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We definitely think that everyone should be in a long-term relationship because they love their partner. However, we’re not naive to think that things like financial stability don’t matter. Money, drive, and ambition are important… but they can’t be the only reasons you tie the knot with somebody. It can lead to a lot of misery down the road. Though in some cases, the story can take an unexpected turn (with a few twists in between).
To see what marrying for money is really like, Bored Panda went digging for gold all over Reddit. And today we’re bringing you a whole host of candid stories where people share what marrying just for money is really like and what it leads to. Check out the stories below and share the list with your single and married friends to see what they think, too.
When you’re done reading, we’d love to hear about your relationships, Pandas. Has money ever come between you and your partner? Would you ever consider marrying someone just for their Scrooge McDuck-sized swimming pool full of money? What’s the love-to-cash ratio that you think is reasonable? You can share your thoughts in the comments.
Bored Panda reached out to financial expert Sam Dogen to have a chat about marrying for money, financial stability, and how to tell if someone might be with you just because you're rich. Sam is the author of 'Buy This, Not That: How to Spend Your Way to Wealth and Freedom' (out July 19) and the founder of the Financial Samurai blog. Read on for the full interview and to learn why marrying your equal is better than marrying rich.
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#1
One of my friends got married to her best friend, who happens to be gay in the military. She gets to live in her hometown in Japan, with free insurance and free place to stay/utilities. He gets about 3-4 grand more a month because of spouse benefits and rent benefits. All she does is household chores, and makes meals for them. I say that their "marriage" is a perfect union. They don't plan on divorcing, and if she ever wants a baby, he's more than willing to donate his sperm to the cause. Both are late 20s.
Nor 3 years ago
This is so ideal, instead of being in a loveless marriage, thye both know where they stand with each other
Troux 3 years ago
It's probably not ideal if either of them meets their true love and wants to start a family with them, but I hope it would work out.
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Nimues Child 3 years ago
In the gay community, she is his "beard". It's a shame we still need those arrangements.
Jose Carlo 3 years ago
Having been stationed in Japan for a LONG time, I knew of things like this and some of them had been together for many, many years!
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
This is more sad then ideal. It may be comfortable for a while but eventually they will both want more.
Awsomemom52 3 years ago
About 20 years ago a gay friend of mine (Paul) married his best friend (Laura). Laura accidentally got pregnant through a one night stand. Her (very wealthy) parents, were very conservative and would probably have abondend her... like their older daughter. After their marriage, Paul got a good job in the family business, which he really liked. Paul and Laura were then (really) happily married for 15 years. After Laura's parents died, they divorced. Both then married their "real" partners and everyone is happy. Including Laura's son, to whom Paul is just "dad"... who happens to be gay.
Kim Lorton 3 years ago
Wow! Young people with good heads on their shoulders! There are mNy kinds of love. And a deep and abiding love for someone, counts in my book. The two people involved are wonderful F**k
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"Financial stability is hugely important when it comes to having a successful long-term relationship. Both partners need to be on the same page financially, which means being open about existing financial issues before entering into a committed relationship. Issues such as how much debt one has, a low credit score, prior judgments, and bankruptcies must all be laid out on the table. It's best not to have financial surprises!" financial expert Sam stressed to Bored Panda that total honesty in this area is vital for the sake of a successful relationship.
"Once you know your respective financial baselines, then you can come up with a financial game plan. Given money is often a top-three reason why relationships fall apart, having financial stability is important," he said. "I'll take it a step further and suggest that if you truly love your partner, you are willing to make them financially independent as well. In other words, make your partner wealthy enough that they can survive just fine on their own."
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#2
My best friend and I joke around all the time that we're going to marry some rich old guys and then marry for love after they [pass away]. We happened to be saying this while on line at Victoria's Secret one day when the woman in front of us turns around and says "I did it, it wasn't worth it."
BarBeeGirl 3 years ago
My ex best friend married for money. She finally left him after showing up at my house for the 5th time with her hair coming out in clumps and nails broken off thanks to another violent fight. Thanks to a prenup she walked away with nothing except for the $50k she stole out of his safe .
tl gmc 3 years ago
Why did she sign a prenup if she was trying to marry for money?
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#3
I come from a family that has done this. My mother is 20 years younger than my father and my father is a very wealthy business man.
To say that most women in this situation marry just for money is a misconception IMO. In my mother's case, she is smart, funny, attractive, and was stuck in a poverty stricken family that gave no options for her to excel in life. My dad believed in her and had the income to open doors that had been closed her whole life. In their 30+ year marriage they have travelled, lost all of their money, opened businesses together, made all of their money back, raised a family and all of their children went to university, are in good marriages/partnerships and went on to our own successes.
Their personalities match and they are really good to each other. IMO it's not so much the wealth that my mom was attracted to, but the ability to provide and generate wealth and freedom. In return, my mom provided a strong home life and support system for my dad to professionally succeed and maintain home ties.
But I do not think my mom would have considered a man 20 years her senior a partner if it wasn't for the ability to provide freedom. After his first failed marriage, I don't think my dad would have considered a woman 20 years his junior if it wasn't for her ability to provide a good home life & support system for him.
Love grows in all ways and marriage is about partnership. If two people find a partnership that works, then it's not for anyone to judge the reasons.
Michelle Carlson 3 years ago
See? This is a great story. I am very quick to judge when a younger woman (or older man) marries someone with such an age disparity, but this is a good lesson for me to understand I don't know the whole story.
Anna Tribe 3 years ago
I met my soulmate at 17. He was my everything even though he was 53. 3 months after my 18th birthday we got married. I loved that man with my whole heart and soul. His daughter who was in her 30s had absolutely no problem with us being together because she could see how happy her dad was. She lent me a dress to get married in and did my hair and makeup and even fixed a photographer. Her dad said he wanted me to get everything after he was gone and I refused. His daughter was there before me and deserved it much more than I did. He passed away less than 3 years later. Diabetes complications. She got everything and I moved into a shared house and from there I managed to get a job and earn enough money to move into my own place. I miss him so much. When I had my first child I named her after his daughter because she was wonderful
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
I sounds like you married for the family as much as the money and though your time was short, it was happy. Did you keep in touch with the daughter?
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donna peluda 3 years ago
That's a great story. I'm not rich but one thing that really bugs me is that both my exes never made any effort to better themselves or the relationship. Disappointing to the point that it made me angry. I know a few couple that work together to achieve joint goals.
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Bored Panda wanted to get Sam's take on how to tell if someone's partner might be with them just because of their money. We also wanted to know how to protect one's wealth from others taking advantage of it.
"If the partner never offers to pay for anything, that is a huge red flag. A truly loving partner would at least offer to pay for a meal, buy a small gift, or spend time doing something nice for you, especially if they don't have a lot of money. However, a partner who is mainly using you for your money will usually never speak up. They'll just have the default expectation that you'll pay for everything," the founder of Financial Samurai explained to us what people should look out for.
"The wealthier partner can protect themselves by first having an open dialogue about their partner's finances. Once the wealthier partner knows what they are dealing with, then they can make a more informed decision about how money will play a role in the relationship. It is really the surprise money issues that throw couples off-balance," he said.
#4
Yes. I grew up as an ex-pat in the middle east, moved away to go to uni, and couldn't really handle uni as a poor student. Meet someone who cares a lot for me although, in the beginning, I was 100% in it for the money. Moved in together, and I actually became very attached to him. He loves me and treats me with great respect, supports my ambitions, and generally takes very good care of me. I wouldn't say I am head over heels in love with him, but in my own way, I love him. Where I had never had any emotional stability before he provides it. I wouldn't think of cheating on him or ending it because frankly, I think this works much better than any other relationship I could have.
He doesn't cheat either.
Currently studying for a doctorate in geology and at the end of it I will be debt-free.
Angela Jester 3 years ago
There are more ways to love than the storybook head over heels "I'd die without them" love.
