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Some nice guys aren’t actually nice, that’s for sure—they’re secretly so-called ‘nice guys’ who hide who they really are and can't ever take 'no' for an answer. Folks who seem polite, mild-mannered, friendly, and genuinely kind one moment can do a 180 and transform into angry, spiteful, and downright toxic people the moment things don’t go their way. Especially in situations involving romance and rejection.

‘Nice guys’ are more than happy to keep up the illusion of fake niceness, but they often show their true emotions and insecurities when rejected. And then their inner beasts come out. Beware anyone who’s within range! But let’s look at some specific examples, shall we?

TikTok user Keiren Benjamin features and voices stories about ‘nice guys’ that he finds online, including a very viral one about a woman getting stalked by a random guy after she went hiking. You’ll find the stories below. Let us know if you’ve ever been in a similar situation before, Pandas.

Fitness expert and entrepreneur Jack Bly gave Bored Panda some advice on improving for the better, the importance of having perspective, learning to self-reflect, building genuine confidence, and moving beyond a victim mentality. Scroll down for his thoughts.

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Nice Guys

Nice Guys

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Berry Budgie
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The last message makes me want to circle back to when he said they were similar athletically…

Raven DeathShade
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't disclose your location on social media...

Thorfin Wolfsbane
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, but still this guy's way out of line regardless. Hopefully nobody interprets your post as victim blaming.

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KJ
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Buy some mace for the next trip down the trails lady.

Piet Puk
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know somebody who just looked up where to get pepper spray.

PjandBolt
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We're both on a similar level athletically" *Proceeds to call her a fat b***h*

Roxy Eastland
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG, someone's not interested, move on

Shayda
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is being sensitive a bad thing? Especially in this case scenario.

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Bored Panda asked Jack what advice he'd give those guys who seem to be stuck in a constant victim mentality and see themselves as being wronged by society and those around them. The expert said that people should start off with small tasks and minor victories.

"Do one thing and progress at it to prove you’re not a victim. Lift weights. Help someone. Advance your career. Have a successful relationship," he said. "When you’re successful in one area you build confidence in yourself and that will translate to all of your life."

He added that we need time to adjust to the positive changes we're making in life: "Your brain needs proof around your new identity."

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    #2

    Nice Guy Is Mad That I Have Guy Friends

    Nice Guy Is Mad That I Have Guy Friends

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    Tash
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The immediate switch to this kind of aggression is alarming.

    BorPand8
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And immensely common. Pretty much the norm in my experience to be honest.

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    Aaron W
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did he really call himself a 'gentleman' in the middle of that rant? lol

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "WHY CAN'T YOU UNDERSTAND THAT I'M A GENTLEMAN WHO WANTS TO TREAT YOU LIKE A PRINCESS YOU STUPID WH*RE!" Smh what a nut job.

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    KJ
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Didn't dodge a bullet, dodged a whole nuke.

    Purbasha Banai
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly this nuke could stalk her bad and dunno what he'd do her when he finds her alone. Hopefully this nuke is states away from this lady.

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You sir are not a gentleman. You are a disgrace to men.

    Jess Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These are the guys that make ALL men look bad.

    Thorfin Wolfsbane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nice guys - they can go from zero to asshole in 3 seconds flat.

    Bron
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Such a “gentleman”

    Tobias Rieper
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    tell me you are an incel without telling me you are an incel

    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another Incel type whose mask slips very quickly when thwarted. I suspect he has trouble with relationships generally (male and female) and the totally unwarranted abuse and veiled threats are a whole Communist convention’s worth of red flags.

    Danielle Renee
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wow! if a guy ever asks why women are so wary of men, show this exchange.

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    #3

    Patience Is Rare Nowadays

    Patience Is Rare Nowadays

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay so first of all...brilliant last line by her. Secondly, he waited 9mins...there are songs longer than 9mins.

    RedMarbles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, a sarcastic message due to a nine-minute delay is a red flag. People get pulled away from messaging threads for all kinds of reasons.

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    Sarah Sparkles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes I don't text someone back for hours. Because I'm working or painting and don't need interruptions. All my friends and family completely understand. This guy would lose his mind with me lol

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do people think that you're instantly available via cell, never doing anything else, and immediately jump to conclusions if you don't answer right away? Personally, I don't always have my cell on me, and there are loads of times when I won't answer (in the shower, on the toilet, fast asleep, making dinner, driving, doing errands, etc.).

    Micah
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, especially when it comes to virtual strangers. Even if a message says "read", it doesn't necessarily mean the person read it, and it doesn't mean they have the time to reply.

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    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He'll be okay. As you can see from his pic, he's taking a very important business call in a real grown-up man's business suit.

    athornedrose
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    she could be driving, have a phone battery die, or who cares because someone responds when they get a chance and want to! seriously dude?

    Carrie de Luka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a moron. Leaping to such an attitude. Though, side point, but what's dudeee? Does he mean dude with a long u sound? That would be duuuude. If you have to do that at all. What he has written rhymes with Judy.

    Ashley Schriber
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, that's what I assumed he meant. Doesn't make a lot of sense, but I've seen people do that with text-based communication (lengthen words by extending the letter on the end, regardless of the letter is).

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    Lena Flising
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you start a conversation out of nowhere, then yes, you are expected to carry the conversation. A good beginning would be "is this a good time to talk", something like that, then you can schedule a talk, and won't have to wait in limbo for them to get off the bus or whatever.

