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There are two types of nice guys — those who get the term from others for being decent human beings and those who attribute it to themselves. Sadly, some self-proclaimed "nice guys", who are actually manchildren or douches, mistake being spineless and pathetic for being nice and they are all over the place.
They might tone down their virtue signaling in real life over the fear of being called out and having to actually deal with a person but show all their true colors online, where the cable provides them with distance and security. Mainly, they go after women on every imaginable platform. However, rejections shake their vulnerable ego and in order to save it from shattering, nice guys attack.
The appropriately-titled subreddit r/NiceGuys collects sightings of these repulsive creatures in order to prepare everyone should they face one of them in the wild. The ridiculous posts paint a pretty vivid picture of what might be waiting for you just a click away, so continue scrolling and check them out. By the end of this article, you'll definitely know how to spot — and avoid — a nice guy.
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These nice guys, the often physically unattractive men who overcompensate for their physical and social shortcomings with clingy and over-the-top behavior to women, are relentlessly mocked online.
Dr. Robert Glover, who's studied the issue, agreed that these men are often trying to form "covert contracts" with the target of their affections.
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#2
An Honest Observation
Psychologist Dr Jesse Marczyk told The Independent: "The men who tend to get stuck in the friend-zone might not be attractive enough on their own (physically, socially, or otherwise), and so try to compensate for their shortcomings by investing in women more than their peers. In other words, they might use kindness to try and make up for what they lack elsewhere."
Their logic dictates that if you meet someone's needs without them having to ask, they should meet yours. So if a man is nice to a woman, she should repay him by becoming his girlfriend, because that's only fair.
"Others typically do not realize these contracts exist and are often surprised when the nice guy lashes out at their failure to keep their end of the deal."
#3
Thought It Belonged Here
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Reinstate said law please! (But not nose biting, maybe a swift kick to the twig and berries?)
#4
It's Not The Piece Of Plastic
#5
When Will They Realise
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
Yeah, about that... I am a guy who's been friends mostly with women throughout my life. Not because I expected them to have sex with me, but because I genuinely valued their friendship. Lo and behold, more than a couple of them ended up having sex with me. Even if that didn't continue, we remained friends. In one case it DID continue, and we've now been together almost 5 years. ❤️
#6
Nice Guy Thinks He’s Better Than Guacamole
#7
At Least Some Justice Was Served
#8
A Self Aware Former Nice Guy
Rabbit Carrot 5 years ago
I like this one, he made me laugh. I hope he’s found his happiness now he has some self awareness.
#9
Nice Guy Tries To Insult A Woman And Accidentally Compliments Her Instead
#10
Guess We Can Add Moby To The List Of Nice Guys As Well
#11
This One Is So Unbelievable It Sounds Fake... But At The Same Time, I Don’t Doubt It At All
Lord Mysticlaw 5 years ago
I'm much smarter than you -- yeah dude, that's a good pickup line. Very seductive.
#12
Not Mine But Shared With Permission. Note How The Apology Only Comes When He Realizes He's Been Blasted
#13
When Your Self-Awareness Tank Is Empty
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
A lack of self awareness on this level definitely explains how there are still so many Trump supporters
#14
Let There Be... Nice Guys
#15
“Decent Guy” Only Wants One Thing From His Date
#16
I (19f) Broke Up With My Boyfriend (25m) Of 2 Months Only To Find Out He Was A “Nice Guy.” Bullet Dodged. The Last Bit Of Our Text Conversation And A Post He Made On Instagram A Couple Days Later
#17
This Screenshot From The Social Network Is Just Beautiful
#18
Why Don't Women Have Sex Wiv Me?
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
Why do men watch porn and wank, are we women not good enough for you?
#19
A Little Too On The Nose
#20
Feed Up With The Whining
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
Every time with these incel-types. Like, do you have any idea how much of a turn off it is to hear someone whining about how they're unfuckable? Ever heard the phrase, 'self-fulfilling prophecy?'
#21
If A Nice Guy Was A 911 Operator
#22
Im A Dude Lmfao
#23
Some Honest Reflection On The Nice Guy Mentality
#24
Charming Alpha Male Asks Me To Break Up With My Girlfriend For Him
Valentina Lattante 5 years ago
funny how "gorgeous women" become "ugly bitches" in 2 minutes...
#25
It's A Bold Strategy, Cotton, Let's See If It Pays Off For Him
#26
Looking Out For A Bro
#27
“Fedora With Arms”
#28
And Then I Never Used Bumble Again
#29
Found At A Church LED Dance...
