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Men Share 30 Times They Stopped Sexist Behavior
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With media so heavily focused on bad men, you might begin to think that there aren't any good ones left. To find out if this was the case, Twitter user @emrazz addressed their 137K followers, asking all males to share their experience in standing up to misogyny. (Facebook cover image: Alan Kotok)
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The tweet received 833 responses in just two days. And it wasn't just men telling their stories. Folks of both genders were applauding these random acts of kindness, saying their faith in humanity had just been restored.
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Seeing this kind of activity on Twitter is especially interesting. The social network was dubbed as "a toxic place for women" by Amnesty International after the organization conducted a study there. Calling it Troll Patrol, the researchers used crowdsourcing, data sience & machine learning to "measure violence and abuse against women on Twitter."
A friend's son quit his after-school electronica club because girls are recruited, then made secretary. He complained, nothing changed, he left.
"Our findings reveal the sheer scale and nature of online abuse faced by women and provides a resource to researchers and engineers interested in exploring the potential of machine learning in content moderation," Amnesty International wrote. "These findings are the result of a collaboration between Amnesty International and Element AI, a global artificial intelligence software product company. Together, we surveyed millions of tweets received by 778 journalists and politicians from the UK and US throughout 2017 representing a variety of political views, and media spanning the ideological spectrum. Using cutting-edge data science and machine learning techniques, we were able to provide a quantitative analysis of unprecedented scale of online abuse against women in the UK and USA."
Ha! I just about shot my coffee out of my nose! Your husband's a real mensch.
Together, they found out that "7.1% of tweets sent to the women in the study were 'problematic' or 'abusive.' This amounts to 1.1 million tweets mentioning 778 women across the year, or one every 30 seconds."
Furthermore, women of color, (black, Asian, Latinx and mixed-race women) were 34% more likely to be mentioned in abusive or problematic tweets than white women. "Black women were disproportionately targeted, being 84% more likely than white women to be mentioned in abusive or problematic tweets."
Among its conclusions, the study stated that "Twitter's data states that 2.8 million unique accounts were reported for abuse of which Twitter actioned 248,000 – approximately 9%. However, the data published only reflects unique accounts that were reported for abuse and actioned. Twitter should also publish the total number of tweets reported for abuse and hateful conduct - disaggregated by category - in order to avoid potentially underplaying the true scale of abuse on the platform."
Once my boss was harrassing an intern by make comments on how nice she looked and that he would love to spend some private time with her. I told him that I'd love to spend some private time with his wife to tell her what a jerk he was. Didn't change him much but at least it changed the way he treated female coworkers.
Why did he need a sandwich made if he had lunch? Though I totally agree with the outcome I'm just feeling a bit confused.
Did you really..did you really have to make a Jake Paul reference?
Everyday at work I have a customer that comes and call me names , like : Hey how you doing? Me: Thank you , fine , what about you? Him: you are sooo sexy, Oh my god you are soooo sexy...why don´t you give me your number and we go out? Me: NO thank you He: why not? I can come to your house and we can drink something? Miziii pitziii sexy girl , baby you are looking goooooddd - THIS IS EVERYDAY and I am sooo sick of that. I´m ignoring him when he starts talk to me this way but he don´t stop. AND he has a wife and kids at home. This is so disgusting, he disgusts me! I have no problem with people tell me I am looking good or something but he is doing that in a disgusting way. And when I say he should please stop with this he say´s why? I should take this as a compliment that a man like him is attracted to me......
I beat up a Staff NCO who was groping one of my passed out Marines. Lucky I didn't end up in the brig
I want to praise all of these men. I completely understand that sometimes it really isn't easy to step up. But whenever you do something like this, you make the world a little better for all of us. Thank you. <3
So I think this stuff is super important and yes, there are definitely times having a dude around has helped BUT...LADIES!!!! We must learn to stand up for ourselves!!!! Stop waiting for a "movement"!!
We need to be educated to be able to defend ourselves. Often assault or unwanted attention comes out of the blue and because you’re not expecting it it shocks you so you don’t respond as you should. There’s a reason animals play dead, fight or flight. If we are prepared and have trained for the situation then we can respond accordingly and “lady up” but the response has to be trained. We need self defence taught in physical education classes for girls at middle and high schools. Not just getting out of a physical hold but appropriate verbal responses to shut down the unwanted attention as soon as it manifests. Once you are able to spot it and the response is automatic it would prevent a lot of assaults.