    Purbasha Banai
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand the 9 mins part. From where did it go downhill?

    Honu
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He got snotty with her because he asked her how her day was and she didn't respond fast enough for him. So 9 minutes after he asked, he sent a second, sarcastic comment. That's considered rude and entitled behavior.

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    Lola
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    3 years ago

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    I get a bad vibe from both here.

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    A lot of so-called 'nice guys' pretend that they have a lot of confidence in themselves, however, that illusion can quickly shatter when they're faced even with small challenges or if things don't go as they envisioned. When their expectations aren't met, 'nice guys' tend to get angry at those around them. That's something an actually confident person would never do: they would accept being rejected and simply move on.

    However, true confidence is a skill that we can all learn, though it will take time, patience, and persistence. "Confidence comes from repetition and mastery. The more you do ANYTHING, the more confident you become. The good news about this is everyone is capable of earning confidence," fitness expert Jack told Bored Panda that this applies to all facets of life.

    #4

    I Genuinely Can't Tell If This Is Satire And I'm Just Too Hopeless To Pick Up On It?

    I Genuinely Can't Tell If This Is Satire And I'm Just Too Hopeless To Pick Up On It?

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I've mistaken her for someone else" jesus f*****g christ

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stupid feminists won't accept cheating or stupid fake excuses. This is why feminism is ruining society!/s

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    Draj
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love you babe! Just not enough to recognize you after 3 years! Feminism made me forget! Yeah...

    Sarah Sparkles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Real nice guys don't feel obligated to announce they're nice because their personality and deeds do the talking for them. Once a guy announces he's nice it is almost a guarantee he's not

    Mazer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Great idea, when you are called out for being a scum puppy but it’s all her fault and hey, I mistakenly thought it was his gf - truly one of the pathetic of excuses. Nobody believes you dude, nobody

    BorPand8
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And let's not forget how feminism is causing 'females' to get all uppity

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    Gerard Neaux
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The miracle is that he had a girlfriend for so long

    Thorfin Wolfsbane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This guy: I was at a party and then I tripped and fell and my d**k went right into her!

    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just from the first sentence I knew it was gonna be a load of BS. Did something wrong...still blame the other person. Then icing on the cake...refer to double standards. Douchebag.

    Enlee Jones
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like how he thinks calling a woman “fat” is worse than cheating.

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any dipshit calling women 'females' is a huge red flag.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are so much better than you, you assh0le !

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    #5

    A Comment On A Post About A Woman Begging Her Stalker Of 5 Years To Leave Her Alone

    A Comment On A Post About A Woman Begging Her Stalker Of 5 Years To Leave Her Alone

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    Mazer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is heartbreaking, clearly he is clueless about how his ill conceived actions are destroying her.

    BorPand8
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or he's a creeptastic asshole who enjoys causing people pain and the feeling of power it gives him

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    Electric Mayhem
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm disturbed that the caption calls her stalker a "suitor"

    Carrie de Luka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep - this screams 'wrong' on so many, many levels.

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    John Smith
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    strange how some people take "no, no hell no, get away from me you creep" as playing hard to get. Pretty sure that going straight to macing people that say "hello" is where this is heading.

    Jess Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People liked the comment too… this kind of behaviour can lead to so much damage.

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's literally sitting there screaming and crying for him to leave her alone, and the person comments "This man doesn't know what women want!" Ummmm... she wants him to leave her alone, like she's literally asking him to do?! And no, she won't go looking for him if he fakes disinterest. I'm sure she'll leap for joy if he decides to "play and hide and seek" because she'll never have to see his creepy face again.

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    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why can't she stop him legally, if it is viral that he is stalking her? That's messed up

    Viviane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stalking might be legal or ignored as an issue in her country. Years back in Canada, ex-spouses were allowed to make death threats. It took a very public death for the police to take that seriously.

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    Martha Meyer
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but I'd pay a bunch of guys to beat this dude up in a dark alley one night and threaten him with more of that if he keeps following. That's what Israeli women have been doing to get divorces from their husbands apparently, since according to the laws there they need the husband's permission to divorce and a lot of them don't give it without the violent kind of persuasion.

    Thorfin Wolfsbane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She might have better luck stabbing him in the neck

    Legen ( wait for it ) dary
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm more surprised with the amount of people who liked his comment.

    BorPand8
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh you poor sweet innocent... The top-voted comment on this very article, on 'woke and progressive' Bored Panda is defending him.

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    Rachael Sampson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fact that Over a thousand people liked the comment is disturbing as hell. But sadly not surprising

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That poor woman...

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    #6

    This Is Poetry

    This Is Poetry

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    Me Oh My
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    he gonna need some aloe vera for that burn

    t-Grex
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "If he wasn't looking to get burned he shouldn't have had skin" possibly the same logic he uses "If women didn't want...then they shouldn't have..."

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    Michael Naretto
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hahaha. SPF 4 million for that burn...

    Lioness Nature
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nice guys, aren't nice guys. Most of the time they're crazy using the nice guy persona to deguise it. Until they can't anymore.

    Kathryn
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Truly good, kind guys finish first. Nice Guys™ finish last.

    Stro Bro
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nice guys finish on their bodypillows

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    Jack explained that it's important to reflect about yourself and how you can improve your life, especially in cases where real-life doesn't match up with how you view yourself.