Truth Monster 5 years ago
i get what they were going for in trying to encourage the girls to say yes, but yeah, this flier needs to be revised, heavily. With kerosene and matches. This flier is un-redeemable.
Katy McMouse 5 years ago
So, essentially this is a dance where the girls are pimped out to boys who are being groomed to expect this sort of behavior and subservience their whole lives. Sounds like a Duggar finishing school.
Blue of the yams (They/He) 5 years ago
Remember: You serve men and you owe it to your masters to look and act like a lady!! (That was sarcastic, don't worry...)
Charlotte 5 years ago
Not sure this qualifies as modern. Very much the attitude of an organisation looking to the Bronze Age for its moral standards.
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Charlotte A. 5 years ago
"remember who you are" - and then pretend to be someone else, and follow our "advice".
kinmik 5 years ago
S**t like this is why I left the Mormon church. Women are expected to provide for the men and make babies, girls are groomed and taught that this is their godly "duty". It's so ugly.
Teresa Taylor 5 years ago
I immediately recognized the "remember your standards" and the "for the strength of youth" notes in the flier. The sad part is, these things are common in young women's classes but never in the young men's classes. It's always "girls don't dress inappropriately," "girls don't tempt the boys." Screw that, BOYS HAVE AGENCY, TOO. They know right from wrong and it is THEIR choice to do right or to do wrong. Not some girl's "fault" for wearing a short skirt or tight pants.
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Jonahs Mrs 5 years ago
Why doesn't number 4 say "if you don't want to dance, find a kind but FIRM way to say no thank you?" And why is there no 4a stating " boy's, good on you for plucking up courage to ask her to dance in front of all her friends, but remember no means no and she doesn't owe you anything else" Why it is only male and females allowed to dance is another rant altogether x
Oskar vanZandt 5 years ago
And we rebound back to the 1950s... I suggest the author of this helpful note remembers to floss their brain...
London Panda 5 years ago
Cheesus crackers, if a guy walked up to me and said, "You can't say no it's the rule" i would scream
Mushroom Garden 4 years ago
Time to get the flashiest pantsuit you can find out of the closet and carry a sign that says "Touch me and you will dissolve in the flames of eternal oblivion." This whole paper seems extremely outdated. Wonder how long they've been using these rules?
Tiffany Weathers 5 years ago
Yep... sounds about right. Some religions specifically see women as a means of procreation. We are supposed to shut up, man the home front and make babies. That’s it. One major reason why I lost respect for the church
Missy Barton 5 years ago
If you have a dance card, you dance with the people on your dance card, not some rando who lurks his way over to ask you.
Hollie Newton 5 years ago
How can you know your standards but then be expected not to say no to any guy who asks to dance
Katinka Min 5 years ago
Gotta groom those girls early, if you want enough stepford wives for the future.
Michelle C 5 years ago
I bet $50 that this was written by a dude who was scarred by every dance he went to.
Todorokie-dokie 5 years ago
This is why I’m no longer Christian. If God’s so perfect and forgiving, why does me loving another woman mean I have to spend an eternity in hell? I don’t care if he’s real or not, I won’t worship someone who makes you burn for being LGBTQ+.
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Lirya Elena 3 years ago
My mother literally taught me something like that. And she learnt from my grandma. For a long time, when I was a teenager, mom even though a guy was RIGHT if he HIT me when I refuse a dance. Lucky me we have feminism.
Amy Camacho 4 years ago
This is why my daughter's never attended these dances in our crappy town in Arkansas. This is still happening in 2021.
Suzanne Garrison 5 years ago
All that’s missing is the reminder to leave space between you for the Holy Spirit
Retro Dan™ 5 years ago
Clearly written by the class weirdo who never got married and who works in the same school he himself attended.
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
Didn't know they had church LED dances in the US back in the 1900's.
Lord Mysticlaw 5 years ago
I feel like this is exactly what I'd expect under the "church" heading.
Laugh or not 5 years ago
No, it is not in. It is the contrary to ok. It is sick and damaging. They are teaching the boys that they have the right to a girl as much as they want. And teaching the girls they don't have the right to refuse.
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A Facebook Friend Had Her BF Pass Away Recently, And She Shared This Experience From A "Nice Guy"
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
That is sickening. Oooh her defences are down she just lost her boyfriend, I'm gna creep on over to try and meet my own needs because I can. Oh hell there is a lot of shuddery stuff on this thread
#31
Here’s A Fun A Guy Who Also Texted My Boyfriend About The Matter (4) I Made This Account Just To Post This
#32
This Guy Commented On A Post About My History Of Sexual Abuse
Conrad Strucker 5 years ago
jesus christ dude there's a time and a place, and it's NEVER and NOWHERE
#33
Niceguys(™)
#34
This "Nice Guy" Claimed He'd Never Pmed A Girl This Way Before & That He Meant No Offence But His Attitude Changed Dramatically After I Forwarded A Screenshot To His Wife...
