50 Cringy Screenshots Of Men Not Taking “No” For An Answer
Most women have experienced some form of unwanted attention from the opposite sex. The CDC reports that 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced sexual harassment in a public place. Whether it's weird messages in DMs or catcalling on the street, it's never fun. It's usually embarrassing, uncomfortable and, to be honest, demeaning.
The only upside is that women get to post these pathetic shots at flirting online for others to laugh at. So prepare yourself for some top-notch cringe, dear pandas, for we have collected the most eye-roll-inducing attempts to hit on women. Let’s also marvel at some impressive comebacks from the ladies. This is the true female experience, y'all.
Nice Guy Tries To Insult A Woman And Accidentally Compliments Her Instead
Most of the entries on this list feature terrible attempts at flirting through the internet. Online dating safety expert Chris Dietzel told Besedo that the biggest issue is that many people don't realize how damaging unwanted behavior can be. The boundaries for inappropriate behavior are not very strict in our modern society, he says.
"A lot of the inappropriate behaviors and sexual advances many condemn in offline environments – such as in the workplace or in social settings – aren’t always deemed as serious or damaging or problematic in a digital context,” he told Besedo.
A Guy Thought I Was My Girlfriend Because She's In My Profile Picture, And The Result Is Gold
So This Was Sent To Me. I Literally Never Spoke To The Guy Before
A nonprofit that helps victims of sexual abuse Saprea writes that sexual harassment can include a variety of unwanted behaviors. It can also involve "weaponizing of sexual content – such as images, videos, or posts – to harass, exploit, humiliate, distress, coerce, or threaten.
The reason why unwanted sexual advances happen in abundance online is because of the online disinhibition effect. Researchers describe this as a phenomenon that "may give people the courage to say or do things that they would not do in real life."
I’ve Never In My Life Seen A Sign That Has To Instruct People To Not Hit On The Employees. Yikes
This online disinhibition effect often results in unwanted sexualization. That is a form of online sexual harassment. It can be a sexual image, emoji, joke or request. Although the intentions behind the attempt may be benign, the result still can be quite damaging. Although the perpetrator is trying to compliment, flatter or flirt, the receiver may feel "demeaned, embarrassed, violated, or objectified."
It's Your Fault That I'm Unprofessionally Hitting On You
A Facebook Friend Had Her BF Pass Away Recently, And She Shared This Experience From A "Nice Guy"
My Boyfriend And I Broke Up And I Got This DM the Same Day
People who carry out unwanted sexual advances demonstrate a lack of respect for boundaries. These actions also violate the other person's personal feelings and preferences. Dietzel tells Besedo that "context and permission are the keywords here. Problems arise if there’s no open understanding or consent agreement between the individuals."
Nice Roleplaying Guy Hitting On My Girlfriend, Prepare For Cringe
"In online dating, permission parameters are too often based on assumptions about what one individual thinks the other wants," the researcher tells Besedo. "For example, two people may flirt on a dating app. While one person might assume that a conversation like this is a prelude to sex, the other may simply enjoy the lighthearted conversation."
My Husband Passed Away Last Month, His “Nice” Coworker Started Messaging Me
This Guy Trying To Hit On My Wife When She's Applying For A Job
Am I wrong to be extremely infuriated by this? Is this not inappropriate? What kind of action do you think can/should be taken?
Hard To Watch A Guy In Your DMs Fish For You To Hit On Them
Dietzel says that rape culture is at fault. The word 'rape' might sound a bit extreme in this context, but once the researcher defines it, it's not so out-of-place. The IMPACTS project, which Dietzel is a part of, has a definition for it: "How sexist societal attitudes, misogyny, and language tacitly condone, minimize and/or normalize sexual violence – mostly against women, but also against other genders.
Grown Man Infamous For Hitting On High School Girls Sends Me An Ominous Message
My Friend Wanted Me To Share This With You Guys
Today I Was Reminded Why I Don’t Post Photos Of Myself On Social Media
Dietzel tells Besedo that some of the behaviors are so normalized that they're almost viewed as normal in our society. "Online, these behaviors are evident in how some people communicate about sex and violence.
