Millennials Share 30 Lies They Were Told When Growing Up And They Are Totally Relatable
With the oldest millennials turning 40 this year, our Capri-sun and Harry Potter-fueled generation is officially turning into uncles and aunts. And although it’s hard (and honestly painful to wrap our head around) how little behind we are from boomers, the reality hits and sends you a cold shower—you’re no kid anymore.
So it’s time to reflect on our millennial childhood, which was basically just as surreal and somewhat hyperreal as playing The Sims for the first time. Being the first generation to grow up in the internet age, there were many weird things about the ways we were raised by our parents.
“Millennials of Reddit, what lie were you told growing up?” someone asked on r/AskReddit, sparking a hilarious and all too relatable thread on the level of absurdity we endured. Interestingly, some of the lies will surely hit close to home to kids from latter gens, proving that it may not be about the generation per se, but rather about the fundamental divide between children and parents.
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Money doesn’t buy happiness. Sorry folks. But in the world I’m currently living in, it absolutely does.
i read once "money can't buy happiness, but poverty can't buy sh*t"
Load More Replies...Ecstatic happiness it doesn’t buy - relaxed contentment it certainly does.
I noticed that only people who naver had any real money problems say that!
I remember a study (around ~2010) that found a salary of about $80,000 per person in the US was the ceiling for money which buys happiness. This is enough to eliminate worry from the average person's life - you can live in a safe area, you can send kids to a decent school, you can afford a reliable car, you can financially survive surprises like injury or illness, etc. Below that, those worries would dominate your life. Above that is entering into a game (capitalism) that is an endless chase and competition as people tend to spend the excess on things they don't need but will endlessly want. Food for thought.
Money buys time... (as has been accurately pointed out elsewhere on bored panda) Money buys the ability to choose between a shitty job or being able to take some time off to find a better one... money buys the ability to seek timely healthcare (even in countries with good reasonable health systems, such as Aus - money can still help speed things along) etc... soit makes a huge difference... it doesn't buy happiness, it gives you significantly more chance at happiness though.
I can't think of a single problem I have that money wouldn't make go away.
America is the best. It turns out we are ok in many things, but not the best, and in many areas we are not even ok.
Just as being able to learn and accept the truth about oneself is vital to growth and understanding, the same is true for one's own country. Too many rabid so called "patriots" view any criticism or condemnation as anti-American. You can't make anything better until you admit what is wrong.
As a german (since we f****d up big time once..or twice..or...) i never understood this lack of criticism for your onwn country. As well as the belive in the myth of the "american dream". Total brainwash if you ask me...dangerous one too. I mean i love my country for a lot of things (free healthcare, free universities, KURZARBEIT!, strict gun laws) and i am really happy to be born here by coinsidence. Would say its a jackpot win. cheers.
I don't even know why America feels the need to compare itself with every other country. Sure, you can be "the best" at some things but a blanket "we're the greatest" is just embarrassing.
I think probably the best at entertainment? They are quite amusing, I have to admit.
Load More Replies...I’m french and as a child/teen, I was pretty obsessed with US like «best country, best people, so much glitter etc… ». Then I grew up, Europe isn’t THAT bad and USA is a shitty country
I wish we'd learn to emulate other countries' successful practises. Germany's education system springs to mind, where part of the process is to help school kids find their path toward either university or trade school (bear in mind tradespeople are highly valued in most of Europe).
"You won't have a calculator everywhere you go."
Guess what Mrs. Diaz, I have a portable computer with access to the internet that fits in the palm of my hand.
OTOH, being able to do math mentally is still a GREAT skill. (I can't tell you how many times i've told people with calculators, "No, that doesn't sound right" ... and it wasn't)
That's on the operator not on the device. Garbage in, Garbage out.
Load More Replies...how is this a millennial thing? I am a 60 yr old boomer and we were the 1st kids to be told this b/c hand held calculators were invented in the 1960s by Texas Instruments and we all ran out and got one and were told we couldn't use them in school.
It still makes life much easier when you can do basic arithmetic in your head. I knew a waitress who couldn't figure out what her tip was when I told her to keep the change from a 10 euro note - the charge was 7.50 so we're not exactly talking weird amounts here! She ended up giving me back my change (counted out, painstakingly in front of 3 embarrassed adults, including her mum), as it's "just easier that way". So she missed out on a decent tip because she couldn't subtract from 10.
I don't want to be petty, but I don't think you should make assumptions about her skills - Having worked as a waitress I can say that literally everyone might have trouble doing even basic arithmetic after a busy 9 hour shift (Being tired does things to you).
Load More Replies...Or hey, here's an idea: learn the times tables. Learn to add, subtract, multiply and divide with a pencil and piece of paper.
BAHA FR because I ALWAYS carry a piece of paper with me/J
Even afore the phone was a major thing I showed my casio watch to which ever teacher spoke such bullshit
You need to define yourself by your job. I wasn't told this directly but we live in a culture of dream jobs or people asking "what's your job" when they meet you. My work is cool but it's just work. My hobbies are what I define myself around.
Lucky me. I was raised knowing that "Some people live to work and some people work to live. There's nothing wrong with either as long as you choose it and know it." My mom is and was a wise person.
I'm lucky enough my work and hobbies coincide in a way that is fun, not soul sucking.
My fist jobs was with an architect at whose office I was working six full days a week. When he heard that I was taking Italian lessons on the seventh day, he lectured me about how architecture must fill the entirety of an architect's life. Only a year later I wasn't working for him any more. By now I heardly work as an architect. But I did end up studying a year in Italy and still know and enjoy the Italian language.
This one is spot on. After I retired medically, I my world was shattered. I didn't know who I was. I got divorced so my identity of being a wife and the career girl no longer existed. My financial life fell apart. I had a huge breakdown. I'm better now and know who I am. You have to define yourself by who you are, not what you do.
Hugs. It can be devastating. I always considered myself a biologist (while studying and working). I feel that I am nobody without a job.
Load More Replies...I never ask people what they do for a living. It's like asking how much they make. There are so many jobs other people consider embarrassing, shameful, undignified, not skilled enough that a lot of people either generalize it or don't want to say at all because they know they'll get made fun of and that is not a fun social interaction. It's no one's business.
That, and "have you met someone/are you seeing someone?". Well, guess what, my worth as a person is not dependant on what job I have/if I have a job, and whether or not I'm single.
I've had many jobs in vastly different careers. Thus am I multi-defined. Groovy!
Be loyal to your company. They'll take care of you.
Also, follow your dreams, get a house with a yard, and you'll be able to retire.
I like experiencing a lot of different places. I've already had more jobs than my mum.
They definitely don't take care of you. They will replace you in a millisecond.
Ok, this may sound bad, but if I can be my own boss, run my own company, etc, I might not want to retire. My plan is to work my entire life on things I WANT to work on, and during the time I am supposed to retire, I want to form a media company.
No, the company won't necessarily take care of you. Some may, some may not, and it can vary by situation. Understand and insist that the employer-employee relationship should be mutually beneficial, and if it is not. make preparations and move on.
I do agree about buying a house. I think what most people do is buy a house where the budget isn't realistic. Buy modest and even an extra payment a year, you will pay off the mortgage much quicker. Also, if you have a partner, buy a home that if one of you is taken ill or loses their job, the other can handle the monthly finances. Each child DOESN'T have to have their own bedroom. Personally, I purchased my home because I could not afford the skyrocketing rents. Plus, if I ever had to go into a senior home, at least I could sell my home to afford the housing. I never wanted to couch surf or be a burden to my family.
