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We all live in a world governed by rules, common sense and socially acceptable norms. The latter ones refer to things that are generally viewed by the members of our society as being appropriate to engage in.

Although societal norms often vary from culture to culture, that doesn’t mean some of the generally accepted things are not to be questioned. With times changing, some of them feel outdated or raise more questions than they have answers.

This illuminating thread asked people to weigh in and list the things that are “socially acceptable but you can’t help but think ‘why?’” Below are some of the most illuminating responses, so scroll down!

#1

People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Beauty pageants for children.

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Karl Baxter
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt that anyone outside of the US thinks this is anything but creepy

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“Being within a community, we are relatively conformist,” Dr Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now," "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” told Bored Panda in an interview.

According to Dr Tang, this is nothing new and much of this collective approach can be traced back to the dawn of civilization. She calls it “a hangover from our past as a collective.” Dr Tang explained: “It was safer for the community to sleep at the same time because it meant that no one was sneaking into your cave to steal your stuff.”

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    #2

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Rich megachurch pastors.

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    Daniel Yamada
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." - Matthew 6:19-21

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    #3

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Abuse towards men, it’s still laughed at when a man says it happened to him.

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    #4

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Texting while driving doesn’t get enough hate.

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    Antz Online
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they can't walk and text without tripping or hitting a pole, yet think they can drive and text

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    Moreover, we have a fundamental drive to be part of a group. “We have always been safer together, and inclusion – even if you are near the bottom of the pack – still means you are part of something bigger.”

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    Dr Tang argues that "social norms" are the cultures, behaviors and expectations which make up society. “They can differ from community to community, but in many ways, adherence allows us to know where we fit within our group.”

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    She continued: “When we live in a society with others (and this is evident in the animal kingdom), we tend to understand our ‘place’ in the pack through acknowledging ourselves in comparison to others – with the goal being access to resources. In humans, we are fighting less over a perceived scarcity of food and water, but (especially in the social media world) a need for acknowledgment and validation.”

    #5

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Pockets in female clothing… I am a male. My daughters cannot understand why there is fake pockets in all womenswear.

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    Na Schi
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS! This everytime annoyes the fûck out of me! This can literally ruin any shopping experience. So thank god for internet shopping and filter functions. I completely stopped to buy brands/designs that doesn't allow women to have pockets or only provide pixie-pockets that are smaller than the one in a toddler's sweat pants.

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    #6

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Gender reveals.

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    Red rockin lobster
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man, this is annoying. It's interesting only for you and eventually the grandparents but the joy would be the same also by telling them over the phone, over dinner etc. Seriously, nobody cares.

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    #7

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Posting EVERY minute of your life on social media.

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    October
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wachting all that mundane c**p from a random stranger is even weirder

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    Dr Tang also claims that building self-esteem has focused on appreciating the self but often in comparison to others “(e.g. I didn’t win… but at least I didn’t come last).” She added that “While in many ways this was more important historically where there was more of a 'fight' for resources, the 'competition' has now moved to social media and 'likes' - and as such this may now also play a huge part in what is acceptable.”

    #8

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working while sick. This expectation needs to stop. Being expected to work while sick doesn't make a good employee, it makes a bad employer. That's saying nothing of how this expectation leads to the rest of the employees getting sick too. There was a reason everyone at my previous job called the place the petri dish, if one person got sick literally everyone else would too because you either worked or went to the unemployment line.

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    Mayra
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to work in a casino kitchen, we were never allowed to go home if we were sick … you have no idea what goes on in kitchens until you’ve worked in one

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    #9

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People asking couples when are they going to make baby.

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    Destiney Haddox
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I embarrass them by saying something like "oh so you are thinking of us having sex, hu? You weirdo!" Freaks them out enough to stop talking about it. Then if they get persistent I say I hate kids, even though I really don't.

    Blazej Kowalczyk
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can also try saying that you are trying but you cannot conceive. Extra points if you can cry on demand.

