Most of us say "yes" when asked if we want to hear the truth. And it seems like a good idea at first that will ultimately help us improve and become our best. But there’s something about having it shoved in our face that is so unbearably revolting, only the most courageous dare to swallow it.
Thanks to the redditor who posted the question “What is an absolute truth that no one wants to hear?” on r/AskReddit and received 11.8k comments, we now know what people hold as some of the most difficult truths. So hold on tight, ‘cause it ain’t gonna be an easy ride, and you won’t surely have a place to hide.
You have an option to either endure them and survive the post, becoming a better self, or to ignore them and move on. Whatever you choose, I feel you. No one was born ready to come to terms with things like “Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they are a good person” and “It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose.” And I mean it.
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Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they are a good person.
I hate when they say "they can't be a bad person, they're [insert any religious person]'s child!". similar to you don't inherit Evil, you don't inherit Good either.
Religion really doesn't have much to do with it but ok.
Load More Replies...Ot that you have to accept being abused and mistreated by them. You are allowed to walk away from people who are toxic.
This! In my culture, you are expected to have complete loyalty to your parents. Here's the fact: some parents don't deserve your loyalty and leaving them to protect yourself does not make you a bad person.
Load More Replies...Oh my, I heard it sooo many times for my mother. That I should forgive her because she's my mother....(no violence involve don't worry) Like I didn't do it sooo many times for the same result. She proved me countless time that I can't trust her. I go to the family meeting even when she's there, I' m polite and do small talk, give news of the kids but that's the end of the story. She can complain all she wants, I will never let my kids on holydays or week-end at her place. I've been told that she's their grand mother... as if I wasn't their mother.
I can relate so much. It's my father with me, no direct contact for the last 16 years, judgement from all the relatives who are on his side as if he never did any harm (he did!). And now he's probably going to die soon, and I don't even know what to feel...
Load More Replies...Just because someone is related to you doesn’t mean you have to invite them over to family dinners
Just because someone is a relative doesn't mean you have to like them either.
And it's totally ok to cut someone out of your life if they are hurting you in any way. It doesn't matter if said person is related to you.
Don't believe everything you think.
Whatever it intended to refer to, to me this will always be my own thoughts: "But the tigers come at night ... With their voices soft as thunder"
This is so true. Please, don't believe every crazy thing that pops into your head!!
Alas, most beliefs stem from indoctrination and propaganda - both rife in today's society
But you should still be able to think it and maybe even say it out loud - which in today's social environment is not a sure thing
“It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not failure that is life.” -Captain Jean Luc Picard
And not accepting this is very depressing. Accepting this is very hard, though.
make no mistakes but still lose when someone is in the wrong but in denial of it
I have found that a lot of my childhood wisdom came from Cliff Huxtable, Benjamin Sisco, and Jean Luc Picard. :)
Getting people to see what’s right in front of their face is not easy. This is largely due to the fact that we, as humans, hate hearing the truth. It’s especially true when we are dealing with truths that involve something we need to improve or work on.
To find out more about why so many of us don’t feel comfortable around hard-to-swallow truths, Bored Panda reached out to Susan Petang, a certified life coach who runs The Quiet Zone Coaching. Susan is helping those who struggle with stress find relief, manage their fears, and build self-confidence so they can wake up happy in the morning.
Susan said that if the truth is something we don’t agree with, it will be uncomfortable to hear it because it all has to do with our core beliefs and values, and the way we view the world. “When what we believe to be true about ourselves, situations, other people, or the world, in general, is at odds with what we observe, the result is cognitive dissonance—when our beliefs and our observations are at odds. This can cause considerable stress,” she explained.
Life is easier for attractive people.
As unjust as it is, it is also very true. Good looking people have to try a little less harder than the rest of us. Also, remember Jeremy Meeks? He became a model even though he served time in prison (assault and robbery I think)
That is exactly what this post is about. If this Jeremy wasn't atractive, he wouldn't be famous
Load More Replies...I have always been about 40 to 50 pounds overweight, short, and did not feel attractive which was reinforced by others. I am a 59 year old gay man. Three years ago I spent 4 months backpacking through India and dropped 50 pounds. A year later I got a "tummy tuck" to remove all the excess skin. I've been biking 25 miles a day and eating a vegetarian diet and have easily maintained my weight. As a younger person, I was an ugly duckling. I know that. Now as an active, in shape 59 year old man, my life has changed. I am routinely hit upon on dating apps by men 20 and 30 years younger than me who are buff. I had no idea what life was like when others perceived you as attractive. I love being 59, I love how I look, I love the attention, I love life. Yes, life is easier for attractive people.
Aw good for you! It definitely seems like you’re happier now.
Load More Replies...Very true. But for those of us who didn't win the genetic lottery, dressing in clean clothes an paying attention to personal hygiene can go a long way too. The pretty person gets the job first, the well-kept person gets the next shot.
Yes - people can always endeavour to look their best.
Load More Replies...Life is easier for attractive people where attractiveness plays a factor in life. But the same can go with any merit. I.e. Life is easier for smarter people where smarts are concerned. Life is just easier when you have merits.
rather than saying that Life is Easier for attractive people, it's more like it's easy for them to make an impression and open more doors and opportunities. this also applies to rich people.
Load More Replies...But, especially for attractive women, getting others to look past their beauty and take them seriously can be very frustrating. Hedy Lamarr came up with radio frequency hoppoing that could have given American torpedoes an un-jammable radio control and which today makes data transmission and the internet possible. When she went to the Navy top brass to show them they ignored her and told her to go sell War Bonds, She said that overall her beauty closed more doors she wanted to pass through than it opened.
Not always. I almost became a victim of child sexual abuse because of the way I looked. Yes, attractive people might get jobs easily and that's unfair. They get more options to choose their partners from but ultimately, beautiful people suffer in life as well. From the outside looking in, it might not always seem that way but suffering and struggle isn't only about the way you look.
Not necessarily I know plenty of attractive people who are flat out losers. Money always helps. Ugly people can get by as long as they’re rich. Take Jeff Bezos for example
Vaccines don’t cause autism. They help stop the spread of the disease. They are not a cure, the just allow you to have a lower chance to catch the virus, which helps lower the chances of the virus spreading.
It's quite sad that this has to be posted on social media. There are too many fools in this world and there are too many scumbags taking advantage and profiting of those fools.
Vaccines do come with risks, though. When I signed the consent form, I got a paper cut. It really hurt and every time I used hand sanitizer, it burned.
here's the thing...your immune system begins to create antibodies against harmful substances the moment a foreign chemical enters the body to protect itself. Often, with viruses, we get sick before the immune system can finish. When we recover, that means the antibody was successful. However, we can't just mimic human's antibodies for they are unique to the person. A vaccine is often a decoy virus--a chemical substance very similar to the actual virus. These are created purposely to not harm you but to allow your body to create and antibody. Some people get sick before the antibody is finished building up. However, these people recover quickly. A vaccine doesn't keep you from getting a virus; it keeps you from getting sick from the virus. It makes me sad when people believe that vaccines do more hurt than heal.
Even if vaccines cause autism (which they don't and it doesn't make any sense that they would but hypothetically) what's so wrong with that? Why are people so scared of their kids 'getting' autism? Obviously it has its difficulties, but autistic people's brains just function differently to most, and many autistic people are quite intellectually brilliant. I am autistic, and my psychologist told me that technically everyone is on the autism spectrum; however there is a 'normal' range, and some people are further along, well beyond the 'norm'. So this whole being terrified of your kids 'getting' autism makes absolutely no sense.
