“No Means No”: 16 Simple Lessons That Will Turn This Mom’s Sons Into Someone’s Dream Husbands

If you're informed and act upon/behave upon that information... AND know a bunch of dudes who do the same thing, that's awesome. The fact that posts like these even EXIST is because... well, sorry to say, but you and yours are the outliers. I definitely recall and have seen (repeatedly) jokes, memes, heck commercials and whole classrooms/lecture halls of men that ridicule and/or flat out "don't get" ANY of these things. In fact, many times we're 'challenged' to 'prove' things like... cramps happen and that they're bad (for example).

Nico, well logically you must have been 'taught' in some sense at some point in your life - otherwise how would you know? I'm a woman and I only understand because I live it, and if we didn't speak about it - I wouldn't know it's 'normal' to feel so ill, I'd have probably thought there was something very wrong with me. Many men don't know these things, honestly why would they if they don't live it, or the woman in their lives don't speak about it, or if there aren't posts about it. Lack of knowledge doesn't mean you aren't a good person, it just means you aren't educated on a certain topic. I don't think that this post is trying to be condescending or attack men, I think she's just trying to spread awareness. Hope that makes sense Xxx

From her name, it seems she is an Indian (or at least of Indian origin) and being an Indian myself, I can say most of men around us have never been taught these things. So contextually, this can be generalised. Each of her post in this thread was spot on

You'd be surprised how many men think we can "hold it in"

If you know these things, then you were taught: even if only by it being talked about and you being around to here and/or by example. The fact is, this is not the reality of a lot of men and the women who have to deal with them later. I've experienced in my own home in my own relationships: pee on the floor; refusal to shop, cook, do laundry; issues in his behaviour being reinterpreted as 'you're too emtional'; him calling his mother a wolf and impossible to be around because of her period when all she asked was that her husband and son do their share of the housework as she also works full time; Private details of previous partner's interests and biology being shared as a laughing point.... I could go on. This is not even touching on parenthood or abuse from strangers.

I understand what you are saying, but I am continually shocked at the number of men - and women - who do not know how the female reproductive system and menstrual cycles work. And at the insane ideas they’ve picked up from others (parents, family, friends, etc). I cannot remotely understand how this is possible, given that sex ed is meant to be part of high school curriculum, but it seems to be a genuine issue.

If we live in a society where being told about a concept (like menstruation) that some may never experience is being 'talked down' to, then I don't want to live on a society anymore.

I agree with you that most men know how to be good men without being talked down to or being specifically taught but where menstruation is concerned so many don’t get that it is not only uncomfortable for many women, it can be extremely painful. I had a male friend at university who would get me hot water bottles and painkillers. None of my female friends had that and they all thought he was amazing. I don’t think this mother is talking down to grown men in any way, I think she is teaching her young son these things because the men she has known have not known them or considered them.

Have you missed all the videos showing how many men don't understand the female reproductive system in the least? Think women can "hold it" or it isn't that bad, or an excuse to get out of doing things. Some think women pee out of their vagina. No,men do not universally understand these things and explaining it isn't "talking doen to them"

You and the other men, like you must have been taught from someone most likely a woman about these things. It is unlikely that you were born with this knowledge. A woman will be lucky to have you as a partner in life.

Men do need to be taught about womans bodies and their own. This bs about patents teaching their children about "no" and feelings, and physiology, just doesn't happen in way too many households.

It's great that this is the case for you and other men you personally know, but I doubt you know the entire planet's male population in order for you to affirm that most men know how to be good men. If most men knew that, as another commenter already said, we wouldn't need such posts, among other stuff like laws, to protect, help and empower women. I can guarantee you that in my country, a European one, many men DO NOT know how to be good men, let alone good humans. Domestic violence is pretty common, psychological one even more so, and sexism and misogyny seen as jokes is rampant. In such a scenario talking about a woman's period boils down to sickness/female weakness/being unclean/women's punishment for the "original sin". So yeah...... glad you know decent men, but that's definitely not most men.

You mean woman-splained? And not all men know how to be a good man, if they've not been modelled it from an young age by their fathers.

Way to center the conversation around yourself 🙄

No one should be talked down to for any reason. I've never met a single person who responds well to being openly disrespected. That said - if you weren't taught these specific things and yet still practice life with women this way, then you are an anomaly, not the norm. I'm glad you are out there and able to share your knowledge with others and I thank you for that. I'd also like to point out that what is good for the gander is good for the goose, and nothing short of TRUE MUTUAL RESPECT in any relationship should be accepted or tolerated. It can be learned over time, but there has to be a base layer of respect already there to work off of, and I believe this is this mothers way of creating that base layer that can later be built and tailored WITH, not by, prospective life partners 💕

If they inherently know these things, then why don’t they do them? Most of these things do have to be taught.

Well in some if not most parts of Asia and Muslim-majority countries, sex education itself doesn't exist and children have to be taught by their parents or just being told "you will know what to do during your first night with spouse" like we're animals with mating instincts. Also, you'd be surprised by how my own mother would straightforwardly ask me to "power through" my own menstrual cramps.

You would be VERY surprised at how many men reach adulthood and don't know these simple truths! I have boys AND girls, plus now grandsons and granddaughters, so I know.

Most people don't imo don't get things they weren't through themselves even when taught :)

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The thing that is making you uncomfortable is called misandry and how it is acceptable for some reason. This woman has had a bad experience and it has turned her into a hateful bigot. Unfortunately her position in widly accepted right now..

The difference is kinda difficult to explain to a young child. Also unimportant to a young child.

No one is saying having a period is a sickness. They are saying sometimes you can feel sick or ill during a period. Completely different to what you’re saying.

But it IS a health issue...it can be incredibly painful..like for me I've been in tears and had to leave work etc, it causes problems in life

It's kinda funny because I feel like men who complain like this could not handle one DAY of what a women has to go through.