Perhaps it might be more beneficial to educate males at a young age to not behave like this. Women and girls are always the ones having to create coping strategies because until recently, men have simply not been told not that this behaviour is unacceptable before they pull this BS.
Google martial arts delusion, and then go punch the men who do this stuff instead of telling women to become soldiers in order to live. Signed, a female martial artist who couldn't move when her stalker advanced on her.
"Lady up" just escalates the issue into potentially harmful situations. Often times you don't know these men and how they will react to adversity. In my experience it turns potentially violent very quickly. (These types of men don't handle rejection well)
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I'm literally eleven and am self taught. I just practice on my friends' friends who are like 16. I'm black and a girl. This bish ain't taking no nonsense.
Maybe if i wasnt terrified of men escalating it further with the very real possibility of bodily harm. Im not physically very strong and can't always rely on other people around me to help. There's a reason women tend to smile at creeps and politely try to get away.
What am I supposed to do when I’m trying to walk to the car and a group of 4 boys slow down and yell “Hey cutie! Where you going? Hop in!” I’m 15 and tiny. I know how to protect myself but for real I would be done. I choose life. I just ignore them.
Get back to us when someone twice your size and drunk grabs you and tries to take you with him. YOU are part of the problem. How many times have you jumped in to help someone who needs it? Or do you think they deserve it?
Its interesting that you assume that has never happened to me....or that I'm so heartless I'd just watch someone get assaulted. My comment was about empowering ourselves as women and not waiting for someone else to do it for us. Maybe this post hit close to home for you and for that, I'm sorry for any experience you may have had. I never once, though, even insinuated, that anyone ever deserved to be assaulted in any way. Your race to judgement, however, actually IS the problem.
you ARE the problem
When did we meet? Cause you sure know a lot about me and my intentions from one small comment. How does all of that work out for you in your real life, dear?
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@ Pam. You can take as many self defence courses as you want. You can be a martial artist. It doesn't matter. If someone is bent on hurting you, they'll find a way to do it. It's also disingenuous to pretend that you can "get away" from someone once they have their hands on you. Men have the advantage of upper body strength. Once you're in grabbing distance, you're done. ...///.. Your phoney concern trolling is as patronizing as calling me "dear" and expecting to get away with it, btw. Maybe you need to grow up and quit pretending that you can "handle" anything.
Sometimes getting loud is enough, and you need to practice that. Some women are not used to yelling and calling attention to themselves. Practice yelling and screaming as loud as you can, like in the woods or something.
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100% agree!!! Women need to lady up and start standing up for themselves!! "Oh, I didn't tell him to stop cause I didn't want to make a scene" Really? So you'd rather a guy continually verbally harass you or worse while you wait for some stranger to come to your aid as opposed to yelling and causing a big scene and embarrassing the loser?!?! That's just pathetic.
That's part of the problem, many women are taught that to be a "lady" you don't cause a scene but rather just sit there and "endure" whatever it is. The ability to recognize and defend against in those kinds of situations doesn't seem to be a natural part of makes a woman so we have to start teaching it. And that kind of sweeping change to to school curriculums need a "movement".
I really have hope that my generation will be the one to end the misogyny (and misandry) that plagues our society. In the mean time, have you heard of misanthropy? The belief that all humans are inferior?
My cat has that.
My dog has it too.
I was 17 and worked part-time as a waitress at a local small "family" bar. I got harassed multiple times verbally, thankfully, there was no actual physical harassment, but yes, people tried. The scary thing was, I didn't even realize I was being harassed. I considered those were "over flirting". I remember there was an old frequent customer, probably older than my dad, who was married as well, always tried to flirt with me, but I just ignored him every time, one time he tried to kiss me, saying its "a gift", i pushed him away, telling him he was disgusting. My boss, who was a man, who I always considered a kind and nice person, told me "its just a joke, don't be so harsh"..... I quit the job even though I desperately needed money for my study. But I didn't think of it as anything serious, I only quit because I felt it was too much work for little money, and I had to put up with such annoyance, only when I look back to that time, I realized how fucked up it was.
I may be commenting late, but that really was messed up. That man shouldn't have been bothering you and your boss should have taken it seriously.