I feel you. I'm autistic too. :) We all have different challenges and advantages, everyone does. Simply a different set of pros and cons.
Load More Replies...Not sure this should be part of this list. The Earth is not flat, the sky is not green, the list would be endless
I am not anti-vax (and yes, ive had mine) BUT I'm also not pro-vax without question. It irritates me that this blanket term of pro-vax or anti-vax eliminates the need for critical thought. I wish we could as a people take things case by case and make a decision based on the the matter at hand. We are becoming zombies who simply rely on the rhetoric of others. We place ourselves in 'camps' and become so hostile towards alternative thought. Its damaging and not good for the evolution of mankind and society. People seem baffled when I say that I dont align myself to any particular political party , like I'm mad or simply uneducated..the truth is that life is fluid... variables are indeed variable & we need to be open to new ideas, opinions and challenges. I may detest Boris ...Trump etc. but I am willing to accept when something they do or say makes sense. I can be anti-abortion but pro-choice...similarly I can emphasise that black lives matter but also comprehend the value of all lives.
The thing is, that only disease that actually causes severe disability or death, is even able to get funding for vaccines in the first place. Which in turn mens, that the sideeffects of the vaccines have to be almost at the point of ruining peoples lives, for a vast amount of vaccinated people. For the vaccine not being the lesser evil, no matter what it may or may not contain. ps. Relying on and "blindly" following an expert does not make you a zombie, it enables you to increase your chances of having a long and illness free life
Load More Replies...I didn't go to my checkup for 3 years. Don't worry, I got my *eyes water* 4 necessary vaccines. And if some random 11 year old can get 2 vaccines on each Sid, than you can get your one.
I am not sure this qualifies as something "True, But No One Wants To Hear*
andate him: Have you talked to any of the anti-vaccine crowd? This is exactly what they try to argue against this -- they rant about herd immunity, or claim that chicken pox and measles don't kill anyone.
Load More Replies...There is no inherent justice in this world. Bad things will happen to good people, and good things will happen to bad people.
Unfortunately true. Sometimes even dictators and murderers die peacefully.
Exactly. All those people who think there is such a thing as 'karma' are sadly deluded (I know that's also not exactly what karma is about but it's how so many people use it).
Load More Replies...How a serial cheater, liar, nepotistic narcissistic man baby can end up President is the perfect example
Without the the bad, we would not recognise nor appreciate the good - bad is good, when you change your perspective
I've been told that there are neither good nor bad things, that things simply are. It's what we decide about these things/people/events that confers either "goodness" or "badness" on them.
Rape and murder don't exactly work within that though do they? Even if there was a culture where rape and murder were accepted or even desired by the majority there are still going to be the victims who'll have a VERY different view!!
Load More Replies...this is having a narrow view. We all have karma from the past and who knows what is deserved and warranted. Even murder... I dont personally know any dictators or murderers that have died peacefully but everyone has their day of reckoning and not always in this lifetime.. ...
Yeah, and karma does not exist. Just accept it - world is not a magic place.
However, one has to be aware that perception can be an issue here too. “So, what I have experienced as 'truth' may not be what you have experienced as 'truth.' For example, one could say that the truth is that water boils at 212 degrees. Or does it? If you use the metric system, water boils at 100 degrees.”
Susan said that even though these two are the same, the perception, the semantics come across differently, and “what one individual might experience as truth wouldn't be truth to someone else.”
Susan warns that when you’re telling people something they don’t want to hear, it’s going to sound like a criticism. She suggests keeping that in mind and not being surprised if you get perceived as the one launching an attack.“
If you didn't vote but could have done so, you have no right to complain about our elected officials.
True. Tired of hearing "My vote doesn't matter." Every vote matters because it contributes to the grand number that influences the elections. If 90% of the people refuse to vote, they are leaving the remaining 10% the powers to decide over their lives. That's how polls work. They just ask a small number of people "representing the people" and present the result as the peoples opinion. Remember how that blew up in so many faces in 2016? "Yeah, we're going to win so I don't have to vote..."
i dont believe my vote matters anymore, im jaded but I still do it, so I can bitch about it when s**t happens. If you vote, you can bitch, if you didn't, you can't. Simple as that.
Load More Replies...I wholly disagree with this notion. The US voting system being a prime reason why this isn't really true. Voting in a rigged system, voting in a system where the people running don't represent you, or voting in a system where you can't actually have a voice does not remove the right and need for people to complain. Abstaining from voting when there is no one that reflects your views in the system is a legit statement and right of a person. Why should someone be forced to vote and support individuals they do not align with?
I'm tired of people saying I can't complain if I don't vote. I can complain that there is no candidate worth voting for. This is the whole problem.
I usually go and give an empty vote. I don't think any of those assholes deserves to win and I'm gonna show it.
Sorry, this is the kind of bull that makes me really angry! This statement is only true if you wanted to vote for a certain party or candidate but still didn't. Not voting can be a statement too, especially in countries where elections are manipulated. You can also find yourself in a situation where you can't see yourself represented by any of the candidates and will be unhappy with the outcome anyway. There are also situations where voting for the party you want will actually help the other side gain more votes due to complicated election systems (has been like that in Germany for some time). If you can't decide who to vote at all, not voting might also be a good idea, since what good is a vote randomly placed? So stop telling people that they have to vote! Vote if you are happy or unhappy with the current leaders and want to keep or change them.
False. It is quite possible that there were no acceptable options to vote for.
I totally disagree. Especially now you see that people have to decide between two douchebags. Not to vote can be a statement as well. Especially if the system of politics supports corrupt and dishonest people. Of course you can complain about this, without supporting anyone with your vote who is part of this system.
THANK YOU!! I for one am sick and tired of this. If you strongly disagree with your country's system, representative democracy, or the electoral college, or you dislike any of the candidates, then HOW do you let your voice be heard?
Load More Replies...If you say, "one vote missing doesn't matter," then you are wrong, because 10 million other people said the same thing.
I don’t agree. In fact, even if you voted for someone and they were elected, you can still complain about them, especially if things didn’t turn it the way you were expecting. Shutting up everyone who didn’t vote or who voted for a particular candidate who are now trying to advocate for change will make it all the more likely that people in their spheres won’t vote.
It doesn't matter who you voted for. If you voted you secure yourself the right to complain about it since you were involved. You made an effort to choose what you believed was the best option at the time. If you didn't vote (and were able to), you shouldn't be allowed to moan about it since you made no effort on your part to do anything about the situation.
Load More Replies...No-one wants to hear your [crappy] music in public, especially in class.
Or hearing you blast it out of your sh!tty car. No you don’t look cool
My music isn't crappy to me either, but it might seem crappy to someone with different taste in music.
Load More Replies...Or from your car which has all the windows down so that I won't miss a single incomprehensible word. I wish my truck had its own missile system sometimes.
Many times I find that a simple & polite "would you mind turning that down a touch?" works well for most people. I was on the trolley and this young man was playing his music WAY too loud, but nobody approached him because he was black and a little scary looking. I figured the worst that could happen would be he refused, so I asked politely. His response was an equally polite "Oh, sure Ma'am". Don't make assumptions based on appearance.
Having an opinion doesn't make you right.
I mean, the bubonic plague never went away, we just have treatment for it now.
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink. You can have your own opinions, but you can't have your own facts. Facts are determined by evidence and usually determined by scientific evidence.
Or, to put it another way, you're entitled to your opinion, you're not entitled to it being right.
Just because someone hurt your feelings doesn't make you right either.
