . . "

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    #24

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    When someone remembers you, they are most likely to think about the first time and the last time that they saw you. So make sure to leave a good last impression as well.

    adoriandeck , Priscilla Du Preez Report

    Lea Panthera
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ....uh, not for me? I just remember the significant parts of my time with them.

    April
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I can't speak for anyone but myself but this just doesn't seem accurate.

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    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This just means you’ll always have to leave a good impression… I’m not a big fan of this tip.

    Luna Crow
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or "Irish goodbye" so the last memory they have was good times spent together, rather than an awkward half assed promise to "keep in touch"

    Danish Susanne
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially when you leave a job. A new emplyer might ask about you later.

    Eline
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    3 years ago

    Ah, s**t. Last month i met someone , a friend of a friend. Good first impression, until i laughed at the wrong time, and drooled after choking on my drink. ( it happened only this time and we are friends now.i swear) Edit: so i'm downvoted because I choke on my drink. Okay.

    #25

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    If there is a mirror behind somewhere where you're ordering, it is less likely that you're going to be rude because nobody wants to see themselves as rude.

    adoriandeck , Tuva Mathilde Løland Report

    Kim Steffen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The reason that back bars had mirrors comes from the wild West days. It's so the bartender can keep an eye on the customers and not get shot in the back.

    A B C the Third
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also it makes the room look bigger and the booze shelves in front better stacked. Both tricks to suggest to patrons that it's a nice and inviting place and they do wanna stay for three to seven more beers.

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    Hippopotamuses
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn’t expect inherently rude people to care less whether there’s a mirror in front of them or not.

    Michael Largey
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would expect rude people to spend more time in front of a mirror than other people.

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    Andy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems like this would only apply to people who naturally don't want to be rude and try not to be. Actually rude people usually think they are perfectly entitled to act they way they do, so would have no issue seeing themselves do it

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah. The real solution, which you see in the companies that are really big on being ethical, is to have firm boundaries with rude customers but also not try to rip your customers off so they don’t have a genuine reason to be angry. Of course most companies these days want to gouge their customers and so they don’t really want to stop customer-on-employee abuse because the purpose of it is to divert customers’ anger to someone who explicitly isn’t allowed to change things.

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    Whitefox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if that's why there used to be big mirrors on the back of bars lol.

    Buren
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But the waiter doesn't want to come to the toilet with me

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's potentially likely a two-way mirror, too, so someone else is watching the madness unfold.

    Lisa H
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then don't be rude to service workers. It's very simple.

    Lauren S
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess good advice if someone is opening a business and decorating it. But I imagine the Karens will still ask for the manager.

    Marla Singer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about just don't be rude because you're not a rude person?

    Libstak
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like using either "it's possible" or "could it be possible." There's no commitment and the other person is free to reflect and say no, not really or yeah that could be why I acted out, just as an example.

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    #26

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    If you whisper to someone, it's likely that they'll whisper back even when they have no reason to keep their voice down.

    adoriandeck , Annie Spratt Report

    DaveR38
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter did that when she was young. I was losing my voice (had a cold), and she matched my "whisper" when we talked :D

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    Lu Prickett
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone whispers to me in that situation I always whisper, "Why are we whispering?"

    Celena Camps
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This worked well when i used to work with aggressive clients. ..

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I work in juvenile corrections. If you stay calm and keep a calm voice it quickly helps them calm down. It’s hard to scream or yell at someone when they aren’t doing it back. Extra points for validating them. Validating their emotions. Identifying and repeating why they are mad. That also quickly de-escalates them. “Wow, you seem really mad about that.” “You didn’t like the way the staff said that. You thought they were being disrespectful. It sucks to feel disrespected.” “I would feel mad too if someone stole my stuff.” They feel heard and understood.

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    Kamara L
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this often actually lmao then the “idk why I’m whispering”

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tends to work with upset kiddos. They'll (usually) calm down so they can hear you. Especially if you mention "ice cream".

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That makes sense. They're probably assuming YOU were whispering for a reason.

    April
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whispering sometimes works with on a kid having a tantrum or loudly crying...they'll often quiet down so they can hear you. It even sometimes works on my dog when she's barking at squirrels outside. 😂

    Veronica Rabbit
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so true! When anyone in my house has a sore throat, we all find ourselves whispering...