Shiny1 3 years ago
Yea that's called infatuation. It'll die the first time someone stinks up the bathroom. Prince Charming doesn't get diarrhea
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albernistuff 4sale 3 years ago
I know many who were madly in love, got married, and had bloody, vicious divorces. Marrying for 'Love' is romantic BS. Marry the person who can be a partner.
Mary Jeffries 3 years ago
This sounds very practical. Much like many reasonably happy marriages throughout history.
Trash_Panda 3 years ago
Why? Love and marriage is not one dimensional...this seems to work for them. I can tell you from experience being married to the love of your life and being poor is not always a positive or fulfilling experience either.
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Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
People tend to ignore that "Happily ever after" is the END of the story. Nothing more after that.
RoseAnne Hutchence 3 years ago
"Like" and "respect" are wonderful constants. "Love?" Not so much.
#5
My girlfriend's parents who are very wealthy always talk about giving us their estate, a job, ect. Although before meeting her this would have seemed amazing, now that I found my best friend and soulmate there's nothing I want more than to live with her in a small cabin in the middle of no where.
#6
Dated a trust fund girl, she was alright looking but I was intrigued by the novelty of the money. Lasted 5 months. Got very tired of feeling like I'd be a kept man, and learned something about myself, in that, never date someone for any reason other than the fact that you love them.
Valentina Lattante 3 years ago
what do you mean a MALE gold digger? a gold digger isn't by default a woman!
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Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
If you make yourself a capable person you will never consider being with someone for money.
Chicken Tacos R Better 3 years ago
I feel like if the roles were reversed, this would be down voted to hell and everyone would call her a gold digger.
"For example, if you know your partner is deep in debt and you still choose to team up, then that's fine. Your expectations are set. But if you went into your relationship thinking your partner had a million-dollar investment portfolio but doesn't, then things might turn sour quickly. A strong relationship is based on trust and admiration."
Drawing up a prenuptial agreement can be the way forward for some couples. Especially those that have large financial imbalances. "It's about setting expectations and moving forward. The love chemicals can really make people not think straight for the first 6-12 months in a relationship. Therefore, it's also usually good to wait at least 6-12 months before taking a relationship much more seriously," Sam said not to rush into anything.
"Ideally, I think marrying your equal is better than marrying rich. It's extremely rewarding and more dignifying to build your wealth together as a couple. However, if you can marry someone who you love who is also already rich, then that works too!" Sam said. The expert writes more about love, marriage, and money in one of the chapters of his book, 'Buy This, Not That.'
#7
Married for money to help out a friend's sister. We fell in love in the process. After a while, s**t got sour, and we fell out of love. After a long while, she got her citizenship. 1 year later we get an uncontested divorce. No attorney. We had a pleasant divorce and remain friends to this day. Not bad at all.
Nicole Krenzler 3 years ago
My mom once said having a prenup is assuming your marriage is going to fail. On the other side, it is important to safeguard your assets in case it does happen.
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Zero 3 years ago
Ah, so you're saying you took away her choice and forced her to do things against her will. Got it.
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While I didn't marry for money, I found out he had a s**t ton of it.
I married young and was very stupid. The man I married, I though, was an average guy - not well off, but not struggling. He came from a very sophisticated and educated family, so I knew they weren't idiots, but I didn't realize how much money they had until after I married him.
As the marriage went on, the more money I realized that he had, and the more I realized he was a miser. His entire life his family had the money to spend, but chose to live as close to the bare necessities as normal. Now, I'm not knocking this, as evident by the fact that this money had more money than any other family I knew, and mainly because of the lifestyle that they decided on, but I am knocking how he ended up treating me.
I came into the marriage with nothing, as most 21 year old girls getting married come into a marriage. He, as I found out, had a lot coming into the marriage. Didn't sign a prenup. He was also seven years older. From the day I said "I do" it was an indebtedness. I constantly "owed" him for everything he ever "bought" for me. And he made sure I knew that.
After I realized I had stopped eating because I didn't want to explain why I was spending money, because he checked the bank statements daily, and would comment on "Somebody got breakfast this morning!" or "somebody bought x, y, z" today, I decided the marriage wasn't worth it.
If I wanted to marry for money, I would have stayed in that marriage. His sister and brother just had babies - they got $30k a piece just for the kids from trust funds.
Money is the root of all evil. I avoid it like the plague.
Frostfire 3 years ago
The LOVE of money is the root of all evil, money on it's own is just a piece of paper, it's the value a person puts on it when it becomes something more
Carol Edmonds 3 years ago
True, that. People sometimes place TOO much emphasis on money, instead of values like maturity,a compatible personality type,honesty, health (emotional and mental), and wake up years down the road wondering why they married their spouse without really knowing them all that well.
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Best behave.... 3 years ago
That's financial coercion, and is a criminal offence in teh UK. Despicable, glad you got out.
Jing Yi Xu 3 years ago
You divorced him, right? Just cos he came a so called sophisticated family doesn't mean he can't be abusive, and financial abuse is real. Also he was pretty dumb not to get a prenup, but that's good for you I suppose.
Abner_Mality 3 years ago
Money is fine, people's ways of dealing with it and each other is the issue...
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago (edited)
Money comes and goes. It’s nice to have and be comfortable but it shouldn’t be viewed as the thing to strive for in life. Plus you said you didn’t marry him for money so it seem’s like you should of told him to cut the s**t with the guilt tripping or just gotten a job and spent the money you made. 🤷🏼♀️
#9
I did. I was in the military and took part in a contract marriage. Basically, a friend of mine from back home agreed to go to the justice of the peace and sign the paperwork. she lived in Virginia, and I was stationed in Texas. It equaled out to me getting roughly $900 a month, plus the option to live off base, and a higher allowance for food. She got free medical benefits. when it was time for me to separate from the military, I went to legal aid, filed paperwork, and was divorced 3 months later, for about $61, the cost to file the paperwork where we married. we are still friends to this day. She has like 5 kids and is married.
El Dee 3 years ago
I don't understand why you get higher pay for being married? Is that in the US only?
Levi Owens 3 years ago
The U.S. military pays more to people who have spouses or dependents because they don't have enough housing on bases for said spouses and dependents. They also get paid more for food. The amount of these payments is based on cost of living in the area where they live. Source: U.S. Navy veteran.
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V Martinez 3 years ago
I knew some back in the day who did that. A few got caught. The military member, got busted in rank, and possibly ended up divorced because it was no longer worth it for the civilian spouse. Some of them got paid a few bucks along with the medical insurance. A few were also discharged after being busted. One girl I worked with did it, but she got caught because she slept around. Everyone knew her "husband" lived out of state, and that she had a revolving door to her home. Someone caught a std, went to medical and they asked who passed it. They got her name, knew she was married, and hence commuted adultery. She was done.
Cory Tollman 3 years ago
You can also get in serious trouble for this if your command finds out and believes that you only got married for the benefits.
sara fulmer 3 years ago (edited)
YOU SOB!! I'm can't have Food Stamps AND Medicaid ...you get one or the other, MY FAMILY IS STARVING!!
Tonia Sizemore 3 years ago
So, Do you get more money & benefits in the Armed Services if you're Married??
Melissa Konczal 3 years ago
Yes. It is meant to support your family off base. Bases only have so much housing. They provide Tri-care health and amount for food along with rent . It supports the family of a military member. Those in the military risk their lives for us. They leave their family at home and could die. If people don't see this then they have no respect for those who fight for us.
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Queen Boudicca 3 years ago
Just to let you know, when my husband served, many military personnel w families had to live in HUD housing because the pay was so low . Believe it or not, Clinton was the one who raised salaries significantly enough that many could afford to get out of subsidized housing. The military spends a lot on stuff...not people.
Load More Replies... It’s hard to gauge exactly how many people would actually marry someone else just for riches. However, one survey from a few years back, conducted by Prince & Associates, showed that around two-thirds of people in the United States would marry someone who looks average but whom they liked if they had around 1.5 million dollars in the bank.
