“Cheating On Your Partner”: 40 Common Things That Should Not Be So Normalized
The fact that something is normal or normalized doesn’t magically make it ethical, moral, or right. Sure, it does feel like the issue has reached a point where folks quite literally don’t see it or just don’t care enough about it and everyone’s cool with that, but it doesn’t detract from the idea that it can be flat out messed up and that something definitely needs to change.
Folks on Reddit recently gathered to discuss such issues, specifically sharing the things that are widely normalized but are actually really messed up in a now viral AskReddit thread.

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Child beauty pageants.
After Jon Benet Ramsey's murder, I thought this would stop. I think it's the parents who are in to this.
Apparently as a child many people suggested to my mom that I could win a beauty pageant. So thankful she didn't sign me up for one. Love my mom❤
how is it illegal to own over fifty kilograms of potatoes, but it isn't illegal to put a push up bra on aa five year old?
Wait... is it illegal to own too many potatoes somewhere?
Load More Replies...Nobody under the legal age of consent for sex should be allowed to enter a "beauty" competition, why don't they have talent/dressing up competitions for kids instead, kids singing and dressing up as their favorite super hero and doing stunts on their bmx's etc
I think Little Leagues must easily outnumber beauty pageants 1000:1
Load More Replies...Ugh, these are so gross. And way to teach little girls that their worth is determined by how pretty they are -_-
These are sick. They sexualize even toddlers to a huge degree. They are totally there for pedophiles.
Having to pay for vision and dental insurance in addition to health insurance. Last time I checked, your eyeballs and teeth were part of your body and should be considered under medical insurance.
Having to pay 500$ a month for insurance to still get hit with a massive bill if I actually have to use it. Plus the leg work of having to send bills back to insurance 3-4 times to get them to pay because their strategy is to deny everything to get the patient to pay more.
Even in Australia health insurance is bloody awful when it comes to extra costs, excesses and exclusions. But damn, the US system sounds far, far worse.
Load More Replies...Right? Like next thing you know they’re gonna declare entire heads and shoulders to be a separate insurance or something. Maybe even knees and toes too.
Load More Replies...I like my insurance. I get a $400 credit from the marketplace due to my income and chose Blue Cross Blue Shield with a $0 premium, $0 deductible, $5 copay, and $1000 out of pocket maximum. There are plenty of preventative services included for sex specific concerns as well as general health. My prescriptions came out to $2 a bottle. I believe you can receive some credit as long as you earn $50,000 a year or less, however the credit would be smaller. Admittedly the plan last year was much more convenient with a $0 copay and $900 out of pocket maximum, but I wasn't sure I could handle the $1.67 per month premium as prices had changed.
There is no such thing as "universal healthcare". There might be "country specific health coverage" but I have lived in 4 different countries and in each one, dental and vision are NOT included in that country's health care program or 'standard' health insurance coverage. Last I checked my muscles and stomach were also part of my body and yet physiotherapy and dieticians are also not included in most country's standard health packages.
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Filming strangers without their knowledge or consent and posting it online for millions to see.
God my mums done this after i told her i was uncomfortable with it.
Load More Replies...Some guy who was a friend of a friend took a photo of me without my consent. I was not happy when I saw it for sale at a art gallery.
Then that friend of a friend needs to compensate you greatly. Consider contacting a lawyer.
Load More Replies...In many European countries it is a difference if you film a crowd, less likely to single people out, or one or just a few individuals.
As a matter of fact, those two words contradict each other. I’m definitely not for harassing people or singling them out to film them in public places, but no one should reasonably think they have any right to privacy in a public place. It’s weird when they do. I was filming my kid on his first bike ride down the sidewalk and some crazy woman coming the opposite direction was freaking out for me filming her. I was tightly focused on my kid & the bike and she was nowhere in frame. Until she started screaming obscenities & threats & telling me I was violating her privacy. Then I filmed her for my own protection in case she made false claims or become physically violent. She called 911. Screaming I was harassing and assaulting her. 3 cop cars and her explanation was I “assaulted her with my camera lens pointing her direction.” The best part: she had an outstanding warrant. Cops didn’t tell me why. Watched as a friend came to retrieve her dog cos they were bringing her in.
Load More Replies...It probably happens far more than you notice. I don't mind but it's hard to always be alert on whose videoing since EVERYONE is on their phones these days lol
Normalization is a social process whereby something—an idea, an action, what have you—is made “normal” and viewed as such by the vast majority of a society. To them, it just feels natural in everyday life at this point and is often taken for granted.
Massive wealth inequality.
As long as there are people starving to death for lack of food, there should be no such thing as a billionaire.
When countries compare their GDP to Jeff Bezos' wealth, there's something wrong.
As long as people continue to elect a party that gives those billionaires tax breaks, this inequality will continue.
So start voting Independent because both Democrats and Republicans are in bed with billionaires and controlled by them as a result.
Load More Replies...The concept of a billionaire is just gross anyhow. It’s an insane amount of money. Honestly you can’t spend it in a lifetime. Anything you can buy for large enough amounts to cut into your billion retains value. The only way to spend that much would to be buying huge amounts of goods and just burning it. No one needs to be a billionaire let alone multi billionaire while we have people anywhere in the world still struggling to eat.
exactly, there is no logical reason for anyone to have billions, or even millions of dollars. no one works that many hours or that hard to earn that much.
I think some millionaires actually did earn that much money, especially in places with a stupidly high cost of living, like California.
Load More Replies...We've seen that communism doesn't work. Both because there will always be corrupt people and because the systems lack of incentive makes it super ineffective. Is capitalism perfect? Of course not. But it's the driving mechanism behind the fact that the overwhelming majority of people these days are better of then an extremely rich person of 100 or 200 years ago. Political stability combined with capitalism produces wealth for the general population. And it also produces extremely wealthy individuals. Many of whom donate sizable parts of their wealth to charity, but that's beside the point. People don't starve because of billionaires, in general less people starve because the system is so efficient that it even produces billionaires. People starve because of war, burocracy, ill intempt, corruption, religion and lack of feminism. And then I mean true old skool feminism, that fights for the rights of women to be educated and to work.
The world would be a better place without anyone having money problems and everyone had food and clean water. I know billionaires work hard for their money but still, it’s a fact that money don’t make you happy. But it must be fantastic not to worry about If you can make it through the month. Also what’s sad is that is often those who barely have any money who share the most. The perfect world would be that no one have to go to bed hungry and had enough to not have to worry. It will never happen but the world would be a better place. Those who have too much money should use them to help people instead of using them on c**p.
I disagree with this one. Many billionaire work tirelessly to help people in need. For example, Bill Gates is already starting a campaign to make a vaccine for malaria. Also, billionaires make their fortune off of people. People buy their products, giving them money. You don't like billionaires? Then stop using facebook, twitter, or amazon. Billionaires don't control their wealth. You guys do.
Don't downvote my posts because of my views, please. I would like to engage in a civil conversation/debate.
Load More Replies...Bill Gates 'has reportedly donated more than $50 billion since 1994 to eradicate diseases, promote education, and advance gender equality' (just sayin')
Source? What percentage of his wealth do you think that is? Have you heard of Melinda Gates’s efforts?
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Parents posting their children’s entire lives on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok and treating them as accessories instead of people. Imagine the horror stories we’ll probably hear from these “kidfluencers” in 10-20 years time.
These aren't parents, they're managers and they're trying to fill some void in their own lives.
Things like the 8 passengers channel have already been found out to basically be a real life horror movie
I 100% agree with this. A picture here or there is okay, but when every post has a kid who has no say in it is all you post..... I could go on a long rant about this, but there would be a lot of expletives about the people who do this. There is going to be a lot of psychological drama when this generation realizes what exactly is on Facebook.
Yeah, I'm not a fan of the "don't post any pics of your kids" people. But as long as you're not actively exploiting your kids and forcing them to take "cute pics", then taking the odd pic is no more harmful than taking family snaps in the "old days". Especially if you're smart and restrict access to friends/family not make them fully public.
Load More Replies...I’m excited to start seeing civil lawsuits filed by adult children against their “sharents” for both punitive damages and compensation from any money earned. While the law hasn’t caught up to criminalize this c**p, that doesn’t mean one can’t file civilly.
Those first kids are hitting 18 now and writing books and its not pretty.
Working 40+ hours a week to make enough money to still be in poverty.