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    #27

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    If you're trying to get over a breakup, do not use fictional scenarios. Imagining your person with someone new is only going to make you more angry and sad about something that's not even real.

    adoriandeck , Christian Lue Report

    Cold Contagious
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That seems like it would be so painful for someone to experience, but I could see how a person could let their imagination get the best of them at times.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my ex found a new girlfriend I pitied her knowing how I was treated and that no one changes just because they found someone new.

    Kimberly Alison
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    …Instead, commit small acts of revenge.

    No Name
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would think this would be self evident.

    Polly Hart
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I'm missing an ex-partner after a break up, I list the qualities and attributes that I admire or appreciate in them, then endeavour to cultivate these in myself. It helps me miss them less and like myself more. It also helps me develop positive qualities.

    Luna Crow
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would someone even try that? Distracting yourself with friends, activities, hobbies, next things in general seems way healthier than continuing to fantasize about something that is over

    Michael Sanders
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah after a break up it would be inconceivable they would get with someone new. Great tip!

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    #28

    Psychology-Hacks-Tiktok-Adorian-Deck

    People who are lying normally blink more than usual, hide the palms of their hands, mess with their hair or appearance and use either abnormally long or short sentences.

    adoriandeck , Kelly Sikkema Report

    Sonja
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they're just anxious when they feel watched and scrutinized because they're introverts. You cannot judge people by short interactions, you need to know them and be able to compare how they usually act.

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! My favourite response I’ve ever seen to this was something like “shut up ugly, I’m an abuse survivor and I get anxious because in the past when I displeased someone I got BEATEN UP.”

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    Tinkerbest
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From someone who has CPTSD and anxiety and dry eyes (from allergies) PLEASE do NOT take this as a golden rule. I subconsciously blink a lot to keep eyes moist. I subconsciously fidget with hair or clothing when anxious. And I doubt I have palm in open position as I am always scanning for danger. I have nothing to hide but I subconsciously am weary you might. I work very hard on my mental health. Misinformation about certain behaviors can be harmful

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fellow CPTSD, I hope this “psychologist” suffers every inconvenience possible for the rest of his life.

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    Alexia
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd take this with a grain of salt. People can have such behavior for various other reasons, so don't rush into labelling them as liars. Also, I've seen good liars who didn't show any of these signs

    BrownTabby
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For real. The biggest con artists know how to schmooze.

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    Argle Bargle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's people who care that they're lying. People who don't care will just act normal

    Annabelle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think people overestimate what inference they can draw from demeanor.

    Kamara L
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or have horrible anxiety… you just described an introvert with this one

    Mara Is… Trying
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah, not for me at least. i do use a lot of hand motions, but often over-explain or have no context when i’m talking. i also can’t make eye contact with anyone, and i have anxiety, depression, and perhaps a touch of the ‘tism so yeah

    Forty Seven Pandas
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is protective and self-soothing behaviour. Essentially how someone behaves when they feel nervous or threatened. It could be because they are scared of someone seeing through a lie... or just that something else is making them feel very uncomfortable and unsafe.

    Powerful Katrinka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The FBI did a study about this, and found it to be completely unreliable.

    Pumpkin Spice
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bull. Dry eyes, nervousness, and clammy hands call bull.

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    #29

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    If you walk up to a group of people and they turn their feet towards you, you are welcome. If they have their feet turned away from you, even if their body and head is turned towards you, they are uncomfortable with you approaching them.

    adoriandeck , adrianna geo Report

    mYst17
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *Stares at everyone's feet as I'm approaching* *feet all turn away*

    Ed Gomaz
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wondering what putting googly eyes on my shoes will do to someone that doesn’t like looking people in the eyes.

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    Misty-Dawn Amayi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This observation is actually accurate more often than not, and some of you aren't really thinking it through. How it actually works is that you walk in and give people a chance to respond to your arrival, and guess what? You don't have to look at anyone's feet to know if their feet are pointed away from you. Also, everyone naturally looks down during any kind of conversation, and it only takes a few seconds to see where a person's feet are pointed, which will typically be toward the one person they most want to be talking to anyways. Nothing in human behavior is hard and fast rules. *All* of these are painting with a broad brush, so to assert an absolute where there isn't one being made isn't honest.