I've been 30+ years with the company as are quite a lot of other workers. It all depends on the company and the country you live in.
"You'll regret spending so much time on that computer when you're older"
Nope.
I've been finding I regret less the older I get. I regretted a fair number of things at 40. At 60-odd, eh.
Load More Replies...I've read thousands of books, seen countless hours of tv, spend ages playing computer games. Enjoyed it while doing it, why would I ever regret it?
I'm 50 and currently replaying Fallout 3 on PC so nope. :) fallout-3g...378aff.gif
That going to college meant you could get a job
Wouldn't it be lovely if going to college was something one did simply because they desired higher learning? I'm Gen X and couldn't afford college so I started working right out of high school. After working my way up, I have the same high paying, mostly satisfying job as many, many uni graduates but I don't have any of that degree debt. While I don't have regrets per se, if I could do it all over again, I'd have chosen a trade. Electricians will ALWAYS be needed! ;)
If one COULD do simply for education. Everything in American culture has to be able to be monetized or it is dismissed as unimportant.
Load More Replies...It depends on what you are studying. STEM graduates still have a pretty good chance to get a well-paying job.
No. STEM stabds for Science Tech Engineering and math. Yeah tech jobs might still be abundant but trying to find a job as a biologist, pharmacist, chemist, mathematician... Its almost impossible to jave a job in science.
Load More Replies...Depends on your degree and on the college. If you have Major in Gender Studies from Community College, don't act so surprised if you end up flipping burgers
That is a majoy lie that sexist people spread in order to blame unemployed women. Most of my friends and relatives studied economy, nursing, medicine, biology, maths.... ALL of them had big trouble finding a job.
Load More Replies...The government should rank colleges by job placement and income after graduation. Those that do well get increased funding. We don't need to be funding colleges with giant athletic programs that do nothing but provide Saturday background noise on TV. High school is over. It's time to learn actual skills.
Everyone in here is forgetting that WE WERE SUPPOSED TO HAVE FLYING CARS BY NOW!
My father was always deeply disappointed we didn't have flying cars like he was promised in the 1950s.
Yup, they were already late when I grew up in the 70s.... same with robot butlers.
Load More Replies...I do not have sufficient faith in my fellow motorists. We're currently struggling with navigating in two dimensions, no need to go vertical!
I am sure there will be a need for vehicle to vehicle communication and auto piloting. If you take example of 5th element movie. There are cars flying in perfect grids on different heights. Mayhem only starts after human takes over of the car. Result: BOOM …. BIG BADA BOOM...
Load More Replies...We have flying cars, but they are not in common use. The problem is not in having them, but the widescale implementation. In years past, they did not take into account the problems having millions of travelers being airborne would create. We have far too many wrecks on the ground, taking it vertical at our current level of tech would only increase the body count. Consider: a car loses power, plunging into the programmed lane paths below it, taking down and entangling several cars on its descent until they all smash into the ground. Given that the cars would have to be built light to fly with any kind of efficiency, everyone would likely die in either the initial impact, or the impact of hitting the ground. Also consider that strong winds would cause each individual car to drift, and given its size and engine power, would be difficult to keep all cars in their "lane", if at all.
TERRAIN, PULL UP, TERRAIN, PULL UP, TERRAIN, PULL UP, EJECT, EJECT, EJECT...
Load More Replies...Given how badly people drive, that's probably a good thing. Last thing we need is shitty traffic and a crapton of road rage and vehicular homicide in ALL THREE DIMENSIONS.
It wouldn’t happen anyway. And flying small aircraft in three dimensions is already too much for most people .
Load More Replies...…. Helicopters. That’s what you are going with? Not even autonomous taxis? Those are most likely to come into production first.
Load More Replies...Think about it though, cars are just a form of transportation, planes fly and are a form of transportation... they also both have wheels. I believe planes are flying cars :)
Well, I would argue that except that I think that between the cost and education for even a PPL and say a cub, the difference is to great to compare to cars.
Load More Replies...but how does it work? Does it disassemble you and send your atoms at light speed across the universe, OR , does it copy your layout, transmit the plan to a remote copier that duplicates your layout with new molecules, and then disintergrate the original? In the first case, you are destroyed and reassembled (you die). In the second case, you're just copied and your original destroyed (you die).
Load More Replies...Physics. First you would need enough energy production, and storage capabilities, next engines which can use it efficiently. Safety and environment shouldn’t be ignored either. Imagine a flying car, with the energy potential of TNT and every sane or insane was allowed to fly it? Next think about flying 100 meters above and suddenly the engines fails? I see why we don’t have them yet and also why they don’t really persue this concept.
Being a good, ethical person will unlock doors. I only become a stepping stone for others.
Moral fibre is something you carry with you. Some will recognize and appreciate your decency (such as the person who agrees to marry you and the employer who values you), others will attempt to take advantage.
I watched many people break all the rules and do things without thinking and they made it right past me. Absolutely pissed me right the f**k off.
That some dude is gonna walk up to me and offer me free drugs.
WHERE THE [HELL] ARE MY FREE DRUGS GOD DAMMIT
I've been waiting for that guy since I was 12, and only met him once ... on one of those techo-parades that were popular in the nineties, he was high as a kite'S kite and gave me and a friend a handful of pills. We didn't dare to try them and just handed them to someone we didn't know.
Closest I got was counterfeit contact lenses. At 3am. In Rochester NY. What the hell are counterfeit contact lenses???
Sounds like you went to some shtty parties. Did everybody just hang out in different corners by themselves?
"Most people on the internet are dangerous weirdos!"
Most people on the internet are really ordinary people.
Eh, I'd argue that a lot of "ordinary people" behave quite weirdly on the internet. People do weird things from the other side of a screen. Sure, there are great communities on the internet of like-minded people with niche interests. It becomes a dangerous problem when those "niche interests" are conspiracy theories, Qanon, and/or anti-vaxxer rhetoric. Even ignoring actual internet predators, there's a grain of truth to this statement.
You made a valid point. There are always the good or bad things in our everyday uses
Load More Replies..."Watch out for those weirdos!" "We are the weirdos, Mister" ~The Craft
It's better to think everyone is a dangerous weirdo on the internet because there are a good handful of them on the internet. If you are offered a bag of chocolate cookies but was told some are poo, you're going to be wary of the whole bag.
My parents think that everyone on the internet that isnt me or my friends is a sweaty 40 year old man that lives in his parents basement.
"It will all make sense when you're older." [Screw] that, everything makes even less sense. Now I'm older and expected to be independent and STILL don't understand half the sh*t I need to accomplish that successfully.
I just got a song stuck in my mind. Anyone else seen frozen two?
Translation "you are young and I am old, so you are wrong and I am right".
You didnt get it yet it seems. It makes sense that it doesn’t make sense It makes sense since you yourself give and decide what makes sense to you. It makes sense that you have to get up and direct your own life. It makes sense that you have to learn and understand yourself what you have to do to understand it... Is it fair? No. Should alot have been taught in school? I sure think/wish it should.
I've never seen someone miss the point so *pardon*ing badly
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I was told that sex was a reward gifted by women to be bestowed upon deserving men. Growing up it was awkward (and incredibly embarrassing) to understand that women can enjoy and want sex just as much as men.
The idea that guys would have sex with women even when they think women cant enjoy it makes me very uncomfortable
That's all types of f****d up... if your not both enjoying it... well... thats a problem!
