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Depending on the circumstances, it can be incredibly difficult or extremely easy to end a romantic relationship. And while we can have virtually endless discussions about the first category, this time let's focus on the second one.
Recently, Reddit user DonutNoLikey asked other platform users, "What was your 'OH, HELL NAH' moment in a relationship that made you leave?" and people have shared plenty of personal stories that provide interesting insight into what pushes us to our breaking points.
Of course, these reasons are often just the tip of the iceberg, but sometimes we need an obvious sign to notice broader, more nuanced problems.
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#1
She got really upset at me at a party (nothing I did) and started a huge verbal argument. Then I demanded that we leave because it was inappropriate to do this as guests in someone’s home. On the way to our place, she hit me a bunch of times demanding “answers” for someone that I slept with before we even met.
She got even more angry and physically violent once we got home, to the point where I had to restrain her before she hurt me or herself for that matter. She screamed to let me go and that if I didn’t she would scream for the police — she looked me in the eye then said “who are they going to believe..?”
For context, we’re both roughly 5’11” but I’ve got about 80 pounds on her. I’m a black man, she’s a white woman. I have never been more afraid of being shot by the police than that night.
René Studer 3 years ago
And this exactly illustrates the problem people have with the phrase „believe ALL woman“.
María Hermida 3 years ago
I hate it. I always say I treat everybody with respect and I assume everybody is telling the truth. But I never take sides until I have evidence and people prove what they claim. I'm sorry, but I've seen lives ruined by lies, and I know lying is part of the human condition. Men are no angels, but neither are women.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Holy hell, that is one of THE most evil, screwed up things I ever heard. I hope he got away from that disgusting woman. Far, far away.
Aaron McConnell 3 years ago
This is why the races shouldn't mix; the races here being human and shrieking c**t goblin.
María Hermida 3 years ago
The only problem is most people don't have the time, the energy and especially the money to defend their rights in Court. If Depp weren't famous nobody would have taken him seriously and he would have ended up homeless and despised for being a wife batterer.
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Shannon Nelson 3 years ago
I drilled this into my son's head. "I don't care how tiny she is, I don't care if it didn't hurt. I promise you if a woman will hit you in anger, YOU will go to jail for assault sooner or later, whether you did it or not. NO second chances on physical violence." (My son never needed a lecture about being an abuser, He understands "real" men protect, they don't bully.)
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#2
We were hanging out at his house and he kept pressuring me to have sex. I was still a young, naive virgin so I refused. We started watching a movie instead. I went to the bathroom and he stole my car keys. Once I was back on the couch he started trying to take off my clothes. I was scared so I grabbed my purse to leave. That's when he jingles my keys. He said I could have them back once I slept with him. I just ran outside and called my dad. My dad showed up and threatened to beat his a*s if my keys weren't returned. Got my keys and got the f**k out. He continued to stalk me for the next 7 years.
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago
I am so so happy she decided to call her dad as soon as the guy started doing this sh*t.
Zero 3 years ago
And the dude's lucky he didn't get beat down by the dad!
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BRODOOLERINGO 3 years ago (edited)
7 YEARS??? If I was your dad he wouldn't be able to stalk you. Nobody gonna treat my baby like that.(Edit: I'm referring to my own child.)
1.21Gigawatts?! 3 years ago
If I was the dad, I would’ve still beaten his a*s after the keys were returned
Shannon Nelson 3 years ago
It's so hard. I was hiding in my dark apartment and my stalker climbed up to my 2nd story balcony to peak in the windows. The responding officers told me the apartment building was public property, and he didn't break in so he didn't do anything illegal.
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Nimues Child 3 years ago
I wish the law would put stalkers where they belong so that their victims can breathe freely.
#3
First Mother’s Day as a mum, and just got my first period after a brutal emergency c section. I was so sick I could only crawl to the toilet. Should have been hospitalised, but too mentally incoherent to know. Ex ignored the special occasion, ignored my need for help, and ignored our newborn who I was too unwell to feed or hold so he could go out with his mates. When I called him beginning him to come home in tears he made it sound like he was doing me a favour. Kicked him to the curb as soon as I was strong enough. No regrets.
Maisy 3 years ago
I had a similar experience as you. Got very sick after having my daughter (to the point of hospitalisation in the ITU) my parents had to bring him and the baby to see me as he wanted "me and baby time" which was code for drinking and playing video games. He's still an intermittent parent at best. Divorce was the best decision I made. I'm sorry about your experience but I'm glad I wasn't the only one with a similar story. Xx
RafCo 3 years ago
ug. Anytime I hear a man say he has to "babysit" his kids, I immediately want to punch them. You don't babysit your kids asshat, you raise them. It's the damn job you signed up for when you got somebody pregnant. Fastest way to make me hate you is to tell me you need to babysit your own child.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
What a horrible sorry excuse for a man. When my nephew was born, bro in law was there right from the word go, changing nappies and helping take care of my sister while she recovered - further proof if any was needed that he's a keeper.
David Harris 3 years ago
Wow! What a total a-hole loser! I hope he doesn't have any custody of your child, he sounds like a selfish scumbag/waste of oxygen! You deserve so much better and so does your child!
Larissa Smith 3 years ago
My ex called himself a glorified babysitter. Always put me down if I tried to let my girl be with her friends and THEIR parents for any amount of time, according to him I was "pawning her off on them."
LH25 3 years ago
I really hate the idea that fathers are "babysitting" when with their kids.
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Alma Muminovic 3 years ago (edited)
As you should what a gross human being. Your ex, incase that wasn’t clear.
#4
I was dating this girl for 3 years ( broken up now) it was coming to the end of the relationship. We were arguing constantly at one point eventually I just started to agree with her to get her to shut up, so one morning we're awake in bed and she says "we should have a kid" I say yes knowing if I don't it'll just lead to another argument. She tears up and gives me a hug, I hug her and I say well it's gonna take some time because you gotta get off your birth control and she says, with the straightest face in the world "I stopped a month ago" we had been having sex 3 to 4 times a week and I never pulled out any of those times. At that moment right there I decided no more sex and I was gonna end the relationship. You absolutely do not make a life changing decision for your partner without consulting with them first.
Victoria G. 3 years ago (edited)
I was gonna say you're the as*hole here, telling the person what they want to hear (lying to them), just because you don't have courage to end the dead-end relationship. But this changed quickly. Glad you're out of it.
Phil Vaive 3 years ago
Honestly, I think it sounds like he might have been emotionally abused to the point of shutting down
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Annika Traritrara 3 years ago
That's why there need to be valid birth control measures men can take apart from condoms. She does her part, he does his part, that's a very good pearl index.
Trish Smith 3 years ago
First of all, birth control should be used by BOTH partners! The pull-out method is like playing Russian roulette! It's going to result in a pregnancy, it's just a matter of "when" the fatal bullet is delivered. You should also ALWAYS act as if she is NOT on birth control, no matter what she says! Unless, of course, you are in a TRUSTING, long-term, committed relationship! JMHO
Frannie Kaplan 3 years ago
You were having sex with her 4x a week when you knew you were breaking up? And Said yes? These ppl certainly find eachother
Sally Barry 3 years ago (edited)
You know what they call guys who fancy 'pulling out' is a safe birth control thing? FATHERS...I cannot believe at this point of time there are people believing such things
roses are red 3 years ago
Exactly...their sometimes called ' swimmers' because they do.
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#5
My best friend is female we have been friends for 18 years, was out with a new gf and ran into NY friend at the mall. Friend hugged me and I introduced her and I though all was well until we got home. She freaked out and said she broke "girl code" and I wasn't allowed to talk to her anymore... side note she had male friends that I didn't freak out over, I pointed that out and she said "it's different, you're a guy" to which I said she has issues and this wasn't going to work out and I never looked back.
I'm not throwing away a life long friend to appease a jealous girlfriend.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
One of my best friends of nearly 20 years is male and an ex. Neither of us keep it a secret and it has caused issues in relationships but too bad. Never going to ditch him because someone feels insecure. Aside from the whole dating thing, he's like my brother
Stijn Kraft 3 years ago
I have mostly female friends, always been like that, and one of my girlfriends (now ex, but for different reasons) told me she definitely had to ged used to that. She decided to just look at how it went, and then at some point just became friends with my female friends. I don't see the issue.
Gemma jones 3 years ago
I had a male friend who’s new girlfriend said the same and he chose her.
Snowfoxrox 3 years ago (edited)
My ex husband was the epitome of jealous! I used to be an actor at the Renn Faires. I had many male friends, most of whom were gay. I took a while before bringing him to the faire, because I wasn't sure how he'd react. One of my friends saw me from across the encampment area, screeched my name and proceeded to rush to me in a way I can only describe only as the most glorious way the most flamboyant, glitter loving, Pride flag waving gay man could possibly pull off. It was a fantastic display of love I had at that point ever felt. It was pure and sweet and my whole heart was about to burst with joy over the display. I was so used to being mocked and made fun of for trying to be girly in school, so to be someplace where the people not only allowed me to be my real self, but adored who I was. I turned to my then BF to introduce him as my friend reached us and grabbed both my cheeks and planted a big ol wet kiss on each one. My BF had grabbed him by the throat before I could introduce him to Mommy.
Carolee Samuda 3 years ago
Told my husband to get over it. Wanted me to end my friendship with someone who saved my life. When I asked him if someone saved his life if he would burn that bridge, he could not give me an answer.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My sister kept a dog in the house while she was taking care of my ailing father. The dog helped keep her from entirely slipping into depression. So after my father and mother passed, my sister decided to move in with a cousin. Problem was, cousin had dogs too and the puppers just didn't get along. She told my sister she'd have to get rid of her dog. Nope! That dog was a lifeline for her. Instead she moved out and moved in with a friend 2000 miles away.
Amy Taylor 3 years ago
I lost one of my dearest best male friends over a jealous girlfriend :( He was so P-whipped, he ended our years long friendship. It still hurts 30 years later.
#6
I had a dream where everyone in my life treated me like she treats me every day and in my dream it made me kill myself, I woke up in tears and realized truly just how abusive she is.
Kel_how 3 years ago
It's so incredibly sad that men are rarely believed when victims of abuse by women.
Grace Barclay 3 years ago
I have a good male friend who unfortunately attracts verbally and physical abusive women. I saw his face after the last one through a mountain bike, the one with thick tyres and grooves. I sent him some articles to him on abusive women. I had Christmas lunch with me and his mom couldn't stop thanking me for helping him. I told her that I had trust issues with women my entire life. I was a young girl when my older sister sexually abused me. I have a tiny round of female friends: my mom, my younger sister, my sister by another mother and another one like that. When I have felt threatened by a man whilst in a relationship, I am out and gone ; my life experience has taught me to see when lies are being told, violence might start. I walked and now I have a wonderful male friend whom he knows and trusts. I am grateful everyday for the wonderful men & woman I choose to have around me.
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Alex Taylor 3 years ago
This one is horrible, I feel for him. It's one of those posts where an upvote is an insult, and a downvote is belittling. We need a GRRRRR button 🤬
1.21Gigawatts?! 3 years ago
And that’s why they say that most dreams are messages. To see the ones that are not messages, go to a “What’s your weirdest dream?” Post. But that’s irrelevant. Good for you getting away from her!
Janet Graham 3 years ago
One must pay attention to dreams! Sometimes they are telling you something your conscience mind does not want to hear, but must.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
I've been here myself. Glad you woke up and escaped the nightmare.
#7
Never introduced me to his friends. Would actively avoid being seen with me by people he knew. I pretty quickly asked him what was his problem. His answer was that I needed to change my appearance because he didn't want people seeing him date a weird goth chick. Dumped him right then.
ItsJess 3 years ago
He was probably secretly fetishizing her appearance. Like guys who love a thicker woman but make fun of "fat chicks" in front of their friends.
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Monic Krugell 3 years ago
You do know that there is a huge possibility that he was keeping secrets from you... double life type of thing....
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
If that was his concern why start dating in the first place? What an idiot.
Kristina Šob 3 years ago (edited)
I had the same experience. Im not a goth or something. So, appearance is not the factor here, he is just a shitty person
debrina blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
Not everything weird is a bad thing!
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Alexia 3 years ago
Sounds like an ex of mine. My parents were workers and we kind of struggled in those times of economic crisis. His family was wealthy, owned properties and would spend their vacations abroad. He wouldn't invite me to his house or introduce me to his family because I looked "too poor". He'd still hang out with me because I was "pretty and smarter than most girls". I dumped him the same day. He couldn't believe it :)))
#8
Ex wife started an argument with me one morning when I was headed to the funeral of a childhood friend. I asked if she could not do this right now. Her response was “ohhhh, poor you.” That was the beginning of the end.
