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“I Let It Slide At First”: 47 Men Get Brutally Honest About Their Biggest Dating Turn-Offs
Dating as a single person can be tough. There will be times when misses happen more often than hits with those you meet. You encounter people who aren’t a good fit, either because they didn’t meet your standards or because they raised one of your red flags.
For this list, we’re focusing on the latter reason. A Reddit thread from a while back drew a flood of responses from men about their biggest dating dealbreakers. Some of them touched on the usuals, such as judgmental behavior and inciting drama. Others were more shallow with their answers.
Gents, if you want to join in on the conversation, feel free to do so in the comment boxes below.
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#1
When they're rude to dining staff and other customer service people (but usually dining staff), it's a HUGE turnoff for me.
Ace 1 day ago
This one always gets rolled out on these lists, such that I almost start to believe that such people are commonplace, but no, I refuse to accept that it's so common it just get repeated because it's such an obvious one that nobody would disagree with. (Isn't it?)
UnclePanda 1 day ago
Seeing this item so often, I'd assumed someone's training the sociopaths to be more subtle.
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R Dennis 1 day ago
Apparently you were downvoted by someone who thinks treating cs people rudely is part of the experience. Have an updoot for karma.
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#2
Someone who needs to tear others down in order to feel good about herself.
Emilu 1 day ago
Coincidentally, I just came from the post where the OP's wife tried to make OP out to be some incompetent fool who couldn't manage a household without her. I'm a woman but this would be a massive deal-breaker for me. You're meant to build up the ones you love, not tear them down.
#3
An inability to have a conversation.
I can't tell you how many times I have done all the talking on the date. I try to ask questions and am met with three word responses. "It's alright", "Yea, its a job" etc.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
I'd have to leave after about 5 monosyllabic responses - "you're clearly not interested, so let's not waste each other's time"
#4
Playing mind games / doing tests, etc.
I have absolutely zero tolerance towards those. If I spot a potential candidate doing that, I immediately lose a lot of respect towards him/her and become suspicious. The second time I see him/her trying to pull off some kind of similar stuff, it's time for goodbyes.
I'm looking for someone trustworthy and with whom I can be at ease. Not someone who tries to provoke a fight every day.
Ace 1 day ago
Do people really go on 'dates' treating people as "potential candidates"? I mean, I've not dated at all for well over 30 years, and in honesty never treated a date like that, was always just 'fancy going out a drink' and take it from there, sort of thing.
UnclePanda 1 day ago
I've heard comedians refer to dating as "a job interview for the rest of your life."
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Emilu 1 day ago (edited)
I can't believe I missed that. You are so right; that is absolute ick in two words right there. Edit: Lol at my pet downvoter. I apparently found the incel. 😂
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#5
People who don't communicate problems they have. Biggest example for me are people who don't like me doing something but don't tell me and the only way I find out is a few months later when they flip their stuff about it, like they bottled their problem up and finally let loose.
For example I had an ex who hated it when I kissed their neck. Never said a word to me, but looked uncomfortable sometimes, I'd ask what's wrong and they would say nothing... About three months later they went batshit on me for it. I never knew. They never told me.
Bottom line is, us guys aren't telepathic, if we are doing something you don't like, tell us!
UnclePanda 1 day ago (edited)
You appear to have acquired your own personal downvoter today. If it helps, I like to think of them as ghosts drawn to my mighty aura. I've been upvoting behind them this morning, and I'm categorizing it as my chaotic good deed for the day.
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Smoking. It's a big turn-off.
StrangeOne 19 hours ago (edited)
Same thing with vaping. Someone sat next to me at the bus stop vaping. It wasn't only the smell that got me nauseated, the residue oil got in my mouth and I spent a couple hours trying to get rid of the taste. W*F is in that s**t? (Seriously, BP? You're censoring a T?)
#7
If she likes to post every little detail on social media.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 day ago
I have social media mainly for marketplace etc and for news. I always see people posting every day about every little thing and don't even start with the security risk of people always knowing where you are or what you're doing.