Maybe its because 90% of my (outrageously large) family are women, but I was always bought up to treat women the same men, and when it came to sex the only rules were 'be safe and only do what each of you are comfortable with' and 'don't be selfish (if ya know what I mean)'.
Growing up watching all those stupid shows on tv where the men always seems to be begging for sex. It’s been passing for comedy for such a long time, when in reality it’s just pathetic and sad. We’ve been influenced a lot more than we think.
I am in my sixties. When I was growing up we were told we were a s**t if we liked sex (or had it bf marriage). Try to undo that scornful image.
as long as it's consensual f**k all you want. Well, as long as it doesn't interfere with your life.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"
Yeah. Those broken bones heal up well enough. Still in counselling for some of those words...
I’ll take sticks and stones before nasty, hurtful words anytime. Physical pain you can get over, but nasty words stick with you forever.
Neither is acceptable and should not be accepted as normal.
Load More Replies...Broken bone took a few weeks to heal... I was in need of therapy for months then I got the most robotic therapist ever who proceeded to tell me that I was way to skinny and that I must not be eatin.... I am a teenage girl. I got told to kill myself. SHE WAS SUPPOSED TO F*****G HELP AND INSTEAD SHE MADE ME SCARED TO GET HELP SO NO BITCH THE WORDS DO MORE DAMAGE
I am sorry. In my experience most theraoists are lousy and have no empathy
Load More Replies...That was always chanted to those being bullied by teachers and those kids who you could tell were on the verge of crying.
The point is probably that we can choose to ignore hurtful things people say, particularly if the source of those words is an idiot.
If somone tells me that im throwing a dictonary at their head.
That if I don't have my life figured out by the time I'm 25 then I have some serious problems.
Wait untill you are 30+... Still figuring s**t out, cant really get engaged with a girl that i adore with every single molecule in my body becouse we cant afford to live togehter yet (she is currently uneployed), prices are waay up in my country, taxes are nightmare, paychek is the same for the past 5 years (barely to survive ffs), was told that if i study ill get awesome job LOOOL, politics is everything here - cant even say a word against the ruling party. Average person is f****d, i get deppresed for playing a video game before bed becouse i feel like i am not working that hour, i am wasting time doing something i enjoy and something that helps me cope with reality...
I havnt even played a video game in years for the sole fact that I feel like I shouldnt be.....wtf
Load More Replies...Said it before but, My Grandad (87yo) still says, 'I haven't decided what I want to do when I grow up!'.
Honestly, you won't have it figured out in your 30s. And that's okay.
I thought they were for partying, taking drugs, and being an idiot?
Load More Replies...25 is barely adulthood. That's when you vaguely start getting your stuff together.
Relax. Be gentle but persistent. There’s no real rush as long as you’ve figured out your general direction.
All guys will only want sex from you *all the time. Turns out that kind of thinking is harmful to a young woman's sexual-psychological development.
*Edit to add/specify that this also includes the idea that men are always "ready" to have sex at a moment's notice, and if they aren't, it obviously means there's something wrong with you (or them) or they're cheating (ridiculous, just because it's anecdotally true for some doesn't mean it's a certainty).
THIS!!!! I have absolutely internalized this! It's to the point where even if a guy I'm in a committed relationship with says he DOESN'T want standard sex (which I physically can't do without extreme pain) I can't believe him and I know I'm letting him down sexually. He can't possibly be happy/fulfilled with our relationship as a whole if he's not getting penis/vagina sex.
Yup, or when you kinda don't want to have sex but you do it anyway because otherwise they'll get bored with you and leave you because you're that girlfriend that doesn't want to have sex
Load More Replies...I don't want sex all the time. I certainly don't want it with any random/passing stranger or "hot chick". I may even have off days where I don't preform as well as I'd like to. It has nothing to do with my commitment to my partner or her attractiveness. And she certainly doesn't OWE me anything, sexually speaking.
I've been told this by most of the guys I've come across, and the ol' "All guys are the same. If they act nice it's just because they want to get in your pants." and the horrifying "If you're not putting out for him then there are other ways you need to satisfy his horniness. Either way, you have to." This has been said all by my ex and his freak friends.
I agree! Even some men have internalized this, messing up their views on intimacy and confusing wanting to be intimate with wanting sex.. This results in weird dynamics between millennial men and women.. It's annoying.
The truth is, sometimes we (men) are not in the mood, or are too tired, or have a headache. Sure, if you start fooling around you might 'get things going' but it's only going to affect our performance and mood. It doesn't mean we don't think you are attractive or sexy, it's just not the right time for us. It's the same as you doing it when you don't fancy it just to please us.
This line of thinking has led to excuses for infidelity by men, and worse perpetuates the idea what women cannot rape men.
So it's the idea that men are incapable of falling in love with a woman and ONLY likes us for our bodies. That type of thinking is so gross.
So many movies growing up have people going to college, finishing at like 21, and already being engaged and married immediately after. Then within like 2 years of working they're already buying a house with like 3 kids by 25.
Like Jesus Christ I'm 26 and just got engaged, only now getting a career in my field, and I'm still living at my parents after living away for like a year. Everything's just so damn expensive and there's just no money to be found. I can't imagine raising kids yet.
Definitely. In Spain unemployment is so bad and rent is so expensive that living with your parents until your late 20s is vasically the norm
Load More Replies...So this is less an intentional lie about reality and more the fact that previous generations COULD do that and then f***ed it up for the rest of us
I'm still driving around the waste lands of the Australian outback searching for guzzolene while avoiding rabid biker entanglements like depicted in Mad Max movies.
It's always been that way. When I was 26 I purchased my first apartment,. This was in the early '90's. The interest rate was 14% and was nearly 40% of my monthly salary. When I had to sell the apartment I lost $30k. It was a big hole to dig out of. To sell that apartment and buy a house I had to 'find' $60k. I saved like hell. My point is it wasn't always easier 'back then'.
Longer life expectancy? If we're (probably) going to live to be 80 or 90, what's the rush?
"Student loans are normal, don't be afraid to go into debt for that out of state graduate degree"
In consumer math class we were actually told there is "good debt" and "bad debt". I now see it all as just debt that can cripple you for life.
There is good debt if the return on investment is high enough. However, what is uncertain is your future return. Also, if you are rich enough you can get as many loans as you want at a very low interest rate. Your investment income will be higher so you use that to pay off your debt. This right here is why we need to tax wealth and not income.
Load More Replies...Why not go get your degree in Europe where it's usually free? Oh, because of COMMUNISM
Why the most of US students don't study abroad? It's free in many countries.
then spend your entire lifetime paying back the f*ck*n loan, retire having lived your whole life after under debt... those sh*ttty lil 1% of the rich have it nicer, and this is all for them to keep having it nicer..
Gotta say I got paid to do my out of state grad degree. Plenty of programs have funding, more so than undergrad
you get funding if you are either a star athlete or an all-A student... not everyone is that good.
Load More Replies...That the government represented the views of the people.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahah😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 tell me another one. Didn't realise this was for satire posts
I grew up through the 70s and 80s with this fallacious s**t, which was taught to my parents in the 50s and 60s, and they never f*****g questioned it. They just passed it on to me. I assure you, I did not pass on that s**t to my children anymore than I did some ridiculous fantasy regarding a man in a red suit who gives s**t away in December.
