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35 People Share How They Succeeded In Spiting Someone Who Didn’t Believe In Them
Interview With Author
Being told that we aren’t able to accomplish something can light a fire in our bellies and push us towards success. The desire to prove someone wrong while continuing to aim for your dreams is something that a lot of people can relate to. It’s a very human (and Panda!) thing.
LA-based TV and comic book writer Amanda Deibert started up an interesting thread on Twitter that quickly went viral. She asked people to open up about the times that someone told them that they couldn’t do something and they succeeded out of pure spite. And open up they did.
Scroll down for the most interesting success stories and for Bored Panda's interview with the author of the thread, Amanda.
Oh, and it’s important to remember that spite isn’t the only driving force for success—that’s exactly what Amanda stressed in a follow-up tweet. When you’re done reading this list, we’d love to hear about your greatest success, dear Pandas, whether out of spite or inner drive.
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Debrina Blackmoon 3 years ago
RIGHT?! I used to be against that kind of job/career(didn't know better-tbh), but now realize it's perfectly fine and can actually be totally respectable. Well, even tho' it's def not for me, I won't hate people for it since it's not necessarily negative in all cases. Same as LBGT+ and different races, ethnicities, nationalities, etc. and not just because such normal people are in my family/ I knew at least one gay person at my high school.
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Cactus McCoy 3 years ago
The worst thing about this is the need for a camera.
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Marco Conti 3 years ago
Imagine that! Strip club managers being less than honest. What is the world coming to?
Thomas Sweda 3 years ago
What is a VIP room in a strip cub, and why would you go in there if you feel a need for a panic button?
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
A VIP room is a private area where strippers can take a client for a private dance. There are rules in a strip club to protect the dancers, and while most men can handle themselves and follow those rules, many can’t and are a risk to the well being of the staff. So, if a dancer is going to take a client for a little private show, it’s worth making sure she’s safe while alone with the client. A panic button so she can call for help, and a blacklist for crappy clients, is a great idea :)
Load More Replies...Amanda stressed to us that spite usually isn't the only thing behind your marathon towards success. "Well, spite can only get you so far, there has to be an actual desire to do something for yourself or for someone you care about (which hopefully also includes yourself)," she told us.
"I know I am personally motivated to do things that will in some way help or support my loved ones, especially my little girl," the writer pointed out that love can be a very powerful motivating force.
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Henry Hagens 3 years ago
Maybe it was a class where the focus is reading or writing in Portuguese?
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Bored Panda was interested to get Amanda's take on whether people should have very realistic, grounded goals or if they should shoot for the stars. She told us that she believes a layered approach is best.
"Shoot for the stars, but in a way that keeps your needs met in the meantime. It's okay to make sacrifices and take risks, but calculated risks are the most likely to pay off," she said. In her view, preparation and planning are vital components of success.
"Make sure you have prepared yourself for your journey into the stars. Astronauts spend years training and preparing for their mission. So you need to train and prepare and keep a roof over your head and nutritious food on your plate and care for your body so that when it comes time to make the leap it is worth it."
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Teri McIsaac 3 years ago
No, that's Mara Wilson. The actress who played Matilda
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Vorknkx 3 years ago
In high school, I was always at odds with my literature teachers and got average grades, making me think I was bad at it... I went to college and suddenly I was one of the best in literature-related classes, which proved something I had always suspected - that my HS teachers (and their teaching methods) sucked.
Hermione 3 years ago
Would you not be the top in college because of your high school education? Sounds to me like the HS teachers were good.
Load More Replies... blankman 3 years ago
Had a classmate in school who was entering and winning major art contests. Meanwhile his art teacher was failing his work because it wasn't "good enough". The best part - that art teacher's work was being refused by the contests in question because it didn't meet their minimum standards for entry.
Lia Hurst 3 years ago
More than a movie, check out IMDB (Mrs Doubtfire, Matilda, Miracle on 34th street etc).
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Pheebs 3 years ago
Sounds as fun as my AP English teacher. She told me not to bother with taking the AP test as she didn’t think I’d get above a 2 (AP tests are scored 1-5), even though I had an A in her class. I dunno, she was weird. Anyway, took the test anyway and got a 4. So glad she moved on to another school, though I feel bad for those students. I can only imagine how many kids she discouraged over the years.
Eric Forman 3 years ago
I'm willing to bet being Mara Wilson has something to do with being published. Fame gets people places they sometimes don't belong. James Franco attended 2 different prestigious colleges concurrently and people praised him. His name alone got him admitted. He then got a teacher fired for trying to fail him because he would sleep in their class and not do the assignments. The school didn't want the bad publicity.
Aamna Shah 3 years ago (edited)
Not really. People learn better in a positive, encouraging environment. Giving positive criticism is absolutely important but making students feel that no matter what they try, they cannot please you is not productive. You're looking at one young woman's success but this attitude forces a lot of people to give up. Ever thought of that? Or maybe you think those kids need to toughen up and learn to excel without positive encouragement in which case don't even answer.
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Not really. Women get accused of using sex as a bargaining chip in plenty of fields.
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Susie Elle 3 years ago
Did he think you'd be performing surgeries with your breasts or vagina?
Ogre Juan Canolli 3 years ago
One Half Of The Brain Controls The Opposite Side Of The Body. Therefore Only Lefties Are In Their Right Minds
The journey to success is a very individual thing. According to Amanda, it's best to focus on an approach that motivates you best as a person. She also believes that habits are the way to reach your goals. "It's the Malcolm Gladwell 10,000 hours thing. You are much more likely to reach your goals eventually if you are constantly working toward them and building your skills and life in a way that supports you reaching your goals."
This isn’t the first time that Bored Panda has featured Amanda’s tweets. We’ve previously covered her viral posts about useful life advice, as well as an incredibly creepy house listing full of mannequins.
