30 Wise Old Sayings That Have Totally Lost Their Meaning In The Contemporary World, As Shared By Folks In This Online Group
Over the millennia of its existence, humanity has accumulated a huge amount of so-called "folk wisdom" - sayings, proverbs and various allegedly wise quotes. These are words that are intended - often in rhymed form - to reflect some kind of rule of conduct, or simply to calm an upset person.
They are passed down from generation to generation, remain in our subconscious, and we continue to pronounce them without even thinking - but how much do they even make sense? Well, some are simply outdated, not keeping up with the rapid development of mankind in recent decades, some are even harmful, because public morality has changed significantly, and some are just one big lie.
Do you want an example? Voila! You may have heard Thomas Edison's famous saying, "Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration." Beautiful and impressive, isn't it? On the other hand, this statement is true, perhaps, only to one person - Edison himself.
The fact is that the great inventor did not receive a fundamental education, but rather he had simply phenomenal perseverance and working capacity. As a result, where it was enough to simply make some scientific calculation, Edison compensated for everything with a banal enumeration of options manually. It worked for him, but it's far from a fact that it works for others.
Well, there is a very popular thread in the AskReddit community where the topic starter wonders "Which old saying is actually nonsense?" During the few months of its existence, the thread has been upvoted more than 35.4K times, and today it consists of nearly 16.6K comments, many of which hide a complete deconstruction of some element of that notorious "folk wisdom".
Bored Panda has made a list for you with the most popular comments of the original thread. Some of them we have heard hundreds of times in our lives, some you will first meet in this post - in any case, feel free now to scroll to the very end and if you do not find something that seems like complete nonsense to you, please write it in the comments.
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"Money can't buy happiness."
Poverty can't buy anything.
Money will buy me the comfort to do the things that make me happy...so yes, it does buy happiness.
It can buy quite a bit of happiness, but it won't fill the empty space inside you
I literally just accepted a job offer because I need the money to keep my roof over my head and such... so yeah it does :D
Studies have been done, and to an extent it does, as in having enough money for needs, for security in meeting future needs, and for some small luxuries (annual vacation, fund a hobby or 2, afford to entertain friends, that sort of thing) it absolutely does. After the needs, security and small luxuries threshold has been met, additional money no longer adds to happiness levels, you gotta pursue happiness in other ways.
I once won a total of $550 from two different instant lotto tickets. Yes, money bought me happiness.
Money may not be able to buy happiness, but it can alleviate a lot of unhappiness.
"It's always in the last place you look"
Well of course it is. Why would you continue looking once you've found it
At my age I'm much more likely to find that I've forgotten what I'm looking for.
Good things happen to good people. Crock of s**t that is.
I know some pretty horrible people that are positively charmed in life.
Wait I never heard this one. It was always phrased as "Why do bad things always happen to good people?"
Um, nope. Also the opposite is not true either. "He'll get what's coming to him." Nope, not a lot of the time, actually. Sometimes bad people get totally away with doing bad things and doing the right thing gets you nowhere. There are a lot of good people who learn this too late and give all of themselves to a good cause or because they think it will pay off someday and that day never comes. A child molester could get away with it. A serial killer could go their whole lives without getting caught. I think this is why so many people believe in religion because you have to believe there are consequences to your behavior even if not by the law. We have to believe that the people who have wronged us will get some sort of karmic retribution but, sadly, I don't think that is the case. At least, we'll never know about it if they do. Which is why I'm all for executing child molesters and rapists. The victims deserve justice NOW, not in the afterlife.
I agree. A crock of sh*t. My entire life nothing good ever happened to me.
Idk about all that. I keep seeing a bunch of good things happen to people that are pieces of horsesh*t. I may not be a "good" person, as I've got many flaws; however, those weasels keep getting great things, having a great life while we are barely surviving.
Absolutely, but why doesn't it happen to those who deserve it (I'm looking at you trump and putin!)
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"looks don't matter"
I've noticed that this is usually said by people who are attractive themselves. That's like someone born rich saying that money doesn't matter.
I was an fat ugly kid and I'm now a fat, ugly adult. Trust me, looks matter. It has been made very clear to me over the years how much it matters. I've even been told on job interviews that I wasn't attractive enough for the job.
You look fine to me, Branda. That's something I like about online spaces like BP. We aren't rating each other on looks, we're upvoting each other based on our ideas.
Load More Replies...When I was quite young, my mother was telling my younger brother and me about stranger danger. She warned my brother, who was quite a cutie at the time, about a long list of things to watch out for. Then she turned to me and said "Dear, your face will be your chaperone." I wasn't offended at all - until nine years later, when I fould out what "chaperone" meant.
Yes, this is true. I think we're all guilty (at least subconsciously) of it. I've experienced it. So my dad had me do this thing where'd I'd find a good physical quality about people I meet. They have a nice smile, hair, eye color, something anything. I don't remember exactly why, I think I was making fun of a kid. Anyway, so I did. I still do almost 30 years later. Everybody has an attractive quality.