    "Responding to failure is all about the story we tell ourselves. Do you tell yourself that you are a failure? Or do you tell yourself you failed, have now gotten feedback, and know how to get better? It’s all our perspective," he said.

    #7

    I Left Him On Read Again After That

    I Left Him On Read Again After That

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    Debra Robinson
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fell flat on his toxic vile ass trying to channel Ton Loc or Young MC, I guess. Yes, I'm old-lol. Fucktard creep.

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    Mama Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad he isn't getting all worked up over it lol

    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol yeah, he and his team of 25 snipers sure are 'letting it slide'! Fr though it was like reading a train of thought, and watching it deteriorate. A modern soliloquy?

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    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty sure it's enough evidence to call police on him. He's talking about breaking in her house and also killing her

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, I didn't even get that far into his annoying word vomit. I didn't think it could get worse!

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    Yili Lai
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok file a police report lol

    DaShaun Trosper
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How he go from i don’t care that you left me on read to I got 25 snipers surrounding your building lmao

    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay so that qualifies as verbal assault, call the police immediately.

    Samantha Lomb
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They won't do anything. They never take this stuff seriously

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    Sarah Sparkles
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For "not getting worked up" he sure wrote a lot

    AtomKat
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is the longest “I don’t care” ever.

    Cassie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Snipers don't answer to unhinged twelve-year-olds, buddy.

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    #8

    Thinks He's A Gift From God

    Thinks He's A Gift From God

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My man there's reasons why single women are the happiest out of married/single men/women and you're all of them

    Sky Render
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So glad I play for the home team. Being a single woman is nice, but being a woman married to another woman is better if you ask me!

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    Yili Lai
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol... never heard of lesbians huh?

    Jess Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look at the statistics of fulfilled women out of those 60%. Turns out, the common denominator in a lot of women’s unhappiness is….being in a hetero relationship!!! 🎉 🎉 no one needs you, Chad!

    Carrie Laughs
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His stats are rubbish, it's 50.8% women. Had to look it up as it was rather puzzling. https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/LFE046219

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    Lovin' Life
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rather die alone than with someone like you man! There's a reason you are single.

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This guy is just so desperate. And I can't get why he thinks than being alone is worse than being with him

    elysse
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    there's something called being gay

    Claire Bee
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This guy forgot about queer women lol, the stats are not in his favor.

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    #9

    My Mom Has Been On One Date With This Guy

    My Mom Has Been On One Date With This Guy

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    CatWoman312
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So basic when you basically begged her for attention like a pathetic hungry dog

    Sky Render
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When did "basic" become an insult, exactly? And why would having a high pH be considered a bad thing?

    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg look at that person, those jeans? Sooo alkaline 😁

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    LazyPanda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah. I'm done. This thread makes me sick. My stomach is literally unsettled.

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since when does taking care of your home and kids and not sleeping with a guy you've been on one date with (not that there's anything wrong with that if it's your thing) make you basic?

    KT
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what an absolute creep

    April Stephens
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After reading the whole thread, I tried to think to myself, do I have a modicum of sympathy for any one of these men? And I thought of this older guy, that maybe it made sense for him to be hurt after he put himself out there and got rejected--but when I went back and re-read it, I saw that no, he was really a pushy, inappropriate, insecure jerk. He's the best of them and he's awful.

    DotC
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That YOLO bs. And “you miss all the shots you don’t take” sh*t. I say in my profile what I’m looking for. If they match w me or send a message and they’re not what I explicitly say I want, that’s disrespectful. If they match or message and I’m not what they want, that’s just dumb.

    LesAnimaux
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes me think of the song "Diane" by Therapy?

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    ‘Nice guys’ very often embody the traits that some professionals consider to be examples of toxic masculinity, especially with regards to attitudes toward women. ‘Nice guys’ tend to lash out at women when rejected or think that they owe them their attention just because they happen to like them. According to British psychotherapist Silva Neves, toxic masculinity is a “general attitude perpetuated by systemic misogyny.”

    The expert told Bored Panda that toxic masculinity is “a set of distorted ideas about what men should be like.” Silva said that these ideas include the suggestions that men should never be ‘weak’ or ‘soft,’ that they shouldn’t ever feel vulnerable, and that they have to “always be winners.”

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    “Men with toxic masculinity usually have negative views towards women's rights (including their rights to the freedom of their own sexuality) and they tend to be homophobic,” the psychotherapist explained.

    #10

    2,845 Days Later

    2,845 Days Later

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    Mazer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bro. PICK A PERSONALITY AND STICK WITH IT.

    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could have just chalked it up to experience and said ‘See you around’ but no

    Casey McAlister
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't want to waste his brain power until he realised he has no brain.

    the annoying theatre kid
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    he really said ill leave you alone for about seven years it's all good

    CatWoman312
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait a few days. She’ll forget it happened

    Nightshade1972
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm mildly curious how long "Today" (last post) was after Dec 18. It's still funny either way, but I'm curious if "Today" was, say, Dec 20 and he's literally forgotten, that quickly, that she already said no, or if "Today" was, say, a year later and he's forgotten all about her in the meantime.

    Strawberry Hellcat
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The chances of him actually being a polymath are the same as oceanfront property in Nebraska. Creepy jerk.

    Brianna
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean according to the title, it's been nearly 8 years. Clearly that's enough time for her to change her mind, right?