In fact, in some cases, people might not even be aware that they’re condoning it because certain terms, phrases, and behaviors have become normalized in mainstream cultures,” the expert says.
I Told Him That I Felt Uncomfortable Because Some Guy Was Hitting On Me. His Solution - Hitting On Me
I Listed A Dress For Sale On Facebook Marketplace. The Only Messages I’ve Received Are From Men With No Intention Of Buying Said Dress. These Are Just Two Of Many Others Like This
My Friend Barely Met This Guy Last Week. Real Men Don't Get Turned Down
It's no surprise then that women become desensitized to inappropriate behavior exhibited by men online. According to Dietzel, they're "simply resigned to the fact that they are likely to experience some form of sexual harassment when they join an online dating service." The fact that they will receive inappropriate images or propositions is what's almost expected.
I Got This Text From A Friend's Dad After My Mom Told His Wife He Was Hitting On Me. Apparently, I Would Be Lucky To Have Him
Texts My Wife Got From The Food Delivery Guy Who Has Her Number And Knows Where She Lives
So what can we do about it? It's not just up to the people themselves, Dietzel tells Besedo. Technology companies behind the social platforms that we see this harassment happen on have a responsibility. Dietzel says that establishing community guidelines is important. Most companies only have Terms & Conditions, but they only apply to behaviors between the app and the users. Having community standards that define what's appropriate and what's not between users would definitely help.
Chase Banker Saved My Girlfriend's Phone Number When She Went In To Open An Account
Me and my girlfriend went to open an account at Chase yesterday. The guy was creepy the whole time and flirted right in front of me, then proceeded to save her phone number from the forms she filled out and text her today. Now he has our address from the forms too…
A Random Person, Who I've Never Met Before, Sent Me A Message, Thinking That I Was A Girl And I Don't Blame Him
An Old Man Hit On One Of My Friends While She Was Posting A Complaint To A Walmart Facebook Page
What can the users do? It's crucial not to normalize this kind of behavior. "We are all responsible for what we tolerate as individuals," Dietzel told Besedo. "Shaming one person won’t necessarily change behavior but getting a group of people to reflect on their actions will."
Delivered Lunch To A Guy At His Workplace Today Who Had Trouble Taking A Hint
I Love When People Flirt By Excessively Complimenting Themselves
Security Guard Texting My Wife After She Checked Into A Business
Got Hit On At Starbucks And Gave Him My Number. Never Again
20-Year-Old "Rich" Nice Guy, Hitting On My 16-Year-Old Niece
This Guy Has Created Multiple Profiles To Send All The Women In My Mom's Meetup Group The Exact Same Message
The Time The Guy From IKEA Who Put My Bedframe Together Took My Phone Number From The Receipt And Tried To Hit On Me
Friend Just Called Off Their Relationship. This Man Wasted No Time And Obviously Played At The Top Of His Game
I’ve Never Talked To This Kid Before And He Just Randomly Messages Me
My Ex Was Being Hit On After Signing Up For 23andMe By A Cousin
My Roommate Tried To Get An IKEA Delivery To Our Apartment
They called and refused to drive into our complex, saying she’d have to grab the bookcase from their truck and drive it to our house. After irritatedly doing so in her pajamas and barely speaking to delivery guys, she got this message today.
Guy Thought My, Now-Deceased, Dad Was "My Man" Then Proceeded To Hit On Me
My Wife's First Message On Xbox Live
This Guy Found Me On His Wife’s “Suggested Friends” On Facebook Then Googled Me And Used My Business Number To Text Me. Gross
I Still Don’t Understand How Guys Can Think This Is An Appropriate Way To Introduce Yourself To Someone You’ve Never Met
Found In My Friend's Messages
Got A Message From A Random Number Stating This Person Knows Me
He wrote my name and a specific detail about me, then he sent me his photo proving I should know him. What happened next is this.