I used to have a co-worker that would tell clients to talk to the girl in the office. I asked him to stop referring to me as "the girl" or I would start calling him "the boy". He looked at me with puzzlement and asked: "what should I call you?" and was fully shocked when I said, "you could use my name". I doubt he meant offense, but his cluelessness about why he was wrong is so much worse. In another instance, a male co-worker covered the phones one day while I was out of the office. When I got back he said he preferred working inside on such a rainy day and my boss told him his legs were too hairy for office work. I responded with "You assume I shave my legs", and my co-worker says "He assumes I don't". I've never seen a grown man turn that shade of red before or since.
This was wonderful to read, brings back
* brings back fate in humanity:) (Sorry for that unfinished comment, my dog decided to walk on my phone when I was writing it...)
2 stories come to mind. When I was 18 I took a job at a good classy pub. I saw 2 guys walk in chatting when one of them pinched a girls bum who was sat at the other end of the bar. As I walked towards them I saw my manager heading towards them but even before he got there his friend hit him on the shoulder and spun him to face him, said something that was probably along the lines of "Not cool dude!" before headbutting him. My manager arrived to here in time to hear the offender teary eyed say "I'm sorry for being a dick" Second I was involved in . I was 23 and lived in a second floor flat when I hear shouting outside. I looked and saw a couple arguing. Suddenly he punched her hard in the stomach! I ran downstairs and did a flying crappy wrestler style kick and he flew into the bushes. I got up and took her hand and limped back to my flat with her in tow. By the time he had got out of the bushes we had got inside. She used my phone to call her dad and he picked her up.
All the above examples are just as bad as a male trying to belittle another male by calling him a woman. That implies that being female is somehow inferior to being male. He insulted his mother, grandmother, sisters, aunts, female cousins, future wife, daughters, daughters-in-law, and his future grand daughters; along with every female on the planet. When God made Adam, He said it was good. When God made Eve, He said it was very good, and He meant that about BOTH of them.
I don't think any god has made anything, but the start of your post is really good and absolutly correct!
Thankyou so much to all you wonderful people who step up and make a difference. I too as a female have often stepped up for someone who is being harrassed whether it be man/woman/child or animal. It makes a real difference! So..Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou!
It's really important that a movement like this start among men themselves, not only because harassing men often listen to other men while ignoring women protesting, but also because while reacting they teach not only themselves and men around them a proper way of conduct. Men have generally a way of ignoring what women say or think, so a man who dare stand side by side with a woman is in my eyes a truly strong man of integrity, and the men who harass and degrade women are weak and pathetic. They show how afraid they are of women, when they steal women's power away from them that way. I love true, strong men, who have integrity enough not to feel challenged by a strong woman, who realises that a woman's strength doesn't take away any of his own strength.
Random guy from my high school: "What's cooking good looking?" Me: (Giving him the death stare) "What?" Him: "Oh sorry. *Internal choking* I thought you were someone else." Me: "That's what I thought." I hope he has learned from that situation. First time getting catcalled, too.
"The Look" tends to work really well. Maybe they learned to respect it from their mamas.
I was at a restaurant where this sexist loser was with another girl who paid for his meal and left before him. He then immediately tried to hit on the waitress and get her number I let the waitress know she didn’t want him because he can’t even pay for his own food or have enough respect for the woman he was with so he wasn’t going to respect her either. He made some incoherent statements and then left embarrassed
lol
Some kid was harassing one of the younger girls I was friends with at summer camp one time. I stepped in and claimed to be her big brother. It turned out he knew her REAL brother though so I ended up walking away feeling like a moron but I don't regret trying at least.
Disclaimer; I did not literally 'walk away', I got one of the councilors, but it's the turn of phrase.
Working in a home improvement store during a job fair a guy won't leave me alone and finally asks why I'm not a model. Co worker comes over and says she's a hand model and flicks him off "like this, see?!" I never laughed so hard at watching this guy getting embarrassed
All these stories make it even weirder that the women I've seen on the receiving end of what rational people would consider harassment take it as a compliment. I mean, they're a part of the 10am drinking crowd, but still.
My favorite part....there are male readers who are saying to themselves...what? that needs recognition? nah, that's just what we do. Thank you to the silent folks who do their part to quash inequality and abusive nature. YOU ROCK.
Wow, this "hashwadoobies" person is just a bag of s**t.