    Roxy Eastland
    Community Member
    3 years ago

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    Shabby to break up over text

    Pamela24
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This very much sounds like they went on a single date which makes it perfectly reasonable to deal with over text.

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    #11

    Nice Guy

    Nice Guy

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    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh, another controlling, delusional guy who can't take no as an answer

    Gin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd have blocked him from the first sentence. Double handed compliments are not the way to start. Though, to be honest, making it about my appearance and labouring the point is really going to switch me off.

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    Sarah Sparkles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She refuse to send nudes and he calls HER the whore!

    Tobias Rieper
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    actually a very good point how is she a whore when she said no what amazes me is she said no when he offered her money then he thought ok that didnt work being horrible and insulting her will do it

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    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. 'I'll pay you for your number'? And quick descent into 'sell me nudes'. Sad thing this is so dn common it's actually really concerning.

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why can't men just search up sexual photos for free instead of harassing particular women to send them nude photos?

    Queen Amethyst
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because they wouldn't have felt powerful you'd degraded yourself?

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I'm more respectful than that"....really...

    Danielle Renee
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's so funny these guys don't see the irony of calling a girl a s**t for NOT giving them naked pics. morons.

    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bloody hell - I feel old. I know people are more upfront about sex these days but is this really part of flirting these days? Has he looked in the mirror recently?

    Stannous Flouride
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When he turns down his offer of money he calls her a wh0re. Pretty sure he doesn't know what that word means.

    François Carré
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I admire how she keeps calm, polite and slightly sarcastic, facing such a truckload of slurs.

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    #12

    Didn’t Answer His Text For A While… I Never Met Him And We Had Been Texting For A Few Days

    Didn’t Answer His Text For A While… I Never Met Him And We Had Been Texting For A Few Days

    dnanebrb Report

    Me Oh My
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whole-ass psychoanalysis. OP needs to run.

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a lotta words for "I'm an insecure penis with fingers"

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All I saw was "blah blah blah blah blah." Stopped reading after two lines.

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    Piet Puk
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How to tell you are an incel without telling you are an incel.

    Martha Meyer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any man that starts off with calling you a "female" has spent at least some time in incel circles imo.

    Yili Lai
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Spoiler alert. He was talking to the mirror

    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Taking refuge in psychoanalysis to convince himself he’s not a complete arsehead

    Legen ( wait for it ) dary
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just described me perfectly and since you're such a nice guy please come to my place and let's f**** 🙄

    Zenozenobee
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What I thought! "and just like that, she's going to fall into my bed!!!"...spoiler alert: no

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    Sky Render
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jeez, even Freud would tell this guy to get over himself and stop spouting nonsense...

    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This guy needs to learn how to suck his own d**k. Joe Rogan could teach it. All these lunatics would stay home fellating themselves and women would be a little safer in the world.

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    “A man with healthy masculinity is the opposite to these traits: someone who is self-reflective, embraces their emotions including sadness, anxiety and crying, a man who isn't afraid of their own femininity and believes that women are equal, and therefore are very clear about respecting boundaries and consent with women,” Silva noted how healthy masculinity differs from toxic masculinity.

    Someone who has a healthy masculine attitude, according to the expert, “embraces gender, sex, and relationship diversities including gay men and transgender people. Someone who is comfortable with their opinions to be challenged and able to have debates.”

    #13

    He Just Wanted To Treat Me Right

    He Just Wanted To Treat Me Right

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    Call Me Mars
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He just could have left it at "understood, thanks." But NOPE! He couldn't!

    Brianna
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could have even left it with the first... I don't know 6 messages? I mean yes, it was too much, but to then to 360 and completely freak out? Nope.

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I loose faith in the male of this species a little more after every one of these that I read.

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every single submission on this post makes my desire to escape this planet and settle in the Andromeda galaxy with a pet bunny even stronger.

    Bethany Heller
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your heart died with that half of your face??? Is he shitting on her for having a stroke???

    Carrie Laughs
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, that one shines out amongst all the rubbish as being really repugnant. Total git.

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    Sal Minella
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Back in my day (the 90s) before texting, social media, and dating apps, when we didn't "click" with a date we'd just...stop calling and that was that; no drama, no walls of text, we'd just move on, end of story. Shame those days are gone.

    Carrie de Luka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hah... you'd think. One of my 'no thanks' is still calling me years later. He's blocked but can leave messages on a system I never access but it took years to get down it to that level. They find a way if they are the type.

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    Josy Bannon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "You are sweet and kind" oh how mistaken she was!

    Rockstar
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok this happened to my friend. She tried to end a relationship kindly because apparently he was only in it for the physical stuff. When she tried to end it and stay friends, he sent a text saying he had so much resentment and anger towards her and how she was ruining his life by making him constantly depressed........and this is why i date women :)

    Carrie de Luka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The 'stay friends' bit is not usually wise. It seems kind but it's mostly a bad idea to even suggest it. Gives the wrong signal to those who do this kind of thing and until you reach this point, you can't know who they are.

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    ThatOneWriter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That flip switch. Holy hell.

    Annalies Wolters
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, at least he went through all the stages...

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    #14

    Others: Women Don't Owe You Anything Him: False

    Others: Women Don't Owe You Anything Him: False

    SkinnyWrinklez Report

    Titas Burinskas
    BoredPanda Staff
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I have studied women for quite some time" sounds like a medieval illustrator trying to convince someone he has seen all of those exotic animals he has drawn.