That being said, the first step is to remember kindness and the Golden Rule. How would you want to be told that something you believe isn't true?” Susan suggests thinking about your tone in communication, which should be kind, respectful, and encouraging.
Moreover, you may use reflective listening. “For example, you could say, 'It sounds like you see grass as pink,' or 'I'm hearing that you think crocodiles make great pets.' You can also add, 'Tell me how you came to that conclusion,' or 'I'm curious as to how you formed that opinion.'"
Susan encourages using expressions like "It sounds like..." "I'm hearing that..." "You seem to feel..." "I'm noticing that..."It’s also important to phrase the truth in a way that doesn’t undermine others.
And also, it's important to agree to disagree, since “even after you have (calmly!) stated the truth, someone else still might not accept it,” she concluded.
2021 will not magically be better than 2020.
This is honestly all I’m hanging on to. It’s ok to want to pretend
Seeing the ways things are going I guess that people will think 2020 was much better than 2021.
That's right. But 2021 is MUCH more likely to not suck as bad as 2020.
Just because you’ve done something wrong in the past, doesn’t mean you can’t advocate against it.
This is what some people need to hear. I 100% agree with this statement, some of us dont know the harm we've done until later, but it doesnt mean its too late to prevent others from making the same mistake.
In fact you would be the best person to do it as you have real life experience
I agree.Some years ago at work a young man came to the fatory personally and handed in his CV. It stated all his educational achievements and that he had just done 3 year at her majesties pleasure in Manchester prison, for assault. Myself and the only other manager in the building at the time, contacted him to ask him for an interview. He came and worked for us for 4 years, during which time he put him self through night school and found a stable relationship. When he left we all wished him well and now he is a senior manager. We must all learn through our mistakes, no matter how big or small.
My brother is against EVERYTHING he did as a teenager! Like just because he got drunk and bashed his head he thinks booze should be totally outlawed for everybody.
True, true, true. There's always a chance to grow spiritually, mentally, politically, whatever.
in my opinion, it makes you an even greater advocate cos you have done it and KNOW the consequences first hand
I think most of them grow up oblivious to the lingering pain they caused.
Load More Replies...As long as we fail to protect and provide for all children in our society, we will continue to suffer the crimes of the damaged adults we produce. We have no right to expect any different, and we deserve everything that we get.
Anyone who complains about people receiving benefits from the government needs to consider this. If we don't help them, their children have NO chance of doing better. We'd end up with people living in gated communities, hiding from the other part of society, afraid to go out. Parts of the world all ready live like that. I hope we never do.
I know plenty of people who live off the system and their children still suffer.
Load More Replies...How do we provide for "all children" exactly? I'm sick of people thinking we can actually eliminate issues. We will never. Ever. There will always be some twisted people.
Yes, but many “twisted people” are that way because of horrible environments that they ended up growing up in. If we can make even one kid’s life better, we can stop them from being a bad adult. No one’s saying we will ever fix the problem, but we can improve it
Load More Replies...When birth control free and easy there won't be throw-away children.
This. The US in particular does not protect children from abuse. Spanking is still legal, punishments for worse abuses are mild, and support for the abused is virtually non existent yet the world wonders why the US is so messed up and violent.
As long as we insist on allowing women to murder their unborn children, we will continue to devalue human life.
I once see a young man being questioned on the tv Why do you abuse children? his reply " i was abused as a child and it seems natural to me" It is monsters that make monsters!
Criminality does not always spring from a poor and damaged upbringing, I know a man who had an enormously abusive and dysfunctional family life - if that's what you could call it - and he is one of the most honest people I know.
I disagree. Humans have free will, and while an upbringing may have an impact on life actions, it does not dictate them.
Mark Murphy, the author of "Truth At Work: The Science Of Delivering Tough Messages," suggests that cognitive dissonance is to blame. It occurs when someone holds two psychologically inconsistent beliefs (or attitudes or opinions) that create unpleasant mental tension.
Murphy explains: “If you've ever been in a conversation with someone who just couldn't, or wouldn't, hear the truth, no matter how many ways you tried to explain it, or who reacted so badly to the truth that you regretted saying anything at all, you've likely witnessed someone who was experiencing cognitive dissonance.”
This is because such a reaction is a way of lessening psychological tension and reducing anxiety when people face something that contradicts their existing beliefs, attitudes, and opinions.
In reality, no human brain would ever enjoy receiving information that doesn’t help ourselves in the sense that it makes our lives more difficult or threatens our self-esteem, status, and public image. And it seems that the saying “truth hurts” wasn’t born out of nowhere.
People don't think about you anywhere near as much as you think they do.
Ahh, but to the socially anxious, we still cringe over something dumb we said to someone 20 years ago. Something they no doubt forgot within a week.
I've never thought about people thinking about me! That's pretty cool to know I'm not full of myself. :)
I like to keep myself to myself. People that gossip to you will gossip about you!
You're supposed to care deeply about the things in your own life, and other people not caring about them doesn't make them less important. This is one of the things Instagram culture has taken away from us -- the idea that you're doing great even if nobody likes the photos of the breakfast you made or knows who you are. For most of human history, most of our emphasis and energy was spent on our families and immediate communities. Now we're all flailing to "matter" to a bunch of strangers we probably wouldn't like in person and it's wrecking our brains.
Except for the few that have discovered that life without Fakebook, Instagram and Twitter is much more enjoyable.
I keep twitter to track how long it takes me to do things. Failbook I'm okay with now, I wasn't in the beginning but now it helps me with parts of my disorder that think people are dead or don't exist if I don't hear from them for weeks on end. Also there's cat vids and pics :D Never have or will use Instagram. Honestly don't see the point. You don't need to be on EVERY single social media platform.
I miss 'community'. I miss small festivals and parades. I even miss church gatherings even though I no longer engage in religion. I miss knowing the people around you and simply offering help when you know someone is in need. Visiting the elderly people on your street or in your building just because it's the good thing to do, the kind thing to do. Mowing a lawn or shoveling snow without expecting or even taking a dime when offered. Our focus has shifted from 'community' to 'self' and it has not served our country well the last couple decades.
screw social media, it may be fun, but it really does ruin everything
Instgram and all social media platforms are toxic, if you just stay away form them then you are still the best person there is and no one can tell you different.
No matter how nice you are, people will still just be a**holes to you just cuz.
Some people will. It's not that all the people are a**holes all the time but you do get to meet the inevitable jerk or bitch, no matter how nice you are. It's up to you to decide if they are going to dictate how you interact with people. It still does take more muscles to frown than to smile.
and the wrinkles we get from smiling are much nicer than the wrinkles we get from frowning.
Load More Replies...What people say and do says more about them than it does about you.
Sometimes, but reciprocating in kind only exacerbates the situation, so be nice anyway. Otherwise, you're an asshole too!
Yup. Wow... this is ... kinda my life. In fact... part of me wonders if being polite... courteous... considerate... nice... is actually encouraging people to be a**holes. I mean, they know they're not going to 'suffer'.
Not true. If you are to someone, they will find it very hard to be an asshole to you.
There are some people that just seem to thrive on being as nasty as they can. We have a woman like that round our way, I don't think there are many who have escaped being the brunt of her particular brand of 'amusement '.
For some people, being an a**hole is a way of life, a sort of social nourishment feeding on the people they can have access to, a way of covering up and justifying their own pathetic, often miserable life. Often it's the "I'm miserable, so everyone else has to be even more miserable than I am to feel better about myself" syndrome. Forget trying to be nice to them . . . it's a wasted effort, they'll just take advantage.