#35
My Former Friend's Decent Into Madness
CatWoman312 5 years ago
I hope she shows these messages to the new manager. He’s a creep and probably a rapist
#36
I'm Just A Gooood Guuuuy, I Need No Sympathy
#37
And Hes Still Waiting For His Apology
#38
Nice Guys And Creepy Asterisk Crossover Courtesy Of My Boyfriend
Daria B 5 years ago
I was given the hateful look by rejecting guys hitting on me just because they were tan and, you know I "am white" (whatever that even means). No need to explain myself or justify the rejection in the first place, but they didn't even bother finding out about my marital status....
#39
An Old Platonic Friend Randomly Sent Me A Video Of His Dingaling Because He Was Trying To Be Nice... I Think?
#40
My Stalker Called Himself A "Nice Guy" Today...
#41
(Satire) Nice Guys Never Win At Bars
Lord Mysticlaw 5 years ago
Oh I'll just keep asking her for her number until she's uncomfortable, then she'll give it to me, that'll definitely work because I'm such a nice guy.
#42
This Sums It All Up
#43
This Tweet Was Written In Jest But It Clearly Illustrates The Nice Guy Mentality
#44
This Will Not End Well
#45
Neck Ruffles And Tights...
#46
Niceguys X Creepyasterisks Crossover
#47
Not Even Reddit Is Safe...
#48
Took The Advice Of Some Of You Guys And Asked **** Not To Give Out My Number
#49
This “Good” Guy Stole My Number From His Cousin And Then Insisted He Was Better For Me Than My Long Term Boyfriend
#50
Cyanide And Happiness Do Casper The Friend-Zoned Ghost
#51
I Actually Got Him Kicked Out Of My Class For Reporting This But Enjoy
#52
Listed iPhone For Sale On Facebook; Get Told Women Shouldn’t Fear Rape
#53
I’m Nice In Person!!
#54
Niceguys Value Their Privacy. Theirs
#55
Restaurant Nice Guy
#56
Update: On Economics Guy (Once A Nice Guy, Always A Nice Guy)
#58
I've Known This Dude For A Week
#59
I'd Treat Elastigirl Better Than Mr. Incredible
#60
One Of My "Friends" "Confessed" His "Feelings" For Me. I'm All The Sudden The Reason For Toxic Men For Rejecting Him. P.s Sorry For My Font
#61
A Message My Friend Received
#62
I Joined A Group About A Video Game, Said My Rank And Main, And Literally Nothing Else
#63
I Was Lurking Here For A Long Time, But Couldn't Resist Posting This Since I Stumbled Upon This Gem Of A Dude
#64
Brb, Gonna Go Leave My Husband For The Nice Guy I Just Met Playing Yahtzee
#65
This Was His Second Message...
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Well...yeah. coz needing to say ur "nice" or a "nice guy" is about as reassuring as saying "come help me find my lost puppy in this dark alleyway after you've had this drink that I've already opened, and now get into the windowless van. M'lady"
#66
Who Ya Callin Pinhead
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
This would depend on context to me. If I wore something and my hubby jokingly pointed out that I looked like a cartoon etc then I wouldn’t be offended and certainly wouldn’t consider dumping him. I have told my hubby he looks like a hobo before and it wasn’t to be nasty or anything.
#67
Asks My Roommate For Help With A Paper; Ends Up Calling Her A Whore...
#68
I Feel Like This Fits A Lot Of The Posts Here
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
If you're not 'conventionally attractive' (which is frankly arbitrary and constantly shifting), you have a few options: 1.) Be GENUINELY kind and friendly without expectation, 2.) be a good listener/conversationalist, 3.) learn to cook, play an instrument, or something else interesting/entertaining, 4.) have a good sense of humor and quick wit, 5.) learn to have sex well (which mostly seems to come down to communicating and focusing as much or more on your partner's pleasure/needs), 6.) accept affection from women who are attracted to men without conventional looks. Note that the others are NOT a substitute for #1. Bonus point for combining all of them. I guarantee you most women care more about all that other stuff than the size of your d**k or the strength of your jawline, or height. Certainly the ones worth your time, anyway ;)
#69
The Girl I'm Seeing Sent Me This
#70
"Why Won't She Look At My Dick?"