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think treating women like objects and not like human being explains quite clearly why he isn't capable of being in relationship

    Lou
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Holy sh*t this is terrifying

    Not A Panda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jesus f*****g christ on a stick, I just threw up. Can someone neuter this bloke and stick him in a home?

    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you were to ask this man to draw a picture of a female, he'd draw a uterus with boobs and eyes, without a doubt.

    Raven DeathShade
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like something a friend of mine would draw XD. She enjoys the odd and creepy.

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    Sal Minella
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fact this is posted on 4chan tells you everything you need to know about this incel loser.

    RedMarbles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know whether to be relieved it's from that cesspool or alarmed at the thought that this may seem normal to the people on that site.

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    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His mind would shatter into pieces when he discovers that some women are into women. Or worse, asexual and not into anyone.

    Gin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ones that aren't are definitely not going to be into him! ugh.

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    Brianna
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is THE definition of an INCEL

    Esté
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, this is borderline r@pist

    Lou
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not even borderline, he genuinely believes that women should be denied the right to consent or not. That's full blown r@pist

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    #15

    Damn Her For Not Accepting Gifts From A Total Stranger

    Damn Her For Not Accepting Gifts From A Total Stranger

    himinsok Report

    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about you see a girl sitting alone at the train station and just leave her alone.

    Thorfin Wolfsbane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds like his approach is - "hey kid, want some caaaaandy? it's in my van over here..."

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first thought would be about possible rape drugs in this coffee. No thanks.

    Laura Dawson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There’s too many men out there that think like this that if they talk to a woman or approach a woman on her own or buy her something that woman owes them a romantic relationship, dude women are people like you are, they’re not here to be with a man, they have their own lives like you do, I doubt he would be thrilled if a big man came over with chocolate & wanted to talk…

    LH25
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe she was enjoying being alone. Maybe she's an introvert. Maybe she was taking a break from her life. Maybe all kinds of things that have nothing to do with this guy.

    Oopsydaisy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. Lost count of the number of times I've been reading a book or staring into space and just generally getting myself together and enjoying alone time, only to be interrupted by a man saying can I sit here, and promptly doing so without my permission. I've also actually had people, sometimes women, ask me to come and join them on their table because they are sure I must be lonely. Like, no, I am not your charity case. F**k off.

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    Louise B
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe she doesn't like coffee or chocolate? Maybe if she wanted either she would get some herself. That way she gets a snack without the inconvenience of a creep thinking she now owes him an awkward conversation.

    Dinah Brand
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Would've he bought coffee and chocolate for some old man sitting alone?

    Ashley Schriber
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    [sarcasm] Of course he would! He's a "decent human being." Silly woman, being so uptight and thinking he could possibly want anything else. [/sarcasm]

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    Kelli Pike
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a damn good reason women don't accept food or drink from strangers.

    Sage Gusano
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here, woman who has never seen me before, eat and drink these items I carry knowing not if I have done something to them....Yeah....that pick up works every time...

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    Silva, the British psychotherapist, believes that it’s important to redefine masculinity and how we understand ‘male success.’ “We also need to change the image of 'male success'. So, basically, we need to change society at its core because toxic masculinity is part of a faulty system of thoughts. That will take time, but it can start with all of us doing our parts about it,” he mused.

    One of the things that can help, Silva believes, is having more representations of men “who embrace their emotions, talk about them, and show them crying, laughing, or hugging” in real-life and various forms of media. The key point here, the expert stressed, is that men become more in tune with their emotions, instead of repressing them which can lead to a whole host of negative outcomes for them and everyone around them.

    #16

    This Guy Randomly Messaged Me After Nearly 2 Years And Is Mad That I Still Don’t Want To Date Him

    This Guy Randomly Messaged Me After Nearly 2 Years And Is Mad That I Still Don’t Want To Date Him

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    François Carré
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best part is holding on through that usual and sickening dialogue, and eventually managing to turn him down to the point he'll be fed up with messaging her and (hopefully) never do it again.

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    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wHy cAnt tHesE DuM bItCHes tAke A c0mPliMenT?

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP IS INCREDIBLE! I wish I could be half as assertive as them, wow.

    Hi, I'm Mars!
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    F**k that dude in general. What a complete twat.

    sarcastic cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This lady's got spunk and I love it.

    HighNMightyBigshot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do men think that if they KNOW he likes her, why cannot she KNOW that she will not like him?

    Rider
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Getting rid of creeps for good is an art, she is a master.

    Frankenfrog
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His parents should be ashamed of themselves. What the hell kind of should have been swallowed mess is this

    JessRS
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More women should do this, scare the little shitlords off their pants and send them running.

    Carrie Laughs
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes and no. I love her responses but he might as well. Some people do, sadly, get off on a fight. Also, all the time you engage you give the other person hope that the next message might be a change of heart. These people are often delusional, don't forget. The truth is you are better off not engaging once you have politely so no thanks. Then if needs be blocking them.

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    #17

    Nice Guy Was Sympathetic About Her Gma Dying But Passive Aggressive On N*des That Never Happened

    Nice Guy Was Sympathetic About Her Gma Dying But Passive Aggressive On N*des That Never Happened

    yagosf39 Report

    Pamela24
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gosh, the internet is full of tits, can't you just search for some?! And also therapy, while you're there?

