Hey Pandas, Which Thing Annoys You The Most About Having Mental Illness? (Closed)

I can relate af. Sometimes, it feels like your head is exploding but unsure what's causing it. I hope you regain yourself soon! Take care.

Been fighting this for 5 years now. People assume that because I can laugh, crack a joke, and most days I am functional, they think I am lying about the depression. Some days I am just SO tired all the time that it takes a big act of willpower to get out and do the basics to survive.

I hear you. It's a kicker. Sending strength and better days 🤗

Exactly, it is really annoying when people say their emotion is "depressed" because of a minor inconvenience.

Having a mental illness or a physical illness is not always the easiest thing in the world. The hardest part for me of having a so called "mental illness" is the two are not treated professionally or ethically identically. Harold A Maio

So hard to get things done. It is all a struggle. I have to push hard. I feel bad for people I live with as it effects everyone. Exhausting trying not to be "Me"

Right there with you hon. Seemingly perfect life on the outside, total shitstorm on the inside. Everyone tries to remind you how perfect your life is and how lucky you are. But... well, you know.

The first time I was depressed, my mom made me watch one of those long St Jude’s children hospital commercials to show me “now they’ve got something to be depressed about”

don't compare yourself or others to other people and what they are going through. What they are going through might be really tragic but in the end we are all sad.

Yes, you feel depressed but if you have depression there is a HUGE difference. One is a passing emotion the other is a crippling disease that steals a person's life, joy, and almost all thoughts of happiness that can't be "gotten over it". Saying that to most depression patients only makes them feel inadequate and at fault for something they can not control.

You said everything above! It is not sadness...it is not that my dog died and I feel grief, sad. It is something else...and people should understand the difference. You are not alone! I hope you get the compassion you need.

I wish they had another word for clinical depression. To say you're depressed is almost always met with "What do you have to be depressed about" or "You'll be fine just give it some time". I've given it 35 years. I'm still waiting

I wish I'd known what depression actually was, as I had always thought it was sadness. Would have made getting a diagnosis and treatment so much quicker.

It is degrading! You are not alone. I have BPD and when people do this...it instantly triggers my insecurities...sometimes those things I don't even know exist inside. Thank you for sharing...you are a star!

And yet no one judges us when we have a cold.

I've been there, sometimes unwillingly revisit. I've had years of therapy with MD's, PhD's, MSW's, and made two of them cry and need to take a break during my sessions. I've taken every over the counter antidepressant and combinations thereof, tried acupuncture, massage therapy, reiki, diets, exercise, meditation, and even saw a shaman once! Sometimes it gets better, sometimes worse. Tried suicide and failed (obviously), ended up in a psych ward for a week. At this point, I've decided that this is just the way I am, and try to manage one day at a time. I also live with the guilt of the pain I caused my husband and son when I was suicidal. I can't do that to them again, so every day I feel I owe it to them to keep on going. With all this, I've come to a point where I do not give a f**k what other people think of me. I have too much going on in my own head, to allow anyone else in there. Keep on going Leo.

I take anti depression medication and I absolutely embrace it! It makes me feel better and there is nothing wrong with that, if I had a headache I’d take a pill to get rid of it, same thing. Mental illness is as real as the flu, aids, cancer and any other illness, I’m not ashamed I’m just unwell and take medication to combat it, shame on anyone who makes someone feel bad about wanting to feel better, my advice is punch them in the trachea and carry on, you got this

I can relate!

"If you can't make your own, store bought is fine."

Yup ptsd sucks finally u take something that might help 5 or 10% of time lots a trouble seeing drs with no answers ur time $$ plus friends family eyes on u feeling likebthe mental trash can they making judgments are u taking ur pills why dont u feel better why u keep having melties Like we want to struggle Learned cant reallly tell them its not better or bad drops if it averages out for me i just say about same sparing me the they dont have the answers & keeps it from being pointed back at me the proverbial whats wrong with me i decided its my lot in life or i was chosen to carry this so i do the best i can quietly to avoid the judgment the judgement itis harder to bare than the disease itself

Those little green men in our heads need to take their own festival breaks. If we could figure out how to tell those voices/little gremlins to find another job or get their own life Wouldnt it be so freeing.. They may not be happy either being stuck in our heads🤔 ( this helps me to look at my thoughts differently)

THIS!!

My mom loves to say "no need to be OCD about it" when I just want something to be in order *FOR MY ADHD* and it's ableist as hell. She also says the r slur as a neurotypical person.

My mother used to say that to me until one day I’d had enough of her denial and told her and my stepdad and my b***h of a sister to all f**k off. Been much better off since.

Completely there with you! I often take 'exhausting treat'. I shutdown my social media and just stay in my room till it passes away. Thank you for sharing...it means a lot.

literally same for me except I'm not on meds

And people assuming you're just lazy. Nope not lazy it just took everything for me to get out of bed

And I'm pretty sure it's bipolar cuz I'll be good one minute then I wanna cry

A lot!

Maybe cut yourself some slack?

I honestly can say its been years since I had a good day where i wasnt pushing myself to put on a smile or function.

So true. You don't get things done then you get mad at yourself for not doing them. Vicious circle.

Ditto! Sometimes, I drink energy drinks to meet my day's ends.

You are not alone! I often overreact when people keep asking me how I am doing, what I am doing, why the hell I am not speaking. Thank you so much for sharing such a thought.

I can walk. Doesn't mean I ain't hurting.

As a nurse, I often will correct people about what the difference is and how PRSD, chronic pain, mood disorder, depression, and anxiety are all physical disorders.- that play off each other like drunk relatives at Thanksgiving dinner. I also have all of the above- I am with you 100%

I'd much rather have a physical problem, like a broken leg. When you have silent disabilities, people think you're just weird or stupid or making things up. And it's so difficult to explain what my world looks like from in my head.

Judgements!!!! I hate these people...

They are so ignorant to the needs of children- think children of alcoholic parents aren't depressed to go live in those 5 yr old shoes. Be realistic. Children develop mental health concerns from many things and need help from others. Just be there

I feel the same, but I find it hard to accept and I freak out whenever I start feeling numb towards my kids, my new dating partner, whomever.. actually it's worse when it's a dating partner as there should be butterflies, fluttering in my stomach, but instead I just feel nothing or panic and wish he'd just go away. With the kids I know that I love them, that it's a temporary relapse, but with a romantic partner it hits worse when those feelings are turned off or even turned around into loathing from one moment to the other

High functioning is exhausting...I can relate.

OMGS so much this. It takes everything out of you and leaves you feeling flat. You can’t have a happy thought for more than a few minutes some days and it drives you nuts :( My heart goes out to you xx

It hits hard...it drains energy...and constantly brings a never ending spiral. You are not alone! Thank you for sharing.

THis times a thousand. For more on this, check out a guy online named Pete Walker. He gives a pretty good overview of complex PTSD (CPTSD).

I am happy to hear that you are now in a good place. Your therapist must be a perfect match with you. God bless.