Of course, only 1,134 people were polled for this so don’t take this as a totally accurate representation of what Americans think. What’s more, the survey indicated that the respondents actually like the person in question, too. This is more of a ballpark conclusion that the presence of money can make someone seriously consider marriage if there are already sparks flying there either way.
Meanwhile, another survey, conducted by Merrill Edge, states that 56 percent of Americans want their partners to provide financial security more than “head over heels’ love. 44 percent said that they’d choose love over finances. Interestingly enough, it’s only members of Gen Z (those born between 1996 and 2010) who value love more than gold.
One way to protect your wealth from someone who might take advantage of you is to sign a prenuptial agreement. It’s a contract that outlines the couple’s rights and responsibilities with regard to assets and debts, and explains what would happen if divorce or death would occur.
However, just because someone gets a prenup doesn’t automatically mean that they don’t trust their partner.
#10
I married my high school sweetheart a few months after I turned 18 (he was in college by then). His parents were very wealthy business owners and highly respected. Long story short, nothing we ever had was "ours" it was always his regardless if my working paid for it or not. He hardly worked and when my check wouldn't cover our bills, he would call up mommy and daddy instead of working for it himself. Those parents helped fuel a never-ending and still ongoing oxycontin addiction. He tried rehab for 3 days but quit after that. We divorced a few months later. And the icing on the cake....he was cheating the entire time with a mutual friend. They now have a child together but remain unmarried due to her cheating. His parents raise his child and he is still as strung out as ever. The longest, hardest, and most regretful 3 years of my life went to trying to save that a**hole.
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
That’s what happens when you give your child everything. Just sayin. 🤷🏼♀️
JanaK 3 years ago
The problem is not giving your child everything. The roblem is not teaching the kid how to value everything. I'm not rich but my kid has everything she needs and wants (except iPhone). But she knows the cost ot everything, she knows how much we work for everything and so on. If i see (and it happened a fre times) that she doesn't value our labor, she is without stuff.
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Julia French 3 years ago
i don't care how... (rich, good looking, fun, whatever)... they are NEVER MARRY AN ADICT!
#11
This is from the opposing viewpoint. My mother-in-law views me as a bank. I am by no means "wealthy", but I make a very respectable living for my age. I am 26 and work for a very large international real-estate company building hotels around the country. I get treated like a bank for whenever she wants ANYTHING. Typically I won't comply, but nothing makes you feel more worthless than being placated for a bank account.
Brenda White 3 years ago
This is common in some cultures. Please tell her it's not your culture. You show love for family from the heart, not in cash. Good luck
Jane Smith 3 years ago
I'd be tempted to write her a huge check and then make sure it bounced.
Tonia Sizemore 3 years ago
Won't her Son/Your Husband, say anything to her?!?! Or is he to scared of her??
Murphy Caroline 3 years ago
Your own fault for not setting boundaries. Put your foot down. Otherwise it'll only get worse.
#12
I have never married, but I have been living with 3 different men over the last 6 years.
My family fled from what is now Croatia when I was a kid. My family was pretty messed up, when I got an 'offer' to live with one of the more respected gang leaders in my area I left my family and haven't spoken to them again.
Since then I have been sort of moving up the food chain and I am currently living with an middle-aged CEO who spoils me to no end.
I have never been in a loving relationship, and I'm not sure I know what that means, but I know I love my life the way it is now. I do plan for a future when I'm old and ugly, and I have enough set aside to still live a fairly decent life if I'm kicked out today.
Also, I'm not stupid enough to think this will last for ever.
Selina Ali 3 years ago
That seems wise given the circumstances I suppose people have to make the best of their situation.
RP 3 years ago
It also seems like the other halves also new perfectly well what the deal was, so no harm done
Load More Replies... Michelle Carlson 3 years ago
This is a business contract. That's fine. She's smart. Not everyone has the freedom to marry for love.
JanaK 3 years ago
And marriage for love is not a guarantee that everything would be perfect forever. Sometimes you must think with your brain, not with your heart.
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Dusty Richards 3 years ago
You missed where she says "I know I love my life the way it is now," I don't know her better than she knows herself, and according to her she says she loves it this way. It's possible she's in denial or something, but I listen to women and take their word, I don't assume I'm smarter. Generally
Load More Replies... Sarah Levine 3 years ago
If you aren't seeing a therapist, get to one ASAP! You deserve a loving relationship, and it makes sense that you don't currently know what that looks like. A therapist can help you figure things like that out. It will be the best money you ever spend!
“In many cases, it’s based on a lack of trust in the legal system, which usually favors women over men during a divorce. My wife signed a prenup, even though I had no reason to distrust her. We’re still happily together and in love almost 9 years to this day and have two children,” dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon shared with Bored Panda during an earlier interview.
“I went for a prenup because I don’t think a person should ever have the power to threaten another person in a relationship with half of their assets. For example: A wife says to her husband, ‘If you don’t do this/that, I will divorce you and take half your stuff.’ So, in my opinion, a prenup is a legitimate way to help reduce the potential for that kind of manipulation in a marriage,” the expert told us.
“My wife was earning slightly more than me when we first met, but that didn’t change my stance on prenups. For me, a prenup is about getting rid of the potential for manipulation or threats and allowing a relationship to last on love, rather than on nasty legal ramifications,” he said, adding that if a relationship is strong and the couple is honest and committed to one another, a prenup won’t undermine anything.
#13
Not me, but my aunt did. Her husband is a gigantic prick and she knows it, he is the most uptight man you will ever meet you could shove coal up his a*s and it would produce diamonds. He constantly hassles her about her weight (despite the fact that she is in excellent shape) and he does this in front of the family, I can't even imagine what he says in private, last time my parents watched their kids he flipped his s**t because we had let them play angry birds, this was during their summer vacation from school and we volunteered to watch their kids because my aunt was currently going through chemo. I know she hates being with him but she won't leave him because A: his family is loaded and B: they have two young kids and she doesn't want to break up the family
John L 3 years ago
It amazes me how many "stay for the kids", then end up traumatizing those same kids, through bitter fights, pettiness and malice. Believe me, the kids know you are miserable and they are too.
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Inclusion2020 3 years ago
It’s so much better to divorce sooner rather than later. Divorce is hard on older kids (8 years and up). Especially if one party will be nasty and manipulative, which this guy will most likely be.
Trash_Panda 3 years ago
I knew I needed to get divorced when my son was 3, by 4 it was over and he has absolutely no memory of a family unit to mourn. He still has some struggles, but it was nothing compared to other people I know who's parents divorced after the age of 7.
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MyCatsTheRealPanda 3 years ago
Staying together is going to be much worse for those kids.. Trust me. I had parents who stayed Marie's "for the kids". It'll f**k s**t up.
nooneimportant 3 years ago
it hurts the kids more if you stay together in a stagnated marriage
RoseAnne Hutchence 3 years ago
My sister left her bad relationship mostly because she didn't want her kids growing up thinking it was okay to be treated that way, or that all relationships were like that. Divorce isn't always a bad thing.
Theresa Long 3 years ago
Doesn't want to break up the family?? There are other ways for families to "break". My father was an alcoholic, abusive in every way possible (except sexually), and a total prick but a good provider. So she stayed regardless of his treatment of everybody in the household. We all left as soon as we were old enough. All of us kids (we're now in our 50's and 60's) have mental health issues of one kind or another and are very resentful because he made our lives more difficult than they had to be. If you have children, gtfo NOW before you screw them up. If you have no kids and you still stay, then you should consider talking to a mental health expert because something is wrong with you.
Tonia Sizemore 3 years ago
He's a piece of S**T!! Come get me, I'll come kick that Mama's Baby & Daddy's D**k Sucker's A*s, & REALLY ENJOY DOING IT!! LMFAO
#14
I dated someone super-wealthy and yeah, I definitely earned every penny. The dude was an emotional train wreck. I realized I could provide more for myself single and broke in terms of happiness and quality of life than with him.