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Thomas brennan 5 years ago
Ooof this was a painful read. So much hormonal rage from these guys. A lot of them need to put down the phone, take care of themselves and have a nap. The rest need to see therapists.
Daria B 5 years ago
They need to put down the phone and open a dictionary, to see the definition of the concept of "nice". (Nah, I don't think that would make them understand....)
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Martha Meyer 5 years ago
Ninety percent of these dudes I would have blocked without warning after the first couple messages. Way too many of these women tried to be polite for way too long! If someone calls you a bitch or slut, LEAVE and BLOCK.
nanashi 5 years ago
as an Aro/Ace, I'm always fascinated by how much value does sex brings to a person. does it really matter that much whether you had to have sex with someone or not?
rabbitsrabbit 5 years ago
Possibly an ego thing as well. Long term unplanned singlehood could make them feel inferior, that they ain't 'man' enough to attract a mate.
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Explicitly sick 5 years ago
My husband can never die or leave and I'm wrapping my daughter in bubble wrap
CatWoman312 5 years ago (edited)
If you’re a nice guy you don’t have to say it. Actions speak louder than words is not just a cliched statement. It’s true.
Gemma Priest 5 years ago
I literally sent my husband a message after reading these saying that I'm so grateful to have him, because good lord this does paint men in a good light...
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Lastly, real nice guys don't resent being in the friend zone. They value a woman's friendship enough that they're happy to be there. If you just want "friends with benefits" because she's hot and you don't care that that's not what SHE'S looking for, you're not the nice guy you think you are. OTOH, if you're really looking for a life together with someone, you might find yourself in a very painful place of loving someone who loves you back as a friend, but because you are so close, she can see where it could never work out... even if you'd really would be better for a little while with her than some guy she's still willing to see how it works out with.
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
I write each of these as a socially awkward guy who was "friend-zoned" a lot until I finally met the right woman and grew up a lot... and can look back at my mistakes.
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Lisa 5 years ago
There was this really genuinely nice and cute guy that worked next to the same dept in my last job. Everyone liked him, he was kind, polite, smart and just a cool person to everyone. I had been friends with one his coworkers who tried to act the same way, but got angry about how much everyone/women liked his coworker. He went off one day that the way the actual nice guy was just an act, that any guy that acts like that is secretly just acting that way to f**k women, and women are all superficial and only care about money. He just couldn't grasp that some people are just nice without ulterior f**k motives, whereas he was just acting nice to try to f**k women that he didn't even respect as human beings. That was the last time we hung after I called him out on it and he yelled at me because I was going slower than the speed limit and a couple of rude texts about how I had changed and was disillusioned.
Raine Soo 5 years ago
I have never read so much anger and frustration in one Bored Panda thread. It's not that women don't like nice guys. These men seem to ignore the fact that attraction is deeply personal. And, no matter how much they plead, curse, insult, and yell, they will not change a woman's mind, especially if she is already in a committed relationship.
DC 5 years ago (edited)
What is all this nice-guy-stuff even about? Seriously, if it is just about intercourse, go to a brothel, pay what is due and a little extra ... no texting, no need to public self-humiliation and all that. I just don't think any woman ever said "He told me he's nice, then insulted me, told me to kill myself and, well, here we are - 50 years of marriage!" ... or do I miss anything here?
Kim 5 years ago
Learn from us gay guys. 🥱☝🏼 The way to gain a woman’s respect is to literally not try to have sex with her every f*****g chance you get. Just be a friend, simple as that. And stop thinking women = sex. Try woman = human = possible friend = close emotional relationship = trust = love. The bottom line to every relationship is friendship and trust. And yeah the sexual need can be strong with testosterone flushing through your blood, but you’ve just got to fix that on your own. In the private of your home where nobody’s got to know about it. Don’t involve other people bc you’re desperate. Be decent. Please. 👏🏼
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
My partner of almost 5 years and I are polyamorous, and a few years back she went on a few dates with this guy. As always, she was very upfront about being poly and already having a live-in partner, and he had to be cool with that. Everything was going fine until one day he starts telling her how he's going to 'rescue' her from me, because he just KNOWS he's a better man than me, and she DESERVES better. Christ, that was almost 4 years ago and we still get a good belly laugh out of it periodically 🤣
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
Oh, and FYI, in poly circles that's what is known as a 'cowboy.' Git along, little dumbass.
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Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Also: The "Friend Zone" is what happens when guys are too shy. If you'd ask a girl why she'd prefer a dildo to you, shyness is not your problem.
