30 Hurtful Comments Made By Parents That Offended Kids, As Shared Online

I can relate. In 7th grade my abusive father took me outside and pointed to all the farmland and preceeded to tell me he could kill me and no one would know. Know what over? The bad grades I was getting from living in constant abuse. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD (Google it) and at 44 I'm living the worst possible life from all of it.

Wow. What mother says that?

And yet......here you are. Don't ever discount your strength and what it has taken to survive in spite of her. Your best revenge would be to enjoy your life, be successful and light up those around you. Don't dwell on those words, she isn't your "mother", she is just the body that bore you. You're worthy of love and you will have it in the best way. Believe that, you're worth it!

Not only was there no appreciation for your efforts to save your brother, your mother wished your demise. Too bad it wasn't her left in the pond.

I like to think that I'm not a spiteful person, but I sincerely wish that woman dies alone one day with absolutely nobody around to say goodbye.

When I was a kid everyone kept telling me my smile looked stupid. So I stopped smiling and was called surly. Well screw you too.

My dad once told me that my laugther "sounded vulgar and people would think I was a whore" - nothing better to make an already socially awkward teenager even more self conscious...

Not a parent, but my ex once told me I "smile too widely" and "show too much teeth" and I should "practice smiling". It was like 15 years ago. I still think about it sometimes. This kind of things stays with you forever

My mother used to tell me I was petting MY cat the wrong way...

My ex used to criticize the say i laughed, too.

But why belittle yourself on the gamble of an unpredictable and crappy person doing something? If you made more money, you could have savings for when the FIL decides to make a really stupid decision against his sons. Plus, you wouldn't be working for a douche.

I finally disowned my 'father' after he called me a failure. He knew he went too far but you can't take things like that back. I moved out a week later. We've not spoken since 2018. It was the best decision I made.

Guys help i accidentally got my head voice stuck in a welsh accent

Get out of there

For some reason that reminded me my very supportive father who told me once if I'm not that lazy, I'd finish university quicker... I didn't because I was on year long Dean's leave after suicide attempt (and he is aware of that)

You’re amazing! And a two middle finger salute to your father.

Why would they give you money if you didn't need to take out loans at any point?

My dad was one of three kids. His parents & siblings were the show-off, church going, Bible thumping, greedy, deceitful, hateful types. They had so much racism, bigotry, & hate. My dad looked at a person character. Socialized with everybody & anybody & never cared about anything else. His older brother was a trouble maker. But he went to church & Bible study so he was a pillar of the society. Everytime he got in trouble or even arrested, my dad's parents told him they expected criminal behavior from him, never his brother. Somehow my dad was blamed for the trouble his brother did. Even well into adulthood, my uncle had brushes with the law & my grandparents & aunt bailed him out. They hated my dad for saying that he needs to lie in the bed he made for himself. We all grew up seeing the character of others & not focusing on social status, faith, race, ethnic background, or money. My dad was never ashamed for standing up for what was right.

YOU GO!! SHOW THEM

Yeah! I can relate. My mom made me feel dumb for all years I was in her house. Not in a hurting kind of way. She genuinely believed I was dumb. I kept achieving things in my work and always believed I did not deserve it or did not understand why people think I deserve it. Apparently, I have imposter syndrome. Found it out 2 yrs ago. My work manager was the first guy to tell me something is wrong, because I did not show up for an award ceremony in which I got an e-Knovater award. He got it on my behalf. I sometimes feel I could have achieved more if my parent did not kept telling me I must "settle" for sub-par because I am dumb. I use this to be a good parent myself. Check myself and get my child's feedback. I let him know I am not perfect and he can correct me if he feels I am wrong.

It is horrible when men and boys dehumanize us. It is even worse when other women or girls support the abuse. The pinnacle of disaster is being treated this way by your own mother.

Punch her in the face and tell her she made you do it.

I hate victim shaming.

I would be pïssed off if that happened to my hypothetical daughter

Who just grabs someone they have a crush on? That is so weird to me.

It's also a horrible idea to make fun of the way anyone looks around your kid. My dad used to make snide comments about other people's looks and to this day I always wonder what people are saying about me. If I gain a few pounds I wonder if my dad would be disappointed in me etc.

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I was sent to Weight Watchers at 12yo. One lady there said if she looked like me she'd sure not be there. And shame on the Weight Watchers local group who let me attend. I was 5' 5" tall and maybe 130lbs. I'm 64yo old and have never forgotten that experience.

i've had chronic pain pretty much since my early teens, and my PE teacher was a raging B!TCH. And I mean seriously. she actually cussed me out because I didn't "do enough" on the bleep test, or that I walked the cross country course instead of ran the whole thing. So I stopped going to PE lessons and hid in the library with a good book instead.

It stays with me every damn day

That feels so familiar. I actually was never overweight, always skinny as a kid. During my teenage years I started to fill out a little (mind you still at most a size 4 so decidedly not fat) and my mom went all (you're getting fat). Actually a few weeks ago, her mother told me that I seemed to have lost weight (I was healthy, got sick and lost weight, too much weight actually) and that before I had been "fuller" and this was a good look on me. It is so very toxic, the way my family views weight.

I have something similar to this. A bit of background: my brother was extremely depressed and failed 9th and 10th grade. He was addicted to his things and was started doing, and was constantly missing assignments. He failed every single class, and was addicted to technology. He was always lying and was very depressed. I am not the best student, I miss a few (and by a few, i do mean a few) assignments here and there, but I always get them done. Recently my mom started accusing me of being like him. Everytime she says something like that I feel fear. My mom is not abusive at all. She just gets really angry every time we fight.

Bruh the comments he got about being in the past though, what the actual heck

My mum often said I was just like my nan. A woman I’d never met and who died when I was 3. And that my political leaning is my father’s doing. She insisted on this even after I’d told her multiple times we didn’t talk at all about politics, or anything, as he was an abusive alcoholic. We’ve been Nc for many years now.

Where my dad was concerned, it wasn’t that his mom ever said to him “You’re just like your father.”. He wasn’t. My grandfather was an abusive SOB and my dad got his mom and little brother out of the situation. That meant he quit school at 15 and had to get a job. He ended up lying about his age by 2 years to get his Merchant Marine card and was always on a ship going somewhere. Never home, but it was good money to support his mom and little brother. So many more things throughout his life. But his little brother was always their mom’s favorite. It was like whatever dad did, it was never good enough. What? I found out why, many years later after mom died and I was cleaning out her things. I found a tiny passport sized picture that at first I really thought was dad. I took a closer look. It was my grandfather. I actually had to take a good look. That’s why his brother was her favorite. Every time she looked at my dad, she saw her abusive husband’s face. No. My dad could never do enough.

I'm not saying it's the correct way to deal with it, but I can't help but wonder if the parents who say "you're being just like..." are right. I mean they're seeing parallels and trying to call you out on it before it becomes too deeply ingrained to change. I see kids who act just like their parents all the time, both good behaviours and bad. I'm sure there is a better way to do it, but to a parent without better training, in the spur of the moment it probably seems like the best way to get their child to realise they're behaving just like a negative role model. And judging from a few of the responses in this thread it actually works. The downside is it also alienates the kid from the parent who says it.

my parents say that to me all the time... then when i don't say things they say it's "teenage angst"

i'm sorry about that! you didn't deserve that at all. if it makes anyone feel any better, my mom once told me she thinks i could make people kill themselves. still sticks with me to this day