Load More Replies...Or that the government cares for their citizens. And taxes are to support the social system. Lol. I have been paying taxes all my working years, my parents have paid high taxes all their life, my partner pays an insane ammount of taxes. Because "we need to contribute to help others". But now that I am disabled or that my father is too ill to work we wont get a f*****g cent. I got threatened with deportation in belgium just for asking if i could get help (economically or otherwise). I cant get the nationality because I cant work; so i will never have the same rights as a normal cotizen. All for being ill. But yet my partner still must pay almost half his salary in taxes. I used to be a convinced socialist. But i learned that all governments care about is money. And that is you are too ill to work you are seen as a parasite that deserves no help.
I hate that they use the word "entitlements". I paid into it so it is mine, I earned it. Otherwise, give me my money back with interest.
Load More Replies...The parliament does, and only in a proportionnaly representative system.
Hey, the majority of people wanted trump in 2016 that’s just the way it is
No, majority of individuals didn't wanted tDump but majority of electoral collage votes did. Trump won with less votes. If US election were to be a real election instead couple folks picking whos next president neither Bush jr nor tDump would have won. https://www.270towin.com/2016_Election/
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In Finland, we were told that once the big age group born after WWII retires, there will be jobs everywhere, for everyone. That didn't happen. The number of open positions has remained stagnant for ten years while the unemployment rate is rising.
There's a problem with Boomers not retiring, not downsizing, not sharing leadership positions, etc. It's tough -- tough for both Boomers and Millenials. It's tough that in a lot of places, Boomers don't have the savings or social support network to be able to retire. It's tough that so many are caring for adult children who can't afford to live on their own. It's also tough that in many places, Millennials are being effectively barred from home ownership, political power, and good careers because the Boomers in those positions won't or can't step back.
Does anyone ever consider Gen X in these theories? We exist too
Load More Replies...Being told the same lie while 17! Boomers are slowly retiring at my workplace, but not everyone is replaced, and then people replacing the retired one never get the same salary and qualification levels!
That's because they often did not choose to "retire"; they were forced out because they made too much money and of course the owner isn't going to pay someone new the same thing because that was the point.
Load More Replies...Twenty-five years ago I read a study about generational savings habits. Unsurprisingly, Boomers saved the lowest percentage of their income out of all the adult generations. Also, unlike the Silent and Greatest generations, Boomers largely weren't planning to gift their generational wealth to their children, but were planning to spend it all before they died. Which is probably why so many of them can't afford to retire - they didn't save enough to support their lifestyles and they aren't willing to downgrade.
I will never understand that. My in laws are like this; they got their house extremely cheap because my mil dad sold it to her at a ridiculous price. But they decided that nobody helped them (really?) and that their kids will never ger a cent of inheritance. They recently inherited min 100k, are retired, no loan and plenty of savings. Me and my partner are having a rough time and they wont give him a f*****g cent. I hope that they dont expect him to pay for their retirement home or to come live with us. Because thats not going to happen. I cant understand it. My parents are very messed up but one thing that they are amazing in is generosity. They consider that there is no "their" money, but "family money" so if they for example sell my grandmas house (they are alive but lets say so) they would divide the money between the four of us.
Load More Replies...Don't forget that Boomers were also known as "The Me Generation". Laws in the US had to be made to protect children from being left alone. The parents left for work without caring how, or if, their children got to elementary school. Then the children came home to an empty house, letting themselves in via the house key worn around their necks. Then some of our parents went out for happy hour after work. The only meal lots of us had was lunch at school. Remember the Latch Key Kids? We are now known as Gen X.
I am really having a lot of trouble figuring out all these new generational labels. They seem to be becoming more and more specific in age groups and so now there's another label, and another label, and so on. I also notice that each group seemingly blaming another generation and then they blame back. People! No matter what generation your a part of, life is hard. Maybe in different ways, but it is. Blaming other generations for everything accomplishes nothing. Getting together and trying to find solutions does. But then I think there's a lot of stuff that it feels impossible to change because certain sectors of society have all the power. But yes, I do agree it's pretty damn hard to be a young person right now. As far as boomers not being able to retire, where I live the average income for someone before they retire is $44,000 per year. When you retire, on average it drops to $28,000. That's why boomers are still working.
Well, we also doubled the wirkforce gradually, while phasing out tge boomers: Lots of woman started working. Number of jobs went up, but not as much as number of workforce. That is among the reasons why salaries i the middle and bottom are stagnant or gi down when corrected fir inflation. Can't have social justice without ripple effects.
Don't go into x y or z for the money, you'll end up hating it.
Motherf*cker the only reason I'm even considering career fields is for money. Bonus points if it's interesting, but literally everything gets reduced to a puddle of suck once you start doing it 40 hours per week. I would love to be the delusional sunshine day dream a**hole who comes to work because he likes it, but that just isn't me. Pay me well and I will perform slightly better than average work, and whisper sweet nothing since my ear and I might even stay a little longer than necessary sometimes. But make no mistake. I am only in it for the money. Once that's gone, so am I.
Honestly I like my job. Doesn't even really feel like going to work. I know I am lucky
I USED to feel that way about my job... Then I got a new boss.
Load More Replies...Some people get a job they love and low pay is tolerable because of the personal fulfillment. Some people get a job they love and earn high pay because of how much time, effort and talent they're able to put into it. Some people get a job they simply tolerate for the money, and they are content with finding their happiness elsewhere with the income they've earned. These are ALL acceptable paths. Just let people explore themselves and their opportunities and don't expect their story to match yours.
I find every job boring after a given period, but the fun is in combining everything you know and trying to find new ways to do things more efficiently or developing ways to measure parameters that we couldn't before. That is the high you're after.
Almost everyone hates their job. It is sad, but working is not something inherently positive or valuable, it is just what you do to not starve. A job you don't hate is just a bonus point that helps you last longer before burn out, but it is very rare.
If you hate work you will be unhappy for most of your life. Decide to be content bc it doesn't mean you can't still champion your ideals.
I've always wondered how business that want people who value work over making a living stay in business and expand. Talking about you, Doordash, Skip, etc.
Friend m**********r, you’ll not enjoy the money if you hate the job. Settle for „enough“ and find something you can see a point in. Or have a great team. I cleaned loos with a great team and liked it.
everyone is working for money, duh! But instead of doing, let's say, an ABC job that gives you a bit more money but you don't like it, go do XYZ job that gives you a little less money but you actually like it. That's how this advice works, you negative dumbass.
That this war is worth fighting for. Join the infantry! Two theaters later and a sh*t ton of baggage. I've been to rehab and have weekly classes dealing with PTSD. Now I get to look back on my handiwork and see it was for nothing. Nothing has changed.
That you are fighting to protect your country. The reality is you are only protecting the rich people's interests around the world, their investments and international corporations. Very rarely are armed forces use for good like to save people from ethnic cleansing atrocities.
100% agree. They created a war machine that profits certain individuals.
Load More Replies...Right, we do.. wether we agree or not. They probably use toll booth money to fund it some how.
Load More Replies...War is population control, asset redistribution, and trauma-based mind control for the masses. I'm in this life for me, I'm dedicated to that. Not carrying anyone's gun, flag, or representing interests that don't reflect my values. I will, however, brawl in a heartbeat to protect my own interests, or in the protection of another person.
Total brainwashing. Just cannon fodder to massacre people in other countries. And then you wonder why there are mass muslim immigrations into europe, and, in the case of war on drugs, mass mexican immigration into usa. Because of the disgusting imperialism you guys export. Please stop it.
