30 Anonymously Shared Secrets That People Wouldn’t Dare To Confess In Real Life
All of us, no matter how kind and open we are, keep secrets from even our nearest and dearest. These are things that we’d feel uncomfortable opening up about even to our closest family members and most trustworthy friends. However, anonymity can help. If you’re feeling guilty or ashamed of something you’ve done in your past, opening up to strangers can help free you of that burden. At least, in part.
That’s where the r/confession subreddit comes in. A massively popular online community with nearly 5.3 million members, it is a safe place for everyone to “admit your wrongdoings, acknowledge your guilt, and alleviate your conscience.” Here, everyone’s encouraged to be kind and courteous to one another. We’ve collected some of the darkest secrets from the sub and other similar communities around the net about the things that people deeply regret doing. You’ll find their stories as you scroll down.
We wanted to figure out why people feel better when they confess their secrets and wrongdoings, so we asked Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., to shed some light on this. Read on for Bored Panda's interview with Dr. Bonior, the host of the mental health advice podcast ‘Baggage Check’ and the bestselling author of ‘Detox Your Thoughts.’
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I tell everyone the reason I do beekeeping as a hobby is because I want the honey and to help prevent colony collapse. The real reason I started to is because my mother is extremely allergic to them and now she won't come near my home anymore.
Dr. Bonior explained to Bored Panda why confessions make people feel better, as well as what we can do to be more empathetic toward others even if our first instinct might be to judge them.
"The idea of confessing in order to absolve yourself of something has been around, likely, since the beginning of time, and has of course been incorporated into many religious traditions. By admitting to something we are doing, it can help us feel less alone with the secret—and more accepted, even among strangers, rather than imagining that we would be cast aside and rejected because of our secret," the host of 'Baggage Check' told us.
"It helps validate that we are still acceptable as human beings, and haven't driven everyone away. It also just typically helps to put words to our own experiences and feelings, and to have someone bear witness to something difficult—which is part of why therapy can be so helpful."
I Slapped A Child In The Face And Then Shoved Him Off His Scooter. I'm 25
So I have a beloved kitty named pixy. She was around 4 when I found her on the street. She had a rubber band tightened on half her tail. I spent 2 weeks feeding her until she was comfortable enough to let me near her, she didn't trust anyone. I took her in, cleaned her up, and got the dead portion of her tail amputated.
After 5 years, she finally warmed up to people and she became so sweet and friendly. It took her years to be comfortable around strangers. Last month, she was out for her daily stroll around the neighborhood and immediately came back in through the kitty door 20 minutes later. Usually she is out and about for 2-3 hours. She had 2 small holes in her chest, and one near her butt. She was completely frightened and was crying/meowing, she wouldn't even let me go near her for the first 5 minutes. I knew for certain that she was shot with metal bb's.
I take her in my car and start driving to the vet, but took a quick detour around the neighborhood, I was going to take the long way to see if I could find the culprit. Sure enough I see a kid on a scooter standing on his driveway, with a Co2 powered bb gun, aiming in the drainage cavity by the sidewalk. I see cats in there all the time. It was then I knew who the culprit was.
I parked the car, got out, walked over to him and said "I'm telling your parents that you are shooting cats." He replied "they are pests, they told me I could." The smug little look on his face threw me over the edge, I slapped the f*ck outta this b**ch, and kick swept his legs out from under him and watched him fall flat on his a*s. I then picked up his gun and smashed it on the ground. A small part of me wanted to finish him off with a stomach kick for good measure, but I'm f**king 25 so I looked both ways before crossing the street, and f*cking bolted. As I hopped in my car and sped away, I heard him shrieking in the distance.
My kitty was treated, and is doing OK. She is a lot more skittish and spends less time outside.
Edit: in case your wondering, I'm pretty sure the cops were called. When I came back I saw a few strolling around, I was sure I was d.o.n.e. I've never been In trouble or done sh*t like this. Anyways, I drove by and literally nothing happened. It's been a month I think I'm good.
I Photoshop Every Photo Of My Mom
My mom has really had a hard time the past few years. When she entered menopause she gained weight and no matter how much she works out or what diet she tries she cannot drop it.
She is a wonderful person, beautiful inside and out, but I could tell it was really taking a toll on her. So I started (lightly) photoshopping pictures I take of her before I send them to anyone or print them. I just nip a little here and there, slight reshaping. and smoothing out a few wrinkles, nothing drastic, but enough.
Since I have started this she has started acting more confidently and has stopped making negative remarks about pictures she is in. She loves being in pictures with everyone again.
It has really helped. I have not told anyone and never will.
According to Dr. Bonior, immediate judgments about other people can be "very natural." However, at the same time, we have to remember that they can be distorted and might not be valid.
"By recognizing that we only have one side of every story, and that we can't automatically assume that we'd behave a certain way in a situation we've never been in, we help remember that although we might have a knee-jerk reaction, we shouldn't necessarily let it inform our behavior," she told Bored Panda that an example of such a reaction might be saying something that is unkind.
"It also might be helpful to think of times in our life when we had our perspective widened because we didn't realize until we were in a situation just how we would behave. Finally, we can recognize that even when someone HAS made a choice we don't agree with, our reactions are often most helpful if we can meet them where they are, and try to understand what led to their decision, and gain some insight from it, rather than automatically condemning them and pushing them away."
I Trash My Coworkers Mugs And Dishes When They Leave It Soaking In The Community Sink
At work we have a kitchenette and at the end of the day, my coworkers leave their dishes/mugs filled with oatmeal and other things left to soak. We even have a sign that states “Do not leave personal belongings in the kitchenette. We are not responsible for lost items”. I stay at work pretty late so I see the night janitor come in and clean. I noticed that he goes out of his way to wash the dishes and mugs, which isn’t a part of his job (our company only contracts them to do floors and trash so it’s our responsibility to clean up after ourselves). My coworkers must have noticed too because they have since stopped doing their own dishes and has been leaving piles in the sink knowing that they will be magically washed and dried in the morning. They even make comments about the “Mexican sucker” that’s cleaning for them. This has been on going for a few weeks now and my coworkers even have the audacity to complain about water spots on their mugs. So throughout the day when I find myself alone in the kitchenette, I take an item or two and toss them out in the building hallway trash so it can’t be found. We work in a building where we share office space with other businesses and there’s no cameras so I haven’t been caught yet. A coworker asked our manager about their items being taken, but my manager just reiterated the policy. I guess I am being petty, but my coworkers are trash and I don’t feel bad.
I Give My 3 Year Old Son Counterfeit Fast Food
I save my sons Mc Donald's wrappers and happy meal boxes then reuse them by serving him microwave chicken nuggets and oven French fries in them. I even throw in ketchup packets and a little toy he'd forgotten he had to help sell the lie. He loves it. And I'm not sorry
I am a foot and a half taller than my wife. So when I take a shower I make sure to set the shower head as high as possible. Then when she gets in she can’t reach it to lower it and she has to call me in. So I get to see her naked. She has yet to realize that setting is too high for even me. Not that I can’t see her naked pretty much any time but still. It’s the little things.
The r/confession subreddit was founded all the way back in late 2008. Over the last decade and a half, it’s become one of the most popular communities on Reddit. Members of the sub are encouraged to admit to “illegal or immoral action” that they’ve committed very intentionally. Mistakes or accidents don’t count here. Moreover, you can only confess to things that you’ve personally done—you can’t talk about other people’s misdeeds.
What’s more, every poster has to express regret for what they’ve done and be as specific and concise about what happened as possible. The moderator team running the community notes that they don’t accept posts with limited context. The confessions have to be detailed and accurate.
“Confessing only the barest of snippets or most cryptic of details isn't the purpose of this sub. Understanding what you're confessing shouldn't be like pulling teeth, context is important,” they write.
I fall asleep watching my boyfriend's YouTube channel so he gets more views on his videos because it makes me happy how excited he gets about more views
I'm Dying But Haven't Told Anyone
I was diagnosed with cancer a little over two weeks ago, after a regular checkup. Turns out I have a tumour on my colon that has spread to other areas (liver and lungs so far) and will require extensive chemo and surgery for any chance to live longer than 8 months
I'm not having any treatment and I haven't told my wife because she'll only pressure me to get the treatment, which result in months of pain and suffering for a relatively small chance
Instead, I'm making sure our last few months together are filled with only happy memories. I'm starting work later and finishing earlier each day, to make her breakfast in bed and take her on dates in the evenings
My landlord I rent my workshop from has agreed to let me run my business rent free for the next 6 months, which means significantly less financial stress and I can save a lot more, so she has something to carry her over afterwards
I hope she'll forgive me for taking this path
I Hate My Brain Damaged Sister
I can't believe I am actually typing this out right now, it's making it feel very real. And before you say it, I know, I know. I am probably one of the worst human beings on this planet.
