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Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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ZombieGirl 4 years ago
My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Raven Sheridan 4 years ago
Technically he only had eleven true friends. The other one was a toxic backstabber who literally sold him out.
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benjamin brisson 4 years ago
A long song or the silence after will be deafening... Bohemian Rhapsody
Chaotic-Pansexual-Gemini 4 years ago
Thank you! It’s the only logical answer and I haven’t seen anyone else say it
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Faith Hurst 4 years ago
You tell me I have 6 minutes to live and I'm not hearing anything after that.
Cybele Spanjaard 4 years ago
';Somewhere Over The Rainbow' by that great Hawaiian singer who passed
Chrissie M. 4 years ago
Israel Kamakawiwo' ole! I would pick the same song!
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Wendy Lam 4 years ago
Oh wait, maybe Not my Funeral by Children of Bodom the vocalist and lead guitarist passed away at the final leg of 2020 very sad
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CultOfBambi 4 years ago
Chopin - Nocturne in C Sharp Minor (No. 20) - and since it's only 4:30 min, I'll spend the remaining 1:30 min screaming/sobbing/laughing maniacally (depending on how the world is ending and whether or not I caused it).
sharron lynn parsons 4 years ago
That would be me, waste the minutes, trying to pick a song, too many favs .,Connor
Maggie Dinzler Shaw 4 years ago
I would want to sing a song and loud. Maybe Can't Live if Livin is Without You.
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๓๏שเє ɭ๏๏ภєץ 4 years ago
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm maybee...... no not that hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm*dies*
JewelLapoole 4 years ago
Songs of Distant Earth by Mike Oldfield, and the music that my brother composes. Also classical music and stuff, buuuut that will all take longer than 6 minutes to listen to, soooo.... idk.
Dark Pearl 4 years ago
At the Speed of Light by DimRain47. It is really good, and just feels so final, fitting for a 'Swan Song', if you will.
Parmeisan 4 years ago
That is not the point of this exercise, obviously we would all rather call our loved ones. :P
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Pernille Dyre 4 years ago
If i should fall behind, Bruce Springsteen, Forever autumn Jeff Wayne/justin hayward....
Andrew Gibb 4 years ago
doctor : you have 4 minutes to live me : play Low by Lenny Kravitz doctor : but it's 4:46 God : it's ok
Jenifer Riggs 4 years ago
"I was born to love you" by Queen or Ozone's "Dragos do din tei" and I'd do my awkward dance.
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River Webb 4 years ago
they are literally permanently embedded into your head, theres no getting rid of them
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Monty Is Fiennes 4 years ago
Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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Deborah B 4 years ago
It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago
So bloody true. The last couple of years has been one hit after the other and we aren't classed as poor. Struggling yes, poor no.
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Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
I am a millennial (vowels are too expensive to rent) ' 'm ' m'll'n''l? (Ma'am you can't afford those apostrophes) mmllnl :(
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Mishte Tine 4 years ago
My single beet was a little bigger, but I planted Aton of veggies - got sick and all it takes is one day of neglect for everything to die in AZ summer temps (I’m new at this). I’m surprised your little tomato turned red so soon! Don’t they stay green in early growth? But what do I know - I get oddball things in my “garden” regularly. Going to try a fall planting this year. Your tomato is adorable. Keep trying!
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N G 4 years ago (edited)
At the risk of repeating myself from the last time this appeared on a BP post - the teachers weren't *lying*. Teachers in the 90s didnt have crystal balls to predict the future. A Nokia 3200 cost over £750 in 1993, which didnt exactly suggest they would be affordable to everyone (and this was a brick phone that didnt even have a calculator function). Knock it off with saying 90s teachers should've foreseen the iPhone.
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What do you think ?
Rosidah Yahya 4 years ago
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
Parmeisan 4 years ago
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
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Vanta Black 4 years ago
Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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Rosidah Yahya 4 years ago
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
Parmeisan 4 years ago
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies... Vanta Black 4 years ago
Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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