Kittiorigami Cat-Lover 3 years ago
Why you evil little Sarah Alizabeth! 😡
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Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
Conversation with my ex: Me: "Babe, Juanni died" She: "omg, what happened how do you know?" Me: "Sheyla (former ex f9r about 10 years ago) just called me" She: (angrily) yeah, because you're sooooooo good friennds, right?!" Me: click!
Trish Smith 3 years ago
BEGINNING of the end??? That remark would have been THE end for me. What a cold, soul-less remark to make to your partner when they are headed out the door for the funeral of a beloved and cherished, childhood friend! So sorry for your loss!!
Busy Panda 3 years ago
If they're married it IS the beginning. Divorce is usually a long process and painful too. Especially if you don't have a pre-nup.
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Janet Graham 3 years ago
Un-bleeping-believable! No empathy, no compassion, no reason to stay!
Mud spider 3 years ago
If you don’t mind me asking, what did she even start an argument about?
#9
She had been abusive the whole relationship and had successfully isolated me from all my friends. Except one.
This guy stuck with me through it all, and put up with horrendous amounts of s**t that I should never have let happen.
She tried everything. She bullied him, called him a pedo, told me she can’t be with someone who has him as a friend, called him racist, everything she could drive him away or pull me away. I didn’t understand what was happening but he did. I thought I was just unlucky enough that the two people I loved most couldn’t understand each other.
Then she gave me an ultimatum. Either she is going to be at our wedding or he is.
I picked him.
Keerthi Vardhan 3 years ago
He saved you and even put up with all those tantrums just to let you see what is happening. It was the right thing you did. Saving yourselves from the future domestic abuse.
MimSorensson 3 years ago
Sometimes you just have to stick it out until they see it for themselves.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
A friend like that is priceless and irreplacable. I know, because I kept a friend who was that loyal to me through some of the most harrowing times we shared.
#10
I had just found out my dog had a tumor and he needed surgery to remove it. About 2-3 hours after finding out the news and telling my ex she thought it was a great time to try and pressure me into making vacation plans for her spring break a few months out because we were running out of time to make them. I had no clue how much the surgery was going to cost or if there would be other treatments besides surgery at that point. Since she was in grad school the expectation was I’d pay for the majority of said vacation due to the difference in our income too… There was a very big OH HELL NAH moment where I lost my s**t and let me know I didn’t give a f**k about her spring break and the only thing that mattered was my dogs health and safety. She’s now gone, my dogs healthy, and I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long time!
RafCo 3 years ago
Huh, you both sound like TA here. She should have been a better listener, but you could also have said, "hey, I can't really consider a vacation right now, as I don't know what this will cost, or if my dog will be healthy enough for me to leave him with someone else for a week". That would have been much better than exploding at her, and dumping her. Clearly, her priorities weren't in order, but your reaction seems a bit overkill. Still, I'm glad it worked out for both of you
Jeffrey Diehl 3 years ago
That dog loves you more than she ever could. You made a good choice.
Janet Graham 3 years ago
Never get between someone and their pet. How they treat animals is all you need to know.
#11
I was sitting on the couch feeling like I was going to die after a medical procedure when she decided it would be the perfect time to try and punch me in the head because I wasn't paying enough attention to her. I picked her dumb a*s up, carried her down six flights of stairs while getting kicked, bit, punched in the head etc and dumped her outside of the building. Went back up to the garage and drove myself straight to the hospital.
I was dying from sepsis as it turned out. I was in the ICU for a week, needed six surgeries and two years to recover. I have permanent kidney damage.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
That's horrible but I have to admit I do like the mental image of this guy just picking the shithead up and dumping her on the curb like a garbage bin.
Isabel Care 3 years ago
I have removed guys from my space like this. I gently picked them up and placed them outside. Can't do it now with mobility issues, so would just have to shove them whilst remaining still
Load More Replies... Alex The Fanperson 3 years ago
Jesus Christ, I am so sorry for this person! Good for them for dumping the b***h!
Trish Smith 3 years ago
Dear God!! What is f**king wrong with people??!! I feel so sorry that you had to go through this!! Thank God you survived, brother! I hope you have a good life now.
Wandaluzt 3 years ago
This was posted on Reddit. You are not replying to them, they will not see it.
Load More Replies... Janet Graham 3 years ago
What a narcissistic B. Why do people stick with such self-centered people who have not one spec of compassion for others? I am so happy for you that you got out alive.
Wandaluzt 3 years ago
This was posted on Reddit. You are not replying to them, they will not see it.
Load More Replies... MimSorensson 3 years ago
Dude. HE had a procedure and YOU feel you should get the attention? Entitled bìtch: meet curb. It’s a hard surface without brain function so you’ll get along great.
RafCo 3 years ago
1 week in the ICU? Wow, living in America that would mean that you, your kids, and their kids, would be paying off that medical debt for at least the next century. Hope you're okay.
Wandaluzt 3 years ago
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Tamra 3 years ago
Being in an abusive relationship is a complex dynamic. Sometimes, the one being abused believes, on some level, that they don't deserve better, or will never find better. Sometimes they have that "lightbulb" moment, a moment of clarity that allows them to see the reality of the situation. And I haven't even touched on the fear aspects.
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When I had been the sole breadwinner for fifteen months (then-husband was physically and mentally healthy), deeply in debt, house was always filthy, hadn't hung out with my friends in a year, and hadn't been intimate for a few months.
I was standing on a chair tying a noose to an I-beam in the basement when it occurred to me that I was basically letting this guy kill me. So I walked instead.
august is mentally unstable 3 years ago
why do i see this pic literally everywhere on bp????????
Trish Smith 3 years ago
Thank God you realized JUST IN TIME, that your ex was the problem not you!!
bonnie hill 3 years ago
I'm so glad you came to your senses. Nobody should be made to feel like that.
Janet Graham 3 years ago
Good for you! You are worth at least 10 of him. I am glad that you are still with us. If you feel that way again, call a crisis line. As for him, no one cares.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
Here's wishing more people in situations like yours get that, "Come back to your senses" reality kick before it's too late.
debrina blackmoon 3 years ago
They were going to kill themselves but decided not to give him the satisfaction.
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I was in a 5 yr relationship with this guy that was psychologically abusive. One year, my sister in law was having pregnancy complications so my family all decided to go to their house for Christmas so she didn't have to travel the 5 hrs to get to us. I told my bf and he said "well obvious you're not going". Turns out not getting to see my family on Christmas was just the push I needed.
Rob 3 years ago
You realize this is copied from reddit right? You're not talking to the OP
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KariAdoresHerKats 3 years ago
I will never understand people, couples, partners trying to stop someone doing something, going somewhere and thinking they have the right. Unbelievable
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
Let me check... Yep, still a functioning adult! While you take your trip back to the 1950s, I'll be taking the one to see my family. You don't need to be here when I get back.
Henry Shane 3 years ago
Wtf why would that be obvious, would be obvious that she is going and so are you right out the door. Don't tell people what they are doing, she cN decide for herself.
Janet Graham 3 years ago
I am glad that you got out of that nightmare. It is amazing how the abusers deep themselves in so deep before you even have a clue. Good riddance to him! And blessings and happiness for you.
#14
Found a stack of papers sort of stashed in my ex's stuff. It was every email from my gmail account printed out so she could read them at work or something I guess. I dunno, it was weird. It didn't work out.
Justacrow 3 years ago
You find a random stack of papers, you browse real quick to see if they are yours or not. They are your e-mails. There is noting weird about that
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Alex Schroeder 3 years ago
for a second i thought it was email exchanges between you and her which i thought was cute but NEVERMIND
Marcus Karlsson 3 years ago (edited)
Maybe she could summarize them for him? Would save a lot of time.
#15
I was on a trip out of town with him and we were out to dinner with one of his friends. I can’t remember what we were talking about, but he said something and I corrected him because what he said was factually wrong. When he tried to argue his friend backed me up and also pointed out that he was wrong. This enraged him, though at the time I didn’t know it.
He waited until his friend went to the bathroom and then grabbed a fistful of my hair and pulled my head down so forcefully it hit the seat of the booth. He’d been a raging a*****e for most of the relationship and I was pretty much over the relationship at this point due to his constant temper tantrums but this crossed such a line that I was completely stunned. Even more stunned that no one in a crowded restaurant seemed to notice or care. I’ve never been so scared.
I knew in that moment that if I stayed and left that restaurant with him there was a very likely chance he was going to hurt me. It took me a few minutes to process/gather myself, but I realized this s**t was beyond f****d and I had to gtfo now. I excused myself to the bathroom, called an Uber, and went straight to the airport which was only a few minutes away. I told the agent I needed the soonest flight to my home city— there was one leaving in 15 minutes. I had none of my stuff, the airport was empty and I think she could sense my urgency so she called the gate and I made on the plane. By the time my phone began ringing from him realizing I was gone I was buckling my seat.
Found him lurking near my house a few times after that but made it real clear I would go to the police full force if it continued, which luckily scared him off. It took me a long time to process everything and I still get spooked when I see vehicles like his, but I’m super grateful I made it out when I did.
Frosty 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Extremely. he doesn't deserve you. (*Cringes after writing that and reading it)
Load More Replies... RafCo 3 years ago
The whole, nobody in the restaurant did anything bit, hits home for me. When I was a teenager, and recently moved to America, I went to a 4th of July fireworks show. At this show, a very large man started physically beating a woman. I was just a kid, and so was relieved when another gentleman stepped in to help the lady. Well, they guy turned from beating his SO, and hit the good samaritan. As did 5 of the guys friends. Then even the woman who was getting beat by her boyfriend/husband, stepped in and started kicking the good samaritan while he was on the ground. The cops arrived maybe 30 seconds later, the people around were too stunned to move. The good samaritan was taken to the hospital, where I learned he died a few days later from swelling in the brain. And this is why people don't get involved. Perhaps if the entire crowd had stepped in, the samaritan would still be alive. But in my case, I was 13 years old, alone, and scared shitless.
🦋vall🦋シ︎ 3 years ago
That poor man i hope the people involved went to jail
Load More Replies... Mikey Kliss 3 years ago
Never stay with someone who physically hurts you (mentally too but that can be harder to pinpoint)
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
I'm proud and grateful for you, especially as it's clear you'll never get with another one like him again, and even more especially because you lived to learn from that mistake.
#16
It was already heading down that way, but what got me was one day when he invited his friend to my house (without telling me, while I was at work), and when I came home, they started talking about my cat who they thought should put down because she was 'feral' and given the chance they would do so.
They claimed she was 'feral' simply because she spent the first weeks of her life outside before she had her leg amputated and found her way to me. Ex didn't like her because 1. I'd gotten her when I was with a previous ex, and 2. she was mean to him because she didn't like the way he handled her and never listened to her warnings to leave her alone.
OCD Mom 3 years ago
I love it when people choose their pets over their partners, because in 100% of the cases, the partners are insensitive assholes. Thank you for choosing your babies and treating them how they deserve to be treated, you guys simply prove there's good left in this planet.
Furmama0501 3 years ago
I wish I would have paid more attention to my cat's reaction to my emotionally abusive ex. Spike was leery of him from day one. My biggest life regret is not "listening" to Spike.
Sareaesque 3 years ago
One of my cats refused to be in the same room as a guy who turned out to be an abusive a**e who nearly drove me to suicide, she is very nervous and scares easily, and I had just moved to a new town, so I didn't pick up on it. My fiancé she cuddled with by his second visit and she's grown into such an affectionate cat (still scared of her own shadow but she has a new chirp now just to tell us she wants fuss). I pay attention to who she likes now as she's clearly a better judge of character than I am.
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Iifa A. 3 years ago
Always trust your cats. I have had cats all my life, and truly if my cats are mean to anybody I know it's time to cut those people lose. O have friends with allergies that can't stay away from my cats as they come running towards them, but any negative sign from your pet towards your new partner/friends is a red flag. Another red flag: an older than a baby human being torturing or mistreating or teasing an animal should be put down.
Moosy Girl 3 years ago
My cat is scared of *everyone*, so on the extremely rare occasion she doesn’t immediately bolt out of the room when someone walks in I consider that person very special. Only one visitor has ever managed to pet her.
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KariAdoresHerKats 3 years ago
That would be it for me. The minute I'd heard that, pack your c**p and get out of my cats house
Loretta Hines 3 years ago
Cats can tell if people are nice. I had a beautiful cat that saved me from a bad relationship too.
