29 Things People Considered To Be Their Hill To Die On But Later Changed Sides Drastically
You may not know, but Galileo Galilei did not actually utter his famous words “And yet it turns” after he recanted his “heretical” scientific works at the request of the Inquisition. Some will call this cowardice, others - prudence, because the great scientist thereby saved his life...
However, people know many examples when someone was incredibly persistent in their point of view, erroneous or not, and after some time, under the influence of various factors, changed their opinion to the diametrically opposite one. And this viral thread in the AskReddit community is dedicated to just such cases.
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I used to be anti government healthcare. I got shot in Afghanistan and the VA ruined my f*****g life. My case was right at the heart of the VA scandal. I was extremely anti government health care and just frankly anti government after the Marine Corps. Then I lived an adult life in America. I watched a little girl die from horrific cancer over social media. She had a major campaign pulling for and it was pretty big thing in the community. My girlfriend (now wife) was friends with the family and we learned a lot about them and the girl. It was very beautiful and dramatic watching her live the rest of her short life. When she died, the family was annihilated by debt, and driven into abject despair. These f*****g vultures pecked them into pieces after they lost their daughter. It hardened me against the idea of private healthcare. I was a f*****g moron for believing that universal healthcare was some kind of evil. I was horribly wrong. We can't do this s**t without coming together. It has never worked. I really truly believe the reason the VA will never be fixed is because who's gonna give a f**k about a grown man getting f****d up in a war, when kids die like this, and their family gets destroyed.
Should be higher - the current top few posts are just like/dislike things, this one is genuinely a change of mind brought about by experience and opened eyes.
Thx for sharing. From the outside looking in, America has become a strange place.
From the inside looking around it’s a strange place
Load More Replies...It’s not that government healthcare is bad (see how it is done in non-US countries); it’s that how healthcare is run in the US is total greed-based cr*p for the past forty years. Sadly this includes healthcare for veterans.
Yankland is the ONLY industrialized country without government run health care. And yet yanks STILL swallow the propaganda that "ours is better".
Only half of us swallow that. The rest of us haven't fought hard enough. It's been a slow decent into Hell
Load More Replies...I never understood the people vs government thing. Government is chosen by people to work for them. You have different parties with different views on society, you vote for the one matching your views, and the winners rule for a few years. Of course having just 2 parties isn't very functional, but even within them you can choose the people you vote for...
Yes, government is supposed to represent the people and the needs of the community, all paid via taxes. Roads, infrastructure, law enforcement, libraries, schools AND HEALTHCARE. For those claiming this is socialist or communist....how are you functioning in your community? Kids going to school? You are driving on public paid roads? Calling emergency for police assist and expecting prompt response? Expecting soldiers to keep you safe from invasion or dictatorship overtaking your government? All good right? Saving your actual life and those of your community...nah, that's communist. Most of the world sees how bizarre that would be and went to public healthcare without blinking, cos, Logically tax payers would expect their hard earned money to keep them and their communities alive first of, right ?
Load More Replies...Veterans Administration/Veterans Affairs. A government funded organization tailored to meeting the medical needs of veterans from all branches of the military. It is notoriously run poorly, which is why there are so many stories of vets not getting the care they need.
Load More Replies...And if you think conservatism is wrong about universal healthcare, look into how wrong it is about, uh, f*****g everything. ...Hasn't been a single time in history it was on the right side of history.
Not to mention they raise the debt each time they get into power, whereas liberal parties always LOWER the debt.
Load More Replies...I don't get the idea that a democratically elected government shouldn't be dictating healthcare, but nameless corporate executives should. Even when Obamacare was being pushed through, people would complain about not being able to choose your own doctor. Like what? The corporation you work for gets to decide what healthcare they make available to you. There isn't a good argument in keeping the current US system.
VA "health care" recipient. Health care my third point of contact! similar problem, just a badly damaged leg which the VA insisted was fine for 13 years. These idiots actually had paperwork from my original exam stating I had droop foot & ignored it. Ignore my requests for the exam my VSO from the DAV tells me I need. DAV finally sends a nasty letter, get an exam thru community care. Real (non-VA) Dr determined I've had droop foot for years. With secondary damage, determined to be 70% disabled. After they ruin my life, I get $1,700 a month. Not even enough for rent & bills today. After all, what good is a busted up soldier. Why waste money when the VA is happy to delay, deny & wait until we die. Give money to other countries & illegal immigrants, screw the people who served this country.
My uncle literally got lost in the VA system when my dad, his "caretaker" was hospitalized again for Schizophrenia. Then they wanted me to travel 1 hour away to drive uncle away to a bank. Uncle was incontinent and had undiagnosed mental illnesses with violent episodes (Agent Orange). i'm a female who had little contact with him growing up for a reason. I felt bad for him but there wasn't much i could do. Thanking him for his service didn't do sh*t.
Load More Replies...When my husband died I had only $1300 social security and his credit card. I had to wait for his death certificate to apply for widows benefits. I had to pay for car/house insurance and buy groceries with his card. He had savings but even with his death certificate and will, I couldn't access. Summer, in Georgia. The air broke down, the ride-on mower quit. And it went on, the washer was next.
Not recent, but I’m a boomer so we were raised to believe homosexuality is wrong. I never got worked up about it, but the idea was there. I got to thinking about it and realized it’s none of my business. What led me to that was the observation that the only difference is that they sleep with different people. How does that concern anybody else?.
It is always a concern for those who want to be able to tell you how to live your life. In the U.S. that would be primarily fundamentalist Christianity. The current Speaker of the House is an unapologetic Bible-thumper who wants to install a theocracy to replace our democracy. They want to outlaw abortion, but Republicans are always trying to cut funding for kids. Forced births, but after that you're on your own. Evil and despicable.
Load More Replies...Amazing how many social issues are ultimately not an issue at all when you think about them logically. Always keep in mind that a witch hunt is predicated on a lack of critical thinking and an emphasis on exploiting fear!
Yes, religion has played a huge role in demonizing "others".
Load More Replies...Donnie Dictator is campaigning against Immigrants. If elected he'll go after gays, then any other minorities. It's what Dictators like Adolf or Putin do.
Society, especially the media, are way too obsessed with who is sleeping with who. Like, mind your own business dumbass!
I'm a boomer and I was taught LGBTQ was just different. At the time, there was very little information about LGBTQ but I knew various people who identified as all. BTW - I'm a US southerner who is Christian. My parents and church did something right.
Fortunately at least a few of us boomers escaped that. My mother made it very clear that being gay wouldn't make her love me a bit less. As it happens, I'm straight, mom, but thanks for the support anyway.
I think people tend to forget that a lot of boomers were hippies… Or just not stupid and religious. Even my grandma who was a Great Depression kid never had any issue with it. (My other grandma was a different case… but she wasn’t terribly bright, and highly Catholic. She was also racist, which tracks.)
Load More Replies...The world would be a better place if people would mind their own business about things that don't affect them.
I grew up thinking labor unions were mobbed up organizations that wanted to bring Communism to America. Today, as an old man, I believe strengthening organized labor is the only way American workers will ever get a fair shake.
Or, you know, maybe just some universal employment laws that protect workers all across the country rather than having to join a club just to get fair treatment?
That's what unions are supposed to archieve, in the US they have a wierd union system though
Load More Replies...You know that unions are good for workers by the way employers hate them so much.
The rich have been lobbying in consortiums and associations using the power of money and bribes to get their way forever...but let the common man try and lobby for a fair value on their primary asset, their Labor, and suddenly communist. Wake up, you are being corralled into modern slavery with pretty words and you worship the a.holes doing this to you. With the power of their various lobby groups they are convincing you that you are not allowed to also be a member of to even the playing field.
Europe must seem to appear very communist in the eyes of the US, with strong unions here.
Or you seem more like the US was in the 1940s and 1950s.
Load More Replies...There was a time when unions had trouble with graft and corruption in the U.S. But compared to how our government behaves, unions are staffed with angels.
The argument the employer uses is that YOU as an individual have the absolute right to negotiate for yourself. What they don't tell the employee is that they absolutely control the strings and you will never be able to negotiate a win. When corporations have all the power, the people need to be together.