#8
When she calls you stupid. Hurts really bad. I didn't grow up the smartest kid, but I successfully graduated high school with a 2.9. My father always brought me down, calling me stupid, and when a girl says I'm stupid, dumb, etc, it just really breaks me down.
fly on the wall 1 day ago
W ords live in our minds much longer than physical injuries ( not that they are OK either)
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
that adage of sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me is the biggest load of b******t ever. Words have definitely harmed me and that hurt has stayed rent free for decades.
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Fire Singer 1 day ago
I call my nephew stupid as a joke (he is in on it and totally knows it s a joke and calls me stupid back!) but that's the only time I think it's acceptable to call people hurtful things like that. If it's a joke and you're both in on it. Like some couples call each other names like A-hole and B*tch, but they don't mean it? You know what I mean?
Emilu 1 day ago
I know exactly what you mean. My best friend is "bitch" or "skank". I'm usually "bitch" or "ho". Obviously, as we're best friends, we're clearly insulted by it 😆
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Auntriarch 1 day ago
Your father or other history aside, no one needs to be with a rude dismissive person
#9
Refusing to ever be wrong. Lying. Not appreciating things done specifically for them. Trying to make me jealous (I won't be, be with me or not, her choice.) Being lazy, boring, and unintelligent.
Nicole Weymann 1 day ago
Even IF he brought flowers that made her sneeze, or made coffee she didn't like: unless she told him beforehand and specifically about her dislikes or allergies appreciation for the gesture, and the money/time involved is still the way to go. It also depends on how well/for how long they've known each other.
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Non stop checking of the phone. I don't mind it here and there, take a call if it's important, but if I never have your attention then it's a problem.
Tobias Reaper 1 day ago
I had a female friend who did this we would hand out go for lunch or coffee and she would constantly be on her phone i stopped hanging out with her because of it.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
I walked out of dinner with a friend because even after asking him to stop, he kept reaching for his phone, even though there had been no notifications. Just realised that was also the last time I saw him alive.
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Having no interest in anything. I don't care if you love makeup and talk to me for hours about it, but seeing someone be so passionate about something is amazing. I love movies and could talk about my favorites for hours. I just want to see an interest in what makes you, you.
StrangeOne 19 hours ago
Not every man is the same, but it's always good to find a guy who is genuinely interested in your interests, no matter how feminine it is. My ex not only hated nail polish, he got pissed off every time I painted my nails. (He smoked cigs and weed, btw, so he had no reason to complain.) My current bf tells me my nail art is gorgeous. When I mention I have a nail appt. but forget to show him what I got done, he tells me "Hun, didn't you say you went and got your nails done. You didn't show me yet." I love that. It is mutual with us. It's not something he actively gets into without me. Just like I only like watching his gameplay but no one else.
NapQueen 1 day ago (edited)
I understand where you are coming from, but makeup is a genuine interest - you may not find it interesting, but it is considered an interest.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 day ago
You've misunderstood. He's quite willing to listen to someone who's passionate about makeup talk about it. He *doesn't* like women who have literally no interests and nothing to talk about.
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Clinginess. Personal space & time is necessary.
Emilu 1 day ago
I got dumped by an ex because "I was too focused on my uni studies". He'd invite himself over whilst I was studying (I prefer studying in quiet, but fine, whatever) and game (not so fine; I wanna join!) and then complain about being hungry or whatever and apparently didn't know how to feed himself. Then I was the AH because I wasn't attentive enough to him. TL;DR -- clinginess is not attractive in anybody. Don't be that person.
Fire Singer 1 day ago
I have periods of clinginess, not gonna lie, but I tell my husband "Hey I'm clingy today so if it bugs you let me know!" At least I'm self aware (usually) and I can feed myself. :P
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Excessive neediness. If you constantly demand that I drop everything to cater to your wants, regardless of my needs; then I demand that you GTFO.
#14
Women who carry 'purse dogs' around.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 day ago
I assume it's a small dog that can fit in a purse and be carried everywhere...I wouldn't say it's a huge no unless it enters into weird territory.
Earonn - 1 day ago
What's wrong with having a small dog? Does OP needs a wolf dog in the faint hope that makes him strong and cool? Is it only small dogs he dislikes? I bet he doesn't mind her having a pony instead of a Clydesdale. Red flag right there...
Dirk Daring 1 day ago
I believe the 'carrying around' was the point. Dogs need to put their feet on the ground/floor. Living in a purse is not what they were built for.