As a woman who grew up not so attractive, I can tell you that looks definitely matter. The way people treat you is very different when you are not attractive to them. I can't speak for guys but I think unattractive people can sometimes be deemed 'smarter' because if you aren't attractive you must be a *geek* or something to make up for that. A lot of the time, our only worth is as being attractive and if you aren't then you can't be average so you have to be smart. I think ugly guys can sometimes have it easier if they're funny. Women will put looks aside if you make them laugh. Or if you're rich. Some types of women only care about money so they'll go with some ugly disaster of a man if he has money. But it doesn't generally go both ways or, at least, it's rare. There's no trade-off like being funny for a woman. At this point, man or woman, I think a lot of people are overlooking ugly if it just means not getting crazy!
In my experience, there are few crimes in the eyes of entitled straight men, that are worse than being a woman that he doesn't want to f**k.
Load More Replies...I hate that everything is photoshop .I would rather be with someone with an amazing personality ,honest.
Statistically speaking attractive people are more successful. It's hard to accept it for an ugly guy like me, but society is really shallow.
Fellow ugly person. Yes looks absolutely matter. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but I have a lot to offer. I'm fun, outgoing, make people laugh. I've had and continue to have a lot of interesting life experiences, from being on TV, there is a picture of me in the Presidential Library, I've played with wolves, I've literally been in every form of media (except radio, haven't managed that one), and more. I cook, know how to take care of myself and my home, I have a solid career. Yet, because I don't come in a pretty enough package, no one gives me a chance. I've been shot down thousands of times, many explicitly for being ugly. My best friend, who is shy and stutters and stumbles around girls, but is physically attractive, gets hit on every time we go out anywhere. Girls have literally fought through crowds to ask him out. He'll be stammering and looking at the floor, I'll be making her laugh, and she'll ask for His number.
In high school, there was a guy who would openly harrass girls. Unhook their bras in the halls, deliberately try to hit them with the ball in gym class, and more. He was good looking, though, so girls would Literally fight to get harrassed and cheated on by him. 'Pretty Privilege' really is a thing. If you are attractive, you can get away with things, and people will still fall at your feet even if you are a table person.
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"Age brings wisdom"
We have an congress, senate, and a bunch of aging baby boomers that prove that wrong.
Senex, "old man". Third declension masculine noun.
Load More Replies...I just love playing the where did the English word come from game.
Load More Replies...Disclaimer: must have an IQ higher than a turnip for this to apply.
I'm an aging boomer and I'm still waiting for that wisdom stuff to kick in. I'm also waiting for that trickle down economy stuff to kick in. Actually, I'm waiting for a whole lot of stuff to kick in.
Well I must say that as an aging baby boomer I believe u are absolutely correct! And don’t get me started on all the old white men in our country who seem to rule the roost! Time for some huge change in America!
There really needs to be an age limit. Once you reach a certain age you can no longer run for office. I mean you have to be at least, what 35 to run for President (US)? There should be a cut off age too.
“Money is the root of all evil” is probably one of the most misquoted sayings out there. The actual quote is “for the love of money is the root of all evil” that changes the meaning behind the quote completely imo
Very true. Greed is the problem. Money is just money.
Load More Replies...The saying is "the love of money is the root of all evil" meaning greed. Greed is the root of all evil, not money itself.
Greed is the root of all evil, greed and a love for power and control. This is what that saying means.
What about Krispy Kreme and Dunkin Donuts both make a lot of money but they aren't bad at all.
Money or loving it isn't the issue. Loving having more than someone else, loving being better off and therefore "better" is the issue, and that is evil to its core. Love of exploitation, love of taking more than your fair share knowing that it will, by its very nature, mean someone will get less than their share, that is the root of all evil
“Winners never cheat and cheaters never win.”
Yeah, b******t. Cheaters almost always win.
Look at a social devient, corrupt criminal like Trump. He even cheats himself.
Dude, knock it off. This is supposed to be a fun site, not a polarizing one.
Load More Replies...My hubby works in the financial world and I can tell you 1000% that cheating is how the top people in this world got to where they are!
Are you kidding. It is written in your constitution.They are the untouchables .
Load More Replies...I think it makes perfect sense to assume that this expression was originated by a cheater.
I believe this is more a reference to that if you cheated you may have grabbed the title; but you would know you were a fraud, and this would inherently affect your self esteem. We are all aware of the façade passing as reality in this society. The truest children's tale is The Emperor Has No Clothes!
Agree wholeheartedly. Very few people actually get successful without cheating their way to it. I know that sounds cynical but it's simply true. That's why I don't understand people who worship these politicians. I don't care, trump, clinton, obama, biden, bush....it doesn't matter. You can't get to that level of government without cheating or buying your way into it. They're all corrupt and you look at anyone who's rich and they're either finding loopholes in the tax system, paying people less, etc. to manage to do it. So stop fetishizing celebrities and politicians as if they care about you or really care what you think of them- they don't. And politicians will tell you any lie they think will get your vote. If the 70% of the country came out as gay, tomorrow they'd all be in the pride parade.
I think it was from a movie "it you cheat and get caught, you after just another dumbass. If you cheat and don't get caught, you are prepared for the world"
Go big or go home. You have no idea how bad I just want to go home.