I'm sure they get some people to believe it, but if you work for a company with thousands of employees, you have absolutely no power as an individual in a negotiation with the employer. You're a cog in the machine and completely expendable. You have the right to negotiate for yourself, but you'll accomplish nothing without the strength of numbers
Load More Replies...I think the McCarthy witch hunts made America the mess it is today. Universal healthcare = communist, fair pay = communism, fear of communism= more guns, you get the idea.
In the U.S. they have sketchy track records. And their actions don't always benefits employees. Just recently, the UAW's actions directly resulted in Ford planning to invest more heavily in Mexican plants, discarding stateside manufacturing plans for EVs. Teacher's unions are also notorious for negative effects on the education system. Heavily unionized regions almost always end up losing jobs to regions that are not. Not anti-union here, but the statement that Unions are the only way to get workers ahead comes up to quite a few roadblocks, stateside.
This is so obvious (European here) that I struggle understanding why so many Americans think otherwise.
Let's start in the 1900's. Republicans were business owners, Democrats were farmers and laborers. Republicans wanted to abuse their workers and inflate their profits. Democrats, the labor formed Unions. Republicans, still the business owners convinced the laborers, that Unions were communists, and that Unions were bad. Now poorly paid Republican laborers still let themselves be abused by corporations.
Load More Replies...In this collection, made for you by Bored Panda, there are many stories, from small and funny to sad and even tragic, when people made a drastic 180 in their views on a variety of things. This could be political views or a phobia regarding insects, taste preferences or some kind of mental block in our head - or even just a prejudice about a certain movie genre. It’s not even this that’s interesting, but how people come to such changes.
It wasn't recently, but my biggest change has been about abortion.
When I was in my early 20's I felt that the fetus had a right to life and abortions should only be performed when it's medically necessary or in the case of r**e/incest etc.
Years later I came to the conclusion that an unwanted pregnancy is a situation with 2 bad choices: either terminate the pregnancy or force a woman to go through an unwanted pregnancy and bring a life into the world that is likely to be born into a bad situation. Now I trust the potential parents' decision...if they feel that having the child is a bad idea, then it likely is, and abortion should be an option for them because it is the choice that will likely result in the least amount of suffering.
Currently, most of my political opinions lean right, but pro-choice is the issue I feel most strongly about.
So the counter-argument from the gents is of course, Well,,, we also made the baby and should some say in the matter. Sure, guys, because you were set on having a baby but the woman didn't want one and you never had this discussion and so you put it in assuming your way is the WAY. I'm willing to bet 99% of women seeking abortions have a male depositor who has zero interest in the baby.
Load More Replies...In most European countries the idea that an embryo is worth of being protected at all mental costs of the mother, but, once an unwanted child is born, nobody of that camp fights to raise it even fiercly, is pretty wild.
"Wild" is a very nice way of saying inhumanly evil.
Load More Replies...Every child deserves parents, but not every parent deserves children.
Load More Replies...I think a big misconception with people is that pro-choice is pro-abortion, that's just not the case. It just means that a person has autonomy over their own Healthcare. Believing somebody has a choice doesn't mean you have to make that choice for yourself, it just means that you know you don't have the right to tell other people what to do with their body
Yup. Pro-Lifers tell pregnant women not to abort, but you don’t see Pro-Abortioners telling pregnant women to abort.
Load More Replies...Yeah, but now frozen embryos are considered "children" in parts of America. This is disturbing.
Disturbing, infuriating, madness...yes, all of the above. This is what comes of allowing religious zealotry to infiltrate government functioning. One of the justices involved in this case said that the destruction/disposal of these frozen embryos would "anger a holy God". Pure insanity in this country.
Load More Replies...I am pro-life. As a cis male, I will never have an abortion. What anyone else decides is none of my damn business... except my wife. If she were to decide to have one, I hope we would at least have a conversation.
so open minded... because everything left is automatically correct... maybe let different people have different ideas without immediately judging?
Load More Replies...You better believe if the tables were turned and men were the ones getting pregnant or having difficult pregnancies, abortion would be allowed in every single state.
They couldn't handle a period, how would they manage being pregnant for five minutes
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I used to be a super judgemental Christian. I hated the LGBTQ community and had no problem showing it. I met a trans woman who I couldn't help but fall in love with. I tried really hard not to but I couldn't live without her. I did a lot of thinking and research and came to the conclusion that God isn't real. If he is then he's cruel and I didn't want anything to do with him anyway. I'm now so happy and engaged to this gorgeous transgendered woman and I've never been more sure that im where I should be. We're both insanely happy.
Idk about God, but Jesus was a pretty cool dude. He said a buttload about loving thy neighbour and he hung around with people shunned by society and lifted them up. He was vocal about what he thought was wrong and funnily enough it was stuff like greed, corruption, hypocrisy - there isn't a single instance of him saying a single word against anything LGBT+.
I've actually read and studied the Bible. That's why I am anti-religion and why I don't believe in the Bible. Also, if you look at other religions and their stories you will notice that, in essence, they are all very similar. They all basically say to be good to one another. It's the power play between the various leaders that gave us different religions.
"Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?" Epicurus
a wise man once said "if the gods were angry then they would have come down by now"
I think Christianity took a very wrong turn when Constantine adopted it with the motto "By this sign, conquer." It has been wedded with misogyny, imperialism, persecution, genocide and power in the kingdom of men ever since. It was also very populist, since anyone could gain eternal life in bliss, which made them more tolerant of being abused while alive. It's perverse that it was the Roman empire and the cooperating Hebrews that Jesus was rebelling against in the first place. But that's just me...
I wouldn't worship the Christian God even if they appeared to us and made it clear they were the real deal. I believe my morals are better than a God that needlessly kills as often as the Christian God.
Electric vehicles are not good for the environment.
They are a plot to save the dying automotive industry. Mining the materials needed to produce EVs wreaks havoc on the environment and involves child slave labour particularly in the Congo.
EVs are heavier than petrol cars so there is additional wear on the roads and the tyres.
We need more walkable cities. More local stores within walking distance of people’s homes. Doctors, dentists, libraries, everything. More of them, closer so that people can walk or ride bikes instead. That is how we can protect the environment.
EVs are not going to save us.
Hydrogen fuel is the way to go. It can take us to the planets, maybe even the stars.
Yeah, absolutely not. Besides the fact that the main ways to get hydrogen are either the super expensive and energy inneficient electrolysis of water or the cheap but super polluting methane steam reforming, hydrogen is very hard to store, has a tendency to leak because it has a very small molecule so it's a nightmare to work with and, finally, if you already have the electricity, isn't it easier and less wasteful to just put that directly into a battery and have it drive the car instead of using it to make hydrogen, which then needs to be driven to a pump, put into the car and burned into a fuel cell to create a lot less electricity which then goes into a battery and drives the car?
Load More Replies...This. OMG this. And you don't even mention what happens when the batteries need to be replaced. They are multiple thousands of dollars to replace, and then the dead ones go where? In a landfill to poison the earth? No thanks.
Do you have any idea how valuable the old EV batteries are? The idea that they are going to a landfill is ridiculous.
Load More Replies...Walking and cycling is not accessible for everyone. While I agree with critical reflection on any new technology we also need to be wary as a lot of the anti-EV rhetoric is coming from the oil industry. They're funding a whole lot of "research" and disseminating many talking points which are just propaganda. We just need to be careful with sources.
Better, reliable and easy-to-use public transportation is the best answer. Seattle is wonderful for this, Denver is not.
Anyone who thinks "EVs are not going to save us" is doing everyone a disfavor by selectively isolating one piece of the necessary puzzle in transitioning from fossil fuels. Battery technology is growing exponentially. Infrastructure (charging stations) needs to grow massively. There are certainly issues with sourcing the necessary raw materials, but the alternative is to keep on keepin' on. Which is how we got in this fix in the first place.
Yes, thank you, that's it, exactly! It makes me so frustrated having to hear that tired old chestnut "EVs are not going to save us" dragged out again and again like it means anything - nobody is expecting EVs to be a magical bandaid that will fix all our problems, but it sure is a lot better than what we're using now...
Load More Replies...Nothing will save us. If you look deeply enough into every tech it appears that it's going to bite us on the a**e one way or the other. So yeah, that's not depressing at all.