Not us, it's our government. We have no more control over ours than anyone else does. Are you seeing the commonality here? Governments are out of control. They do what the f**k they want. There is no oversight, and they absolutely do not represent the interests of the citizens. Just the wealthy few who profit from war and imperialism. I hate my tax money funding bombs for villages, and the continued oppression of people. I did not ever have an opportunity to vote down a war. They just seem to start on their own without my acquiescence, and never ever seem to stop. Our whole society is based on a "war on something" and I f*****g despise it. And these atrocities that we're speaking on at this moment are just the ones that we are aware of.
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That I could be anything I want if I put my mind to it...
Keep trying, you never know when the big one drops.
Load More Replies...That has been a lie for generations. I work healthcare and 30 years family had told a developmentally disabled person they could do anything if they worked hard enough. Person honestly thought they were going to get out of supervised living and become a veterinarian. All the hard work is not getting that one in college or make me a opera singer.
Chances are you'd need to put your mind up for sale if you want to have the money and resources to be/do anything ;-;
I want to be a unicorn... I want to be a unicorn... I want to be a unicorn *fingers crossed*
What did you expect? They can't handle the truth themselves, let alone sharing it. What were they supposed to tell you? "Hey you're probably not fit for certain things in life" ... we're not there yet as a society. Not even close.
That I'm smart. I was smart, sure- for a kid. But as I've gotten older that's evened out significantly. I may know a lot of trivia and a lot about certain key subjects, but those are not actually marketable skills. So I work nights at a hotel and squeak by, living with my parents and racking up credit card debt to make ends meet.
Work warehouse jobs for a little bit until you get to choose a little more. Thank me later
I had that. I matured quite fast so as a kid I was quite intelligent, things that classmates struggled with (like learnijg the clock) were really simple for me. I had it until like 14-16 and then i was just average. Nowadays I feel stupid because i was supposed to be really smart and the older i get the slower my brain works. Since I have CFS I am lately struggling doing simple math in my head.
My son started school a grade ahead (was ready for 1st when by age he was kinder) he evened out in middle school and is now on par with his age group. He was depressed at first. We explained that it was just fine, it didn't mean he wasn't intelligent, just that his skills applied less to how school worked now, and the curriculum. I saw too many "gifted" kids struggle as adults and hurt deeply as their identity as the "smart" one crumbled since that's all their parents, teachers, and other adults ever encouraged.
That’s harsh. Maybe uncouple your smartness from your self depreciation (kick the latter to the curb) and just be a smart person doing menial work. No shame in that.
That turning on the lights in the car is illegal
Dad explained it to me in the fifties; the dome light reflects on the inside of the windshield, interfering with the ability of the driver to see ahead. Immediately I turned the light, and it was undoubtedly true. In old cars, with crude bulbs and flat glasses was almost impossible to look ahead from certain angles. Modern cars don't have much of a problem.
I was told this because apparently it's a distraction to the driver and can cause an accident.
In parts of the USA, having the inside light on attracts cops like a moth to light,
What in the world? I think someone's parents may've lied to them. I'm a Millennial and have never heard of this. Maybe it's a regional thing?
Someone's parents DID lie to them; the article is lies told to teens and the post ("you can't turn on lights in cars at night") is one of said lies
Load More Replies...It is against the law to have any light illuminated above the dashboard while operating a vehicle. It can create a "fishbowl effect" and you can't see too well outside.
Get a Bachelor's Degree and you are set for life as far as a job/career is concerned.
The problem is, everyone else's parents told them the same thing. And when everyone has a degree, they aren't worth s*** anymore. Degrees used to be for people who had a genuine interest in something and wanted to pursue it - once it became the default setting, even for people who had no real interest in studying something, the wheat got lost in the chaff.
When everybody's super... No one will be. - Syndrome.
Load More Replies...While that was true for me (engineer) it certainly doesn't hold for my wife (math teacher). She has a BS in Math, a BA in Education and two masters degrees. She makes just over 1/3 of what I do and is so burned out with 70+ hour weeks for 18 years that she quit education all together. Teachers are the most highly educated group to earn so little, at least in the US.
I went to a public college and a former colleague of mine went to private. We were both government employees so our salary was public information. We made the exact same amount, but her education cost far more than mine.
Load More Replies...I don't understand why my generation didn't ask more of their kids if they wanted to be trades people. My adult children have never been hit by this downturn bc they are people who make things. Perhaps it was too much idealism about the white-collar jobs that is part of this problem. Read "Desiderata" prose, it has helped me.
Like what? Because most of ky family and relatives have studied medicine, maths, biology, economics... All of them struggled to find a job. With minimum three languages and one master minimum each. My cousin speaks four languages fluently (spanish, catalan, english and french) and ok italian, has three masters and a bachellor in economy and still took him until his mid 30s to get a decent job
Load More Replies...A high school degree used to be worth something. Then everyone got a high-school degree, so jobs need a bachelor's. Then everyone started getting bachelor's, so jobs now require master's. And so on.
Boomer here. There are a lot of variables that define the value of your bachelor's degree. For example, is there a current job market for your degree? When I started college in the late 60's I really wanted to major in historical linguistics and etymology. I did that for a few semesters before I came to my senses and changed majors. I can do some hella hard crossword puzzles, however, so I guess those first college semesters were not completely wasted. My niece just finished her masters in philosophy and told me the most valuable information she acquired during graduate school was that tall, grande, and venti just means small, medium, and large. She is a very good barista with burdensome student loan.
Yeah, I'm sure a Bachelor's degree in Gender Studies from the local Community College is a great career builder.
Lies. Because most of my family and relatives have studied medicine, maths, biology, economics... All of them struggled to find a job. With minimum three languages and one master minimum each. My cousin speaks four languages fluently (spanish, catalan, english and french) and ok italian, has three masters and a bachellor in economy and still took him until his mid 30s to get a decent job
Load More Replies..."you go to work, earn money, after 50 years you can be happily retired." No, it doesn't work that way. Not anymore.
I have notice the 'age of retiring' is creeping up. Also, I'm sure they're going to push back the age to qualify for old age pension (Canadian) because we're living so much longer.
They probably will. Over here in Denmark, they recently upped the retirement age. I have to be 74 before I can retire... I'm not sure I'll even make it that far.
Load More Replies...i'm about to turn 50 and my parents occasionally make comments like "only 15 years of work left!" haven't had the heart to break it to them that i'm going to be working until i die.
In the US, you can retire at any age. It's just that you don't get what we call social security until you hit 62. But you don't get medi-care (health insurance) until you're 65 and it's not cheap. I'll be 65 next year and counting down the days. I'm looking forward to retirement. It's going to be me and my dog going anywhere I can take her.
I expect to be working in old age. Apparently it will allow you to live longer.
This was said so often by people that retired in the time of corporate pensions (in the US), for the most part they have disappeared. We don't get to retire at 52 any more. I am 54 and in near panic mode trying to save enough for retirement in my 401k. I have had one for 30 years.
I am older and remember buying nicer things for my home on instalment payments. Getting gadgets like today's idealism is just wasn't what we were tempted with. Tattoo parlours would have made far less money from us. You build your life - in stages - in all regards. Don't believe that you will never be happy. Read "Desiderata ". I wish you well.
Be a doctor, lawyer or engineer and you will be happy and make lots of money.
I know so many underemployed lawyers that it's a little depressing. I don't know a single MD that isn't divorced (although I know a lot of happy DOs).
I do know a lot of happy, wealthy engineers though.