Thank God I only have to work 3 days a week (24h total) and make enough. I'm in Germany though and an MD, so I guess that's privilege
Medicus Doctus? Even in Germany with 24h per week, you are a lucky one. I work in IT. Make enough, but 40h per week. Not gonna complain, but something has to change even here.
Load More Replies...US here. Me and the wife dedicated ourselves to getting ahead about 10 years ago. Hard work, seeking promotions changing jobs, training ect. It worked! We make about 2.5 times what we were at 5-6 years ago….. and we are still barely keeping up. The cost of everything is increasing at an insane rate. The car I set as a goal was about 45k six years ago. Now it’s closer to 75k and I still can’t justify it. We could barely afford the home we’re own if we bought it today. Capitalism doesn’t work. Do the work you still can’t win.
If the U.S. government would stop wasting their tax payers' money by "investing" billions and billions into non-U.S.-issues and actually give it back to the people and cut government spending, maybe millennials and every generation after them could stop being poorer than their parents and grandparents when their salaries are much higher than their parents' and grandparents'.
I don't really know what that has to do with the US specifically, because many other countries also spend billions on foreign relations. This isn't a US-specific thing
Load More Replies...Spoke with a friend today. She has her Master's degree in education. She's been a teacher for over 20yrs. She's worried how she's going to pay her mortgage during her off months for the first time in her career. She has a daughter in her senior yr of college, but her ex pays half of her expenses. (Plus daughter has a campus job.)
Do we know each other or is this just a completely common scenario? I know a woman in same situation exactly. Been going through a divorce past two years, a teacher for 20+ years with a masters, son in high school, daughter in first year of college which the ex helps pay. She’s worried about covering mortgage and paying daughters tuition, even tho daughter works on campus. She’s done everything right, by the books, of what we were taught to do to succeed. She went to community college & transferred to get her BA, started teaching right away and continues her education for her MA. Has been excellent with money & lives well within means. Getting her nails done would be extravagant. Yet, here she is struggling to save her home.
Load More Replies...Also working 50 hours a week and having 35% taken out in taxes and health insurance.
The idea of normalization has been discussed by several notable figures, including French philosopher, historian and activist Michel Foucault. His unique take is within the context of disciplinary power and the 19th century. Essentially, normalization is a process of establishing an ideal standard of behavior and enforcing it through rewards and punishment. This way, you form a broader strategy and discipline that essentially controls society with minimal effort.
Corporate crimes having almost no consequences.
Why? Law is working exactly as intended. You just happened to be born on the wrong side.
Load More Replies...It's okay. Rich people are better than us. 99% of us are third deck on the Titanic.
Would that it were as low as 99%. Nowadays it's more like 99.99% of us are at the bottom of the Mariana trench and the rest are in the penthouse.
Load More Replies...Boeing's penny pinching killed hundreds. The CEO and directors should be held responsible and put on trial.
Wells Fargo literally stealing from customers by opening up fake accounts and charging them fees is another one. How is that not a jailable offense.
Load More Replies...Good to read the IRS is going after hundreds of millionaires who failed to file taxes for years. Republicans were all against increasing the IRS work force and tried to block this.
A robber stealing $100 harms one person a small amount while just trying to eat. A corporate robber stealing millions ruins thousands of people's lives while trying to buy another yacht. But guess which one gets a ten year prison sentence? White collar criminals should get the death penalty.
Citing religion in government policy making.
A separation of church and state is one thing they skip over while talking about the founding fathers
Pushback here...no where does it say separation of church and state. More accurately, it's separation of church FROM state. And that's not even written down. "Congress shall make no laws regarding an ESTABLISHMENT of religion, nor the free exercise thereof." So...those demanding a "Christian nation" are violating the very first amendment written down. Founders were not dopes, they well understood the mania associated with religious dogma, and SPECIFICALLY banned it.
Load More Replies...The people who want to turn this into a "christian" nation . . . does that mean jews, muslims, and other religions are going to be forced to act like a christian even if it goes against their own religion?
No one bats an eye when the Quran is directly quoted, referred to, or its general themes are "fleshed" out in politics which has happened and does happen. It's excused away by either saying they're expressing their constitutionally protected religious opinion or saying that it's a universal theme found in all belief systems. Just come out and say you don't want Christians in government positions. They will always be there because they are government professionals, too. But that's what's at the root of this: Christianphobic people. Everyone thinks themselves an expert on Christianity simply because there are churches in abundance in the U.S., or they've attended before, or they "grew up" in church. We went to school our entire childhoods, but that didn't make us experts; it made us exposed to a small portion of what education is.
We the atheists don't give a f**k about your christiany or their islam or judaism or budism or whatever religious s**t.
Load More Replies...When a political party starts to lose elections due to their poor policy making, they have to enlist religious groups to maintain power and control over people.
Having children when you’re not mentally or financially stable, said what I said.
I agree to certain extent, as there are people chosing not to but the legislation is not on their side. "Pro life" is an oxymoron
Which is a very, very, very recent development, isn't it? For my entire life, the popular consensus on becoming a parent is "you're NEVER ready, you just have to jump in with both feet, and it will work out!" Magically! People having children they absolutely can not afford to have, because they can barely support themselves isn't a recent development, it's been a trend for decades, as has the constant outcrying by those same people about how it's up to everyone else to make it easier for them to live with their poor choice. So many things in modern life require education, listening, certification or a simple age threshold to be passed but becoming a parent is limited only by your ability to find someone else willing to have unprotected sex with you. It's insane.
Load More Replies...You can never be financially ready for children unless you're born into a millionaire family. My wife and I were financially ready and things were going great for a very long time and two months before our second was born, I very suddenly lost my job. I haven't been able to secure work in almost a year now and have burnt through my savings entirely. We were what is considered middle class and things literally changed overnight.
But that also applies to single people, I could not support myself if I lost my job and couldn't find another one. Even millionaires can lost everything, seen a couple of cases in my close circle.
Load More Replies...Sometimes, things change. For instance, divorce/breaking up. A two income household, has a lot more finances than a one income household. An injury can cause you to be unable to work. Or, a person can develop a mental health condition that shows up later in life. Stuff happens. All you can do, is make sure your children have the best life you are able to give them, at that time.
Indeed but OP clearly meant those who know from the start they will rely on others or welfare.
Load More Replies...I had my daughter at 17 and i regret nothing. We are both doing amazing and i was a good mom. my daughter didnt want for anything so speak for yourself
Congrats! Good thing YOU are able to speak for YOURSELF.
Load More Replies...How about better healthcare to lower maternal mortality so people aren’t also terrified to give birth instead or before limiting options ie abortion?
As a result of a poor decision to have a kid when you're not ready, I fullheartedly agree
"But if we educate young people about sex, they will learn how to do it". Dammit, that's what education is trying to avoid. Teach them the problems that can happen due to sex.
Load More Replies...If the government is going to pay for everything, why not pop them out like ping pong balls?
What about those who get kids and become sick for example years after the kid is born? You don’t know what the future look like. My sisters kid lost his dad to suïcide because he got mental problems when the kid was 6yo or so. So she struggle financially and emotionally. But she couldn’t predict the future. So I’m not agree with this one. Things happens that you have no power over.
And you can say that there are several layers of normalization. That which is good or bad can be normalized as is, but it also changes over time and the new norms can also become good or bad as a result.
This ought to be concerning because, considering the past few US presidential elections and the media’s impact over it was a dangerous game to play as it essentially normalized controversial behaviors.
Trying to guilt the consumer into thinking that they are the ones who can really make a difference with recycling, when 98% of all waste is industrial, retail and restaurant and none of them are big on recycling if they do it at all. Figure is from science writer Elizabeth Royte's book Garbage Land.
The grocery discounter I worked at until recently had recycling bins near the checkout so customers could leave any packaging they didn't want after paying. Guess what, it all ended in the same dumpster.
This is sadly the case for a lot of recycling.
Load More Replies...Fast food chains and the like, using "eco friendly" packaging, which is placed in rubbish bins, lined with a plastic bag and disposed of in general waste bins.... *snort laugh.* More than willing to do what I can on an individual level. Pity that big business foooks it up tho.
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Just because someone else is doing nothing, doesn't mean that I should just stand there. Without our 2% it would be 100% to landfill.
