Pregnant Woman Under Fire From In-Laws For Choosing Career Over Being A Stay-At-Home Mom
Extended family is a double-edged sword. It offers additional support and connection, yet can also bring more tension and conflicts.
One woman recently made a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ about her mother-in-law being the source of the latter.
Apparently, the lady cannot make peace with the fact that her son’s wife continues to work now that they have kids, and is going out of her way to persuade the couple to reconsider their arrangement.
This woman is happy to work despite the fact that her husband is earning a lot of money
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But her mother-in-law wants her to stop and focus on raising their kids
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It’s a shame that the lady is too stubborn to appreciate the couple’s happiness
According to Jennifer Petriglieri, who is an associate professor of organizational behavior at INSEAD and the author of Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work, these partners do face unique challenges, so they must work out a way that lets both thrive. If they don’t, then regrets and imbalances quickly build up, threatening to hinder their careers, dissolve their relationship, or both.
For her book, Petriglieri did a six-year investigation into the lives of more than 100 dual-career couples, and found that they overcome the hurdles in their way by directly addressing deeper psychological and social forces—such as struggles for power and control; personal hopes, fears, and losses; and assumptions and cultural expectations about the roles partners should play in each other’s lives and what it means to have a good relationship or career.
So it’s cool to know that the Redditor’s husband stood by her and echoed his wife’s position to his mom.
Arguments could be made that such conflicts are, to a certain extent, unavoidable. Writer Megan Carnegie, for example, says that the historic formation of heterosexual family structures may be partly responsible for creating tension between extended family members, and form the basis of the trope of the meddling mother-in-law specifically.
After all, in some patrilineal societies, parents choose who their child marries, and once married, the daughter-in-law moves in with her husband’s family.
As the senior woman of the household in these arrangements, the mother feels she’s in charge of the domestic sphere, and has a higher social status and decision-making authority over her daughter-in-law.
A 2016 survey by digital lifestyle brand Fatherly showed that of those couples who do argue with their in-laws, 29% said it was about parenting style, followed by 15% who brought up politics, 14% said money and 4% said their in-laws needled them about career success.
Everyone has their own version of how a household should be run.
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People who have read her story are expressing their support for the woman and her husband
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"Bangmaid". I have learned a new word today. And goddamn, what a perfect term for a domestic servant you're sleeping with.
My Mil got a crying Fit because my Husband served the Christmas dinner (that I had cooked) I was pregnant with our second child and lying down due to severe hypermedia . She told him that he was "used" as a waiter ...
For God's sake, look at it the other way. If you stayed home because you felt you had to but you had rather be working, would you have made a good parent? Would your children have benefitted from having a mother around who wouldn't have chosen this option if it was up to her? There is nothing wrong with having 2 working parents. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you're a good parent: there are lots of SAHM who abuse their children in the most horrific ways just out of their own frustrations. You and your partner are setting an excellent example for your children to succeed in life on both professional and social levels. Of course people try to make you do as they do because it makes them feel less insecure that way about their own life choices. Just carry on with what you do: you're doing an excellent job.
"Bangmaid". I have learned a new word today. And goddamn, what a perfect term for a domestic servant you're sleeping with.
My Mil got a crying Fit because my Husband served the Christmas dinner (that I had cooked) I was pregnant with our second child and lying down due to severe hypermedia . She told him that he was "used" as a waiter ...
For God's sake, look at it the other way. If you stayed home because you felt you had to but you had rather be working, would you have made a good parent? Would your children have benefitted from having a mother around who wouldn't have chosen this option if it was up to her? There is nothing wrong with having 2 working parents. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you're a good parent: there are lots of SAHM who abuse their children in the most horrific ways just out of their own frustrations. You and your partner are setting an excellent example for your children to succeed in life on both professional and social levels. Of course people try to make you do as they do because it makes them feel less insecure that way about their own life choices. Just carry on with what you do: you're doing an excellent job.
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