Just because someone is related to you, doesn't mean you have to like or tolerate them. Sometimes for people, friends are your true family because they accept you for who you are. They choose to stick around with you. Not because they have to. I don't speak to my abusive father and never will again, nor his side of the family. I'm estranged from one of my sisters already and I don't like most of my extended family. I do not appreciate their morals. You won't lose much at all by cutting some family ties (circumstances depend though, ofc). You'll be much happier in the long run once you establish your life, who you are and what you need/want for your future.
Yes, this. It is YOUR life, you can choose to cut the bad people, no matter who they are and how you know them
Agree I haven't talked to 2 of my sisters in over 10 yrs. I wouldnt piss on them if they were on fire.
This must be a serious dispute! I have heard of this happening in family feuds. Mine in particular.
Load More Replies...There is a species of mouse that breeds when food is scarce, just so that they can use their offspring as a source of food... so with that in mind, who says you have to like, or be nice to your family members?
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! If I try to talk to people about the fact that I have cut ties with all of my family, they act like a) I need pity b) like I'll just get over it or c) like there is something wrong with me wanting to be happy and emotionally abused. I am just so thankful to know there is a least one other person who has had to make this same choice.
I got lucky with my wonderful family, but I totally respects this post and it is so true
"Blood is thicker than water" has been mistranslated to mean that family comes first. The full phrase: "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
That'll be my life in a couple of years and it's the only thing keeping me going.
Life isn’t fair and you aren’t owed a damn thing.
The point of this hard truth is that there isn't some universal law that guarantees everyone will get that 1 chance. Life just isn't fair sometimes.
Load More Replies...Disagree. It's one of those motto's that people that are born with a golden spoon in their mouth use to justify the fact that the money they spent on their 15th car could have easily saved the lives of 100 people. Every human being has the right to a humane life, that's what society owes to every member.
I've had some bad experiences that were certainly not fair. It just makes me appreciate the good things.
Perfection lives only in dreams. Some are hopelessly immersed in the in the perpetual "the world owes me for [fill in the blank] reasons" syndrome . . . Meanwhile, others adapt as best they can and proceed through life.
Load More Replies...The universal declaration of human rights would like to disagree
The declaration of human rights is a societal invention and means nothing in the real world. If we really believed in human rights then we would be screaming from the rooftops about the children dying in the Yemen, about the millions living in refugee camps, about the approximately 1 billion people living in slums and favelas. We wouldn't be happily sitting surrounded by items made by people living and working in horrific conditions for tiny wages. Do you think the miners who extract the rare metals for our electronics have their human rights respected? No. They die young from accidents and systemic poisoning. I could give so many examples of human exploitation just from the items within arms reach. If we truky believed in human rights then none of this would be possible, but we are so easily swayed by personal convenience.
Load More Replies...Yup, be glad for your blessing. Even if it's “only“ that you live in a first world country and are not wondering where your next meal might come from.
People use this as an excuse not to work towards making the world fairer.
The one lesson that Millenials and Baby Boomers never learned. Gen X... well we had John Hughes to teach us that lesson.
The universe doesn't care if you are having a good time. One of my favorites.
Civil debate is a must. You gotta stay respectful, open-minded, and civil, even if you loathe the views of the other side with a passion.
Ha! I watched the whole thing for extra credit. I'm a student. That's literally the only thing that gave me the desire to watch it. Was like watching a duck and a goose quacking at each other.
Load More Replies...I don't have to stay respectful, open-minded and civil if the other person is claiming abhorrent or insane things -- like white supremacy is good or women are inherently inferior or Jews should all be killed. No, I certainly don't. Civil discourse depends on the participants holding at least minimally decent viewpoints.
Fully disagree. Tolerance of intolerance (like racism) is stupid, and provides the intolerant with the advantage of you tolerating their vile behavior. They sideline you, because your are respectful and civil. That way, they can, have, and will get away with repression and murder.
And I agree with you, my friend. f**k intolerance.
Load More Replies...So let’s have a kindergarten teacher proctor the debates, please.
A lot of people on the internet who stoop down to name calling over the littlest things need to be told that.
Agreed. I never name-call in discourse, but the names I've been called... ugh.
Listen, then think about what you heard. Not attempting to do this without preconceived ideas you didn't even create but were given to you before you had the ability to think is both lazy and weak minded. Open your mind...
Even though you think your kids are special, they are most likely just average.
But everyone’s kids are special to them, and that is why love is so important.
True, hence why its important to remember its 'to them'. The hard truth here is to not expect others to view your kids as special just because you do.
Load More Replies...A newborn giraffe calf can walk within 30 minutes of being born.... No one cares about your crotch goblins finger painting smear, Carole
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/animals/2018/09/giraffe-baby-film-standing-birth-news/
Load More Replies...I was a "special kid" please, do not raise your kids like that. it made life so much harder for me.
No matter how nice yours are, all German kids are Kinder. And no matte how tough you think they are, remember most French kids eat Pain for breakfast.
You can’t make everyone happy.
So true! You can spend your life trying to make others happy, but neglect your own self.
Load More Replies...My rule is you are NOT responsible for anyone’s happiness
You can't make anyone happy, only yourself, that is the only person you truly can control.
After a generation or two after your death, no one alive will have any memories of you. Your life, everything you did, and all of your struggles and achievements will all be forgotten. You’ll just be another one of the billions of forgotten souls whose names, faces, and life stories have all been lost to time.
If humanity destroys itself, there won't be any exceptions.
Load More Replies...Some say you die twice, once in physical death and the second time when your name isn’t spoken anymore
I think that's why humans want to be famous. Think of all the historical people, performers, writers, etc. who live on in their work.
This drives the whole 'wannabe' culture, even down to people becoming 'influencers'. Be famous or you're nobody and a loser. Yeah, famous people are still known of, but they are not remembered as such, nobody is still alive who remembers Shakespeare, no matter how many of his plays they've performed or seen.
Load More Replies...Likely to happen a lot sooner than two generations.... and it doesn't matter.
You need to have your views challenged. Being around and positively engaging with people who disagree with you is one of the healthiest intellectual practices we can do.
We've come to a point that "positively engaging with people who disagree with you" has become impossible. Everything has become an "Either you're with me or you're against me"- issue. You can't criticize politicians or you're a leftist fool or a rightwing idiot. And the same goes for feminism, sexism, racism etc. etc. So we all persist in our views making any dialogue impossible.
Talk? No one talks anymore. Its all txt, txt, emoij, txt, hashtag, memes and gifs to communicate ideas with.
Load More Replies...... and this is where many seem to get it only half-right... ie: they like to challenge. They like to point out 'wrong' things. They like to enthusiastically tell you how much they dislike the thing that you like - and they feel super smart doing this... then they stop. There's no more discussion or 'engagement'... just a continuous stream of 'this is wrong, and that is wrong, and I don't like this, and I don't like that.'
So true. People use social media to surround themselves with an affirming echo-chamber and and then think everyone else is stupid.
People need to learn it's ok to disagree and respectfully do so. :) We've become so anti-conflict, we forget conflict is healthy if practiced civilly. Disagreement is so foreign to us that we see it as some kind of monster. We don't need to believe exactly the same way to tolerate one another. We can be adults and get along. I believe in us! And you're all welcome to respectfully disagree.
most of my closest friends are the ones I debate with the most often, although, I am wrong a lot.
Well, you're wrong thinking you're wrong a lot, so, this time you're right.