The farm (mainly at the market/store part of it) I used to work for didn't recycle at all. I was new, but after a few weeks I complained about everything going in the garbage. I raised my concerns and they scoffed at it. So I took the lead and told all the staff they had to put all their bottles and cans in an apple bushel basket that I set up. I put it in a bag and took it home to put it in my own recycling bin. Funny how a place that should care about the environment didn't care at all. I don't know what goes on with the stuff my city picks up, it might go all to the same place, but at least I'm trying.
The reality is, that companies exist to make money, and they only survive so long as they continue to do so. They make that money because consumers (that's YOU!) continue to give them money. When consumers stop giving them money, they either adapt their practices to remedy the complaints of their customers, or they cease to exist. It doesn't matter what you say, how much you criticize or complain, so long as YOU continue to financially support them. 400 million tons of plastic are produced each year, a figure that continues to increase year over year, and more than HALF of that plastic is single f*****g use. Everyone knows it's bad, use continues anyway. During covid we saw oil prices go NEGATIVE, because no one was driving so no one was buying, this isn't a difficult equation to work out. The stumbling point is the fact that almost no one is willing to deprive themselves of anything, and so they desperately try to shift the blame. YOU are responsible, talk is cheap.
And some places only take certain recyclables. The company near my mom's place doesn't take glass.
Reasons it's all insanity: (1) When your trash is collected for recycling, only a small portion of it is actually recycled. (2) Nearly all America-made, consumer-disposed trash is landfilled or incinerated, which is relatively harmless; 99% of the "trash gyre" comes from developing-world nations, (3) The consumer-produced trash largely simply provides a buffer in landfills for more harmful substances. Really, it's all nothing more than state-directed ritual.
I brought this up when the grocery chain I worked for switched to reusable bags, two years before the rest of the state. Sure, customers have reusable bags, but all the packages going into them are plastic. Things that don't look like plastic, like cardboard boxes, have plastic bags inside them. Even things that used to come in biodegradable packages, like fruits, eggs, and potatoes, are now in plastic.
Zero tolerance in schools. Protects the bully and harms the innocent
Well, this is what the counselors told the school and it is one of the most stupid s**t I have ever heard, "If you insult/fight back or do something back you are now also being a bully..." I was dumbfounded. (I typed it best off of my memory)
That sounds like someone who was never bullied. I was. It always stopped when I fought back (and I never got in trouble for it either; of course that was 40+ years ago).
Load More Replies...I have always taught my children to never put their hands on anyone first. But if somebody hits them to punch them on the face. I may sound wrong to people but I was bullied for two years from 11 to 13. At 13 I lost my temper and smacked somebody back..I was screaming and going mental..it was the last time I was bullied at that school
I got suspended from school for defending myself when I was attacked by 2 boys at school. This was in the 80's.
I bet the 2 boys made it out without consequences...?
Load More Replies...If a child attacks another child and their weapon of choice is words, why are people so shocked if the victim's weapon of choice happens to be their fists or feet? In our current school system in the U.S., the victim chose to hit or kick their attacker, the victim would be more severely punished. Why should we be surprised when the same happens in the real world? It's not justice; it's protecting the cowardly who hide behind their verbal harassment from the consequences of being punched in the very same mouth that started it all.
As a kid I was bullied mentally and had anxiety and trust issues for years. I always felt I was punished as a kid because I had to go to a psychiatrist; be away from school and deal with every trauma I got. While the bully’s got ZERO consequences! Zero! And it continued for 4y! I had to talk to many people, I felt punished and that I was the one doing something wrong. I was send to many psychiatrists when I could been in school and get better grades! Why is that the victim has to deal with consequences and the bullies continue their life’s making others life a living hell and that’s okey? It took me several years with help to be myself again! I’m a mother now and it’s still the same at schools. I’m glad my children don’t get bullied bevauae I don’t want them to go though the same I had to! This needs to change and the bullies have to get consequences! Edit typo
Am I experiencing deja vu? I'm pretty sure this exact picture was used in another thread today, the one about teens/high schoolers and what they think is cool or not.
I recall a girl in high school, took a wild swing at me for staring at her boyfriend (I was not, I was just spacing out but fair nough' ) I brought my arm up to avoid getting hit in the face and she f****d her wrist on my arm.. somehow I was the one in s**t.
I daresay many of the schools are zero tolerance because (a) it's hard to identify exactly who the bully is with 100% certainty and (b) to cover their arses if/when they get it wrong. If the rule is they suspend both students there are no mistakes identifying the perpetrator. It's a bad idea, but it makes sense from their point of view.
The amount of plastic we use. It's absolutely insane.
I hate this so so much. We've been trying for years to consume less plastic but even the effin' broccoli is wrapped in Saran wrap
when the world starts holding the Philippines, SE Asia countries, et al. to task for the plastics they dump into the oceans, then come see me, otherwise...
Yes. Especially monsoon countries with large populations. Indonesia including Bali are shocking as is China and The Philippines. India! The monsoon floods and washes all the c**p into the oceans. I’ve seen it firsthand and how it becomes a global tragedy.
Load More Replies...The cost of recycling/disposing of used plastic should be and taxed as part of the manufacturing process and included in the cost of the product. It's so cheap that no one worries much about the trash. Let's find a better way. That won't happen unless we make plastics less attractive.
Want to hear something weird but true? When I was a kid, plastic grocery bags came out. They were supposed to be good for the environment because they cut down on deforestation from using paper bags. What a cluster that turned out to be.
Not as insane as the amount of paper we use. Last time Iooked, the USA used more than a million tons of paper a year.
Paper is bio-degradable, plastic isn't. But you're right, there's this, too: the global consumption of paper and paperboard has increased almost 75 percent, relative to 1990 levels.
Load More Replies...The idea behind this sociopolitical normalization was the psychological idea of repetition—a certain kind of desensitization. Repeated exposure to particular behaviors, very closely covered by the media, has great power in pushing towards forming a view that this is normal over time.
delivery drivers and waitresses having their wages determined by customers and not their employers. aka, living off of tips while employers don't pay enough.
In Australia they've done away with tipping and raised wages. That's what we should do.
I'm in UK and I really really just cannot get my head around "forced" tipping, in the UK we will tip if the staff give a reason to tip, extra helpful, really unexpectedly good service etc. If the menu says 8 dollars/pounds/magic beans for a burger and 2 for a cup of tea and I have a burger and tea the bill to be paid is 10.
This is mostly a USA problem? It’s not like this in Scandinavia. Makes me mad to read about servers in the US. And surprises me that it is allowed😔
Thank President Jimmy Carter for imposing (at the time) an 8% tax on sales involving a waitress/waiter to make sure the government gets its share of the tips.
That wasn’t Carter. It wasn’t mandated until the 1990s and the first legal precedent wasn’t established until 2002, in the U.S. v. Fior D’Italia Case.
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Getting puppies for Christmas just to rehome a couple months later(dump at shelters).
Same thing happened during the 1st lockdown. People got puppies, kittens etc, then gave them away when they realised they couldn't look after them, when the country opened up again and they had to go back to work
Ah, but it kept the kids quiet during lockdown, so served the 'owner's' purpose... 😶
Load More Replies...My SIL, is one of those people. She's constantly getting baby pets. As soon as they aren't "cute" enough anymore, she gets rid of them while my brother is at work. A few, she's brought to my house. Well, sat in the car and had my little nephew bring to me, crying about losing his friend. I can't say no to him, so I take them, train them, and find a home for them. I warned my brother. He's going to be a single Dad, before his kids are done with elementary school, when they stop being cute enough for her.
Animals are not toys! They are living beings who feel and suffer, is plain cruel discarding them as trash. They are a life-long commitment. I adopted an abused dog +3 years ago and even with medication and working with an ethologist the little dude still has some awful reactions full of fear and panic. We've been bitten, stitches even, but we never thought about "returning him". It breaks my heart thinking the things he went through to have those reactions, the emotional pain is greater than the physical one.
I'm in the same boat with mine. Thanks for not giving up on him ❤
Load More Replies...Puppy mills and breeders should be extremely regulated. Dog competitions are borderline animal abuse
I got two pupppies for Christmas once - and they stayed with me for 16 years
And ducks over Easter in America - it’s a huge problem, worse than adopting a dog because imprinting in ducklings is a full on thing, google it if you don’t know what how strong imprinting is etc
Restaurants and grocery stores throwing away mass quantities of good, edible food and not being allowed to donate it.