Poeha 3 years ago
I went on one date with a rich guy once. Didn't know he was rich. He immediately told me. He had brand clothes. He stopped working with 47, cause he had money enough. Gave his ex the house and bought a new one. It was so off putting. I said no sorry, I am more attracted to homeless guys. He was so arrogant and bragging about money.
Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
I'm not homeless but I'm broke and work 3 jobs. What does that do for ya?
Load More Replies... Charles LeValley 3 years ago
When you brag aboutyour money its only a matter of time before your sittig in a bar wiyh no friends and no one ut the drunks wont talk to you .
Melissa Konczal 3 years ago
I had a guy who was really wealthy. He was an a*s and when I told him I was leaving he was pissed. Later he messaged me that I make a good couple with him because we were both good looking people. He even said that I am too pretty to be with my bf of 7 years now.
Lucy 3 years ago
I was in a similar relationship but never asked for anything from him. I loved him not his money, but he was ashamed of me & never wanted his friends & acquaintances meet or see me. Even though I love him I left. He's such an emotionally abusive man & always believed others are below him. I'm quite happy with my simple life with friends & family who actually cares about me.
IDK_Something 3 years ago
How did you discern OP didn't care for him? Or that she required his money to stay (because clearly she didn't, "I realized I could provide more for myself single and broke...")?
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My parents had an arranged marriage. Both my parents are Brahmin but my dad's family is also very wealthy. My mom grew up middle class in the US (grandfather was a college professor, grandmother worked at a bank). My mom married my dad because he was a wealthy doctor from an appropriate family. They've been married for 25 years and have three children. I can't say it's a bad arrangement. Thanks to my dad's money, my mom got to quit her job in programming (that she hated), go back to school, and become a teacher. I don't think my parents are or were ever "in love." However, they've never really fought or been bitter towards one another. Both my parents are really good, reasonable people at the end of the day. The money is just kind of a "perk" in their marriage.
Devz Milady 3 years ago
I know arranged marriages get a lot of WTF but it's not always as bad as it is.. yes forcing kids to marry is not good, but everyone I know who have been in arranged marriages have done it after going to various 'seeings' and couple of getting to know each others before deciding yes or no.. my cousin, a wild free soul who we all expected to marry for love, requested his shocked parents to find him a girl..he is MBA grad, a Senior exec for a MNC and has had many many relationships from his teens.. his reason- 'they have always wanted best for me more than I do for myself, so I'm sure they will find best for me as well..' he met his wife after his 7th meets, had couple of long talks with her and decided on her and is very happy.. I think it also has to do with this concept that we hear about loving what you have than worrying about what you don't, so we are motivated to find love in our spouses..
Kiryn Silverwing 3 years ago
My husband's cousin had an arranged marriage. His dad's coworker had a daughter around the same age. They figured it was a good match and were married within the year. It can be a good way of going into a relationship if you both have the same expectations. A marriage has a lot in common with a business partnership.
Load More Replies... Devz Milady 3 years ago
No, please learn to distinguish between culture and custom and what some people do..
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Abby Harrison 3 years ago
I wonder how an arranged marriage would work, if 1 of the parties was mentally disabled. just something I've wondered abt. cuz my mom has told me in the past "it's a shame, ur not going to give me grandkids" ...yea not my fault, with my autism, I think dating, marriage, sex, ect. All that c**p is gross and foreign to me. Cats are the only children I want, thx.
Devz Milady 3 years ago
My mom's male colleague is partially blind and has difficulty walking.. he finally found a girl from a similar family who also had slight hearing disability through some marriage website.. they have a very cordial relationship and their family helps out..
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My cousin married for future wealth. The pre-engagement agreement was that he would work in IT while she goes to medical school and then she would work and he would take care of the future children. She didn't go to medical school and decided to take an $8.00/hr job at the hospital. They are divorced.
Jing Yi Xu 3 years ago
A famous person once said, marry the person as they are now, not their potential.
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Or marry because you love them not because you want a return on invesment. 🤷🏼♀️
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#17
I'm entirely convinced my father's second marriage was about money/personality. My bio-mom is a great lady, but she isn't organized and is very scatter brained. She's very smart, but she forgets stuff all the time and is hard to live with sometimes. My dad's second wife is wealthy, comes from a wealthy family, and is highly and efficiently organized (like, polar opposite of my bio-mom). Now, money isn't the whole deal, but my dad wanted nothing to do with what he perceives to be the "boring stuff", like paying taxes, bills, accounting, anything related with finances. He wanted someone to "run the house" while he worked. My bio-mom did not perform this task acceptably in his eyes. The offshoot is that my step-mom is able to do so much because she has constant care for her two children (my step-brother/sister). She doesn't have to watch them all the time, and my mom raised their 3 children (me, brother, sister) all while running the household. Of course stuff is going to get lost in the hectic fray of raising 3 kids alone. I love both of my parents, but I think my mom kinda got the raw end of the deal.
Sarah Levine 3 years ago
Sounds like your mom has ADHD. You can have it without being hyperactive - just in a fog, spacey, and unable to organize. Meds can make a big difference!!
Béla Kun 3 years ago (edited)
Seriously? I was thinking I am developing a nice Alzheimer, my brain is in a constant fog, I can forget something in just a few seconds and stuff like that, I was like this in my whole life. Ppl always told me I am smart but I never believed anybody because how could I be smart if I can't remember that I wanted drink a tea 10 seconds ago, I can't even debate because I constantly have to interrupt any conversation partner because if don't I will forget what I wanted to say. Not to mention I have tried ALL the hobbies available, which I got really into for like a few weeks.
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Time Lady Donna 3 years ago
ADHD. I have a colleague like her. Her husband left because he was sick of her messyness.
#18
My mother married because she hated living with her aggressive mother, and was sort of in love with my father. She was a stay-at-home mom, slowly working towards her degree, but now, 22 years later, she's 45 and with barely 8 years of working experience, and she hates her relationship with my dad and hardly loves him anymore. It's a horrible marriage, but she doesn't divorce because she won't have a maid, a brand new car, or basically money to buy every f*****g thing she wants to buy. Personally I believe it's really horrible, and once she said she was going to get a lover to satisfy her emotionally. I was furious, and told her it would be really horrible and she would be basically leeching off my father. It wasn't pretty.
Ninja edit: To answer your questions about affairs and mistreatment, my dad is terribly aggressive. He has hit my mom in the past, and he will sometimes deny her money as means of control, and insult her. My mother just lives with it 'cause she's emotionally and economically dependent.
Selina Ali 3 years ago
This one is really really sad. I hope this person isn’t damaged by this toxic behaviour.
ADumpsterFire 3 years ago
For real. Oh no how dare she leech off the man who *checks notes* physically financially and emotionally abuses her...
Load More Replies... katie trondsen 3 years ago
That's so gross. Besides, she's entitled to half of everything in divorce so she would be just fine top leave him
Cara G 3 years ago
This depends entirely on where the marriage took place and the laws in that jurisdiction. Further, under the laws of said jurisdiction, there may have also been a prenuptial agreement that superceded a 50/50 statutory equitable division of marital assets. She may not have been, and most likely was not, "entitled to half of everything in divorce" given the details here.
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Judy Carmichael 3 years ago
Until the “hitting” edit, I thought this could be read one way if you are a grown child with all the potential of a life reset or two — and another if you are of a certain age and those potentials are closed off. (Hitting, or any other equally abusive behavior, mean “run for your life,” no matter what!) The challenge at a certain point is that a long married couple built their “wealth” TOGETHER, and it turns out splitting it in half at that stage could put both in trouble. The retirement funds you’ve saved for decades together wouldn’t cover healthcare for either in extreme circumstances, at least in the US, if split. Married, you hope at best only one gets sick at a time. Splitting apart your social security payments — even with adjustments in a divorce — won’t cover two even-modest rents. You have a home that will meet future needs, but only if you’re both in it. So you work and work, to figure things out. No parent wants to be a shipwreck on a grown child’s doorstep.