    No Name
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude, half the time my friends don't do that, they just make the circle larger.

    Conny Klimas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In some cultures it is a no-o of point your feet at another person (e. G. Japan), that is why they always kneel or sit with their legs bent to the side and the feet pointing back.

    Jan Olsen
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In some cultures turning your feet towards others is seen as incredibly rude

    Fenchurch
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sucks for ballerinas then. Their feet always point sideways.

    JL
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they use those feet to kick you in the nether regions, you may wish to seek out another group of people.

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    #30

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    When someone is touched on their shoulder or their knees, it creates a stronger emotional and physical bond with the person touching.

    adoriandeck , Gita Krishnamurti Report

    Stardust she/her
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just genuinly hate being touched anywhere. If you touch my shoulder you can guarantee that you will not be my favourite person anymore

    DuchessDegu
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same! And if someone touches my knee I'll repay with my elbow in their ribs

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    Kimberly Alison
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men, don’t do this to women. At least not the knee. That’s creepy.

    DaveR38
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was my first thought. Tbh I wouldn't want anyone (man or woman) touching my knee either!

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    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, this is an awful tip. Do not do this with anyone you don’t already love. And even then, stick to the shoulder or arm. The knee is reserved for sexual/romantic connections. And always read the person’s reaction. Not everyone likes to be touched. That said, with those you love, skin to skin contact can produce oxytocin and deepen your feelings for one another. Again, CONSENSUAL!! Always consensual touching.

    Mitchell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Huh? This is encouraging potentially unwanted physical contact. Who is this OP?

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate it. Makes my skin crawl. No touchy.

    Panda Kicki
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or earn the person touching a slap. Esp if you touch the knee, but I dont fancy being touched on my shoulder either unless it is someone I already has a bond with.

    Leslie Donsen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you come anywhere near my knees, you are probably gonna get you hand smacked.

    Anspans
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it's someone I appreciate or love, then it means a lot to me when they touch my shoulder/arm or anywhere, but if I'm uncomfortable or don't know them at all or even barely, no way!

    TheElderNom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Touching my shoulder is fine, but my knee? No thanks!

    Michael Largey
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My new doctor gives me a pat on the shoulder after finishing an office visit with me. I greatly prefer this to what my previous doctor did. She would start the office visit by giving her patient a big hug. Heartwarming until you realized that she'd been rubbing up against sick people all day prior to that hug. She's now the county coroner, so I'm betting she's dropped the hug routine.

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    #31

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    If you buy the first picture at the bar with your friends, you'd be surprised how far you could go by saying I bought the first one.

    adoriandeck , Fred Moon Report

    Panda Kicki
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First picture? What picture?

    Reba Jane
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think they meant pitcher. Otherwise they must go to Disneyland or Universal a lot and buy all the photos from the rides :P

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    Sawdust
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They meant pitcher, but sometimes drinks come in a giraffe.

    kitten levels tokyo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t know if we should take psychological advice from someone who can’t even use the correct word in a simple sentence.

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    #32

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    If you want to create a deeper connection with someone you're interested in, ask them these two questions. What do you think we have in common and what do you like most about me?

    adoriandeck , Korney Violin Report

    Bob La Capra
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't agree that fishing for compliments is a good thing to do

    Lauren S
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I can see that back firing. You’d already have to have a pretty close relationship to ask a question like that.

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    General Anaesthesia
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "So, enough about me, let's talk about you. What do you like most about me?"

    Asteríx Viking
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a big NO-NO in Sweden. That is said to be two out of three question that is rude and is an indication of that you have nothing to talk about. 3. What you have in common, says that you thinking of not seeing this person again. 2. What you like about me could be romantic question, or that you are an "intention seeker". 1. Worst thing is, how about this Weather, that is the worst thing people hate to hear, and its mostly said when there is akward quiet time before. How wierd things are so different on how people work in other countries.

    StrangeOne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL I tried this with my bf. I'm pretty sure he was wondering if I thought he was having second thoughts about the relationship.

    SCP 4666
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What if the answer is both times "Nothing"?

    Michael Sanders
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No way. Asking someone you like “what do you like most about me?” That’s dumb.

    kitten levels tokyo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “If you want to create a deeper connection to someone you’re interested in, try super gluing your hand to their forehead. You will literally be inseparable.”

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