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    Tania Gunn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    100% i am now totally upfront and say i would love too but 5 miscarriages and 16 ivf transfers it is not going to happen for us.... that usually shuts them up

    Chaya Herrebrugh-Wachtmeester
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. Not as many tries as you, but after 9 miscarriages I had a full hysterectomy. It is not possible anymore. I usually say: oh, you are offering yourself as a surrogate to carry our baby for us for free and at your own expense?

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    loty moty
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are a lot of potentially awkward personal questions out there. When are you going to get a girlfriend/boyfriend? When are you getting married? Are you thinking about buying a house and settling down? Etc. etc.

    Gin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never stops as well. Now I'm past child bearing age I get asked 'why didn't I have children?'.

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    Ducki
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my community this was considered rude, because it's basically like asking them "When are you guys gonna f*ck?"

    Antz Online
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    especially on their wedding day!!!

    Randolph Croft
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My best friend, while married, survived 6 miscarriages. During that time, they, as a couple were often asked, when older, 'Do you have any children?' and my friend, angered by this time, replied 'None that lived.' That shut up the room, usually.

    James016
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We had this when we first got married. We said "never" and "when you stop asking"

    Beck
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My 25 year old daughter told me 2 days ago that she wanted to have a hysterectomy because she just does not want kids. I am ok with that.

    ScarletRos
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would add asking when someone is going to have another child after having one. I have one child, that’s enough for me! In his first few years of life everyone would ask “when are you having another one? He needs a brother or sister!” I was like no, never, get lost.

    Premislaus de Colo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember when my already ex FIL asked at a family dinner why me and my ex-wife still don't have any children (after 4 years of marriage). I replied: "I have no idea, I f*ck your daughter regularly..."

    Zena Marsh
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would probably say, "Why, do you want to adopt it?"

    girlsrock4ever
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe they can't have kids? Maybe they were abused as a child and don't want the cycle of abuse to continue? Or they just don't want kids? You don't know what's happening in their life. Don't ask questions like this.

    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make a baby? How do we do that exactly? Let me get a notepad.

    Buren
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My death glare is socially acceptable too for this case

    El Dee
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, mind your own business people..

    Chris K
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes!!! My grandmother would always ask when I was going to meet a girl and have babies. In my head it would translate to my actual grandmother is asking when I'm going to meet a girl and f*ck her. Wth. This was 30 years ago... Today I'd be able to answer... Well grandma, I met the GUY and we've been trying for that baby every single day... Sometimes twice.

    Bria Hammonds
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I gave the church ladies the good ole “oh haven’t you heard? We had one and sold it on the black market, they go for sooo much money.” Never had an issue after that. (Sarcasm)

    somed ay
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to tell people, "I'm not allowed." That stopped inquiries dead.

    Greengrass
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do people actually ask that? How jaw droppingly rude!

    sofacushionfort
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just answer "how is babby formed? How girl get pragnent?"

    Scott Crowe
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favorite response was that the only sound of "pitter-patter" you'll ever hear in my house is from a new Harley idling in the garage that I bought with the money I save from not having kids. My mom used to get so pissed at me !!!!

    MJ
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. My husband and i tried three years, i went to several doctors appointments, had a miscarriage and cried lots of tears before I finally got pregnant with our little girl. One of my friends had FIVE miscarriages, lots of appointments and tests, and lots of tears and frustration before they finally had a pregnancy that was successful. Another friend and her husband had to deal with a still-birth. People have no business saying this because they have no idea what that couple might be going through, and how much pain that stupid question could cause.

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Our default answer is "can't get pregnant the way we do it"

    Andrea
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS! It hurts the people who can't get pregnant, or just had a miscarriage even more. JUST SHUT UP AVOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FAMILY PLANNING!

    Wilbur Yeenusky
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a gay man, this is quite annoying

    idrow1
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Oh, we're just practicing at the moment, but you'll be the first to know if we go raw!"

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, people asking when you're going to get married, get a BF/GF, etc. Butt out of other people's private lives. If they want to share with you, they will.