I found an app that I've been using for a few weeks (I'm not advertising - just saying) where I can buy food that is very close to being "expired" but still good. "Oh no! This muffin might go bad in 3 days!" Well, it's still good. They discount it, and I save money. They have surprise bags where you never know what you're going to get, but it's usually great stuff. Today I bought two bags and gave one to a struggling family who were asking for money outside the store. No food should go to waste when there are so many people struggling to get by.
Was thinking the same, that was right to throw out. Maybe it's a restaurant that Gordon Ramsey went to visit?
Load More Replies...It's because someone could sue them if they were given food that made them sick. It's lawsuits from those who were just helped, not creed or meanness of the business.
Good Samaritan Laws exist in all 50 states in the U.S. and protect donors. On the other hand don't be a d**k and clean out your cupboards of grossly expired food and "donate" it others.
Load More Replies...I was struggling to pay for groceries while working a few part time jobs. One of those jobs was as a host/bartender for a pro league sports team in private box suites. We had to throw out tons of untouched food from buffet tables after the games. To set aside a take home box before scraping it all into the bin was an offence worth losing your job over. It was such a waste
Why are they 'not allowed to donate it'? I've heard of several restaurants who donate food.
At least in the United States, it isn't a legal issue, it's a liability issue. Stores and restaurants (well, their insurers) worry about being sued if the donated food make someone sick.
Load More Replies...France was quite among the first where supermarkets weren't allowed to throw food away no more back in 2015. Here in Switzerland there are several big supermarket chains which do donate not all, but lots of food (without most folks even knowing). Me and my students ran a little shop for people in need for a year. And we got delivered 2 tons (!) of food weekly - free of charge. Great, enjoyable high quality food. If it's a bit over the selling date, it's good to donate. If it's over the expiring date though, you can't give it away no more. So, there are ways to donate, but it does cost (delivery vehicles, a place to store/giving it away from and of course staff who does so). Even though you get volunteers, there are still costs. And that's mostly the main problem which stops many countries to jump on that bandwagon I assume. But I hope there will be the day...
And it’s not just politics. There are studies that have determined men exhibiting stalker-like behaviors can lead to female viewers to become more tolerant of obsessive behaviors.
While many are protective of the concept of normal, always wanting to retreat to that comfort zone after a life-changing event, it’s these situations of shifting acceptance that prove just how that which is normal changes over time.
Phone use while behind the wheel.
Every trip out is a death roulette game.
I see someone nearly drift into my lane all the time.
This!!! I drive a lot for work and it’s infuriating and stressful to have to be super alert constantly because half the people on the road are to distracted to actually drive. I’m constantly stuck behind someone who’s speed varies between 35-50 multiple times between lights because they gotta get that text in. Can’t pass them because they’re playing ping pong with the lane lines. Anyone who thinks you’re good at diving and texting, you’re not. Your driving like a jerk and putting lives in danger for a throw away conversation.
It's illegal in the UK yet I still see an infuriating number of people on their phones while driving.
It's illegal in many places in the US also, and should be everywhere. It's just as dangerous as being intoxicated, but many people think nothing of it.
Load More Replies...And those phone addicts are the ones whining about cyclists. Unless you're dishonest or mentally deficient, a 100kg bike and rider going 20kmh DOES NOT pose the same danger as a 2000kg car going 50-80kmh.
They're not mutually exclusive though. Bad cyclists are still a threat. Note that I said *bad* cyclists. I mean the ones who run reds, jump the curb and weave among pedestrians etc. And bear in mind that many cyclists aren't doing 20kph they're doing up to 40kph. Hell, even 20kph is a heavy collision. Imagine being blind tackled by someone running at you.
Load More Replies...Law enforcement are constantly breaking traffic laws.
Load More Replies...I've been behind people on their phones. One person drove like they were drunk. Others drive like they are stoned. Way too slow in the left lanes. Then they don't pay attention to the traffic lights and get upset when you honk. One time I saw someone reading their tablet in stop and go traffic. People are unhinged.
Had this happen to me today, actually. A guy behind me kept drifting and lagging at lights because he was on his phone 🙄
For profit healthcare.
Privately run prisions seem to have more 'problems' with just about everything. Yet, they retain their contracts!
Load More Replies...All U.S. healthcare used to be "non-profit." In the 1980s, these "non-profit" corporations were gathering so much wealth that Ronald Reagan supported rescinding their non-profit status so they could be taxed. The intent was to reduce costs (more the Republican purpose), or at least raise enough tax money to more than offset those costs (more the Democratic purpose). It didn't work. The healthcare companies found they could continue to avoid taxes by reinvesting their profits, which only helped them gobble each other up.
"Non-profit" refers to the investors in a corporation not receiving profits, such as through dividends or escalating stock prices. It does not mean that a non-profit corporation cannot have revenue greatly exceed costs, even in the long term.
Load More Replies...Why is this still a thing???? The NHS really struggles but it provides. It’s not broken, it’s mismanaged. The world has enough of everything to go round.
Our local hospital used to be a great place to work, be a patient, etc That all changed when they made a deal with the devil, aka HCA. The nurses left by the dozens. You can't get a pathologist to sign off on anything because they all walked out recently. There's not enough staff on the floor to the point if there's a code in a room & another occurs, it can be a delayed response, or missed to the point patient's have died. Hospital has been fined, fed govt is investigating. Total and utter terror for patients.
Child marriage.
Look at how many US states allow child marriages with "parents permission".
If a f*****g child can't consent to sex its probably wrong that their parents can consent to their marriage.
In Germany 14 year old children can consent to sex with a grown up. I find this sickening
Not quite - the age is limited to 18 (second part of the law) if one partner is below 18, everything above is illegal and will be punished no matter if it was consentual
Load More Replies...I would really like to hope a petition would make some kind of difference in this issue. Signed it anyways ❤️
Load More Replies...Actually I have to stand up for the US on this one. There are countries that are much worse. It's not normal in the US. Most people find it horrible.
The answer is three: California, Washington and New Mexico. But what's just as bad is that many states have age-of-consent laws less than their age-of-marriage laws, allowing people to have sex with underaged children, so long as they take no legal responsibility for it. Connecticut, Minnesota, New Jersey, Minnesota, New Hampshire, Arkansas, Pennsylvania, Maryland and Vermont.
Don't worry, the 2000 year old collection of Bronze Age campfire stories says it's fine /s
The "pious" hero in the story of Soddom and Gomorrah literally offered up his daughters to be raped so two travelers wouldn't be raped. This is promoted in the Bible as being good and virtuous.
Load More Replies...Here's the thing though, it should be blamed on the parents lack of judgment not the State's. If it's a pair of 17 year olds who genuinely love each other is that so bad? I could imagine parents agreeing to that one. If it's a 16 year old and a 40 year old then why aren't the parents saying "Hell no"?
One of my sisters got married at 16 with parental consent. Divorced single mother by 19
In fact, having a fixed idea of what is normal seems to be a problem. Cultural theorists, sociologists and other experts agree that more folks should recognize that normal is a “value judgment and not a neutral or descriptive term.” It is so because having set ideas of what normal is in beauty and aesthetics is damaging to the self esteem of women and girls alike.
Most gynecological procedures, as they often don’t allow anesthetics and can be downright barbaric. Women get screwed when it comes to healthcare.
They always have been. Look up how and why the chainsaw was invented. Hint: for childbirth.
I think that is not such a bad idea. If someone puts on doctor gear, hockey mask and starts revving a chainsaw, it will make anyone push out a baby. (I hope everyone will understand that this was a joke)
Load More Replies...It’s horrible how we are in year 2024 and haven’t gotten further when it comes to woman’s health! Men is taken seriously even for small things. I had to go through a living hell for doctors to believe me when I said my menstrual pain is not normal. 6 years. They finally checked me and I have heavy endometriosis and had 6 surgeries and more to come. I was told I have to suck it up because all woman have menstrual pain. They shut up when they saw how bad my endometriosis was(is). One of the worst they seen I was told. I do hope the next generation don’t have to go trough the same not being heard and believed.
Not to mention pelvic exams without the knowledge or consent of the woman if she's unconscious for any reason. Practiced by the vast majority of hospitals, it is the actual definition of r***.
If people read Dr Lamaze's book on child birth they would cancel him from all classes.