Probably because there weren't as many lawyers when the person giving this advice was younger, so they could charge more within what the market could sustain. Then everyone went to law school hoping to fit into that market, supply outstripped demand and lawyers don't earn as much any more because there are so many to choose from. Give it another decade and the engineers may face a similar glut of workers.
True this. After years ago there were articles about law school grads not being able to find internships or law clerk positions due to glut on the market.
Load More Replies...I have my surgery exam tomorrow and I'm here on bp regretting my choice every now and then. Forget about money I'm gonna be paid less for the next 4 years then my friends starting salary which they got 2 yrs back and on top of that patients mindset is being a doctor is a service and you should not charge them and do all these services for free (in india) while no other professional is looked down when they charge in thousands. And before I even choose my speciality I have to pass an exam where caste is more important then marks and I'm f****d if I don't get top rank to even get a clinical seat not even sure about my dream branch
I'm engineer, so where's my money? The only thing I don't have to worry is job. If I'm fired I can have new job on Monday without even going to any interviews, that desperate is demand. And scope of engineer is pretty big in general, so it's really just matter of where you want to work and what you want to do.
That receiving 'participation trophies' were our fault. No kid was out there demanding a trophy for losing. Some dumbass parent thought it would be nice for their kid to get a trophy so somehow this has become normal and everyone claims some 5 year old masterminded the whole thing.
We did this at horse shows for the toddler ( leadline) classes cause the kids all enjoyed getting something and at that age don't really care about or understand placings. I remember a slightly older group maybe 8-9 year olds showing in hand and a little boy wanting to swap his pink 5th place ribbon with the green sixth place cause he liked green better. So yeah its def the parents who care more about winning than the kids when they are little.
It's funny that the generation who created it, blames the generation who receives it.
As far as I remember, kids didn't even take it seriously. No one bragged or beamed with pride at getting a participation trophy or ribbon. If anything, it was a little embarrassing. It was on part with "My mom thinks I'm cool!" in the amount of social clout it got you. Whenever I see someone bitching about "participation trophies" I figure they must have completely forgotten what it's actually like to be a kid. Kids aren't stupid.
We used to call them "consolation prizes", and they were considerably less impressive than the grand prize. What was so awful about that?
I am a Gen X'er and I don't think anyone said it was Millenials who created the 'participation trophy' that was my generation probably or my parents. I remember getting them as a kid. I have never heard anyone say it was an invention of Millenials. But whatever.
My mom told me to plan to take care of her when she got old, because she wouldn't have retirement money saved up.
She died before I was out of the house.
Most everything else was great advice though:
"Get good grades, because we can't afford to pay for your college."
"Don't marry the first guy who asks, just because you're afraid no one else will."
I would definitely not care for my in laws because the are the kind of boomers that decided to not leave a cent of inheritance (that they got from their parents) to their kids. Fine, but for what i care you can rot in the streets, dont ever come here asking for help then.
Load More Replies...Parents shouldn't prepare their kids to take care of them. My mom had a union job and good retirement plan and prearranged funeral expenses.
You're special.
Just as special as everyone else, *exactly* as special as everyone else.
Load More Replies...I mean, this is undoubtedly true. There was a lot of joking rhetoric in the mid '00s that made fun of this. But darling, you are special. Humans are complex creatures. There is no single person on this planet complex in the exact same way as you. That doesn't mean you deserve special treatment or have achieved unparalleled greatness or anything. But you, person reading this, are undeniably unique and special. It's okay to feel empowered by that. It's pretty cool to look at the magesty of the universe and realize there's only one you.
You're special, just like everyone else. And when everyone is special, no one is.
you won't be increadibly gifted in everything, but you are still unique, have got your strengths and are worth knowing
I remember a great quote that fits this; "You're unique... just like everyone else."
“All those video games you play are gonna make you just like all the other losers who play them too”. Also something about anyone I meet online will be a terrible person. Turns out, video games helped me shape my career, and the people I met on those games have been better people and better friends to me than anyone I have known irl.
My grandpa told me the world was in black & white before colour TV existed.
Sounds like he was pulling your leg. My mother believed cows had shorter leg on one side so they could walk across the middle of a hill easier, she was a young city girl growing up, had no reason to think otherwise
That’s wild haggis. Wikipedia: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wild_haggis
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The biggest lie we were ever told was that we needed to go to school to and graduate and get a desk job in order to be successful. We were told it's shameful to work a trade and work a job where you have to shower after coming home dirty.
Less and less millenials are going into skilled trades or going to trade schools. Those that do are finding they can live very comfortably and there's no glass ceiling, you can work your way up and live very well. Also with less and less people going into trades the cost of skilled labor in the future is going to be very very high, people will be able to name their prices.
And it will be a long time before a robot takes a plummers job.
Load More Replies...Why can't the most of you fix their stuff? Didn't your dad learn you to repair your bike? Nowadays you can find repair guides on YouTube for everything. I've isolated my whole house, installed windows, placed a second hand garage door and I'm a chemist by trade. Trade people are great, if you have them over for job talk with them, they're a fountain of tips and information if you want to do things yourself.
Hehe, I repaired iPhones all during highschool. The entire thing was illegal and freelance. Broke students couldn't afford to go to the apple store to fix their phone, so people like me got lots of business. Word spread quickly, I made good money. Sometimes even the teachers would have me repair their phones. I just had to keep the prices below what the mall kiosk people charged. I still overcharged my customers, but it was much less of a scam than the legit people.
*semi-illegal. Nothing too bad, getting parts for the newest phones was the worst. Lots of loopholes hehe
Load More Replies...Trades are a super-viable way to make a living, and ultimately more critical than most of the desk jobs. We could survive with fewer lawyers and network engineers, but without competent plumbers, we'd be done in a year. Like, Armageddon-style done.
As a gardner, I'm making the same money as my graduated sister in law who is a manager at an edition company for lawyers information. Was shocked when she told me...
One of the best things I ever did was learn how to weld. It led to other things, and I kept snatching up new skills along the way. I'm pretty much a journeyman at several trades, and competent in others. Do what others can't, go where others won't. That sets you apart to begin with. Once they rely on you, then you can start throwing your own numbers out there, as in what you'd like to be making. It's easier to pay up than find new help.
We need people with trades. I think it is wonderful to see people excelling in things that I cannot do.
My kids want to "build walls and drive mixer truck" and I hope they will stick to that, will be well off in their 20s!
My Nanna told me the "I'm feeling lucky" button on Google would put a virus on the computer.
I'm 23 and I've never clicked it. I'm honestly not even sure what it does. But what if it does put a virus on the computer? Googling "what does the 'I'm feeling lucky' button do?" would do no good because they'd just cover their own tracks.
Lol. The "I'm feeling lucky" button just automatically opens the first website listed in Google search results. Your Nana had a point. Back in the day, there was a much higher risk of the first Google search result site not being safe. Extra protections now make that much less likely. Also, 23? You're Gen Z, buddy.
I have clicked it; this is not true. I'm Feeling Lucky cycles to a new random button. Clicking it takes you to a google search. IE I'm feeling lucky > *mouse over* > I'm feeling hungry > *click* > Restaurants near me | Google Search (or something)
What you're saying is only true if you leave the search field empty. If you type search in the field and hover over "I'm feeling lucky" button it will not randomize. If you were to click it now it will take you directly to the website that's first result on first page of google search.
Load More Replies...Ok, so anyone pressed it? What does it do? I guess I'm not feeling very lucky :p
Upvote if you just googled "what does the 'I'm feeling lucky' button do?"