Mathew Aradhel 3 years ago
The way a person treats an animal says everything you need to know about them.
#17
He owed me about $3500, most of which I owed to my parents because he used to manipulate me into asking them for money so we could buy weed. After over two and a half years of paying for every good time we ever had, constantly stressing over money and getting nothing in return, I was close to giving up on him anyway. Then we went out after work for drinks and he won $100 on the pokies. I had been buying his beers all night so I asked him to shout me ONE back. He said no.
Got home, started cooking us dinner as I always did. I got halfway through chopping the garlic and thought, why the f**k am I still doing this for him!? Put my knife down, looked him dead in the eyes and told him to get the f**k outta my house. Almost three years by that point and it took me less than 5 minutes to end it.
Larissa Smith 3 years ago
More people need to stop and ask themselves why they're catering to an abuser. Good for you!
Alan Jurado 3 years ago
The only good times they had were when she was high. She wasn't catering to an abuser, she was looking for one. Its on her. Also, good on her for having moved past it.
Load More Replies... Azure Adams 3 years ago
mistake was putting down the knife while telling him to get out. Keep that one in hand
Hobby Hopper 3 years ago
The story makes it sounds like putting the knife down first was a very deliberate decision. Pretty smart actually. It avoids any appearance of a threat, so the OP can't get in trouble for it later.
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Phyllis Turbin 3 years ago
... manipulated me into asking them (parents) for money so WE could buy weed. WTF
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
My ex owes me 4000$. Will I ever see it? Probably not but it’s a small price to pay to not have to ever see him again.
Hobby Hopper 3 years ago
I had to look it up. Electronic poker machines. Apparently, it's also slang for a woman's nipples.
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#18
There was a lot of c**p but this was the final straw.
I locked the door before going to bed one night when he was out late with friends. He had lost his house key and never bothered to mention it, which was somehow my fault.
He woke me up by banging on the window and when I let him in began screaming and throwing things at me. Telling me to pack up my s**t and leave and locked me out of our bedroom. I slept on the couch.
Next morning he acted completely normal, like nothing had happened. I was gone that day because I no longer felt safe.
kath morgan 3 years ago
We’ve all gone out without our keys, but evidently we handle it very differently.
1.21Gigawatts?! 3 years ago
Omfg I hate the people who scream and argue AT you (not with you) and their way of apologizing is to act like it never happened. I WOULD’VE DONE IT BACK AND DONE THE WHOLE “WHO WILL BELIEVE” THING!
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Some people just aren’t mentally sound. It’s not up to you to fix them or put up with them. There are a million better options waiting for you.
Cynthia Gane 3 years ago
Sounds like living with a drunk: The abuse and vile accusations, then next day when they've sobered up they can't understand why you're shitty with them so it must be something wrong with you! I put up with it for 12 years before I legged it out of there with the kids.
adina shaina 3 years ago
Narcissistic behavior precisely. Rage, then pretend like they did nothing wrong.
#19
I had just been medically discharged from the navy (honorable, and not relative to back story other than to set mood).
I started dating a girl I met around 2 weeks after returning home and 6months into the relationship she developed a tumor (cancer) and I had to drive her to radiation therapy and doctors appointments 2-3 times a week.
We lived around an hour apart but we made it work and I’d drive to her after I got out of college classes and drop her off at her appointments, go back to another class and then come pick her up and take her home.
Fast forward a year later into the relationship her younger sister informed me that she had been lying to me the entire time and that she in fact did not have cancer but was using me to drop her off to her side piece who worked at the hospital. To make it worse, both of her parents knew about it and neither felt it was necessary to inform me.
Never saw her again, never even really “ended” it, just never f*****g went back her way and have been better for it ever since.
Edit : Answering a few questions.
1. I verified by visiting the hospital AFTER her sister had informed me, that was when I learned that her parents had known because I was informed that they sometimes picked her up with her side piece (I guess he didn’t have a car either?) and that the hospital staff just thought I was her brother…
Sub-edit to #1 for clarification : I asked the front desk clerk/nurse on a day that I would have normally dropped my Ex off if she had been in that day for her appointment, that’s when she informed me that she didn’t have any appointments and wasn’t a patient, yes, the nurse violated HIPAA by providing that information.
2. Physical symptoms, she had issues with hair falling out and patchy areas and she was exhausted what seemed like 24/7.
Kel_how 3 years ago
I was just thinking that. She's just a random person at the hospital not receiving medical care; why would she be protected by HIPAA?
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Chalupacabra 3 years ago
As an actual cancer person (now in remission), I can't express how gross it feels to read about people who lie about having this horrific disease. And to do it for that reason, with the help of her amoral family - wow did this guy dodge a bullet.
Scotira 3 years ago
💪💪👍 I keep my fingers crossed for you to stay in remission 💪🤞🤞🤞
Load More Replies... GoGoPDX 3 years ago
It is not a HIPPA violation to tell someone that they are or are not a patient there. Location and general health status (i.e., directory information) can be disclosed if the requester identifies the patient by name unless the patient has objected to such disclosures.
Michelle A 3 years ago
Like hospital visitation. Go to the volunteer desk, give the patient name then they tell you which floor and room #. Or tell you they have been discharged or not at that facility. Only exception is psych hospitals. We cannot confirm or deny if a patient is in our facility. Patients are given a code to give to family or a friend in order to contact the patient. No code, no info.
Load More Replies... Victoria G. 3 years ago
wow. this seems like the worst one, and should be on top of the post. how do such people even exist?... it's beyond me.
Dizzie D 3 years ago
Sorry, I don't believe this story. Primarily because if you are dating someone a year and she has another guy at the hospital? What? Are they just having lunch there every other day? ( most couples have alone time and go on dates if you know what I mean) Sooo, this other, hospital staff guy NEVER takes her to her lift or watches her go to the car? And never asks about this brother / mystery man dropping her off and picking her up like 3 times a week? It's a horrible thing to do to someone if true but Meh, I don't believe the OP. The circumstances are off and odd. Both don't drive and just see each other for dates at a hospital? Most receptionists in oncology will give you info on someones ward bay but highly unlikely that they tell you about day patient appointments?
Winter 3 years ago
I agree. This entire story seems quite contrived. I mean, in an entire YEAR...dude wouldn't have stayed for even one of these appointments? He didn't stay for even ONE? I'm not buying it.
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Becca Hauck 3 years ago
HIPPA is not a law to protect patients. It's a law to protect insurance companies from paying out fraudulent claims. If someone learns enough about you, they can get medical care fraudulently in your name. Having misunderstood this myself, I attempted to make a complaint and it was explained to me.
Jill Hojnacki 3 years ago
The nurse didn’t violate HIPAA, at all. She wasn’t their patient, so HIPAA doesn’t come into play.
#20
He admitted he and his family belonged to a hate group and said the Holocaust was a Jewish media myth. I’m not Jewish but my dad was helping smuggle Jews out of Warsaw and got caught and sent to a camp. He had a tattoo just like the Jewish victims. Don’t try to tell me it was a lie.
Madeleine Flowers 3 years ago
WTF?! Who the hell says that about the Holocaust?! Your dad is an amazing person for doing that, but your ex is a grade-a assaholic.
censor 3 years ago
f****r, I'd name and shame him on social media so no other woman dates him.
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CrunChewy McSandybutt 3 years ago
You don't have to have a personal tie to the Holocaust to know how fúcked up that is.
Trish Smith 3 years ago
SO TRUE!!! People that deny the Holocaust occurred are soul-less, and, EVIL on a completely different level!!
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Lisa Intally 3 years ago
The aggravating thing is that, in the 70s, these people would be judged as horrible cranks. Now, the right-wingers have made these people a "mainstream" political choice. Don't vote for the right in any form.
Mikey Kliss 3 years ago
We see this same s**t now with other people claiming covid is a myth. People suck
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My French teacher in high school was a German Holocaust survivor. She only made it because her parents put her and her siblings on a boat from France to New York. She never saw her parents again.
NicNor5560 3 years ago
I heard about it too. On another panel, someone was saying the history books were all lies and someone wrote the "tale" about the Holocaust so people would pity them. OMG, where is this world going?
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Because all the mass graves they found were planted there by aliens. GTfOH with these Holocaust deniers!
Jamie Hall 3 years ago
People who deny the Holocaust are as ignorant as the guy that said Sandy Hook was made up. Just disgusting, shameless people
#21
I woke up at 3am to my partner of 11 years muttering at me when he thought I was asleep.
His tone was so dark and disturbing I felt that if I hadn't woken up to hear him I may not have woken up at all.
He wasnt loud so maybe it was the way he was speaking that made me wake up like I did but my brain was immediately on high alert. I snapped awake and alert in an instant and just knew that I should just stay still and quiet and not let him know I was awake.
What came out of him where all sorts of wild accusatory delusions spat at me with so much venom that 6 years later I still clearly remember the feeling of dread that washed over me. My whole body was weighed down with it.
Our relationship wasn't a great one by any means but it was the first time I genuinely felt afraid of what he would do. I was afraid to speak up but also afraid that if I stayed quiet and let him keep on his rambling that it could progress into something worse and if it came to it I could never have fought him off.
That's when it really clicked to me how seriously he needed professional intervention and that I was not only unable to help him but also that I needed to get out from under the same roof as him as soon as possible.
Paranoid schizophrenia is a b***h and the available mental health care in our area is a joke.
Milan Chleborád 3 years ago
I'm paranoid schizophrenic, it is really a b***h, luckily I got professional help at relatively early age. But yes, he definitely could have hurt her.
JJ 3 years ago
It's not the same but my husband has a sleep disorder that makes him do funny and not so funny things at a certain time in the middle of the night. It took me ages to convince him that he really does those things at night because he cannot remember anything and doesn't seem to be himself (his night alter ego is a loud, grumpy, nasty, pedantic prick). One time he even grabbed me (as he dreamt about a car accident) and screamed as if he was about to die. The worst part is that we didn't really received any help from doctors after the diagnosis - they just said we should have separate bedrooms and were willing to prescribe him drugs that cause heavy addiction. We managed to help ourselves by configuring an app that wakes him up when his pulse rises (so these situations are down to maybe twice a year now). Long story short: I can relate to OP's feelings if you get woken up middle of the night by "another" person than the one you went to bed with. That scares you on a whole other level.
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Why don't you have him try melatonin? That could help. My bf just eats all my snacks at 3 am. :.(
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Your Neighborhood Alien 3 years ago (edited)
OP's continuation: "After I had heard enough to come to the realisation of how serious it was. I just lay there frozen for what felt like forever trying to decide what I should do. I didn't feel safe to stay silent laying within arms reach of him. I was struggling to process everything he had said and trying to balance my distress and fear with enough reason to behave appropriately. I didn't know what appropriately meant in this situation though. I don't think how I acted was ideal in any way. I was being run by fear. I had a surge of adrenaline leapt out of the bed and just said, "What the f**k?" I asked him if he really thought all of that was true. He clammed up and started acting completely normally and tried to deny anything was wrong and deflect my questions. The conversation went in circles for hours. On daylight I told him that I wasn't having it. I knew he was seriously ill and needed to go to a doctor that day. Told him that he couldn't stay at home until he got the help(1/2)
Your Neighborhood Alien 3 years ago (edited)
he needed. When I said that his whole face just changed. He looked at me with complete contempt and said, "If I'm sick it's because of you. I know what you're doing. You wonder why I can't think straight with a computer chip in my brain?" At that point I knew I was still speaking to that other person and not his usual self. I couldn't reason with him or convince him of anything. I told him pack now and go to his dad's and I left. I drove to a parking lot and called his dad to let him know what was going on. Then I lost my s**t and just cried in my car for hours." (2/2)
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S. Mi 3 years ago
Here is the thing. Most people with schizophrenia are not dangerous. Just need to say that fist. One thing that can be scary is that because the violence is a result of their reality, not ours, it can be extra frightening and seem unpredictable. But again, that's a small number if people with schizophrenia.
Anna Tribe 3 years ago
I had my kids with my ex very close together. Eldest was 2 years and 9 months old and middle was 1 year and 9 months when I had my 3rd. I had awful 24/7 and I was in the bathroom with a bucket while my kids were in their cots in their bedroom. This was around 10pm. I heard my eldest daughter complaining that her sister was stinky, needed her nappy changed. I said I'd be there in a minute. I heard my ex come in and the door to the children's bedroom open and I thought great, he went in to change her nappy. Eldest stopped complaining but all of a sudden my middle (then youngest) daughter started screaming her head off and I want in there. My ex was strangling our 2 year daughter. I managed to get him to let go, while screaming for help. My neighbour came round and got hold of him while his girlfriend called the police. Ex was saying all kinds of weird things including that our daughter aged 2 was trying to kill him and he had to stop her. Police came, took 1 look and called an ambulance.