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Judges me for my interests.
Nicole Weymann 1 day ago
Chairman of the local Jeffrey Dahmer fan club, you mean? Or periodicals like "tórturing puppies for fun and profit"? I might get judgy there, too.
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These are basically memes at the moment but they still apply,
* if you want something you have to ask, but make sure you know roughly what you want. I don't want to suggest ten different films/restaurants/activities while getting the "not that one but you still pick" answer
* don't play the "its's fine" card, I used to care enough to find out what is wrong but now I just play video games and let you stew in your own bitterness
* as an extension of the above don't jokingly pretend things aren't fine because I get confused and ignore you when it actually isn't fine. Imagine you'd trained a dog to sit on command and rewarded it with treats, then one day you thought it would be funny to hit the dog whenever it sat, don't then act all confused when the dog won't sit anymore
* learn how to enjoy yourself without me, I have my hobbies and you need yours. I play sports twice a week and want to dedicate a full evening to my painting too, find something to do yourself because it isn't my fault you're bored.
Emilu 1 day ago
Nothing is more attractive than someone that loves you but also has their own life outside of you. I don't care how 'basic' that life is (whether it's just vegging on the couch and watching Netflix, hanging with your friends, or curing all of life's miserable diseases/maladies), just don't make me the planet around which you orbit.
Fire Singer 1 day ago
Its funny because I don't like the tone this is written in but I can't disagree with a single one of them either. :P
#17
Even the slightest hint of infidelity.
I don't put up with cheating, I don't cheat. Emotional cheating, physical cheating, all of it.
The difference here though is not me making rules about infidelity, but the girl I'm with needs to WANT TO and be okay with saying 'sorry I'm taken' when asked for her number, she has to want to not engage in old flings (unless it's occasional and totally platonic).
It's a whole attitude that she won't cheat, and this all comes from them being ready to accept a serious relationship.
#18
Me: "What do you want to do?" Her: "I don't know. You decide."
I'm not sure there's a bigger turn-off to me than this. Even if she doesn't know, but at least offers something that moves a discussion forward. I have been tempted a few times to get up and leave when I get this response. I'm all for doing things the other person likes/wants to make that other person happy. But this response always seems so passive and lazy.
Fire Singer 1 day ago
There are times I truly don't know what I want or what I want to do but I do admit that to my husband. "What do you want to eat?" "I truly don't know and can't think of anything, can you decide and we'll do whatever you want?" If I have a preference I really will say it, but sometimes my brain will not let me make decisions.
Papa 1 day ago
You beat me to it. If someone won't make a suggestion when asked and tells me to decide then don't complain about my decision.
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Kerry Borthwick 23 hours ago
I do this because a*****e ex would ask my decision then punish me coz it didn't match his thankfully bf understands
UnclePanda 1 day ago
That's why there are restaurant chains with names like, "I don't care," and "I don't want that."
#19
Single. Mother.
I'm Child Free and I did not date anybody with kids. It wouldn't be fair to the kids or their mother.
This worked out in my favour as I used to live in an oil town with lots of young single moms looking for daddy/bill paying support.
Emilu 1 day ago
If you genuinely don't want kids, fine. But to imply that every single woman out there is a gold-digger is a bit rich.
Leah Brown 1 day ago
That is not at all what OP was implying. The first two sentences were their choice and reasoning behind their choice. The third sentence was their own limited personal experience. All very valid and in NO WAY implying every single woman is a gold-digger.
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#20
"I hate drama".
Panda McPandaface 1 day ago
I don't know - I guess I'm older, I've had a pretty good dose of emotional dramas through my life and several years ago I realised I was done with people causing upset and argument, nope, no more. I can safely say that I hate drama.
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They want or have children. I don't take stress well, and I don't really want to deal with children. Only two people I've ever met in thirty years have had children that I liked, so if you have or want children, I don't want to go on a date with you.
Charlotte Ingle 1 day ago
Agreed that this is a "no compromise" situation. You can't have kids but keep them in the garage
Auntriarch 1 day ago
Absolutely. And it's the best thing for the children too, they deserve to be wanted.