#7
Kelzbelz79 3 years ago
My rapist got away with it, never even had a day in court, not enough evidence cos he made me shower after every time, I will never get over what he done and he walks around as if none of it happened, I love hearing of people getting justice ❤❤
Aamna Shah 3 years ago (edited)
I am really sorry for what that horrible POS did to you. I hope one day he will face the consequences of his crimes. People think they can outsmart karma. They cannot.
Load More Replies... Hannah Kirtley 3 years ago
feeding implies it's a good thing... being abused and assaulted is not that... i can bite, i will bite.. screw you
Christiane Ley 3 years ago
I want to know why someone feels they have to black-out the word 'rape' or a letter in said word? They would black-out the 'i' in 'crime', would they? This is just stupid! If it's rape call it what it is!
Mariah Greenwood 3 years ago
That might be a Bored Panda thing. Or Facebook doing it. I know when you type out a cuss word it shows the asterisks instead of the actual word.
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Anne Mitchell 3 years ago
The word is RAPE. Why not write it? It is not a swear word or sexually explicit, It is a word that describes a criminal act, just as "robbery" or "murder" does.
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María Hermida 3 years ago
Unlike other situations in this thread, I don't think the doctor said that in bad faith. The brain is incredibly complex, and doctors don't want to be too optimistic. Fortunately, there are many cases where "miracles" seem to happen. I'm so happy she recovered!
Joseph Yap 3 years ago
And why would this spite the doctor? I would be jumping up and down with joy if my patient turned out this way…
Load More Replies... Eric Forman 3 years ago
Doctors don't say things like this to be negative. They don't want to raise patients expectations. It's like a Dr telling a cancer pt they have a 5% chance of survival. They don't candy coat it, they give the reality. Do you think they're mad the patients survive or exceep expectations?
Mad Dragon 3 years ago
Its called "Some Bright Morning I'll Fly Away" and it's both heart wrenching and inspirational.
Hazel Sage 3 years ago
This is so AWESOME! Congratulations! You’re going to be an inspiration to whole generations of abuse survivors. Shine a spotlight on those bastards! Domestic abuse will not get better until we make sure that abusers are seen for what they are, and adjust our societal values to support the victims, and teach our children to not repeat the same mistakes we have made in the past.
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
My father said the same thing to me. I joined the military and never spoke to him again; it's the best gift I've ever given myself.
Aussie Bloke 3 years ago
As a single father to a daughter, I cannot understand how a father could be so unsupportive.
Jackie Nettleton 3 years ago
Why do toxic parents always want to harm their children, it doesn’t make sense to me you’re supposed to get them to the point where they are independent
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Like he had some sort of decision making/control over her choices?
During a previous interview, Amanda told Bored Panda that Twitter users can give some great advice, and they’re full of wisdom.
According to Amanda, it’s always easier to give advice than to listen to it because it’s far easier to see someone else’s situation clearly than it is to see our own.
"When it is our own life, we also have to deal with our own emotions and attachments and habits. I can easily see something with detachment when it isn't my own issue. I think it is actually incredibly difficult to detach and really look at your own life," she told us.
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Kelzbelz79 3 years ago
Wow now that's impressive, you made that massive change and should be so proud of yourself.
Martha B. Higgins 3 years ago
I was told in the 1960s in high school that I had to take home economics, which then was basically how to sew and cook, which I had been doing in my family for years. I wanted to be an architect and was denied taking the class in mechanical drawing. After prevailing in a lawsuit, I got to take the class and amid lots of crude "jokes" and sexual harassment, from both teacher and other students (all boys), I ended up with the best grade in the class. The drawings didn't lie, they were clearly the most accurate!
robin aldrich 3 years ago
I've seen female players who are told they "throw like a girl" pitch one heck of a softball!
D20 Games 3 years ago (edited)
I played reg. baseball growing up. This was 1984 &1985. Was the first girl to play ball with the boys ever in our city. We won the championship my first year. My coach hated me, "I took away from the boys." I was on a different team the following year. My new team won city championship that year. Beat my old team for the title, as the pitcher. It was super awesome. I made two boys cry, striking them out, cause you know, got showed up by a girl. There wasn't, and still isn't any gender specific rules in the player handbook. I learned, around 19yo, that two more girls joined the boys. Now there are anywhere between 15 - 20 girls mixed in to all the teams. That made me feel so good. I love that I kicked that door open.
#11
TmKhr 3 years ago
I never understood why some people simply don't support their spouse when they have passion for something (like art in this case). I will never stop supporting my wife if she decides to do something similar. Good for you!
Kelzbelz79 3 years ago
Yay yay yay, I bloody love this, good for you lady and I'm glad you have a better spouse too that supports you ❤
Shelley Finance 3 years ago
My spouse got angry after my work was juried into a student show at our local museum, but even angrier that the same piece got juried into the first international ceramics show/competition I ever applied to *and then I won an award for it!* Narcissists, man.
Aamna Shah 3 years ago
Science is extremely important and it's importance is thankfully acknowledged but so is art and this pandemic should show that to those dissing on people who study art and humanities. What would you do in a pandemic at home with no books, no music, no gardening, no dancing, no poetry, no painting or other creative modes of self expression?
Thomas Sweda 3 years ago
Much, “art”, is a waste of time and money, and paint, and canvas, etc
#12
Hannah Kirtley 3 years ago
so... instead of helping lilith break the cycle lets beat her down and keep her in the generational cycle of no HS diploma... cuz that's a good thing *eye roll*
Candia Lee 3 years ago
I had a student in Special Education who told me she was there because her older sister had been in Special Education.