Tash Wen 3 years ago
I dated a paranoid schizophrenic for about 3 months. Scariest 3 months of my life (and that after being in a physically abusive relationship for 2 years). Yeah I sure know how to pick em.... meh
María Hermida 3 years ago
I don't think you pick thrm. They pick you. Perhaps you are too empathic and you think people are always good and have good intentions, so you give second, third and fourth chances to everybody. Sometimes it's good to be a little selfish, and think of yourself first. If somebody doesn't make you feel appreciated from the word go they don't deserve your time and energy.
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Janet Graham 3 years ago
I'm glad that you made it out! There are recovery groups for those who have lived with mentally ill people.
Anna Tribe 3 years ago
He was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia a few days later. I had to kick him out because it was unsafe to have him live with us and he was never allowed to be with them again without a responsible adult with him.
Azure Adams 3 years ago
you gotta be real careful when dating someone with any kind of severe MI
#22
She went on vacation to have a spiritual awakening by doing drugs in the jungle and came home accusing me of being a demon.
That'sEndorable 3 years ago
I was going to ask that. "So, just to be clear: were they wrong to do drugs, or were they wrong about you being a demon?"
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NicNor5560 3 years ago
My ex went to a revival camp and when he came back, he saw the devil everywhere including in me.
#23
He told me that a few years before we met, he and his friends secretly filmed a girl that I knew (but I didn’t like her so I guess he felt safe telling me for some stupid reason) while she was in the shower. He even went through certain things that she did, like slipping (they were at senior week and “she was SO DRUNK”, like that makes it okay- oh and THEY WERE ALL DRUNK TOO so make it make sense). He was obviously super proud of himself and thought it was hilarious. I was so disgusted with him and his shi**y friends. And yes, I told her about it.
#24
My fiancee cheated on me and got pregnant, then told me "You never did anything to prove you really love me"
She asked me to prove my love for her by accepting the baby she got from cheating on me.
I asked her to leave - this was my home, my name only was on the lease. She refused to go.
So I gave my notice to the landlords, moved out and told her she had two weeks left.
"But what am I supposed to do? I don't have a job!" she wailed.
Not my problem.
She's a single mum now.
BRODOOLERINGO 3 years ago
The one affected the most in this situation. :(
Load More Replies... Lisa Intally 3 years ago
In the US, single moms should get court-ordered child support. You guys think about this when you support anti-choice legislation. DNA tests will prove who dad is, and, if life is ruled at starting at conception that's about 19 years of child support you will pay.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
What, the baby daddy wasn't willing to take care of her like the bf was? Huh.
Loretta Hines 3 years ago
What happened to the father of the kid? Feel really sorry for the child. Children deserve to be wanted by both parents.
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Your absolutely right it’s not your problem. Actions have consequences plain and simple.
Vasana Phong 3 years ago
Delusional, prove your love to me by accepting the child???? Poor kid
#25
He got physically aggressive with my eldest daughter. I left the next day with both of my kids.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
Thank you. Thank you! I only wish my mother had done the same instead of spending years telling me to "stop antagonizing" her pwecious shitty husbands.
Bonesko 3 years ago
My mom said a similar thing to me and my brother. Or 'he's just playing' (regarding his cruel so called pranks used to humiliate us). I think too many of us can relate to that.
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Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
My mum did this for my sister and I once as 5 year olds. Guy was aggressive with us while babysitting overnight and proudly told her how he had “punished” us when she got home from night shift. He was gone by the time I woke up. Thanks mama!
Hazel Sage 3 years ago
While my family were in the process of leaving my extremely abusive father, people whom we shared with seemed to think that the best way to support us was to tell us all the worst horror stories about abusers hurting and killing their victims! I’ll never forget the Thanksgiving we spent with a friend-family. At some point in the evening, one friend told us a story about an abuser she had known of, who won full custody of his two children (a toddler and an infant), and then the day after the court hearing was over, he dropped them both off the Golden Gate Bridge! My dad wasn’t super violent, but that story still scared the sh*t out of us!! That friend never had a great filter, but that was definitely one of her worst “I can’t read the room” moments!
Cathy Hurd 3 years ago
Nobody, but NOBODY, gets physically aggressive with MY kids. Not even their biological father. (He was scum who abandoned them anyway, but that's another story)
#26
I got married young, basically military pushed us into it
It was ending anyway but we moved home and since I was around my support people and back in a place I was comfortable I thought maybe we would work on it
Went to his house once to see him, our dog who was so well behaved he would pout if he did something he shouldn't was in a crate. His bed was heavy it was so full of pee.
I opened the crate, put the dog in the car, told the husband to f**k off.
My dog turns 12 this year. He isn't doing too well, I'm glad we spent the last 11 years without that moron.
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
I hate people that mistreat animals. They are the lowest of lows garbage humans.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Not always, my parents got married shortly before my dad joined the military and they've been married for almost 20 years.
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#27
When i started talking/texting her less cuz i had university exams coming up so she said that i was prioritising my studies/future over her
U bet ur sweet a*s im doing just that
Iifa A. 3 years ago
Well done getting rid of her .. I met my other half while already being engaged and ready to marry. 5mths before wedding he told me "college is just a hobby, we marry and you become housewife". Oh I cried to my mum, begged her to buy me tickets to visit family at home and met my current man. I broke off the engagement, and six hours later I picked up my current man in airport. We didn't know anything about each other, but on a very first hour we met he told me " do you, it isn't my place to tell you how." We have been together 13years, he supports me regardless of his personal beliefs, and doesn't expect me to put him first, same goes for me, he can do what he wants and how. I'm introvert so quite happy to be alone, but him I remind him weekly to go out with his friends. It's a toxic trait to instill your insecurities on others. We spent nearly every night together on a date as we don't get tired dealing with each others issues. Right decision to put future first
Sa Ruuu 3 years ago
Ironically I once dated a guy who kept asking me when my exams were over and I really thought he was planning a nice date or something. Turns out he just wanted to break up with me when he knew i was done because "he didn't want to make me sad and distract me from my exams"
TheReader19 3 years ago
In a way that's not a bad thing, can you imagine how you would feel if he told you before hand
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Janet Graham 3 years ago
She is only seeing her 'now' and not your goals. You do not need the static.
adina shaina 3 years ago
Any woman who does not prioritize her man's education is a damned fool. How else is HE going to support the family?
#28
I dated a guy long enough to become close with his family, and one day we were having dinner at his house and his mom asks me (at the table with the family) how I liked this new restaurant in the area as if I’d been there. When I said I hadn’t been there yet, she said “oh I thought that’s where you two went last weekend?” We had not gone out that weekend, and that’s how I found out he was dating other girls and telling his mother he was going out with me.
The “hell nah” part was that he could lie so easily to his mom and that she believed him - if a guy treats his mom like s**t he’s not going to respect his wife either.
Alex Taylor 3 years ago
Sounds like an a**hole (I censored myself to save BP having to do it.)
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RandomFrog 3 years ago
“If a guy treats his mother like sht he’s not going to respect his wife”. I like that.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Not necessarily true. I was often pretty rude with my mother but emotionally abused most of my life and only finding out in my late twenties that the way she treated me wasn't right. Was always extremely caring, considerate and attentive to my partners. Sometimes they'd be put off but I'd let them read text exchanges or listen to hateful voicemails and they'd all say "aw no ef that ho"
Janet Graham 3 years ago
Well, he is lying to you and cheering on you now. He is not going to change.
#29
She crawled through my doggie door at 1:30 am, went through my phone, and then asked me why I was talking to another woman.
Oh, I forgot to mention that I broke up with her a month earlier. We were not in a relationship when she pulled that stunt.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Presumably they own a very big dog. Then again, don't dog doors that big come with locks? Heck, we had a catflap when I was a kid which could be locked from the inside (to stop the cat getting out at night).
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Craig Reynolds 3 years ago
I would have called the police and had her arrested for illegal entry.
#30
Came home from work. She was in the kitchen happily making us dinner. Went to bathroom. Was in the middle of washing my hands when I thought of something I had to tell her (untreated adhd) as I come around the corner I juuuust barely see her drop something into my bowl. Like her hand was cupped over it and she slipped something in it. And it just looked sketchy as f**k. She didn’t see me see her so I just walked back into the bathroom. Finished washing my hands. Told her thank you so much for making me dinner but I just wasn’t hungry. Then I spent most of the night awake thinking what the f**k did I just see her trying to do? Around three AM I’m convincing myself I imagined it and that I just need to get up, and go pee, and get some sleep. And then my very next thought was, man my penis really itches.
I went up to the clinic the very next day, got tested for STDs just to confirm what I already suspected. Positive for chlamydia. It was the antibiotic. That’s what she put into the soup she made me.
Called my sister. Told her I needed to stay with her for a few weeks. Went home. Packed up 1 backpack full of the absolute essentials and a trash bag for all my clothes. Threw both in the car. Went back in and said “I know you cheated on me and there is no sense in denying it. When we started getting serious I told you that I could compromise on just about everything. But cheating was something I could never under any circumstances get past. That if you cheated on me, there would be no discussion, no explanations, no working it out. I wouldn’t leave angry, but I’d just leave. Because the relationship is now over. So goodbye, tell your kids whatever you want to.” (She had two kids from a previous marriage.)
Blocked all her communication on my way to my sisters. Told her what happened when I got there and we stayed up all night drinking and crying and laughing at the ridiculousness of it all. She cheated on me, infected me, then tried to cure me so I’d never know! which crazily enough probably would have worked except I just happened to see her do it. Something that never should have happened because what kind of lunatic just leaves the bathroom in the middle of washing their hands to tell someone they live with something. 😂. I was weeks from proposing to this woman. And then… Sometimes people talk about moments that define their lives. Or days that they will never forget. The most important days of their lives. How about seconds? *one second.* that’s about how long of a window I had to watch her put the antibiotic into my food and slink backward into the bathroom without her seeing me. On either side of that one second window my life would possibly be very different… it’s just so crazy to think about.
Alex Taylor 3 years ago
The quote is actually 'the devil is in the detail' which is far more appropriate here.
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Velocity Raptor 3 years ago
Antibiotics taste horrible, no way he wouldn't have tasted it. Also, what a horrible person to do such a thing!
RandomFrog 3 years ago
Yeah the part about that thing that one second that changed your life. Ik what you mean. There are so many times I’ve wondered what would have happened if my ex hadn’t texted me in that one second, causing my parents to see it and tell me they think she’s abusive. Also that same ex made my previous gf break up w me so they could date instead. If she hadn’t texted me I would stilll be dating her probs.
RafCo 3 years ago
I don't know a lot about STDs, so I am asking this from genuine curiosity. Is it possible that she had been sick since before the relationship started? I know that different STDs present differently in men and women, could she have been asymptomatic, and discovered it by chance? If that is the case, could she have been too embarrassed, or was concerned that you wouldn't believe her?
Velocity Raptor 3 years ago
According to Google, up to 75% of cases in women are asymptomatic with an average of 1.36 years of asymptomatic duration. So definitely a possibility. But still, sneaking medication to a person is an unacceptable behavior.
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#31
We were watching t.v. and I was laying on my stomach beside her on my bed. She poked my butt and I asked her not to. I tickle easily. A few moments later she did it again but poked my butthole. I jerked and grabbed her arm. It was involuntary and a reflex... You know... How people react when tickled or poked in a sensitive area without warning. I was frustrated and when she realized I was not enjoying the ordeal she began to accuse me of hitting her. We were 19. I decided I should just take her home since the mood was kind of off and I wasn't sure what to make of her accusation. As I'm driving her home we are discussing everything and she says she's going to tell her dad I hit her. I slammed my brakes and told her that hitting her was the furthest thing from the truth and that we both know it. Told her to get the f**k out. She quickly apologized after seeing I wasn't about to play the game. I drove her home for the last time. When your partner starts making stuff up that can affect your life... OH HELL NAH
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Well done! Facing the consequences of her actions for the first time no doubt. I hope she’s a better person now.
Isaac Harvey 3 years ago
On the other hand, if she hasn’t changed, it’s her loss.
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Janet Graham 3 years ago
That is not even funny! What was she expecting? It might have laughed off, butt she took it to no man's land.
#32
Straw that broke the camel’s back was when I grabbed an Oreo out of the package and he said, “Do you *really* think you need that?”
RafCo 3 years ago
My wife is always asking me questions like, "will you judge me if I have cake for dinner". My answer is "yes, I will judge that you don't know how awesome it is that as an adult you can decide to have cake for dinner."