    Clay Tom
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's even worse I'm in my early 40's my youngest is 16 years old. I have people/friends all the time come up having there first at the same age asking wife and I if we are going to have more kids all the time! I have gotten to the point I tell them heck NO! If you started a 1 million mile race and had two miles left would you want to go back to the first mile? No! It's nice being older having money kids that can take care of themselves so wife and I can go on trip and cruises. Having kids young also military and law enforcement did not allow me to do these things I can do now.

    Dana Bragg
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family does this to me all the time, I'm single. What do they want me to do, kidnap one? 🤦

    Emma Brown
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I fell pregnant naturally first time, we tried for another but due to past trauma complications it didn't happen. 8 years later we were lucky enough to be able to afford IVF, I got depressed as the first 3 cycles failed, I honestly got sick of people telling me to be grateful I had one already. I was grateful but it was my choice and right to want/have a second. I did eventually succeed with twin boys on my 4th cycle but sadly I lost one of my boys at 23 weeks, because of my gestation size I got sick of people commenting "oh you're huge, you must have a huge baby".

    Brian Droste
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me it's really nobody business. Especially if it just a acquiantance. Probably be rude but should tell then it's none of their business.

    egracec
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's isn't just for couples though. I was at a baby shower held after the little one had been born and while holding her was asked when I'm having one of my own. I gave the same answer as ever....all my children have four feet and fur and that's not changing. Made me very glad I got to leave early to head back to work since I was just on lunch.

    DrBronxx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS! My wife is finally pregnant after years of trying, and it was a terrible struggle. Until a few months ago, asking us when we were going to have a baby was like a knife in the heart, and my wife had a few breakdowns as a result.

    Carol Aguilar
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is so insensitive. Maybe they can't, or maybe they don't want to! Just shut up about it!

    Lee Henderson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never wanted children. When my friends started breeding, and sending baby announcement cards, I countered with kitty announcement cards whenever I got a new cat.

    Rebecca Vestal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a very personal question that should only be discussed between the married couple

    renee barnes
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or asking people when are you going to get married, why are you single?, I am so glad I'm older now and finally people stop asking

    Jared Hoover
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You would think being gay would absolve you of this but no I still have family members coming up to me saying "you know adoption/artificial insemination is a thing right?" Like yeah I know but I still don't want any f***ing kids...

    Elio
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're gay then you can just say you don't know why you and your same-sex partner can't make a baby, it's such a mystery. Stealth "your mom" jokes are good too, like saying "but your mom said she didn't want more kids".

    Raimei Ai
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah....I was 14 the first time my parents asked me when I was planning to start saving for a baby... Like...wut? I was working cleaning apartments for my grandpa's neighbors at 8 bucks a job at that time... For 3 people a month... Yeah. Kuz 24 a month is worth anything... And I had only been dating for 1 week at that time... Relationsh*t ended after 3 weeks... Idiot was a total tool!

    Porpoisepower
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or as a friend of mine termed it... Goal Oriented F#@&$-@#

    Vicki Noe
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cousin shut Grandma up by saying "I'll gladly give you grandkids, but I'm not marrying the girl." My go-to line is "I love kids......grilled, with garlic butter and taragon."

    Niki A
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or my fave, "Oh, you know how that happened, right?" when you are pregnant. No, tell me in detail and pull out the charts!

    Nicole Douglas
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This and I would like to extend it by adding not to ask when their baby is in the NICU. How can I be thinking about having another when my first is still not home with me!

    Whitefox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in a hospital. We are allowed 3 sick calls in a 12 month period.

    Glen Ellyn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Why would you ask such a personal questions?' is a good response.

    Bored Seb
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's start asking "when are you going to stop making babies"

    Kitten Dog Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son and his wife mentioned adopting, and I told them a baby is a baby and a child is a child, I would still be Nana and love it to bits. But they surprised me with a grand-dog-er. She is a beautiful puppy. Still Nana!!!!!😁

    Lorie Shewbridge
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have friends that have been married 29 years and have no kids, I think their family has FINALLY stopped asking them. 😉

    SAF saf
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    people? i've never heard a dude legitimately ask that to another couple.