Mary Leverett 3 years ago
Ummmm, WHERE, exactly, did that JrHigh math teacher fit in her own worldview??
Sharon Jackson 3 years ago
I hope you write her a letter and tell her how totally WRONG she was.
Ogre Juan Canolli 3 years ago
Schools Aren't Planned For Any Body To Excel. They're Designed To Bring Every Body Down To A Common Average
Laura Adams 3 years ago
If you can’t support and encourage your students, why are you teaching?
"I think change is difficult and scary and most good advice revolves around change,” she said that even not making a decision is actually a decision. One that’s very easy to make. “Good things are difficult and take work, but sitting back and allowing life to just happen is a choice."
The fact is that success is possible for anyone and at any age. There’s a misconception going around that success is supposedly only the domain of the young and beautiful. And that’s just plain wrong. With the right drive, an active body and mind, we can reach our goals whatever the challenges.
#13
Ellie Vanille 3 years ago
"You write so well for a deaf person"... ?! SMH. How can you even say something like that ? It's like saying "You sing so well for someone wearing a red sweater !"
similarly 3 years ago
I love your comment. I wanted to write something, but it was nowhere near as good as what you wrote!
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Vorknkx 3 years ago
Beethoven was completely deaf when he wrote his greatest works. He could only hear them in his mind, but this never stopped him.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Terry Pratchett put it very well - the gods find it amusing to strike musicians deaf, but it's a cruel joke which backfires "because it didn't prevent them from hearing the music - it prevented them from hearing the *distractions*."
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2022emmam trent 3 years ago
That literally makes no sense? This would make better sense if the person was blind and writing with a pencil not braille? But deaf? How does that even make sense?
Sam Smith 3 years ago
English and sign language are different. The sentence structure in American Sign Language is its own set up, making English pretty much a second language. So like learning any language it takes a lot of work to be good at it. The issue is though due to the difference of sign language and English many deaf people can have issues writing in standard English, which is of course not referring to everyone in the world.
Load More Replies... Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
That has to be one of the dumbest things I've seen on this page, how can someone smart enough to teach be dumb enough to think being Deaf would somehow have an effect on how you write(unless they're so dumb they've somehow mixed up deaf & dyslexic).
Nightshade1972 3 years ago (edited)
Amy Sequencia (sp) is a fairly well-known disability advocate. She's also a non-verbal autistic. She's often written about how it blows ppl's minds when they meet her IRL and realize she doesn't speak. "But--you're so intelligent!" Yeah, and?! Mute doesn't mean stupid.
Martha B. Higgins 3 years ago
What in the world does being deaf have to do with being able to write well?
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Warriorjelly333 3 years ago
I think people tend to misunderstand this kind of things, ai's a doctor's duty to speak about the risk and likely outcomes of a patient prognosis, especialy if the patient is a child or for any reason has tutors or a legal guardian. That the child survived and its doing well is not spitting the doctor at all, in all likehood is what the doctor wanted but didn't expect to happen, if the child was in the nciu i'd assume that it had serious health problems in the first place, maybe she was premature, maybe she had RCIU,maybe the mom was diabetic, had preeclampsia or any other thing that made a c section the only hope of survival. And the doctor wanted to prepare the parents so if the baby died they would not be surprised, can anyone imagine not knowing how sick one 's baby is and then the baby die?. And is not only the important to get the baby to live, it's also what quaity of life it's going to have, if it going to suffer secuels all life, if the secuel can be more helped with therapy
Marvelous Rex 3 years ago
I don't think this fits this list at all. The DR was simply trying to prepare the mother for the worst possibly outcome and not give false hope.
Niall Mac Iomera 3 years ago
Again: this is just a doctor preparing you for the worst. They're not trying to be mean.
2022emmam trent 3 years ago
I'm so glad she proved those doctors wrong! Also, she would be nineteen now, wouldn't she?
rhubarb 3 years ago
There's a nicer way to deliver a diagnosis than 'You're taking her home to die.' That could have been said much better, on the doctor's end.
Lynn Wilcox 3 years ago
No, it couldn't. It is so important to say the word die, dead, ect. Most people don't understand if you're vague.
Load More Replies... Abdul Rahman Falih 3 years ago
Not at all, he was probably warning her that she might have her baby ded he was preparing her for the trauma she might have gone thru
Load More Replies... Susan Alderson 3 years ago
My niece was born 3 months prematurely at one pound. She is now in the National Honor Society at her high school.
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Thomas Sweda 3 years ago
Great! But you make it sound like you’ve been in the 6th grade for 42 years.
lazy panda 3 years ago
They initially didn't finish 6th grade so at the age of 54, they went back and completed it.
Load More Replies...Writer and award-winning editor Doug Murano from South Dakota previously spoke to Bored Panda about his extremely viral and inspirational thread about over-40’s success stories.
"I was raised to value grit over grace. That might be a South Dakota thing. The women in my life—particularly my mother and maternal grandmother—have set wonderful examples for me in terms of reinvention and perseverance,” Doug told us all about the people in his life who have helped shape his values.
“My grandmother attended university classes and became a certified Master Gardener in her 80s after my grandfather died. At 97, she still tends her own garden. My mother worked some extremely difficult jobs (including one in a meat processing plant) to help fund her doctorate. I had seen (yet another) 'under 40' list the day I wrote the tweet and immediately thought of them,” Doug said.
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Kaz 3 years ago
Well done you. But 80 hours a week? Nobody should have to work that much to live.