It roughly means "go big" go all out and do the thing, or "go home" concede defeat and leave empty handed.
Load More Replies...Getting to go home at the end is my primary motivation most days.
I went big, I burned out and now I’m “home” completely lost and antsy about not being able to afford going back to “big” again 🥲
"Lions are king of the jungle" They don't live in the damn jungle.
No way am I going to tell a lion he can't live in a jungle if he wants to.
Just be standing deep in the jungle when you do.
Load More Replies...No…they sleeep in the jungle. 🎶 weeoh aweem away weeoh aweem away weeoh aweem away🎶
Jungle. From the Sanskrit "jangala-s" meaning 'sparsely grown, arid'. Which is exactly where lions live. Just because you screwed around with the definition doesn't mean d**k to lions.
Why do people imagine a rainforest when "jungle" is used?
Load More Replies...I thought ghosts were the royalty in Savannah. (Georgia)
Load More Replies...If a huge a*s cat comes up to me and claims to be king of the jungle, I'd be inclined to believe him.
In the jungle the lion sleeps at night. No, lions don't live in the jungle. And like cats, they don't actually sleep at night, they are semi nocturnal. The whole song is full of lies
Slept like a baby. Babies actually don't sleep well
I like to say slept like a husband. Cause they usually don’t hear anything, even the baby that cries every two hours
Why is it that way, though? Is it just biological? Is it that they subconsciously know we're gonna jump anyway?
Load More Replies...I slept like a baby last night… I was up every few hours crying and looking for a bottle.
Depends on the baby. Some barely sleep, and others sleep through the night almost as soon as they're born.
"Everything happens for a reason."
No. It. F*****g. Doesn't.
Well there's a reason but it's not some grand existential reason or anything. The saying is true in the literal sense only.
Everything is precipitous. A causes B causes C. But to assume purpose is to use facts not in evidence.
Load More Replies...I particularly hate it when Christians use this phrase to explain something bad happening to someone, like a disability. I believe in God, but to think he controls things physically just so you learn to overcome it goes against what I believe to be the nature of God. I believe things happen because God created the spark of life and there are consequences of that, not because he meddles in everyone's lives just to make them learn something. For things like disabilities, there is always a chance it can happen because of genetics, whether it happens to you is more chance than purpose. I am a Christian, but I still believe in science. I don't know if this makes sense to others though.
I agree with you. It's a misconception about the idea of God working everything for the good. Basically God can make a good thing out of a bad situation. But people misinterpret that as God creating the bad situation in the first place.
Load More Replies..."reason" meaning "cause", yes. "reason" meaning "goal or purpose", no.
It is not anywhere close to truth. What is that reason that everything is happening for. You get in a car accident because one of your flip flops moves sideways and you don't get to the brake on time. Now that's a real reason, having NOTHING to do with whether you're a good person or a bad person that good or bad things happen to.
I would like to know the reason my best friend of 45 years had to suffer so much before he died.
Hate to break it to you but, the universe is just the contents of time, matter, and space. 91 billion light years across and the Earth's a small place, where good people die. . . And positivity is a luxury that few can afford. We're gonna die, yes you and I, in meaningless and alooooone!!!
If at first you don't succeed try, try and try again.
Don't follow that advice when dating. You will be branded as a stalker/creep.
I use to have a t shirt that read, "if at first you don't succeed look in the trash for the instructions."
I’ve heard “if at first you don’t succeed, try reading the instructions” also “if at first you don’t succeed, try hitting it with a bigger hammer”.
Load More Replies...This advice is directly contrary to “A fool is someone who keeps doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome”.
I had a great professor once and he had a slogan on his office wall: "If at first you don't succeed, try , try again. If you still don't succeed, then quit, because now you're just annoying people."
Well, you should still keep trying, but not in the same way, right? Like, when you learn something, even dating, you're not going to get better at it if you give up. You have to keep trying, but not by going up to the same person that wasn't interested, but by trying to ask out the next one you're interested in, or by changing your approach, or working on yourself. Maybe it should be "If at first you don't succeed, make adjustments, try again and continue until you get better"? My stepdaughter (6) gives up easily, and the above would be better than her approach "if at first you don't succeed, give up and ask someone to do it for you"...
I disagree. You should try again. Just with different people. If someone shoots you down, don't give up on dating. Gracefully accept they aren't interested, and move on.
Do something you love, and you'll never work a day in your life. B******t, now what used to bring my joy is misrable and I dont have a backup career.
I love what I do for a living, I just don't love the long hours and stress.
I love what I do for a living. I love my coworkers, this company, I am paid well, respected, and empowered, and I genuinely look forward to coming in every day to see what will happen. I also WORK every single day. If hit the Powerball, I would leave and never look back because it is WORK.
Do something you love, and chances are, your passion will be used as justification to exploit you.
When people find out that I am good at something they tell me I should make it my career. Like no.... my hobbies are fun and I am good at them because they don't cause me stress. If I had to make my way in the world on one of my hobbies I would be sooooooooo depressed!