Ok so here we go again... No-one gave a damn about the mining or child labour to get those very same minerals that have been used in the oil industry way before EVs. They are no heavier than comparable ICE vehicles, depending on the size of the vehicle obviously. (But what about huge lorries anyway - no-one worries about them on the roads???). And neither do they wear down tyres more easily.there is SO much bullsh*t and propaganda out there about electric cars, I genuinely don't understand it. As for hydrogen, as another poster mentioned it takes far more energy to produce, has to be transported (ironically most likely in ICE trucks) and is bl**dy dangerous!
Arguing against EV's in favor of something that does not, and can not exist at any point within the next several decades is flat out stupid. The U.S accounts for 4% of the human population, yet produces 15% of global emissions, 30% of those emissions are generated by transportation (that's people like YOU driving their combustion engine vehicles) which works out to 4.5% of global emissions. We need a solution RIGHT NOW, because the reality is we needed to being attention to this problem decades ago Not in another 20/30/50 years. The batteries are 100% recyclable, the point about weight is meaningless compared to the amount of tailpipe pollution from the alternative, and if you're going to cite concern for child slave labor then you best be ready to stop wearing clothing, shoes, using electronics, and eating food....because every single industry using outsourced labor utilizes child, slave, and child slave labor as a means of production.
I gave up driving 20 years ago, while living in suburban houston, at 20 years of age, while caring for my bed ridden paraplegic father and sometimes working THREE jobs over the eight years i was there. Many people do not need to drive....but they do it, and they're not going to stop, so we best have a solution that isn't pumping poison into the air. EV's are an available improvement over what we currently have available...doesn't matter if they're perfect, it only matters that they're BETTER THAN THE CURRENT NORM. But people like you seem to think that because there are still flaws, that we might as well stick with what we already have until we find that magic bullet of solution. Which is the same stupid mindset that has brought us to the point of a human driven mass extinction.
Load More Replies...“In fact, it cannot be said that a person can be an absolute adherent of any beliefs throughout their entire life,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, to whom Bored Panda reached out for a comment here. “The fact is that we are regularly exposed to the influence of various kinds of factors - in childhood this is mainly due to our parents and upbringing, and we unwittingly adopt the views inherent in our family.”
“Then, when the period of growing up begins, the already established mindset undergoes inevitable changes due to the fact that now the entire incoming flow of information is refracted through the prism of our own experience. And in the future, any changes that occur in our consciousness are the result of our experience, impressions and reflections over what's happening."
“Moreover, I would even rather say that it's not very natural when a person never changes their views - after all, flexibility is always inherent in the human mind. The main thing is that these turns in our perception benefit us and those around us,” Irina summarizes.
We totally believed that vaccines caused autism up until our 100% not vaccinated kid was given an educational label of autism.
We took questionable child birth classes at 22 and expecting our first that told us a lot of b******t about the “evils” of vaccines, epidurals, and baby formula…all of this backed up what the conspiracy theorist who taught biology at our dumb Bible college (thankfully, we outgrew that nonsense) told us about these things, so we stupidly believed them.
We of course stopped doing delayed vaccines immediately after that (we were never 100% anti vaccines, just anti vaccines for kids under 3), and got our kids caught up pretty quickly.
This was all 14 years ago now, though, so not really recent.
Religion should be kept out of schools and government. And everywhere else if possible. Normalized mental health issue.
As a Christian, I kinda agree. No 1 religion should be forced upon a person. A person should be able to choose their religion or lack of one. Free will was one of God's greatest gifts, and should be dealt with as such, in the aspects of schools and govt. Seems hypocritical, if I do say so myself.
Load More Replies...I hope your children are fully vaccinated now, given the rising incidence of diseases that had almost been eradicated, like measles, mumps and whooping cough.
You needn’t hope; read the post. The answer you seek is in there, stated clearly so that everyone can understand.
Load More Replies...You didn't believe it, you ignorantly swallowed propaganda without checking facts. NOT ONE DOCTOR ever said "vaccines cause autism", NOT ONE STUDY "proved" it. Fakewield is not a doctor. And even if that clown were, that's ONE "doctor" out of millions. You CHOSE to listen to one fraud instead of getting the consensus of the medical community. [ ....................................... ] The same stupidity happened with C-19, ALL the professional scientists (doctors, epidemiologists, mathematicians, biologists, etc.) agreed that it was a danger, but the ignorant yobs of the world chose to listen to ignorant rightwing politicians.
At the time Wakefield published his "study" in 1998, he was a doctor. He did not lose his medical license until 2011.
Load More Replies...They only made it halfway. They're still letting conspiracy theorists override medical reality.
Load More Replies...They took a valid study that correctly stated that children under 4 weeks should not get vaccinated, because they don't have an immune system. They get antibodies from their mothers and their immune system has to develop during the first few weeks. Giving them vaccines at that time can harm them. Because vaccines train the immune system to fight certain bacteria. But without an immune system, vaccines are just chemicals and are very harmful gor children. However, as soon as their immune system has developed, getting vaccinated is very beneficial. And it's just a few weeks, not months or years.
People need to think for themselves. And double check the info they get. Glad you did that!
big pharma: no profits in cures...Profits Before People...check into all the deaths dr fucki caused for AIDS and covid!!
My best friend at university was from the "Bible Belt" where vaccins were not allowed because of their religion. He got polio at the age of nine and was handicapped for the rest of his life. Even long before the time that an a*****e person convinced people that vaccins caused autism (why so many people believed that sh*t still amazes me). He was pretty cross with his parents. And then (with our bunch of friends) he got the courage to talk to them about it. The love and help that poured out of his parents after that was unbelievable awesome. Sometimes people just don't know how to handle the conflicting information they got, as you show in your post. This is not about religion but group pressure, whatever group you are in.
I was a conservative into my early-mid 20s and then I hard flipped on every single policy. None of that s**t makes sense if you think about it at all. I wasn’t an extremist, but they definitely tricked me into believing b******t like trickledown economics.
My favorite! Beat rich people with sticks until the money falls out.
Load More Replies...Trickle down worked the way it was intended - the rich got richer while they pis*ed all over the rest of us
Having grown up in an ultra-conservative part of Canada, I don't think most conservatives know a damn thing about most of their party's policies. They just stick with their team and insist they know more than the experts. As long as they're presented with a minority group to hate, they're happy to vote
Nothing wrong being conservative, but that Republican / Fox News nonsense I sometimes see and hear... unbelievable (European view).
Yeah, well Fox "News" is special, in that nothing they broadcast apparently needs to have any journalistic integrity. I believe, technically, it's called Fox Entertainment. I suppose it's entertaining to a certain type of cretin.
Load More Replies...A recent study found the richest 1% now pay 46% of taxes in the US after a cut in income tax rates and corporate tax rates during the orange President's term. It had been 40%. The term "trivkle-down" has only been used by people who oppose moderate rates for higher income. It was never used by the Reagan administration. Keep believing the myths folks.
The rich have been trickling down all over the middle class ever since this bonehead idea was put into place.
I’m not a project that needs to be constantly worked on. Growth is important, but sometimes…you just gotta be. 🐝.
Growth has never been a problem for me. What I need is some shrinkage...
Often our prejudices are only in our heads - and only when we finally decide to break this psychological barrier and try something new, it may well turn out that in reality everything is not as we pictured inside ourselves. Well, or our negative perception will only be confirmed - this also cannot be discounted. Be that as it may, it’s worth trying, experimenting and not being afraid.
We had Miracle Whip in my house growing up. I thought it was just a brand of regular mayonnaise. I hated it.
One day I had a sandwich with actual real mayonnaise on it, it was the best sandwich of my life up to that point. I looked into it and Miracle is some weird thing that's to mayonnaise what margarine is to butter.
I hated beer until my late 20s, when I finally had something besides Bud Lite or Coors.
Miracle Whip is a low-fat version of mayonnaise with added sugar, mustard, garlic, and paprika.
As a type 2 diabetic, I'll take mayonnaise. No sugar in mayo.
Load More Replies...any chance you could you explain what you like about it?