Around a year ago, my older sister (27), widowed mother of 2 boys (8) and (5) decided to, against every single warning made, get drunk as s**t and wreck her car into a rock embankment outside of our town. She was life flighted to a ICU, spent weeks in a coma and awoke in vegetative state. In the past year, she has SLOWLY began to see some progress.
Because of this accident, I was forced to quit my job, leave my friends, move across the country and back in with my parents, to help take care of her and raise my nephews. I love them dearly, but I have never wanted to have kids, especially not forced upon me like this.
She had the mind of a child now, argues about silly things, can't cook for herself, cries over everything, can't read, memory loss, partially paralyzed on her right side, has aphasia, and a LIST of other problems with me as her caregiver. She tell me how happy she is to be alive after such a bad car accident. I want to scream that I wish she would have died. Her boys are a wreck after losing their dad recently and now having a f*cked up mom. My parents are spending all of their retirement savings for her treatments. I can see the years getting shaved off my dad and mom from the stress.
I don't treat her any differently, I still tell her stories and laugh with her and do my best, but I hate the way I feel when I look at her. Did you even think about your boys when you got in your car? She is smiling and completely ignorant to the pain she has caused to my entire family. So I guess that's it. That's my confession. I have a deep dark hatred and resentment for someone I love. And I will never let her know.
Edit: I am a female btw.. and some people have said pretty horrid and cruel things and I totally get it. But I already feel pretty f*cking sh*tty about my feelings so you can't really make me feel any worse.
Everyone else. Thank you so much for the support, advice and feedback. I've read and appreciated every comment. Alot of the medical and healthcare advice I will be talking to my parents about and hopefully the financial parts of this can be helped a bit. Thanks guys, much love.
Meanwhile, the members of r/confession are asked to avoid posting about politics and relationships. They’re also encouraged to be kind and civil to one another. “If you are unable to discuss without being disrespectful, walk away,” the mods stress.
Something else that all redditors should avoid doing is accusing others of making certain stories up. “Chances are you're not in the best frame of mind to be fielding attacks on your credibility by the vast and uncaring anonymous internet. We instituted this rule to better protect our submitters and provide a more constructive rather than detractive environment,” the r/confession team explains.
“There is a large chance you think a real post is fake. No one will make real confessions if every post has some variation of ‘tHiS iS fAkE,’” they add. In short, the community is all about creating a space where everyone can reveal what they’ve done that’s been plaguing them with feelings of shame and guilt for a long time.
I Secretly Put Money In My Pants Pockets So My Husband Will Do The Laundry
I put $5 to $10 a week in my clothes. He thinks he is getting one over on me because we both have a weekly budget. He doesn't know that he is part of my budget. If I even try to do the laundry he is like "No, I got it" Worth every red cent.
This is bad. Not so much on the laundry trickery part. More on the money matters overall. You two do need to discuss this like proper adults.
My Wife Thinks I Take Our Daughter To Dancing Classes But I Actually Take Her To An MMA Gym
The dancing and MMA gym aren’t too far apart which is how we have been able to get away with it for 2 years.
My daughter loves it there and everyone is so kind to her.
Before you jump in telling me I’ve forced my daughter into being an elite fighter, over a dancer. I didn’t! At first I took her to dancing classes and she hated it, she said all the girls were already in groups of friends when she started and they wouldn’t talk to her.
So I said “screw it why don’t we both learn MMA, it’s way more useful that dancing anyway”
I can’t tell my wife about it because she hates stuff like that and there literally no reasoning with her on the subject of fighting.
Your daughter can defend herself from creeps. MMA is definutely a good life skill.
I Put My Infant Daughter In The Closet, Shut The Door And Walked Away
I'm so overwhelmed. I haven't really slept in 8 weeks. That's how old my daughter is. She's a beautiful little girl, but she screams and screams and screams. I do everything to console her. I make sure she is fed, dry, not in pain and comfortable. But she almost never stops screaming. My husband left this weekend for a business trip and I was alone with her for the first time. It was going ok this morning, but then the floodgates opened. I held her, rocked her, bounced her but nothing worked. I wanted to shake her
I'm ashamed to type this, but I wanted to shake my baby. I thought I was about to have a nervous breakdown. I was so fed up that I strapped her into her car seat, placed her in our coat closet and shut the door. She was still screaming and I shut the door on her. I set a one hour alarm, went upstairs and collapsed into my bed. I wouldn't say a slept, more like I instantly went unconscious. An hour later my alarm went off and I sprung up and ran downstairs to her. She was sleeping and no longer crying. I picked her up and held her and just started sobbing. It's too much. I'm a terrible mother. I can't handle this.
Please seek help. You are not a bad mother, you are just overwhelmed. And you may have postpartum depression. Please go talk to a doctor and ask a friend or relative to watch the baby for you so you can get some sleep.
Also. Trust your partner enough to let him know what is going on so he can help taking the baby at night. Whatever you do, don’t keep this to yourself.
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You're not a terrible mother you're a tortured one. You need sleep, you need peace, you need time out for yourself. I think you were quite conscious of the child's safety by putting her in the car seat and everything beforehand and setting the alarm. You obviously care for your baby and love her but you just needed the break.
I find what she did smart and thought I should have done it when my kids were babies.
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Always remember: you put her down. You resisted the urge to shake her. That alone tells me that, while overwhelmed, you are a good mother. That's the bottom line. Sometimes you have to put the baby down and walk away. Although next time, I wouldn't recommend the closet.
The babe wont know or care it is a closet. It was a dark and quiet space. A closet is just a small room, My son used to love the closets, he would crawl into them and fall asleep
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If it is too much, yes it’s okay to place her somewhere safe like in her crib/ playpen and let her cry. Crying won’t hurt her.Buy yourself an earplug and walk away or nap like you did. You are not a terrible mother. You need and deserve a break. And seek help.
My son had colic for like 6 months. 8 plus hours of straight screaming like he was being murdered. Would hold him all night and try anything to help. Multiple er and doctor visits. One er doctor said it was one of the worst colic cases she had seen and told me that if he's screaming he's ok and alive and to step away for a bit. I laughed and didn't think it would help. A month later after not eating, sleeping, etc for so long. One night I put him in his swing on one side of the door, closed the door, sat leaning against it and ate a breakfast bar and drank some water for 10 minutes. When I was done I went back in picked him up and held him screaming until he fell asleep. Seemed silly but it helped me get through the rest of the time, just the 10 minutes a night made a difference
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This is a safe and sane course of action. Your baby was safe. This is your job. Not something you want to do frequently, but in this case it was a responsible solution. You can also put your baby in her crib to cry. I also had a constantly crying (colicky) baby. Feeding her lactose free baby formula changed calmed her immediately. Most people are at least somewhat lactose intolerant. Turns out both of my babies were. If this doesn’t help, please talk to your pediatrician to see if there is an underlying medical reason. Hugs.
My Son was sensitive (allergic) to apples as a child. Took me months to figure that out... 90% of baby food products are apple based.
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1. This was the right thing to do. This is what they recommend for frustrated parents of babies who won't stop crying. 2. I hope OP got some help.
You kept your baby safe when you felt you could have become a threat and that's what matters. People like to act like their newborn never drove them to insanity but it's a reality. Crying babies are f***ing hard to deal with, especially if you have any kind of temper, mental health issue or anxiety. I guarantee that if you seek help, you will not regret it. Doctor, counsellor, therapist, extra support with childcare from a relative or nanny who visits for a few hours.. if you a breastfeeding, find a group in your area that gathers to feed together.. bouncing ideas and horror stories off other mums can make it all seem a little better.. something out there can help you. Baby girl is lucky that she has a smart mama. You're doing something right.
Many of these responses assume that the mum needs help- but as a mother of two autistic/ adhd girls, I can say that the crying etc can also be a sign that the child is overwhelmed. Unfortunately, testing is only possible later when milestones are/ aren't reached, and the cold can respond to testing. Also, like other responses, anxious mums can unwittingly cause babies to be anxious. In any case, time apart is important- if possible x
I think we are saying for her to get help for Post Partum Depression. Maybe look into a daycare that accepts part time students if she doesn't have family or friends who can give her a day to herself. Even trade off babysitting with a friend. They give you a day off and you give them a day off.
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When my daughter was the same age, she had coli so bad I wanted to give up. Crying all the time. A friend suggested taking her to a chiropractor. I did and I wish I new much earlier. After one single adjustment she was free of the colic. Definitely worth looking into.
Our daughter had silent reflux, it was a nightmare. Osteopathy was a game changer!
