There are a lot of unspoken laws or rules out there, like don’t ever move a cat when it’s on your lap. What is one you always follow no matter what?
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72 hours. I take a minimum of 24 and a maximum of 72 hours to respond when a person or situation makes me very angry. This way I have time to cool down and consider things from multiple points of view. Works great.
Being kind to people that are assisting me. From servers in a restaurant to nurses (and everyone else) in a hospital. We aren't always at our best to people that are helping you, but we have to remember that they are the ones giving the help.
I don't cry in public. It's not necessarily a good thing to follow, but I grew up learning that it would turn people away from me and it's still something I unconsciously follow.
My daughter's grandparents stress this on her during her visits and it's not been good for her emotional health. I'm more about freedom of expressive emotions, and teaching her that it's not our job to manage how other people feel, and if they feel uncomfortable that is something they need to come to terms with in themselves. Bottling it up just causes inner conflict and potential self-harming. Also, I'm not about changing my parenting values to conform to another generation's idealisms. So, too bad, so sad to her grandparents.
Mine would be to never move a cat when it’s on your lap
One of the basic things we learned in like preschool, treat others how you want to be treated. I always look at the other perspective and if I wouldn’t like someone saying/doing that to me, then I don’t do it
When walking on the street and you think you are being followed, cross the street. If you see anyone crossing seek help.
My life rules. They were originally spoken because it was part of my re-integration therapy, but they've been adapted slightly since then:
1. Don't rush. Not for anyone or anything.
2. It's OK to think whatever you want, but don't say it until you've consulted the wife.
3. Remember that it's not always an idiots fault that they are an idiot. If you can't educate them, walk away.
4. 'OK' is not a suitable response when someone is upset. Try 'That must be really hard for you' (in a supportive voice).
5. No one is beneath you until you can do what they can do to the same standard and efficiency.
6. Don't do dangerous things. No matter how much fun it seems. When adrenalin kicks in, go home!
7. When things don't go your way, think more, act less. Then re-approach the matter.
8. Charm is a gift. Only give in small doses. Stop giving when if the person seems to want it or become addicted.
9. Loopholes are not always an acceptable way around the rules and laws.
10. Remember who you were and the growth that you had to go though.
My children ALWAYS come first!! No if's, and's, or it's your butt.
Never fully trust anyone. People are not as shallow as they seem and sometimes their depths hold a crapload of darkness you want nothing to do with. There isn’t a single human on this whole rock that I trust completely. I trust my cat. I like knowing how he loves me but would still totally eat me if I died. He’s honest and evil all in one floofy package.
I always walk/run off the street and facing traffic. I always wear reflective gear if I’m out when it’s dark, and no black/dark clothing. I want to arrive alive, but try not to be out when it’s dark. My fave, or maybe this is a courtesy….when I come up to a stop sign, and there are 2 lanes or room for 2 vehicles, going in different directions, I don’t block the view of the other vehicle if they got there first. If I know I can go before them, (turning right), and can make sure it’s clear, then I will sometimes go. But if I can’t see or they will go soon, I will not block their view and they go first. I’ve pulled up waiting my turn to go and had vehicles come up after me and block my view and have no care. Prob more of a courtesy thing, but I still follow that “rule”. Sorry I said more than one.
Thank you for both those things! It amazes me how many people go walking, riding or running at night it black clothes! And it really pays to be considerate to others when you are driving too.
I am always kind to elderly people because they paved the way for the rest of us. I also do not swear in the earshot of children.
Some fun ones.
1. When I would go to my Gran and Gramps' house it was important for me to ring every bell in their collection displayed on their shelf in the living room. I just had to hear the different sounds each one made, as they had all kinds.
2. Horseshoes must be hung up the right way.
3. The toilet paper must be hung with the loose end on the outside. ( I grew up with a lot of superstitions.)
4. Never run up behind a horse or crawl around underneath them.
5. A house should be spotless in case company, maintenance, or anybody, comes over, but you still have to apologize for the mythical mess. (I don't know why, but this is what my mom always does and she's been rubbing off on me.)
6. Take your shoes off at anyone's home unless told otherwise.
7. Wait until you're offered food or drinks and never ask when you're visiting.
8. Never give critique to someone's art unless they've asked for it.
9. Do not "Boo" at a karaoke performer no matter how bad they sound. You get up there if you think you can do better.
10. Never drop a microphone. Literally.(Although accidents happen.)
11. Do not make remarks and comments about the sounds you hear from someone in a bathroom stall. Mind your business.
12. Leave the washer door open after you use it to air it out.
13. Always be patient with people.
Always say hi to the chinchilla when you walk in the room