    Chucky Cheezburger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, what the hell...Google image search dude...you can see all the tatas you want...big'uns, little'uns, light'uns, dark'uns, everything from skeeter bites to grapefruit in a tube sock with a fried egg laid on it...

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    Aahzmandus Pervect
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are now censoring the word "nude"? Wow. Just wow.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So bizarre and regressive. Borderline body shaming.

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    After Glow
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "hey sorry ur gma died but send them titty pics asap kthx"

    Cath poop
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's so disappointing to base your personality around your d**k.

    Viviane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can send him some great tits. They're not very big, but they do have sharp peckers. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_tit

    Queen Amethyst
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hehe. I used to ask them if they liked a pussy hairy or bald. You can guess the answer. Then "would you like to see mine?" "Mmm yes please" then send them a picture of one of those hairless cats from Austin Powers. I found it amusing and some of them did too!

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    Michael Naretto
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So sorry about your grandmother. Show me your tits....

    Viviane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't specify whose. If the funeral is open casket, I'd tell the funeral director, "See this guy? Keep him away from my granny."

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    Yort
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank goodness you guys censored nudes.

    KieLeaHar
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would’ve gone off my nut at that scumbag, sent the screenshots to his entire family- parents, aunts, uncles, even grandparents if they were on there-, asked them if this is what they raised him to be like, posted it on his page for everyone to see, and to give warning to other women -if I had, in fact, NOT said anything like that, I would post that convo too-, make sure everyone sees it, then wait til he gets upset and angry, say karma is a b!tch, then block him. 🤷‍♀️

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    #18

    My Friend Sent Me This Dm That She Got And I Can’t Not Post It Here

    My Friend Sent Me This Dm That She Got And I Can’t Not Post It Here

    Jiminsrealwife Report

    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a rapist in the making

    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rapist and a racist. But I'm sure he's a nice guy if you just give him the chance he's owed. 🙄

    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why isn't he in prison? That is f*****g disturbing as f**k.

    Tash
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gross, horrible, awful person.

    Bron
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His mum would be so proud

    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Arseholes who watch violent porn deserve to be condemned to a sexual relationship with their hand for all eternity

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LMAO he waited six hours to type out his assault role play. With the stars and everything. Does he thinks anything in stars is really happening?

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This guy have some seeerious problems

    Yort
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got distracted after the ethnic slur by the mismatched “el goblina”. LA goblina, estupido.

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    “Better education is definitely key but it is also down to all of us to challenge it by not allowing toxic masculinity to keep going. It means that we all have to actively challenge misogyny and homophobia,” Silva said that some people still turn a blind eye to hatred. The process of change and a more compassionate, respectful, and inclusive world, he said, is long, exhausting, and an ongoing fight between competing ideas.

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    #19

    Man Had A Chance And Blew It

    Man Had A Chance And Blew It

    MichelinaOme Report

    Jess Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m starting to see that all these men are what they say they hate about women - illogical, over emotional, mood swings, too much talking, desperate, jealous…

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in a male dominated field and I say this all the time. So many of the female stereotypes fit. HIIIIGHLY emotional, easily upset, unstable and hormonal. Illogical, pouty, talk too much, just all of it. I literally had to apologize to my employee last night for hurting his feelings by telling him to not start a new task until he’s finished the first. What the actual fùck

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    Lena Flising
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She said she might need a ride later, and he still thinks he f****d up? Sure, asking her when she was jogging was probably not the best move, but it was still trying to be helpful. We are only humans and say stupid things sometimes. As long as they are not stupid and mean, you can usually bounce back. Can this guy see the difference between flirty and being just nice and polite? So many "nice guys" can't; they think that when a girl smiles, she's being flirty, or that women sleep with everyone they smile at.

    Kelli Pike
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not that anyone wants you anyway, before or after anyone else.

    Viviane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The update is the actual f**k up. A smart guy would have simply warned her and waited to see what happened. Maybe she had no real interest in the office gigolo, maybe she just wanted a one-night stand, maybe she would get her heart broken. I get that it's annoying, but she's not the one who closed the door.

    Gin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. Worse than that. He's possessive and throwing a tantrum because he feels she should be talking to him alone. He'd earmarked her as 'his'. He thinks she shouldn't be talking to this man because she knows that 'he doesn't like him' and she's breaking a rule that exists in his own head. He isn't reacting like this because the other man really is the office gigolo - he's probably just an ordinary but popular guy. This creep has thrown his toys out the pram because the toy he wanted his now 'damaged' in his eyes. Really revolting.

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    #20

    A-Hole From My Old High-School Posted This Unironically Lmao

    A-Hole From My Old High-School Posted This Unironically Lmao

    Eraredia Report

    Call Me Mars
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh dear god, that caption... made my skin crawl.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes the cringe is so deep it sends chills through your whole body. A cringe seizure of sorts.

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When an actually nice person loses their patience, they don't just start calling women whores out of nowhere. Even if they do something awful in the heat of the moment, they apologise sincerely and learn to do better, instead of calling themselves nice over and over again and blaming everyone but themselves.

    Draj
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Morel like the devil cringes, along with everybody else.

    Rockstar
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the women pull out our their gay friends with an attitude who aren't afraid to clap back.

    Maurettis
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember some similar phrase from a Bud Spencer and Terence Hill movie . But that was comedy...