Load More Replies...I suspect this is in the USA, so I do not know about their Miracle Whip, but ours, which is called Miracel Whip, in Germany tastes fairly good. There are better and worse Mayos.
I’m not anti American, I love you guys, but the beer is pretty bad, especially millers. I don’t get the best reviews back in aus from US beers. I do love the Budweiser myself though, that’s nice
I mean the c**p beer, yea. But there are a lot of people who are really into craft beer in the US, too. Like anything in the US, it’s a huge country and to generalize based on a small sample is to get an inaccurate impression.
Load More Replies...real diffrence between when americans usually start 😔
Load More Replies..."...something besides Bud Lite or Coors.' In other words, you finally got around to having a beer.
One time Miracle Whip was touted as a salad dressing not mayonnaise. I don't know if Miracle Whip is still touted as salad dressing?
It is, yes. The label still says "salad dressing" and an underscore "slogan" along the lines of "The great taste of mayo with a tangy kick/twist/flavor" or something. I'm too lazy to go look at the jar in my fridge for the exact quote but I grew up on it and still love it
Load More Replies...OMG Thank you! I grew up with Margarine and now, living with real butter... i can't stomach margarine.
I was terrified of snakes until I was in 10th grade (so... Not recently lmao, I graduated in 2018) until my biology teacher had 2 corn snakes and one of them was so sweet. Her name was Maisy and was just so cute. She would let us pet her, she'd curl up to me and fall asleep.
The south african word for corn is maize, so makes sense (from my point of view)
Load More Replies...Snakes and spiders are beautiful creatures, just a little misunderstood.
I was surprised when they brought one to my elementary school. They weren't what I thought
We found a snake in our pool (drained) last month. (Well, the cat found it and guarded it.) We were pretty sure it was a harmless brown house snake, but a rinkhals (ring-necked spitting cobra) was also a possibility. Nevertheless, we called a snake rescue and he confirmed it was a harmless snake, and asked if we wanted to touch it. I did, and it crawled up my arm. Wonderful!
I used to not like mashed potatoes, but it turns out my parents were just super f*****g bad at making them.
Wrong type of potato, undercook them, use a blender instead of a masher and wired whip, forget the butter, use water instead of milk, wrong seasoning ... just a couple of options
Load More Replies...I used to think I hated quite a few foods when I was a kid. Turns out my mom just wasn't a very good cook. :)
I had the same sentiment about chili. I didn't like the spices (too spicy) and I didn't like red beans. I finally found my way because one of my kids had some at a restaurant. I changed the red beans for black beans and I'm putting way less chili seasoning than my mother ever did. Think staying all night at the table to finish the stupid dish. Never did. Got carried asleep to my bed every time and so did one of my brothers.
I hated mashed potatoes growing up. When I got to college, I discovered that they can actually have texture. My mother whipped them with a hand mixer until they’re the consistency of baby food. As she’s gotten older, she doesn’t whip them quite as much and they’re tolerable now.
Same issue with a lot of foods for me, I thought I hated spinach/ocra/most types of legumes/cauliflower/ I can go on. Turns out I pretty much love eating everything when it's cooked well.
For example, don’t be afraid to leave your comments. Especially if you also have an interesting story behind you of overcoming or changing your own views on something or someone. So please be brave now, just write your own tale here - and who knows, maybe you'll also inspire someone to share one more great instructive or just amusing experience!
People are inherently good/decent. Nope, I’ve been corrected and humbled numerous times.
At birth, people are egoistical, aggressive savages. Empathy and kindness are learned behaviour. If children are not taught to be socialised human beings, they're no better than wild apes. We are not inherently bad, but were beasts with no knowledge of right and wrong. We have no morals by nature. It's learned behaviour and we get worse and worse at teaching our children how to be kind. Humans are animals, that have made themselves believe, that we're not.
A lot of animals display something like empathy and affection though...
Load More Replies...We are all born as selfish and needy, because that's the nature of any life form that is dependent. We have to learn mindfulness, kindness, compassion, generosity, etc. For some, those lessons never take hold as well as they should. And for all of us, our origin as needy and selfish beings remains a behavior pattern that we can potentially fall back into.
I prefer to think "People make the best choices they can, according to their values and perception." Humans will try to make the best decision, but that does not mean they are making an objectively good choice. A simple example would be someone stealing 20$. Objectively a bad choice, odds are they know its bad. So why? Maybe it's because fixing their hunger is the best choice over other risks. Or they receive more excitement from taking than guilt from taking it. Taking a chosen action has the most value to them in the moment. But what that value is varies.
But that doesn't mean people are inherently bad, either. Some people are irredeemably horrible, some are good to the core. Most of them are in between and can be swayed to either side.
Two things can be simultaneously true. Overall, people ARE getting less violent, and I think one day that will also apply to more invisible types of violence. In fact, I think it's already happening. Some people are just born with a lot of natural empathy and others need a lot more guidance to get to the same place. People who are pessimistic, I don't think you've done the research. The fact that humans continue to experience gracilization is indicative of increased human socialization (ie we ended up domesticating ourselves and we're still doing it) and in fact, violence has been on a steep decline for centuries now. No person is born bad, and there are certainly no bad children, just troubled, often very sad and angry ones.
Had to look up gracilization = "A reduction of bone mass as the result of evolution." Wondering how less bone mass has anything to do with violence...?
Load More Replies...Our genes evolved to see anyone outside our little clan as a potential enemy to help us survive. Hundreds of thousands, even tens of thousands, of years ago that made sense. As our numbers grew we also evolved to cooperate. Those two things are always at odds with one another. It takes effort to make the choice to not act like a savage, an effort not many want to bother with. With more than eight billion of us on the planet now there is intense competition for limited resources. It ain't gonna end well.
I'm an avid gardener and used to hate the idea of cut flowers. These days, I consider cut flowers as plants paying rent.
I cut flowers from my garden to take to the office, and I pick the ones I can't see from the house
What does this mean? Cut flowers like the ones you buy in stores?? Because I hate those too, they all smell the same and if I didn’t grow it then I don’t enjoy it as much
I used to hate standardized tests and thought they were just a way for people to buy their way into better schools and were an inaccurate measure of true academic ability.
Then I saw an article in defense of them that basically admitted that everything I thought was true, but every single other current metric is easier to buy with money and an even worse measure of academic performance. Learned that day that flawed tools are sometimes the only tool you have.
That was not where I was expecting that argument to go, but… yeah that’s a fair point.
He was thinking that they were the worst of the worst? But they were just the most-OK-ish of the bad? So they were better that he thought,and the beat the author thought could be done? Or?
Load More Replies...Tests are important, but I think kids need to be taught to apply knowledge in the real world and not just get high marks on tests. There has to be a balance
I agree. I was taught not to mix bleach and vinegar in chemistry, but I wasn’t really “learning” it, I was just memorizing words for the test. Fast forward 6 years later at my bartending job, cleaning coffee carafes with vinegar but not quite getting all the coffee stains out, I think to myself, “you know what would make this vinegar work better? BLEACH!” We had to close the restaurant for 2 hours.
Load More Replies...Holy c**p! That photo demonstrates why people are illiterate these days! “The boat sunk.” (banging head on desk) Argh. I’ve always wondered what’s been going on, and now I know: illiterate people are creating the teaching materials. 😰😰😰
We did standardised tests at the end of school as a comparison to our actual tests. As I understand it the idea is that the school can teach and grade however they like but if they're artificially inflating kids scores (or deflating them) the standardised tests help to pick that up. ie: A school with a heap of A+ kids won't suddenly score at C- on the standard tests (or vice versa) unless there's shenanigans going on with the schools marking.
Standardized tests are the only thing I was ever good at. I got a full scholarship out of high school. I'm 57 and never got a bachelor's degree. I'm glad I got to see Alaska for free, but I wish someone had told me I didn't have to go to college
I always considered myself Christian, but over the last 16 months or so, I feel far more agnostic. I still respect religion. I just don’t feel like I really have much use for it anymore.
History does not record anywhere at any time a religion that has any rational basis. Religion is a crutch for people not strong enough to stand up to the unknown without help. - Robert A. Heinlein
While I personally am an atheist, I think religion truly can be a tool for good, and really helps some people. Just because it’s been used for evil, doesn’t mean it is inherently bad. Sure, a lot of stuff is outdated, and yes, there are those that twist it as a tool of persecution, it has a lot of positive effects too.