Katie Andrews 3 years ago
I've said, rather loudly, yeah, I do need that. What I really DON'T need is some man trying to tell me what I need!
That'sEndorable 3 years ago
After all the horror stories, this one kinda cracked me up. (I know he's probably body shaming, being a control freak and all, so I'm not belittling the OP for her decision.)
Iifa A. 3 years ago
What is it with people giving out about people eating. This is how eating disorders are created. Any man telling me what I can eat/order and how much can kiss each fat roll down my a*s on his way out. Thank god I have found someone who genuinely asks did I eat, and buys me sweets and cakes while listening to me moan about my body. His reasoning "all food is bad for you in large quantities,but in moderation everything is just food". I was a bigger teenager, but after meeting him I have no cravings, I eat what I want and when because I'm not teased about it. Everything that is off limits becomes enticing. If I know I can't have the cake, I will definitely have a cake 😂 a man can go away, actually anybody having issues with my eating unless you're my medical practitioner specialising in eating habits/disorders who I personally pay, your opinion about my fridge is not welcomed. I'm hangry already
#33
She f****d multiple other people and when confronted she physically assaulted me. I walked out the door with her following and smacking me in the back of the head. Best thing that ever happened to me. Taught me how to appreciate decent people and to not compromise my own comfort to excuse others sh**ty behavior. The relationship that followed that one has lasted 24 happy years.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Glad that he found happiness with someone else after his nightmare.
#34
I dated a guy who’s ex left him randomly one morning, kissed her goodbye for work and came back and her s**t was gone. Changed her number, and moved back home. He never talked to her again, I thought it was super sad and messed up for what she did. He use to wake up in the morning crying over her, I pathetically just comforted him. But one day I woke up to him emailing his ex girlfriends mother saying he was going to come down to Seattle and kill them all! It wasn’t much later I found out he was served a restraining order from the family. Now I see why she left without saying goodbye.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
And hopefully the poster takes a hint and follows suit.
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I’ve talked about this before but I had a real Karen of an ex who was easily the meanest person I’ve ever met. The turning point for me in the relationship was when she made me rehome one of my dogs when I lived with her, she claimed after four months of me living with her that her lease wouldn’t allow it. So I tearfully rehomed my German Shepard chow mix and got called a little bit for bawling like a baby when I did it by my ex. The next week I’m chilling in the house when In walks my ex with a basset hound. I asked her about her lease and she straight up told me she lied about that because she hated my big dog, the same one both of her kids loved. At the time an apartment was out of the question due to my horrible credit so I bought a camper and moved it onto my parents property shortly after. Im now in an amazing relationship with someone just as goofy as me and we’re currently house hunting!
Nikki Sevven 3 years ago
WTF?! How TF could you do that to your fur baby?! Why wasn't that the line for you?
Wandaluzt 3 years ago
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No you didn't 3 years ago
Honestly, if the lease doesn't allow for a dog, the solution is to find a dog friendly place and not to rehome the dog.
Agata Fronia 3 years ago
You are not abandoning an animal because someone tells you so, you lived there 4monts and just then she drops a no pets bombs, fishy as hell.
Powerful Katrinka 3 years ago
If given the choice between my cats (or dog) and the person I'm involved with, my cats would win every time. I could no more "rehome" an animal than I could "rehome" a child.
Heather W 3 years ago
If I had to pick rehoming my cat or my child, child would lose. But she's an irritating teenager right now so that probably has something to do with it lol
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Enamelcamel 3 years ago
Nope. Not having it. I don't give a s**t HOW much you like the woman. Y totally TA for re-homing your PET to accommodate ANYTHING except financial necessity.
Wandaluzt 3 years ago
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I was in a car accident with a friend. When I called to tell my SO that we had been in an accident, the car was totaled, and I had just been released from the ER…he LAUGHED because my friend’s car wasn’t even paid off yet and “sucks to be him”. Nah. Just nah.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
For those of you who seem to lack empathy, the correct first response when your SO says "I was in a car accident, the car was totalled, I'm at ER" is "Are you all right, what happened, is there anything you need that I can do?" I can't believe we have to explain this.
PiscesMama 3 years ago
I can’t believe you’ve had to explain that either! Holy sh*t, narcissists are rife! The other two responses on this have shocked me!
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Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 3 years ago
I was in a car accident and was pretty shaken up. My father's first words was, "how bad is the car"? I'll never forget that. :(
Janet Graham 3 years ago
I understand the comeback, but not the timing. That is something you say on the way home from the hospital. And you make sure everyone knows it is a joke. So, was he jealous of this friend?
Sadie Lynn 3 years ago
Found the narcissist's in this thread. Pretty terrible person to do something like that, or think it's okay. Apparently narcissist's are terrible at contextual reading too. OPs comment doesn't say "later in the conversation", it says he knows there was an accident, the car is totaled, and that she had just been released. They have no idea if op is ok, only that she's being released and can speak. After being in an accident generally a person is NOT ok for a few days after the incident. And he has no idea if OP's other friends are even alive or passed on. My Aunt's husband says that same line to people all the time, at the most inappropriate moments. Literally, said it to my grandmother the night my grandfather passed away! It's heartless, cold, and the actions of a sociopath, narcissist!
#37
I caught her banging the guy she picked to be my best man on the preacher's desk on our wedding day.
Kristina Šob 3 years ago
I don't understand people, who are cheating on their wedding day... Its the same, like to buy a car, while you can't drive...
Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
Just like some bachelor/bachelorette parties: one last time (that actuallycnever is the last one) or the thrill of being cought doing it.
Load More Replies... Nikki Sevven 3 years ago
I don't understand why YOU didn't choose your best man. That would have been a clue for me. "Here, have this person who's not even your friend be your best man."
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
Probably wanted to get caught. Figurative "F*** you" to the groom and a literal "F*** you" to HER "best man". Coldblooded and slimy, but props for the time management and efficiency.
Load More Replies... Jill Hojnacki 3 years ago
The first clue that you needed to get out should have been when SHE picked YOUR Best Man.
#38
When I was 16/17, I dated a guy who was in town for the summer. He was so cool (I thought) and I had a car so I would drive us on dates and junk. He really made my heart flutter. If I said no to him, he'd get upset a bit, but it didn't seem to be a huge issue. Like, if he wanted me to drive him somewhere to drop him off to hang with his friends, normally I would but a few times, it was like a 30min drive and I said no.
Then he hit me once. We were in the car and he wanted me to drop him off at a girl's house and I asked why. He wouldn't really answer and then admitted that he was using me for my drug connections and my car. I was surprised and said no. I'd drop him off where he was staying and then we were done. He hit me. I pulled over and kicked him out of my car and drove away.
Janet Graham 3 years ago
I hope that you also turned him in. Or, at least learned something from that adventure.
#39
My ex boyfriend was angry his mom woke him up at 10 in the morning via phone call, so after the call, he punched a hole in his door, threw his phone at the window, woke me up forcefully, and yelled at me to buy a new door so his parents wouldn’t kick him out.
Claire 3 years ago
How old is he?? How rude! My son phoned and woke me up at 2:30am because he didn't want to walk back to his flat alone. He is 22 and lives away from home. I kept him company on the phone for as long as it took him to get indoors. I am always there for my children and would like to think they will always be there for me!
Monic Krugell 3 years ago
I wondered when I will call a person a "total Fart"! I think we just got the definition people! Every red flag in the building just went up.
Loretta Hines 3 years ago
His parents should have addressed his anger issues when he was a child…… owe lol he still is. Seriously they should of raised him to understand his anger, unless they taught him that by being aggressive themselves. In that case you had a double lucky escape.
Azure Adams 3 years ago
WTF!!!! What did you see is this guy?! SEriously? What was the attraction??
Janet Graham 3 years ago
I hope you left and did not go back. Why would his folks be mad about the door? If they owned the place or co-signed, I would have had a heart-to-heart with them about why you are leaving. They will likely believe their precious angel. But, you told them the truth and you are out of it.
#40
He refused to use soap. Yes, this includes hand soap. He believed that water and scrubbing was enough to keep yourself clean and it was important not to strip your body of its natural oils. I must admit, he did have really nice hair and skin but he always smelled bad and I could not get over the fact that he didn’t even use soap after using the bathroom. I have no clue what he does if his hands get sticky or really dirty, I didn’t stick around long enough to find out. Thankfully we never got physical or made it official, but we “talked” and went on dates for a month and I still get the ick when I think about him.
Eric Cestero 3 years ago
I had a friend who loved this guy who never showered with soap as well. He also washed his towel. I would hug her after she had been cuddling him and her hair smelled of strong armpit. It was disgusting. She said he smelled manly, I told her to get her nose check cause he smelled rotten not manly (musky).
Cara G 3 years ago
"Strong armpit" is a description that is universally understood. Or, I should say, would be if we all showered with soap 🤣
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Man in the ceiling 3 years ago
Or worse.. getting physically active with them 🤢🤮
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 3 years ago
I guess Lisa Bonet said that was one of the things that split her and Lenny Kravitz apart is that he wasn't big on hygiene and never wore deodorant.
Craig Reynolds 3 years ago
He needs a Delorean to take him back to 1 Million B.C. so he can be the cave dweller he dreams of being...
#41
When he was polyamorous (literally dating other people) but got super upset and jealous when I would hug my friends.
El Dee 3 years ago
I had someone try to pull the 'polyamorous' card on me. Turns out they actually just wanted to date their 'ex' So umm...nope..
Dark-Infinity 3 years ago
I was in a really toxic relationship for a while with someone who was poly. Broke it off when he started trying to pressure me into doing things I wasn't comfortable with by comparing me to his boyfriend and saying he was a lot better than me. He also wanted me to get with him and his other boyfriend to have sex. Not to mention he asked my bff out multiple times.
Stephanie Wittenberg 3 years ago
That's not poly, that's psycho. Glad you're out of it, hope your next SO is a great person who is worthy of you.
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Lukas-not-Luca (he/him) 3 years ago
As a poly person, this is not how it works. Yes, jealousy is a thing, even in a poly relationship, but you talk it out, not get angry. The key to a working poly relationship is COMMUNICATION between all partners involved- about boundaries, feelings, and everything in between.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
She was getting upset because she knew she was doing something immoral and she was paranoid you'd find out and leave. Some people just don't have their heads screwed on straight.
RandomFrog 3 years ago
My ex gf was poly, and she always pressured me to be poly too and date the other gf she had told me about ( there were four btw. I only knew abt one) so we could all be dating but I wasn’t interested really, I prefer monogamous relationships. Then during the breakup fighting she was the most toxic person.
#42
I was 2 weeks away from getting married and then my fiance dropped a bombshell on me. We had talked at length about future plans, career ideas, her wanting to leave her current job and return to working as a nurse, etc.. but then she suddenly announced that she had handed in her 2-week notice and was done working for good. Her exact reasoning was that, well, eventually she would have to take time off anyway if/when we had kids. So for now, she was going to play housewife, not work at all, and just do the cooking/laundry for me that I've already gladly done for myself for years. There were a lot of one-sided mental health issues and emotional abuse in that relationship, especially from the day we got engaged. I foolishly kept hoping that things might get better after the marriage, nothing permanent/un-fixable had happened. But quitting work and openly admitting to denying all our plans for the future? She did me a favour then.
Lady Goldberry 3 years ago
And yet we are still apparently unable to acknowledge that men are abused too...all these long op eds about how the jury made the wrong decision with Depp V Heard are ignoring the fact that she assaulted him.
Signe Manat Hansen 3 years ago
Can we stop talking about that shítshow now? Please?
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Trish Smith 3 years ago
Damn!! You got lucky with that one. Imagine she had dropped that on you after you were married!!
Melia Janssen 3 years ago
Never wait until after marriage to sort out whatever relationship problems you have because more often than not, those problems don't simply disappear after marriage. Rather, they could intensify just because the other person knows that the commitment is sealed and that exit is a lot more complicated and difficult than simply moving out.
#43
Found out she was lying about having cancer.
Zoe's Mom 3 years ago
This pisses me off to no end. My sister is battling it and it's not a f*cking joke. It's horrendous. She's grey and sick all the time.
Scotira 3 years ago
😭😭😭💪💪💪🤞🤞🤞 sending all my best wishes to both of you!!
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ERIKA H. 3 years ago (edited)
I had an ex who lied about cancer so i wouldn't break up with them! Shaved off his eyebrows and head, and had me drive him to the hospital every week for "chemo" and even sent me pics of him with an IV in his arm (turned out he would go to a place where you can get a vitamin drip). It is crazy how common lying about cancer has become. I feel like if you lie about cancer, you're guaranteed to actually get cancer later in life (and deservedly so!)