    Thatkamloopsguy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We bought the clay the other day so pretty soon.

    Michael Parsons
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Juts say "We're practicing a lot so we're ready when that time comes."

    Erin Ward
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been married 22 years and people still tell me I'll change my mind! Dogs are the only grandkids you're getting people!

    Amber Gray
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pushing the idea that the child isn't yours if the child wasn't born by me so can't have a baby I understand that sucks but maybe cuz you meant to adopt one and it's not like we don't have a shortage of kids that need adopting.

    L hill
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont want them unless you ever hear of someone pooping them out.

    litutje
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister in law did that. I always told her: well we want it to be a surprise. But it's clear to me that you are stil expecting it. So we will wait a couple more years.

    CP
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't socially acceptable.

    Valden
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Getting old enough to no longer be asked that question is a bonus to aging. I can count the number of side glances people have given my wife when she would say she did not want children. The side glances would be towards me like is he OK with it?

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    #10

    People listening to loud music on their phone in public transports without headphone.

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    Dr Tang argues that we often feel fear of judgment because of a tendency to live our life according to a series of ‘shoulds.’Although if you ask anyone, they are likely not to be able to tell you where their rules came from.

    “For example, who said that ‘women should be caring and nurturing?’; who said that ‘men shouldn’t cry?’ Who said that we should/shouldn’t be a certain weight/size/shape, etc.” Dr Tang added: “and more importantly, is anyone still saying it?!”

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    #11

    Bullying people for not drinking alcohol in social situations

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    James016
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had some snide comments when I first stopped drinking alcohol. Its very easy to shut it down.

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    #12

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Assuming a childfree woman in the family will babysit your kid whenever you want to go out.

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had this. Dumping kids at Aunty Caro's house and Byeeeeee. Happened one time too many and I made it clear that I too (gasp) have a life and want to do things outside my work. I loved babysitting my nieces and nephews but the parents had to book in advance.

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    #13

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Unpaid internship for students. A poor student can't afford the costs that go along with the internship.

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    Destiney Haddox
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unpaid internships are meant to teach the student but many companies take advantage and make them do work for free. It's actually illegal to have your intern do any work that contributes to the income or business services, that's why they get coffee in many movies and pop culture. People need to know their rights as an intern and report companies that take advantage and have their intern making the company money.

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    Nonetheless, it is often easier to simply conform. “And there results an unconscious lesson – shout long enough and loud enough and people may go along with you to shut you up.”Moreover, a lot of our beliefs are imposed unconsciously through the stories we watch in the media, in our culture, in our families and in our overall experience, Dr Tang argues.

    #14

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Those baby/children’s clothes with sayings like “future heartbreaker” or “does this shirt make me look fat?” Why?

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    Biliegh Berrie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never allowed my kids to dress beyond their years or my daughter in inappropriate clothing. I never understood parents who put their 5 year old daughters in daisy dukes and half shirts. Or any kind of clothing like it.

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    #15

    Not using your turn signal while driving.

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    Na Schi
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get the feeling that this is on the rise in my country. And additionally to this also a lot of people seem to have forgotten even the basic traffic rules after two years of a pandemic.

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    #16

    Asking a women when she is going to marry and why doesn't she have a boyfriend. Asking a couple when they are going to have kids. There are a lot of couples that can't get pregnant and asking that is like rubbing the wound with salt

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    Mama Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was single and was asked why I didn't have a boyfriend I told them I had a shower head I didn't need one

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    “Sometimes, especially when we have so much going on, we don’t have time to stop and think – we don’t always appreciate that some of our beliefs about what we ‘should/shouldn’t’ do are not necessarily healthy.” One thing we can do is ask ourselves, Dr Tang suggests, “How would I feel if I didn’t have that thought (i.e. about the other person judging me)?” and then behave accordingly.