I know a few people that have done what they loved and that never changed. A couple even delayed retirement since they liked their jobs so much.
It's still work... even if you really like it, or even love what your doing.
I'm a hobby artist. I'm decent enough but I know if we're to turn it into a career, I'd be starving. I'm average, not spectacular. But I do it because it makes me feel good to create. No other reason.
You better also love: filing taxes, accounting, advertising, marketing, HR, insurance, licensing and regulatory paperwork, hiring, firing, dealing with clients of varying attitudes and understandings, contracts, etc etc
"Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise."
I did that for years, and I'm morbidly obese, lower middle class, and stupid as hell.
I do my best work at night. early bed and rise would just mean I miss my peak functioning hours. Not everyone has the same sleep rhythm
Load More Replies...Nah - early to rise, early to bed, makes a man healthy but socially dead!
The first bird may get the worm, but it's the second mouse that gets the cheese...
No matter what time zone I live in, by midnight I am ready to play a set of tennis, compose a song and read a couple of books. All at the same time. Mornings are pretty hard.
"Early to bed, early to rise, makes your girl go out with other guys."
Night owl here. I could go to bed at 6PM, I will still feel borderline suicidal if I have to get up at 6AM.
"You won't always have a calculator on you"
And now we're stuck with people who think a bottle of water and a packet of chewing gum ring up to 63 euros because the computer says so, and computers are never wrong.
Even if you do have your calculator app in your pocket, the meaning behind this is still fully valid. It's not the ability to perform mechanical calculus but it's learning to understand numbers. An knowing when you need that calculator.
To be fair when I was told this at school in the 90's most people didn't have one. Totally out dated now though.
I used a calculator for the first time after graduating from high school.
You still might now. Phones run out of battery, and apps crash. Plus it's always good to understand what's happening behind the scenes.
Like you are going to be out camping and find yourself in a situation where you need trigonometry to save your life but you don't have a calculator.
Indeed, I haven't used a calculator in decades. I have Excel and a small supercomputer in my pocket..
"An Apple a day keeps the doctor away." No matter how many I shoved up my butt I still had to get a colonoscopy
Interesting. I guess there's an enzyme in the apple that you're allergic to, which cooking destroys?
Load More Replies...If you actually ate the apples maybe you wouldn't need a colonoscopy, or maybe you would, who knows? It's such a specific thing that I would love to know where the phrase came from.
Pretty sure it's just a cute way of saying healthy habits usually lead to a healthier life needing less medical care. It's not perfect because of genetics but also not literal.
The customer is always right
The phrase means that customers buying habits determines the market. They are always right, because they dictate what is popular
Rule number 1 of retail: People Suck. The job is too serve the customer, not allow them to steal or abuse the staff.
Hahahahahahahaaaaaaa🤣🤣🤣🤣 I had worked at a grocery store for about 10 years and I can most definitely confirm they are almost nearly never right. People are nightmares when they shop too
If you are in a situation where this becomes relevant, the customer is probably an a*****e.
Who ever invented that phrase should be tortured. they should be forced to work in retail, or another kind of customer service. All their customers then should be either mean, annoying as hell, or stupid like a brick... or a combination of that. Payed with (at best) minimum wages and a manager/employer straight from hell.
The full quote is "the customer is always right in matters of taste", not in every stupid a*s b******t every Karen wants to claim.
The customer is NOT always right. Most of the time they are assholes.
You can be anything you want.
You have a highly probability of making that happen through plastic surgery,etc than a few human options like becoming a billionaire.
Load More Replies...…….if you have enough money. Buy a presidency? Buy a rocket and go to space? Just become a billionaire. Easy peasy.
so, i can be a sparkly vampire unicorn named Alberta Cullen who goes to Hogwarts???
This is such a harmful and damaging phrase. You can be anything you're good at or have skills to be. Which requires a lot of work, time and possibly money to get good at. All of which you may never get or have. And even then it helps to know someone. And if you have all of that, you still might not get to be what you want for various reasons. Telling kids this sets them up to constantly be disappointed in any of their achievements because they aren't 'enough'. Or they constantly feel like failures because they haven't gotten there yet or haven't figured out what they want to be. Stop setting people up for failure with these useless and untrue quotes.
I always told my students "You CAN'T be anything you want to be, and someday you'll be damn grateful for that."
Blood is thicker then water.. Always hated it , s***ty family members.
Originally it means the opposite: the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb
EXACTLY. I hate it when people use the incomplete saying to justify being a sh**ty family member.
Load More Replies...But maple syrup is thicker than blood... Does this mean that pancakes are more important than family??
Blood is thicker than water. And sometimes that means clots. So you have to take some blood thinners. Take it before you have a stroke.
Blood is thicker than water, but maple syrup is thicker than blood, so if the incomplete version is correct, Canada is more important than family
I'd pick the family I married into over the family was I was born into any day. I love my family, but they have caused me so much grief. My in-laws accepted me for who I am. My family does nothing but point out things about me they want to change.
Unfortunately, some are still restrained by guilt and other complicated stuff. I know, it took me over 50 years to choose a better place to swim.