Anyone-for-tea? 3 years ago
I had a boyfriend who did that, it is the worst thing I’ve ever been through.
#44
In a gay situationship.
He wanted me to start taking estrogen/transgender drugs to "have a more feminine physique" and become a femboy.
Eric Cestero 3 years ago
on another note, gay men are not pre-op transgender. Just because we sleep with men does not mean we identify as a woman, we identify as gay men who like men! Also, being a gay man does not mean you do drag. I love drag shows but have no desire to be in drag even during Halloween (I did it one year, so I know I don't like it).
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
Why would you need special medication to be a femboy? A femboy isn't the same as a transwoman, seems like this guy had some weird fetish thing going on.
Casey Payne 3 years ago (edited)
So, to clarify. You want me to start on an expensive, physically demanding, socially prohibitive medical regimen requiring legal applications for medical and psychiatric approval in order to change my entire being on a mental, emotional, hormonal and cellular level so I can be sexually alluring. For you. I'm going to have to say no. And tell you to go f**k yourself. edit: This is my attempt at satire and is not intended to belittle anybody. Respectfully, I only wanted to mock the casual cruelty in the request for someone they supposedly care for to go through a very demanding procedure that they don't want to be something they are not.
Lillian Swaim 3 years ago
I don't think anyone legit would prescribe hormones if it's not for a medical reason or true transition. They need people who are serious, it's not a cosmetic thing
Lukas-not-Luca (he/him) 3 years ago
There is a difference between a girl and a feminine boy though (also could be bi/pan/ etc)
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I didn't think I would ever be stupid enough to be love bombed and gaslit until it happened to me. Had a whirlwind relationship with a guy who manipulated me so quickly that I was lying about spending time with my own friends and family b/c I knew he'd be upset that I wasn't spending it with him. It was finally like a lightbulb clicked on in my brain that I realized he was nuts and I was an idiot for putting myself through his chaos and I blocked him on everything, wrote him a break up letter/email, and never heard from him again. He tried to contact my sister on Instagram and she blocked him too. Luckily I was in the process of moving as well so he couldn't find me and murder me or anything.
RafCo 3 years ago
My wife told me once that men are afraid that women will laugh at them, and women are afraid that men will kill them. That really hit me hard. I think about that a lot. Now that I have 2 daughters, I think about it even more. So Sheila, stay safe okay. And remember if you're ever in a dangerous situation, you can count on your family and friends, don't be afraid to reach out to them.
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Kelli Girouard 3 years ago
Men are afraid of being embarrassed. Women are afraid of being murdered.
RafCo 3 years ago
I remember reading an article from an ex-cult member who wrote about this idea that anybody could fall into a cult. It's a slow and gradual process of gaslighting and manipulation. I wonder if there's every been any research into the connections between cultism and abusive relationships like this. If not, here's a thesis idea to any psychology PhD candidates out there.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
There is a TON on this. The lovebombing, the promise of a safe place with someone who likes/loves and accepts you, then the slow introduction of tests to see what boundaries you'll relinquish and what you'll give up, eventually leading to death by a thousand cuts. There are links between addicts and religion/cults for this reason, too. Humans are empty and looking for love. Horrible people out there will take advantage of that.
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She stole my car, drove it from Washington to Las Vegas, and married a guy she met on Xbox Live so he could get residence.
TheWickedOne 3 years ago
Yes, because something being illegal stops people from doing it.
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Trish Smith 3 years ago
Sounds like she ended it....not you. Not trying to throw shade or trying to be an a****le. It appears that you dodged significantly MORE than the proverbial bullet!!
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Hahaha. My sister dated a guy for about a month. She lived in Federal Way, WA and we're not sure where he was actually from. She gave him her debit card to run get cigarettes one night (I know, right?) She got up in the morning and he's not there. Neither is HER car, which he drove to Las Vegas after she'd reported it stolen, along with her debit card. She gets a call from the county cops down there and they have her car & him in custody. Turns out this was his "thing". He would take advantage of unsuspecting women and pull the same thing over & over. At the time of his hearing, they'd found 6 witnesses/victims to come forward. He got like 15 years or something.
Janet Graham 3 years ago
I would have prosecuted her! Isn't it still illegal to marry just for citizenship?
#47
(For clarification, this was a strictly online relationship). This one’s weird. He described a fantasy of his to me in which I was his daughter, once he impregnated me, he would impregnate that child when they got their period, and so on and so forth. Took me 2 months to finally leave, but that was the point where I became scared of him. Did I mention I was 14 and he was 30
Trish Smith 3 years ago
100% agree!! Parents should be notified immediately of this conversation!
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wist_the_goblin (they/he) 3 years ago
oh my god-this is so wrong on all levels. i'm glad you're out of that. he'd probably keep asking for inappropriate images soon.
Adam (they/he) 3 years ago
Off topic but ive never met anyone else who uses they/he pronouns. He/theys for sure but not they/he. I just thought it was kinda cool lol :D
Load More Replies... BRODOOLERINGO 3 years ago
This guy needs to be reported to the police and FBI. Someone isn't gonna have the strength to resist.
Trish Smith 3 years ago
Damn!! This is sick....and scary.....on so many levels!! This is a prime example of why CHILDREN should be heavily monitored while using the internet! Also, several safe-guard programs should be installed on computer to alert the parents in case the child decides to sneak on, when parents aren't aware! JMHO
#48
When he made new female friends that I wasn’t allowed to meet/talk to.
Snowfoxrox 3 years ago
Yeah.. I make male friends, but I tell my husband all about them.. It's straight up platonic and he has no qualms because I will 100% tell him about everything we talk about.. Video gaming, music etc.. I love him with my whole soul and I don't even see other guys in that light.
#49
She cut herself in front of me to see if I’d cry about it.
LeighAnne Brown-Pedersen 3 years ago
Women can be gaslighting manipulators. If Amber Heard taught us anything, it’s that women can be abusers too.
El Dee 3 years ago
Yes, and this needs to be viewed as a win for victims everywhere. It's not about men Vs women, it's about helping and believing victims..
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Craig Reynolds 3 years ago
I would have called the police and had them take her for a psych evaluation. In some states, she can be forcibly detained in a facility under the Baker Act for several days. That will be a lesson she won't soon forget.
#50
I noticed I was always trying to be asleep by the time she got back from drinking and that was cause she would regularly black out and get mean (not in a sexy way) with me.
Qibli of the SandWings 3 years ago
There are two ways to get mean. One is the @sshole version, and the other is the adult version (sort of like talking dirty). Thats what. I think at least.
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#51
Dated a Catholic girl, we could have sex but were not allowed to use protection - because of God. She also wanted me to finish inside her every time. This was also because of God. She assured me that this was all safe because she knew her natural cycle and would only have sex on days that she could not get pregnant on. We were in our second year of university. The sex was good and I liked her a lot but I couldn’t stand the stress of worrying about pregnancy. I asked her if we could stop having sex and just do other things instead, she said no way. She wanted to keep having sex on a regular basis. I noped out of there before I got her pregnant.
That'sEndorable 3 years ago
Let's be clear that "because of God" does not mean her Catholic faith. It's an excuse for her being in control.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Yep. "Good Catholic girls" aren't supposed to have sex at all before marriage. I mean, you can, but you shouldn't.
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 3 years ago
Wise choice, but that decision should have been made a lot sooner. It sounds like some really risky business, that could have had major life alterating consiquenses.
#52
When I asked my wife who she texting in the living room at 4am. She responded with "my boyfriend".
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My MIL became suspicious of my SIL cheating on her husband (MIL Son.) She said that she would be sitting in her garage for hours on her cell phone. That she would frequently take trips back home to NJ. Then, my BIL found an email between her and a guy in VA. Turned out she wasn't going home to NJ but flying from FL to VA to be with her boyfriend. She left my BIL to be with her boyfriend. Funny enough, her boyfriend was already married and, when my soon to be Ex-SIL showed up at his door, he told her he had no intentions of leaving his wife..... *Oopsie....
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
I love BP comments like this because it’s like you’re getting a bonus post :D haha thanks for sharing!
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Unadulterated Glitter 3 years ago
then she slapped a hand over her mouth and said "I meant my mum
#53
He got mad at me while he was almost blackout drunk. He told me he had people coming to beat my a*s. We were in a long distance relationship. He was stupid enough to continue making these claims over text. Well, I called the PD in his town and they showed up at his home. All he had to say about the entire incident was, “you called the cops. Well played.” That was the end of him in my life. Although it should have ended much sooner.
#54
Having a squatty potty thrown at my head because I didn't poop correctly. True story. There was obviously a *lot* of f****d up things before that happened, but that was the moment that finally made me realize "Oh she really is crazy"
BRODOOLERINGO 3 years ago
It's missing just the right amount of information. 👌
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Peter Kelly 3 years ago
Pardon my ignorance, but what is a 'squatty potty' except for the type used by 2 year-olds? Where would anyone have such an item, even if it was for adult use?? Why would anyone be in the same room watching???
Kiss Army 3 years ago
They are actual great. (It's the footstool show in the picture.) I have one but I would never throw it at anyone!! LOL!! 41AZVJCDDL...0a14f8.jpg 
#55
She bloodied my nose and busted my lip in a restaurant....
#56
He would rant about how his mom was "sh**ty with her money" and how much he hated everything she did because she would buy household things and couldnt pay his back child support to keep him out of jail He was 33, living in her spare bedroom, highschool drop out, never learned to drive, refused to work longer than 2 weeks. She also cleaned, worked full time and cooked his meals every single day. Pissed me the f**k off. Told him he should appreciate her not letting him sit in jail for the kid he wont get off his a*s and pay for
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Like how did he get 1 10th of the way through that explanation of his situation before this woman(?) just thought “loser”? No job, no home, no car, no me! I do not want or need a man to “provide” anything for me, but I sure as sh*t am not supporting someone else! Wtf!
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#57
Got up at 5am to go to school, Job 1, and Job 3 in that order, came home, hopped into bed with gf, asked when she worked in the morning and she said she quit her job weeks ago. Just rolled over, slept, and prepared the exit.
#58
My dad died. My friends were all halfway across the country. So I got into discord/videogames for a while to be with friends. My gf felt neglected. She started a fight, felt threatened (I've never laid a hand on anyone), and got a knife.
Here's the kicker: 1 week prior one of her best friends from middle school went to jail for stabbing her husband in a fight.
I was intentionally really calm for 3 days, and moved out in about 30 minutes.
Edit: There was about 2 weeks between the death and this incident. If it had been months, i could understand the anger. But I had hardly unpacked from the flight.
BRODOOLERINGO 3 years ago
Doesn't matter if it's 2 weeks or 2 months. If your partner can't understand your grieving process you don't belong together. And a knife?? That s**t was premeditated, following an example.
Mikey Kliss 3 years ago
The woman who wrote "how to kill your husband and get away with it" was found guilty of killing her husband
El Dee 3 years ago
Wow! After a bereavement you need to understand that someone isn't going to be their usual happy self. Time to process it and if they want to spend all day and night gaming - fine, whatever gets you through. Being jealous is super, super selfish. And then, just to confirm it, pulling a knife??
#59
In 1999, My third gf and I had standing plans to hang out on weekends... Well one weekend I went over to her place to find that no one was home. I tried calling the following day, no answer, so I tried later in the day, no answer, next day same thing, left a message, same thing each day for a week. At first I was just concerned something had happened to her, but by a week later with no response I was pretty sure she'd ghosted (though ghosting wasn't a term back then) me. So I gave up... Well two days later I get a call from her, it turned out her and her family had gone on a trip to Chicago and she didn't think it might be a good idea to let me know. When I asked her why she didn't let me know, her response was something to the effect of she didn't owe it to me to inform me. My basic response was that if she cared about me she would have let me know, so I wouldn't worry about her just disappearing for over a week. I dumped her and refused to take her back....
#61
She posted s**t on social media every single time we fight. At first always something indirectly about she was feeling blue, then it escalated into mentioning me several times. There was this one time when she decided to insult me on her facebook post when we were fighting, and I decided that was it.
One of the best decision of me life lol.
#62
She went for a "drive" after a night out with her "coworker". She came back home and told me about it. She had told me a week prior that she was up all night on the phone with said coworker lol. I told her to leave and pack her s**t. That, coupled with the fact that she was a narcissistic person made it very easy to call it quits. She was the first person EVER to spit in my face and say I wouldn't amount to anything in life. I did not spend the last 4-5 years of my life, prior to meeting her, trying to build myself up into the best version of myself that I could be, just so she could tear that s**t down. F**k you, Becca.