Christian Cartmale 3 years ago
I don't know why so many people use aggressive and abusive interchangeably. Aggressive doesn't always mean abusive, but this story is 100% abusive. Both ways too.
#19
Well, about a month after I got my now ex-wife full custody of her child, I found out she was cheating on me. She didn't give a single f**k. Roughly $20K spent on what she could never afford. I suspect she married me in part for money. At least the divorce part was easy.
#20
Yep.
When I was 21, I met a girl from a very wealthy family. Well, not that wealthy, but wealthy to me, as I had grown up dirt poor, and I had spent the years from 18-21 living by my wits (stealing and scamming).
This girls parents were worth around 6-10 mil, and she was madly, I mean **madly** in love with me. I was a narcissistic druggy. I didn't have anything else to do, so I married her.
I didn't really exactly how estranged from her parents (and their money), she actually was. I kept waiting for the cushy job with dads company, the free house, the big payouts. They didn't come. We got *some* stuff, a couple cars, a few trips to other countries, nice presents, but no big payout. After time, we had a kid, and the kid was spoiled rotten. I realized that even though I would never get my big payday, my child would never have to suffer and struggle the way I did when I was little.
Eventually, I came to love her, for who she was. This had more to do with me getting my s**t together than anything else. It's been more than 10 years.
It hasn't always been easy, but when I've wanted to leave, the thought that just another 5 or 10 years, and we will have enough money to travel and never work again, keeps me hanging on. I've definitely talked out things that I would have just said 'f**k it' if I hadn't thought "I've put up with her s**t this long, theres no way I'm leaving before I get paid"
The way I see it, most people are going to work a job they hate for 50 years, to get a little payout one day, I can get more by just staying married than I could ever get working, and it's not gonna take 50 years.
Inclusion2020 3 years ago
She must’ve put up with a lot too if you were still an addict or really into drugs when you got married? And also, what an awful and messed up way of looking at your wife and your marriage. She deserves better.
Blackheart 3 years ago (edited)
Your wife and your children deserve better. You did not outgrow your narcissism.
blahd zhahd 3 years ago
Congrats on being a 1st ballot hall of fame piece of s**t OP. Also, you didn't get your s**t together, you may have gotten off drugs (assume that's what he meant), but you got a long way to go before your a decent person.
Cara G 3 years ago
Wait...WAIT...you describe your wife as being "madly in love" with you, and although you reluctantly say that you eventually love her back, you're also admitting to your own substance abuse and narcissistic traits, and then claiming to have "put up with HER sh!t"???? (emphasis mine) All before dropping the final detail of...you're just waiting for the terms of your prenup to expire so you can "get paid" (your words). I just....the mental gymnastics required to victimize oneself in this situation is positively mystifying. Impressive almost! Divorce your wife and f@ck off in the farthest direction. Then keep f#cking farther off until we don't have to see you anymore.
El Dee 3 years ago
Another story that isn't very nice. His ambition in life is to wait for his in-laws deaths..
Poeha 3 years ago
And then they leave everything for the kid or stray cats.
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#21
My cousin married a Mexican girl that needed citizenship in the US. She got her citizenship, divorced him, and took half his money.
Hermien Greeff 3 years ago
Surely if you are doing a green card marriage, you make sure upfront that the prenup covers all. Logic!
Nathan Pogorzala 3 years ago
You don't get a green card simply by marriage anymore. It still takes upwards of 2 years with the correct documents, interviews and sponsors. Marriage doesn't give you anything in the eyes of immigration. Source: my wife and I.
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#22
My sister married for money. She had a big house, expensive cars, unlimited spending limit etc .. She was happy cause she got everything she wanted. We grew up poor and she worked hard for years before she met Sam. Well she didn't love him and she cheated on him with the man she loved. She left her glamours lifestyle to live in a one bedroom apartment. She now works in the meat deli.
Do what you want but set up a bank account and some money for a rainy day. You may end up like my sister. Or you may grow to love this man your with in time.
JanaK 3 years ago
So what, she married for money, then cheated and when she chose to leave her husband but without his money, she become the victim?
Anna 3 years ago
Yeah I don't get that, she cheated how is she the victim? What I mean is that what was the point of cheating? If there were marriage problems or abuse just divorce and start over.
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Nikkie Pirog 3 years ago
Maybe her sister left the wealthy man to be with the man she actually loved. So, she ended up in a small apartment with him and a mediocre job but, she's truly happy now? ..Or maybe.. I just made that up. 😆 Sorry that story seemed incomplete, it needed a moral. The moral of the story is - marry for love, not money, kids. 👍
#23
I am currently dating someone who I am not as fond of as I should be considering how serious we are.. but it's hard to think past the money.
Her immediate family has approximately 100 million+ in the bank, the largest and most dominant business in their respective market and she loves me beyond control.
Her driveway of Ferrari's and Bentley's and knowing that I could be handed a 6 figure job any time I want one if I'm willing to commit is troubling to my mind and my soul but I cannot get past the thoughts of "what if" .....
Best behave.... 3 years ago
Dude, reevaluate. You will end up with a life full of regrets and might-have-beens
Lady Goldberry 3 years ago
What a POS. Finish with her and let her have a chance with someone who loves her for her.
Bonniebluebutler 3 years ago
You deserve every ounce of heartache and regret that are coming to you.
Krista 3 years ago
1. How does he know how much they have in the bank? Obscenely wealthy people don't park their millions into bank accounts (earning 5% interest, at the most). And if they decided against investing their money and earning more money, it's not deposited in a single account at one bank. So, even if he found a bank statement, he wouldn't see 100+ million dollars in an account. 2. No one is giving a great job to a guy who uses apostrophes incorrectly, writes run-on sentences, and says things like "6 figure job", whatever the hell that is. (I'm aware it's meant to be a job with a 6-figure salary) 3. Dude, they know you're only in it for the money. The girlfriend may be blind to your hard-on for her family's money, but the rest of them are aware. It's why you haven't been offered "a 6-figure job", any of the "Ferrari's and Bentley's", or pushed hard to marry her.
Avid Reader 3 years ago
He probably fails to understand that stock holdings or a business valued at $100M+ doesn't necessarily mean that much in the bank. Many wealthy people have paper wealth. Unless they sell their business, they are possibly borrowing significantly against their holdings for their lifestyle. I've nothing against that. They're hardworking and running a business that's providing work for many people. OP is dreaming of inheriting by a$$ociation.
Load More Replies... RoseAnne Hutchence 3 years ago
Must be tough trying to think past the money and focus on the value of the relationship in and of itself. Can the two of you get away for three - six months (or longer), just the two of you? Set up house somewhere, live off what you earn and see how that works?
Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago
No one is giving you a 6 figure job when you think you need pluralize something when trying show more than one. Sheesh.
#24
I dated a trust fund girl who cheated on me repeatedly. I think in hindsight I stayed with her for the thought of money. It was not worth it.
katie trondsen 3 years ago
To me that would be the most painful betrayal (cheating) I don't know how anyone could tolerate it
#25
I have two distant cousins. Family gatherings were the only time I would see them. When they were in their late teens and early twenties I would hear them talk about how their goal in life is to marry a rich guy and get pregnant. They were very vocal about this. Everyone in our families knew. They weren't uneducated either. Both of them were in college and finished (can't remember specifics). They were also fairly attractive. Not so much in the face. I would rate their face a 6-7, but their bodies were 10's. They were tall and looked like models.
The younger one got married first. She was 23. The guy she married was a genuinely nice guy. Very successful but not private jet or helicopter successful. They lived in a very nice place in the city and drove $80k+ cars. Months after they got married, she is pregnant. Just like she planned. A few years go by, and, surprise surprise, they are getting a divorce. Why? Because the economy tanked, and his business failed. The kicker is that they still had millions of dollars AFTER the market tanked in assets and investments. Apparently, this wasn't enough for her. She now collects alimony. There are enough stories about this one to fill a book.