GPZ 3 years ago
Yeah. Tell me you work in the US without saying you work in the US
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Iifa A. 3 years ago
Well done! But 80 hours a week if it's by choice and passion for work. You're doing amazing job! (I had one of those jobs, loved it, pay is good, hours are tough but it's the atmosphere and in my case the feeling of accomplishment at the end of day.) But if it's an 80+ hours a week just to support yourself. Then please consider upgrading your position. Nobody should work 80+ hours at work. When do you eat your favourite meals, spend time with family, love life, hobbies, take care of your Health and Head. One thing you cannot buy back is your health, there's no amount of money that can buy time with closed ones, and when you pass nobody will clap for you job well done. I hope you worked hard 19/20yrs old, and now have time to empower and support other people to be as successful as you despite circumstances.
Kelzbelz79 3 years ago
Well done you, wondering though if your mum was aware of what he was saying and if so why she allowed it.
#17
Kim Kermes 3 years ago
California proposition to ban same gender marriage in 2008. Struck down in court.
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Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
WTH!? You can't train to be a physician because you're from another country?
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
Congratulations! Without adequate neurosurgical care as an infant, I wouldn't be alive today (congenital hydrocephalus, among other things). Thank you for all that you do!
"Conventional standards of beauty are king in the media. Young people typically fit that mold more readily than the middle-aged or elderly and attract eyeballs more readily. I think that's probably why I gravitated toward the image of hands that had seen life and work. Again, I think of my grandmother's hands, which are like driftwood now. To me, that's more beautiful than anything," Doug explained that the media often chooses to focus on the success stories that are most presentable.
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Turbo the Great and Terrible 3 years ago
thank you for supporting your library!
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Tiny Dancer 3 years ago
Love this account! Lots of fun. I'm also struck by the fact that, as of right now, this is listed at number 18 and is the first post from a man. Top 17 are all women being told what they can and can't do by The Man. Just sayin'.
Laura Capshaw 3 years ago
I own this book, and I thank you for writing it. I'm pretty sure you translate bird language very well! Thank you for all the chuckles!
Calyx Teren 3 years ago (edited)
I have this book and it’s wonderful. Only thing I wish is that, assuming that these are drawings of real birds, he’d list the actual common and Latin names in footnotes. Then I could learn and have a sailor mouth at the same time. My fave.
Celeste Niday 3 years ago
LOVE Effin Birds! - Got the book, the calendar AND T-shirts (I love birds and am quite the expressive cusser so right up my alley) Goes to show how outta touch execs and corporate hacks can be with the public.
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3 years ago
Congratulations on that huge success! A baby AND top of class! You are my fricking roll model <3
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rhubarb 3 years ago
My parents are homophobic, too. My sister is bi, and I'm a greyromantic, ace/pan. I'm glad you didn't listen to homophobes, and kept being you!
Scott Steinbrink 3 years ago
As a father of two kids, one lesbian and the other trans, Go You!!!
Harry Jones 3 years ago
good for you, I'm sure you have lovely Kids and ignore the trolls on here.
Load More Replies... King Kashue 3 years ago
I understand (and obviously condemn) the bigotry and the bi-erasure, but why would you get kicked out of school? Were they at a super religious school or something? Like, I could see Bob Jones or Pensacola College booting them, but the places that would do that wouldn't accept an openly bi person in the first place.
Harry Jones 3 years ago
No i think your confusing being a*se hole (which you are) and something way more complicated. Have a nice day.
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"It doesn't make any sense to me and it runs counter to what healthy cultures do, which is to revere and celebrate their elders.”
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Pamela Blue 3 years ago
If only the AH teachers could understand that their words to students are remembered for years afterwards. Most teachers try hard with their pupils, but there are some who really shouldn't be in the profession. Young minds are so malleable, and one bad phrase could scar them for life. I'm so glad there are kids out there who are strong enough to prove them wrong. Words matter!
#23
Helga Zwemmer 3 years ago
What an awful thing to say to your child. Well done Annie and I hope those parents are not part of your life anymore.
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
Your "parents" can go eff themselves. Congratulations on your escape.
Martha B. Higgins 3 years ago
I hope you have divorced yourself from your abusive parents. They have no place in your life.
#24
TmKhr 3 years ago (edited)
My wife's first ex also told her she should dye her hair, have bigger breasts and look more like his celebrity crush. People who say 5h1t like that should take a look in the mirror.
Jennifer Aydelott 3 years ago
I was an outcast in HS, popular kids always bullied me. Ran into a “popular guy” in a bar years later. He would not stop hitting on me. I asked if he remembered me. No. Finally he says “if I would have known you’d turn out THIS Hot, I’d have dated you in HS.” P**s off dude.
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
I was in junior high when Glamour Shots started becoming popular. I'm queer and I never liked makeup/fashion. My parents basically wore me down for a decade before I finally agreed to do a shoot (which they paid for), just to shut them up. Can't tell you how often, throughout my life, my own parents would tell me, "You *would* be so pretty, *if only* you wore makeup and did something with your hair!" Eff that noise.
Meanwhile, Caroline Abrahams, Charity Director at Age UK, told Bored Panda how to maintain a sharp mind as we age. It’s an important factor when we consider our goals and ambitions in life.
"Our own studies have shown important connections between positive mental wellbeing and keeping active, and having better thinking skills in later life. This is good news because our sense of mental wellbeing is something we can take steps to improve," she went into detail.
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Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
Decades ago I was brainwashed into "girls can't, "fill in the blank of what we can't do. I wanted to be an astronaut because already little me, in the 5th grade, was WAY advanced in astronomy. I believed them. I was the same age as Sally Ride when she went up into space. No, I probably would have never ended up an astronaut, but intern at NASA and then JPL? Good for you! Live your dream.
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juice 3 years ago
here's the full picture, it got cut off https://pbs.twimg.com/media/D4iQex_W4AIksWf?format=jpg&name=large
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Nightshade1972 3 years ago
I made my very first crocheted afghan when I was maybe 14 yo. Created the pattern totally on my own. For years I wasn't that fond of it, because I felt like I could've done it better. Then my MIL saw it and fell in love with it. My inlaws kept it, with my blessing, while they were alive. We have it back, now that they're both gone. It has a lot more sentimental value to me now, because my MIL loved it so much.