As a woman I agree with this 💯 but what's the deal with the bowl at the end of the gurney?
This is set up for cystoscopy - visualization of the inside of the bladder with running fluid. The bowl catches the fluid overflow. This isn't for gynecologic procedures.
Load More Replies...This is so underreported. Womens pain is often seen as fabricated or exaggerated by male GPs or worse female GPs.
Many medical procedures or products are developed for men and are less effective on women. There's a scientific technical problem but it's time for a change.
Having toddlers scroll TikTok so they shut up. Hell every human under 12 shouldn't be anywhere near.
Toddlers with a phone full stop. Also the mum scrolling through her phone while with little kids. Interact with them!
I’ve had an anti-TikTok diatribe well before the previous US presidential administration was looking into banning. You, know, back when it was wholly a tool of Chinese intelligence agencies, being complete created, funded & controlled by them. Now that it’s an independent entity free of China’s version of the CIA/CSS/SIS/GCHQ, we can rest assured that a social media company from a communist country where the government has control over all companies, TikTok is completely innocuous & in no way is invested in the activity, behavior, identity & personal or confidential information regarding its users. As in, Google & Meta are the real enemies & TikTok is a harmless little platform.
honestly no one should be using TikTok, at least not outside of China. listen to stuff they show to Chinese kids is inspiring. kids doing scientific and athletic accomplishments, getting accolades, incredible information, uplifting stuff. what do they show our kids? pranks, violence, and stupid dances. they promote The idea that social media is important. it is literally the Chinese governments way of dumbing down western children and helping to unravel our society. it should be completely and totally banned.
yes but they were wrong about that and that was a very small section of the society that said that. whereas if you take a look at the algorithm of what they show Chinese youth versus what they show Western youth you see a major discrepancy. inspiring and uplifting stuff is shown to Chinese youth. kids accomplishing great things. they show our youth pranks violence disruptive content and stupid dances all while making social media seem important. if you actually look at things tick tock is bad
Load More Replies...as someone who is over 12, i avoid tiktok with every living cell in my body.
I think it's probably okay for toddlers: the content is at a toddler's level, after all. The problem arises later, if they begin to believe it is real.
Forcing mothers to go back to work when their babies are like, fresh from the womb. It’s barbaric and cruel.
...And the US is one of those countries providing zero governmental paid parental leave.
not zero, the US gives twelve weeks. Its just not enough
Load More Replies...Luckily only nine countries worldwide, such as Micronesia, the Marshall Islands and Papua New Guinea, do not offer paid parental leave. In 36 countries, there is at least one year of paid parental leave - or more. 18 other countries have statutory regulations according to which at least mothers receive between 26 and 51 weeks of parental leave (and parental allowance).
This! And forcing fathers to go back to work. Not only are they missing priceless bonding time with the new baby and their wife, there's no one to help take care of either the baby or the mother. Paternity leave should be just as long as maternity leave and maternity leave should be WAY longer.
Little off topic.but I have to say this! I wanna add if we talk about animals too and also some women. Who are “living baby making machines”. Humans often because men want many children and animals because human want to make profit. Either it’s human or animals it should not be allowed to treat someone like a birth mashine. I wonder how it would be if men gave birth especially those who force woman to be pregnant over and over. Should be illegal. Also for animals because most end up in killer shelters because it’s to many dogs for example. They die because of money! Imagine being an animal, a life where you are pregnant every year and the babies gets taken away and that’s their life till they die.
This is interesting and bordering on hypocrisy. Apparently it's barbaric to force mothers to go back to work after having a baby? For whom - the mother or child? Because other people complain that it's barbaric forcing a mother to stay at home and care for her child rather than allowing her to return to work. It's an interesting dichotomy that people can somehow hold in their heads.
These women just pushed little humans out of their bodies. You don't just bounce back from that in a few days
I had a C-section with my first baby. He cried all day/night. I was majorly sleep-deprived. I went back to work after 8wks because that was all my boss was willing to let me have w/o replacing me. (Over 30 yrs ago).
Load More Replies...So, no, not everything needs to be normalized. Not only for the reasons above, but also there is a certain kind of overuse and subsequent misapplication of the concept of normalizing things in modern day society.
While the idea of normalizing things to foster a culture of acceptance is definitely the way to go, a lot of folks started using the word as if it’s a trend and have attempted to either normalize things that are already normal or have attempted to normalize them into a level of glamorizing it. It’s overdoing it, in other words.
Poor care of “beginner” pets like goldfish, hamsters, leopard geckos etc.
I had a gerbil as a teenager. Sometimes I would leave the lid off his tank and block the door up so he couldn't escape the room. Weeks later I discovered he had found a back way into my bottom drawer were I kept crappy clothes that I never wore. He had shredded some and made a little nest there. Little dude straight up made himself a holiday home. 😆
Definitely goldfish! We need more education on how to keep goldfish happy!
There was a period of time when I was in college that I would steal ill betta fish from pet stores and learn how to treat their diseases. It was incredibly interesting and satisfying to see them recover and thrive. Too many people treat them like decor, instead of the intelligent creatures they are.
Load More Replies...Goldfish are actually kind of a hassle because they’re dirty, you need a large amount of water per fish and to clean it out a lot. Keeping them in a bowl with no filtration is disgusting and inhumane.
leopard gecko very beginner pet, easy to care for, naturally potty trained (sadly I sometimes neglect my gecko due to stress and anxiety, bbut I'm trying my best), but also very cute an not need the most attention as pets like dogs and birds do.
Load More Replies...I have a leopard gecko and I took him to the vet once because he scraped his nose really bad. The vet was SHOCKED that I had so much knowledge about his care, because I did a ton of research before I got him. I was just having trouble keeping his humidity high enough so he rubbed his nose too hard getting sheds off.
First pet Goldfish, fell into an empty sink my elder sister got it out by sticking a fork into it. Second pet Hamster, same elder sister was playing catch with it in the yard with friends and dropped poor Fritz on the ground and amazingly he recovered a few days later
Is your elder sister... how can i put this delicately.. okay?
Load More Replies...Rex & Bristol.......the first pets my wife and I had. Lovely fish.... lived a long life.
CEO pay.
I could live with it, if they were responsible for their decisions, but not even that is given.
Exactly! They receive high pay because they're supposed to better or smarter at running a company yet when the company fails they're safe from any negative financial aspect and, at worst, get a slap on the wrist by virtue of be fired...only to go do the same thing again at another company.
Load More Replies...Time for a maximum hourly/salary wage that is also tied to any asset payouts so you can't circumvent it with stocks or property bonuses
Can we add that an inflation adjustment should be completely separate from a raise determination, and mandatory?
Load More Replies...I wouldn't be so bad, if they were held accountable for their decisions. But most of the time, they're given money to simply 'go away' when they screw up.
I feel like companies are ok up to a certain point (size wise). And CEO pay should reflect that too. If you're talking about a smallish company where the boss (CEO) foots the bill to establish it, buy the land it sits on, pays all the associated costs to run it and bears all the risk if it fails, then shouldn't they earn more proportionately than the employee who bears no financial risk? That said, the CEOs of mega companies (Banks, Hospitals, Amazon, Food Conglomerates and the like) aren't that boss. They bear very little risk compared to a boss who owns a small factory making widgets.
And if they do a bad decision they can always cash out and start over. The people at the bottom who were screwed by this bad decision end up with no jobs.
Treating children like dirt and expecting respect in return.
👏🏼👏🏼 Honestly. Don't wonder why your child doesn't call if their only memories of you are dreadful.
I taught high school. Once I realized that my students were people looking for respect and a chance to earn more, my "classroom management" issues eventually dropped off the radar screen.
Not everything has to be normalized and not everything has to be accepted, despite there being a strong culture of acceptance. As it leads to a culture that doesn’t give things critical thought. Normalizing everything essentially starts to desensitize the core issues that might tie in with a particular topic.
The fact that so many people live on the streets when empty housing exists. I don’t care what just world fallacy people want to peddle, that s**t is ghoulish and inhumane.
If there are empty homes, there shouldn’t be homeless people.
We should all be like Finland in this matter. Housing before job
That Wall Street investment companies are buying up all the available housing and selling it at inflated prices.
This is because no one wants to pay for homeless people. In Germany we have also homeless people although every person has the right to live in a flat. The state or/and tax payers pay for them. Not all know and some decided for themselves to live on the street.