Load More Replies...Here's my take. I don't shove my religion down anyone's throat. If you ask me about it, I'll talk to you about it. I don't hate you if you're not a Christian. And I believe a lot of people call themselves "Christian", but they are not. But - if religion comforts me, why do you care? If it all turns out to be a big nothing burger, it's okay with me because it still gives me comfort and purpose. It's not a "crutch" or anything else negative with me. Why do so many people Christian bash? We are not all the same any more than any other group of people...
They care because the party of tolerance is not that tolerant.
Load More Replies...religion is a cult. I am not religious but i respect ppl who believe in it, its not for me. i cant handle people telling me what or how to live my life
We simply need to ask ourselves if a Being with the ability to create the Entire Universe would want humans to cling to Fanfiction written by primitive cultures, that thought the Creator of the Entire Universe lived in low Earth orbit. Religion has existed since the dawn of civilization, and human beliefs must evolve as civilization advances. If our Creator is benevolent, why should we fear it? Because primitive people didn't understand the world and built a belief system based on their fear? Religion should not be based on fear, or cause division and strife.
It's about spirituality for me. Amaterasu I worship. Bible gods can all foxtrot
I think if I hadn't been told at a young age that I must have long hair and skirts to my ankles or I would go to hell, I might have been a little more receptive. Even my young mind at that time couldn't comprehend going to hell with rapists and murderers because I wore jeans. Just didn't Jive with me.
Some parts of religion are great, like be kind and respect people and all that but a lot of it is 💩
I thought fish tasted weird, until my dad some years ago accidentaly "overcooked" the fish ny accident. It tasted great! Turns out its not supposed to have the consistency of gelatin.
I live in the Midwest and when I was on the coast and had fresh, caught that day fish it ruined me. I had no idea fish could be that tasty! Same with apples. Ugh, the ones in the supermarket sometimes are so soft and flavorless but if you get one off the vine, you will never want supermarket apples again! The freshness and the way food is prepared is so important!
tree, not vine. Grapes are on vines, apples are on trees. LMAO!
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I'm not sure if I want to know how your dad cooked fish that it had consistency of gelatin.
I hated fish my whole life, then in 2018 I had bariatric surgery and I've literally started to Crave it. I love it now. Not really life-changing but a fun little anecdote
I had bariatric surgery about a year ago (March 20 will be a year, went from 207 to 129lbs!) and I crave the same! There is nothing better than grilled fish and ice-ice-ice-cold water.
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Brussels sprouts. My dad always said he hated them growing up so I assumed he was right and never ate them. Had some recently and they were delicious!.
They actually used to taste really bitter if you didn’t cook them right, but I think that’s been selectively bred out, so they’re much more friendly and accessible. I love some Brussels sprouts, roasted in olive oil with a little salt and pepper.
Correct. And the bitterness comes from a form of cyanide called thiocyanate.
Load More Replies...They developed new varieties that are both sweeter and less bitter than they used to be. It's them that's changed, not you.
They also taste bitter if they are picked too soon! Brussels sprouts plants need a light freeze .. it forces the sugars into the tiny cabbages and they taste amazing!!
Nope, sorry, they taste like farts; before you ask how do I know what farts taste like, 70% of taste is smell You're welcome!😃
They smell like someone farted into a dirty sweat sock and taste twice as bad. Every week when I was elementary school age I got 4 on my plate, it was torture 😑 Now peas can be swallowed whole one at a time, but brussel sprouts cannot because believe me I've tried
There is also a genetic factor - if you dislike them no matter how they cooked you really shouldn't eat them as they contain something that's hard to diggest and can cause liver problems (was some time ago I read about that)
They're a dark green vegetable, of COURSE they're going to be good for you.
I used to hate spiders. Even the smallest ones would give me the creeps.
One day I was at a petting zoo with my kid, she was around four at the time. We went to see a snake and a spider and while we were there I ended up holding the spider in my hand. The spider guy asked me if I wanted to hold it. I think I didn't want to show my kid the fear, so I just went with it. It was a big fella.
Something clicked in my brain. Something about that spider being so big I could actually feel its weight instead of just the tickly feeling of a normal spider.
From that day my fear was cured. Spiders are just like ants or flies to me now.
I got a brown recluse bite once. A quarter-sized chunk of flesh on my leg died, rotted and fell off. Sorry, but spiders just creep me out. I don't go out of my way to kill them, though...unless they're a brown recluse.
I had a spider egg hatch in my bed as a kid. I thought I was being eaten up by fleas. I sprayed the bed with bug spray then slept on the couch. It was only in the morning we realized they were spiders. Shook me for some time.
Load More Replies...The spider in the upper corner in the kitchen and I have an understanding. She keeps the fruit flies under control, I don't put her outside. This agreement will have to be revisited when she makes an egg sac.
nope nuh uh not happening, i will never ever hold a spider, i hate every kind of creepy and crawly and i will take that to my grave
Spiders are fine outside. Inside, they are evicted or destroyed depending on if they are black widows.
I use my bath water to flush the toilet (Mzansi is drought-prone) but I fill up a bucket at night and let the water out... so any spiders that might climb into the bath at night won't drown. (I've rescued dozens from my empty bath since.)
That my phd matters. I've been destroying myself over it while the institution I study at has completely failed to support me.
I thought without the Dr I would be a failure.
I realise now that I'd rather earn good money in a job I like and travel and live happy rather than keep making up for their failure.
I’m conflicted bc I love learning and I really do want to go to higher levels of schooling, but I also don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’d feel bad if I was just pouring money into classes/degree I’d never use…
The joyful pursuit of knowledge is its own reward.
Load More Replies...I’m going to get a PhD if things go smoothly so that I can get my dream job
Defended my MS and...walked out the door because the PhD no longer interested me. Never regretted it in over 30 years.
Ha ha, I always planned to get the phd, even had my dissertation topic, but was so fed up with university I started working. That was 30 years ago. Never looked back.
I'm sorry. You can still get your PhD, it's never too late. Maybe a break was what you needed or a different Uni
Load More Replies...YES! I also realized this. It's a scam. And the fact that you have NO job security, your lab can lose funding at the last moment, forcing you to redo do everything with a whole new lab, is so barbaric and quite frankly, stupid. And being a post doc is even worse. Second best decision I made was to walk away less than a year out from finishing.
I decided I don't hate my mom anymore and actually wish she was here. The 10 year anniversary of her passing was about a week ago and I was sitting on my bed mulling over my feelings as well as a lot of things my dad had said about my mom when we'd visited her grave for the first time in a while that morning. My thoughts were going at such a rapid pace that it took me a second to even realize what I'd thought when I absorbed that being mad at her for the ways she f****d me/my life up was useless, she could've changed as a person by now had she not passed, I've become an adult and understand the nuances of life, and I miss my mom.
My therapist said that some people grieve the person they lost, and some people grieve the relationship they wish they could have had. I was also in the latter camp, but it does make it a lot more complicated. Wishing you peace on your grief journey.
I grieved the man I thought my dad was. The things I learned afterward... that's what screwed me up the most
Load More Replies...My mother is still alive but as far as I'm concerned, she died over 40 yrs ago.
My grandmother died by stages. She was probably mentally dead before she was physically dead - dementia. Thought my father was back in the United States, my aunt was still alive, et cetera. One time she thought Reagan was still President!
Load More Replies...My GF resented the fact that I hate my mother and didn't want to talk to her. She effed up my childhood ,moved every other year,lied about my dad, lot's of other things. I moved clear across the country to get away from her. My GF and I argued about it for years. She insisted that I was making it up and overreacting. Then, finally, we had to go back to where my mom lived and she met her. Less than 3 days. Shut my GF up instantly and she apologized for not believing me. Parents can be hated and you shouldn't feel bad about it.