Kiaya Thompson 3 years ago
As someone who is still on the baby beanie, scarves, occasional slipper stage, well done!
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Zenozenobee 3 years ago
Even if that would have been your job... I hardly see how that would allow him to look down on you... I guess he's pretty happy to have a waitress when he goes to the restaurant
AnxietyRiddenMom 3 years ago
I love how people use this adage to say people won't be anything. Same as flipping burgers. When my sister was in high school I had already graduated. One of her teachers said something along those lines, she'd be flipping burgers at McDonald's if she didn't get her grades up She said, my sister looked at McDonald's and they gave her a scholarship. Promptly shut that teacher's mouth. But on the other hand of it, so what if that's what someone does. At least they're out there trying.
Martha B. Higgins 3 years ago
I retired from a career with a very high profile company and at 75 am waitressing, the job which put me through university, and loving it again!
"In the same way that avoiding things like smoking, excess alcohol or a poor diet can help to reduce the risk of developing some forms of dementia and cognitive decline, so can looking after our emotional wellbeing by managing stress, establishing meaningful connections with people, doing new activities or getting a good night’s sleep,” Caroline said.
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Evelyn Haskins 3 years ago
English Essay marking is a very hit and miss thing. One marker might give good grades and another bad grades. I do NOT know why there aren't multiple markers for such subjective things
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Robin Roper 3 years ago
So glad the OP achieved his goal, but seriously, there is nothing wrong with a trade as a profession. In fact, the mechanic may earn as much as the doctor.
Craig Reynolds 3 years ago
Still a mechanic! Just of biology and anatomy. Brain = ECU, Heart = Engine, Lungs = Induction system, vascular system = lubrication system, nervous system = wire harnesses, liver and kidneys = oil filter, sweat glands = cooling system, stomach = fuel tank, large and small intestines = fuel system, r****m = exhaust system, urinary tract = condensation dispenser. Yeah, retired master tech here and used those as analogies when explaining things about their vehicle to medical professionals.
Pamela Blue 3 years ago
It really ticks me off that a teacher would denigrate the profession of mechanic. They are skilled workers and essential, much more so than this a$$hat of an advisor.
blankman 3 years ago
Friend of mine was told by his high school guidance counselor that there was no point in his taking the academic courses needed to enter university. Fact is he refused to even register my friend in those classes and it took his parents coming to school and raising hell for that to happen. Then, in his senior year, that same guidance counselor refused to send his applications to university (at the time, if you were a student your applications had to go thru the high school guidance office - no exceptions). Again his parents had to intervene. Six years later after he'd successfully defended his Masters thesis (in math) we dragged him off to the pub to celebrate (didn't have to drag very hard) and, as the evening wore on and we all became a little more 'lubricated" he told us the story and said that he wanted to go back to that high school and shove his Masters diploma in the face of that guidance counselor. The only question - how many other students' lives did that guy eff up?
Laura Adams 3 years ago
A lot of my minority students were told “college isn’t for people like you.” It’s frustrating to see young people be so narrowly categorized so early in life.
Evelyn Haskins 3 years ago
I wanted to be a carpenter, but my parents insisted on Science at Uni :-)
Thomas Sweda 3 years ago
Well, actually both “professions”make tons of money, both get their hands dirty, and both can cause death. But mechanics usually don’t get called out in the middle of the night.
Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago
If I were young and starting out I would head right for trades. If I ended up doing well, I can always go back and learn the business side of things so I could open my own. And not be a gazillion dollars in debt.
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"Staying active isn't just about working up a sweat or running marathons, it can also be moving more each day at our own pace and in whatever way works. Being even modestly active helps give your wellbeing a boost and maintains bone strength, muscle strength, and coordination.”
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Kay blue 3 years ago
What a strange church. I was in my church choir from about the age of 14 and I carried the cross every Sunday. The only tricky bit was remember to drop it down so it didn't get stuck in the chandeliers.
Thomas Sweda 3 years ago
I think the real reason Is that the Church is a male dominated organization. And the “reasons” are just made up excuses.
Vladimíra Matejová 3 years ago
in catholic church girls cannot assist at a mass and should not sit in the balcony. that started to change after girls started to be in the choir which was placed at the balcony. still not allowed to assist the priest. i asked at the religion class and was told girls could assist if there are no boys available. one of the first reasons I stopped believing in church and God in general.
vivian nguyen 3 years ago
they didn't want you as an altar girl because it would take away from having an altar boy for the priests to molest.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I was usually stronger than MOST boys in my class (I was pretty much always one of the tallest kids, too).
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Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I had a controlling A/H like that in my past as well. My response was "Watch me, motherf*cker".
Candia Lee 3 years ago
Sister did that, too. Ex told her she couldn't make it on her own, tho she was teaching Special Education and taking care of a household for housing. She's now happily remarried; last I heard, he was a gutter drunk.
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Pheebs 3 years ago
Contrary: I had a bf who told me I was only passing my CompSci classes because of him (because he quizzed me before a test?). Fast forward a semester, I had a Linux prof who knew my (ex at that point) bf, who told me not to listen as I was doing great. He also went on to tell me that the guy didn’t know half of what claimed, and was so miserable in class to another female that she was failing the until the prof moved her to another desk. She basically went from an F to an A in a week. Now I’m a senior programmer, and my ex can suck it. I really like that prof. He, and all the other profs in the CompSci program were awesome teachers who did not discriminate based on gender. Especially when it more rare for females to be in the classes. (Seriously, I was the only one in some.)