In about 1830, political analyst Alexis DeToqueville predicted that the late 20th century world would be dominated by Russia and America. The great cause of America' ascendance would be the freedom to divide real estate property, allowing for a prosperous and economically motile middle-class to emerge some day. But by the mid-20th century, the elite created zoning laws. (The first zoning laws, in New York and Los Angeles, were intended to keep Black people from owning property.) And since then, the middle class has withered in the many states that have passed them widespread. Contact your legislators and push for zoning reform. ESPECIALLY DEMOCRATS. Most of the worst zoning restrictions are in Democrat-controlled areas, but in some areas, Democrats have taken the lead in reforming zoning laws, such as in California and Minnesota.
In New Zealand, we have thousands of state and private rental houses that are empty because they don't meet the healthy homes criteria. Yet we also have thousands of people living in temporary accomodation, and some in cars, because we don't have enough houses.
Cash-for-keys. We’ve all seen the ads. In my community, within the district of my county, there are roughly 7,500 homes. The median price is $350k , which is low for Hawaii & even lower for Hawaii County. The current inventory for sale is -13%. The rental market is much worse at -22%. If could pay cash for keys (usually significantly lower than market value) for just 75 properties and keep that inventory off-market, I can create a scarcity that would drive the median range upwards of 50% within just two years. I bought in 1998 for $75k. Of course, I built on it, but it’s now valued at 10 times. I inherited my grandparents San Francisco home in late 90s valued at $650k, which they bought from my great great uncle in 1957 for ~$70k. By 2003, it was valued over $1m, which doesn’t benefit my taxes at all. All of this is because of inventory. And inventory is artificial, given how many mega-investors sit on empty homes in order to drive up the market value.
The US faces a housing crisis because foreign investors come and snatch up all the houses and property for Airbnbs or to leave them vacant for investment purposes. This should be illegal!
In the U.S., it's all thanks to two main reasons: 1) the government spending trillions on countries that are not the U.S. so its citizens are neglected, and 2) the government allowing housing to be bought up in droves by businesses and the government getting massive kick backs as a result.
I blame lawyers, swatters can sue if injured on an owned vacant property. If there were no risk from liability, I'd imagine many more properties could be converted to homeless shelters. If its free, no penalty.
Load More Replies...In North America - tipping culture . It’s gotten out of hand.
I tip. I don't agree with it. But I know that the people working those serving jobs are working way too hard for less than minimum wage - it's bull**** and I hate it. But it's not the server's fault. Everyone is trying to get by in this messed up world.
It is, to a certain extent the server's fault. There are other jobs that pay min wage, but, a lot of servers are making bank from undeclared income of tips. If servers united and said no, we want to be paid better, the owners would have to reconcile that. Walmart workers are paid sh!t, and no one tips them. But dunkin and Starbucks, who both pay their workers above min wage, put out tip cups and the people just dump money into that cup.
Load More Replies...I just ordered some heirloom seeds online yesterday, to plant in my garden this season. As I was checking out, there was an option to leave a tip. The audacity of asking for a tip for an online transaction... GTFO.
yup, and if you didnt tip your going to get sh***ty seeds, definitely not heirloom.
Load More Replies...This is such a complicated discussion. I worked in fine dining during grad school. I now consult for my families beach resort, which has three fine dining restaurants. And while this may be specific to higher end eateries tipping can be more beneficial than any potential salary. There were plenty of Friday & Saturday nights where I walked with $200 to $300 easily. If the average 2-top has a $400 bill, 20% is a quick $80 & with tip outs that’s still a good $50/60. For one cover. How about pulling 4-6 covers of 4-tops, with $800 checks each? In higher end tipping situations, it’s beneficial to work for tips. Even in midrange reheat places like Olive Garden or Red Lobster. Turning twice as many tables at a fraction of the tips can still be a good $200 for 6 hours of work. In mid-to-fine dining, it’s hard for a restaurant owner to pay wages equivalent to 20% of the bill. Or even 15%. It’s not that the labor isn’t worth the compensation. It’s the slim margins of profit of restaurants.
Tipping is only done in Australia if the service is really amazing .But then ,the minimum wage here is $23.23 per hour( $882.80 per 38 hour week).So though that's not a massive amount ,people aren't relying on tips to literally survive.
Agreed. Lots of c**p Companies expect customers to pay for their tips and not the company. It's asinine.
Dumping unwanted Cats off in "the country" because some farmer will take them in. No, no they won't. Farmers already have enough Cats and the existing population will typically drive off outsiders, so now you have a housecat with no survival skills in the middle of nowhere being easy prey for Coyotes, Foxes, Owls, or farm Dogs. And that's if they don't get hit by a car like happens to a great many abandoned pets.
There are two "outside" cats in my neighborhood that are fed and "owned" by my neighbors. Those cats kill many wild birds. I find many baby birds dead around our bird feeders due to these cats. If you like cats, keep them inside!
Yup. To the point that some places are labelling them as an invasive species. Entire species of birds are being endangered/wiped out.
Load More Replies...If you for any reason can't keep a pet then for God's sake make sure it will be taken care of! It can't be so hard going to the nearest shelter. And don't get animals you're not prepared to take care of in the first place, obviously
Then there are the selfish people that let their cats outside instead of keeping them inside where they won't kill baby animals just for sport.
Feral cats in the UK have driven the native Scottish wildcat to genetic extinction by interbreeding with them to such an extent that no pure-breed wildcats exist any more.
Feral cats are considered a serious invasive pest in Australia and farmers are allowed to shoot or trap them.Councils also run eradication programs.If we catch one one our farm,we use a human trap,catch it and call the ranger to collect.They decimate native animal and bird populations.I would much rather have all our amazing birds ,reptiles and marsupials than introduced species the (originally) domestic cats.Farmers are allowed to shoot stray dogs on their properties too.Or call the ranger or police to do it.
Whatever the case, normalizing stuff has to be done right. It has to be purposeful, well paced, critical and truly sending a message of what the society or the culture stands for. And even if something looks good on paper, in the long run, it can turn into something that was not intended. Sometimes, that seems like a natural course of things, but it doesn’t mean there should be a tolerance just because.
Driving drunk/high among teens. People my age (18) often mention it in passing like it’s no big deal, then I’m treated like a wet blanket for making a thing out of it. No, Kevin, you don’t “drive better high” you’re just selfish.
I think OP is mentioning how teens don't see it as bad as it is and will even brag about it. I do remember in my highschool (2010's) kids sometimes would talk about driving high was more fun or about how "good" they were at drivng while wasted. Don't think OP thinks drunk driving is fine once you're in your 20s
Load More Replies...In my state in Australia, the rate of road accidents due to drink driving dropped significantly in the 18-25 age bracket, since we made it illegal for anyone on their Ps (probationary license, first 3-4 years of driving) to have any alcohol in their system when driving. Makes people more aware of whether they need designated drivers etc. Now the worst age bracket with the most problems is (iirc) 40-50 year olds.
Doctors dismissing severe period symptoms because it’s ‘normal’ —> if you are vomiting, cannot move from pain and passing out from blood loss they don’t rly care and usually just give you a slightly better pain medicine like naproxen which does f**k all and tell you to get over yourself. If you had these symptoms and did not have periods you’d be admitted into hospital on the spot.
Or, if MEN had those sorts of periods (or just periods, full stop!) you can bet your bottom dollar that the very, very best doctors and scientists would be employed day and night, 7 days a week, 365 and a quarter days of the year, to find a solution to these problems, and hell, even find a way to eliminate even the *need* to have periods in the first place, without impacting their ability to procreate! AND, all necessary personal hygiene products associated with menstrual cycles would be FREE! (as would all birth control products!) [*blows raspberry at all those who thinks painful periods are "normal"!]
I struggled with this for more than half of my life. I even had a (female) GYN tell me that "some women just have bad periods". Turns out I'm riddled with endometriosis and fibroids, which cause excessive bleeding (to the point I'm anemic) and extreme pain. Sorry, but that's not something I can suck up and get over. The amount of times literally NO ONE would help me, despite seeing me in serious distress, is ridiculous. Funny enough, it was a male doctor who finally believed me and did something about it. Although by that point my tubes were destroyed and had to be removed. Good thing I wasn't planning on having kids!