The older one got married a few years ago. She was the uglier of the two but still very attractive. She, imo, was also the smarter of the two. While still a gold digger, she was more about love. She had boyfriends she fell in love with but ended the relationships because they weren't rich enough. One of them was a small business owner whose business took off shortly after, and I remember her being depressed about it. Pathetic. She ended up marrying a very successful guy, and, surprise surprise, ended up pregnant months after. They are still together, and I give their relationship a decent chance of lasting only because she is more loving. Her sister is cold-hearted, and an all-around b***h.
Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
For me. I have a face that looks like a 9. Then they see it closer in chubby mode and realize it's more like a 6 but since they thought I might be a 9 originally I'm set at a 4. Luckily I'm tall so it puts me at 4.5.
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Lol'owl 3 years ago
What I don't understand is how she is ugly but still very attractive 🙄 maybe your idea of what beautiful is is flawed
Krista 3 years ago
Poor wording (in so many ways). What he means is that out of the two sisters, she isn't as attractive as her sister. However, compared to other women she is still more attractive than many of them.
Load More Replies... Judy Carmichael 3 years ago
These body- and face- ratings are disgusting and add nothing, not one thing, to the tale. Malignant narcissists are magicians at bewitching anyone they want, for whatever they want, no matter what they look like, no body-part-specific ratings necessary. (Credit to them where it is due, in terms of happily being assholes.) Conversely, so much else could attract anyone rich or poor, with bad intent or good, having nothing to do with a face/body rating — wit, intelligence, charm, shared interests, whatever. Your own opinion of what a rich guy wants is kindergarten-level. Your case is very weak, with the ratings based on looks only.
Poeha 3 years ago
And you didn't bother to warn the guy? Not that that always helps. Knew a guy who went to a dating site. Girl was not interested at all, until he mentioned he had his own company and was rich. Ooh interesting! We warned him, but he didn't care. He just bought her, cause she looked good. They're now divorced, after they got kids.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Doesn't sound like OP really cared about the cousins or anyone else so doubt he thought to warn them.
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#26
A friend of mine got married in the military to double his pay. He thought to ask a girl who was an ex but was who was also his seemingly toned-down stalker. She wasn't toned-down at all. The money outweighed the thought I guess. It went horribly bad. It's been about four years now and she's creepily sending him mail from her base and constantly, negatively harassing him even though they both agreed it was for the dough. She refuses to sign divorce papers so it's making his life incredibly difficult to try and separate.
Though, he probably should have thought before marrying his stalker. In retrospect, he said, it wasn't awfully worth it.
KindaSketchy 3 years ago
Who would have thought marrying your stalker wouldn't end well *rolleyes*
MiriPanda 3 years ago
He should file for divorce, it doesn't need 2 people for a divorce anymore. It does take longer though.
Avid Reader 3 years ago
I wonder if he would be forced to pay the military back for fraud, as the original intent was to game the system?
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#27
We got engaged in fall of 2010. I worked FT at the college she went to. We found out that the college covers all tuition for immediate family that's not covered by FAFSA. So we went to the court and got married, with full plans to have an actual ceremony in July 2012. In early September 2011, she confessed she had been having doubts about us for a long time, and moved out shortly after. After 7 months of separation, we're now getting divorced. So not exactly strictly for money, but if it weren't for the financial benefits, we wouldn't have gotten married until this summer.
#28
My good friend got fake gay married to a Danish guy for the health benefits... not a bad idea!
Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
20 dollars is 20 dollars. Or health insurance is health insurance. Wait. Don't most EU countries already have health care?!
Kinga Paździorko 3 years ago
Every EU country solves the health insurance problem differently. It is common for e.g. freelancers, artist, not to have a source of insurance. They can be then enrolled to the system under the spouse's insurance plan. In Poland it is free od charge for spouse and kids.
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Totally different? My sister sucked up to my Dad, because he had money. I refused to play along. He is kinda awful, underneath. King Lear much? He said he'd send us both to private school, we just had to say we loved him. My Dad got a lump sum retirement, he sank most of it in AOL. I hope my sister her enjoys having him as a friend now!
Marie Beland 3 years ago
Not all parents are loving back. They use their means to control their children but don’t actually care as much as they say. My mom tried to use her future inheritance to control me. She was terrible to me, even when I’d do everything she asked she still wasn’t happy and would try to physically assault me. It got so bad I stopped talking to her. Some parents just aren’t loving.
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Perfumista Perfumista 3 years ago
America Online - what everyone used before gmail. Google bought 5% for 1billion to keep microsoft from doing so. They now refer to the investment as being "impaired." The value has seriously declined.
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#30
My dad's third wife and kinda my mom married for the money. It was all about money. Everything was about money and looks. That’s all anyone talked about. Now my dad's younger ex-third wife lives with her vapid emotionally messed up daughter who supports her despite having gotten everything when my dad [passed away]. She went deeply into debt expecting more. What a waste of a family. She started dating my dad like ten years before he left my mom. She blames my dad like he was some controlling monster but she was a hot 19-year-old. Then she got rich in real estate. She has zero excuses for the train wreck her life has become. Despite everything, my mom went on to kick ass all by herself. But my mom was also the classic angry first wife despite being the hot second wife. So there’s that. As someone who married a poor man and now supports myself and raises kids mostly alone, I want to wring all of their necks for the stupid s**t they freak out over and make important. I wouldn’t choose that life again in a million years. It’s poor misery. Back biting. Catty. Depressed aimless kids. Petty drama.
Aussie panda 3 years ago
Very confusing to follow which wife was her mother and which wife he is with now.
Lorena Hamilton 3 years ago
2nd was his mom. 3rd was the last one, father is deceased.
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Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
This person is a woman. I love how if it doesn't go directly with your view of how women should be, it's some toxic male. And at 19 you should be able to make your own choices. I know I did.
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#31
My spoiled rich friend's mother comes to mind. She spends 6 months of the year living elsewhere in the state in a beach house (apparently she doesn't care to be around her husband all year long).
When my friend was growing up, her mother was a stay-at-home with two kids, a nanny, and a housekeeper (who also prepared most meals). She didn't have to lift a finger if she didn't feel like it. She had a VIP parking spot in front of Nordstroms from having dropped so much $$ there and golfed all the time. It seemed like she loved her life.
Aussie panda 3 years ago
Except that she has to run away from her husband for half the year. We never really know what’s going on behind closed doors. My experience is that these people are miserable Karens who yell at service people out of frustration and discontentment.
#32
**TL;DR Marrying for money turned my grandmother from a fun but occasionally snobby woman you wouldn't mind being around into a shrewish harpy that her grandchildren loathed to spend any time with. She's getting better now that the step-grandfather's dead.**
My grandmother married for money after my grandfather [passed away]. She grew up in the Great Depression and was afraid after my grandfather [passed away] that she would become poor again. So she saw my step-grandfather as her savior from that fate and married him, despite my father's objections. My step-grandfather made my grandmother miserable and she became depressed. Her depression turned into shrewish harping at everyone, especially her family. So I grew up with a shrewish grandmother I loathed to be around for any length of time and who barely spent any time with her children and grandchildren. 3-4 years ago my step-grandfather [passed away]. My grandmother has been reverting back to the person my father grew up with, who is actually fun to be around, but I know that I and my siblings are still leery about spending time with her because we have such vivid memories of the shrewish harpy she was when we were growing up.
Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
Like how old is this persons grandma that they grew up in the great depression? People realize it was in the 30's right? So your "growing up in it" puts you in the 90 category minimally. Not saying 90 year old's can't be mean though. We've all know how Mr Burns is.
I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 3 years ago
The post is almost 10 years old. So it's make sense
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Me and my wife are going through a divorce right now, she's having an affair, not going to lie her dad has a 1,000,000 life insurance that one day her and her sister will split. So that was always in the back of mind as my own insurance policy one day.