"You can be ANYTHING you want when you grow up." Except, what you want to do won't pay the bills so pick something else.
Worst part is when you're so encouraged for your artwork, but everyone suddenly seems horrified when you say you want to pursue it as a career.
Load More Replies...I just wanted to be a roadie, lol. I actually get to do it for fun locally, so I'm fulfilled. I do sound and lights on the side, and I have a regular grind job that pays the bills. On the gig weekends, I get to crank it up, talk to drunk girls half my age, and basically set the scene for a fine evening of noise and light and glycerin based fog...
"Find something you love and you'll never work a day in your life" I'm one of the lucky ones that gets paid to do something I love (programming). I love programming. I go to work and I program. I come home and I program. Work is still work. There are still days that I hate going into the office. There are days that I hate what I'm working on. It's still work. It'll always be work. Sometimes it feels like work even when I'm working on my personal projects. The real benefit is that you'll enjoy getting good at the thing you get paid to do. That's the key. You probably aren't going to be able to escape working, so if you can find something you won't hate learning.
I am a jazz rock keyboardist. I owned a synthesizer and amp repair shop for years. My work was like being in a toy store because I spent a lot of my time playing cool keyboards that I repaired. The only miserable part was the business management.
Never give out your personal information online.
Now that's all the internet is. Everyone's personal information
People in Greece right now refuse to participate in the census because that would be "giving away personal information". To the government. That already has all your personal information. Like they don't even have Facebook accounts... smh
Those are kind of mandatory. Apparently you're considered a criminal for not handing over the info.
Load More Replies...I've been told never to carry my birth certificate on me and when I needed to bring it to, you know.. open a bank account or register for any kind of ID, and then I would get a lecture saying I should be carrying my birth certificate or any other sensitive ID. And never tell anyone your social insurance number. But that's been blasted by every employer and landlord requiring it on applications.
I was told that the AIDS virus was smaller than the pores in a latex condom so you had to wait until you were married to have sex otherwise you could get AIDS even with a condom.
I was told that part was more dangerous than cocaine and having one joint with the equivalent of smoking 4 cigarettes at once and it can kill you.
I was told that taking shrooms could put you in a vegetative coma for the rest of your life.
I was also told that legalizing gay marriage would lead to bestiality and being able to marry ducks.
Actually, this could be pretty much anywhere. After all, Albert Einstein said, "Two things are infinite: the universe and the human stupidity." And Napoleon said, "In politics, stupidity is not a handicap."
Load More Replies...People have married themselves and rocks, I don't see why ducks would be much different. People be crazy.
Reefer Madness did teach me one thing, pot smokers turn into murderers. Don't smoke pot, kids.
There was a big fish that lived in the canal behind my house and it hunted for the feet of children, so you should never walk on the banks of the canal because then it will grab your feet and eat you
My grandma always told me not to drink water from a well because there might be snake eggs in and I would accidentally drink them and then little snakes will be roaming around my stomach. We didn't even have wells...
I don't know about snakes..this sounds more like worms. (Intestinal parasites) 😬
Load More Replies...We were just told not to go near the rivers because the undercurrents will pull you down and you'll drown, and that the rivers are very polluted anyways. I mean, they aren't wrong. People drown in them all the time and you can see the sewer pipes leading to the rivers along the banks. I've seen the water bubbling in a thick stew of whatever was floating in there.
When I was a teen, my friend took me on a long bicycle adventure up somewhere near Niagara Falls, NY where we stopped at a canal and he jumped in to cool off. That was Love Canal, where Hooker Chemical dumped all its toxic waste. The community around that canal was an infamous toxic waste site.
Oh. I was just told that sewage (poop water) was pumped into the inlet so I'd get sick. I always imagined turds floating by but I could never see them from shore.
You don't need work experience; grades will be enough.
That might have been OK in the past but then the global financial crisis hit and employers became much fussier.
And then millennials get grumbled at for being fussy and wanting a decent wage AND a work life balance. The nerve
If it's any thought. I'm a Tail end boomer and I got hit with that crap just like everyone else. Money was everything. Happiness in your job was nothing. You were judged by how much you made (by society and prospective spouses as well) and your happiness meant nothing.
Load More Replies...It was never OK. It took me six months to land my first job with a degree in CompSci in the early 90's thanks to a recession. All because I didn't have any experience. There was no "experience" then as you had to work for IBM or other behemoth in order to get experience in computer science. Some things never change.
I had a hard time finding my first job because I wasn't born with experience.
Hired a lot of people over the years, always asked for a work experience resume, never asked for a college transcript.
That I'm smart but lazy. I'm actually just completely average but thanks to this lie I never developed any studying habits in high school that bit me in the ass hard in college.
Exactly. I couldn't handle the university because I did not actually know how to study. And I'm pretty sure I have ADD.
I have been told that for my entire career. I admit to being lazy when the boring stuff is happening, but everyone wants me when the sh*t hits the fan and a system goes down. Nothing wrong with that.
That I would NOT make money being a "creative" such as an artist or novelist. Although it is still difficult to earn a living in a non-conventional profession, the Internet has opened up a gazillion different opportunities to do so... Etsy, Kick starter, Amazon self-publishing, creating and marketing your own website, YouTube, making connections for referral through Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram.... Fun fact - was told to be an Architect and not an Artist (Architecture apparently closest thing to Artist that was allegedly an "actual thing"). Where I come from new grads in Architecture are often unemployed/underemployed for years, and I know a couple who supplement their income through the above "creative" means.
That we'd be able to afford to buy a house when we grow up if we worked really hard and got good jobs. Turns out the freaking older generations bought them all and wanted to lease them. And when one goes on the market, they want to buy investment properties, or foreign investors make cash offers above the asking price. How do we compete with that?
That they had it so much harder than us growing up
Honestly, my folks did have it harder. They had a different life and different situation that put them in vulnerable situations alone. BUT that doesn't mean I didn't have hardships of my own and not struggling now.
Typically my dad: ''I had it harder than you'' '' Mmm okay, being able to feed a family while still being a student at 27, owning a donated house ( by granpa) , daily driving a BMW and a sportscar on weekend plus Mum able to work only halftime earning twice I earn fulltime today? And leaving on vacation at every vacation ? Ok boomer!'' No way, we were priviligiated !
Nope, I would not want to be amongst the youth of today. The eighties had all the best times, with so little to fear. Clubbing every night, working days, crazy long sleeps on the weekend. Not much fear of spiked drinks, gang rapes, drug doses that will kill you or send you psycho. Knowing everyone almost every where you went even though you made your plans without asking where it's at. Everyone had your back, we really partied and then some, safely.
My parents had it much harder than me growing up. My mother has minor rickets from poor nutrition. My grandmother had it harder than my mother - she was basically on her own at 11. My hardships are trivial in comparison.
my parents had way worse conditions growing up than i did. They also had lives that improved almost every year. On the whole, i prefer their trajectory to my own.
Most people did. I used to have cardboard lining my shoes. Horrible when it rained. My mum used to cut down her own clothes to make mine I hated it but understood. I was 16 when I bought my own first clothes. We also had a second hand uniform shop as school .... How I hated that shop.
That my parents loved me.
''Family matters'' Errr no sorry not sorry, too much toxic people in mine ! Bye abusive father and weirdo aunts! Hello balanced and listening good counselling faithful frends I can rely on!
It’s ok to love them and not feel loved back. You’re grown up strong and you’ll find love.
