Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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Mind Blowing How Accurate This Is!!!
He's Right
And then you see one finally get convicted for murder on video tape and the conservatives are still screaming about it. The party that back the blue are responsible for three cops death as a direct fall out of the insurrection on January 6.
Yes, I don’t see why there was any question to if he had to go to jail. He literally killed him on video and he want dong anything wrong. He should have went away quicker.
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Apparently in Portland, a cop hit a woman in the head with his baton and got indicted over it. Then the entire rapid response team quit. They didn't quit the police, just the rapid response team. That's all I know about it.
And they say it's just "few bad cops".
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Doesn't apply to all law enforcement but still, it's a powerful comment.
I hate how accurate this is. The past few years on social media have proven just how messed up we are in general. So much change needs to happen , and I'm really afraid it won't
yes. and the worstest is the 'auxilliary' cops...no one ever says s**t about that. auxilliary cops...you might be stopped by an auxilliary cop. you'd never know. same uniform. same...weapons, training, etc...but...not a cop. you can't sue, they don't officially work for anyone.
my ex father in law...and my best friend from high school. auxilliary cops, man. i live twenty miles from a township that has NO cops on the payroll of the township...but they have 300some auxilliary cops, and a tank, and other holy s**t hardware from military sales...dude. 300some auxilliary cops for a township of like...a hundred fifty souls?
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Beware of making such broad statements, such as "all men in blue" are criminals or killers. This is no different than racial profiling in my mind. Neither is acceptable.
We learn as we grow, Jules, you seem to understand, however, times change, and the differences, depend where you live, and politics enter into the area, and I believe most police are honest and want to rid the area of crime, they live there as well !!!
The speed limit in the passing lane is the same as the speed limit in your lane.
All cops are bad, because a few cops are bad... lol. I"m so tired of hearing this.
My father is a retired police officer and my younger brother is on the force. Both have testified against the bad cops. They hate the ones who do crimes.
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Yeah that's what they say but are they trying to proactively correct/retrain/weed out "bad apples"? When something happens are they bringing the hammer down on that person or circling the wagons around them and protecting them? The "good apples" need to prove it with their actions.
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It's not only "few bad cops" when so called "good cops" hide those "few bad cops" wrong doing and cover them from prosecution. If they are so "good cop" why aren't they coming out against those "few bad cops"? It's literally their job. It's because "few bad cops" and "good cops" are one and same. Until those "good cops" start holding those "few bad cops" accountable "good cops" will be complicit in the crimes of "few bad cops". ......... "The ones that died that caused all the riots were no one's heroes and were not helping society." that might be true but it doesn't give cops right to be Judge, Jury and Executioner.
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Hahahahaha Police unions stop them from being punished in a meaningful way.
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Not *literally* legally, no. But in many cases cops can be effectively above the law. It is a large part of why many people have no faith in the police.
Load More Replies...As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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"Millenials Are All Lazy And Entitled!"
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I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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Spent $11.75 Growing Tomatoes This Year. Here's My Whole Harvest!
My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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