Norfolk and good 1 day ago (edited)
If you're not prepared to take on the role of step parent and accept the children as your own, don't get into a relationships or marry someone that has children, especially younger children. Too many people seem to get into relationships with someone who has children and then get upset that they aren't their partner's number one priority, or they get jealous due to their partner having to maintain contact with their ex because of the children.
R Dennis 1 day ago
My buddy got out of a brutally (mentally) a*****e marriage. He didn't regret the marriage because he ended up with his two kids he adores. He was so beat up by his ex that she convinced him that he was unlovable and going to die alone - he's kind, athletic, tall, intelligent, financially and professionally successful. Along came a younger very attractive woman that saw this and started dating him. She never wants to have kids, but he married her because he thought he would never find anyone again. Her relationship with his kids is very hands off. I, on the other hand, married my wife and have three stepkids I have raised as my own. Even when my wife and I hit a rough patch and separated for a couple months, I still took care of them. When you marry someone with kids, especially younger children, you are making a promise to all of them.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 19 hours ago
As a mom, I wouldn't want someone who isn't okay with kids. I also wouldn't want someone who wants more kids when I have one that is enough for me.
#22
Can't peel your face off your phone? Welp, Cya!!
Seriously, social media rots your brain.
#23
Can't spell. This is generally a good gauge of many other things. Probably don't read very well either. Big turn off.
The only other thing I can think of that isn't too specific is when a woman sets expectations very high. Having high hopes and expecting someone you just met to fit a mold cast in your mind are two different things. The point of dating is to meet someone you don't know and see if they could add to your life. Trying to dictate who and how they will be isn't realistic.
StrangeOne 19 hours ago
My bf doesn't always spell and read that great. He tries and that's good. Occasionally I'll help him out when he asks. It's not something he's particularly comfortable people knowing about him. His eye sight isn't that great, either, which I think is contributing. For me, it's math that I struggle with. I know what it feels like to be put down for having difficulty with areas others find easy. It's just one of those things that doesn't bother me as much as it bothers other people, and I don't understand why the fuss.
#24
Careless driving or interrupting people while they speak are both on the short list.
StrangeOne 19 hours ago
Interrupters are always thinking about what they want to say and not listening to the person talking.
#25
The expectation of a free meal, especially after the first date or two.
Ace 1 day ago
Was it really ever a thing? I mean, it was always considered good form for the man to at least offer to pay, but I never went out with a woman who _expected _ it, even if some might have sometimes accepted it (and then normally reciprocate on the second date).
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#26
I can't stand when a girl can't hold a conversation or doesn't ever have anything interesting to say. If I have to carry literally every conversation we have, I'm out.
StrangeOne 19 hours ago
Some days are going to be like that, though. A good indicator you're comfortable with someone is to be comfortable with being silent around each other. Just feeling the vibes and chilling. Maybe not frequently, but sometimes there's just not much to talk about that isn't going on about your daily itinerary.
#27
Getting serious too quickly. If you call me your boyfriend after just one or two dates I'm jumping ship.
Aileen Grist 1 day ago
I met my (now) husband on Monday - saw him again on Wednesday - met his kids on Saturday and that was it I've never been without him since. We met and married in exactly 4 months - we're in our 35th Year.
Chrystina Sumpter 19 hours ago
Our neighbor down the street knew he wanted to marry his wife at their first meeting and they got married two weeks later. They’re in their 90’s now.
Load More Replies... Ace 1 day ago
It rather depends on other factors, like if you're already sleeping together then it's perfectly reasonable for them to assume you are now in a relationship that such a term would imply.
Emilu 21 hours ago
Do you think so? I wouldn't have assumed that having sex would automatically make for a couple. Lots of people just want a casual fling. Or are you referring to people who have sex for a bit first and then begin to date afterwards? In the latter example I can see more of a reason for thinking there might be a relationship there. Even still, the only relationships in which I have entered it's always been explicitly discussed.
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Bad breath. They're talking to me, telling me their current relationship isn't working out, and it will be over soon. I have a friend caught in that right now. he met a girl at the pool at his apartment complex. She flirted with him, they exchanged numbers, and he found out she has a boyfriend. However, at the same time, she is trying to hook up with my friend and telling him she wants to date him, claiming it isn't working out with her current boyfriend.
I told him not to fall for that. Because if one thing goes wrong if she breaks up with her b/f and the two of you date, she'll do the same exact thing to you, meet another guy and tell him it isn't working out with you and go behind your back and cheat.