So many times. Mostly in crowded places, it happened a bounch of times to notice a girl being followed barely trying to leave the stupid back and started talking like I knew her, see him flushing away.
I'm 13 and if i can stop a 190cm drunk man with just words, then you can.
Ok, this was my sister in law, but its good: once, she and a friend sat on a bench in their town when a flasher flashed... well, everything at them. My sister in law said "wow, what a tiny one" to the guy. Not what he expected, and I have heard that the man walked away fairly red-faced from the encounter.
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Oh wow, thank goodness, not all men *eyeroll*
according to some "ALL men are potential rapists"
All humans are potential rapists. Because we are all able to rape someone. But being potential and being an actual one is a big difference. Also we all are potential murderers.
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Bullshit. Who are these "some"?
It would be so much easier if women just wore green shirts if they wanted to be talked to and red shirts if they didn’t.
it's not talking to--it's how you talk
Why don't just put a yellow star on the clothing of females who don't want to talk. For this you have a great historical pattern! So they still can wear the shirt with the color they like. And if it is not clear, the start of this post is sarcam.
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Why do you think I wear black every day? :-)
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One of the pros of being Gay? This kind of thing never happens
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Posts like this just make me sad. I really thought the general mindset of people was improving but having so many mixed cases thrown in here where it wasn't really clear if OP was doing the right thing or if they were just misusing a relatively harmless situation to abreact their negative emotions towards misogyny(like Tor Rolf so crudely said, joke police). And all comments questioning or even not singing praise of these actions quickly get downvoted. Truly sad
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I seen a girl and a guy yelling at each other. The girl hit the guy in the face which was understandable. He sounded like a real ass. But then the guy started attacking her. Me and a couple guys quickly grabbed him and held him down and she kicked him a couple times.
Sorry I know this will be unpopular but just because the guys an ass it was okay for the girl to hit the guy. Where is the out rage to a girl hitting the guy? Yeah the guys a dick for hitting her but so is she for hitting him.
I don't care what she does though. It is never ok for a man to put his hands on a woman. It's cowardly and he deserves to be hung from a tree.
You are sexist Jacob. It is not ok for a human to put his hands on any other human with a few exeptions to help others in dire need. But in this case you and your friends where just co-perpetrators in a case of assault. Stop the violence and don't cause even more!
she deserved it if she hit him first. Equal rights.... and lefts.
Both of them were wrong in this situation.
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Jesus i remember when the world was normal these guys would hate ricky gervais 😂
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When did it become illegal for men to have a little fun? This is so sad.
Joking about assault really isn't "a little fun". Nor is, of course, the actual assault.
he's a troll. He does it to everyone and everything. Even puppies.
At this point commenting against against it is pointless. Just downvote it and hope it leaves.
What is "fun" for one person can be "hell" for the other. Especially when they use degenerating/derogatory jokes/statements and won't take no for an answer. Add in that in many cases women are taught to "not make a scene" and it get even harder for them to escape a situation that at best makes them "only" uncomfortable. "Jokes" at someone else's expense are not jokes.
When i finally thought you were gone. *sigh*🙄
Well, his username is changed a bit. Maybe he got removed but found his way back in.
I think so Kiahna
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GET OUTTA HERE WITH THAT TOXIC TALK!!!!
Tor you seem passive
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Wow, this is split between people actually doing good, like stopping assaults etc. And joke police. One thing is certain tho, being the joke police definitely make you NOT COOL MAN.
If you want to write an article for BP, please do - your opinion is just as valid as everybody else's after all and also it's probably a better way to get your own views across than continually stamping sarcastic negativity on everyone else's entries... I despise the current societal misandry as much as anyone, but you do your position and viewpoint no favours with the repetitive bleating just like the feminazis.
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Without knowing the jokes specifically we can't say how appropriate they actually were. Sometimes they aren't really "jokes" but rather a window to someone else's mindset.
I beat up a Staff NCO who was groping one of my passed out Marines. Lucky I didn't end up in the brig
I want to praise all of these men. I completely understand that sometimes it really isn't easy to step up. But whenever you do something like this, you make the world a little better for all of us. Thank you. <3
So I think this stuff is super important and yes, there are definitely times having a dude around has helped BUT...LADIES!!!! We must learn to stand up for ourselves!!!! Stop waiting for a "movement"!!