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What doesn't kill you make you stronger
Lies...when my son died it almost killed me. I wanted to die. I'm not nearly as strong as I was prior.
My therapist told me this: That which does not kill you should mature you. Meaning, let the hard times teach you lessons. I like that and have adopted that saying.
We know now that Adverse Childhood Experiences (abuse, neglect, divorce, parents with drug abuse issues, parents with untreated mental illness) do not make children stronger. They are extremely harmful to the developing nervous system and result in much higher rates of illness in adulthood. Having 8 out of 10 ACEs didn't make me stronger. It only made me more adept at picking out BS when I see it. This is an example of BS.
Friedrich Nietzsche said this. Of course, then he went mad, started collecting his excrement in jars and went to an insane asylum, which might have changed his perspective on the whole thing if he'd come out alive. Instead he died and his sister rewrote half his work to make him look like a massive Nazi, even though half a second's familiarity with Nietszche would tell you that doesn't make sense.
What doesn't kill you leaves you mentally and/or physically crippled a lot of times
What didn't kill me destroyed most of my self-confidence and faith in things and replaced them with a gloomy defeatist attitude that is clearly in no hurry to go away.
A lifetime of abuse didn't make me stronger, it left me with many mental and physical health problems. I was a child, I didn't need to be strong, I needed to be safe.
What doesn't kill first the first time leaves you bleeding and limping.
It's basically the basis of the word resilience. If you are resilient you can use what happens to you to move on or become stronger, but not everyone has resilience, particularly if trauma started when you were very young.
There's no such thing as a stupid question.
There are indeed stupid questions, but it is usually much more stupid to no ask and continue in ignorance.
If I don’t ask , I wont know! I will ask all the stupid questions!!
On the other hand, those question mark biscuits do look pretty tasty.
With this I disagree, so long as the question is made in good faith. Does the questioner actually want to know? If so, then the question is good. If they are just trying to annoy you, than everything they say is stupid.
“Pull yourself up by your bootstraps”
- it’s meant as an ironic/satirical phrase, because it refers to an act which is literally impossible
Whenever I hear a libertarian say things like "there's no such thing as a victim of circumstance" I want to punch them. Say that to the millions of homeless children in the world. Yes, because you were born with wealth and privilege, therefore we all were.
The entitled people who use this expression should try it sometime literally. They will find themselves flat on their asses, just like the people they are looking down on.
I can't pull up my bootstraps if I can't even afford the boots!
I love that people that say this never realize the physical impossibility of the act.
Isn’t it really, “Pull yourself up by your own boot straps.”? Meaning that you cannot expect any help from the person telling you this.
Much better is the line Bertie Wooster always quotes: "rise up on the stepping stone of your dead self"
"A jack of all trades is a master of none". Only because no one ever user uses the full quote, so it's useless in this form.
The full quote is “a jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one.” Basically to mean that being able to do a lot of things moderately well may be better than only being able to do one thing very well.
Thanks for writing this! I didn't know the rest of the quote, I find it very reassuring.
Load More Replies...in a world where things change really fast and new skills come up all the time, being a master of just one skill is a sure way to the poorhouse.
This is another commonly misquotes phrase. It should be "a jack of all trades and a master of one." Basically, we should learn how to do lots of things well, but be an expert in one thing.
No. It's "a jack of all trades is a master of none", and it was invented by Robert Greene to deride - of all people - William Shakespeare.
Load More Replies...Chances of getting by on your own are pretty good, if you understand a little of everything. The chances of getting along on your own, aren't that good, if you, for example, only know a lot about mathematics but can't even fry an egg.
I'm actually good with that. Rather know enough of a lot of things than everything about one thing.
“This too shall pass”
Uhh not if it’s herpes? Unless you mean pass it on
This is actually a saying that DOES have some merit: Anything you experience will end. Pain, joy, suffering, family and yourself will end. This is to remind us to cherish the wanted experiences and that anything undesirable will untimately pass from the present to the past. Even LIFE will pass if life is undesirable.
None of my pain or constant suffering has or ever will go away. Sorry it's not true
Well, I also have some painfull incurable afflictions. My wife had painfull incurable cancer. The pain already has stopped for her, and I'm sure mine will stop once my life is over too. Its much more bearable once you realize its not going to be 'for ever' but just from now to the end of my conciousness. Just don't be ina hurry to get there.
Load More Replies...I actually like this one. It is something of a mantra when bad stuff is going down. There will be a day when this is over.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me
I'm going to throw those stupid letter magnets things at anyone who says this saying again
Load More Replies...I remember reading a slogan once which went something like "the tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body - it's strong enough to break a heart."
There was a campaign a while back in the UK for anti bullying, and the advert had a child quoting this through various stages of him being bullied. It was very poignant and heart breaking.
At fifty four, I can still hear the hateful voices of my childhood. It wasn't bullying back then, it was kids playing.
You have the power ignore words' hurt because they do not leave a physical bruise.
For me, if I don't know the person, or dislike them, whatever they say doesn't matter. However, someone that I do care about and love, now that would hurt. So, yes, words can hurt.