Load More Replies...And you need to keep from throwing a hissy fit if your view is wrong. This is called civil discourse and we should all be engaging in it instead of what is going on now. You can change, and so can others.
This is the most ironic thing I may have seen appear on Bored Pansy: a site on which users actively attempt to censor other users who say unpopular things.
I must say, this is getting harder for me, the older I get. And I don't like this about myself.
A result of myelination. It's what makes us get better at things with age. It's also what is deteriorating in situations like Parkinson's, etc.
Load More Replies...You can't control what happens to you, only how you react to it.
partial disagree here, i would say that you cant control EVERYTHING that happens to you
Exactly. If you put a potato and an egg in boiling water (same circumstances) one becomes soft and the other becomes hard.
Potatoes and eggs don't choose to react that way, and they are both desirable outcomes...
Load More Replies...This is the opposite of the notion that we are 100% responsible for what happens to us. Both viewpoints are wrong. We can control to some extent, some of the things that happen to us.
Life is all about choices, and how you deal with the hand you were dealt. I HATE it when people try to blame literally everyone and everything else but themselves.
Just because you helped someone doesn't mean they are going to help you. People are ungrateful more often than not.
Hard truth. My BF is a volunteer firefighter, and do people ever thank him for getting up at random times in the night and sprinting to station just to break open that door for the medics or pump out floodwater or hauling some dumbass out of a smoked-up apartment? Usually, no. Sometimes the people he just rescued even choose to be mean. He gets pretty broken up about it sometimes, I make sure to thank him but it would be a whole different thing if the actual people in question would just say thanks sometimes. If a fire station ever helped you out, it's not too late to send a letter and simply say thank you. A lot of them are volunteers in many countries.
tell him a random girl on the internet thinks he's a hero, wants to be brave and selfless like him! I think he's amazing. A volunteer firefighter is even better. not getting paid, just serving others and saving lives just because! he's amazing! you're so lucky.
Load More Replies...Expect nothing you will never be disappointed. If you help someone do just because he/she need and not because you want something back.
An insight I gained watching an Aspy channel, which seems quite obvious now - the idea that you train people how to treat you, and specifically if you are always there to help someone then they learn that you are there to help them, and may never learn to help you. So, if you are doing things for others and turning around to find that you are alone when you need them, maybe this is something for you to consider.
Absolute truth.... if you don't expect anything from them you'll be much happier.
Absolutely. It's the general culture of self-entitlement. "Of course you'll do this nice thing for me... I'm so worth it! Why should I thank you for it?".
Sometimes people don't need help. I'm a wheelchair user, I am capable. But when people jump in to "help" when I didn't ask for help, it makes me feel useless. Let me do me and if I ask for help, then help. Or ASK me or other wheelchair users if they need help, if they say no, respect that.
You cannot go through life without experiencing some type of pain/discomfort. Physical and emotional. It is necessary for growth.
It might not be the reason it happens, but it does give you growth.
Load More Replies...But too much can stunt your growth as easily as a plant will not grow right if its deprived of enough sunlight or water.
Very true. A therapist once wisely told me I was "trying to avoid pain" to the point that it was doing me harm. Not confronting things I needed to confront, not thinking about things I needed to think about, not taking risks I should be taking. If you go through life never taking any risks you might avoid some pain, but you'll also spend it living in fear, and that's no life for anyone, is it?
Agree totally with the first two parts of this. Third part is generic (what kind of "growth"?) and not a given.
Well, who thinks you can? I think everybody has had some form of pain in their life, no matter how old you are. But, there is a difference between pain and suffering. Pain is something that can be inflicted upon you, suffering is a choice. You shouldn't ignore pain, but you shouldn't let it take a hold of you either.
"Life is pain, highness ... anyone who says otherwise is selling something." --Wesley
Things are going to keep getting worse on our planet and we are in for some serious human tragedy.
This is not universally true. In fact, many things are improving, at least when looked in decaded. Scientific progress. The fight of hunger (despite negative effects through corona). Medicine. People believing it ought to be worse anyway are a major contributor to it becoming worth, because, why should they care if they are doomed anyway?
Looking at the big picture, we are doomed anyway. Eventually the planet is going to die, people are going to die out, but we can influence how fast that happens.
Load More Replies...Tragedy in general. Wouldn't be a problem if we all were 1. Vegan and minimalist 2. following Celibacy or 3. dead. I prefer number 1, but also in modern Western society, life is difficult without producing huge piles of garbage and having a giant carbon footprint :(
Alright, I agree, but the Homo Sapiens Sapiens(yes, that's supposed to be there twice, it is our sub species) are actually omnivores naturally, so vegan is hard for us to do.
Load More Replies...Like agent Smith says in the matrix, humans are a virus, spreading and multiplying and leaving damage behind. If we continue being a parasite to earth rather than a symbiote it's not gna end well for humans :(
Humans are not a virus. Capitalism and colonialism are the disease at work here. Lots of indigenous folks managed to live in stewardship of the earth and not drive the human race into ruin with unchecked greed. Blame the 1% ruling class which controls the vast majority of material wealth on earth and creates the vast majority of pollution, carbon emission, hunger, lack of access to health care, lack of housing, war, and general suffering. Never ever buy into the ruling class's narrative that it is the fault of the 99%.
Load More Replies...This means that progress should have stopped somewhere along the way. Care to pick a year? Go ahead--but ask yourself how you'd like the medical and dental care of that year, the civil liberties of that year, the employment prospects of that year. Then you'd have some perspective.
This is definitely not true. Humanity has continually improved over time. It's just hard to see because we keep taking a step back for every two forward and the timeframes are too long for a single human to see the big picture easily within his/her lifetime.
It's quite likely that humanity will fail at some point. Before that, humanity may come close to the brink. Many times. It seems likely to me that it has happened in the past. I think Olaf Stapledon was the author of a novel called First and Last Men that considers this topic. It's a good book, if maybe a bit drawn-out towards the end. Also, considering that we are a branch on the same tree as other primates, and even of other hominids that are now extinct and in which humans may have had some role, it's not hard to imagine what the future might bring. Especially now that we are on the verge of creating a new species of human - the trans-human. You think that disparity is bad today? Imagine what it will be like for humans who have to live under actual living, perhaps even immortal, gods and demigods, which is what AI, prosthetics, longevity science, perhaps also Quantum Computing (even Intellectual Property playing a role, isolating most from major advantages), will usher in shortly.
Load More Replies...Nature is not kind. Civilizations have a point of blooming, then wilting. Mankind is notorious for hind-sight.
Thank you for the prophetic insight. Regardless, please give my best regards to your illuminati friends :p
Some tragedy maybe, and, I believe that every moment of every day we all have a choice about how we feel, what we think, and most importantly, what we do about it.
We don't know everything and probably never will.
That is not a hard to swallow fact (referring the title of this article). Don´t think that anyone aspires to know everything anyways :-)
As a scientist, this is one of the things that make me happy. Imagine being a scientist who live in a world in which everything in known.
You know what you need to know . . . most knowledge concerns something very far away (time and distance) that aren't necessary, just interesting. So you don't know things on a molecular level or universal size, but you get through every day . . .
I actually really like this thought. I find it much more exciting that there are many things we don't know or understand. It makes life an adventure.
So many of these are negative... So how about the truth that one of the best ways to be happy in life is by helping other people. People don't want to do it, because helping other people feels like you're losing out, but it's true.
How does it feel like you're losing out? It always gives me a happy feeling.
