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30 Women Share Comparison Pics Of Before And After Becoming Moms Which Took Away Their Spark
We say we care about mothers. But if that were true, more of them would feel seen, supported, and okay.
Instead, many are turning to TikTok to show how they’ve lost their spark since having kids. Not because they’re ungrateful or don’t love their children. But because they’re overwhelmed and missing the care and community they need.
Scroll down to get a sense of what that looks like. Then maybe take a second to check in on a mom you know—she might really need it.
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#1
Only God knows how badly i struggled during my pregnancy & postpartum… i still feel uneasy & anxious looking back at pictures from that time… be kind to new moms its not easy
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#2
Am i going to get my spark back ? YES Dear mum, look in that mirror and show yourself love. You’re doing a great job …. Anyway, I’m still trying to find myself, physically, mentally and spiritually lol, yes spiritually (since I gave birth I’ve not been praying like I used to )
#3
Let's just be honest...motherhood is a great experience but losing your spark is so heart breaking. From adding weigh, change of complexion, accommodating your baby, your new life together, big stomachs, stretchmarks, not having time for yourself, no enough sleep, you can't go out. And worse of all feeling like you are ugly. But the way my girl looks at me like I am the prettiest person she seen. I am here for this. Keep going momma❤️now I understand the childfree by choice people
#4
Pregnancy journey isn’t easy! With my first baby not only did I lose my spark but I also lost an ovary! I look back at this time and wish I had loved the experience more but honestly it was HARD!
My second baby I wanted to do it differently and I Did!
#5
Still looking for myself… I don’t even take pictures of myself anymore
#7
Priorities change and so do you and it takes so much more effort and energy to bounce back to a new normal but we will get there mamas
#9
I wouldn’t change him for the world though he’s my best friend. However I really miss me
#11
Apachebathmat 8 months ago
A friend of mine (much younger than me) had a baby and was just pooped, you couldn’t talk to her without her crying, so for the first year I made her dinner every other day and walked it round to her, picked up a mountain of laundry and brought it back the next time I took food, it was a small gesture but helped her out a little bit in those difficult early days. Women looking after women
#14
I don’t regret having him, but still looking for myself…. I don’t take pictures of myself anymore
#15
Hope I can get that spark back
#18
I fear she’s gone forever
#20
Postpartum is hard and definitely did not expect it to hit me like this
#26
Featherytoad 8 months ago
Some of these pictures are so heavily filtered and photo shopped that they were never their so called, old selves.
#27
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I know pregnancy changes the body in crazy ways, but can it *really* put weight in your nose? I’ve never heard that before, but given that it rearranges the d’y so much, maybe it can happen? It sure seems to have happened to this poor girl. I can’t imagine what it’s like to wake up and see a different person in the mirror. I think I’d be terrified!
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Max Fox 8 months ago (edited)
Filters and makeup. While I know that childbirth and care is one of the most difficult thing a person can do, comparing people with makeup and filter to the same people without makeup and filters is BS and it's insulting to women. They're trying to make a point by using fake evidence when there is so much realy evidence out there.
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Katiekat 8 months ago
Childfree older woman here, and I admire moms so much, but so glad I passed on it. It is HARD work. Kudos to all those doing their best.
Bec 8 months ago
Me too. Seven younger siblings, I already changed enough nappies. One of my younger sisters literally cried for months when she found out not only was she having another, but she was having twins.
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Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
The main difference between the before and after are filters and a full face of make up. What these mamas need is some time off to pamper themselves, but alas, that's a rarity with a newborn
Leg less In Minneapolis 8 months ago
Who expects to look like you a pre birth when have a one or two month old? AIM for 6 months at best
ElfVibratorGlitter 8 months ago (edited)
I'm newly pregnant with my second child and it's absolutely mind boggling how amazing women's bodies are! Mama - You MADE A PERSON! 🤯
Forrest Hobbs 8 months ago
Maybe it's my age, but the "after" pictures mostly strike me as showing a finer human being than in the "before" shots. Worn out (etc)? Well, yes, that too. I found out a while back that two people aren't really enough to look after a newborn child. Anyone doiing it solo deserves huge respect and a lot of help.
Relationship Wars 7 months ago
So people take old filtered and going out pictures and compare them to them being at home and not dressed up and no filter....
Megalodon Meg 8 months ago
Most of you guys are actually just trash humans. Talking s**t on appearances of presumably new mothers struggling with the adjustments of motherhood, feeling lost in themselves and all you a******s say is "lost the filter" "looks better without all that makeup" "Im actually just a misogynistic jerk with internalized self hated so I project it onto women who didnt f*****g ask for my opinion" Oh wait, the last comment would have actually been okay since it's the truth. You're all part of the problem and your mothers would be ashamed.