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My second child cried all of the time no matter what I did. Turned out he was born with an ear infection. He was on and off antibiotics until he was eight months old when his doctors finally agreed he was old enough to have tubes in his ears. The crying made me crazy. I would put him bed and lock myself in my bedroom. I eventually reached out for help and it made a world of a difference to my sanity.
When you reach your limit and there's no one to help...make sure the baby is ok and in a safe place and can't get hurt and step away to cool off. Go to another room and scream and cry and vent.
My first baby was a super-screamy one also. It's fifteen years ago and I haven't forgotten how hideous it was. It does get so that you just want this noise to stop, whatever, however. You haven't done anything bad. It used to be completely normal to leave babies to cry it out once their immediate needs were met, and there are whole generations of us that grew up just fine. Looking after yourself IS part of being a good parent.
I know this feeling. New mothers need to have someone to reach out to without the fear of having their baby apprehended and being scrutinized. Some places have Public Heath Nurses and other programs that have home visitors to help moms figure out baby care. They can give tips that moms may not have known. The Public Health Nurse I had detected a developmental disorder very early in my daughter's life and helped me get her the testing and assessments to determine a diagnosis. They met once or twice a week, and were concerned with my well-being, too. On a more related to OP note, I had similar issues. Teething and excess gas was always the culprit. Good to have gripe water, teething rings on the freezer and Orajel on hand.
I told my doctor I was scared I would hurt the baby because I was so overwhelmed as he would cry and cry and wouldn't sleep. I was given two bits of advice: 1: once the basic needs are met, it's OK to leave the baby in a safe safe (like a cot) and sleep. 2: Mum's who fear they are going to hurt the child are the ones who don't - but now was the time to get help. I needed quite a lot of medical intervention and therapy to deal with my post-partum anxiety but my little boy was safe and loved because whenever I felt like I was about to hurt him the doctor's words "you won't hurt him, put him in a safe place and walk away" came back to me.
The stress of parenthood needs to be a normalized thing to talk about. It's still such a taboo subject, yet we all go through it at some point.
You are NOT a bad mother. It was being a good mother to notice the fact you were struggling so much and avoid anything bad. You are human. You made sure your daughter was safe and took a nap. That was a good decision! I'm sorry you are struggling so much. It might be a good idea to talk with your doctor. NOT because you're not a good mother, but because you and/or your baby may need something.
You are NOT a terrible mother! You are exhausted and overwhelmed. It is not uncommon. Please speak to someone. You need some respite. You are a person, not a robot so you have nothing to feel bad about. Your baby was put in a safe place. It’s not as if you shook her or hit her or whatever. You put her in a safe environment while you calmed down. Sending love.
this isn't postpartum it's lack of sleep when my son was a new born I was alone with him for the first six weeks with him due to my wife having a high risk pregnancy that had complications causing her to have to stay in the hospital, so as a new father I was left with the task of having to look after our new born while I worried about my wife lucky I had some help from my MIL and my mom but there were nights when I was by myself with him overwhelmed that he wouldn't stop crying and me not sleeping I too felt this frustration of "why are you still crying please stop crying" but we got through it and my wife recovered and now my son is this happy little 5 yr old that just wants to be around me all the time it truly is amazing but very hard at first, so no you are not a bad mom you just need to ask for some help.
I had a relatively good baby, no colic, and there were still times I was absolutely at my wits' end. I remember my sister (one if the best moms I know) telling me it was okay to put him in his crib and walk away for a few minutes when I was just completely overwhelmed. Total game-changer. 10 minutes of peace to breathe, collect my thoughts, and then go back to being mommy makes one helluva difference.
You are not a bad mum! You do need a little more support. Speak to your husband and see a doctor. Try to sleep when she does. Everything seems so much worse when you are sleep deprived. Also know this stage does pass!! Big hugs xx
You aren't a bad mom, a lot of new mother's experience this same thing. The lack of sleep combined with a screeching babe can wreck havoc on your brain. Do u have a best friend or maybe your mom could come over and watch her a couple times a week while you sleep?
A terrible mother would have hurt the baby, and not care about it. An overwhelmed mother, probably dealing with post partum depression, left on her own for a whole weekend to deal with an 8 week old baby is NOT a good idea. Your husband should not have left you alone! You put your baby in a car seat, in a safe place. This was not ideal, but you still made sure she was safe. You are not a bad mom. Ask for help, it is essential. There structures specifically for moms like you. You are not alone, and help is there for you. I am a mother of a 3 yr old and a 6 weeks old by the way. I hear you
Agree with other replies. My daughter went through a couple of weeks of this screaming/crying, not too awful but unnerving at times. It made me feel helpless, etc. Then I found out she was getting severe gas. Over the counter stuff did the trick. Just maybe it's a medical issue. Call your pediatrician and stick to it until you get real answers. It's not normal baby stuff.
You kept your baby safe when you felt you could have become a threat and that's what matters. People like to act like their newborn never drove them to insanity but it's a reality. Crying babies are f***ing hard to deal with, especially if you have any kind of temper, mental health issue or anxiety. I guarantee that if you seek help, you will not regret it. Doctor, counsellor, therapist, extra support with childcare from a relative or nanny who visits for a few hours.. something out there can help you. Baby is lucky that it has a smart mama. You're doing something right.
I feel this and this was me. Not everyone has a support group or family to help watch the baby. She did the right thing. The baby was completely safe because of what she chose to ultimately do. She should consider herself smart in a chaotic situation.
Noooo. You're tired, you need help, if you wanted to shake your baby, get help from anyone you trust.
Please don't beat urself up for this. U could have gone with ur initial feelings and shook her and u didn't. I suffered terribly with post natal and would think about throwing my daughter out the window alot. I would leave her in her bed shut the door and go and sit in the garden for an hour then go back. Please get support ur not alone
I fully feel this poor mother. I have been in this very same situation (not a closet and a car seat, but a crib and 2 shut doors between me and my baby). I am happy she put her daughter in the safest possible place at that moment (probably, because she did make sure the baby was safe) and removed herself from a potentially life-threatening situation for the baby. She herself was being a potential threat. I also fully agree on getting help. But the mom did the right thing in that very instant.
You did exactly the right thing for yourself and your child. Babies don't die from crying, but they can from being shaken. It's okay to let your baby cry and walk away for a bit. If anyone wants to see something rough, there's a documentary called 'Forever Shaken' we have to watch each year at work. It's on YouTube.
Mothers leave their cubs in the den for a reason. As long as you make sure they are fed and diaper changed it does no harm, my brother didn't get this treatment and he was incapable of being alone...ever. it takes a village, drop them off at the inlaws or grandparents for a break and possibly some advice/ rest. Better to put them in a safe place than shake them like a salt shaker
I promise you what you're feeling is normal. Is it nice to have those thoughts? No! You are exhausted. Babies are exhausting. Babies with colic are the most exhausting. If you're breastfeeding, try to stop eating milk products for awhile and see if it helps. If you're formula feeding, try soy base. Consult a physician first, of course, not a stranger on the internet who has anecdotal evidence. Screaming all the time is a tell tale of colic and it happens to a lot of babies for a lot of reasons. I didn't sleep until I went lactose free and the horrible colic stopped. It's going to be ok.
Please spend a couple of minutes trying to think of a few people who would love to help you for a few hours. I know many people would, and I hope you have some of them in your life.
I was home alone with my baby a week after birth because my husband had to work out of town. So I had to cook, clean, do the laundry, on top of taking care of the baby. Everytime I feel overwhelmed I just let her cry for a few minutes in a closed bedroom (made sure she's safe) while I enjoy a cup of coffee & snack. Do what you gotta do to stay sane. I hope you get help & believe that things are getting better
You. Are. Not. A. Bad. Mother! As long as baby is safe and well, it's ok to put her down. Maybe look into buying a crib or other safe environment where you can leave her for a while, but still keep an eye on her. Also, as someone else said, tell your partner how you feel.
After ensuring baby is comfortable, fed, dry, clean, and comfortable, Strapping the baby to a car seat and leaving them alone while they scream it out is not abuse or neglect. Sometimes babies just cry, and after you have done all you can, just waiting for them to exhaust themselves and fall asleep does not make you a bad person
Why didn't you try a car ride. Also have you tried swaddling? And maybe talk to her Dr because maybe it's her formula? If bouncing doesn't work. Bouncing and peppermint works for colic. My son cried around the same time everyday ( 3 re child) my other 2 never did this. Someone said it's stress, some baby's get stressed late in day. It was summer so I took him outside and would calm down then sleep. No he didn't cry much rest of day and this only last til he was 6 weeks old, then he slept through the night. Is really be worried if I had a baby that cried all the time. Something is wrong. Had a friend of a friend find out after a month her baby had a dislocated hip is why he cried all the time. Happened at birth.