We need to be educated to be able to defend ourselves. Often assault or unwanted attention comes out of the blue and because you’re not expecting it it shocks you so you don’t respond as you should. There’s a reason animals play dead, fight or flight. If we are prepared and have trained for the situation then we can respond accordingly and “lady up” but the response has to be trained. We need self defence taught in physical education classes for girls at middle and high schools. Not just getting out of a physical hold but appropriate verbal responses to shut down the unwanted attention as soon as it manifests. Once you are able to spot it and the response is automatic it would prevent a lot of assaults.
Perhaps it might be more beneficial to educate males at a young age to not behave like this. Women and girls are always the ones having to create coping strategies because until recently, men have simply not been told not that this behaviour is unacceptable before they pull this BS.
Google martial arts delusion, and then go punch the men who do this stuff instead of telling women to become soldiers in order to live. Signed, a female martial artist who couldn't move when her stalker advanced on her.
"Lady up" just escalates the issue into potentially harmful situations. Often times you don't know these men and how they will react to adversity. In my experience it turns potentially violent very quickly. (These types of men don't handle rejection well)
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I'm literally eleven and am self taught. I just practice on my friends' friends who are like 16. I'm black and a girl. This bish ain't taking no nonsense.
Maybe if i wasnt terrified of men escalating it further with the very real possibility of bodily harm. Im not physically very strong and can't always rely on other people around me to help. There's a reason women tend to smile at creeps and politely try to get away.
What am I supposed to do when I’m trying to walk to the car and a group of 4 boys slow down and yell “Hey cutie! Where you going? Hop in!” I’m 15 and tiny. I know how to protect myself but for real I would be done. I choose life. I just ignore them.
Get back to us when someone twice your size and drunk grabs you and tries to take you with him. YOU are part of the problem. How many times have you jumped in to help someone who needs it? Or do you think they deserve it?
Its interesting that you assume that has never happened to me....or that I'm so heartless I'd just watch someone get assaulted. My comment was about empowering ourselves as women and not waiting for someone else to do it for us. Maybe this post hit close to home for you and for that, I'm sorry for any experience you may have had. I never once, though, even insinuated, that anyone ever deserved to be assaulted in any way. Your race to judgement, however, actually IS the problem.
you ARE the problem
When did we meet? Cause you sure know a lot about me and my intentions from one small comment. How does all of that work out for you in your real life, dear?
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@ Pam. You can take as many self defence courses as you want. You can be a martial artist. It doesn't matter. If someone is bent on hurting you, they'll find a way to do it. It's also disingenuous to pretend that you can "get away" from someone once they have their hands on you. Men have the advantage of upper body strength. Once you're in grabbing distance, you're done. ...///.. Your phoney concern trolling is as patronizing as calling me "dear" and expecting to get away with it, btw. Maybe you need to grow up and quit pretending that you can "handle" anything.
Sometimes getting loud is enough, and you need to practice that. Some women are not used to yelling and calling attention to themselves. Practice yelling and screaming as loud as you can, like in the woods or something.
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100% agree!!! Women need to lady up and start standing up for themselves!! "Oh, I didn't tell him to stop cause I didn't want to make a scene" Really? So you'd rather a guy continually verbally harass you or worse while you wait for some stranger to come to your aid as opposed to yelling and causing a big scene and embarrassing the loser?!?! That's just pathetic.
That's part of the problem, many women are taught that to be a "lady" you don't cause a scene but rather just sit there and "endure" whatever it is. The ability to recognize and defend against in those kinds of situations doesn't seem to be a natural part of makes a woman so we have to start teaching it. And that kind of sweeping change to to school curriculums need a "movement".
I really have hope that my generation will be the one to end the misogyny (and misandry) that plagues our society. In the mean time, have you heard of misanthropy? The belief that all humans are inferior?
My cat has that.
My dog has it too.
I was 17 and worked part-time as a waitress at a local small "family" bar. I got harassed multiple times verbally, thankfully, there was no actual physical harassment, but yes, people tried. The scary thing was, I didn't even realize I was being harassed. I considered those were "over flirting". I remember there was an old frequent customer, probably older than my dad, who was married as well, always tried to flirt with me, but I just ignored him every time, one time he tried to kiss me, saying its "a gift", i pushed him away, telling him he was disgusting. My boss, who was a man, who I always considered a kind and nice person, told me "its just a joke, don't be so harsh"..... I quit the job even though I desperately needed money for my study. But I didn't think of it as anything serious, I only quit because I felt it was too much work for little money, and I had to put up with such annoyance, only when I look back to that time, I realized how fucked up it was.