It doesn't have a tangible, readily obvious and immediate benefit to you personally. It costs you in money, time and/or effort, and you don't get "anything" in return in the sense that you don't get a medal, goods or services etc. If you never do it and just look at it from the outside it can feel like you're doing something for nothing. In some cases it can seem even worse than that, like trying to help an addict, you probably will get ingratitude, abuse and offences "in return". But then again that is just until you try it and figure out that you are getting something in return.
Load More Replies...You can influence small kids that will stick with them all their lives . . . music, laughter, listening. That's immortality!
I am happiest when I am helping others, such as volunteering at a food bank.
Yes, feels like you're losing out and that's true. Haha, nice. Seriously tho: I've helped people quite a lot over the years, and I have to say I don't feel like I've gotten much back. Well, except being used and taken advantege of. Yeah, that's mainly it. So I don't really recommend it.
The benefit has to be inward. It's knowing that you have tried, even when it doesn't work out. That the person you helped might realise and do the same for others. That you are a good person, on balance, for making that effort.
Load More Replies...When they begin expecting your assistance but never volunteer their own it's time to cut them loose.
It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
I disagree. I try my best to not be selfish. Sometimes I fail, but I try.
*snort* Once had someone call me the most selfish person they'd ever known. Because I have a chronic illness. The funny part is it was so unbelievable for both parties that A. I didn't flinch (and I've always been hypersensitive to criticism) and B. they came back with the exact opposite story once they realized they were the asshole. ...No apology, mind you, but a correction of the record nonetheless.
We can only see things from our own perspective, even though we might be good enough to imagine how others feel and react, but we must have some references of our own to really be empathic and sympathic.
This is wrong. This attitude is why the world is in such bad shape. Everyone thinks they deserve everything and everyone else deserves nothing. Selfishness is BAD and shameful. Stop thinking the world revolves around YOU, it doesn't. Do something for other people and stop being a greedy, grasping, dickhead.
Selfishness gets a bad rap because most people's definition is wrong. They presume it means that one thinks (and acts) for one's self... and when one does so, it is at the expense of others. That definition inherently presumes you owe others.
Well, because that's exactly what it does mean. "(of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure." In case you missed it: LACKING CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS; CONCERNED CHIEFLY WITH ONE'S OWN PERSONAL PROFIT OR PLEASURE. Hint: That's not a good thing.
Load More Replies...Everyone's a hypocrite. Even you.
I'd say there are probably not a single human that is without double standards in some form or other. You can still be genuine and true tho.
Load More Replies...I think all of us have some areas of double standards, and a lot of the time it may actually come down to laziness more than anything. But I read somewhere that sometimes a hypocrite is no more than someone in the process of change. Because of things like social media, we have a culture of dragging up things people did decades ago to use against them now. This is stupid on so many levels, and a lot of the time when people cry 'hypocrite' they forget that someone may have changed their opinion.
Yeah, no. There is a thing called integrity. Are people complex? Sure. And imperfect! Failures, missteps, and screwups are part of life. But lots of us admit we blew it and try to do better -- and then try not to judge others. Hypocrisy is much more serious than just blowing it once in awhile. True hypocrisy is when you see fault in others/their value system but cannot or refuse to admit fault in yourself or your values. It's also appointing yourself judge over all despite those failings.
Love alone is not enough to make a relationship work.
If they’re referring to the feeling of love, no. Feelings come and go with the weather. However, mutually choosing to act in love is enough. However you should make sure you’re compatible in values and life goals before you make a commitment!
People will criticize you even when you do perfect.
Critics are people who are incapable of doing anything right themselves.
There is positive and negative criticism :)
Load More Replies...Your kid has no idea it's their birthday for the first few years. Stop making a huge deal about it. It's obviously about you and not them.
Is it wrong to celebrate the milestone because you're happy they made it there? Many babies don't, so why not celebrate?
Not wrong to celebrate at all however to spend hundreds sometimes thousands on gifts and partys is just silly! Many people do this with money they dont even have. I understand the excitement but it really is about the parents when they do this.
Load More Replies...It is often the time bigger families can get together, nothing wrong with that, they create memories, my first birthday was in the paper, nothing to do with my family it was my preschool...we still have the paper and that rocks. Other birthdays I remember a boy blowing out my candles I was 3. Extravagance is up to the person willing to pay...this pill was a placebo, no substance.
Making a huge affair out of it is silly indeed. However you never know what people will remember. One of my first memories is actually my second birthday, and that's the only thing I remember from around that time. I know I've seen the photo of me sitting in front of my humble homemade cake with marzipan figures and two little candles on is, looking all happy with my cute pigtails but I also have a clear mental image from my point of view, looking at that cake like it's the biggest miracle on Earth, being absolutely overjoyed that I AM celebrated (you're right, probably didn't quite get why), I'm the center of the Universe for a moment and that wonderful cake is just for me, everybody loves me and all is so good in the world. That's the whole memory, just a glimpse, seeing the cake, having the anticipation of how great it will taste and how happy I am. Don't remember tasting it, or what I got as a present, or what else happened that they. But I still cherish that truly happy moment.
OP obviously has no idea. What he or she says is true for a one and to some degrees a two-year old, but not for a three-year old anymore. The fact is rather that children percieve time and special occasions differently and the way we celebrate the birthday of toddlers is not necessarily how they would cherisch them.
That is why for my kids first 2 christmases and birthdays they got minimal presents and the presents they did receive were practical things they would need throughout the year like clothes, nappies, bedding etc. I got maybe 1 or 2 age appropriate toys and a book as well, I didn't go overboard. But that was my choice, others can so what they like.
If you as a parent have survived the first year, that's definitely a good reason for some cake :D
I told my niece I wasn’t buying my first child toys for the first two years. She thought I was a monster. I showed her a video of a child choosing to play with literally anything but their toys. (They need a snuggle toy and blankie of course!)
Money can indeed buy you happiness. People that believe that it can't, have never had to worry about money.
Once you have enough money to be financially secure, money can't buy you happiness. But if you are not financially secure, ANY extra money will make you HEAPS happier.
Well, not ANY money, but a moderate amount, yes. Too much money all of a sudden (like winning the lottery) can make you very unhappy.
Load More Replies...Since money comes and goes so does happiness for a lot of people. But once you are finacially secure you shouldn't be in need of purchasing more happiness. If you are still unhappy it is not because of a lack of money so you should get help and get to the root of your problem.
This doesn't actually make sense. Ever heard of the lottery winners who commit suicide because everyone they know wants a share of it?
Don't tell people. Don't change your life dramatically either. The ones that do are the ones that usually become incredibly unhappy. There are ways and means to do this. I have my plan ready - WHERE'S MY WIN???
Load More Replies...Some people are just evil. There’s not always a reason behind it.
No. I don't believe anyone is born evil, so something makes them that way. Whether it's childhood trauma, abuse, substance abuse, untreated mental illness, head trauma - there will be something behind it.
The genetic makeup can make a person evil, and "evil" is subjective.
Load More Replies...They are. And there is always reason behind... We might not agree or understand the reason, but it is there
Wrong. There is always a reason, whether it's behavioural or genetic.
i feel like there has to be a reason behind everything, even if you/i don't know it yet
Make that all people. Deep down we are evil. It's just nature, sorry.
Just because you've been doing something longer than other people doesn't mean you're better at it (driving, job role, sports etc).
I have to agree with this one... if someone has been doing something for 47 years and still achieving nothing, then I guess that proves that experience doesn't always mean competence. ;p
The vast majority of people don't care about you. Family and close friends will but everyone else is far more concerned with themselves and their family and friends. They don't really hate you and they don't really like you, they just don't really care. Some people may love or hate the idea of you but it's not personal.