You are not terrible. As a mom of two I know what you're feeling. And this option is way better than shaking.
This is normal! She may have colic. My son had it for 4 months! I had to leave him crying for 20 minutes sometimes, too. There’s a difference between people who think about shaking the baby and those who do. I’m serious.
Oh bless you I’ve been there, completely understand that feeling. I’m finally in therapy six years too late, wish I’d sought help before but was so ashamed of what I thought was failing. I was just exhausted with an absent partner and a preemie baby who screamed constantly
My daughter was the same. She had severe behavioral problems, I never had a child before, I thought it was normal to scream endlessly until a public health nurse noticed. Tell your doctor, because endless screaming isn't normal,
sounds like my first child. I knew where all of the adoption agencies were. The doctors said it was Cholic. I am not sure - now I think it was a lactose intolerance. Taking the baby for a care ride put her to sleep. I am told putting the baby on the drier while it is running does the same thing. The vacuum noise also put her to sleep while in a front carrier. So check with the pediatrician and your doctor. My daughter is almost 40 and I spent weeks with her helping with her baby crier.
This is literally fine. She did the best thing for the baby, if she hadn't done it there's a chance she would have killed it
Sounds like both of y'all really need to go see a doctor. You probably have postpartum depression and maybe your daughter has colic.
I'm so glad you didn't shake your baby. That's something my mother did with all her babies, and it's how my TBIs began. I strongly urge you to talk with a professional because you need help. I'm also very curious what the father's role is in this relationship.
OP, needs help. She's obviously extremely tired, suffering from postpartum depression. She's not a bad mother. Baby may need help too, I was like this as a baby, I would scream the house down. It turned out I was lactose intolerant and couldn't be breastfed or have regular formula. After being switched to a lactose free formula, things did settle down a lot, or so my mother tells me.
My poor lovey, I feel for you. Please seek help, whether it's a friend, family member, or a professional. I know you feel bad, wrong, and alone now, but you are not a bad mother for feeling like this. Even taking an hour to walk outside can help, but giving yourself permission to give yourself a night elsewhere to sleep with another person in charge of the tiny human can work wonders. You have to take care of yourself in order to better enable you to take care of that little life... And know that you really, truly matter; you are not just a walking, breathing life support system for a baby.
You had reached the absolute end point of what you as a human being could handle. This is not a failure, this is a perfectly normal reaction to a stressful situation, we can only carry so much stress and exhaustion. You realised you needed a break, congratulations on recognising this, some don't and try to push through. You understood you needed to keep your baby safe and so you made her safe in a safe place and then did what was needed for yourself to be able to continue. You are not a failure. You did what all medical advice says to do when parents become overwhelmed with their babies. I repeat loudly that you have not failed your baby or yourself. Your next big important job for your baby and yourself is to speak to your husband, your family and tell them you need more from them and that you HAVE made an appointment with your dr/gp/health visitor to ask for help and support. Telling people this doesn't make you a failure it actually means you are a good mum
Cnt..... who can see past the supermum bs we are bombarded with and see it for the unrealistic pile of steaming c**p it is. Finally please know you are not the first, last or only mum going through this. If it helps, I'm typing this from my bathroom while having a 5 minute break from the 7000th why question so far today....don't panic dad is home so the mini one is perfectly safe and can pester him for a mo x
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I've definitely had to walk away from my kids before. When they were babies, l
No child ever died of crying. As bad as it sounds you did the right thing by refusing to do the very wrong thing.
This might have already been said but maybe the baby needs medical attention? Is it normal for an 8 week old infant to "scream" incessantly?
Get help, and have her checked for issues that may be causing the crying.
So sorry to hear. On top of the guilt you feel (about a completely normal feeling, in my opinion), you can’t openly talk about it especially to “enthusiastic moms”, who try to convince everybody that pregnancy, breastfeeding, and everything related to motherhood is wonderful, that you should feel happy, grateful and fulfilled all the time, an that your kind of behavior is horrible, unnatural, and that you’re a monster. This process isn’t this wonderful for all women, it is excruciating for some, and this “toxic enthusiasm “ makes it even worse. Wish I could hug you
I have never shaken or hit one of my babies. Let them scream sure. Buy a rocking chair we both could sleep in sure. My middle son had colic and stomach gas would send him into screaming fits. (Still does as an adult, but at least he doesn't scream.) I would sit in my very comfortable rocking chair, put him over my lap, and rock. And rock. And rock, gently patting his back. Most sleep we ever got in one uninterrupted stretch for 18 months. You are not a bad mom. I understand regretting taking on this child. Every mom has times and days like this.
You are definitely not a terrible Mother. We have all done things that are less then ideal as parents and beat ourselves up over it. My daughter was very similar and I swear the first 3 months nearly killed me. You need more support....your Mum? Husband? Daycare? Sisters or sisters in law? You can't give from an empty cup and you can't think straight with all that crying. I did it alone and I don't know how....but research shows that you only have to be a great parent 30% of the time and your children still thrive and have all they need to develop into well rounded adults. Be kind to yourself Mama. Nobody knows what you are going through and how hard it is for you but you <3
I had to wear my kid like a belt the 1st 8 months of her life. If I wasn't holding her she was crying. Turns out she had colic and I just had an idiot for a pediatrician. I switched to a different one, he got her on medication and boom. No more crying.
Having help for a new baby IS A MUST! modern society is f'ed up
reach out, you need help-- you are way overstressed, and may be suffering postpartum depression-
You did the exact right thing. Put the baby in a safe place. And remove yourself for a break.
Desperate times..., has she been checked out medically & maybe 🤔 you could bring in a babysitter occasionally ti get a decent sleep.
Former NICU and Pediatric nurse. There are some children who for some medical or mental reason scream unbearably. Humans are wired to go on alert to crying. We TOLD moms to check everything, try to comfort, then put the baby in safe position and walk away. We couldn't handle it for 12 hours, and you've been doing this for how long? If you were upset and an adult you care for said "I'm exhausted and overwhelmed today. Please give me a minute, need to walk away." you'd think they did a wise and mature thing. Please talk to your pediatrician and your OB/GYN about this to make sure neither (or both) of you have something treatable going on. Then ask them for coping strategies I guarantee will sound just like what you did. You instinctively did the right thing. You know why your baby fell asleep? You left her warm and safe so when she was cried out she fell asleep, knowing you love her and would be back. God bless, good mom.
Former NICU and Pediatric nurse who's taken care of babies who screamed so piercingly we put them in an isolation room and rotated in and out every 4 hrs so baby got care and love and snuggles -- and the adults could stay sane. We TOLD moms to do exactly what you did. You made sure that even when you literally couldn't stay on your feet a moment more, your baby was safe. That's love, not neglect. Please tell your pediatrician and your own doctor. You have the right idea -- not the closet, but to check on her, try to comfort her, then the car seat so she can't choke or get hurt. And you step away. Imagine you are having a discussion with an adult you love and they said "I'm sorry, I'm stressed and overwhelmed. I need a break to pull myself together for both our sakes." Isn't that a mature decision? That's why the baby fell asleep - the noise in her head stopped for a bit, she was safe and warm -- and she knew you'd be back. You're a fine mom in a hard spot. Please ask for help.
OOF I remember those days. When my husband had to go back to work after his parental leave (I was already unemployed when we got pregnant, lost my job early in the pandemic) I asked my mom and his mom to come by whenever they could. If he had to go out of town on business, I had my parents stay overnight. I know not everyone has that support system nearby, but humans did not evolve to take care of newborns alone! We are supposed to be in a community. It's NOT shameful to be overwhelmed if you have to go it alone. It's ROUGH.
Also, it's not harmful to the baby (pediatrician-approved, even!) to put the baby in a safe spot and let them cry for a while. And apparently that was what this baby needed, since she fell asleep after being put down.
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I'd take the baby to the doctor myself. That much screaming is NOT NORMAL!!
Check if she is allergic to her food (either natural or not). My daughter had the same issue and drove us crazy. Turned out she was allergic to my wife's milk. Switched to formula and she became the perfect baby.
It doesn't make you a bad mother being overwhelmed, but like a lot of the comments, I hope this person seeks some help. Postpartum depression can be very dangerous
No, I have 5 kids and you reach that point no matter who you are. I've said out loud that I would never shake a baby or hurt them, but I understand how people get there. Fed, clothed, warm, clean diaper, not in pain, you ticked all the boxes. An hour in a car seat won't hurt. The baby was going to scream and cry either way. What was done kept the baby "safe" and let mom regroup. Maybe the closet was a bit overboard, but the baby doesn't care how big the room is. Not a terrible mother. A human who needed a break.