Emilu 1 day ago
... sorry, is 'bad breath' a euphemism or something I'm missing? Because it seems irrelevant to the rest of the post if not.
Ace 1 day ago
Yeah, I can only assume that too. The rest of it, sure, I'm not interested in dating someone who's still with their previous partner. I did once go out for a lunch 'date' with a colleague who it transpired had not yet fully broken up with her husband, so I politely backed off until they had, but then met my then-future wife in the meantime, so never went back... Then again, I was still actually married at the time, but we were in the process of an amicable divorce (took a year living apart to get a cheap and simple one at that time) and definitely not in any way 'together' by that stage.
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#29
When they won't turn up with any interest in you.
When you ask them how they've been and all they do is reply and then go on without ever asking you anything.
That is the biggest turn off for me. Because men too need someone who shows interest in them and asks them how they have been.
#30
If someone seems unsure about dating me, I want to be with someone who is positive they want to be with me too. Someone who you have to convince or win over just isn't worth it.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago
If you're dating someone who's reluctant to want to be exclusively with you, then they are not interested in a steady, exclusive relationship, or with you.
#31
She wants to date me. Can't be with someone with such low standards.
#32
A woman with no ambition. If you've got no goals for your life my goal is to avoid you.
Child of the Stars 1 day ago
This is far too vague. What is being defined as ambition here? Like I have no desire to "move up" in my job. I'm perfectly content with my small home and not having a vehicle and just enough money to pay the bills with a little extra for small luxuries like eating out. But I love reading and listening to educational podcasts and even taking a class or two in a semester just for the joy of learning something new.
General Anaesthesia 1 day ago (edited)
So your goal in life it dependent on her goals? Is just a different definition of ambition good with you?
StrangeOne 18 hours ago
This could mean so many things. Is he wanting a career-driven woman? A woman who plans her milestones in life? Planning a fruitful retirement? Having hobbies to accomplish? A bucket list of things to do? This is one of those things where I'm a bit wary of requirements to have goals in life to please him. Does he have goals of his own to focus on?
Emilu 1 day ago
I agree that this comment is somewhat vague. My experience of this is dating somebody who was working in retail (no worries in itself; I did for over a decade and a half so not judging that) but expressed that he was fine in the role he was doing and didn't "see himself going any higher". He was working casually (so no job security) in a basic salesperson role; he wasn't particularly *amazing* at it (as in he wouldn't have been getting crazy amounts of commission) and had no interest in learning anything else. For me, that was a dealbreaker. Last I heard of him was a debt collector calling me up because he'd defaulted on his car loan.
#33
Leaving the TV on as background
It's hard to make eye contact when the woman is constantly distracted by her programmes.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 day ago
Like as white noise? Cause that's cool. I don't fully understand this one.
Ace 1 day ago
Seems clear enough to me. Either you're watching TV or you're not. If you're having a conversation then you're not watching TV. Turn it to a music channel if you want background noise.
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 1 day ago
I go to sleep with the telly on (has a timer) because otherwise intrusive thoughts keep me awake...
#34
Dishonesty, severe over the top drama, overbearing jealousy and/or suspicion. I don't list cheating as I'm in a poly relationship with 2 different ladies, but as long as everyone keeps me updated on who they are seeing, we're good.
#35
Disproportionate effort.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago
There is always give and take, but it's normal to have proportions fluctuate. I consider it unhealthy to keep tally of who puts in more effort than the other. If I feel I'm putting in too much effort that I'm beginning to feel resentment, then I know it's on me to take a step back, slow down and then I tell my bf how I'm feeling. Sometimes he misunderstands, and I have to emphasize on details, but that's just practicing good communication. If I feel I need him to step up, I tell him. If it's an ongoing issue, I have to reflect why I feel that way and if I'm being unreasonable or if I have a valid point. I have to communicate with my own mind, too, so I'm not just spewing out issues out of my head that aren't well-thought through. Sometimes how I'm feeling about something is partially influenced by other's opinions, and then I have to figure out if it's really as bad as I'm making it out to be.
#37
When she says I don't have any girlfriends.