Good things come to those who wait….
More like those who wait are forced to appreciate the rare good things they get much more than those who they come to easily
Shirley Henderson in I Really Hate My Job -- "They say good things happen to those who wait, but what if they don't? Do you just keep waiting, or what?"
Nope. Been waiting, working my butt off, scratching my way through and....nope. No good things yet. Not even the disability to which I am grossly entitled. Denied because I have been working up to this point. Now that it has deteriorated to the point that I am facing no income, they still can't do it even with medical proof of loss of motor/cognitive function.
Slow and steady wins the race… yet I always lose the kahoot
Except for the skater who only qualified because everyone else he was racing against tripped and fell, and he was the only one left standing.
Load More Replies...In the fable this came from, the hare kept stopping for various reasons, procrastinating, napping, whatever, while the tortoise kept plugging away and got there in the end. Unfortunately it promotes the opposite of a work life balance, just like keeping your nose to the grindstone.
I think that's the Bugs Bunny version. On QI they attributed this to the mathematical theory that if the tortoise starts 10 metres ahead, by the time the hare has gone 10 metres, the tortoise has gone another metre; and by the time the hare has gone that metre, the tortoise will have gone another 10cm, and so on, meaning the hare will never catch it. This is where physicists get annoyed with mathematicians; by the time the tortoise has gone its second metre, the hare has gone another 10, and is 8m ahead.
Load More Replies...This is from the tortise and the hare. The whole thing is slow and steady wins the race till talent and skill take their place. We only hear the first half of the fable.
I think this is fine when referring to, say, losing weight. Expecting it to happen immediately is setting yourself up for failure. With some things it's about the journey and taking your time to get there and enjoy things more than if you were rushing. Sometimes to do things right you need to take the time and make sure everything is right rather than doing it quickly.
I used to date a woman named Sloan and I bought her a short lacy negligee just so I could say, "Sloan's teddy wins the race." j/k
My grandmother used to say, "That man is as worthless as a one legged man at an a*s kickin'."
Well, I worked at a mental facility. One day I saw a one legged man absolutely destroy another dude. Popped him in the head with his crutch, then pitched forward and just stomped on him with his one leg.
The saying is "Busier than a one-legged man in an a*s-kicking contest." The meaning was that you were at a disadvantage in some way, usually by not having the proper tools, training, or team and still trying to reach the goal.
My grandpa always said "Busier than a one-armed paper hanger in a hurricane." No idea where he got it.
Load More Replies...Round here it’s “might as well challenge a centipede to an a**e kicking contest”.
Generally British, popularised by Terry Pratchett!
Load More Replies...Boys pick on you because they love you. This hurts me more then you (when a parent is spanking a child) Don't play the victim. All bad for many reasons.
this hurts me more than u? well then for you what's it like, the damn Cruciatus Curse? sorry, im a potterhead.
This is so damaging. He only picks on you because he likes you. Yea, we’ll I’d rather he hated me then. Plus don’t blame me when I punch his face into last week. I got called unladylike a lot growing up.
I mean... They do though. A lot of boys don't know how to express their emotions. I don't anyone's is blaming the victim here. Just explaining the behaviour. Maybe instead of berating boys we should be teaching them healthy emotional expression
This is c**p. Boys pick on girls because they can get away with it. People give a lot of latitude to male children for tricks, meanness, and overall aggression. So, picking on girls is just another of those 'boys will be boys' things. Girls should be trained in an appropriate response as an alternative to crying.
I liked how "He's just not that into you" handled that "he hurts you cause he loves you" stuff. Sure, it ended stereotypically with her getting with the guy who secretly liked her all along, but the part about letting go of people who just aren't right for you? That's well pictured throughout the movie.
I think we're think of this as adults and in our 'harsh cruel world'. But I think this is 'some' truth in this comment but only for those who are very young. The 'picking' is an innocent playfulness, as in that it is likely to be due to immature socially ineptitude and not sure how to show that they 'like' someone of the opposite sex. I recall kids being like this at junior school (boys at girls and vice versa).
Feed a cold, starve a fever.
Just eat nutritious, easy to digest foods when you're sick (and stay hydrated)..
edit: Holy cow this comment blew up! Thanks for the awards!
As for the people who are telling me my version is incorrect, I can tell you that its the one I heard growing up, and the internet seems to confirm that it is indeed a saying (though starve a cold, feed a fever also seems to be a thing)
According to my grandmother's aunt and family healer, "feed a cold, starve a fever" was a neighborly thing. When you heard someone is sick with a cold, just had a baby, had a bad back, etc., you would take food to your neighbor to help ease the burden, but if they had a fever (think small pox, the plague, contagious disease of some sort), you stayed away from their home - hence "starved the fever." She was 105 when she passed away in 2017.
What do you think you're doing, making sense on the internet? Is that allowed?
Load More Replies...Yeah you usually don't feel like eating when you have a fever, because you fell like throwing up
You eat and drink as normal when you have a cold, so you don't become more ill. When you have a fever, you eat easy to digest food and take even more liquids --like soup--to keep your strength up while you are ill.