This one really hits home as I am currently no contact with my mom. She suffers from mental illness and had a horrific childhood but it doesn't make it okay the things she does and has done to me my whole life. She recently had a stroke though, so now I'm terrified that something's going to happen to her and I won't have a chance to say goodbye. It weighs heavy on my heart every waking moment
NC with my dad and his children (full blood just don't claim them) atm he had a stroke too, and I do start to wonder and then I force myself to remember everything from childhood to last year when I finally decided NC. Some ppl choose to be monsters, like when given the opportunity they recognize they need help and just decide nope you aren't worth my tiny attempts to not be abusive, I enjoy abusing you more than making the effort to seek professional help
Load More Replies...I don't miss mine at all. I couldn't even work up some tears at her funeral and believe me I tried. Various scenes in the Harry Potter movies make me weep....sometimes just thinking about them and I'll cry. So I was concentrating on them during the funeral to try and squeeze out a tear but I had nothing.
Not everyone grieves, and not everyone grieves in the same way. Don't beat yourself up about that. I laughed out loud at my dad's funeral, and so did my sister.
Load More Replies...Long since let go of the bad mom she is a flawed person who did her best. Though you won't hear it from her. And she still a germaphobe. Does some weird things.
I recently changed from being a proponent of small government to a fan of big government.
The best government follows the will of the people and looks out for their wellbeing, and the best way to do that is to have a lot of checks and balances that prevent a small group from imposing their will on others.
Likewise, it's less prone to corruption since more people hold power, and it's harder to influence from the outside.
You shouldn't want a big or small government. You should want the right sized government. If big government is the right size, it isn't big. This is like when politicians say they want to get rid of regulations. Well which ones? Some are good some are bad. A blanket statement like that is just dumb.
That statement is dumb. What's "rightsized"??? That's a buzzword. All large functioning nations have big government, social structures for the people, defense capabilities, infrastructure, education for their citizens is all big. Those crying for small government are actually destroying the nation, it would crumble with the masses being ignorant, mass poverty, many deaths, social collapse, no roads, no protection, no defense, and sin after no nation.
Load More Replies...The biggest problem with big government though, is that it's not agile. Cultural norms can change way faster than the Government can act on them. It's why we still have weird grandfathered laws that are 100 years out of date ruling aspects of our lives. I think there are certain fundamental services that should be provided by government though - health care, education, power, water and transport. Probably internet too these days. It's a terrible mistake allowing any of those services to be privatised.
Clearly not talking about the U.S. government. The Pentagon alone (half of federal tax dollars) is so corrupt it has never been able to pass an audit. Eisenhower warned us about the military-industrial complex 65 years ago and we still haven't learned that lesson.
Clearly they were talking about the US government. I know you are trying to be cute, but the small government arguments are talking about curtailing social assistance.
Load More Replies...ALL governments are corrupt! ALL politicians are corrupt! The least of amount of government possible. We The People are NOT truly represented in government. The US has been run by an oligarchy for decades...
We need to get rid of the two-party system and we also need to get rid of the lobbying groups that flood money into their causes. There's an also be turn limits on every branch of government aside from the Supreme Court. I'm sure the answer to a better govern as much more complicated than what I've put, but those seem like some common sense things to me
Answer for the US: We should want good governance. Unfortunately, we can’t agree on what that is so we settle for trying to stop the opposition from getting what they want and, in the process, we also get a lot of angst, sabotage and waste.
All of them. They form a party call it a government but still crooks at the core
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I was dead set against blue cheese. I got some regular mild buffalo wings from dominos one night and thought f**k it, I’ll get one dip of blue cheese and if I don’t like it I’ll just toss it out. I ordered 2 ranches just in case. I actually love blue cheese now. S**t tasted so good haha. I get it all the time now.
Okay but let's be honest here .. domino's is serving blue cheese flavoured dip .. not the real stuff
Unsurprisingly, Domino's blue cheese is to blue cheese what Domino's pizza is to pizza.
Load More Replies...ive never tasted it but heard that it's blue part is made of mold(poked holes in regular cheese and then put aside to theres mold forming). ever since then ive been turned away from blue cheese, im sorry but i hate mold so much
Load More Replies...Blue cheese dip is not blue cheese. Try a nice Bleu d'Auvergne with a bit of figbread.
Well for weird clarification I have had broccoli and blue cheese soup at one the most expensive restaurants in Australia (Rockpool, Perth casino) and it tasted the same as pizza huts cheese sauce 😂 and working in kitchens - flavours change when you cook ingredients
Welcome to the club, friend. Wait until you realize how many things it tastes SO good on...
I am allergic, seriously so, though not deadly so far. Mold of any sort is not knowingly going on/in my food. I ate some unknowingly once, and it tasted good, but never will I eat it willingly because I can't get past the mold.
I thought Elder scrolls online is a boring online game that I'll never like especially since trying it once.
I was extremely wrong!! I play almost every day, with my wife. I absolutely love this game's the world, the missions, the everything!.
I recently started playing that game myself. Having played Oblivion and Skyrim, I was of course gonna compare them. And while the scenery in ESO weren't nearly as atmospheric as the two, Skyrim in particular, I've been enjoying it so far since I can play it with a friend of mine.
Skyrim is beautiful. If you play on PC, look into modding the game. Adds 10000% to the experience, and there are hundreds upon hundreds of mods for it.
The combat in ESO is so fun! You can play alone if you want which is fine, but I really do love the public events. It's really nice to explore the world too, although I still end up hanging around Skyrim, stuff that later becomes part of Cyrodiil, and Morrowind...a bit attached to those three.
I want to like it, but the enemies are way too easy and it becomes more a walking simulator - good story, bland combat most of the time
It's a real shame, they completely nerfed enemies about... a year in? The combat was so freaking hard, but fun. Harder than a Souls game much of the time. If you even made it to the first boss in the first dungeon, it was a miracle. Let alone actually beating it. I'm not sure I beat it until I was really overleveled. Now the only challenge is the amazing PvP or end game raids. I had friends quit the game over the nerf.
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That people should adopt or foster instead of doing IVF, etc.
We started trying and I found out I have basically no eggs left (premature ovarian failure). I'd always said I'd "just adopt" if I couldn't have kids. Turns out actually being told I can't completely changed my view on things, and now we're doing donor egg IVF. I completely understand now why people put themselves through this stuff, as hard as it is.
Also, adoption is not cheap or easy like people assume, and has its own set of ethical issues (as does donor conception, but we've tried to inform ourselves as best we can so that we do it as "right" as possible, and try to do what is in the best interest of our future children). Fostering is not something just anyone can (or should) do, and is obviously not a guarantee of a happy family since the goal is reunification. .
This leads to the question how much an adoption costs in their country. Of course a child needs clothes, food and other things, but the costs of adoption only, sum up to a few hundred Euros in my country. Of course it costs more for a child from another country, but that depends.
In the USA to get a baby from a private adoption agency it costs anywhere from 30-60 thousand dollars. It's more expensive for international adoption. It's ridiculous. People who can't afford that and want to adopt have to do it through foster care and have their hearts broken over and over again when the babies they've raised for years are given back to biological families. They have to hope that a bio family won't want the baby or will lose their rights so that they can adopt.
Load More Replies...I have always been thankful for not being born with that bone in my head that demands I procreate.
To be fair, infertility is a medical issue. Having a medical problem doesn't make it your responsibility to foster or adopt a child in need. To go through the grief of infertility, which studies have shown is as mentally taxing as going through cancer, then foster only to have the child taken away, is more than many people can endure. A friend spent 5 years trying to adopt, was matched with a child then the birth family changed their mind and took the baby back. It was devastating. Not to mention the absolute rollercoaster of being told a birth family is considering you then chooses someone else. With pregnancy you can reasonably assume when the baby will arrive. With fostering and adoption sometimes you have almost zero notice. You have to live your life perpetually in wait. There are so many factors to consider and the choice to foster, adopt, do IVF, or whatever route they take is intensely personal. What is right for one person/family is not the right path for everyone.
Load More Replies...One of my close friends went through much worse hell adopting her child than she did going through years of IVF (which unfortunately did not take). They make it so hard for people to adopt, I can understand having rigorous qualifications/interviews because of course they want to make sure the children go to a safe home with loving parents, but they really put people through the wringer emotionally and mentally, and it is so goddamn insanely expensive.