Kel_how 3 years ago
If someone spit in my face, I'd have trouble not ending them then and there. Wouldn't even matter what else they did; I'm out.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
It's a damn biological attack on your body!!!
Load More Replies... PiscesMama 3 years ago
Yeah! F you, Becca! OP; Live your best life, bloom where you are planted, make the best of every day!!! Success IS the greatest revenge because you get so happy you don’t care about them at all!
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Lol the irony. I was involved with a Becca who made me miserable enough I nearly took my life. F**k you, Becca.
Peter Kelly 3 years ago
Wouldn't she have had to pack first and then leave, rather than the other way around? Could be tricky...
#63
This was after a few dates: This guy farted in his cupped hand and put it over my mouth while we were watching a movie. Caught me completely off guard. I left his dorm immediately and I never spoke to him again.
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Asking for pink eye! I don’t want anyones poop particles forced in my face! Agree with Hex Gurls 🤢🤢🤢
Carol Emory 3 years ago
What....is he 9yo? What kind of guy thinks a girl would find this funny?
#64
Was in a relationship with a girl for a while, and she used to always mock my taste in music and other various choices. Kinda mundane things, but like personality reflective things. TV shows I liked, artists I like, etc. We went on a driving trip. (definitely the best way to see if a relationship will work, let's be honest.) I just kinda had this epiphany that I was in an abusive relationship, but I didn't have a low self esteem so it wasn't really affecting me. For the most part I would just think it was weird, or think, "what's she on about this time?" I broke up with her about 2 weeks later.
Larissa Smith 3 years ago
I don't like everything my husband likes, but I sure as hell respect that he likes those things!
Puck 3 years ago
Exactly. And show some interest even if it's something you don't like yourself. That's why my boyfriend went to see our National Ballet with me (1 time only 😁) and i learned how to play Magic the Gathering. You can however joke about eachothers hobby's in a friendly way.
Load More Replies... Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago (edited)
This lesson took me a long, long time to learn. I was with my first boyfriend for way too long, and he and my friend group treated me like their butt-monkey. Everything I did was mocked, trashed, "stupid." It finally clicked that "I don't treat you like this, why do you think it's okay to treat me like this?" which just lead to the "It's JUST A JOKE!" and me being "too sensitive" and "no fun." But people who claim to love you or be your friend and then treat you like someone they hate aren't really your friends. After I got free from this mess, I met a partner who thinks my interests, hobbies, and talents are awesome, and that I'm his favorite person. It's mutual. Never settle for less.
Frosty 🇺🇦 3 years ago
Glad that worked out for you, this is a good lesson.
Load More Replies... SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
My girlfriend and I have dramatically different tastes when it comes to music, (she likes bubbly poppy music and I like energetic orchestral music and video game music), shows (she has similar taste in shows. Light, fun. I usually watch darker shows.) And entertainment (she likes games like Sims and WoW. I like games like Total War or console games with complex systems like the souls games). We love those differences about each other despite holding little interest in each other's things. We share enough otherwise.
#65
When it finally hit me that I couldn’t fix a broken person.
Petra Moon 3 years ago
Look, a persons happiness is not someone else’s responsibility. Even a broken adult needs to seek the appropriate professional help and not rely on a friend or lover to fix them. And before you ask, yes. I have mental health issues so I know this is true.
Load More Replies... Candy_Sneke! 3 years ago
It does, but if it has been going on for a long time, then it can't really help.
Load More Replies... #66
My ex refused to train his dog. The dog was small and cute, and thus was allowed to be a tiny terror and was actively allowed to attack members of my ex's household, ruining his relationship with his family. I put up with being nipped and bit for months. I trained my own dog using skills and exercises taught to me by a behaviourist who worked on movie sets; no matter how many tools I shared with my ex, he refused to use them with his own dog, even though he regularly saw how well my dog behaves. When I'd had enough, I voiced concerns because his dog had tried to bite my face multiple times. He then twisted things and accused me of suggesting his dog "should be killed." Not once did I even allude to putting the dog down. When I asked what he would do if his dog succeeded in biting my face, his response was "what, are you going to sue me?" He then launched on a massive entitled tirade about how the world had wronged him. He berated me until I cried. I broke up with him the next day. The dark irony? This happened on our way back from an engagement party.
PiscesMama 3 years ago
That’s not dark irony, it’s coincidence. And I can’t abide people too lazy to train their dogs, minor behavioural issues have exploded as a problem for rescuers/rehomers for at least the last 10 years.
Petra Moon 3 years ago
No such thing as a bad dog, only a bad owner. Shouldn’t keep pets if you can’t be bothered to train them. It’s to protect them as well as people.
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#67
5 year relationship and a house and kid together, she left at 3am after we had some drinks and was with some guy driving around until 5am. Panicked when I woke up and she wasn’t there. Called her, was rude to me, hung up then wouldn’t answer at all after. I got scared since this never happened before and she had some drinks. We shared location on our phones and she was out on a dirt road miles away where we usually go off-roading. She was hanging with some guy because apparently she needed someone to talk to and it wasn’t me.. this really broke my trust with her, and after that things just declined and I became more distanced. Broke my heart.
Diphylleia Grayi 3 years ago
She could have told him. My guess she only cared for her nor her kid and partner.
#68
Waking up to her hitting me. I got up and started packing my thing's while she was screaming at me not to. She has issues
#69
My ex would lie about s**t and make me question my own reality. F**k you bruh.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I hate gaslighters. A friend did that to me and when I realised it I dropped him like a hot brick and never spoke to him again. I'm still angry about it.
Lisa Intally 3 years ago
People who do that are insecure and think they can't have a relationship on a real level.
Load More Replies... Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
My high school boyfriend was like this, and I was too insecure to recognize and run from those red flags. I thought it meant that there was something wrong with ME. From the first months of our relationship, he thought it was funny to "test" me. He'd drop that he had another girlfriend at his old school, the cheer captain. He told me he had a son with another girl. He told me that he'd been an actor on TV when he was a kid. He loved, especially, to play music from someone and try to convince me it was him and his band, and then either be pissed if I didn't believe him ("We sound just as good!") or laugh when I did. If I'd had an ounce of the self-esteem I do now, I would've dumped him in the first two or three weeks.
#70
When my ex deleted my W.O.W. account since I wouldn't have sex with him earlier that day. Yes! I'm dead serious! We were in our early 20's, both of us played & only original World of Warcraft existed. I had the acct long before him & busted my a*s trying to build it up. So nope told him to gtfo then deleted his acct while he was grabbing his stuff. 😈
Carol Emory 3 years ago
My husband spent 3 years building stuff up only to get his account hacked and then frozen. The admin booted him out for selling his items on eBay for cash (against the players agreement.) When he proved his account was hacked, they restored his account and gave him all his stuff back...but he was still revved up about it for a while. He eventually quit playing because Hoard players would find Alliance players, slay them and then sit on the spot for the player to regenerate and slay them again. Makes playing no fun when you're dealing with A**holes.
Load More Replies... Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
Mine did this with an English paper. He offered to let me use his computer (it was the early 90s, I couldn't afford one), and, once I'd finished it, approximately 2am, he offered to "format" it for me. It ended up being one sentence in a single column, and when I asked to hit "undo" quickly, he insisted he knew what he was doing, and messed it up more. I can still see his shitty, nasty smirk when he told me, oh no, that I'd have to write the paper it over again, but I had no reason to be upset, because I was just bitter that he had a computer and I didn't.
#71
Not even an ex, but a woman whom at the most Id be fwb with and was very vocal about such. I love all women and body types, but overall I just wasn’t that attracted to her physically or sexually. Told her I didn’t want a relationship because she’s unstable. She stayed on her Moms couch b/c she got evicted, car got repossessed, dead end job and also had a special needs kid. She was nice enough (I thought) but really just an opportunist and a leech. Begged to stay with me (kid at her Moms since I’m renting in a 3 bdrm..I genuinely thought she wouldn’t get too comfortable or like being away from her kid that often, smh) I accepted because I have a savior complex and needed a distraction from myself. Still very vocal about not wanting a relationship because I have a lot of goals before I want to settle down. ( Also already had a 5 year beautiful relationship end and have been single enjoying dating for 3 years) Once moved in she then decided we were actually in love, and harassed me and wouldn’t leave for months. Kept threatening to harass my landlord enough that if I kick her out we’ll both have to leave. After enough blackmailing and abuse I finally was able to get her removed. She contacted my unit and told them I physically assaulted her, stole her sons ADHD medicine, owe her thousands in rent backpay, am an alcoholic and so drugs. A month later she was genuinely upset and confused on why I didn’t get her a Christmas gift.
Lem Johnson 3 years ago (edited)
Honestly in this one they both suck. He didn't want a relationship but let the chick move in with him? Didn't like her and thought she was unattractive and unstable, but was happy to keep sticking his little d**k in her? Talk about mixed messages. She's nuts, but he's a c**t too.
I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 3 years ago
What makes you think op is a "He". OP is lesbian and she barely sleep with that woman for 3-4 times and all the time she had be forced to sleep with her and once she stopped all of this, that crazy women blackmail her
Load More Replies... Frannie Kaplan 3 years ago
Yeah you picked her qnd used her because she was easy pickings ... then you're surprised
Mikey Kliss 3 years ago
So she's ugly and lazy yet you're using her for sex and think you're the good guy here? ESH would be my rating
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
Why not? This lady is clearly not your average single parent.
Load More Replies... #72
He got mad over something very trivial at my apartment, stormed out, went back home, and told me that he punched a wall in his apartment…
PiscesMama 3 years ago
This is a good point to leave. Uncontrollable behaviour, especially anger, never leads to a good place!
Jul Chv 3 years ago
In my country, apparently, broken hand caused by a guy punching through a wall in anger is called by the medical professions ´jerk fracture´because it usually indicates a f..ng jerk.
Load More Replies... Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
... and wants you to pay for the repair cause obviouslly "it was your fault"
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
These were my red flags that I ignored for years, too. Don't. My ex would do things like drive erratically and unsafely when he was mad (and yell at me if I asked him to slow down), throw strops over things like a rattle in his car (cue the slamming of things, and then yelling when I told him it would make the rattle worse) or a restaurant not bringing his Coke refills fast enough. It took me years, but my "It's over" moment was when we were in undergrad, and had the same lit class. He thought books and reading and professors were stupid, and wanted to "test" the professor by turning in a weirdly-written piece to "prove" she'd give him a low mark. Yeah, I don't get it, either, but when he got a D and I got the highest mark in the class, he actually threw his things down, glared at me like he hated me, and stormed out of the class. It was the first time I thought "WTF?!" instead of "Oh, I did a bad thing and must apologize!" (I'm now a college English professor w an Oxbridge PhD. ;) )
#73
When they started stalking me, following me to outings I was invited to. Yea. No thank you.
#74
When I realised I was being stalked to 'make sure I wasn't cheating ' yeah OK, bye.
#75
I got very tired of him making promises and then backing out. Felt like I couldn't depend on him for anything because he'd always cancel. After I spent a summer away, trying to keep my 5 year old dog from dying of lymphoma, he insisted on taking me on a trip to Mexico. I told him I didn't want to go, that I just wanted to be at home and he lost the plot on me. Instead of having a conversation about it, he tried to use anything vulnerable I'd ever told him against me and then blocked me on everything before I could even reply. A guess the garbage took himself out that day.
#76
When I left for bootcamp, my bf at the time was joking about how he was going to be my dependa (for anybody who doesn't know: your dependent is either a spouse or a child who is entitled to benefits through the sponsor's service, and married members or members with children get extra money to provide for their dependents) to my mom without me knowing. Basically he wanted to get married to me so he could continue to mooch off me. Of course she told me. Dude was already on thin ice from previous attempts to cheat on me and not holding down a stable job, but the thought of being married to someone who acted like that... oh hell nah.
#77
After a full year of dating, I spent a few hours after work making a nice meal that she requested, all from scratch. She slept the whole time and only woke up when I brought her the food in bed. She ate it all without speaking to me or thanking me and then went back to sleep. I told her the next day how much it hurt me and she said she had a bad day but she wouldn’t talk about it. She then told me that I couldn’t make her talk about stuff that bothered her and that I just had to accept that she wouldn’t open up to me. I asked if we could work at it slowly since it had been a year without her ever opening up to me but she said she wasn’t ready and couldn’t guarantee if she’d ever be ready. I knew at that point that the dynamics in the relationship were uneven and I had to break it off.