Mine was - always eat when you're hungry...and for me, even when you're not! :) And growing up, I heard, "Starve a fever, feed a cold..." No matter...food please
I heard the original saying was; Feed a cold, or you will soon be starving a fever. Or something like that.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
That’s also the definition of practice.
EDIT: Alright, I get it everyone. I oversimplified practice.
The definition of insanity is to repeatedly perform the same experiment and expect different results.
And its also the definition of jobs and life (unless you're financially set).
When you practice, you do not except different results. You expect better results
"Practice Makes Perfect"
The real saying should be "Practice Makes Permanent." You can practice something the wrong way or practice something completely wrong altogether. No matter what it is, doing something over and over again solidifies it as a habit and you become stuck with whatever way you practiced it.
Yes, practice makes perfect if you are practicing the thing PERFECTLY. but if you're doing any step wrong, it's not just PRACTICE that will fix it, it's being capable and aware enough to see the error and CHANGING your approach on the fly. Too many people are afraid of change and just charge through things thinking that they just need to be more aggressive when they really just need to stop, shift, and then practice the right way.
Even the most talented person will never reach their potential if they fail to follow a sound, effective process. In fact, many people are led to believe they have no talent because their practice is so ineffective while others who aren’t all that talented can still achieve at a competent level because they do use an effective process.
Load More Replies...I had a maths teacher that never liked that saying, said nothing is ever perfect and it should be "practice makes better" instead.
Only the good die young.
My amazingly wonderful grandmother who was the kindest, most generous person I've known lived to be 95
Actually this makes perfect sense. The bad/evil/rotten (ppl,events,policies,etf) never die/end early enough. But the good regardless of time always ends too soon.
"Opposites attract". In romance, opposites tend to repel each other.
In romance novels, the strong loner hero and the self-sufficient female both agree they'd be horrible together, but always get married in the end. No one continues writing through until the divorce.
In my experience the more differences you have the more doomed it is. I was with someone who was near-identical (except hair colour and family, no banjos here). We differed on one thing: introversion/extraversion. That doomed it.
Nope...this only applies in some situations and it all depends on what's the opposition.
BALANCE attracts. Not opposites. Life isn't a teeter totter. Sometimes the person who balances you out isn't your opposite, just different in the right way.
This is true from a psychology perspective- we are often more attracted to people who are more like us both in looks, interest etc
then that is "likes attract" not "opposites attract". sheesh.
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If you’re married, never go to sleep angry.
Sometimes situations are so volatile, there’s no way to interact without saying something that can’t be unsaid.
Especially if the couple is tired or drunk. You're in no condition to have a reasonable discussion in that condition
Sometimes going to bed angry is the reset you need for a rational discussion. I can be super angry at my spouse then wake up more calm and ready to work things out. Go to bed angry and discuss in the morning when you've reset your emotions.
Its sometimes good to go be bed angry, that way you can sleep it off and think about your words and actions and will be more accepting in differing opinions
Especially because some space can do a little good to calm tempers down and think more rationally about something. I highly advocate separate bedrooms for married people. It doesn't mean you don't care or don't want to have sex or can't take naps together whenever you want. But having separate spaces leaves room to destress and unwind in a way you can't always do in front of your spouse. And you can have your own bed and stretch when you want, move around when you want. Play video games at the end of the night or watch whatever tv you want. It will keep you happier.
If we argue we go away from each other for a while and when calmed down we sit and talk it out. We never go to bed angry. So this works for us. Married 7 years.
🎶We used to never go to bed angry, but it's all we ever do lately🎶
"Children should be seen not heard"
Extremes usually aren't good. Making children be silent, no. Letting children run amok, also no.
There's a time for the children to learn when to stay quiet too. It's important they learn.
Load More Replies...Always listen and admire old people. My grandpa is a goddamn chainsmoker, i can't handle the smoke which releases from that thing
I"ve always loved talking to elderly people. They've seen some s**t!! lol
I love nice or funny old people. but the ones that just b***h about everything or are narcissists are bothersome
Load More Replies...Not quite on topic, but if anyone is interested, ABC Australia has a program called 'Old people's home for teenagers' which is a follow on from Old people's home for 4 year olds. It is an experiment to see whether pairing teenagers with elderly people can improve both their lives, particularly combatting loneliness.
Great idea! Here teenagers have to do 40 hours of volunteering on their last year (on top of maths, etc.) in order to get their HS diploma. This would fit right in there.
Load More Replies...Here's hoping your grandparents are old racists and bigots like so many are.
It's all good in the hood.
It is not.
"Do what you love and the money will follow."
Happy wife, happy life
Happy spouse, happy house. But only if both work to make the other happy.
Happy Hubby.....wubby dubby. Uh, yes, I see your point. Never mind.
Load More Replies...you can never be too careful
You certainly can. My overly strong fear of taking too many risks has really held me back in life.
Same. I think, for me at least, it's because I don't have a fallback. I don't have someone whose couch I can sleep on if things don't work out. I don't have someone I can turn to if my risk turns out to be a failure. I don't think I'm afraid of risks but afraid of the how destroyed my life could be by doing it. I'm alone so if I get hurt by doing something, I don't have anyone who can take care of me and I can't afford a caretaker so...these are things I have to think about.