You're not a terrible mother. I went through something similar. Not sleeping will make anyone lose their mind. Add a non stop crying to that and.... you're suffering from postpartum my dear. It's perfectly normal. Take you and the baby to a dr. Something is going on with the baby as well. They don't cry constantly like that for no reason. And it's okay to put the baby in a safe place and walk away for a moment to collect yourself. It's soooo much better than what could happen. Do you have family or close friends who could take the baby occasionally so you can get some sleep? I feel for you so much because I went through the same thing for almost 2 years before I got help.
Post pardum. Go to your doctor and tell them how you are feeling . This is extremely common andany many of us have felt this way.. no sleep, hardly eating . Trying to run life. It's overwhelming.. talk to your doctor.. it really will help you..
Feeling like you want to do something doesn't make you a bad mother, acting on it would but it wouldn't make you a bad person it would make you a person in desperate need of help. Infants do not scream like that just to scream they're telling us something is wrong I would seek medical help for her to make sure everything is ok. In this day most parents bottle feed and some of those parents prop bottles which is not only a risk but they don't realize it takes away much needed infant/mother bonding time and children who are held during those times tend to cry less. I have 3 children and my older two weren't nursed not by choice but because of circumstances. with my youngest I nursed her and noticed with holding her during nursing she never cried to be picked up or held outside of that time.
If she's screaming that much, she probably needs to be checked out. Just because mom is doing everything right doesn't mean there isn't a problem. I apparently had horrible colic as a baby. Turns out I have a connective tissue disorder that affects more than half a dozen bodily systems. The only effect that was correctly assessed before I became an adult was the mental aspect, and because that manifested as an anxiety disorder, that just solidified my parents' perception that they had been right to treat me as someone whose feelings were not to be trusted.
You are a good mum you kept her safe even when you were desperate. But ask for help Please x
My baby boy cried every moment of every day until I took him to my GP he then Immediately got a Neurologist to see him. He had fluid on the brain and it caused headaches. He had a shunt fitted and it was removed when he was 6. Sometimes it could be something medical. I one put him in the garage for about an hour, the crying really overwelmed me. Get some support. Sending you love.
Please get some help before something bad happens. You are not a terrible mother, but if you don't seek help, the situation will spiral out of control and you will end up doing something you regret.
21 years ago I did this with my first kid. She was crying so much, I hadn't slept in weeks, I was overwhelmed and had undiagnosed post partum depression. I left her safely in her crib and locked myself in the bathroom and cried for about 30-40 min. She was safe. She wasn't dying, but I wasn't sure what I would do at that moment. It was the right thing to do and I recommend any parent do this if they feel like they may lose it.
Better to walk away for a limited time than do something you will never be able to undo. It could also be that the baby is over stimulated because they fell asleep. Talk to your doctor and when anyone asks how are you, tell them you need a nap, ask if they will watch the baby so you can sleep for 90 minutes. Best gift ever for a new mom.
This was a good thing. You wanted to shake her, but you did not. You put her in a save place and got some peace. You need more time where you can rest. Are you all alone? You will not be able to go on like this. You need help! You are a good mother! :-)
You did the right thing in that moment, 100%! I went to prenatal classes and the nurses coached us to do just that - if you ever feel like you're going to snap put the baby in a safe place (crib, car seat, bassinet) and take a break. One hour is very reasonable, especially if she was clean and fed, and it's not a regular thing. My cousin was shaken as a baby, and she went from meeting all milestones to needing a caretaker for life. Yes, seek medical help and family/friend assistance. But know in that moment, you made an excellent, loving choice!
This is what professionals tell you to do if you're overwhelmed. There's nothing here to be ashamed of. As long as she's fed, diapered, and comfortable (and safe), there's nothing inherently wrong with leaving her safely buckled into her car seat for an hour. Of course, you need to tell your husband and pediatrician so they can ease the burden.
Colic....it's Colic...had one myself! Thank God someone told me or he probably wouldn't be with us! After you've done everything, strap in a baby swing and let him scream, it won't hurt him to scream and eventually they wear out and fall asleep...they grow out of it about 6 months
Give yourself a break. You put your child in a safe place, you have yourself a 'time out' and used it wisely.wjat you did any psychologist would tell you was ok. You found a way to cope
You're not a terrible mother. You are overwhelmed and frustrated and this is exactly when reinforcements need to be called in. You are aware of how badly things could go and you don't have to suffer.
Please talk to your doctor. You are not a bad mother. You love your little girl. Getting the help you need is an act of love for you and for her. You can do this.
They say that’s the best thing to do if you feel the urge to shake them. You made sure she was safe and took some time to chill and get it together. This isn’t bad!
I would just suggest not the car seat because of positional asphyxiation can happen to babies if in car seat that's not in a base maybe place the baby in a playpen or cot next time but walking away if baby is in a safe place is perfectly ok and the better option than losing it on your infant you're a good mom and bad moms never worry if they are bad moms the fact that you worry shows you care xo
You have to train children to sleep. If they cry and you respond the cycle never breaks, and both you and the child get no rest. I think in the circumstances you did the right thing. Neither of you suffered for it, in fact you both got a bit of shut eye!
This happened to me too. Out of frustration I called a nurses hotline and the first thing the nurse said was to put the baby down and walk away, even if she's crying. I would never hurt my baby, but I had no idea what to do. My daughter screamed bloody murder for hours every night no matter what. She needed a new formula and we fired it out but it was HARD. Be nicer to yourself, it won't last too much longer.
There is a parenting technique that allows for a parent to leave a child alone to cry. She did just that. She needs to seek help so that she has professionals telling her what she is feeling is normal, and what she did was also normal.
It's ok to walk away occasionally as long as they're safe. We all need a break. I had to do the same thing. It doesn't make you a bad mother! You are a good mother for recognizing that you wanted to shake her and walked away. Talk to your Dr about post partum depression. It's very real and very serious. It has to do with the massive drop in hormones. My daughter had it so bad she thought about committing suicide. Please talk to your doctor about it.
Never, never, NEVER let a child fall asleep in a car seat that is not in a car! In a car, the car seat leans backwards. If it’s not in a car, the child (especially a young child that can’t hold their head up yet) can asphyxiate because it’s head can roll forward and it’s windpipe will be blocked! Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help!
The Christians sure do ignore this issue as well the hypocrites fascists
Good job! You did exactly what you needed to do. Placed her in her car seat and walked away. I am not sure what type of closet, but even another room is ok. Having those feelings is totally common. Most parents have similar. You didn't act on them. If you have family or friends, please get support. Your husband might need to take some time off to help as well. Please go to your doctor to get screened for postpartum depression as well. You've got this!
Take her to the pediatrician and check for GERD (acid reflux). I had the same situation with my daughter and it was HORRIBLE and EXHAUSTING. A dr heard her crying and told me she needed to be checked. Once she got the medicine it was like a light switch was turned off. She was a completely happy, quiet baby. I didn’t even know you check for that. And as others have said, get help for yourself, the hormones and healing are rough enough, but the exhaustion takes out to a while other level of misery.
You are NOT a bad mother. At some point,especially in the first few months of being a mom is VERY DIFFICULT. I do think you need to get someone to come in and give you a hand when your husband isn’t home or you go out and get some help. Also need to speak to her doctor about the crying. It will get better mom.
You need to seek help for your baby as well as this can be remedied. This happened to my third child. My doctor told me that it was a good thing that he was born to me as this was a cause of child abuse, with other parents who didn’t know what to do. You will get through it with patience with both of you. Please seek help, take your child to the doctor, seek help for yourself, and you both will be OK.
my second baby cried all the time. found out she had colic, common in infants. maybe have her checked out at the doctor.
Completely normal. There is help out there. Please get it and save your sanity. Dad needs to help too
You are NOT a bad mom. Bad mom = shake the baby... Good Mom = find a way to keep baby safe. Now is the time for you to be a fantastic parent and seek some extra help. I once locked myself in the bathroom while the kids pounded on the door. I knew they were safe, but I needed to distance myself from them ( and called a friend to talk me down).
Not just a bad mother but also guilty of child neglect and child abuse.
The reason I say neglect and abuse is that at 8 weeks old a baby has no control or strength in neck muscles, so if head tips forward they can not right it and suffocate
Load More Replies... However, it’s very natural and even human to judge others for their decisions, behavior, and looks. It’s something that people do automatically, as well as consciously. Being judgmental of others has its downsides, as well as some upsides.
On one side of the fence, people judge others to feel superior, find flaws in others, and feel better about their own decisions. Others might judge others and themselves to figure out where they fit in, what results they want, what they’d rather avoid in life. Putting someone’s flaws under the microscope can help people readjust the way they live their own lives. It also helps us become more self-aware of our own decisions and how they impact the world around us.
