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There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.

Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.

Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.

Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.

However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will

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To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.

"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.

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With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.

The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").

The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.

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Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.

However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.

"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."

And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.

"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, but you're not ruining HER wedding pictures, you're ruining something that the couple/their families paid good money for. As we've all learned from the countless wedding entries here, you can't control what your guests do. Please don't mess up pictures that will (hopefully) be cherished memories for a lifetime.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally. If I had been the bride I would have totally had MY wedding pictures fixed because I am the customer. Sorry for my guest being mean to you, but is not my fault and you should have told me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would have been cooler if they could have edited her out all together or always taken a very bad shot of her

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember a somewhat similar story. The photographer made everyone's teeth a little whiter in all the pictures, except for the person he/she hated. Quite a dedication.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She may have, but the bride and groom who hired him and whose wedding photos he ruined, did not. And the photographer, whose business lives or dies by reputation, will probably regret his little act of revenge.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i hope that no other Wedding Couple will hire you, after reading this unprofessional Post. youre a shame as a Photgrapher.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my stepson was 15 he was disrespectful to his mother, my wife. He was a big fan of M and M. This was when Napster was still going strong. He had downloaded many of his songs, and IMO they were disrespectful of his mom at times. I got into his Napster account and edited into strategic places a clip of Denis Leary's song "I'm an a**hole. The clip said " because I'm an a**hole". Napster didn't allow editing files, apparently they were scanned and then banned his account (I just wanted him to hear them, but it was an unexpected bonus). I told him when he was 25. He just laughed and said "I wondered what happened".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The are certain people l go out of my way Not to p**s off, but at the same time l feel for the photographer BC basic courtesy and manners should always be used for Everyone.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

thats pretty unprofessional. you was pretty sure paid for this, so swallow it and do your damn job. you just ruined the Wedding Pictures you were paid for. and it was not even the Wedding Couple who was rude to you, just some random Guest. i hope they didnt pay you and i hope you didnt got any job afterwards, if you keep doing this.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A good reason to not mess with a professional photographer, other two you don't mess with are you're barber/hair dresser, waiter or waitress.

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While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.

"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cute idea, I'll do the same! *remembers that she has never been asked out* Oh... 😐

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The company I worked for supplied free vend coffee machines. I put fake price stickers on the machines. It went ballistic. HR had to put out an Email assuring everyone it was somebodies idea of a joke. I think I got away with it.

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There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good thinking, can't have somebody with a different opinion than yourself can you? Sarcasm alert.

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