30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods

I wonder if they're retail managers with the whole "if you have time to lean you have time to clean" mindset.

Now I just feel lazy all the time because I can't motivate myself to be constantly productive and it makes me feel like c**p. So fun.

I swear that my cluttered messy house is a direct result of my mother's need to have everything perfect all the time!

I used to get, "Just walk it off". Didn't matter whether it was a scrape or a broken bone. No emotion was to be shown you just had to, "walk it off".

i dunno, i tend to get bored if i do nothing.....

Being underweight is just as harmful, if not more, as being overweight, and yet skinny people aren't harrassed, shamed and dehumanized nearly as much as fat people. I wonder why is that so... I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with the fact skinny people are considered aesthetically pleasing...

Muscle weighs more than fat. So, being fit and muscular may make you weigh more, but I bet you’re actually THINNER at 130lbs and fit and toned, than someone who is 120lbs and unfit (the “fat-thin” person with little to no muscle tone). Besides, it’s only a 10 lb difference, ffs. If it was 30, 40, 50 lbs then yes, you would need to start paying attention to your health and lose some weight, especially as you age. But it’s 10 lbs of pure muscle. Tell Mom to GTF over herself.

I'm 5'3 and a size 3 at 130 pounds. At 120 I look like a bobble head

Same here... my mother evilly gloated when a velvet dress she worn at 15 years old, and I couldn't fit in it when I turned 15.... the arrogant proud look on her face was disgusting. Will never forgive her toxic obsession because my brother adopted that behavior and became anorexic in college.

Whether the number on the scale matters depends entirely on why you're looking.

One of the many reasons I cut my father off. I remember once when I finally stood up to a bully and gave him a verbal a*s whooping. When I got home they immediately started yelling at me and refused to listen to what I had to say. I was forced to sit at the dining room table from Friday night until Sunday night doing homework he made up. My father can rot as far as I'm concerned.

I counter with the truthful saying: "You catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar." I think the majority of this has to do with the tone and attitude we as children chose (Yes. CHOSE.) to take. Much of disrespect isn't in the words or the fact you had something to say, it's how it is said. This goes on into adulthood. I'm pretty sure we've all seen, more times than we care to count, children who grew up into adults STILL talking at people with that attitude and tone. It's ironic that the slap back is, "...but that's your problem" when the people who received your attitude and tone most likely aren't giving your demeanor a second thought. It is YOU who are stuck with the problem, not them...no matter how hard you wish it to be true.

ok, I'm sorry, but that stock photo looks like the dude is force choking that girl like darth vader

Can anyone explain to me what "talking back" is? I have never understood.

This is the attitude I got for years until I learned to just grin and nod my head. Now the grin is a stiffled laughter when I watch my father mess something up. Oh, I could have helped or corrected you.... but why "talk back" ? Who am I to know what's right?

My grandfather would tell me you can always get what you want as long as you’re realistic & flexible with what it is you actually want. Oh, & to never confuse wants with needs.

This is not true. I do not have millions nor am I married to Matt Damon like I wanted as a 30 year old. So happy it worked out that way. Love my hubby and being ok is fine.

Early on, the Rolling Stones were predicted to be the undoing of civilization. Not kidding. Years later, who knew one of their songs would give one of the best pieces of advice about life.

Many people pursue what they think they want at the expense of what they actually need. Young people and fancy cars comes to mind.

What is wrong with more security, higher wages, vacation? 🙄🤨🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️ (it's not communistic..)

Funny. When company leaders and business owners want more money, it's capitalism. When workers demand a fair price for their labour, it's all of a sudden socialism/communism. No sir, that's capitalism too! Nothing comes from nothing and nothing is free! You want my work? Well then you better pay up! I'm in it for the money! Because that's capitalism baby! So pay up buttercup.

The Union is the People keeping "the powers that be" in check and rightfully so. Without this balance, we know from history what can and most likely will happen again.

Business goes after kids and attracts terrible abusive parents and guardians with the suggestion that child labor laws prevent kids from getting fast food and other retail positions. The reality is that migrant and other marginalized kids will be kept from getting an education while laboring in meat packing plants and construction jobs. Republicans don't want your kids educated.Already in 2023, seven bills to weaken child labor protections have been introduced in six Midwestern states (Iowa, Minnesota, Missouri, Nebraska, Ohio, and South Dakota) and in Arkansas, where a bill repealing restrictions on work for 14- and 15-year-olds has now been signed into law. One bill introduced in Minnesota would allow 16- and 17-year-olds to work on construction sites.1 Ten states have introduced, considered, or passed legislation rolling back protections for young workers in just the past two years.

This is an American issue. I've been a member of unions for over 30 years. I dont know of anyone who has this much animosity towards unions. I know people who aren't in them because they believe that you only need them when you're in trouble and don't expect to get into trouble which is bizarre. The benefits far outweigh the costs.

Say that louder for the people in the back. Adults: we need to be aware of these little cringe movements of children when their parents are around. It's our duty to be their voice when their parents refuse the privilege.

I know a family who sent out an email just prior to their big family visit. They were teaching their child about body autonomy and how HIS space was his....and if he wasn't comfortable, he could say "no thanks". My eyes opened wide...what, that's an option? The older generation said...this is what's wrong with the world. Yean, that's why it wasn't an option for my time. Kudos to parents teaching their children that they are important and valued!

I ask my Nephews and Nieces if they want a hug, if they say No then I just offer a fist bump, at the end of the day, their personal comfort should always come first. Myself, I've never been much of a hugger pertly due to my former best friend using them for abuse (I'm straight, he's not) but also because I have Autism and hugs are a sensory overload for me which can cause me to go into an absence seizure (where my mind goes completely blank and I end up staring out into space not noticing anything going on around me) Even as an adult I prefer not to be hugged unless I know the person really well and trust them implicitly. I have also been trained in UK Safeguarding Laws and one of the things we are taught is that any showing of physical affection should be instigated by the child, never the adult and the child should NEVER be forced to do something that they are uncomfortable doing.

The first rule I let everyone around me know is...Do Not Touch Me...Ever.

My children do not have to touch anyone they don't want to! Gross!