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Laura Mende (Human) 3 years ago
When my mother was pregnant with me, she and my dad went to a doctor to examine the womb water (this was to find out if the baby has Down-Syndrom, especially when the mother is older. Mine was 39yrs old) when the doctor came with a big syringe to poke through the skin in the womb, mom opt out. She said she hadn't to know if I was disabled, she would love her kid nontheless. The doc got angry and told her she should abort me, there are somehow enough idiots on this planet and there is no need for more. DOC WAS SUCH A NAZI!!! I was born "normal" and some 2-3yrs later it came out that this doctor had aborted children way too late, and had raped his patiens. What an a*****e...
Teddybear 3 years ago (edited)
Oh god! He should be reported to the damn police!That jack@as
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L Melville 3 years ago
CONGRATS!!!! (I was told I'd never conceive due to my Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Fibromyalgia, Degenerative Disc Disease, and the fact that I only got 2 periods a year.....it may have taken me 11 years, but I now have a 16-month-old daughter who is the light of my life.)
Anna Tribe 3 years ago
How many of those are genetic? I'm asking because after I had children I found out that I had several genetic illnesses, including fibromyalgia which my mum also had, and now both eldest and youngest are having symptoms of fibromyalgia. Just that 1 illness is hell to live with and that, combined with the other issues I can honestly say that I would never have had biological children for them to go through the pain and suffering that I have each and every day. It's my fault they are suffering
Load More Replies... Warriorjelly333 3 years ago
People like this are irrepinsable, if the mom is obese before pregnancy then the pregancy was going to be high risk, more likehood of gestacional hipertension, hellp syndrome, gestacional diabetes, more likehood for the baby to have rciu, to have hipoglycemia, and neonatal ictericia,
vivian nguyen 3 years ago
how did you have time to put the fork down and take care of the kids?
Mazer 3 years ago
When I lived in Hawaii, there were heavy women giving birth all the time. Gawd I loathe implicit bias in the medical establishment
AnkleByter 3 years ago
As much as I hate to play the devils advocate, and I hate the way this was presented, this isn't a case of bias. Obese women, especially if they are morbidly obese quite commonly have fertility issues, on top of all the other potential health problems they have (whether they realize it or not). It sucks, and it's terrible being in that kind of position, but it's not the doctor's fault, or their bias, it's the patient's health causing issues. A doctor saying they won't help you conceive until or unless your health improves, is also not bias (we don't know if that's the case here, but it quite often is). A doctor choosing to help someone who is obese, potentially morbidly so, that likely presents with other health problems, is not doing that patient ANY favors. Pregnancy can increase the likelihood of serious medical concerns, even death for both mother and child in these cases. I have witnessed it first hand more times than I care to count. I am glad things worked out for them, though.
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Margrete Sonnenberg 3 years ago
I know it just a profile pic and I can't see that much, but he doesn't look obese as the doctor has said.
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Yettichild 3 years ago (edited)
It's strange how brains work sometimes. Give me a practical word problem and I can solve it. Give me the same problem as an equation and I will mystify people on how I even came up with that wrong of an answer.
Brenda 3 years ago
I have dyscacula & never took algebra in HS. Intro to Algebra teacher worked with me 2-3 times a week during his off time & figured out I did better w/ word problems. I got 78 final grade. I was upset at my 1st C, but thrilled to pass! Word problems worked better for me, so he put about 75% of the problems on my final in words. My posted grade was an 80, 2 full pts higher. His reasoning? No, I was NOT going to be able to pass college algebra 1 & 2. But I WOULD now be able to take a math alternative class (like astronomy or statistics). The 2 point increase was to encourage. & reward me for trying so hard. Said I'd earned it. Gave me the confidence to continue. Passed alt maths (barely, low C). Graduated (w/ honors) because he got me through w/ word problems. Thank you, Mr. Ngyen.
Load More Replies... Kim Kermes 3 years ago
If he was still at the school, I'd have sent press releases to the school newspaper announcing your degrees. Or paid for an ad in the local paper if necessary. To Mr Obermeierin spite of whom I earned these degrees.
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GPZ 3 years ago
Having a slightly higher % body fat is extremely beneficial, especially in colder weather. I could say something about their brains not handing down between their legs and getting all cold but these women have already proven their mettle.
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Brenda 3 years ago
My mom didn't finish HS. At 29, w/ 3 kids (12. 9, & 6), working full time, she not only graduated HS, she finished a 2yr degree, associate of science, in 3 semesters. So even if you had gotten married & had kids, why would he think you'd quit? Mom said we were her inspiration to succeed.
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LuckyL 3 years ago
HOW can you tell someone that they will die by suicide. Or it this "just" reversed psychology - "I'll just stay alive to prove him wrong". But still - I'm so mad at this dr.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Damn! What the hell kind of "doctor" EVER says that to a patient?!
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Rick Seiden 3 years ago
I watch the NHL, and I've seen so many women get involved in broadcasting lately. I think people realize that women who can play the came can call the game. (I remember one Rangers' game where the woman calling the game from between the benches was the granddaughter (or great-granddaughter) of one of the player's who's number was hanging from the rafters. She was calling a game involving the same team that her grandfather played for. And she was wearing his hall of fame ring. I thought that was just so great!)
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Bored Turtle Princess 3 years ago
Who the hell says that while trying to seduce someone‽‽ Some people are just....
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ChimeraBubbles 3 years ago
Ableism. I was told I could "only be a receptionist" because I have spina bifida. I hated school so did badly in it, yet I am by no means unintelligent. Literally fighting for your life medically, going through domestic abuse, and having the 'professional' people around you have low expectations of you is soul destroying. I'm doing much better as an adult. I have a uni education and my own business now. I've used those formative experiences to become a counsellor to help others. Don't let any person tell you you can't do something.
