Hey Pandas, Have You Ever Had Something Happen To You Commonly Regarded As A Good Thing That Ended Up Causing You Problems? (Closed)
Regardless if it was negative side effects or just problems with no positive influence at all.
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Everyone knew my name in high school after I participated in 8 events in a row and got top 3 in 7 of them. I liked the popularity until it bece a headache, the expectations and hate and jealousy was unbearable.
Therapy. I became more self conscious which made it worse, and she was no help, she would always take the other persons side and put me down. That is not what therapy should be.
OP you need to find a therapist that you're comfortable with, it is certainly not a "one size fits all" thing. When I first started out, if I'm remembering correctly, I believe I went to three different therapists until I found one that I felt confident and comfortable with. Your therapist should listen to you, give advice on the issues that you're having and focus steps that you can be taking outside of the therapy sessions to help with those issues. Your therapist should never be putting you down, or taking another person's side, that's extremely unprofessional. Please, please seek another therapist. I'm very much an advocate of mental health and it takes time, with the right person or people. Keep your chin up and best of luck to you. 😁
I'm loved by my classmates, except a few, but that's normal. My friend really wanted me to talk to her boyfriend in the same class, she wanted me to like him as a friend. (I didn't, he had made fun of me in the past) But she kind of scared me, she was kinda manipulative... Sooooo I talked to him, we had a few conversations. Then she started to accuse me of flirting with him and how I wanted to take him away from her. Gurl I have my own boyfriend! She didn't like it. Let's say we're not friends anymore and luckily she moved.
I started to get a white strand in my hair at 11 yrs old. I thought it was cool bc I was like a vampire or something. The bullies did not 😅
I was promoted at my job, I was about 25 at the time. I had to transfer, but it was closer to my house, more money(salary), benefits, all great things. What I found out is being middle management (at least there) meant I had no authority, twice the responsibility, and 60 to 80 hour work week. I couldn't hire the help needed just for the basic requirements. 'Why would we hire more people when we have this dumba** who'll do everything?' My bosses actually made me cut hours so employees wouldn't be eligible for medical benefits since they're just part time. Some of these employees had been there for years. It wasn't just wrong, it wasn't sustainable, especially when you add double the tasks but half the workforce. I quit after about a year and a half. It wasn't worth the money or my mental well-being.
‘Advanced Placement’ and ‘Gifted and Talented’ programs in school. Participating in them just taught me that I needed to compare myself to others, to be overly competitive, and to care too much what other people think. It was emotionally exhausting and all of the excess social pressure gave me terrible anxiety. Took me years to interact comfortably with others as an adult.
I've always had good grades, until 12 years old. Then, i was bullied because of it. I had a friend , but the others loved to insult me, making fun of me, whatever i was doing. I had glasses, and was very shy. It didn't help. The next year, when i was 14, my grades went down. But i had new friends, and bullies began to leave me alone. The year i left high school, all these "friends " forgot me, and i failed my first year in College. I spent the next 3 years trying to get back good grades while having toxic friends, who hurt me. Failed my last year, ended alone.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. You deserve better friends, I truly hope it worked out for you. F**k your old "friends"!