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    #21

    Comment On A Meme Of A Girl With Cleavage Talking About Her Necklace

    Comment On A Meme Of A Girl With Cleavage Talking About Her Necklace

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    Bron
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How to say “I’m a misogynistic POS” without saying “I’m a misogynistic POS”

    Bexxxxx
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, Chris Evans is hot af but if he came up and smacked the hell out of my tits I’d be pretty pissed off & would have a very different opinion of him after. (Edit: it’s been 1 month and BP hasn’t censored “hell” yet 🙊 hell hell hell f**k hell)

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    Casey McAlister
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude, looking at a woman's cleavage makes you fantasize about Chris Evans. Are you sure you need a girl?

    Thorfin Wolfsbane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    translation: "I wish I were Chris Evans"

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, a lot to try and explain here. Firstly, It is my understanding that having someone 'smack the hell out of' someone tits is rather painful, and I don't imagine there are too many people that would be in a particularly amorous mood after said smacking. The next part, the bit about impregnating, IF that did happen, that is what they call 'consent' (remember that because it will be important in a moment). Now, complimenting someone is a nice thing to do, right? Right? Well... no, actually. Unsolicited comments about appearance are not "nice", Especially to strangers.

    Kelli Pike
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not that he's bitter about his complete lack of charms or anything.

    Imogene Cargeaux
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    3 years ago

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    I mean, he's not wrong about Chris Evans... I'd let him slap my titties anyday.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
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    3 years ago

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    Yep. That’s exactly how it works. Now deal with it, ugly.

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    #22

    Worst Selection And Placement Of Emojis I Have Ever Seen

    Worst Selection And Placement Of Emojis I Have Ever Seen

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He says "most men are egocentric".....I think that was more of a self-reflection.

    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd rather have intimacy with my air fryer.

    von Funnyname
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Modest too. He forgot to mention he was modest...

    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Comparing to other texts it's more funny than creepy, but i have a feeling it can quickly evolve in some creepy s***

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right. We haven't seen him respond to OP saying no yet.

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    Hi, I'm Mars!
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That made me extremely uncomfortable. I've gotten very similar messages in the past. I'm beginning to think all women get some version of this message. How disturbing 🤢🤮

    Natalia A
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if they're genuinely friends, then this isn't as bad as the others. Awkward yes, but not abusive.

    Tobias Rieper
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wooow i bet her panties were soaking

    Viviane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some folks do that if they laugh too hard.

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    #23

    A Gentleman Among Us

    A Gentleman Among Us

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    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Repeat after me: You are not owed the benefir of the doubt. You are not owed a chance. If someone does not like you, THEY DO NOT LIKE YOU. They owe you exactly nothing! Get over yourself!

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    here is a very good quote I heard, AHEM, 'You need to stop giving them the benefit of the doubt if they are getting all the benefits and you are getting all the doubts'

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    #24

    “Cr**gy Night” (Sent To Me By My Friend)

    “Cr**gy Night” (Sent To Me By My Friend)

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    May
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is just thrashy all round

    Carrie B
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    Premium
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How? Why is she trashy?

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    Karl Baxter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His use of “of” instead of “have” is a dumping offence all on its own before we even get to the other stuff.

    Fat Harry
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never mind all the other s**t, she should have dumped him for "would of" alone.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That list. Jesus FÛCKING Christ. He called other girls, made a mess, called her a dumbass and a liar and still tried to get his smelly dïck sucked. This isn’t NASCAR, she doesn’t need anyone to “ride for her.” What an absolute utter loser. I bet he’ll be alone for a long time.

    GirlFriday
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dated a guy for a little while and the first time I had him in my home, he took off his shoes in the middle of my kitchen and left them there, spilled his drink on the floor and didn't offer to clean it up, broke the towel rack in the bathroom and tried to hide it from me. I told him that the ice dispenser didn't work if either door was open (he had one door open) and he kept mashing down on the dispenser and finally slammed his hand into the dispenser when the glass wasn't triggering it. I asked him to leave. That was the final straw. I will not tolerate my space being disrespected like that. I work too hard to pay for my home so I can be safe and comfortable. I got a bunch of cry baby texts the next day.

    Rage of Aquarius
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is just living with my brother😒

    Efia
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    grammar is the "first impression" for me while online dating. Reading "would of" three times in a row, gives me goosebumps. And english is not even my first language.

    Frankenfrog
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't reported him to the police for his grammar massacre alone

    Yort
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the hell is the censored word in the title?

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    #25

    My Brother Posted This On Snapchat Lol

    My Brother Posted This On Snapchat Lol

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    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nobody asks that anymore. This guy is stuck in like 1992. People either date until they find someone or they stay single and casual.

    A
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Nobody asks that anymore" Really?? Untrue. I have many friends that are about fed up with dating, and have said this exact phrase. The don't wish to "stay single and casual", they want a good man (or woman) to settle down with.

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    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so tired of men who have so much trouble accepting rejection that they blame it on women being too stupid to choose the right partners. Most relationships don't work out. It's not because she didn't choose you, you kn*bhead. You wouldn't have been magically better than the other guy. She didn't choose you because SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU. The failure of a relationship with whatever person she did choose doesn't validate your "nice guy" stalker BS because she's still NEVER GOING TO LIKE YOU.