Bubs623 3 years ago
Good thing you got out. I was married when I realized my SO didn't want to 'talk' about anything and he sure didn't Want to listen. I learned to self soothe and yes, self medicate. 20 years later, he decides he's ready to talk. I no longer had any need or desire to discuss emotions or feelings with him. It's sad and pathetic.
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Neither of you sounded ok to be honest. I’m glad you did the brave thing and I hope it helps/helped you both.
#78
I went to hang out with some friends who I hadn't seen in a while because I was spending all of my time with my bf. He legit called me while I was out with them and tried to force me to sit on the phone with him. When I told him I was hanging up he threw such a fit that we ended up breaking up the next time that I saw him.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Had a girlfriend like this. Refused to go anywhere with me, but if there were people there she'd be all whiny and offended if I didn't sit on the phone with her the entire time.
#79
We were in our early 20s and looking back now, had a pretty volatile relationship. Wed always go from hot to cold, I thought the fighting meant we were passionate. We worked together and he would stay at my apartment for a few days out of the week. One night I realized he was doing harder drugs than i was comfortable with. He wasnt working but he kept texting me to ask if he could stay with me because his roommate kicked him out. (Turns out he took her drugs, which she had to distribute, or shed be stuck with the repayment). I didnt answer because 1.work and 2. I was trying to wrap my head around the situation. He showed up at closing time higher than id ever seen him and so much angrier than id ever seen him. As my friend and I exited out the back door, he came out from behind the trash can and grabbed me very hard demanding to know why i was ignoring him. My friend tried to intervene and my bf pulled a knife on him. I didnt want anyone to get hurt so I said Please let Neil leave and we can walk home. We walked through a park at 10pm where he started shaking me and grabbing on to me, begging me to not leave him and to let him live with me. I was so scared. He yelled and any time i when I tried to run he tackled me. I started crying and thinking he was going to do something worse. At this time its about 3am and hes still screaming. I just cried and wished for daylight. Finally he fell asleep and I ran home. I called off for a few days and he would come by to apologize but I ultimately told him I couldnt be with him anymore. He quit shortly after and i never saw him again.
Scotira 3 years ago (edited)
Can someone explain how "Neil" didn't immediatley call the police and follow them at a save distance?? Had that happened to my coworker I'd have called the police the second the two of them were a bit further away!
Lulu Lay 3 years ago
It sounds like some info is missing here because if events really happened as described then 1.OP says she and bf worked together, then that he wasn’t working, then he showed up at work at closing high and angry but nobody recognized him or saw? 2. Neil didn’t call the cops or anyone else after they left when he’d been threatened with a knife and watched his friend be abducted? 3. They started walking before 10pm, were still walking after 3am, and not a single person saw her crying hysterically/being tackled or heard bf’s violent yelling? How far is it from work to home? 4.OP never called the police, changed her locks or immediately moved, filed a restraining order, told her boss who was also bf’s (former?) boss, changed jobs, or stayed with a parent/relative? And this obsessive druggie who’d been stalking her, threatening her at knife point just suddenly decided to respect her boundaries and never contact her again when he knew where she lived and worked and who she was friends with?
#80
My girlfriend threatened to cheat on me with one of our close friends... in front of all of our friends... over something stupid. I think she wanted me to say something in an accent, and when I didn't, she told me she would go out with this other friend. I broke up with her right then and I'm not ashamed to say I cried a little, but I guess it was for the better. (Oh and she's trying to get back with me me rn...)
#82
When she self-harmed, showed her family the cuts then said "look what he made me do" at a birthday party where I met her family for the first time. Took a few of them with me before I went down.
That'sEndorable 3 years ago
Threw some devastating punches before getting knocked out?
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#83
My last straw was, shortly after an abortion (I wouldn’t have been able to carry to term), and while watching his mother’s 4 y/o step daughter, he told me he would never love any girls he has as much as any male children he had. He thought little girls were “annoying, snotty drama queens. And I’ll leave them up to you and take the boys.” Also when he refused to kiss me and only wanted rough, 2 min. sex and would make fun of me for trying to initiate or ask him to slow down for me or let me get off. He was my first love, high school sweetheart from 14-19, and I cried for days when I realized we weren’t compatible anymore and he was leaving for the coast guard. He also wouldn’t tell me he’d miss me while he was gone.
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Lots red flag ignoring going on there. I hope it makes others realise they may need to stop ignoring the truth.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
So many of us didn't understand we were being abused. Like, if they didn't HIT you, surely it wasn't ABUSE, and we were just being melodramatic, right?
Load More Replies... Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
I'm glad you got out early. Some of us didn't, and it sucks. Mine said something similar: I once said "I hope we have a little boy who looks just like you," and was expecting how he'd want a little girl like me, but no, he just said "Me too!" When we had the "what would happen if I got pregnant" talk, I mentioned that we'd probably have to split childcare between his home and mine, and he flipped out and said "No WAY!" and- God, I should have left so, SO many times earlier than I did.
#84
So I was in a relationship where I just wanted to be in one. We had no chemistry or anything in common. After a year and a half of dating, I asked him why don’t we cuddle or him tell me I’m pretty or something. He said “I have!” And then goes through his phone and says “here! Last November!!” Oh geeze, thank you. That relationship lasted a few more months cause I didn’t wanna be alone but being in a relationship that reminded of my parents made me leave
PiscesMama 3 years ago
Agreed, both sound toxic. Fix your issues before inflicting them on others. Don’t want to be alone? Wtf!
Load More Replies... Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
Ugh, the memories of asking the ex to be more affectionate physically, or if we couldn't cuddle more, he got pissed and snapped "What about that time I gave you a backrub so good you fell asleep?!" That was five years previously.
#85
When he cheated on me, lied to me about it EXTENSIVELY, even showing me physical proof then a year later when I tried to leave him because he called me a whore for making him ‘scream at me and wake his parents up’ he told me yeah I cheated on you and you didn’t leave me then so why now? (He also called me 2 days after we broke up and begged me to f**k and when I said no he said ‘why we already did it once why can’t we do it again it makes no difference to you just lie there’)
#86
she didn't mention me to a guy she went out with, when he asked who I was, she said, "A guy who's into me" she thought she wasn't wrong because she wasn't technically lying
#87
When she shat in my bed just for laughs.
That'sEndorable 3 years ago
I can't believe you went to such Deppths for such a pun.
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#89
My ex boyfriend and I were mid fight over text about him texting his ex and hiding it from me (Probably should of left him for that), but in this very serious conversation he continuously called me “dawg.”
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
😂 I couldn’t take a guy who called me dawg seriously through that conversation
PiscesMama 3 years ago
So cheat on you and treat you like a doormat, fine. Just don’t call you dawg…that’s some pretty low standards.
Load More Replies... #90
She told me that her ex moved back to town and was asking around about her, and mentioned that he had bought a gun. I just noped out of her life completely. Next time I heard from her was when the same guy sent me a photo of them hooking up from her account
AndThenICommented 3 years ago (edited)
I don’t understand this one - she was in danger and OP noped out of there?
#91
She threw a can of Sour Apple Four Loko at me. After all the abuse, it just pissed me off that I had to smell like that garbage a*s flavor. Bounced out the house while she was chasing me, begging me to come back. Hit my skateboard, went to the homies and got super high.
What do you think ?
Hoodoo 3 years ago
It was m' X-husband's birthday. I'd arranged a trip to the CA coast, dinner @ an a 5- star oceanside resturaunt, expensive hotel, etc. The entire time, he mewled, raged, acted out bcuz he'd turned 50. We were dining in a small bar/ cafe & I was joking about w/ the server when he shouted " Here I am, suicidal, & all she can do is joke w/ the waiter!" The place fell silent, people stopped eating...I looked cross the table & knew it wasn't a matter of IF I was leaving, just WHEN.
penguin 3 years ago
on my 30th birthday, after 2 years of relationship, I drove 200 km to him (long-distance relationship). He knew I would come. Nobody home and I didn't have a key. Tried to reach him on his cell phone (texts and calls) for an hour. Finally on the phone he told me he was having a drink with colleagues, would be home in 2-3 hours and I shouldn't be that difficult. OK Bye!
GenericPanda09 3 years ago
She told me (and everyone else) her two kids had got scholarships for a fancy private school... 3 years later I found out that amongst lots of other lies she was fiddling pretty much every benefit she could (housing/disability etc.) to pay for it and still owed thousands towards it. Even after we split she made a tax credit claim in our joint name as though were still together and living as a couple. They chased me up for about 4 years for it until I finally convinced them I had f**k all to do with her fraud and lies.
Vishy 3 years ago
Had to go out of town for training. Company booked me in a hotel. I could hear a familiar voice from the right next to me. They were having a grand night. Dressed up for the training session and voila my GF stepped out of the room right next to me with her BF. Back home she just left without a word. I came to know he ditched her as well and she's been living in her car.
Peter Kelly 3 years ago
It is truly frightening that so many people can behave in such disturbing and psychotic ways!
Libby 3 years ago
Funny enough my oh hell nah moment was when we were literally forbidden to be within ten feet of each other at school. Both of us seniors. I grew up in an abusive household, something I realized because of her. It started out as a poly relationship and after our boyfriend broke up with us is when she started hitting me and I realized just how bad he had it. He stayed only to protect me but he couldn't do it anymore. A friend of mine who didn't like her saw her punch me, told our principal who called me into the office, asked me questions, and then pulled up the cameras to show me she had in fact, hit me (I managed to claim it wasn't that bad), then pulled up months worth of her s**t, called her down to the office, told her she was absolutely under no circumstances to come within ten feet of me and if she did, she'd be thrown from the school. What's even worse is she broke up with me. I thought I was so in love with her and begged not to have this happen because it would upset her. Yees
Gabriela 3 years ago
I hope you’re in a much better place as an individual. I’m glad people intervene on your behalf. Take care.
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Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
90 posts, 37 made from women. Like 5 undefined gender.
Load More Replies... Hoodoo 3 years ago
It was m' X-husband's birthday. I'd arranged a trip to the CA coast, dinner @ an a 5- star oceanside resturaunt, expensive hotel, etc. The entire time, he mewled, raged, acted out bcuz he'd turned 50. We were dining in a small bar/ cafe & I was joking about w/ the server when he shouted " Here I am, suicidal, & all she can do is joke w/ the waiter!" The place fell silent, people stopped eating...I looked cross the table & knew it wasn't a matter of IF I was leaving, just WHEN.
penguin 3 years ago
on my 30th birthday, after 2 years of relationship, I drove 200 km to him (long-distance relationship). He knew I would come. Nobody home and I didn't have a key. Tried to reach him on his cell phone (texts and calls) for an hour. Finally on the phone he told me he was having a drink with colleagues, would be home in 2-3 hours and I shouldn't be that difficult. OK Bye!
GenericPanda09 3 years ago
She told me (and everyone else) her two kids had got scholarships for a fancy private school... 3 years later I found out that amongst lots of other lies she was fiddling pretty much every benefit she could (housing/disability etc.) to pay for it and still owed thousands towards it. Even after we split she made a tax credit claim in our joint name as though were still together and living as a couple. They chased me up for about 4 years for it until I finally convinced them I had f**k all to do with her fraud and lies.
Vishy 3 years ago
Had to go out of town for training. Company booked me in a hotel. I could hear a familiar voice from the right next to me. They were having a grand night. Dressed up for the training session and voila my GF stepped out of the room right next to me with her BF. Back home she just left without a word. I came to know he ditched her as well and she's been living in her car.
Peter Kelly 3 years ago
It is truly frightening that so many people can behave in such disturbing and psychotic ways!
Libby 3 years ago
Funny enough my oh hell nah moment was when we were literally forbidden to be within ten feet of each other at school. Both of us seniors. I grew up in an abusive household, something I realized because of her. It started out as a poly relationship and after our boyfriend broke up with us is when she started hitting me and I realized just how bad he had it. He stayed only to protect me but he couldn't do it anymore. A friend of mine who didn't like her saw her punch me, told our principal who called me into the office, asked me questions, and then pulled up the cameras to show me she had in fact, hit me (I managed to claim it wasn't that bad), then pulled up months worth of her s**t, called her down to the office, told her she was absolutely under no circumstances to come within ten feet of me and if she did, she'd be thrown from the school. What's even worse is she broke up with me. I thought I was so in love with her and begged not to have this happen because it would upset her. Yees
Gabriela 3 years ago
I hope you’re in a much better place as an individual. I’m glad people intervene on your behalf. Take care.
Load More Replies... Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
90 posts, 37 made from women. Like 5 undefined gender.
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