Cherreka Wirth 3 years ago
If it's helps, 1 million dollars isn't that much money anymore. And 500,000 (what she will get after the split) really isn't that much. Even before the price of EVERYTHING skyrocketed this year 1 million dollars could barely buy you a decent house.
Rhyme Like A Lime 3 years ago
Yeah, A million really isn't to terribly much anymore, with two bed houses going for 350K or higher maybe you want a different plan to get money
katie trondsen 3 years ago
That's really disgusting. You clearly didn't care about her and she knew it, hence the affair, can you really blame her?
I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 3 years ago
You don't even know them. Way to justified cheating 🤦🏽♀️
Load More Replies... #34
Not me, but I have one or two friends who made this choice.
One is unemployed and depressed, but indeed rich by way of her husband's money-making. She is also on the asexual spectrum, so I feel it helped her choose money over passion. She and her husband are good enough friends, but many of us feel he acts like he does not respect her even though she would disagree.
The other got divorced and is now a single mom of two special needs children. Their marriage was tumultuous and he cheated a lot. However, she's very financially well-appointed, both due to a good divorce settlement and intergenerational wealth of her own.
#35
Sort of. I married a friend of mine. She got a tax write-off and I got medical benefits. We've been married 8 years. One of the witnesses was the girlfriend I had at the time and she started going out with her current boyfriend that day. I'm riding an old motorcycle round the world and can't afford medical benefits on my own. I have epilepsy which puts the cost way over my head. It's way cheaper tax-wise to be married in the US.
#36
Sort of, my mother in law owns a shopping center (land and buildings) worth around 13 to 15 million. I don't think I married her because of this, but it is nice to know it will be there down the road. We've been married for 12 years now and love each other very much, live on the lake, have horses. (btw--mother in law didn't pay for any of these things, we have done it all ourselves)
#37
A friend of mine (girl) just married another friend of mine because he was wealthy. Within less than 6 months she was hooking up with random dudes and giving beejs in cars parked outside the bar. Dude is totally torn up. I think they're getting divorced soon.
#38
I did that 30 years ago for $3000. Now, she doesn't work. Gave me two daughters. No sex for the past 10 years. And I provide the kids and her shelter, food and safety. I guess it is a good deal for her.
katie trondsen 3 years ago
there would be good reason for her not wanting to have sex with you. Try telling the whole truth next time
#39
Throwaway ahoy!
I didn't marry persay for money, but the the fact that he was filthy rich made my parents and myself more forgiving when he cheated on me. We're still happily married.
Berdarien Brown 3 years ago
Boneapple tea. . I do love the "happily" wut?
Load More Replies... Jane Smith 3 years ago
Cheats once, it will happen again. Good he has millions, just in case you get an STD or ten so you can afford the cures.
#40
Years ago, when I was a younger lad my best friend asked me to be his best man. Of course I will! Secretly I loathed the idea of him getting married to the self absorbed harpy Being the good friend I am though, I drove cross country and attended. After much debauchery and hilarity during the bachelor party, the morning of the wedding arrived. Hung over and grinning from ear to ear I show up to the Chapel with the other participants of the wedding. As we stood there waiting for the bride to get her s**t together after learning about what happened the night before, the maid of honor confessed she was in the room when the lovely bride to be heard what my friend as going earn at his new job. Supposedly her mom said something similar to "keep this one, you will never have to work again!" It's ok though, her Aunt showed me what a Milf can really do at the reception. (some details have been changed to protect...me)
KindaSketchy 3 years ago
Pretending to tell you a story about marriage/money so I can brag that I had sex with the bride's aunt.
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GirlFriday 3 years ago
A friend of mine entered a contract marriage and it worked out well for her. The guy was a union worker, recently divorced, and about to retire. The union contract he was going to retire under stated that either person he was married to or most recently married to at the time of his retirement got his pension upon his death. His pension was worth a couple of million, plus he had savings and property (which he made a great deal of money on), and he hated his ex wife. He and my friend were neighbors and they got on reasonable well so they got married, he retired, and passed away a few later (a total of five years married). He left her everything. Their agreement was that she would see to it that his children each got a sizable sum of money, which they would not have gotten if the pension would have gone to his ex, and she could keep the rest. When it was all said and done, she walked away with almost a million dollars and his children (both adults) got over two million each.
Fiona Parky 3 years ago
I married for love. Unfortunately It’s not working out. I finally woke up when I realised that my husband never said anything positive about me. It really didn’t matter what the situation was, he felt better if he belittled me. I’m not here to make him feel better by feeling superior to me. I wouldn’t have minded as much but his family is a huge mess and he got dumped on by a few of them. His childhood was terrible. I understood that and tried to make him feel good about himself. I would make a real fuss about his birthday, he forgot mine. I’d be very supportive of everything he did, he’d put me down. My family completely welcomed him and treated him as “one of us”. He avoided being around my family and tried to isolate me from them. His latest “Bonne mot” is claiming that taking my aunt to her medical appointments is ignoring him. I’m afraid I’ve had enough. I can only support him so much. 25 yrs down the drain and my confidence in tatters but I have my family, however much he tried.
Lady Goldberry 3 years ago
Fiona, you only have one life, this isn't a dress rehearsal. The problem was never you, so pick your feet up and leave him to it. Good luck x
Load More Replies... Blackheart 3 years ago
I married my best friend. We have built a life together. At one point, he made way more money than me, and at another, me more than him. But we love each other and I know we have each other's back in all situations. We all age, we all die. Life is too short to spend with someone you do not love or trust.
Bart 3 years ago
I married my wife when we were both poor as f**k. I mean living in a shitty 1 bedroom rental and driving a beat-up 10y old Peugeot. Somehow she got the best out of me and convinced me to start my own business in 2020 when I was laid off for Covid. Just signed for a second property 2 weeks ago... 10/10 would marry this woman again...
Béla Kun 3 years ago
Holy f, ppl have really different understanding of "poor", with living in a rental and having any car, that would be rich for me.
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Lytha Hawkeye 3 years ago
Married my high school sweetheart. We had it rough for a long time. I got pregnant while he was still in Uni, but I had a great job with a large bank, so we figured we'd be ok. Pregnancy was a mess, the birth even more so. I couldn't work, we were living off borrowed money and food stamps while going further and further into debt, just to have a roof over our heads. It's many years later, we've been together for 18+ years. We've bought our first house, paid off most of our other debt. Have 2 amazing boys, he makes over 100k a year, so I'm a SAHM focusing on my artistic pursuits (at his urging). We've come along way and through it all we've only fallen in love with each other more.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My BIL was working in the film industry when he married his first wife. He'd work on the set of Evan Almighty and a few A&E made for TV movies. His wife at the time thought he would be a well paid Hollywood big shot at some point and time. But he had two things working against him...his fear of flying and the unreliability of the film industry. Another problem was that his wife couldn't be trusted because, while away on set, she was having stripper parties in the house with two small children in the next room. When he left filming to work as a roofer, she gave up on being rich, had an affair and divorced. She had said that you marry the first husband for the money and the second husband for love. Well that guy she had the affair with dumped her and now she's living alone working as a manager for a grocery store. Guess her plan didn't work so well. And my BIL...he remarried, bought a house and a new car and is financially secure. Oopsie....
The IRS 3 years ago (edited)
My best friend would never admit it, but he married for money. His relationship was semi-serious until he visited her parents with her. They had a £25m house in central London with half a dozen staff (that was in 2010 or so, now it's likely worth 40m!) They had a house in the country too, a place in central Paris, a ski chalet in Switzerland and an absolutely massive ranch in Argentina. She is 9 years older than him. They have every material thing you could ask for, but when I see them, there's zero love there from either side. Neither work, but both are always doing "projects" which basically keep them away from each other all day.