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    #17

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Using speakerphone in public places. Or having loud (should be private) conversations in public like everyone wants to hear. I was just waiting at the social security office and EVERYONE in there overheard this woman helping this man, I’m assuming her man?, fill out his paperwork. She was shouting questions like “do you have any mental disabilities?” “Do you take medication?” Lady, no one thinks that’s cool.

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    Daniel Yamada
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't assume people are just rude. If I get a call, I have to put it on speaker because I am hard of hearing.

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    #18

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Driving after drinking at all. You are operating a 2-ton murder mobile. Please give the road your full attention.

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    #19

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial How we have become so okay with so much consumption just for the sake of it. Black Friday deals, "sales", new phone upgrades every year. It's all so weird. Also working for 80000hrs of our lives is pretty weird too.

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    Sinkvenice
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In 2008, there was an enormous queue of people outside a branch of Walmart for Black Friday. When the security guard unlocked the door to let everyone in, they barged through the doors and he died due to the stampede. People were literally running and stomping on his dead body. That's utter insanity. Such an extreme and scary case of "pack" behaviour.

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    When we are at odds with others, it is common to feel guilt. “Related to this is our self-esteem – which (unlike self compassion) is developed in comparison to others – if we see we are doing better, we feel better about ourselves.”

    Dr Tang explained that “when we hear differing opinions, yes, the opinion itself may make us angry, but it causes us to question our own foundations, and unconsciously, our position in our own world… if someone else is different… could they end up being more 'powerful' (or at least get more access to the resources I want)?”

    #20

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Saying that your child is going to break so many hearts when they are older or saying to the mother to "save him for me" as a joke. Just sexualising children in anyway especially when they are far too young to understand and begin to learn that its ok to grab a womans tits because when you did it your parents laughed and encouraged you when you were younger. Its gross.

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    Daniel Yamada
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, a woman can do this and get away with it. If a man does it, he could end up in the back seat of a police car or get beat up by whoever happens to hear him.

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    #21

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Off leash badly trained dogs in public parks where others are trying to enjoy a picnic.

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    #22

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Honking your horn while in traffic. What do you want me to do, drive through the cars blocking the road? These people are morons.

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    troufaki13
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe they think they have a magic horn that when you honk it, it will make the obstacle ahead disappear!

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    What’s unfortunate, according to Dr Tang, is the common behavior, rather than to show acceptance of difference, to try to negate that of the other. “It is the act of ‘normative idealization’ – what I do is normal, what you do is odd (it makes our own ego feel better); or we might alternatively just be picking on others to avoid thinking about our own problems – and something which makes them 'different' is an easy target.”

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    Sometimes it means by bringing someone down (rather than working to raise ourselves up), we feel better about ourselves, Dr Tang explained, and don’t need to admit we need to do something about our own insecurities.

    #23

    Telling a young person that they’ll change their mind eventually when they say they have no interest in ever getting married. Also telling someone they’ll want kids eventually even if they’re adamant about never having kids. Case in point, I would very much prefer to have two cats that I can love and pamper and cuddle with than a husband or wife. I refuse to give birth, I refuse to be pregnant, if it ever happens, I am getting an abortion. If I ever have kids, it’ll be through foster or adoption and it’ll only happen if I become moderately wealthy and can give those kids a good life, if not? My cats will be close enough to kids anyway.

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    Ducki
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone in my family asks me this! "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US OUR GRANDBABY" I'm only 17 bro I'm not ready or planning for that yet 😭

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    #24

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Full grown adults dating barely "legal" teens.

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    D. Pitbull
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh.... It depends on the situation... 48 year old person who has been "waiting" for the teen's 18th birthday, starts RIGHT in on them on that day - because hey, now it's legal! ... still gives me pause. 23 year old dating a 19 year old? Meh. Normal.