Lene 8 months ago
When I was pregnant with my 3rd child I made a list of pre-mom things I wanted back in my life. So after I stopped breastfeeding the youngest child I began to wear black nail polish again (just every now and then), my bf and I started to go to concerts again and I began to actually have a few beers at concerts as well. Doing these things have made wonders for my everyday mood because it makes me feel that I didn't completely lose "me" into this mother-role. 🤟😎
Rachel Pelz 8 months ago
What is the point of these pics? Just a thought...maybe part of the trad wife junk is because our societies still value women by their looks. So once the look is no longer s**y-available, women feel a need to still be considered worthy and overdo the "mom" thing? Will looks ever matter less...?
Mimi M 8 months ago
What do I think? I think that I've seen a lot of 'joys of child-free' and 'why I decided not to have a kid' posts (more power to them, don't get me wrong) - but almost no 'why I have kids' or 'why I like being a parent' posts. Memes and jokes, yes, but straightforward positive posts about having a kid? Not really - or rarely.
PrettyJoyBird 8 months ago
Lost a spark???? Try grew a human, birthed a child! We are tired. Geez Louise! Happy Mother's Day to every type of Mama all around the World.
Forrest Hobbs 8 months ago
Upvoted the downvotes PrettyJoyBird. Why downvote an on-point remark like that?
Load More Replies... Max Fox 8 months ago (edited)
Filters and makeup. While I know that childbirth and care is one of the most difficult thing a person can do, comparing people with makeup and filter to the same people without makeup and filters is BS and it's insulting to women. They're trying to make a point by using fake evidence when there is so much realy evidence out there.
Load More Replies... Katiekat 8 months ago
Childfree older woman here, and I admire moms so much, but so glad I passed on it. It is HARD work. Kudos to all those doing their best.
Bec 8 months ago
Me too. Seven younger siblings, I already changed enough nappies. One of my younger sisters literally cried for months when she found out not only was she having another, but she was having twins.
Load More Replies... Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
The main difference between the before and after are filters and a full face of make up. What these mamas need is some time off to pamper themselves, but alas, that's a rarity with a newborn
Leg less In Minneapolis 8 months ago
Who expects to look like you a pre birth when have a one or two month old? AIM for 6 months at best
ElfVibratorGlitter 8 months ago (edited)
I'm newly pregnant with my second child and it's absolutely mind boggling how amazing women's bodies are! Mama - You MADE A PERSON! 🤯
Forrest Hobbs 8 months ago
Maybe it's my age, but the "after" pictures mostly strike me as showing a finer human being than in the "before" shots. Worn out (etc)? Well, yes, that too. I found out a while back that two people aren't really enough to look after a newborn child. Anyone doiing it solo deserves huge respect and a lot of help.
Relationship Wars 7 months ago
So people take old filtered and going out pictures and compare them to them being at home and not dressed up and no filter....
Megalodon Meg 8 months ago
Most of you guys are actually just trash humans. Talking s**t on appearances of presumably new mothers struggling with the adjustments of motherhood, feeling lost in themselves and all you a******s say is "lost the filter" "looks better without all that makeup" "Im actually just a misogynistic jerk with internalized self hated so I project it onto women who didnt f*****g ask for my opinion" Oh wait, the last comment would have actually been okay since it's the truth. You're all part of the problem and your mothers would be ashamed.
Lene 8 months ago
When I was pregnant with my 3rd child I made a list of pre-mom things I wanted back in my life. So after I stopped breastfeeding the youngest child I began to wear black nail polish again (just every now and then), my bf and I started to go to concerts again and I began to actually have a few beers at concerts as well. Doing these things have made wonders for my everyday mood because it makes me feel that I didn't completely lose "me" into this mother-role. 🤟😎
Rachel Pelz 8 months ago
What is the point of these pics? Just a thought...maybe part of the trad wife junk is because our societies still value women by their looks. So once the look is no longer s**y-available, women feel a need to still be considered worthy and overdo the "mom" thing? Will looks ever matter less...?
Mimi M 8 months ago
What do I think? I think that I've seen a lot of 'joys of child-free' and 'why I decided not to have a kid' posts (more power to them, don't get me wrong) - but almost no 'why I have kids' or 'why I like being a parent' posts. Memes and jokes, yes, but straightforward positive posts about having a kid? Not really - or rarely.
PrettyJoyBird 8 months ago
Lost a spark???? Try grew a human, birthed a child! We are tired. Geez Louise! Happy Mother's Day to every type of Mama all around the World.
Forrest Hobbs 8 months ago
Upvoted the downvotes PrettyJoyBird. Why downvote an on-point remark like that?
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