B-b-bird 3 years ago (edited)
Was dating a guy who came from rich family, but as well was wealthy himself (smart, had a knack for business and was in IT). Seen him as perfect guy, I was in love indeed. I guess qualities like cleverness, doing small cute things for me, this unexplainable sense of “home” by his side, that’s what swayed me the most. Then after 1 year he suddenly changed over few days, became cold and said out of blue… I cannot marry you (even though we were not discussing it ever, I considered myself still too young To get married). He was simply too afraid of his parents reaction. I did have quite good salary, working respectable job, but I guess I wasn’t enough “high rank” for his family. I packed and left, it was the worst “broken heart syndrome” I’ve ever had, didn't even thought about humiliation, all I just felt was a horrible love withdrawal for like 2yrs. After 4 years dude contacts me, says he made a mistake…. a mistake. I got over him so I declined to reconcile.
Marie Beland 3 years ago
I realized my first husband married me for money. He assumed that because my grandma owned a house she was rich and I’d inherit. I realized about a year in he had been lying and scheming our entire relationship. I dodged a bullet. He thought he could sit on his tush while I worked 2 jobs and had the nerve to whine to my gram we were broke. Years after I ran into a nephew of his who told me he was in jail with his younger brother for murder. I never imagined he’d end up like that. I’m just glad I ended it when I did. After about 15 years I found my hubby and we’ve had an amazing life together. I trust him and he’s so good to me. I didn’t inherit anything when my grandma died, I knew it was good to my mom and I didn’t meet my hubby until years after she passed so I know he’s not scheming for something.
Marie Beland 3 years ago
somehow that was edited down because part of it doesn't make sense. I knew it was going to my mom, my gram and I discussed her will and I told her to leave everything to my mom because if I received anything she'd be jealous and demand things from me until she died and I was over helping my mom with everything she wanted, she was a spoiled brat. She inherited everything and I no longer have to be responsible for her. wherever she ends up is her own fault.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 3 years ago
A friend of mine entered a contract marriage and it worked out well for her. The guy was a union worker, recently divorced, and about to retire. The union contract he was going to retire under stated that either person he was married to or most recently married to at the time of his retirement got his pension upon his death. His pension was worth a couple of million, plus he had savings and property (which he made a great deal of money on), and he hated his ex wife. He and my friend were neighbors and they got on reasonable well so they got married, he retired, and passed away a few later (a total of five years married). He left her everything. Their agreement was that she would see to it that his children each got a sizable sum of money, which they would not have gotten if the pension would have gone to his ex, and she could keep the rest. When it was all said and done, she walked away with almost a million dollars and his children (both adults) got over two million each.
Fiona Parky 3 years ago
I married for love. Unfortunately It’s not working out. I finally woke up when I realised that my husband never said anything positive about me. It really didn’t matter what the situation was, he felt better if he belittled me. I’m not here to make him feel better by feeling superior to me. I wouldn’t have minded as much but his family is a huge mess and he got dumped on by a few of them. His childhood was terrible. I understood that and tried to make him feel good about himself. I would make a real fuss about his birthday, he forgot mine. I’d be very supportive of everything he did, he’d put me down. My family completely welcomed him and treated him as “one of us”. He avoided being around my family and tried to isolate me from them. His latest “Bonne mot” is claiming that taking my aunt to her medical appointments is ignoring him. I’m afraid I’ve had enough. I can only support him so much. 25 yrs down the drain and my confidence in tatters but I have my family, however much he tried.
Lady Goldberry 3 years ago
Fiona, you only have one life, this isn't a dress rehearsal. The problem was never you, so pick your feet up and leave him to it. Good luck x
Load More Replies... Blackheart 3 years ago
I married my best friend. We have built a life together. At one point, he made way more money than me, and at another, me more than him. But we love each other and I know we have each other's back in all situations. We all age, we all die. Life is too short to spend with someone you do not love or trust.
Bart 3 years ago
I married my wife when we were both poor as f**k. I mean living in a shitty 1 bedroom rental and driving a beat-up 10y old Peugeot. Somehow she got the best out of me and convinced me to start my own business in 2020 when I was laid off for Covid. Just signed for a second property 2 weeks ago... 10/10 would marry this woman again...
Béla Kun 3 years ago
Holy f, ppl have really different understanding of "poor", with living in a rental and having any car, that would be rich for me.
Load More Replies... Lytha Hawkeye 3 years ago
Married my high school sweetheart. We had it rough for a long time. I got pregnant while he was still in Uni, but I had a great job with a large bank, so we figured we'd be ok. Pregnancy was a mess, the birth even more so. I couldn't work, we were living off borrowed money and food stamps while going further and further into debt, just to have a roof over our heads. It's many years later, we've been together for 18+ years. We've bought our first house, paid off most of our other debt. Have 2 amazing boys, he makes over 100k a year, so I'm a SAHM focusing on my artistic pursuits (at his urging). We've come along way and through it all we've only fallen in love with each other more.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My BIL was working in the film industry when he married his first wife. He'd work on the set of Evan Almighty and a few A&E made for TV movies. His wife at the time thought he would be a well paid Hollywood big shot at some point and time. But he had two things working against him...his fear of flying and the unreliability of the film industry. Another problem was that his wife couldn't be trusted because, while away on set, she was having stripper parties in the house with two small children in the next room. When he left filming to work as a roofer, she gave up on being rich, had an affair and divorced. She had said that you marry the first husband for the money and the second husband for love. Well that guy she had the affair with dumped her and now she's living alone working as a manager for a grocery store. Guess her plan didn't work so well. And my BIL...he remarried, bought a house and a new car and is financially secure. Oopsie....
The IRS 3 years ago (edited)
My best friend would never admit it, but he married for money. His relationship was semi-serious until he visited her parents with her. They had a £25m house in central London with half a dozen staff (that was in 2010 or so, now it's likely worth 40m!) They had a house in the country too, a place in central Paris, a ski chalet in Switzerland and an absolutely massive ranch in Argentina. She is 9 years older than him. They have every material thing you could ask for, but when I see them, there's zero love there from either side. Neither work, but both are always doing "projects" which basically keep them away from each other all day.
B-b-bird 3 years ago (edited)
Was dating a guy who came from rich family, but as well was wealthy himself (smart, had a knack for business and was in IT). Seen him as perfect guy, I was in love indeed. I guess qualities like cleverness, doing small cute things for me, this unexplainable sense of “home” by his side, that’s what swayed me the most. Then after 1 year he suddenly changed over few days, became cold and said out of blue… I cannot marry you (even though we were not discussing it ever, I considered myself still too young To get married). He was simply too afraid of his parents reaction. I did have quite good salary, working respectable job, but I guess I wasn’t enough “high rank” for his family. I packed and left, it was the worst “broken heart syndrome” I’ve ever had, didn't even thought about humiliation, all I just felt was a horrible love withdrawal for like 2yrs. After 4 years dude contacts me, says he made a mistake…. a mistake. I got over him so I declined to reconcile.
Marie Beland 3 years ago
I realized my first husband married me for money. He assumed that because my grandma owned a house she was rich and I’d inherit. I realized about a year in he had been lying and scheming our entire relationship. I dodged a bullet. He thought he could sit on his tush while I worked 2 jobs and had the nerve to whine to my gram we were broke. Years after I ran into a nephew of his who told me he was in jail with his younger brother for murder. I never imagined he’d end up like that. I’m just glad I ended it when I did. After about 15 years I found my hubby and we’ve had an amazing life together. I trust him and he’s so good to me. I didn’t inherit anything when my grandma died, I knew it was good to my mom and I didn’t meet my hubby until years after she passed so I know he’s not scheming for something.
Marie Beland 3 years ago
somehow that was edited down because part of it doesn't make sense. I knew it was going to my mom, my gram and I discussed her will and I told her to leave everything to my mom because if I received anything she'd be jealous and demand things from me until she died and I was over helping my mom with everything she wanted, she was a spoiled brat. She inherited everything and I no longer have to be responsible for her. wherever she ends up is her own fault.
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