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    #25

    Kids having social media accounts

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    Greg Williams
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on the social media, are you letting them watch some fun YouTube videos, talk to their friends on discord, or is it Snapchat and Instagram. Not all are blanketly bad, bur most of the image sharing ones are

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    #26

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial People smashing other people's face into cake when it's their birthday, or when newly weds are sharing a cake and they smear the cake onto their SO's face in the ceremony. Just, why? Not everyone thinks it's a fun, quirky thing to do, it ruins whatever makeup they're using, and most of the time I see it, the people with cake on their face gets pretty mad over it, and I think they're justified

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    Mayra
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Professional frostitute here 🙋‍♀️ I have to tell my customers not to do this with my cakes as I dowel my cakes so they stay in place…you don’t want your loved one with a stick shoved into their eye

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    #27

    Untrained 'emotional support' animals. I’m all for service animals, but some people abuse the concept and just make sh*t up.

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    James016
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll have you know my emotional support gibbon has got me through some hard times

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    #28

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Touching pregnant people's stomachs. If I ever become pregnant and some rando decides that they can just start rubbing my stomach without asking then you bet I'm gonna be rubbing their stomach back

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    Judit Turi
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aaaand also... nobody dare to rub your SO's crotch, like "Good job,mate !"

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    #29

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Being on your phone when having a conversation.

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    #30

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Working 40+ hours a week for someone else for most of your adult life only to maybe get 10 years to enjoy life when you may be too old to enjoy it anymore

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    phil blanque
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whatever "dream" job we might imagine, it will never be wonderful all of the time. Clearly there are many people in the world without the means or options to choose their work, but there are many who can choose. By making the best choice and making the best of that choice, it is then a matter of attitude and perspective to enjoy the best parts and make it through the worst.

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    #31

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Not wearing a seatbelt. BACKSEAT TOO. Let me tell you a story. We had a girl in our house, basically a medical foster placement. Your typical 4-5 yo before her ‘incident’. Her family was going somewhere together, mom and grandma (I think) and they strapped her into the kid seat. But didn’t strap the kid seat into the seat of the car. Head on collision, and this little girl (+kid seat)is sent *through* the dash board. Can’t walk, talk, feed herself, be a 5 yo. Had a chunk of her skull smashed to bits, repaired, removed again because of an infection, and a plate added. Ffs people. Wear your damn seatbelts. You become a potential projectile for the other people in the car too. No one is safe.

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    #32

    Going to get crucified for this but getting drunk. I don't have a problem with drinking alcohol but the way people talk about how drunk they got with immense pride always baffled me. Also the fact that it's completely legal along with cigarettes when other things aren't is moronic.

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    Peej Maybe
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a culture where I live. If you don't go out every weekend and get drunk, you're seen as socially inept by your colleagues. Personally I'd rather spend a whole bunch of money on something that gives me pleasure and is tangible, rather than something I'm going to pee out or throw up copiously while feeling like death warmed up

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    #33

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Customer entitlement in retail. Returns culture. Posting bad reviews before trying to understand what actually went wrong when it comes to meeting their expectations.

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    Rachel w
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is mostly, and sadly, an American thing. It's because, for some dumb reason we have encouraged the phrase"the customer is always right". Which has led to entitled a*s customers who can never, ever, be wrong no matter how horrible or wrong they are. It's honestly our own fault.

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    #34

    Being viewed as a failure if you don’t enter into a relationship, get married and/or have kids.

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    Ducki
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this. Every year of my life, I got straight A's and A+'s with almost no fail, am working on computer programming, never got glued to devices, won a lot of school awards...yet my parents still sorta hate me and threaten to disown me cause I'm NB and never want kids. Did I do that for nothing bruh 😭

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    #35

    Giving up so much private data to companies without the option not to.

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    Elliot Fowler
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand how shitty that is but it really is the main reason most of the internet is free. Imagine if you had to pay for every website you visit

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    #36

    Oversharing everything and everywhere your kids or babies are. Like putting full names, tagging their school/frequented play areas, interests, etc. Friends and family ain’t the only people looking at this stuff.