ChimeraBubbles 3 years ago
Also, nothing wrong with being a receptionist btw. Their low expectations was the offensive part.
Load More Replies... GPZ 3 years ago
This is a bit like an earlier post- you can't do "X" because you have "Y". While some forms of CP do come with an intellectual component, the severity of the individual's CP varies dramatically and particularly with forms of the condition like spastic diplegia it can be so subtle as to be almost undetectable to anyone not familiar with it and there is most definitely no intellectual component. Through my work I know quite a few people with spastic diplegia who are teachers (good teachers not the $h1tboxes described in a few of the posts), lawyers, psychologists and doctors. So glad that OP was able to accomplish what he has despite an abundance of knuckleheads in his path.
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Spikey boi 3 years ago (edited)
Why would someone say that to a high schooler? Especially the assistant headmaster?
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Projecting their own personal failures onto others, especially innocent children who can't retaliate in any way, because they are weak, sad, individuals who lash out against others to feel power and control in their lives.
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Kim Kermes 3 years ago
A very large football player named Rosie Grier did needlepoint. I think he'd like to see someone object to you embroidering.
Darla Taylor 3 years ago
My father when he was alive embroidered a quilt and a tablecloth for all 4 of his children. His stitches were so perfect that you couldn’t tell the back from the front. He also was very good at sewing, much better than what my mom ever was and owned his own sewing machine.
Jessica Wood 3 years ago
I don't get employers critiquing what their employees do as a hobby when they're not at work.
Kim Kermes 3 years ago
Oh, I forgot. Knitting and crochet were popular among sailors at least through WWII.
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Vorknkx 3 years ago
I once underwent a long writing hiatus too - not because of other people, but rather due to sinking too deep in my own depression and self-loathing. Glad to say this is all behind me now.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That's fantastic. I wish you the best of luck in your journeys with your writing.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
So many of these stories are only affirming the fact that we should follow our dreams regardless of the advice of our parents, teachers, colleagues, counselors, etc. Keep moving forward.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Sounds very interesting. Have heard that the heart synchronizes to the music that you're listening to. So, it makes sense that it could be used as a tool for medical purposes.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I hope he was proud and congratulatory. She deserved a pat on the back for a job well done.
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Rijkærd 3 years ago
What?...no ones operates on standing people...wht the f**k was wrong with that douchbag of a dr?
Chinmayee Kalghatgi 3 years ago
Who said anything about people standing while being operated on? You are supposed to strap the patient on the cieling and raise your arms to operate
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Don't let these monsters win. You are amazing, don't let them tell you any different.
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Kelley Baltierra 3 years ago (edited)
Honestly though, it is rare for that to happen to anyone, that's why I think it's good advice. I'm sure that wasn't meant spitefully.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It needs to be said. So glad she found support amongst her peers and educators.
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GPZ 3 years ago
Not necessarily. The whole "flat feet bad" thing was the result of a "study" by the British Army in the early 1900's looking at a way to identify recruits who would end up needing to be medically discharged because of lower limb injuries. Suffice to say they looked at the group with injuries but not the group without injuries- flat feet are so common as to be statistically "normal" and especially when take in isolation, is a very poor predictor of injury/dysfunction or pain. That said, people who have flat feet can and do experience foot/leg pain but it's not because they have flat feet. Pedal stability is another matter entirely and definitely does have a direct bearing on both function and pain.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Too many crap people telling others they aren't good enough 😕. Such a shame.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's fabulous to achieve and do what you love for a living, and if you're also helping others, it's icing on the cake.
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Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's fantastic when people show "them" that their pregnancy is not a school ending, career ending, disease or disability that some people treat it to be.
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Helen Roberts 3 years ago
UK high school exams. GCSE at 16 years, A levels at 18 for university entry. 😀
Load More Replies... Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It feels so good to defy the odds and conquer your fears that someone tries to instill in you.
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Jo Johannsen 3 years ago
I'm sure privacy is why no details, which I respect, but my curiosity is going bananas.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's definitely a point of interest when you mention, " forced medical leave and should never draw again." It piques one's brain to put it like that.
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Kim Kermes 3 years ago
It takes a great doctor to get someone to want to live. Or a mediocre one...
Wednesday 3 years ago
or a well/poorly timed comment that sparks a flame, which grows into a burning desire...
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Wednesday 3 years ago
The ordinary everyday kind - the kind where men somehow believe, in error, that women and others are inferior. Yet... they get charged higher insurance rates...
Load More Replies... Kelley Baltierra 3 years ago
I honestly have never understood why people in general reverse their cars into a parking spot. It annoys the hell out of me ...but if you're doing it to prove a point, keep at it 😊
Darla Taylor 3 years ago
Guess he’d have a cow if he saw me backing into my driveway to park. I rarely pull into the driveway
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Ruth Kilpatrick 3 years ago
According to his Twitter account: Helping Google sell Cloud to enterprises across EMEA
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similarly 3 years ago
As an educator, it makes me furious to see teachers, professors and educational advisors telling students these kinds of things. Half the job of getting something done is believing that you can. Just remembering a student's name and showing confidence in them can have SUCH a big impact on their whole life. Taking time to walk them through the tough bits early on, believing in them. It's so important. These people stomping down the students with their arrogant little "You're not good enough" remarks ought to be fired.
Karen Lyon 3 years ago
I've been an educator for 34 years, similarly, I'm right there with you!!
Load More Replies... Chinmayee Kalghatgi 3 years ago
Depression told me that I was a loner and loser who would be dead by June. Now it’s been exactly one year and I am alive and have a huge social circle with good and trustworthy people
Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
The sad thing about these stories that is there are more stories, who could not make it, so many more people who got stomped, and become what the envious people expected from them.