Dr. Darshan Das 5 years ago
I really liked a girl. She had heard so much about me being "nice" that she got curious about me. We begun to go out on dates. But after a few awesome dates (we never got physical, just had a great time) she developed cold feet & straight up told me that she can never be in a relationship with me. She thought that was the end of it, as I would've been massively led on by her, by now to expect something from her & was ready to give up on the amazing & genuine bond (read friendship) we developed during that time. But I, though massively dissapointed not coz my whimps & desires didn't get fullfilled but just at the thought of losing her forever; just couldn't let her go off as the great friend she had become to me. 2 years later, we are still great friends, she cares for me like mad & so do I. I could've never been so happier, coz I realised when u genuinely like someone, u care about them & not just want to have s*x but just be happy having them in ur lives in whatsoever capacity.
Oskar vanZandt 5 years ago
I shudder to think that there are so many 'nice guys' like that out there... I really don't get how they can think of themselves as 'nice' when they are being anything but. And the vitriolic resentment and anger that's behind it all. Very scary. I'm sure the women who receive this sort of harassment must be utterly perplexed by the psychotic 'turn arounds' in these exchanges.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
These type of guys do not make things look good for men in general. Not all men are like that, we just hear more about the negatives than the positives. Seems like BP has a male bashing theme going on tonight.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
I know that this only represents some men and not all, but I'm dreading the arrival of "nice guys" rushing to their own defence like in any other post that tries to highlight what many women are forced to deal with from some men
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Kristin Ingersoll 5 years ago
I really wish they didn't censor the guys' names. They should have to live with their BS.
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Here's a tip: When a girl chooses YOUR shoulder to cry on and ask, "why can't I meet a nice guy like you?", or when she regularly initiates non-sexual physical affection, you're in the friend zone. If not, you're just some guy making unwelcome advances. How did Jim know Pam liked her? SHE KISSED HIM.
Carlota 5 years ago
So overwhelmed by all this fragile masculinity. I am glad that I don't go through that with women but I see my straight and bi girlfriends having encounters with guys like these way too often. Maybe the guys that were insulting us on the "what would you do in a world without men" post will learn something from this?
Jason Doakes 5 years ago
Trying to wrap my mind around this. I think that giving out participation badges for everything (making effort and skill useless and killing any hint of ambition), or the completely opposite, pressuring kids like a dictator (everything is a competition, no sleep, no treats, no friends, work harder!) are both unhealthy methodologies that produce monsters with no empathy who believe they're owed something. You don't have to kill yourselves to reach your goals, but some good effort is needed, and sometimes even that will not work, you need to learn to cope with loss. Besides that, there's the obvious feeling of inadequacy after having oppressed the sh*t out of women for thousands of years, and now we're finally trying to treat all genders as equals (emphasis on trying), some of us obviously still have a problem with that. Well, I don't know, humanity is doomed, probably.
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
This is an excellent example of why I didn't leave my home BEFORE the pandemic. Ugh.
Chewie Baron 5 years ago
This is why we should have random executions. But I get so upset and angry at at the depths of entitlement and depravity men will sink to, just because they've got a d**k between their legs. It's depressing that women still have to deal with this s**t day after day. This is why women should run the world.
Mindy Keys 4 years ago
I have never been more grateful to be out of the dating pool in my life. Looks like the pool closed in 1985 and has been filled with slimy water, snakes, and god knows what else. My heart breaks for the young folks who are living with this.
Dark Pearl 4 years ago
I don't know why men do this. The only women who'd fall for their BS are brainless w****s...
Gage Franke 5 years ago
I can't decide which group is worse: Nice Guys or Nice GIRLS. Nice Guys are entitled and creepy, but Nice Girls are downright INSANE.
Justin Seagull 5 years ago
There are a lot of rude, thirsty men but what's worse is I even see some of them would try to justify for rapists and pedophiles. Seriously?
deanna woods 5 years ago
The way half these conversations escalate would be a great horror movie. I wonder what it would be called?
Kristen Medina 5 years ago
Neckbeard’s Revenge....incel nonsense on the high seas of the interwebs.