I Sold Fake Drugs
At a party in high school i found a bottle of vitamin C pills in the bathroom and decided to tell other drunk kids that it was ecstasy and sold it to them for $20 a pill. I ended up leaving with about $200
I Made My Brother Think He Has Alopecia For The Last Fifteen Years
This is probably the pettiest thing I have ever done, and I regret it to this day. When I was fifteen years old, I got my first job and started to have some money of my own. I used my money to spoil myself and purchased nicer thing like clothes, shoes, makeup and salon brand shampoo.
My brother used to sneak into my bathroom and constantly steal my nice shampoo. He would use them and most of the time he would leave them open in the bathtub. This would result in the rest of the shampoo going down the drain and leave me with empty containers.
This drove me completely insane and I hated him for taking my things. I tried to speak with my parents about this, but they told me that I should just learn to share.
One day I went out and purchased hair removal cream. I mixed this into my shampoo bottle and left it in my bathroom. I gave him a verbal warning not to use my newly purchased bottle, but he stole it again anyway. Over the next few days his hair slowly started to fall out and small bald patches started to appear.
Seeing what I had done I immediately emptied the remaining shampoo. I felt terrible and I truly didn’t think it would have as a dramatic effect as it did. My mother took him to the doctor to get check out and they diagnosed him with Alopecia. He than had to start using this special and terrible smelling shampoo to combat this.
His hair did grow back but I just recently found out that he is still using the shampoo in order to prevent another Alopecia flair up. It has been 15 years now and I have never told my brother that I caused him to lose his hair.
I Fake An Accent At My Job
My heart is pounding writing this because I literally haven’t told anyone this. So I work at this one store, and I work on the sales floor; but before all that, I was just one person interviewing for a position at the store. Before I arrived for my interview, a friend of mine dared me to interview in a British accent. I said I’d do it only if they paid me, and to my surprise, they sent me like $10 through venmo (which was more than enough for me). I went into the interview with the mindset that I wasn’t gonna get hired and they inevitably hired me on the spot. Accent and all. I was nervous because I had already talked to a whole bunch of higher ups with the accent and decided to just go through with it -thinking it was only going to be a summer job. I was so wrong. It’s been like 7 months that I’ve been working there and I still use the accent to this day. When people ask me where I’m from I just tell them my hometown because I have several brits from that town whom I grew up with. The accent hasn’t really posed a problem until now cause my bf is friends with one of my coworkers so I’m gonna have to find the right time to come clean.. thanks for coming to my TedTalk
Though we all carry secrets with us, it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re bad people. There’s a difference between secrecy and privacy after all. It’s fine to keep some things private. However, if a secret has a huge impact on others, it’s best to opt for transparency. When in doubt, put yourself in someone else’s shoes and consider whether they would like to know the truth or not. Meanwhile, if you’re feeling guilt or shame, odds are that you’re being secretive, not private.
Rebuilding trust after sharing the truth might be hard to do, but it’s not impossible. It will take time, effort, and consistency.
I Leave Fake Parking Tickets On Cars That Deserve Real Ones
I ordered a batch of them off Amazon and leave them wherever. Sometimes if nobody is around I make an effort and fill in all the details on it to freak them out before they get to the bottom and see it's a fake.
Sometimes I just write something dumb in the comments and leave the rest blank.
I've left them on cars at my university that aren't technically illegally parked, and on cars that are parked in no parking zones at my grocery store. I especially do it when somebody is parked in a handicap spot that's not supposed to (no plate or hang-tag).
Local laws are sketchy on this, some would argue it's misrepresenting itself as official and therefore illegal, but at the bottom of them they say they're fake. So others would argue the worst they could get me on is littering if the police actually cared enough to do something.
I Stole Over $20,000 In A Very Creative Way In The 90's
I worked at a fast food chain in the 90's when I was in high school. When I worked there they were in the process of phasing out denominational gift certificates. ($5, $10 & $25) The way is worked was if you spent more than half of the certificate they gave you the cash back. So if you ordered $5.50 worth of food and gave them one of the $10 gift cards, they gave you the $4.50 back in cash. My manager was in charge of destroying all the existing certificates as we transitioned to the more traditional credit card looking gift cards.
So my manager said he shredded the certificates like he was supposed to, but one night when I was closing I found two boxes of the gift cards tucked deep in the dry storage room. They were FILLED with the certificates that were supposed to be shredded. So, I scooped them up, brought them out to the dumpster in trash bags and threw them away. After we closed, I came back and recovered the back, and brought the certificates home. I counted them. There were 1,000 $25, 1,000 $10, and 500 $5 certificates. None of them had expiration dates. Total haul was $40K in fast food certificates. My manager never said a word, he couldn't. He had reported them destroyed weeks earlier.
Over the next three years my girlfriend and I toured every location in our state, and the next 4 states ordering food, and getting the change. We never kept track on a spreadsheet or anything, but we got good at knowing what menu items were just about half.
After the first year, we started saving the change in a shoe box, and let it build up.
I bought my first car for $7,800 cash from the change. And for some reason A kiddie cone was $1.05, if you gave them a $5 cert they gave you $3.95 back. We threw away a lot of kiddie cones.
Good! I like this one. The corporation can afford it and already budgeted for every/most tickets being used.
I Posted Fake Jobs On Internet So I Could Build My Own Resume
When i was 19-20 years old I was looking for jobs and could not find any and people would tell me to build a nice resume. The problem was, I did not know how to do it so I posted fake jobs on internet and would get resumes. I used those resumes to build my own using the skills that I liked on their resumes. I could also tell who was competing with me for those jobs that I posted. I feel bad for those people that thought it was genuine and applied.
I am 33 now and have a nice job. Those resumes truly did help me build my career.
I Lied To A Blind Neighbor And Told Him I Moved Away
Many years ago, I was standing on one of my balconies when a taxi driver was obnoxiously blowing his horn out front and yelling for a blind man to "walk toward my voice" from his own townhouse. That direction was toward traffic. My roommate and I went down and helped him to the taxi and scolded the driver for being so rude. I made the mistake of giving the blind neighbor my phone number so that I could give him a ride in the future.
Then the phone calls came... and never stopped. And when I gave him a ride, he would ask for various detours. I'm very calculated by nature, if he had told me beforehand where he wanted to go, it would be cool, but no... we'd be driving along and he'd throw in 2 - 3 extra places on each ride. And it came to be every day that he wanted rides... and he'd even call me to remind me to give him a ride, not that was ever late or backed out.
Finally I had enough, so I gauged how blind he was. His response was that he was "blind as a bat". A week or two after he said that, I told him I had a job interview in the next city. A week after that, I told him I got the job and was moving away in a month. After I "moved away" It was strange as hell walking by him in silence as he stood on the sidewalk.
Tf? Of all the ways to get out of giving him rides you chose this?
I Run A Fake Restaurant On A Delivery App
I registered a company, bought all the take-away boxes from Amazon, signed up for a few delivery apps, made a few social media acounts and printed leaflets that I drop in mailboxes. I re-sell microwave meals...On some meals I add something to make them look better, like cheese. So far it’s at around £200 a day in revenue.
Nobody suspects a thing, soon someone will come for higene inspection, but I’ll pass that check without any problems. It’s not illegal to operate out of your own kitchen.
Should I feel bad? I feel kind of proud to be fair and free as a bird from the 9-5 life.
Well, you do have a business license right? And you had your county health certification right? And you have your food handlers card right? And your Serv Safe other food safety person in charge certification right? And you’re paying your taxes quarterly, yes? Do you feel anything yet? Maybe some worry after you’re sued when someone falls ill and you haven’t got insurance. You do have it right?
I Pavlov'd My Girlfriend
My ex used to use a specific shampoo and over time i noticed that every time i smell this shampoo on other people i automatically think of her and this got me planning..
For my current girlfriend, every time we got down to business i put on a cologne that i saved specifically for those times. No matter how spontaneous the action was, i found the time to put on a puff or two of this perfume secretly and then continue.
After weve been going on for couple months, i began to do tests - i put this perfume on when casually walking in the kitchen past her, and just sat down in the living room. Soon enough, after couple minutes she got here and initiated sexy times!
Now i use it ocassionally (im very careful not to overuse it so it doesnt spoil the effect) when i want to get hee going, and it works well enough :)
My favorite is putting it on before going out to a public place, and watching her get super worked up and unload at home
It's pretty obvious that a person has just sprayed on smells- I think what was actually happening is that you are signalling to her when you are interested, and she is responding to your cues.
My Boss Pissed Me Off So I'm Catfishing His Wife
My boss is generally a d*ck.
I noticed his wife (who also works at the company) came up as a recommended friend on Snapchat, I copied the user name and added her on my burner Snapchat.