Fire Singer 1 day ago
"I don't get along with other women" usually (not always!) means they're mean to women. As a woman I've learned this. I've had a few friendships go sour after making friends with the women who have no other women friends and found out why.
Emilu 1 day ago
I've noticed this as well, and was like this when I was younger. Now I'm older I can quite clearly see that I was the problem. My best friends since that realisation have been women. Whilst I still have close male friends as well and generally get on with men better, my 'ride or die' people are all women.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 18 hours ago
This is situational. It's hard to find and maintain friends as a full time working adult and so many adults of child-bearing age, are busy with their families, spouses, jobs, housecleaning, cooking and exhausted when they're able to have free time. People tend to value their space whenever they get a chance. I totally get it.
#38
Not having a hobby. You have no idea how many first dates I've heard "drunk, watch TV, hang with friends, shop" when asked what they like to do. I'm not attracted to cliches, and without a hobby, us dating is just me entertaining you.
T MB83 1 day ago
The hobby thing is lame, like a lot of people work long hours, maybe on the weekend they just want to relax and hang out with people, catch up with family, take their dog to the park, go on little day trips etc, they don't need to be involved in wood whittling and playing pickleball.
Charlotte Ingle 1 day ago
Going for walks or hanging out with friends are hobbies.
Load More Replies... Heffalump 23 hours ago
Interacting with people or curling up with a book are both valid ways of enjoying yourself. You don't have to have a hobby.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago
Reading is a hobby. It doesn't have to be a time consuming investment that involves much exertion.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 18 hours ago
What do friends do when they hang out together? Just sit around and chat? That's what I would be asking.
#39
One woman bragged to me about all the great jobs she got by lying on her resume.
Mike F 1 day ago
If that was an arrestable offense the prisons would be VERY crowded. And both sexes are equally guilty I'd imagine.
Ace 1 day ago
Sure, but it would still make me doubt the integrity of someone who thought it was something to be proud of and boast about.
Load More Replies... #40
Lots of good ones so far.
Girls that need constant re-assurance for everything and have or pretend to have no self confidence.
#41
Me: So what do you like to do in your free time?
Her: Take naps... Sleep is my life.
Why would you say that on a first date??
Charlotte Ingle 1 day ago
Because it's true? It's not like she's insisting he can't go do other things
UnclePanda 1 day ago
I was on a hiring board and one woman managed to work her interest in wine into five of the 12 standard questions. She didn't get the job. To this day, I have no idea what she thought she was doing.
#42
A girl that can't deny your properly and leads you on to give you false hope, because they get reward out of flirting, So using you for attention.
#43
An annoying laugh.
There is a good reason why hyenas only mate once a year.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
My friend has the most amazing, infectious laugh. Never fail to smile hearing it. I can mimic Jimmy Carr's laugh - I'm not proud.
Emilu 1 day ago
I love Jimmy's laugh because it makes me laugh. The "..... ha!"
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#44
Bad teeth.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
This is not always their fault though and dentistry is pretty expensive. If it's bad dental hygiene, all day long - but it took years to fix up my mouth.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago (edited)
Bad teeth, imo, is unhealthy teeth. But I love the minor imperfections, like crooked, imperfections that are a part of their appearance. Whenever I see perfectly aligned, ultra bright white veneer teeth, all I can think of is Dr. Teeth, or the Trivago commercial guy.
#45
Feminists with double standards. They're really just being self-entitled.
#46
Picky eaters. Food is the spice of life.
Mike F 1 day ago
This is kinda subjective. Lots of people have aversions or allergies to some foods. Some folks live for seafood while others (🙋♂️) can't even stomach the smell. People can be different in their food preferences.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago (edited)
I don't think they're referring to allergies and intolerances, or having preferences, in general. That's just normal. I think they mean like the type of people who have something to complain about their food with every meal and refuse to, at least, try different foods because of their initial impression on appearance. Then they act like toddlers, picking at the food they've prematurely decided they don't like. It's like the ladies on that show 4 Weddings, who overly analyze the catered food they're served at each other's weddings. Then they say "I'm just a picky eater" like it's some sort of cute, quirky thing. " The food is too bland." "My steak wasn't well-done enough." "The salad had too much dressing." "I don't know what this is, but it looks nasty. I'm not going to eat that. Ew" as they poke the food around their plate and refuse to eat it because it's not perfect enough. It will never be good enough for them.