I may be commenting late, but that really was messed up. That man shouldn't have been bothering you and your boss should have taken it seriously.
I used to have a co-worker that would tell clients to talk to the girl in the office. I asked him to stop referring to me as "the girl" or I would start calling him "the boy". He looked at me with puzzlement and asked: "what should I call you?" and was fully shocked when I said, "you could use my name". I doubt he meant offense, but his cluelessness about why he was wrong is so much worse. In another instance, a male co-worker covered the phones one day while I was out of the office. When I got back he said he preferred working inside on such a rainy day and my boss told him his legs were too hairy for office work. I responded with "You assume I shave my legs", and my co-worker says "He assumes I don't". I've never seen a grown man turn that shade of red before or since.
This was wonderful to read, brings back
* brings back fate in humanity:) (Sorry for that unfinished comment, my dog decided to walk on my phone when I was writing it...)
2 stories come to mind. When I was 18 I took a job at a good classy pub. I saw 2 guys walk in chatting when one of them pinched a girls bum who was sat at the other end of the bar. As I walked towards them I saw my manager heading towards them but even before he got there his friend hit him on the shoulder and spun him to face him, said something that was probably along the lines of "Not cool dude!" before headbutting him. My manager arrived to here in time to hear the offender teary eyed say "I'm sorry for being a dick" Second I was involved in . I was 23 and lived in a second floor flat when I hear shouting outside. I looked and saw a couple arguing. Suddenly he punched her hard in the stomach! I ran downstairs and did a flying crappy wrestler style kick and he flew into the bushes. I got up and took her hand and limped back to my flat with her in tow. By the time he had got out of the bushes we had got inside. She used my phone to call her dad and he picked her up.
All the above examples are just as bad as a male trying to belittle another male by calling him a woman. That implies that being female is somehow inferior to being male. He insulted his mother, grandmother, sisters, aunts, female cousins, future wife, daughters, daughters-in-law, and his future grand daughters; along with every female on the planet. When God made Adam, He said it was good. When God made Eve, He said it was very good, and He meant that about BOTH of them.
I don't think any god has made anything, but the start of your post is really good and absolutly correct!
Thankyou so much to all you wonderful people who step up and make a difference. I too as a female have often stepped up for someone who is being harrassed whether it be man/woman/child or animal. It makes a real difference! So..Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou!
It's really important that a movement like this start among men themselves, not only because harassing men often listen to other men while ignoring women protesting, but also because while reacting they teach not only themselves and men around them a proper way of conduct. Men have generally a way of ignoring what women say or think, so a man who dare stand side by side with a woman is in my eyes a truly strong man of integrity, and the men who harass and degrade women are weak and pathetic. They show how afraid they are of women, when they steal women's power away from them that way. I love true, strong men, who have integrity enough not to feel challenged by a strong woman, who realises that a woman's strength doesn't take away any of his own strength.
Random guy from my high school: "What's cooking good looking?" Me: (Giving him the death stare) "What?" Him: "Oh sorry. *Internal choking* I thought you were someone else." Me: "That's what I thought." I hope he has learned from that situation. First time getting catcalled, too.
"The Look" tends to work really well. Maybe they learned to respect it from their mamas.
I was at a restaurant where this sexist loser was with another girl who paid for his meal and left before him. He then immediately tried to hit on the waitress and get her number I let the waitress know she didn’t want him because he can’t even pay for his own food or have enough respect for the woman he was with so he wasn’t going to respect her either. He made some incoherent statements and then left embarrassed
lol
Some kid was harassing one of the younger girls I was friends with at summer camp one time. I stepped in and claimed to be her big brother. It turned out he knew her REAL brother though so I ended up walking away feeling like a moron but I don't regret trying at least.
Disclaimer; I did not literally 'walk away', I got one of the councilors, but it's the turn of phrase.
Working in a home improvement store during a job fair a guy won't leave me alone and finally asks why I'm not a model. Co worker comes over and says she's a hand model and flicks him off "like this, see?!" I never laughed so hard at watching this guy getting embarrassed
All these stories make it even weirder that the women I've seen on the receiving end of what rational people would consider harassment take it as a compliment. I mean, they're a part of the 10am drinking crowd, but still.