Yeah I had vomiting, drop to the ground cramps, no one cared. I just took a ton of ibuprofen. Birth control never helped, and that's basic the only suggestion the doctors ever had. So glad I was finally able to lose the uterus, but now watching my daughter deal with similar issues. At least I understand and can offer help, my parent just rolled their eyes and sent me to school.
It's part of the current narrative that the media has been pushing for years now.
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Expecting people to be contactable 24/7 and acting like someone is rude if they don’t respond relatively promptly. Back when the main form of contact was calls, it was deemed relatively normal for people to not answer as they were busy or not home, therefore it was so much easier to switch off and enjoy other things. Now it’s expected that people are pretty much connected to everyone all the time and if you try to disconnect from that a bit it can almost get you socially ostracised. You can relate it to workplaces as well and the rise of employers basically expecting workers to be contactable 24/7.
Everyone has a choice, silence your calls overnight and do not answer your phone if you do not wish to. WHEN it's a work call DO NOT ANSWER IT in your own time. You are are not paid 24/7....
I turn my work phone off when I finish for the day. My personal phone does into Do Not Disturb at night. Everyone's calls except my parent's gets silenced. They would only ring in an emergency
Load More Replies...I can remember when there were no phones. You were well off if you had one at home everyone else had to use a Public Phone Box (Call Box). And I am not that old. I am horrified at how fast it has become normal to be contactable for any little thing.
I do not own a smartohone. My cellphone is a flip phone and it stays in my car. I rarely even remember to turn it on. I use it only when needed. This infuriates my wife when she wants me to pick up something from the store when I am out.
This!! When I get home, work is the last thing on my mind and I plan to keep it that way.
I get tired of hearing, "What's the point of having a phone if you're not going to answer it?" I'm sorry I don't have it attached to hip at all times.
Hmm, I think it depends on exactly when the person is not responding and how you're trying to communicate. Given that 90% of people actually do have a phone on them (or at least near them) 24/7 it's not unreasonable to expect people to reply *at some point*. If I text someone at midday, they may be at work but I'd hope and expect to see an answer at lunchtime, or at worst at the end of the day. Similarly, with the way we've moved to text for chatting, phone for emergencies. I'd expect if I actually rang someone that they'd answer or at least try to contact me back when they can - because a phone call is indication that it's urgent.
In the shipping industry you're stand-by 24/7, of course against a higher than normal salary. Ship's time is too expensive to wait for the next working day.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Have any norms in mind that were normalized even though they shouldn’t have? Share your ideas, takes and stories in the comment section below!
And if this isn’t enough, jumping into a rabbit hole on Bored Panda might just be a pleasant way to spend the evening.
Having to send your kids to a daycare to be raised by strangers for such a crucial chapter of their development because living is unaffordable on one salary.
If those strangers are caring and love working with children, it does not matter. In fact a study of adults who grew up in orphanages mostly found them to be well adjusted adults who reported receiving good care in the orphanage. Humans do not remember most of their early years unless some trauma occurs. Bad parents are more often the cause of bad traumas than day care center workers.
But there are so many firsts the first two years. So many moments that you will never get back.
Load More Replies...This. Most Americans don't realize how much worse things are for them than used to be the case. I mean yeah, I'm old, but I can remember a time when a high school grad could get a blue collar job and support a family. They'd own a house, two cars, and the kids would go to college. And now? A family like that requires two incomes. So where did all that money go? CEOs are living large on it.
Doesn't this sort of tie in to one of the post above about financial stability when having children? Or both parents work part-time, and the free days split between them cover the work week?
Not always. The economy can tank at any time, a parent with a good job can suddenly lose the job, etc.
Load More Replies...And then that daycare being so expensive living becomes unaffordable on 2 salaries.
This is a sad but HUGE reason I'll never have kids. I'm not in debt and travel a ton. I am however a nanny to a lovely family and wouldn't trade it for anything. I love going home to quiet lol
My wife was disabled and could not work, we had to give up on a lot of expenses that other people took for granted because they had two income. They complain about poverty but still bought all new clothes and went on vacation, and bought fancy phone. It is usually a choice.
The person who wrote this is obviously privileged. Not everyone can afford to be with their kid all the time. Parents are already working hard enough for money to take care of kids. It is rather infuriating that the op expects everyone to be a millionaire that can just quit their job to spend every second of their life with their kid.
The amount of pollution that the US military and oil companies commit. there are entire chunks of land that have been rendered uninhabitable by them.
Last time I looked, more than half of all high level nuclear waste in Britain was from the military. Not from civilian nuclear power or research reactors.
Ahh, our daily does of US bashing. We are actually pretty low on the list in reality. The most recent list I could find was from 2022. Top 10 most polluted countries: 1. Chad 2. Iraq 3. Pakistan 4. Bahrain 5. Bangladesh 6. Burkina Faso 7. Kuwait 8. India 9. Egypt 10. Tajikistan
Wanna cookie? Comparing yourselves to some of the poorest and most densely populated countries in the world is hardly fair.
Load More Replies...I love how they then blame cow farts for such a huge amount of pollution. Yes, if we just stop eating beef, the planet will be saved lol It's not the fault of the billion dollar companies who take shortcuts with chemical/radioactive/biological waste disposal or anything 🙄
The U.S accounts for 4% of the human population, but 15% of global emissions. 30% of those emissions are from transportation (4.5% of global emissions) The vast majority of emissions from fossil fuels are generated by consumers, not producers....and the emissions generated by those producers are only generated because CONSUMERS CONTINUE TO BUY AND USE THEIR PRODUCT. During covid, it took a few months for oil prices to go NEGATIVE. Air quality improved measurably, water ways went from opaque mud, to running clear, plant and wildlife populations rebounded. It should have been a wake up call to everyone as to what the impact of individual choices really amount to.....but nope! Everyone went right back to doing what they always did as soon as it was possible, and desperately trying to place blame anywhere, and everywhere but their own unused feet.
War I'm going to pick up a gun go next door and take the neighbors stuff= Obvious psyco We're all going to pick up a gun, go next door, and take the neighbors stuff= Well as long as you're all wearing the same outfit its fine!
War is nothing to laugh abot...but this description takes the cake. Exact on point.
How exactly is it on point? War isn't always about taking people's stuff.
Load More Replies...Can't upvote this enough. War is not normal! Also war industry in general.
But war *is* normal. Humans have been finding reasons to kill each other since forever. Sad but true.
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The amount of sugar we consume and give our kids.
I remember reading a research study that said that sugar triggers the dopamine levels in the brain in a similar way that heroin does and that is why it’s so addictive and hard to quit. I don’t know if this study has been debunked or not but it would make sense.
South Africa specific answer - having your electricity switched off for several hours a day. This can range from 2 to 8 hours a day. We just organise our lives around it like it isn't a thing cause we've been doing it for 16 years now.
Thank you for this answer!! As a South African myself I am so happy that others around the world know about this issue.
As crappy as your power grid is, I am most concerned about your drinking water infrastructure! You can live without electricity, but water... not so much.
Load More Replies...Used to live in Greece and in the summer months, the water would only be on for 4 hours in 20, so a rolling problem, and sometimes you had to be up at 4am to fill the buckets...
Man that sucks. Is there a good reason why? Not on the same scale, but here I get a heap of little blackouts (mostly seconds/minutes). Considering we're supposed to have a reliable electricity grid I'd love to know why I've had at least 8 outages in the last 24 weeks (thank you UPS stats).
I feel horrible for South Africa! That's so sad. I was upset in Escondido, Cali when there was a water shortage that was bad enough!:(
Viral Cringe/Freakout videos, especially of minors.
I was a super weird kid, and thank god I grew up before social media and smartphones were a thing. I don't know how I'd ever get over my spazziest moments being seen and ridiculed by millions of people.
So they censor "drúg" but not "spaz"? Spaz is a derogatory word used against people with cerebral palsy (spastics).
This is an interesting one, you can choose to own it and not let it ruin your life. Look at some of the meme people. The ones who are trying the hardest to distance themselves from the memes are the ones who suffer the most. The question is are they suffering because of the meme or because they're trying to distance themselves from it?
Yeah, probably one of the many reasons we're stressed all the time. If something embarrassing or crazy happens to someone with any number of people around, he/she is possibly a matter of seconds away from going viral.
Zero expectations of privacy. We're all expected to behave like we could be recorded at any time and we wonder why everyone has anxiety now.
