“[Am I The Jerk] For Kicking My Son Out Of My House After He Canceled My Job Interview?”
It’s funny how young people rush to grow up, thinking that now they’re going to have the freedom to do what they wish to do and be creators of their own life. Despite this fun side, being an adult is hard as it comes with a lot of responsibilities and obligations. It’s great when there is someone to guide you and support you during that time, but not everyone is that lucky. Maintaining a stable and healthy relationship with your parents once you’re an adult might be harder than it seems. Having this in mind, Reddit user @u/Aita333645___ decided to share the situation she ended up in after having an argument with her son who thought it was a good idea to meddle in his mom’s personal business.
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Even though adulthood means that you can do whatever you want with your life, it comes with a lot of responsibilities you can’t run away from
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A 45-year-old woman shared that all her life it was her and her 20-year-old son Chris. She was a single mom who didn’t receive much help from her family when raising her kid. So she did her best to provide him with the things he needed and wanted. The author of the post shared that she was happy to finally be able to buy a house and get her son into college. Everything seemed to be fine until Chris had to go back to living with her as he couldn’t pay his rent anymore.
Reddit user asked people online if she was right for throwing her adult son out of her home after he canceled her job interview
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The woman shared that her 20-year-old son started suggesting that she sell the house and move to the city
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As the new semester was approaching, the young man started suggesting to his mom that maybe she should sell her house and move to the city, so then he wouldn’t need to pay rent and it would be closer to his school. The woman didn’t like this idea as she loved the area she lived in and she didn’t want this big change. Chris was upset with the answer and kept pushing his mom to just do it. Later the woman explained that she doesn’t want to move because there is a job opportunity waiting for her.
Despite this plan being convenient for her son, the author of the post didn’t feel she should do it
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The son didn’t like his mom’s reaction, so he decided it would be right for him to cancel her job interview
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Chris misunderstood his mom thinking that this was the reason why she didn’t want to leave. Because of this, he went behind her back and canceled her interview. Soon the author of the post found out what her son did and got mad at him for doing so. OP shared that she felt as if he was doing everything without her even knowing after he suggested that he even will find a potential buyer and she won’t need to do a thing.
The man’s actions made his mom upset and so they got into a fight, after which she asked him to move out
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Despite the author of the post standing her ground, her sister didn’t support her decision
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This is when the woman showed him some tough love by stating that he is an adult now so he can take his own decisions and perhaps find a job to support himself. The 20-year-old called his mom selfish after which she asked him to leave the house. The author of the post was certain that she did the right thing until her sister started guilt-tripping her and even told her to call her son. Because of this, the woman decided to share the story online to see if what she did was really a jerk move.
A lot of people online agreed with her actions and even suggested that the woman should be more careful with her personal information and change all the passwords, pin numbers, etc., because otherwise, her son might use this information against her. In the comments, the mom revealed that her son’s behavior seemed weird as he never has never been this pushy, which worried her a lot. What is your take on this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
This whole situation made the woman doubt herself, so she asked strangers online for their opinion
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Does being raised by a single parent have some kind of impact on a child’s development and determine what kind of person they’ll grow up to be? According to the article published by The Brookings Institution, there are a few reasons why kids who are raised in a single-parent household have it harder than those who live with both parents. It was suggested that families with only one parent present might struggle financially as there is only one source of income. It becomes even harder for those who became parents at a young age and didn’t have the opportunity to seek higher education as they had to take care of their family, perhaps taking jobs that require less qualification, and thus pay lower salaries. This constant struggle also means that such kids will receive less attention from their parents who do all things necessary to provide for their offspring. It was also noted that kids who at some point in their life become a part of a blended family (a parent brings a new mother/father figure) are more likely to experience instability than those who grew up with just one parent if a parent has a pattern of often changing partners.
A lot of Reddit users supported the single mom and even suggested that she take good care of her personal information
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Me thinks he's in trouble with someone over finances. I'd be worried about drugs or gambling debts and that he needed a quick cheque to balance his books at the cost of his mother's home. I feel like if she'd caved and sold, son would have taken the cash and split. Leaving her without work and home.