My favorite part....there are male readers who are saying to themselves...what? that needs recognition? nah, that's just what we do. Thank you to the silent folks who do their part to quash inequality and abusive nature. YOU ROCK.
Wow, this "hashwadoobies" person is just a bag of s**t.
So many times. Mostly in crowded places, it happened a bounch of times to notice a girl being followed barely trying to leave the stupid back and started talking like I knew her, see him flushing away.
I'm 13 and if i can stop a 190cm drunk man with just words, then you can.
Ok, this was my sister in law, but its good: once, she and a friend sat on a bench in their town when a flasher flashed... well, everything at them. My sister in law said "wow, what a tiny one" to the guy. Not what he expected, and I have heard that the man walked away fairly red-faced from the encounter.
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Oh wow, thank goodness, not all men *eyeroll*
according to some "ALL men are potential rapists"
All humans are potential rapists. Because we are all able to rape someone. But being potential and being an actual one is a big difference. Also we all are potential murderers.
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Bullshit. Who are these "some"?
It would be so much easier if women just wore green shirts if they wanted to be talked to and red shirts if they didn’t.
it's not talking to--it's how you talk
Why don't just put a yellow star on the clothing of females who don't want to talk. For this you have a great historical pattern! So they still can wear the shirt with the color they like. And if it is not clear, the start of this post is sarcam.
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Why do you think I wear black every day? :-)
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One of the pros of being Gay? This kind of thing never happens
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Posts like this just make me sad. I really thought the general mindset of people was improving but having so many mixed cases thrown in here where it wasn't really clear if OP was doing the right thing or if they were just misusing a relatively harmless situation to abreact their negative emotions towards misogyny(like Tor Rolf so crudely said, joke police). And all comments questioning or even not singing praise of these actions quickly get downvoted. Truly sad
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I seen a girl and a guy yelling at each other. The girl hit the guy in the face which was understandable. He sounded like a real ass. But then the guy started attacking her. Me and a couple guys quickly grabbed him and held him down and she kicked him a couple times.
Sorry I know this will be unpopular but just because the guys an ass it was okay for the girl to hit the guy. Where is the out rage to a girl hitting the guy? Yeah the guys a dick for hitting her but so is she for hitting him.
I don't care what she does though. It is never ok for a man to put his hands on a woman. It's cowardly and he deserves to be hung from a tree.
You are sexist Jacob. It is not ok for a human to put his hands on any other human with a few exeptions to help others in dire need. But in this case you and your friends where just co-perpetrators in a case of assault. Stop the violence and don't cause even more!
she deserved it if she hit him first. Equal rights.... and lefts.
Both of them were wrong in this situation.
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Jesus i remember when the world was normal these guys would hate ricky gervais 😂
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When did it become illegal for men to have a little fun? This is so sad.
Joking about assault really isn't "a little fun". Nor is, of course, the actual assault.
he's a troll. He does it to everyone and everything. Even puppies.
At this point commenting against against it is pointless. Just downvote it and hope it leaves.
What is "fun" for one person can be "hell" for the other. Especially when they use degenerating/derogatory jokes/statements and won't take no for an answer. Add in that in many cases women are taught to "not make a scene" and it get even harder for them to escape a situation that at best makes them "only" uncomfortable. "Jokes" at someone else's expense are not jokes.
When i finally thought you were gone. *sigh*🙄
Well, his username is changed a bit. Maybe he got removed but found his way back in.
I think so Kiahna
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GET OUTTA HERE WITH THAT TOXIC TALK!!!!
Tor you seem passive
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Wow, this is split between people actually doing good, like stopping assaults etc. And joke police. One thing is certain tho, being the joke police definitely make you NOT COOL MAN.
If you want to write an article for BP, please do - your opinion is just as valid as everybody else's after all and also it's probably a better way to get your own views across than continually stamping sarcastic negativity on everyone else's entries... I despise the current societal misandry as much as anyone, but you do your position and viewpoint no favours with the repetitive bleating just like the feminazis.
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Without knowing the jokes specifically we can't say how appropriate they actually were. Sometimes they aren't really "jokes" but rather a window to someone else's mindset.