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guy greej 5 years ago
You can formulate complex strategies to beat computer and console games, locate, exploit and use system glitches to beat levels in a way not intended by the developer. Achieve absurd things, and make the impossible happen in way no video game maker could evr imagine, but young saiyan, you fail to navigate the trachelous field of getting the dumb b***h. You may be imagining the dumb part.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Aw but I like saiyans, the few I've heard of are generally ok. Bulma and Chichi aren't fools lol they wouldn't have married asses ^-^
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NaruTheCollective 4 years ago
Throughout history of human kind, men have been taught that women are property. That women are given to men as prizes. That they are OWED a woman. That 1 goat and an acre of land will buy them a wife. They get angry and verbally abusive when a woman won't date or sleep with them. They get pushy and rude and tell women to smile. They get mad when women aren't skinny enough, pretty enough or friendly enough to them. They will ask lesbian women to sleep with them, convinced that their penis is magic enough to make a lesbian straight for them. They get angry at transgender women because they don't fit "traditionally" into what a woman "should be". We sexualize young female children by telling them to dress and act a certain way so that they don't "tempt" a man or another young male child to touch them or rape them or molest them. "They say "boys will be boys" when they stealth a woman during consensual sex, which makes it basic rape.
NaruTheCollective 4 years ago
A guy messaged me on a dating site : What no message for me? I'm sad now. BLEH :vomit: Bro, I don't even KNOW you.
Onion rings like to make your breath smelly 5 years ago
this will never happen to me because im an ugly and immature b**** lol
Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago
That's false advertising. It has absolutely nothing to do with nice guys.
Nora Mei 5 years ago (edited)
What an irrational, illogical response from you, considering the fact that data doesn’t support your claims. Since most crimes are committed by males, then the scales aren’t balanced AT ALL. Both genders can say bad things to the other, but statistically, it is males who tend to be perpetrators of stalking, threats, assault and murder. Add to that the delusion many males have of them thinking that they’re ‘nice guys’ when they aren’t, it all increases the amount of distress that a woman or a girl endures frequently throughout her life, since such males are literally trying to gaslight the woman/or girl with that fake ‘nice guy’ crap, and arrogantly, too. Literally a 60 year old male killed a 40 year old woman because he didn’t like that she wasn’t interested in him; he isn’t the only one, yet such data isn’t there from females towards males who aren’t interested.
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Martha Meyer 5 years ago
You weren't “friend zoned“. She simply had no romantic interest in you. This shitty idea that women “decide“ to “put“ men in some imaginary “zone“ really needs to DIE.
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Potato 5 years ago
Tell ya what, bucko. You find those things, and you make your own post. This is a community contribution site, so you have no excuse.
Load More Replies... Thomas brennan 5 years ago
Ooof this was a painful read. So much hormonal rage from these guys. A lot of them need to put down the phone, take care of themselves and have a nap. The rest need to see therapists.
Daria B 5 years ago
They need to put down the phone and open a dictionary, to see the definition of the concept of "nice". (Nah, I don't think that would make them understand....)
Load More Replies... Martha Meyer 5 years ago
Ninety percent of these dudes I would have blocked without warning after the first couple messages. Way too many of these women tried to be polite for way too long! If someone calls you a bitch or slut, LEAVE and BLOCK.
nanashi 5 years ago
as an Aro/Ace, I'm always fascinated by how much value does sex brings to a person. does it really matter that much whether you had to have sex with someone or not?
rabbitsrabbit 5 years ago
Possibly an ego thing as well. Long term unplanned singlehood could make them feel inferior, that they ain't 'man' enough to attract a mate.
Load More Replies... Explicitly sick 5 years ago
My husband can never die or leave and I'm wrapping my daughter in bubble wrap
CatWoman312 5 years ago (edited)
If you’re a nice guy you don’t have to say it. Actions speak louder than words is not just a cliched statement. It’s true.
Gemma Priest 5 years ago
I literally sent my husband a message after reading these saying that I'm so grateful to have him, because good lord this does paint men in a good light...
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Lastly, real nice guys don't resent being in the friend zone. They value a woman's friendship enough that they're happy to be there. If you just want "friends with benefits" because she's hot and you don't care that that's not what SHE'S looking for, you're not the nice guy you think you are. OTOH, if you're really looking for a life together with someone, you might find yourself in a very painful place of loving someone who loves you back as a friend, but because you are so close, she can see where it could never work out... even if you'd really would be better for a little while with her than some guy she's still willing to see how it works out with.
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
I write each of these as a socially awkward guy who was "friend-zoned" a lot until I finally met the right woman and grew up a lot... and can look back at my mistakes.
Load More Replies... Lisa 5 years ago
There was this really genuinely nice and cute guy that worked next to the same dept in my last job. Everyone liked him, he was kind, polite, smart and just a cool person to everyone. I had been friends with one his coworkers who tried to act the same way, but got angry about how much everyone/women liked his coworker. He went off one day that the way the actual nice guy was just an act, that any guy that acts like that is secretly just acting that way to f**k women, and women are all superficial and only care about money. He just couldn't grasp that some people are just nice without ulterior f**k motives, whereas he was just acting nice to try to f**k women that he didn't even respect as human beings. That was the last time we hung after I called him out on it and he yelled at me because I was going slower than the speed limit and a couple of rude texts about how I had changed and was disillusioned.