Honestly, there should be parental tests before people are allowed to procreate. If you conceive naturally or through IVF, there's just taking chances and gambling
Load More Replies...I had one child, and got pregnant with her on birth control because I have PCOS. I can't say what route I would take had we wanted more children but I think it is a deeply personal choice for each person and there's really no wrong answer. Now I'm almost 44 and the baby fever is bad but there's no babies in my future. It makes me really sad sometimes
Me too Carla. I struggled to get pregnant with my son, took 11 months. When we tried for a second it never happened, we tried for a good solid 2 years. Then my periods went bananas in 2023 and I bled heavily for a solid 6 months. Turns out I have PCOS which is why I couldn’t get pregnant again. I very much wanted a second baby and absolutely grieved that not being in the cards for us. I still melt when I see a baby. I’ll be 40 this year so I think my son is going to be an only child. I’m so so grateful to have had him. I try to appreciate that rather than be stuck on not having a bigger family. But I definitely wanted at least two children, maybe four. I’ve always loved kids and wanted kids.
Load More Replies...In my country there are many kids that were adopted from really terrible orphanages in very poor countries. Now the families are suffering because the children have horrible behavioral issues (violence, se*ual interest towards their siblings etc.) As sad as it is, if a child has lived their first years in a caged animal -like conditions, that child is broken, and you can't just love a broken child to health. Adoption is not an easy solution for everyone, but might require a huge amount of time, money and emotional labor, and still fail.
When you adopt you have to be open to social services being involved and investigating you, your partner, your family and doing home inspections. They don't just give you a child because you have the money to do so. Same with fostering kids. There are a ton of strict requirements and you have to be very patient and very careful with your words at all times. There's a foster parent on youtube I've seen in my shorts list who shows the dos and don'ts of fostering kids.
I was team creamy peanut butter all the way back to kindergarten. Then during the pandemic, I changed to crunchy peanut butter. I saw the jar in the cabinet and thought it looked really good and now it's my preferred peanut butter. I think I was going through a midlife crisis.
Doesn't seem like peanut butter without some crunchy peanuts in it.
Crunchy always! If you like creamy we can't be frens...well we can, but I'll judge you.
Haha. My best friend loves crunchy, I love smooth (NZ calls it smooth instead of creamy). We judge the hell out of each other...🤣
Load More Replies...Crunchy peanut butter is superior to creamy in all respects, with the obvious exception of an improvised lubricant.
I used to believe it was useful to have police patrolling. Now I don’t. We don’t need police looking for traffic violations or monitoring sidewalks. We need them to come when called. We need them to investigate crimes.
At the very least we need to completely cutback on the police state.
Cops need to get out of their cars and walk a beat again. Engage with the community. Now, they speed from one call to the next, and the job attracts adrenaline junkies.
I hate to tell you, but it always attracted adrenaline junkies :P
Load More Replies...Where I live, it takes 520 hours of basic training to become a cop with a badge and gun. Meanwhile, it takes 1000 school-hours or 2000 apprentice-hours to become a licensed barber.
Thats not necissarily true. While it takes 520 hours to graduate police academy, you will end up being partnered with an older officer for about a year to learn the ropes and such. Also, that is very subjective. There are as many academies as there are departments, and for some, especially state trooper, it is much longer and more strenuous.
Load More Replies...I'm of mixed feelings about that. But I have to admit, police always helped me out when I met them. My first time meeting a police patrol was in the middle of the night at freezing temperatures. I had missed the bus and walked home. They picked me up and got me home. As a young girl out alone at one o clock at night, having missed the last bus I was incredibly grateful. They'd thought I was a runaway. I wasn't. It was just a chain of unfortunate events. The next time my identity got stolen. Police and state attorney did a great job clearing me from a charge for money laundering. And the last time a hotel tried to deny me entry although I did nothing and had a valid booking. When I refused to leave they called the police and the officers forced them to look at my reservation to prove that it wasn't valid. But it was. Then they insisted on them showing their camera footage to prove that I'd misbehaved, which I didn't. Then they had to admit they'd overbooked and find me another hotel
But when they are on patrol they are more spread out and available quickly if they are called (hopefully). If they all just wait at their station it could take too long for them to reach the place of emergency.
I'd much prefer police patrolling and talking to people than automated speed cameras and point to point cameras and so on. If I see a police car I'll consciously make an effort to watch my speed and drive "better". Even if they don't ticket me it improves my driving for at least the rest of the day. Contrast that with a speed camera where you just get a fine several weeks later in the mail.
This very much depends on the country you live in. Selection and training are not the same in every country. Neither are the roles. E.g. In the Netherlands one needs at least a secondary school diploma (mbo-4) and will get two years of training at the police school - IF you pass the entry exam, which also evaluates your character. This is for the basic career and equivalent to any other apprenticeship in any other sector. All other trainings will require a bachelor or master degree plus 3 years specialized training. Investigation of crimes is a different career path. Unless your hobby is deliberately ignoring general rules of living amongst other people, you barely come in contact with them. Some people here made it their hobby to attack ambulances and fire brigades during their work and prevent them from helping, they will guaranteed have not so nice encounters with the police. If you are a jerk in traffic, or drive drunk, it is not the police to blame.
Cops should direct traffic when the lights are out, not hide around the corner pulling cars over
Try driving in south Florida and you'll come around to the concept. It's madness on the roads! All the conservatives that have moved here recently for low taxes and "freedom" love to b**ch about the homelessness, crime and crazy driving. You'd think they'd put 2+2 together.
The homelessness and crime are in blue cities, not red cities. Look it up.
Load More Replies...Having them out in the communities does help and they can attend calls quicker than if they were hanging out at the headquarters until called. Plus, traffic violations are a public safety hazard. If there weren't any enforcement and punishment for violations then it would be just as well to legalize reckless driving.
I had a big hangup about blood and gore in movies, to the point where I wouldn't even see 300 in theaters with my ex 17 years ago.
I just watched it, and it's like a switch flipped in my brain: it's all stylized. I'm certainly not going to watch SAW anytime soon, but the fear is greatly diminished.
The first one was quite good. It was a tense, well constructed little locked room thriller with a nice twist. The later ones descended into gratuitous gore fests though. Not saying a gore fest is "bad" (some people love gory movies). But they certainly deviated from the original.
Load More Replies...As an ex- Army medic/ER Tech I have had to walk out of movies that were too bloody and violent. The thing is, in real life none of it bothers me. If anything I get more focused on the victim instead of what caused their injuries.
I'm kind of the opposite. I used to be a fan of movies with "well-done gore"... but nowadays, I tend to avoid entertainment choices that are particularly violent or negative. My daily life is tough enough; I'd rather watch something that lets me escape reality for a while (or at least lets me focus on and enjoy the good things about my own reality). It's all about finding entertainment that improves my mood after I've consumed it.
Same. I know in movies it's fake blood, editing, makeup and all that. But I can't help but be reminded some of it is based on things that real people have gone through and I go down a rabbit hole of trauma that doesn't end with the movie credits. I want to just watch something that makes me laugh at life.
Load More Replies...I can read/hear about gore and blood just fine, but when I see it (unless it's animated), I just... somehow, I just forget that what I'm watching is fictional. And I freak out. Therefore, when someone tells me there will be blood/gore in the movie (and yes, I WILL ask), I don my glasses so I can slide them down a bit when the bloody/gory parts come. If I'm watching the movie with someone, I heavily rely on (and therefore trust) them to tell me when the "difficult" parts come.
Happy to watch/read the goriest stuff because it’s not *real*. Non fiction, don’t go there.
Yep, I’ve just recently got super into horror and gore, but strictly fictional. I’m still deeply affected by real world stuff.
Load More Replies...Agreed. Blood and gore is not my thing, but 300 was beautifully done.
Onions.
I used to hate them, but like them now.
But I still don't like sweet onions. Taste like onion flavored apple. Worst of both worlds.
Conservative Christian growing up. Now I'm an agnostic at best, full supporter of LGBT+ rights, and radically pro-choice.
I hated, hated, hated onions as a kid. Now I like them a lot. I'll never eat one like an apple, but I cook with them, enjoy them on sandwiches and in salads; totally flipped the script.
When I was a kid at my brothers wedding, someone cut my mom’s delicious chocolate fudge cake with a knife that been used to chop onions, and not washed. I wouldn’t touch an onion for 30 years. Now I love them.