    Sky Render
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone really needs to tell the "nice guys" that all of the "chads" they're so jealous of got the girl because they were "nice guys" too. The only difference was that they managed to trick the girl in question into trusting them...

    Felipe Meyer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well it seems then most are stuck in 1992..meanwhile living in year 2050

    Saint Jimmy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you considered disowning your brother?

    Chucky Cheezburger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know where they're at...They're sitting at home laughing at these cringy posts on bored panda.

    CatWoman312
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We ask where all the good men are because the bar is set so low we could Just walk on it

    #26

    Dating Without Sex Is Like Being Put On Trial, Who Knew?!

    Dating Without Sex Is Like Being Put On Trial, Who Knew?!

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    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She was way nicer to him than I would have been. It took me a long time to learn to not give these jackasses the time of day.

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    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It should be a 'When I'm comfortable and ready rule' with a 'Maybe never'' caveat.

    Ashlea Saunders
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah buddy, pushing women into having sex with you when they're not comfortable with it is really the way to a woman's heart.

    Gwyn
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These guys don't want women to put off sex ... They might find out the guy is an AH and then won't have sex with them!

    Lioness Nature
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. They want to be able to say after they get off "oh by the way I'm an asshole, too late you already had sex with me". Never fall for this make them wait.

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    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All he had to do was to wait for three dates, but now, he's ended up with zero.

    Maurettis
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So basically she felt the smell of s**t and chose to run

    Lena Flising
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Getting to know each other - put on a trial, apparently... Sounds like he's just there for one thing.

    Felipe Meyer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well he seems not very experienced in dating.. it happens or it don't. Either there is a flow or a Staudamm.

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    #27

    Ta For Goading Him But It Was Funny

    Ta For Goading Him But It Was Funny

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    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women, think about your future children before you crush an incel. 😃

    S.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Surprise, surprise! Not everyone wants children, my guy. Jokes aside, it really makes me sad that platonic relationships aren't as valued as romantic ones. :(

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another southern trashbag who sees a woman as a walking womb. And yet another loser who thinks he’s somehow special and different from the rest of society just because he doesn’t fit in. Just because sports-watching is lame doesn’t mean you’re special for not watching. He probably has another extremely common and equally uncool hobby.

    ForgotMyPWSendHelp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, how is this gift from god to women even still single?

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    #28

    Nice Guys In Animal Crossing!

    Nice Guys In Animal Crossing!

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    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IS THIS ON ANIMAL CROSSING

    Hi, I'm Mars!
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why only my niece is allowed on my island. If I had friends, I'd allow them but alas I do not have any.

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    Peppy Piplup
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think you can block people in Animal Crossing... But you can "accidentally" disconnect the internet and get them booted off your island. 😛

    Samantha Lomb
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At this point all internet interactions should have a block feature

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    Cath poop
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I play a lot of Xbox and it's always funny when a dude messages you saying how hot your avatar is, like you know I'm not a cartoon right?

    Crazy Dog Lady
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg nice guys on animal crossing I can't.

    KieLeaHar
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t even know what animal crossing is.. 😆

    sarcastic cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a video game by Nintendo. Pretty laid-back game,personally I love it

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    ThatOneWriter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Animal Crossing is too pure for incels. Don't dirty it like this 😭

    sarcastic cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even on animal crossing!? This is disgusting!

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    #29

    We Met Once. He’s 37

    We Met Once. He’s 37

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    Mama Panda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like he wants to compete with her past relationships. What a jerk!

    Marnie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, "Wow, a lot of relationship questions" does NOT mean they don't want to talk about it. Sometimes it's just an observation, like "Wow! So many questions about software development! I like software development, so ask away!"

    Lena Flising
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He doesn't have a lot of time? Average lifespan for men is around 74, so he's only half-way. And, he was in his 20's just eight years ago. Oh, and what does any of this have to do with her past relationships?

    KieLeaHar
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he wants to compare his past to hers and get angry when she may have dated a bit more than him; then he thinks he’s gonna be her Prince Charming that she falls madly in love with and he changes her life, or something? 😒

    Amaranthim Talon
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I don't know why you intrigue me so much, but you do" - That's the hook that is supposed to catch her. Like, 'Oh! He finds me fascinating!' As if she is weak and needs his validation, smh

    #30

    Posted Byu/Cecinestpasunlogin 23 Days Ago Silver2 Reaction From “Friend” Of 5 Years To Me Leaving A Party With A Ons- Additional Context In Comments

    Posted Byu/Cecinestpasunlogin 23 Days Ago Silver2 Reaction From “Friend” Of 5 Years To Me Leaving A Party With A Ons- Additional Context In Comments

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    Thaddeus Thompson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I called dibs on that human, no fair! Lame.

    Stephanie Cunningham
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ladies, I can tell you from experience: If he's acting crazy jealous at the very beginning of your relationship, it's probably not going to get better. The first argument I had with my ex-husband was about his jealousy. By the time I left the marriage after 24 years, we could not even go to the grocery store together without him accusing me of looking at another man. Do yourself a favor and GET OUT.

    K Witmer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had the same experience w an ex. The second date he got mad bc my roommate brought up an ad about a vibrator. He was jealous of a vibrator that I did not own bc my roommate brought up a silly conversation about one. It got worse from there as you can imagine. I'm glad you got out of your horrible relationship and I hope you feel great!

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    April Miller
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really love punctuation and being able to make sense out of - at the very least - the title/caption of a post.

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