@Katie Fink: I've got similar vibes. Not so much about gambling/drugs but keeping up with his study "peers" - money/housing/clothing/entertainment-wise. There had been a case in Germany, 2003, were a legal studies student first abducted and then killed an 11 year old boy - only to extort money from his kind of wealthy parents so that the student/killer could maintain the "lifestyle" he thought was "necessary". (However, I hope that this won't be the case here, and this misguided young man will get on track before ruining his mother's or others lifes). Edit: the name of the abductor/murderer was Magnus Gäfgen (Gaefgen).
This is what I was coming in to say. If he seems that desperate for her to sell up and move, then there's a good reason for it. He's in trouble, and he thinks that this will solve the problem. Obviously he isn't seeing past his nose, and fortuately for her, mom has a good head on her shoulders and isn't letting him boss her around. He needs to leave and get himself out of his own problems.
Remind him that until your dead and buried none of your belongings are even partially his and with his current behavior you may donate the whole lot. I agree that something more is most likely going on with him. He needs a serious reality check. And sisters can be horrible no matter the age. Let her be the first mom since being the second mom shows she has no real clue.
Don't remind him of inheritance! At this stage, I think he might think his mother is worth more dead than alive to him. Tell him you've changed the will already and he is NOT the beneficiary. 🥺🤐
Exactly that's how I feel about it...the sudden change in behavior...just the desperation alone screams a bigger problem...I said sounds like an addict
My first thought was drugs or a girl/romantic partner. The singleminded focus only comes from instinctual drive. He wants to be closer to something that is vital to his identity in the city. Drugs is most likely but it could be anything else he considers foundational to his identity or is fixated on. A hang out that all the cool kids at college go to, a girl, a game store or other hobby place, something is driving him toward the city.
I think he's after the cash. Using the city excuse to get her to sell her only pricey possession so he tells her he'll 'take care of everything'.
That was my thought since the mom says it's out of character for him. Mom needs to protect herself and change locks and put-up security cameras where he can't see them. I sure hope she was able to reschedule her interview.
At least i think it's Bad influence. Gambling/Drugs, or other financial fuckup is thinkable, but also just some entitled pricks he's studying with and probably looks up to, that told him he has a right to all that he wants.
Not even drugs. He could have debt collectors after him. He might have borrowed some rent money.
That's also what I was thinking. I'm surprised no one brought that up on reddit
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Me thinks you need grammar school.
'Methinks' is one word, not two. Don't throw stones, they ricochet.
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If this is truly way out of character, like OP said, the kid might have something else going on. She could see if he would talk to someone, maybe a counselor or social worker. While living with Aunt or someone else.
I wonder if his behaviour is just out of character because he usually gets his way, and this is the first time he encountered a hard no. The fact that the poster feels she needs to give justifications as to why she would not sell her house and completely move to a new city just to enable her adult son to live off her and not pay rent maybe says a lot.
She may have done that, but it also sounds to me like he has got himself into some kind of trouble and needs money. He's trying to get his mom to sell, and I feel if he got his hands on that cash, he'd disappear and leave her with nothing. She needs to keep her head and keep him out.
Yes everyone always thinks the best of their child (usually).
I thought the exact same.
While living with aunt or someone else
Absolutely agree, if he’s not really like that and not a spoiled brat, there’s gotta be something else at play here, no matter if it is gambling, drugs, mental health, influence , something personal, definitely seems like something else is going on. I might have to go find that post to see if they post an update lol
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Rylan can move to the city with Chris with the $14,000 - $18,000 she makes each month!
NTA. If anything you've done too much for him. To have him call you selfish after all you did for him proves it for me. I would not allow him back in my home. If his aunt thinks so highly of his behavior SHE can take him in and the enabling can continue. Neither of you are doing him any favors.
He should just be thankful we let him live. Being this fundamentally broken was a capitol offense in most older societies.
Me thinks he's in trouble with someone over finances. I'd be worried about drugs or gambling debts and that he needed a quick cheque to balance his books at the cost of his mother's home. I feel like if she'd caved and sold, son would have taken the cash and split. Leaving her without work and home.