The negative consequences of mass surveillance are empirically proven (for a good example read "The social consequences of a mass surveillance measure: What happens when we become the ‘others’?" by Marie-Helen Maras) but these consequences are ignored so deliberately that I am beginning to believe they are desired.
It kind of depends on the culture the surveillance is happening in. In a city that already has a high crime level, I would want that surveillance to keep me safer. In a small safe rural town I would not want the surveillance.
There is little evidence to show that surveillance makes anything "safer". Hardly anyone is ever convicted from video camera footage.
Load More Replies...Many countries have rules against surveillance and bugging but you can bet the government find ways to do it anyway.
Cheating on your partner.
Nobody wants their partner to cheat on them, but many people do it. Hypocrisy.
I don’t think this is normalised. The expectation that when a relationship has reached the 7 year itch stage and friends and family start questioning and reminding the couple they are at the point of break up regularly might not be the healthiest of traditions to continue? If one year is paper is 7 years itch cream?!
Drinking alcohol.
If alcohol was discovered today, it would be classified as a dangerous d**g that negatively affects multiple organs, not to mention it can lead to addiction. It would probably be illigal to consume in many countries.
Alcohol is the cause of so much misery, death, disease, domestic violence, and a high proportion of street violence. "Moderation" doesn't seem to be working very well, does it?
Load More Replies...Sorry not sorry, but I like to drink. I have a good time doing it, I do it in moderation (usually) and I don't give a good goddamn who disapproves.
The US tried to make it illegal. Could not stop it, just increased violent crime.
It is, for most people. But, alas, once an addict you won't be able to use with modération ever again.
Load More Replies...But you can say dong, apparently, without resorting to diacritical marks?
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Posting pictures of babies/kids on social media.
I'm OK with this as long as it's with your family/close friends only. My niece and nephew each have an Instagram account where my SIL has been posting pics since they were babies. They're not public accounts though - only family and friends are allowed access. I love it because they don't live locally and I get to see cute pics of what they're up to. Same with Facebook. My account is private. I don't get people who allow complete strangers to see whatever they post.
Same. Add in the caveat that it's just occasional normal family pics, not actively exploiting or forcing your kids to be in a hundred pics a day.
Load More Replies...The cost of medical coverage in the US. The insurance, copays, deductibles you have to meet - all of it. It’s so insane how much it costs to even have a baby in the US.
Canadian. Our healthcare is better for the moment (meaning we don't pay for most things....a LOT of flaws) but it's nowhere near most European countries...ours is going downhill so fast. Do not let business and privatization into health care. You have to break the bank to stay alive? It makes me sick what you have to go through for medical care.
I read that the UK's healthcare system is gradually decaying due to increased privatization for profit changes being made. Once money infects something it becomes corrupted.
Load More Replies...It's expensive to have a baby, and yet women are forced into it because their body is controlled by government now. And the same people that insist you you birthing a child, refuse to help financially after it is birthed. Women are being set up for having to shell out a lot of money just to carry and give birth to something that could financially devastate them. And the same people who want legislate to take away your choice do nothing (actually less than nothing) to help financially
This is coming from a woman’s point of view.. but being expected to spend hundreds of dollars on someone else’s wedding.. between buying the dress, nails, makeup, hair, shoes, bridal shower gift, bachelorette party, wedding gift, time off of work etc… it’s just a lot!! and i understand you are celebrating someone you are close with but today people can barely afford to pay their bills!!! so shoutout to the people who want all of these extravagant things for their weddings and are willing to cover all of the cost of said things!!
My cousin is getting married this week. I'm invited to his city hall ceremony. He is doing it there because he doesn't want anyone to spend money or go in debt on a huge ceremony. There may be a BBQ afterwards. That's it. I never want/or will find someone to get married, but that's how I'd want it. I'm trans, and I would love the bridesmaids dress, the hair and the makeup -but I'm also broke and not confident - so it all works out. Extravagant weddings are stupid. I'll eat all the shrimp and cake you have but the reality is that love is enough.
Weddings in general are overhyped, overpriced, and a waste of money and time. Put the energy into a marriage, not the party
100%! I'm all for having the party, but when couples expect everyone around them to put their lives on hold and make a bunch of sacrifices for said party, I'm out
Load More Replies...I have plenty of clothes without needing to buy a new dress for every wedding. I do get gifts but not if I can't financially afford it. I may get them something later or help with the wedding by offering assistance. Weddings are not my excuse to live in opposition to my normal life. If someone asked it of me, I wouldn't attend.
I didn't have a lot of money to have a big wedding. We had a simple church wedding with just immediate family only, even without siblings bringing dates. We then went to a restaurant and ordered off of the menu. My sister was my maid of honor, and she used a bridesmaid dress that she had worn to a previous wedding. And my wedding dress was bought at the mall. It was being sold as a prom dress, just over a hundred dollars,
My ex and I were invited to a "destination wedding". The only reason we were able to go is because we combined it with our honeymoon.
Destination weddings are greedy things. You know it is gonna cost a lot of money for a lot of people. If you want a destination wedding you should pay all of the expenses for folks who are being asked to attend.
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MLMs.
In case anyone is curious as to what this means - like me - it apparently means multi-level marketing. Correct me if I'm wrong...
You are correct! Pyramid schemes, basically.
Load More Replies...Sexualizing minors in high school movies. If you have to hire legal adults as actors in high school movies because you can't have a minor do what you want them to do, it's wrong. Nearly every one of these movies could be based on college kids and it would be totally fine.
Predatory gaming companies making billions off of micro transactions.
Or worse - taking away ownership and making them subscription based like the idiot of CEO of Ubisoft stated lately
Spending most of our adult lives going to work, I get sad when I see how many vehicles are on the road at 5am, off to their job….
I mean... just because they're on the road early doesn't mean they're working absurdly long hours. I start work at 730am, but get off at 330pm (and have a 1 hour paid lunch break).
I'd love to have a paid lunch break! But 30 minutes unpaid it is...
Load More Replies...I’d love to hear you explain how society would function if everyone just stopped going to work
Getting drunk all the time.
Is this really normalized, though? I mean yes, drinking is a thing, but people who get drunk all the time are generally believed to have a problem by others.
The level of consumerism people operate at. There's nothing wrong with buying a book, dvd or piece of merchandise that you genuinely want but this newer trend of buying everything and anhthing regardless of if you want it or not to "be on top of the trend" clearly shows some people are in need of something to fill in some happiness into their lives.
Like Disney targeting kids with DVDs of their movies "own your own copy today!"
which ones?? A lot of them are in other countries as well
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You know what I think about loadshedding and all the other stuff happening across the world? It is one huge social experiment that is being run on the everyday people.
Car cults, not "culture". The entirety of yankland is designed to REQUIRE car ownership, intentionally destroying public transit to make it the only option. It's only now that the young are refusing to buy cars (can't afford it, really) that governments are finally investing in public transit. But they should also be investing in bicycle infrastructure, protected bike lanes for commuters. EVERYWHERE that has built protected (by concrete) and extensive bike networks has seen ridership increases of at least two times, some as much as SIX times the number of cyclists. Bikes mean less pollution, less contribution to climate change, less dependency on oil (and thus lower prices). And to the dishonest that lie and whine "bicycles are ableist!!!" scooters exist. Here in Taiwan, companies modify scooters so people with wheelchairs can use them (sitting where you would put a sidecar), removing one forward gear and adding reverse.
which ones?? A lot of them are in other countries as well
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You know what I think about loadshedding and all the other stuff happening across the world? It is one huge social experiment that is being run on the everyday people.
Car cults, not "culture". The entirety of yankland is designed to REQUIRE car ownership, intentionally destroying public transit to make it the only option. It's only now that the young are refusing to buy cars (can't afford it, really) that governments are finally investing in public transit. But they should also be investing in bicycle infrastructure, protected bike lanes for commuters. EVERYWHERE that has built protected (by concrete) and extensive bike networks has seen ridership increases of at least two times, some as much as SIX times the number of cyclists. Bikes mean less pollution, less contribution to climate change, less dependency on oil (and thus lower prices). And to the dishonest that lie and whine "bicycles are ableist!!!" scooters exist. Here in Taiwan, companies modify scooters so people with wheelchairs can use them (sitting where you would put a sidecar), removing one forward gear and adding reverse.