Hard work may increase your odds of success. But it doesn't guarantee you [anything]. There will always be thousands of people out there who worked way less harder than you but achieved way more.
Another American opinion. There are lots of people who think they are successful if they have a steady nine to five job, their own house and car, 52 long weekends to spend with their family, 4 weeks paid vacation and no debts.
Corona may never go away and be in our lives forever in some capacity.
The Black Death Pandemic lasted for over 400 years... and the bacteria that causes it (Yersinia pestis) is still alive and well today... and still killing people... let that sink in!
That's what happened to the regular flue. The question is, if this is the case, will restrictions stay in place forever or will people recognize that it becomes futile at some point?
True. The first time a Covid virus hit was in the 1890s, we still carry the traces of it. It is the cause of that stupid persistant cough people sometimes have that just won't go away. We have just managed to adjust to that particular strand.
Corona WILL never go away. It's here to stay and we humans better start to take it seriously and stop discussing crazy theories and acting like utter morons, because if we don't, the 1 million death people all around the world are just the start.
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Load More Replies...Not even close to being true. That's like saying that everyone on the planet has had a cold, so colds must not be a thing anymore. Right?
Load More Replies...A lack of critical thinking and greed are responsible for most of the world's man-made problems. We can't eradicate greed. So, if the world's going to get better it needs to think better. Until critical thinking becomes a skill as basic and necessary as arithmetic, we'll continue doing stupid things.
while It's true that America isn't great, It's much better than certain countries. (north Korea comes to mind)
Load More Replies...Human greed is a huge problem. Corruption is in every human being with power. You can't legislate human greed away, because people write the legislation and control the enforcement of it. One proposition on how to save humanity is to create really great artificial intelligence to run our societies for us. A computer is not flawed with our human greed.
No one is at the wheel. There is no one leading the planet, just powerful people, companies, and countries all struggling together against everyone else for power, money, and control.
So you're telling me there's no Deep State or Illuminati or Circle of 13 that controls the world? Sure, buddy. Just search the internet, there's so much evidence. Like how Christmas is always on the exact same date.. /Sarcasm=off
That is exactly what they want you to think. Congratulations, you're successfully brain washed
Luckily, wearing a tinfoil hat will protect us from them :)
Load More Replies...Whoever is reading this doesn’t have anything better to do at the moment.
Been meaning to look up what procrastinating means, I just can never seem to get around to doing it.
Load More Replies...I have lots of better things to be doing right now, just don’t want to do them
I have many things that would be a better use of my time but I just can’t be f****d.
Animal agriculture does more harm to the environment than all of the cars, planes, boats, etc in the world combined. It's destroying our oceans, our air, our land, and our bodies.
But if we produced enough vegetarian food to feed the world, how much land and pollution might that take? I live in NZ. Our land is largely hilly. You can farm sheep and cows on it. You can't grow crops effectively on hills.
It would probably pollute much much much less. We already produce enough to feed the planet, but we give that food to the animals. Bad energy investment. Also, getting rid of the animal-production would free up INSANE amounts of land, energy, etc.
Load More Replies...Plant farms cause deforestation more than animal ranches, just look at the soya farms.
just google what the soy is needed for. 75% of all soy produced per year is used to feed animals.
Load More Replies...I'm not saying that factory farming is good, it absolutely isn't, but this 'fact' is bullshit. And even if it were true, raising animals for food is not the inherent issue, it's corporate greed, and the fact that our politicians are owned outright by these corporations. Place blame where it is due. And for God's sake, please don't delude yourself into thinking that eating soy or black bean or pea burgers instead is saving the planet. It's like putting a band-aid on a gaping head wound.
and it is disrespectful to the animals... they are not thing, they feel the pain and misery of their life...
But lets not mention the single most important part of it: THE ANIMALS. First of all it's destroying the very animals that are slaughtered by the billions, you braindead moron who wrore this. (Not disagreeing here, except the "out bodies" part, we dont know that for sure.)
Fun fact: Vegans and vegetarians cause MUCH more harm to the natural environment than they think... There are literally millions of creatures wiped out by habitat loss and "pest" eradication while changing natural areas (woodland, grassland, etc) into land to be used for growing crops.
Got stats? Organic matter and water is naturally recycled, and the Earth's ecosystem is built to process this naturally, right down to the atom. I'm not saying it's 100% "green", but vehicle exhaust has lots of chemicals that are not made anywhere in nature. Without supporting evidence, I call Shenanigans!
We need to stop eating so much meat if we want to mitigate climate change. The earth cannot keep up with our demands for meat and eating it for every meal is not healthy for us either.
did you know that dinner plates in the US have increased in size in the past few decades? this makes me so sad.
Load More Replies...How about we apply laws so people don't produce babies like rabbits? Worldwide destruction of nature, resources, and ecology is acceptable to people. But forced permanent contraception after a specified number of children is not. It's obvious people as a whole r not going to be careful with where they put their d***s
Depends on the country, but this is generally a sensible, moderate point. Meat once a day and other proteins (eggs, dairy, vege proteins) at other meals is pretty healthy (individuals may vary), and most western countries could cut down meat consumption a fair bit.
Just take "climate change" out of the equation, please. Climate change is just one tiny part of it. Meat production takes a serious toll on our resources, land, etc, not to mention the insane amount of suffering (billions of animals slaughtered in front of each other every year) it causes.
Here we go; consume LESS meat. I agree. Meat still has to be part of our diet if we don't want to become the planet of Gollums.
I thought this post was about things that were absolutely true. This sounds very debatable and like it's just some vegetarian's opinion.
Humanity (7+ billion people at present, and the number keeps growing) cannot survive on plant food alone - that's another hard to swallow truth that preachy vegans choose to ignore.
Oh yeah, where you got that from? We produced more than enough plant food already, the problem is just that we're giving most of it to cattle for a very poor energy investment.
Load More Replies...No matter what you do you polluted the planet.
Yes. And what's your point? Everyone pollutes the planet but stop making it sound like pollution isn't the fault of the companies. Who sells banana's wrapped in plastic? Who sells a tiny bottle of perfume in enough plastic to cover 50 acres of forest? Who is cutting down the rainforest for their projects? Who is still drilling for oil in nature reserves while we need to transition to electric transportation?
not only humans do this - animals and plants can do this. so what will we do? kill off all life forms? then what?
How do other animals pollute the planet? They don't produce plastic, they can't even make a fire.
Load More Replies...Not if you live in a small home you buildt yourself in nature using what you have around you, grow your own food, source your own water, use solar power, never use traffic, etc. Those people exist, yes.
This is true. Some people use no single-use packaging at all as well.
Load More Replies...Some people will never find a long term partner and that's okay... ... because even if you live your life surrounded by people and love, you will die alone. Being married or with a LT partner, having children, having lots of relatives... All in all, it's no guarantee / insurance against ending up alone. People fall out of love for no reason and sometimes there's nothing you can / should do about it. Not everyone wants children, even the ones who will have them anyway.
As Jackson Browne put it, "...no matter how close the steps of another seem to have grown, in the end there is one dance you do alone."
You die alone, it's a fact.. massdecease and schizophrenia... Are the only reasons to die not alone. Or your partner dies with you... I dont get the fuss about this topic. But a lot of people cant be alone.. So yeah, thats the reason. Or is it valid, that people watch you die and it counts as: not dying alone?
Load More Replies...No one really gives a [crap] what your eyebrows look like.