@Katie Fink: I've got similar vibes. Not so much about gambling/drugs but keeping up with his study "peers" - money/housing/clothing/entertainment-wise. There had been a case in Germany, 2003, were a legal studies student first abducted and then killed an 11 year old boy - only to extort money from his kind of wealthy parents so that the student/killer could maintain the "lifestyle" he thought was "necessary". (However, I hope that this won't be the case here, and this misguided young man will get on track before ruining his mother's or others lifes). Edit: the name of the abductor/murderer was Magnus Gäfgen (Gaefgen).
This is what I was coming in to say. If he seems that desperate for her to sell up and move, then there's a good reason for it. He's in trouble, and he thinks that this will solve the problem. Obviously he isn't seeing past his nose, and fortuately for her, mom has a good head on her shoulders and isn't letting him boss her around. He needs to leave and get himself out of his own problems.
Remind him that until your dead and buried none of your belongings are even partially his and with his current behavior you may donate the whole lot. I agree that something more is most likely going on with him. He needs a serious reality check. And sisters can be horrible no matter the age. Let her be the first mom since being the second mom shows she has no real clue.
Don't remind him of inheritance! At this stage, I think he might think his mother is worth more dead than alive to him. Tell him you've changed the will already and he is NOT the beneficiary. 🥺🤐
Exactly that's how I feel about it...the sudden change in behavior...just the desperation alone screams a bigger problem...I said sounds like an addict
My first thought was drugs or a girl/romantic partner. The singleminded focus only comes from instinctual drive. He wants to be closer to something that is vital to his identity in the city. Drugs is most likely but it could be anything else he considers foundational to his identity or is fixated on. A hang out that all the cool kids at college go to, a girl, a game store or other hobby place, something is driving him toward the city.
I think he's after the cash. Using the city excuse to get her to sell her only pricey possession so he tells her he'll 'take care of everything'.
That was my thought since the mom says it's out of character for him. Mom needs to protect herself and change locks and put-up security cameras where he can't see them. I sure hope she was able to reschedule her interview.
At least i think it's Bad influence. Gambling/Drugs, or other financial fuckup is thinkable, but also just some entitled pricks he's studying with and probably looks up to, that told him he has a right to all that he wants.
Not even drugs. He could have debt collectors after him. He might have borrowed some rent money.
That's also what I was thinking. I'm surprised no one brought that up on reddit
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Me thinks you need grammar school.
'Methinks' is one word, not two. Don't throw stones, they ricochet.
👏👏👏
If this is truly way out of character, like OP said, the kid might have something else going on. She could see if he would talk to someone, maybe a counselor or social worker. While living with Aunt or someone else.
I wonder if his behaviour is just out of character because he usually gets his way, and this is the first time he encountered a hard no. The fact that the poster feels she needs to give justifications as to why she would not sell her house and completely move to a new city just to enable her adult son to live off her and not pay rent maybe says a lot.
She may have done that, but it also sounds to me like he has got himself into some kind of trouble and needs money. He's trying to get his mom to sell, and I feel if he got his hands on that cash, he'd disappear and leave her with nothing. She needs to keep her head and keep him out.
Yes everyone always thinks the best of their child (usually).
I thought the exact same.
While living with aunt or someone else
Absolutely agree, if he’s not really like that and not a spoiled brat, there’s gotta be something else at play here, no matter if it is gambling, drugs, mental health, influence , something personal, definitely seems like something else is going on. I might have to go find that post to see if they post an update lol
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I basically make about $14,000 to $18,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it copy below web… HERE ——–>> Www.TopCityPay.com
Jigger off!
Rylan can move to the city with Chris with the $14,000 - $18,000 she makes each month!
NTA. If anything you've done too much for him. To have him call you selfish after all you did for him proves it for me. I would not allow him back in my home. If his aunt thinks so highly of his behavior SHE can take him in and the enabling can continue. Neither of you are doing him any favors.
He should just be thankful we let him live. Being this fundamentally broken was a capitol offense in most older societies.