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    Mama Panda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The good way for predators and pedophiles to find out more about your children and possibly abduct them.

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    #37

    Taking pictures of strangers without permission when the context isn’t justified, especially covertly (bonus points if the person does it for the purposes of sharing/posting it). Am I the only one that thinks it is weird and creepy?

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    Beeps
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s even worse when people mention that this is a problem and others then start justifying it. I’ve seen so many comments where people start preaching about “if you’re in a public space you’ll have to accept blah, blah, blah, if you don’t like it stay at home, blah, blah…” Why on earth would you defend something like this?

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    #38

    grabbing people’s wheelchairs and pushing them without being asked or asking consent. pushing people around is rude as f**k and bullying behaviour, but if someone is on wheels suddenly it’s fine? no. don’t touch the chair

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    tara
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    oh my lord, who would EVER think that is okay? Someones toes need run over..........

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    #39

    Strangers touching all over babies. Pinching cheeks, picking them up and kissing them. I’ve had people come up to me at a store and open up her car seat cover to see her. And I’ve had people that know my mom (strangers to me) come up and kiss her and pinch her cheeks and pass her around when she was just a little infant. None of them cleaning their hands either. I enjoy seeing people that I know holding and loving on my child but at least ask especially if you are a stranger.

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    Beeps
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plus the constant need to overstimulate them. Had this at work, colleague brings in her new baby who is lying in its pram, totally calm and just peacefully looking around, enjoying being chill, when another colleague comes along and has to start tickling and groping the baby, making loads of silly noises and daft exaggerated faces. Why??? The poor mite was just totally happy and chill and now they’re all wound up and have been needlessly disturbed from their rest.

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    #40

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Family YouTube channels, honestly they start really sweet and all but it progressively gets worse when money gets involved.

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    Mohsie Supposie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can make them do pretty much what you want if you post enough comments!

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    #41

    People casually talking negatively about an unattractive/ugly person in their vicinity and the people they are with never call them out on it and will go along with them. As an ugly woman this constantly happens to me.

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    Brooklynn Jackson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You may consider yourself ugly, but to some, you are pretty af. Besides, do looks really matter ? I know it is cliché but it is the truth! If people can't see that, they're hopeless. Love you!

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    #42

    Stomping cigarette butts out on the ground.

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    Steal
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a former smoker of many many years. I would ALWAYS roll out the rest of the tobacco from the butt when I was done smoking and put the extinguished butt in the trash so as not to litter or cause a fire. I liked to call it "responsible smoking".

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    #43

    People Are Sharing Things That Shouldn't Be Socially Acceptable In 2022, And Some Are Controversial Companies calling your phone without your consent. We're just lucky thet there isn't a market big enough that you'd have to check who's calling every 5 minutes.

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    BadCat
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was once called by a payday loan business asking if I was okay because they hadn't seen me in months XD. I told them if I wasn't okay with money I would be making an appearance. LOL

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    #44

    Going "above and beyond" with no return in terms of work ethic.

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    #45

    Bringing a baby to an R-RATED MOVIE. Why?

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    Rachel w
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because they literally will have zero memory of it ever.... But also bring a baby to any public function or place where people are trying to enjoy something without a possible screaming or crying child is a d**k move.

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    #46

    Needing to be in contact 24/7 in order to show interest in someone you’re dating

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    #47

    Not knowing how to cook, prepare or pack food for yourself.

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    Na Schi
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have the feeling that this gets a little bit better, especially regarding the male part of society. I remember that my father never evolved further than making sandwiches, scrambled eggs or spaghetti (with ketchup), like a lot of my friends fathers. (Okay putting meat on a grill/bbq is a different topic). However my male friends almost all c**k with passion.

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    #48

    Lawns. They're unnatural, useless and need too much water.

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    Psycho Cat
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unnatural? I don't get this one. I have a lawn in front of my house, with some flowers and small trees, never water it.

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