Load More Replies...Yeah! Dont leave your car doors unlocked with the keys in it...laptop, cell phone. Dont leave it running and go into a convience store....
“If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be.” If you let something go, it was probably for a good reason. Better to move forward without it than to live in limbo. Edit to clarify that I’m not at all opposed to letting go. I’m opposed to assuming something is “meant to be” just because it keeps showing back up at your door.
Goes right along with "well I left you because I wanted you to fight for me". No. That's toxic and manipulative.
George Carlin said, "If you love something let it go, if it comes back set it on fire."
If you love someone, work really hard to keep them because it is not like the movies or tv where you get lots of chances in life to find someone you care about. You're lucky if you get one. So if you do, unless there's a reason to let them go, work on keeping them and use all your abilities to fight for them. I prefer the Dylan Thomas approach of 'Do not go gentle into that good night... Rage rage against the dying of the light.".
If a bad penny keeps turning back up on your doorstep, it's time to get a restraining order!!
'I before E except after C' is wrong more times than its right.
There's more to the saying. The whole thing is "I before E, except after C or when sounded as A, as in neighbor and weigh. And weird is just weird.” even the whole saying has some exceptions though
There are 923 words that break this rule!!!! 44 follow it. Come on english you can’t make up rules!!!!
Load More Replies...Except when your foreign neighbor Keith receives eight counterfeit beige sleighs from feisty caffeinated weightlifters. Weird.
Yeah, that 'rule' is just weird. What a weight off my shoulders that someone else is bothered by this
According to this rule, it's "wierd" and "wieght"
Load More Replies...Because if this, I always thought it was cie. Such as concieve, decieve, etc.
This rule only applies to "ceiling". I can't think of other cases.
"Love is blind"
“You will find love when you least expect it.”
After a series of horrible relationships, I decided to stop looking for love and just focus on enjoying life on my own for once. Ended up at a friend's party a few months later and got into an argument with some a*****e. For some reason, we just instantly despised each other. Dont know exactly what happened, but we've now been together for almost 19 years.
Yeah same (although seeing as I'm sti in middle school I can't really call it "love"). My current girlfriend is someone who I was bitter towards throughout the entirety of 7th grade except near the end where we talked about why I was picking on her. I don't really know how to explain the rest of my story well, so I'll just leave it at that :)
Load More Replies...Not true. It takes work. It will not just come to you. Unless you are a very social person and interact with the opposite sex often, then it's going to take a lot more effort. And that means putting yourself out there. It's so hard if you aren't a bar/club person. Or if you don't have a lot of friends. And even then, you shouldn't expect from someone else more than what you are offering yourself. Sometimes you see people complain that they just can't find 'Prince Charming' but...you aren't exactly Cinderella yourself.
It’s water under the fridge
If there's water under the fridge, it's time to call a repair man. The expression is "Water Under the Bridge"--as in, it's passed on by and now is long gone.
It could be water under the ice box. Maybe the ice leaked when it melted.
Don't judge a book by it's cover. C**p. I'm gonna judge the heck out of that cover!
That is the only purpose of the book cover is so that judgement can be made.
Load More Replies...Maybe they mean pecking at it and taking small bites?
Load More Replies...My mother-in-law, that I loved very much, used to say, " you catch more flies with honey than with viniger". Well, who the F**? wants flies?
I've always thought about this one to mean, if you are nice to people, they will be more willing to help you out or go above and beyond for you. If you are nasty to them, you are going to get the least from them they "have" to give. Which is true for myself. Sweet? I will get you taken care of the best, fastest, and most generous way I can. A*****e? Your appointment will be 2 weeks out etc.
Load More Replies...“birds of a feather flock together” was originally “birds of a feather flock together before the cat comes.” it was actually a warning about fair-weather friends, not about people with similar personalities.
"There's someone out there for everyone." One said by my dad was, "Suffering's good for the soul."
I'm sorry you have to go through that Kate. 😔 The human race is losing.
Don't judge a book by it's cover. C**p. I'm gonna judge the heck out of that cover!
That is the only purpose of the book cover is so that judgement can be made.
Load More Replies...Maybe they mean pecking at it and taking small bites?
Load More Replies...My mother-in-law, that I loved very much, used to say, " you catch more flies with honey than with viniger". Well, who the F**? wants flies?
I've always thought about this one to mean, if you are nice to people, they will be more willing to help you out or go above and beyond for you. If you are nasty to them, you are going to get the least from them they "have" to give. Which is true for myself. Sweet? I will get you taken care of the best, fastest, and most generous way I can. A*****e? Your appointment will be 2 weeks out etc.
Load More Replies...“birds of a feather flock together” was originally “birds of a feather flock together before the cat comes.” it was actually a warning about fair-weather friends, not about people with similar personalities.
"There's someone out there for everyone." One said by my dad was, "Suffering's good for the soul."
I'm sorry you have to go through that Kate. 😔 The human race is losing.