Raine Soo 5 years ago
I have never read so much anger and frustration in one Bored Panda thread. It's not that women don't like nice guys. These men seem to ignore the fact that attraction is deeply personal. And, no matter how much they plead, curse, insult, and yell, they will not change a woman's mind, especially if she is already in a committed relationship.
DC 5 years ago (edited)
What is all this nice-guy-stuff even about? Seriously, if it is just about intercourse, go to a brothel, pay what is due and a little extra ... no texting, no need to public self-humiliation and all that. I just don't think any woman ever said "He told me he's nice, then insulted me, told me to kill myself and, well, here we are - 50 years of marriage!" ... or do I miss anything here?
Kim 5 years ago
Learn from us gay guys. 🥱☝🏼 The way to gain a woman’s respect is to literally not try to have sex with her every f*****g chance you get. Just be a friend, simple as that. And stop thinking women = sex. Try woman = human = possible friend = close emotional relationship = trust = love. The bottom line to every relationship is friendship and trust. And yeah the sexual need can be strong with testosterone flushing through your blood, but you’ve just got to fix that on your own. In the private of your home where nobody’s got to know about it. Don’t involve other people bc you’re desperate. Be decent. Please. 👏🏼
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
My partner of almost 5 years and I are polyamorous, and a few years back she went on a few dates with this guy. As always, she was very upfront about being poly and already having a live-in partner, and he had to be cool with that. Everything was going fine until one day he starts telling her how he's going to 'rescue' her from me, because he just KNOWS he's a better man than me, and she DESERVES better. Christ, that was almost 4 years ago and we still get a good belly laugh out of it periodically 🤣
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
Oh, and FYI, in poly circles that's what is known as a 'cowboy.' Git along, little dumbass.
Load More Replies... Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Also: The "Friend Zone" is what happens when guys are too shy. If you'd ask a girl why she'd prefer a dildo to you, shyness is not your problem.
Dr. Darshan Das 5 years ago
I really liked a girl. She had heard so much about me being "nice" that she got curious about me. We begun to go out on dates. But after a few awesome dates (we never got physical, just had a great time) she developed cold feet & straight up told me that she can never be in a relationship with me. She thought that was the end of it, as I would've been massively led on by her, by now to expect something from her & was ready to give up on the amazing & genuine bond (read friendship) we developed during that time. But I, though massively dissapointed not coz my whimps & desires didn't get fullfilled but just at the thought of losing her forever; just couldn't let her go off as the great friend she had become to me. 2 years later, we are still great friends, she cares for me like mad & so do I. I could've never been so happier, coz I realised when u genuinely like someone, u care about them & not just want to have s*x but just be happy having them in ur lives in whatsoever capacity.
Oskar vanZandt 5 years ago
I shudder to think that there are so many 'nice guys' like that out there... I really don't get how they can think of themselves as 'nice' when they are being anything but. And the vitriolic resentment and anger that's behind it all. Very scary. I'm sure the women who receive this sort of harassment must be utterly perplexed by the psychotic 'turn arounds' in these exchanges.
Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago
These type of guys do not make things look good for men in general. Not all men are like that, we just hear more about the negatives than the positives. Seems like BP has a male bashing theme going on tonight.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
I know that this only represents some men and not all, but I'm dreading the arrival of "nice guys" rushing to their own defence like in any other post that tries to highlight what many women are forced to deal with from some men
Load More Replies... Kristin Ingersoll 5 years ago
I really wish they didn't censor the guys' names. They should have to live with their BS.
Daniel Marsh 5 years ago
Here's a tip: When a girl chooses YOUR shoulder to cry on and ask, "why can't I meet a nice guy like you?", or when she regularly initiates non-sexual physical affection, you're in the friend zone. If not, you're just some guy making unwelcome advances. How did Jim know Pam liked her? SHE KISSED HIM.
Carlota 5 years ago
So overwhelmed by all this fragile masculinity. I am glad that I don't go through that with women but I see my straight and bi girlfriends having encounters with guys like these way too often. Maybe the guys that were insulting us on the "what would you do in a world without men" post will learn something from this?