After a few messages and a few fake selfies she has told me she is single and sent some damn good reveling pictures.
I feel a bit guilty now but damn she is hot.
I Added Tabasco To Wendy’s Chili And Used It To Get Second Place In A Chili Cook Off
Title basically says it all. This wasn’t a professional organized competition. There was some bmx event with a couple hundred people and they always have a chili cook off. I’m not much for cooking so I thought it would be funny to throw a bunch of Wendy’s chili in a crock pot and see if anyone noticed - they didn’t.
I’ve been a vegetarian for roughly twelve years so this was a long time ago.
I Stole A Pregnancy Test Bc I Couldn’t Afford One Today
Hi. I feel awful. Anyways long story short I only have $7.49 in my bank account I am a full time working student and test these days are 45.99!!!!!! And then cheapest one was 11.49. I just took one and I feel so bad I want to cry. But I really need to know- as I sit here on the toilet and type this waiting for the results.
I Stole A Girls Ipod Touch And Then Sold It Back To Her A Month Later
It’s 2011, I’m in Year 7, it’s my first year in high school and I got sent somewhere where I literally only knew one person, and we never spoke.
A few months into the year and I’m sitting in Math class and this one girl who I just could not stand (and who also bullied me on and off) kept just interrupting for the stupidest of things, and just generally kept getting on my nerves the whole lesson.
Part way through the lesson the teacher tells us to leave our things in the classroom so we could go to the computer lab, and I was the last to leave the classroom. Note that most kids hid their iPods under their pencil cases during class so they could get away with using it, and I knew for a fact she’d left it there.
I don’t know what possessed me to steal her iPod, but I did. She never found out.
But now, I leave school, the iPod is still in my shorts pocket. Nobody knows what I’ve done. The girl thinks one of the guys was screwing with her and doesn’t suspect me at all.
Now the one defining feature of her iPod was that the back was completely covered in small circle stickers. Ones that had gotten so worn down they’d almost fused with the device. So I did what I could and I scrubbed those f*ckers off until it looked brand new.
I didn’t use it at all, in fear of my mum seeing it and screaming at me for being a thief. So it just sat in my room gathering dust, until about a month later I overhear her asking some people if they know anyone selling an iPod.
One week later and I’d made $150 by selling a girl her own iPod that’d just been factory reset and scrubbed down.
I Messed Up My Local Eco System By Setting Hundreds Of Californian Ladybugs Free And Never Told Anyone Even After I Started Noticing The Changes
I just recently was reminded of this story by the man on TikTok who let millions of frogs go in his backyard. Someone in the comments mentioned the story of a man who let out ladybugs and a wave of regret hit me.
When I was about 13, my science teacher let us choose our own final projects. My friend and I wanted to do research on [m]etabolism, and after searching around the internet we discovered that ladybugs would be the best test subjects for our experiment. We somehow got approved by our school to order 100 ladybugs from California for the sake of science. However, when they finally arrived, it turned out that my teacher had ordered wrong and there were 500 lovely little creatures waiting for us in a box. We got a bigger container to hold them all and ran the experiment as planned. Spring break finally rolled around and my teacher assured us that he would take care of the ladybugs while we were gone.
However, when we returned, the box sat unmoved on the table. Our teacher had forgotten to feed them and they all lay on the bottom, dead from starvation. You would think that having done an experiment on the metabolism of these organisms that can withstand crazy temperatures and prolonged starvation we would have realized they could still be alive, but no. I cried and felt terrible for leaving all of them to die. My teacher reluctantly gave me permission to go "bury" them to respect their loss.
I opened the container and a swarm of ladybugs took flight, dissipating into the air. Some were actually dead, but the majority had left the container. My teacher watched this happen, and although a lot of the details are fuzzy, I'm 99% sure that my teacher told me to keep it quiet.
The next years to come came some of the worst ladybug-related disasters my small town had ever witnessed. They CRUSTED the windows of every home and ate foliage like crazy. People who were unfortunate enough to have poor insulation (including me) would find them in every nook and cranny in the house. In such a tightknit community full of farmers and gardeners, word spread fast. And I just watched it all happen, knowing full well who was responsible. Years went by until the population of ladybugs seemed to go back down, but they still run rampant. I'm not sure what help could have resulted from my confession, but it certainly would have cleared up what had happened for the dozens of townspeople who didn't understand why this was happening to them.
I feel absolutely terrible and wish I had confessed sooner. I know it seems like an unfortunate mistake, but in hindsight it was reckless and I should have told someone sooner. I have told a few friends since the story re-entered my mind, but I just thought I needed to apologize to the public.
Seems like the teacher was the one at fault? OP didn't know they were still alive.
I Have Been Sleeping With Both Partners Of A Married Couple. Neither Of Them Are Aware The Other Is Cheating. The Wife Doesn't Know The Husband Likes Men
The wife came onto me first but I didn't sleep with her out of respect for her husband, til he messaged me on grindr and I realized they're as bad as each other and I may as well have some fun with it. I even popped the husband's bootyhole cherry. I might tell them one day but ehhh the sex is fun.
I Overcharged Over 5,000 People
Back in high school I used to work the concession stand. In my school the booth was a little folding table where I would sell water, pop and chips.
To anyone that was a visiting team I would charge $.25-.50 more on the items they wanted to buy, and I would keep it.
I ended up making somewhere around $3,000 doing this for my high school career, and no one ever found out because I didn’t charge anyone from the home team the same amount.
I Sh*t On My Neighbors Door Step
So back when I was ten my dad asked me if I wanted to make 20$. I accepted. The catch I had to sh*t on our neighbors door step. It was clear my dad had beef with this woman. She woke in the morning and tried to blame our Chihuahua. My dad yelled at her saying that the sh*t was bigger then our dog. Impossible. The point is I don’t feel bad. Forever daddy’s girl.
I Stole Money In Junior High School With A Fake Fundraiser
When I was in junior high and it was perfectly fine to go door to door and ask for donations for sporting events and stuff, my sister had a typewriter and I would make up a fake sign-up form and ask for donations to a team going somewhere with my school. Easily [made] [one] hundred bucks in one day. Never forgave myself lol
I apparently did this once with my twin when we were like 5. I went to my neighbours house and asked for money for “heart cancer.” I was apparently inspired by our Halloween UNICEF donations, which you might remember if you’re a millenial/Gen X. The neighbour mom gave me a toonie and then instantly called my mum and was like “I think your children are robbing people” 😅 we got punished, neither my twin or I remember doing this at all but it’s a story we keep hearing and it makes us laugh. What a couple of bratty little arseholes eh lmao.
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Some real a******s in this thread. It's one thing to mess up your life. It's another to destroy someone else's.
I resent having to check in on my father who had a mental breakdown starting a couple of years ago. He never raised me, just saw him every once in a while growing up, I never managed to connect with him due to his reserved and quiet nature. So I'm frustrated that people assume I have a duty to look after him. His wife of 10 plus years finally left him when the strain of helping to rehabilitate him became too much. I resent having to pay for his meds out of my paycheck every month. I resent his weakness and inability to have a grip on life because deep down I'm scared it's genetic.
Find a social worker to get him hooked up, then bail. None of this is your responsibility.
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Big confession: I was the moron who brought a big box of tiny plastic jewels and hid them all over school. I even paid a boy to hide the jewels in the boy’s toilets :/ I think I may have inconvenienced a lot of the janitors, but they didn’t seem to mind. I saw a teacher making a bracelet out of the jewels she found, and for a while all everyone could talk about is who the freaking heck hid those stuff
Not gonna lie, I think that's a pretty awesome prank. I remember doing similar with beads when I was a kid.
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I made my terrible coworkers (unknowingly) clean up my after-coffee sh*t almost everyday for months. I started working at a doggy daycare facility/vet clinic and found out that most all of my coworkers were mean to the dogs. And the ones who were actively mean were complicit by way of not speaking up. I can't speak for any physical harm that might have been done, but I could definitely tell by the timidness of the dogs around certain people that some kind of abuse/intimidation was happening. So, I spoke up to the manager (who didn't know as she was quite spread thin in her role and thought she could rely on middle management to be decent people) and since I couldn't outright prove abuse I ratted them out and got them in trouble for other mistakes they made. It was very obvious that I was the snitch because everyone else there were close friends (like knew each other before they got the job close) so they started doing everything and anything to try to get me in trouble. One of them even took video footage of me taking a 13 min break when it was supposed to be 10, and sent it to the manager. Needless to say, it was really tough waking into a place everyday feeling the utter hatred from everyone for breaking up the party. But I worked with the manager (who I forgot to mention was also my sister so they resented me even more) and slowly got them ALL sacked, installed surveillance around the facility, and helped to rebuild a new and amazing, extremely caring team of staff. IN THE MEANTIME, before the cameras of course, I would literally take my (after coffee) sh*t in the play area right before the shift turnover so the next terrible person would have to clean it up. I did this everyday until all the terrible people were outta there. I watched as all the dogs gradually changed from being scared out of their wits to totally stoked to be there. Those people absolutely hated me and I would overhear them laugh with each other as they talked smack about me.... But little did they know that every single one of them had to clean up my sh*t for like a month and a half.