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 1 day ago
On our second date I took Mr Auntriarch to a Gujarati vegetarian restaurant, no cutlery. I knew if he couldn't deal with that (fingers! Wot no meat! Foreign muck!) we wouldn't get along.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
Ha, some friends went to an Ethiopian restaurant and were wait, wut? at first about eating with their hands. They now realise that actually, it's great. And also no longer frown when I eat boned curry/oxtail with my hands.
Load More Replies... Charlotte Ingle 1 day ago
Why does this matter? Let her eat what she wants you eat what you want
Lady Eowyn 1 day ago
I'm a picky eater. I have a lot of allergies, and I have autism which causes me to be super intolerant about certain textures. I prefer to eat alone for these reasons.
StrangeOne 18 hours ago
It's normal to have preferences. You know what you want and move on. This referring to acting like a child towards food you're unfamiliar with or don't like. No one wants to be around someone who complains the whole time because it's not what you wanted, and you're unwilling to try new foods when presented the opportunity and you know it's something you're okay to try.
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Low credit score.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
Circumstantial. Sometimes life throws a brick at you that puts you in debt that is hard to recover from. I'd say bad with money more than low credit.
StrangeOne 17 hours ago
These days, in this economy, I suspect many people are being forced into debt to survive. The important thing is taking initiative to try to pay it off. But I'm more curious why that's even mentioned on a date.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 18 hours ago
Credit scores fluctuate. It's actually weird that would even come up on a date.
What do you think ?
Auntriarch 1 day ago
It's good to know what you want and what you definitely don't. That's what dating is for.
Doctor Strange 1 day ago
Treating me like a backup option. As in, they couldn't get what they really wanted, so they'll settle for me. For example, met a girl on a dating site. We talked for a while, and I had specifically mentioned that I wasn't looking to move. Not that I needed to stay in the exact house I'm in now, but this area was where my career and friends were, so I wanted to stay where that was, and my last long term relationship ended because she moved to the opposite coast (I'm on the east coast, she moved to California.) This is relevant, because on the very first date, this new girl knows all this and yet on the very first date she tells me that its her dream to get a job in California. I politely tell her that I don't think things will work. A few weeks later, she contacts me again, saying how she hadn't landed a job, and the other guys she tried dating were 'losers' and so she wanted another date with me. And was surprised when I said no.
Doctor Strange 1 day ago
Why would I want to go out with someone who was only with me until something better came along? Just once, I'd like to be someone's first choice. To not be settled for. To actually be wanted for a change.
Load More Replies... Shelley Colleen 1 day ago (edited)
This list is under the "Couples" header but every single one is just some dude complaining about hot young girls they regret asking out. Maybe "pick me" girls aren't your perfect match, my guy.
Auntriarch 1 day ago
The titles often change within hours, and are often ridiculously inappropriate to start with
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 1 day ago
It's good to know what you want and what you definitely don't. That's what dating is for.
Doctor Strange 1 day ago
Treating me like a backup option. As in, they couldn't get what they really wanted, so they'll settle for me. For example, met a girl on a dating site. We talked for a while, and I had specifically mentioned that I wasn't looking to move. Not that I needed to stay in the exact house I'm in now, but this area was where my career and friends were, so I wanted to stay where that was, and my last long term relationship ended because she moved to the opposite coast (I'm on the east coast, she moved to California.) This is relevant, because on the very first date, this new girl knows all this and yet on the very first date she tells me that its her dream to get a job in California. I politely tell her that I don't think things will work. A few weeks later, she contacts me again, saying how she hadn't landed a job, and the other guys she tried dating were 'losers' and so she wanted another date with me. And was surprised when I said no.
Doctor Strange 1 day ago
Why would I want to go out with someone who was only with me until something better came along? Just once, I'd like to be someone's first choice. To not be settled for. To actually be wanted for a change.
Load More Replies... Shelley Colleen 1 day ago (edited)
This list is under the "Couples" header but every single one is just some dude complaining about hot young girls they regret asking out. Maybe "pick me" girls aren't your perfect match, my guy.
Auntriarch 1 day ago
The titles often change within hours, and are often ridiculously inappropriate to start with
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