Tbh, know one wants to be told how "strong" they are when they've gone through emotional neglect from the people who were supposed to love them. It's like pitifully referring to those with loving parents as "weak" in order to lower yourself in humbleness so to make it seem you're raising up someone you think deserves to be put on a pedestal of inspiration, when you both at the same level to begin with but just coming from different backgrounds.
Load More Replies...At least my mom was honest. "Nobody's ever going to love you the way you are" so HA....
"Go to college, I'll pay for it."
My $39K debt says otherwise.
Getting a job won’t be hard just walk right in and they’ll hire you.
Just walk around town and hand in CV's, companies love go getters.
"Pound the pavement. Knock on doors. Call them. Tell them you'll wait for them to get off their lunch break."
Load More Replies...I would get so much grief for not being aggressive enough. "Don't ask for an application, just tell them you'll take."
It will get better
Name 10 of those ways, please. I need something to feel happy about.
Load More Replies...Life does get better. And worse. And better. It's not a binary system. Fortunately, a lot of social things that were difficult to navigate as a teen get easier to manage as adults. Some of it is brain development. But, I'd argue, it's not that adults are necessarily smarter than teens. It's just that adults have had more practice in certain situations.
That millennials are the reason the economy is worsened
All my kids have jobs and homes we put money away in ISA and other savings schemes and there was enough for each to have a deposit on a house.
They were very lucky and way outside the norm. And what would their lives be like today if you had not been able to do that? I'm a boomer. I am the mother of 2. One has been successful with nothing from me to make her so, the other is dead. They are/were both Gen X, and they did not have it easy, even that far back. We were poor. We could never have saved enough to do what you did.
Load More Replies...The generation before blaming the future generations for the mess they created.
Tv always told me pouring a capful of any bubble bath will give me a whole tub of large bubbles. I haven't found a soap that does that even with like half the bottle used.
Have you tried pouring in into hot running water? Pour it right next to where the hot tap is landing. Cold water dissipates the bubbles
You're using the wrong soap. I've seen some that are good and some that are crap
That the Dewey Decimal System is essential, and that I would need to learn it to be successful in life. I haven't been in a library in years.
The Dewey Decimal System is not essential and you certainly don't have to memorize it. The thought of spending years without visiting a library makes me sad though. Libraries are great! They're one of the few places left in society where you're allowed to exist without spending money. Librarians are fact checkers and can help you steer clear of fake news. Libraries frequently have new technology and offer classes. There's also all sorts of community building workshops and enrichment opportunities, plus a TON of entertainment -- for free. If you haven't been to your local library in while, go check it out! (If you don't have a local library, definitely try to get one. In the meantime, fortunately, you can digitally visit free online ones.)
Most libraries I know have Dewey signs posted throughout the building, if that's how they organize their collection. Go to the library! It's a good time!
I don't need the Dewey Decimal system because i can do a keyword search on a computer catalog that will feel me where in the stacks to look
More fool you. I love reading and learning I would not be able to follow my interests if not for the library.
As Oscar Levant, a classic neurotic humorist once said: "I stopped reading books because it takes my attention away from myself". The narcissist "Me" generation has a hard time not being focused on themselves.
Fats are bad for you.
At first I read "farts" and I was like "no, they're good". But "fats" are good too! 😂 😂 😂
Caused by sugar, which was added to reduced fat foods to make them taste better
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That we could buy a house, grow old and retire.
I'm still trying to figure out if I'm a millennial or not.
This shouldn't be that hard. Millennials are typically defined as being born roughly 1980-1995.
Everyone was poor and there was no progress in the middle ages.
I always thought if you were royal or noble you're a poor farmer, merchant or old, peddling artist.
That I would need and use cursive.
And cursive is so much nicer to read than chicken scratch
Load More Replies...Cursive is a lovely way to write and it shows that you care about presentation.
The way to be financially secure is to work hard for years to better yourself and foster a valuable skillset. Naaah, man. Get something called "cryptocurrency" and retire a millionaire in your early 20's! ...I'm not bitter.
When I wanted to go study computer stuff, my parents said that nobody will use computers in the future. I wanted to study art, and I was told that I can't support myself as an artist. Now I'm trying to become a game artist in my 30's after spending over a decade failing at everything.
That college is all fun and games , but nobody told you about internship and cocurriculars and finding jobs
I was told not to eat cake batter because it'd give me tapeworms.
Some kids at daycare told me I'd get worms if I ate kiwi skins. And it wasn't that long ago I learned "raw" bacon is really pre-cooked.
My grandma told me that if gay people can get married then the world will collapse. Guess what MARTHA!! I just got married to the most wonderful woman in the world and I have yet to see the earth's core implode.
Congratulations and thank you. Thank you for being brave and being yourself, I am just now coming to terms with this myself late in life and it's because of people like you that I saw its OK to be gay. So thank you.
Load More Replies...As a GenXer, I heard a lot of these "truths". But never from my parents, who said, "Work hard, hope for som eluck, never trust management, and never assume you'll only have one career." Thanks, Parents. And, yeesh, who lies to their kids like this?!
geez, while some of these are quite correct, as a 30yo, I can confirm that MOST of these posts are stupid. As in, it is stupid to complain about advice that you actually did not follow. You just heard them a lot and you think it does not apply to your life, but really, you've never tried to follow it. Screams about how there are certain people of our generation who just like to blame everything on someone else.
and every generation blames the ones before. my generation blamed the war happy Silent Generation and said "Never trust anyone over 30." now young people blame my generation for everything.
Load More Replies...most of these have nothing to do with being a millennial. We were told the same crap back in the 1960s and 1970s.
Sorry millennials but it's not just you. I'm a boomer and heard the same crap. No I haven't got any sage advice, you're pretty much on your own like most people.
Not a millenial, but... "If you believe in yourself, are confident, and work hard enough, you can do it!"
One of the biggest for me was "We're your parents we'll never do anything to hurt you"
Let me guess. You think it's women's fault you can´t get a date?
Load More Replies...My grandma told me that if gay people can get married then the world will collapse. Guess what MARTHA!! I just got married to the most wonderful woman in the world and I have yet to see the earth's core implode.
Congratulations and thank you. Thank you for being brave and being yourself, I am just now coming to terms with this myself late in life and it's because of people like you that I saw its OK to be gay. So thank you.
Load More Replies...As a GenXer, I heard a lot of these "truths". But never from my parents, who said, "Work hard, hope for som eluck, never trust management, and never assume you'll only have one career." Thanks, Parents. And, yeesh, who lies to their kids like this?!
geez, while some of these are quite correct, as a 30yo, I can confirm that MOST of these posts are stupid. As in, it is stupid to complain about advice that you actually did not follow. You just heard them a lot and you think it does not apply to your life, but really, you've never tried to follow it. Screams about how there are certain people of our generation who just like to blame everything on someone else.
and every generation blames the ones before. my generation blamed the war happy Silent Generation and said "Never trust anyone over 30." now young people blame my generation for everything.
Load More Replies...most of these have nothing to do with being a millennial. We were told the same crap back in the 1960s and 1970s.
Sorry millennials but it's not just you. I'm a boomer and heard the same crap. No I haven't got any sage advice, you're pretty much on your own like most people.
Not a millenial, but... "If you believe in yourself, are confident, and work hard enough, you can do it!"
One of the biggest for me was "We're your parents we'll never do anything to hurt you"
Let me guess. You think it's women's fault you can´t get a date?
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