Tiny Dancer 3 years ago
Our doctor was worried my 3-year-old son wasn't hitting any of his verbal goals (no talking at all, not even "Mama" or "Dada"). He had just been diagnosed as having autistic tendencies a few months before. After checking his hearing (no prob there), we were sent to the hospital for a day of testing. Hours later and the doc pulled me aside to tell me he'd never talk, never make eye contact, never show affection, in fact it would be best if "someone more qualified" were to raise him. You mean an institution, doc? He hummed and hawed, they're not what you think, much better these days, but yeah, that's what he meant. I thanked him for his time, told him I had much more faith in my son than he did, and marched out the door. My son will be 35 this year. Won an award for Most Improved Student at school, a bowling champ, loves video games, Star Wars, Disney, drawing, makes jokes all the time, and has generally made everyone in his life into better humans for just knowing him. Take that, doc!
oktopus 3 years ago
One thing I realised from raising my son is that while neither I or my wife are qualified child experts, we are the world's leading experts on that particular child, and though he quite often doesn't fit into whatever charts the actual child experts are using, it doesn't really matter if he's not doing X by the age of Y, as long as he is making progress. Which he does, just at his own pace. And once he starts doing something, it's fine.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Not my story but I love it: a young aspiring musician was told by his horrible stepmother that he'd end up a school janitor "playing for the rats in the basement!". He wrote a "screw you" song about her called "Little Miss Can't Be Wrong" and it was a massive hit. It even includes the line "I hope you heard this song and it pissed you off". That's what you get for being a jerk to an artist, fool.
KombatBunni 3 years ago
My daughter’s dad (thankfully he’s an ex) once told me I’d never do better than a job at McDonald’s..guess who now has a job paying more than his does and their own side business? Yeah this gal, and I take every opportunity to rub his dumbass face in it
Bex 3 years ago
I was over 350 lbs in my early 30's and went to get weight loss surgery. I didn't want any cutting to my stomach or intestines so I chose the lap-band. My surgeon told me I should have the bypass, as I was too fat for the lap-band and I'd never lose more than 20-25 lbs. I looked him dead in the eye and guaranteed I'd lose at least 100. Lost 115. Made sure to remind him what he said when I hit that # on the scale, lol
Vishy 3 years ago
I got married and after a week got a strange call saying that my wife had Schizophrenia and it would be better to file for a divorce. Took her to the best doctors to get her treated. Now she's the best wife I could have. It set me back really bad but it was worth every penny.
similarly 3 years ago
As an educator, it makes me furious to see teachers, professors and educational advisors telling students these kinds of things. Half the job of getting something done is believing that you can. Just remembering a student's name and showing confidence in them can have SUCH a big impact on their whole life. Taking time to walk them through the tough bits early on, believing in them. It's so important. These people stomping down the students with their arrogant little "You're not good enough" remarks ought to be fired.
Karen Lyon 3 years ago
I've been an educator for 34 years, similarly, I'm right there with you!!
Load More Replies... Chinmayee Kalghatgi 3 years ago
Depression told me that I was a loner and loser who would be dead by June. Now it’s been exactly one year and I am alive and have a huge social circle with good and trustworthy people
Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
The sad thing about these stories that is there are more stories, who could not make it, so many more people who got stomped, and become what the envious people expected from them.
Tiny Dancer 3 years ago
Our doctor was worried my 3-year-old son wasn't hitting any of his verbal goals (no talking at all, not even "Mama" or "Dada"). He had just been diagnosed as having autistic tendencies a few months before. After checking his hearing (no prob there), we were sent to the hospital for a day of testing. Hours later and the doc pulled me aside to tell me he'd never talk, never make eye contact, never show affection, in fact it would be best if "someone more qualified" were to raise him. You mean an institution, doc? He hummed and hawed, they're not what you think, much better these days, but yeah, that's what he meant. I thanked him for his time, told him I had much more faith in my son than he did, and marched out the door. My son will be 35 this year. Won an award for Most Improved Student at school, a bowling champ, loves video games, Star Wars, Disney, drawing, makes jokes all the time, and has generally made everyone in his life into better humans for just knowing him. Take that, doc!
oktopus 3 years ago
One thing I realised from raising my son is that while neither I or my wife are qualified child experts, we are the world's leading experts on that particular child, and though he quite often doesn't fit into whatever charts the actual child experts are using, it doesn't really matter if he's not doing X by the age of Y, as long as he is making progress. Which he does, just at his own pace. And once he starts doing something, it's fine.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Not my story but I love it: a young aspiring musician was told by his horrible stepmother that he'd end up a school janitor "playing for the rats in the basement!". He wrote a "screw you" song about her called "Little Miss Can't Be Wrong" and it was a massive hit. It even includes the line "I hope you heard this song and it pissed you off". That's what you get for being a jerk to an artist, fool.
KombatBunni 3 years ago
My daughter’s dad (thankfully he’s an ex) once told me I’d never do better than a job at McDonald’s..guess who now has a job paying more than his does and their own side business? Yeah this gal, and I take every opportunity to rub his dumbass face in it
Bex 3 years ago
I was over 350 lbs in my early 30's and went to get weight loss surgery. I didn't want any cutting to my stomach or intestines so I chose the lap-band. My surgeon told me I should have the bypass, as I was too fat for the lap-band and I'd never lose more than 20-25 lbs. I looked him dead in the eye and guaranteed I'd lose at least 100. Lost 115. Made sure to remind him what he said when I hit that # on the scale, lol
Vishy 3 years ago
I got married and after a week got a strange call saying that my wife had Schizophrenia and it would be better to file for a divorce. Took her to the best doctors to get her treated. Now she's the best wife I could have. It set me back really bad but it was worth every penny.
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