Thank you for helping those dogs. You are a hero.
Load More Replies... I love my parents deeply. I also resent them, and most of the people they consulted for parenting advice. I wasn't treated as a liar per se, but all my negative emotions were regarded as overblown and routinely invalidated altogether, and I was blamed for not being able to ignore my bullies. I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder at 13, which made my parents a little more sympathetic but if anything even less trusting that any physical symptom I had was real or as bad as I claimed. Since becoming an adult I've been diagnosed with multiple chronic diseases, all comorbidities of a connective tissue disorder that makes many of my joints visibly hypermobile. I'm glad they at least take my physical ailments seriously now, but just last week they rolled their eyes at me when I was zooming with them because I was panicking about a test case for I job I really wanted. (I pulled thru & they gave me some helpful encouragement, but I really could've done without the eye roll).
HS dropout here. Went to an alternative (self-study) college, back in the days when it was not as common. There was a box on the application that said 'do you have a HS diploma?' I was scared and checked 'yes'. Right before graduating with my BA (and High Honors), I confessed to my advisor. She didn't care. I was so relieved. Went on to grad school and now I'm one of only two people I know (which includes me) who have an advanced degree with no HS diploma or equivalency.
Man, I know some of the posts here are honest mistakes or tiny pranks but the rest makes me think humanity is better off gone instead... Smh...
One little secret of mine is that I make and sell stickers at school. It’s not a big buisness, I make only ₹10 a day which isn’t much. My parents don’t know about it
My friend in college told me she was the one driving the car when she crashed and killed her boyfriend. The police always thought and she always told them that he was driving.
So you're friend is a murdered and should be in jail?
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Some of these are people who made dumb mistakes as kids, and regret it, some of these are kinda sweet, or otherwise harmless, and the rest seem kinda terrible.
I disagree because eating habits rely heavily on memories. Mc D's marketing to children does exacly that. Building happy memories and associating it with their brand. This is the main reason Happy meals are relatively cheap. It's an investment in future customers. Nobody is saying "once in a while" is a bad thing but it also involves saying no. Because of this I think this is a really bad idea and not wholesome at all.
I live in a village and commute to the city. The job pays well so I need to go only a couple times a week. People on the bus were mostly regulars so everyone was friendly (this was about 15 years ago, not so much now). But there was one arrogant guy who always stuck his nose up at everyone. Lo and behold, Mr Snooty came to my workplace to find a job. I don't think he noticed me when he was being interviewed by the general manager. After the interview, I told the GM, You don't want him. She always trusted me, so that one sentence was enough. He never got the job.
So, you don't like someone and decide they don't get work? Wow how terrible are you
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I absolutely fūcking hate my 6 year old brother. I ignore him, I have to be forced to say hi to him, and I'm hoping to go NC with him when I'm older. I wish we never adopted. I am not sorry,
Some real a******s in this thread. It's one thing to mess up your life. It's another to destroy someone else's.
I resent having to check in on my father who had a mental breakdown starting a couple of years ago. He never raised me, just saw him every once in a while growing up, I never managed to connect with him due to his reserved and quiet nature. So I'm frustrated that people assume I have a duty to look after him. His wife of 10 plus years finally left him when the strain of helping to rehabilitate him became too much. I resent having to pay for his meds out of my paycheck every month. I resent his weakness and inability to have a grip on life because deep down I'm scared it's genetic.
Find a social worker to get him hooked up, then bail. None of this is your responsibility.
Load More Replies... Big confession: I was the moron who brought a big box of tiny plastic jewels and hid them all over school. I even paid a boy to hide the jewels in the boy’s toilets :/ I think I may have inconvenienced a lot of the janitors, but they didn’t seem to mind. I saw a teacher making a bracelet out of the jewels she found, and for a while all everyone could talk about is who the freaking heck hid those stuff
Not gonna lie, I think that's a pretty awesome prank. I remember doing similar with beads when I was a kid.
Load More Replies... I made my terrible coworkers (unknowingly) clean up my after-coffee sh*t almost everyday for months. I started working at a doggy daycare facility/vet clinic and found out that most all of my coworkers were mean to the dogs. And the ones who were actively mean were complicit by way of not speaking up. I can't speak for any physical harm that might have been done, but I could definitely tell by the timidness of the dogs around certain people that some kind of abuse/intimidation was happening. So, I spoke up to the manager (who didn't know as she was quite spread thin in her role and thought she could rely on middle management to be decent people) and since I couldn't outright prove abuse I ratted them out and got them in trouble for other mistakes they made. It was very obvious that I was the snitch because everyone else there were close friends (like knew each other before they got the job close) so they started doing everything and anything to try to get me in trouble. One of them even took video footage of me taking a 13 min break when it was supposed to be 10, and sent it to the manager. Needless to say, it was really tough waking into a place everyday feeling the utter hatred from everyone for breaking up the party. But I worked with the manager (who I forgot to mention was also my sister so they resented me even more) and slowly got them ALL sacked, installed surveillance around the facility, and helped to rebuild a new and amazing, extremely caring team of staff. IN THE MEANTIME, before the cameras of course, I would literally take my (after coffee) sh*t in the play area right before the shift turnover so the next terrible person would have to clean it up. I did this everyday until all the terrible people were outta there. I watched as all the dogs gradually changed from being scared out of their wits to totally stoked to be there. Those people absolutely hated me and I would overhear them laugh with each other as they talked smack about me.... But little did they know that every single one of them had to clean up my sh*t for like a month and a half.
Thank you for helping those dogs. You are a hero.
Load More Replies... I love my parents deeply. I also resent them, and most of the people they consulted for parenting advice. I wasn't treated as a liar per se, but all my negative emotions were regarded as overblown and routinely invalidated altogether, and I was blamed for not being able to ignore my bullies. I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder at 13, which made my parents a little more sympathetic but if anything even less trusting that any physical symptom I had was real or as bad as I claimed. Since becoming an adult I've been diagnosed with multiple chronic diseases, all comorbidities of a connective tissue disorder that makes many of my joints visibly hypermobile. I'm glad they at least take my physical ailments seriously now, but just last week they rolled their eyes at me when I was zooming with them because I was panicking about a test case for I job I really wanted. (I pulled thru & they gave me some helpful encouragement, but I really could've done without the eye roll).
HS dropout here. Went to an alternative (self-study) college, back in the days when it was not as common. There was a box on the application that said 'do you have a HS diploma?' I was scared and checked 'yes'. Right before graduating with my BA (and High Honors), I confessed to my advisor. She didn't care. I was so relieved. Went on to grad school and now I'm one of only two people I know (which includes me) who have an advanced degree with no HS diploma or equivalency.
Man, I know some of the posts here are honest mistakes or tiny pranks but the rest makes me think humanity is better off gone instead... Smh...
One little secret of mine is that I make and sell stickers at school. It’s not a big buisness, I make only ₹10 a day which isn’t much. My parents don’t know about it
My friend in college told me she was the one driving the car when she crashed and killed her boyfriend. The police always thought and she always told them that he was driving.
So you're friend is a murdered and should be in jail?
Load More Replies... Some of these are people who made dumb mistakes as kids, and regret it, some of these are kinda sweet, or otherwise harmless, and the rest seem kinda terrible.
I disagree because eating habits rely heavily on memories. Mc D's marketing to children does exacly that. Building happy memories and associating it with their brand. This is the main reason Happy meals are relatively cheap. It's an investment in future customers. Nobody is saying "once in a while" is a bad thing but it also involves saying no. Because of this I think this is a really bad idea and not wholesome at all.
I live in a village and commute to the city. The job pays well so I need to go only a couple times a week. People on the bus were mostly regulars so everyone was friendly (this was about 15 years ago, not so much now). But there was one arrogant guy who always stuck his nose up at everyone. Lo and behold, Mr Snooty came to my workplace to find a job. I don't think he noticed me when he was being interviewed by the general manager. After the interview, I told the GM, You don't want him. She always trusted me, so that one sentence was enough. He never got the job.
So, you don't like someone and decide they don't get work? Wow how terrible are you
Load More Replies... I absolutely fūcking hate my 6 year old brother. I ignore him, I have to be forced to say hi to him, and I'm hoping to go NC with him when I'm older. I wish we never adopted. I am not sorry,