Jason Doakes 5 years ago
Trying to wrap my mind around this. I think that giving out participation badges for everything (making effort and skill useless and killing any hint of ambition), or the completely opposite, pressuring kids like a dictator (everything is a competition, no sleep, no treats, no friends, work harder!) are both unhealthy methodologies that produce monsters with no empathy who believe they're owed something. You don't have to kill yourselves to reach your goals, but some good effort is needed, and sometimes even that will not work, you need to learn to cope with loss. Besides that, there's the obvious feeling of inadequacy after having oppressed the sh*t out of women for thousands of years, and now we're finally trying to treat all genders as equals (emphasis on trying), some of us obviously still have a problem with that. Well, I don't know, humanity is doomed, probably.
Saico Hipe 5 years ago
This is an excellent example of why I didn't leave my home BEFORE the pandemic. Ugh.
Chewie Baron 5 years ago
This is why we should have random executions. But I get so upset and angry at at the depths of entitlement and depravity men will sink to, just because they've got a d**k between their legs. It's depressing that women still have to deal with this s**t day after day. This is why women should run the world.
Mindy Keys 4 years ago
I have never been more grateful to be out of the dating pool in my life. Looks like the pool closed in 1985 and has been filled with slimy water, snakes, and god knows what else. My heart breaks for the young folks who are living with this.
Dark Pearl 4 years ago
I don't know why men do this. The only women who'd fall for their BS are brainless w****s...
Gage Franke 5 years ago
I can't decide which group is worse: Nice Guys or Nice GIRLS. Nice Guys are entitled and creepy, but Nice Girls are downright INSANE.
Justin Seagull 5 years ago
There are a lot of rude, thirsty men but what's worse is I even see some of them would try to justify for rapists and pedophiles. Seriously?
deanna woods 5 years ago
The way half these conversations escalate would be a great horror movie. I wonder what it would be called?
Kristen Medina 5 years ago
Neckbeard’s Revenge....incel nonsense on the high seas of the interwebs.
Load More Replies... guy greej 5 years ago
You can formulate complex strategies to beat computer and console games, locate, exploit and use system glitches to beat levels in a way not intended by the developer. Achieve absurd things, and make the impossible happen in way no video game maker could evr imagine, but young saiyan, you fail to navigate the trachelous field of getting the dumb b***h. You may be imagining the dumb part.
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Aw but I like saiyans, the few I've heard of are generally ok. Bulma and Chichi aren't fools lol they wouldn't have married asses ^-^
Load More Replies... NaruTheCollective 4 years ago
Throughout history of human kind, men have been taught that women are property. That women are given to men as prizes. That they are OWED a woman. That 1 goat and an acre of land will buy them a wife. They get angry and verbally abusive when a woman won't date or sleep with them. They get pushy and rude and tell women to smile. They get mad when women aren't skinny enough, pretty enough or friendly enough to them. They will ask lesbian women to sleep with them, convinced that their penis is magic enough to make a lesbian straight for them. They get angry at transgender women because they don't fit "traditionally" into what a woman "should be". We sexualize young female children by telling them to dress and act a certain way so that they don't "tempt" a man or another young male child to touch them or rape them or molest them. "They say "boys will be boys" when they stealth a woman during consensual sex, which makes it basic rape.
NaruTheCollective 4 years ago
A guy messaged me on a dating site : What no message for me? I'm sad now. BLEH :vomit: Bro, I don't even KNOW you.
Onion rings like to make your breath smelly 5 years ago
this will never happen to me because im an ugly and immature b**** lol
Ryan Deschanel 3 years ago
That's false advertising. It has absolutely nothing to do with nice guys.
Nora Mei 5 years ago (edited)
What an irrational, illogical response from you, considering the fact that data doesn’t support your claims. Since most crimes are committed by males, then the scales aren’t balanced AT ALL. Both genders can say bad things to the other, but statistically, it is males who tend to be perpetrators of stalking, threats, assault and murder. Add to that the delusion many males have of them thinking that they’re ‘nice guys’ when they aren’t, it all increases the amount of distress that a woman or a girl endures frequently throughout her life, since such males are literally trying to gaslight the woman/or girl with that fake ‘nice guy’ crap, and arrogantly, too. Literally a 60 year old male killed a 40 year old woman because he didn’t like that she wasn’t interested in him; he isn’t the only one, yet such data isn’t there from females towards males who aren’t interested.
Load More Replies... Martha Meyer 5 years ago
You weren't “friend zoned“. She simply had no romantic interest in you. This shitty idea that women “decide“ to “put“ men in some imaginary “zone“ really needs to DIE.
Load More Replies... Potato 5 years ago
Tell ya what, bucko. You find those things, and you make your own post. This is a community contribution site, so you have no excuse.
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