If you want to smell heaven, walk into a kitchen where onions and bacon are being sautéed.
I'm not a fan of raw onions, they're too strong. But cooked ones are yummy 😋😋😋
I used to have an uninformed view of abortion, I knew what it did and was like yeah, sounds bad that’s a baby but it’s the mom’s choice. Then I got older and roe vs wade got turned and I did more research. Holy s**t, abortion is important. It should be available to women everywhere without bible thumpers telling them they’re going to hell
Hi KillerKiwi! I know very little about the whole abortion topic. You say you did more research and discovered how important it is, and I am trying to learn. What made you decide abortion was so important? (Not trying to debate, I just know so little and I would love to know)
Load More Replies...I was a very picky eater as a kid. One of my friends is an excellent cook and he dared me to let him make a food I hated. He assured me he wouldn't be offended if I didn't like it as long as I tried it once. I said okay. That's how I learned, as much as I love them, my parents are just not good cooks.
Funny how many of us learned that (our parents not being great at cooking) as we get to adulthood. I made myself a great cook to the point of my oldest brother coming over to eat; he was a sous-chef at the time.
Load More Replies...When I was in my 20s, I once spent more than half a year on welfare. I saw how it's a trap designed to punish people for being on it, but is simultaneously designed to make getting off welfare next to impossible unless (like me) you're single without kids. Very few people who are on welfare want to be, most want to work and have a better life but roadblocks are put in their way.
I was a vicious, nasty, horrid little racist as a kid and teen. I have no idea where I got it from. As far as I recall, my parents weren't racist. My extended family wasn't racist. My friends weren't racist, nor were their parents. But I would look at other nationalities and just think the most awful things. Then my folks pulled me out of my regular school and sent me to a private school where--for the first time--I actually had to interact with people who didn't look just like me. Completely blew my mind and made me ashamed of myself.
That is interesting, usually it is the other way around, the private schools catering to a given group, and the public schools being the ones that are more mixed.
Load More Replies...OK, so I thought I was a defeatist. I had a terrible accident, did therapy (rehab, water, physio, sports, massages. Edit: and Chinese acupuncture) and I can now touch my face, do pretty much anything, except play pool again. Took me 12 years. I only stopped because I was tired of getting drugged (the pain is awful). In my head, I should have been stuck without the use of my arms and hands.
Wow, congratulations! I'm so very sorry you went through such an awful thing (and so much pain), but while obviously it's been hell you've clearly learned and grown as a result.
Load More Replies...My change happened during COVID. I always that in a time of disaster or big change, people would listen to the science and just go along with what was needed. Boy was I wrong. The number whiny, soft boobs out in the country amazed me. Simple thing. Wear a mask. Unbelievable how weak people really are. And lengths they went to to avoid it. There was a gas station with a McDonald's I used to stop in on my way to work everyday. This little pussy would go in every day with no mask. And he had the drive thru option. The store wouldn't say anything and Mr pussy started wearing his gun. These weak little fools are too stupid to just go along and then we let the weaklings have their guns on top of it. It really opened my eyes to how weak the US is. About the only positive is that clowns like this were more likely to die from COVID. The downer is these people have kids/ families who
I was raised on a "college is the only way survive". my mom constantly told me "college first", when I told her anything I wanted to do. ( I had a near-death experience and heard my mom tell me "college first.) I have a degree. Biggest mistake ever. I work as a janitor, with higher pay and better benefits than what my degree would earn me.
OK, not exactly a hill to die on, but when I was little I hated crinkle-cut French fries. Then one night I had a dream that I lived on a farm, and the pigs had crinkle-cut fries for tails. The people who lived on the farm pulled them off and ate them on occasion. I ate one and liked it. Ever since then I have enjoyed crinkle-cut fries.
My husband was 100% against seafood with the exception of fast food fish sandwiches when we first got married. I on the other hand love it especially shellfish. On our 1 year anniversary he took me to a great local seafood place, where I ordered snow crab legs. He was watching me with fascination cracking and eating so I said try a bite. At first he refused but I asked if he ever tried it he said no. I asked him how does he know he doesn't like it if he hadn't tried it he said his parents didn't. After some more prodding I finally got him to take a bite. He was hooked! lol
I used to have an uninformed view of abortion, I knew what it did and was like yeah, sounds bad that’s a baby but it’s the mom’s choice. Then I got older and roe vs wade got turned and I did more research. Holy s**t, abortion is important. It should be available to women everywhere without bible thumpers telling them they’re going to hell
Hi KillerKiwi! I know very little about the whole abortion topic. You say you did more research and discovered how important it is, and I am trying to learn. What made you decide abortion was so important? (Not trying to debate, I just know so little and I would love to know)
Load More Replies...I was a very picky eater as a kid. One of my friends is an excellent cook and he dared me to let him make a food I hated. He assured me he wouldn't be offended if I didn't like it as long as I tried it once. I said okay. That's how I learned, as much as I love them, my parents are just not good cooks.
Funny how many of us learned that (our parents not being great at cooking) as we get to adulthood. I made myself a great cook to the point of my oldest brother coming over to eat; he was a sous-chef at the time.
Load More Replies...When I was in my 20s, I once spent more than half a year on welfare. I saw how it's a trap designed to punish people for being on it, but is simultaneously designed to make getting off welfare next to impossible unless (like me) you're single without kids. Very few people who are on welfare want to be, most want to work and have a better life but roadblocks are put in their way.
I was a vicious, nasty, horrid little racist as a kid and teen. I have no idea where I got it from. As far as I recall, my parents weren't racist. My extended family wasn't racist. My friends weren't racist, nor were their parents. But I would look at other nationalities and just think the most awful things. Then my folks pulled me out of my regular school and sent me to a private school where--for the first time--I actually had to interact with people who didn't look just like me. Completely blew my mind and made me ashamed of myself.
That is interesting, usually it is the other way around, the private schools catering to a given group, and the public schools being the ones that are more mixed.
Load More Replies...OK, so I thought I was a defeatist. I had a terrible accident, did therapy (rehab, water, physio, sports, massages. Edit: and Chinese acupuncture) and I can now touch my face, do pretty much anything, except play pool again. Took me 12 years. I only stopped because I was tired of getting drugged (the pain is awful). In my head, I should have been stuck without the use of my arms and hands.
Wow, congratulations! I'm so very sorry you went through such an awful thing (and so much pain), but while obviously it's been hell you've clearly learned and grown as a result.
Load More Replies...My change happened during COVID. I always that in a time of disaster or big change, people would listen to the science and just go along with what was needed. Boy was I wrong. The number whiny, soft boobs out in the country amazed me. Simple thing. Wear a mask. Unbelievable how weak people really are. And lengths they went to to avoid it. There was a gas station with a McDonald's I used to stop in on my way to work everyday. This little pussy would go in every day with no mask. And he had the drive thru option. The store wouldn't say anything and Mr pussy started wearing his gun. These weak little fools are too stupid to just go along and then we let the weaklings have their guns on top of it. It really opened my eyes to how weak the US is. About the only positive is that clowns like this were more likely to die from COVID. The downer is these people have kids/ families who
I was raised on a "college is the only way survive". my mom constantly told me "college first", when I told her anything I wanted to do. ( I had a near-death experience and heard my mom tell me "college first.) I have a degree. Biggest mistake ever. I work as a janitor, with higher pay and better benefits than what my degree would earn me.
OK, not exactly a hill to die on, but when I was little I hated crinkle-cut French fries. Then one night I had a dream that I lived on a farm, and the pigs had crinkle-cut fries for tails. The people who lived on the farm pulled them off and ate them on occasion. I ate one and liked it. Ever since then I have enjoyed crinkle-cut fries.
My husband was 100% against seafood with the exception of fast food fish sandwiches when we first got married. I on the other hand love it especially shellfish. On our 1 year anniversary he took me to a great local seafood place, where I ordered snow crab legs. He was watching me with fascination cracking and eating so I said try a bite. At first he refused but I asked if he ever tried it he said no. I asked him how does he know he doesn't like it if he hadn't tried it he said his parents didn't. After some more prodding I finally got him to take a bite. He was hooked! lol