True. We just laugh at people that have ruined their eyebrows so they look like clowns.
I never even noticed eyebrows until my 'a**l' wife exposed her obsession about them!
Just because you love someone it doesn't mean they will love you back. No matter how hard you try to get them to, they just won't.
Sounds like someone is bitter! Maybe not, but someone can love you back.
If you feel like you continuously have to fight for their attention, they probably aren't worth fighting for. If they only talk to you when you text them first, they have no interest in knowing you.
This isn’t necessarily true. For example, a close friend of mine is a doctor. If I text her and she doesn’t text back for three weeks, it’s probably a bad month for the ICU ward. Now, if she texted back one word answers with no input...
It says if they ONLY talk to you when you text them first. Every time. Not if they're too busy to respond at all sometimes and you know they're a doctor working in ICU.
Load More Replies...Not always true. I avoid messages sometimes if I'm having a really bad anxiety day, or can't face socialising. My friends and family know this about me, and I know I don't want to hurt their feelings so I will always contact them just not always straight away.
You can be incredibly talented, intelligent, beautiful and work your [arse] off and still go nowhere above an average paycheck. It is better to find happiness in life itself than bet on the rare occurrence of sublime success.
I concur. Even if you can't make a living from it, if you can find something that you enjoy doing, that alone will be enough to make you happy. If I do a painting that I'm really satisfied with, no-one can take that away from me.
Your spouse/child/home/job/vacation, etc. is not nearly as important to anyone else as it is to you.
That there are people who won’t like you or agree with you and you won’t be able to change their mind so you just have to deal with it.
Your dog will probably die before you.
Bro. Did you just discover the solution to eternal life!? :)
Load More Replies...I hope so - I dont want for the poor boy to be without his family!
Excactly! Of course, I fear the day my cat (ok, no dog, but similar situation :)) will die but I hope that I will live long enough to be able to care for my tomcat as long as he lives. He must have already made some bad experiences with humans in his mysterious past and I cannot bear the thought of leaving him unprotected in this world.
Load More Replies...Most often, when we get a pet, we do so knowing it will die before us. As George Carlin put it, it's like buying a little tragedy.
Just because you’ve been with someone since high school doesn’t mean they’re right for you. Don’t base your future on childish dreams.
Well, being with someone since high school means that you both passed one of the most challenging parts of growing up together and hence the bonds are stronger.
no offense, but not necessarily. All you've done is proved you can commit to someone. Often times, high school couples who marry divorce because they're not right. They don't look around any other options that the ones they already have chosen.
Load More Replies...this is just opinion not fact. some highschool sweethearts do marry. also, dreams arent necisserily childish.
We're all just star dust.
Just? I think that is realy cool. I wonder how long the atoms in my toe have been around
tHe mOmEnT tHaT i hIt tHe sTaGe i hEaR tHe uNiVeRsE cAlliNg mY nAmE
This is straight up BS propaganda pushed on the naive public through cunning deception and logical fallacies
Prove it. What do you think is not BS? Your particular holy book? Is that where life originated? The magic man in the sky? Do you get all of your information from fairy tales?
Load More Replies...Some people are hypocrites & preach that they are anti racism and pro feminism, but are really just fake woke activists.
A quick glance on some social media teaches us that indeed some people are hypocrites. The majority is really racist and anti feminism.
The only person responsible for -you- is -you-.
No. This is a very conservative American thing to think. A society is built on cooperation, by taking care of each other, helping out when needed.
You can help someone as long as you like, if they don't want to change, they won't.
Load More Replies...That's like saying that your situation or condition is determined entirely by the decisions you make. This is patently silly.
It isn't saying that at all. You are responsible for the decisions you make - people can persuade, argue or disagree but ultimately you still make the choice - even if it is to allow someone else to decide. However, most situations have variables that you can't control and life may lead you along paths you never intended. How you react to that is down to you, what you choose is down to you. You are responsible for you, no matter what s**t life may throw.
Load More Replies...No matter how much you try to forgive your partner for cheating, there will always be remains of the pain it brought.
That is why I could never stay with someone who cheated, the trust is gone and I would constantly be worrying. Not a way to continue with a relationship.
I agree. It would be really hard. I’ve been there and tried it. And I could never fully trust them again it was pointless to stay.
Load More Replies...Stop buying so many bananas, you're never going to make banana nut bread! Put them back!
You have to stop making excuses at one point in your life and get up and grow up. It sucks but you HAVE to, in order to be a decent human being. No one will do things for you.
In most situations, most people will make the choice that benefits them even at the expense of others.
When you die, it could very well be nothing. Just blackness, like before you were born.
I believe that when we die it’s like being in a deep sleep without dreams, so I guess it is just like before we were even born.
so you just dont feel anything ant arent concious of being there? at least its not gonna b scary to die tho
There's going to be a day where you are totally forgotten by everyone.
You are always replaceable.
This is definitely not true. A mother isn’t replaceable. A grandparent isn’t replaceable. Your child isn’t replaceable. A loving love partner isn’t replaceable. A best friend isn’t replaceable. The one who had the idea and drove a company to the top isn’t replaceable. There are people that who’s choose nobody in the world could ever fill.
Sorry, but this post needs to be more exact, because it's just a generalisation: How or why are we replaceable?
how the hell is someone 'replacable' dont be so shallow as to think that
Hm, for 99,999999 this is true. But some very few poeple are not. Michael Jackson. Da Vinci. Elon Musk. Eminem. A couple others also.
I could do Eminem’s job, just cuss really fast
Load More Replies...The eradication of the most devastating diseases that we fight today (i.e. cancer) will have potentially devastating unintended consequences. Humans weren't meant to live forever, and a "cure for cancer" will have interesting effects in the economy and society as a whole with a world already overcrowded with people.
Actually, research shows that people with better living conditions and longer life expectancy generally have fewer, healthier children.
That's not the only problem. Who will do the work in a population thats predominantly over 75? How does a 150 year old mind in a fundamentally frail body manage to keep up with human advancements? What are we going to do with all these extra years of life in a weakening body in a world that is increasingly beyond our understanding?
Load More Replies...Yes but there are more people. More people having less children = still more children being born than in 1950s. So the population is still increasing. That is a significant problem that will need addressing at some point.
Load More Replies...There were a few articles about similar topics where I just couldn't understand the authors' optimism. Like the one about how relatively close we are now to "eradicate" death and one day we will be able to extend everyone's lives infinitely. Yay! Except wait... What will we do with all those people while most will still also breed and make more and more? Or another about the possibility that in the near future we could have artificial wombs where a pregnancy could be "finished" it it cannot get to term in a mother's body. I could see the greatness of this for cases where a wanted pregnancy is e.g. dangerous to the mother. But the article was mostly about how amazing it would be to save all those babies that are otherwise aborted. It gave some staggering numbers just for that specific country. And again I'm like wow, great, and then what will happen with all those babies? Suddenly a pair of great parents will emerge from thin air for each?
Mother Nature will always find a way to slow population growth. Always.
That if we don't start treating our planet better, we'll be gone in 50 years. Done.
Hard work matters.
This should say Hard work matters but it doesn’t mean you will be wealthy, appreciated or irreplaceable etc.
It means you have a great work ethic. But it's easy to become a workaholic.
Load More Replies...No idea, but hard work matters. I'm not a boomer, I'm a millenian I think, or gen something. I don't understand all the generation nicknames but I was born in the late 80s so whatever that makes me
Load More Replies...It's our fault the world is not the way it's supposed to be. We didn't start it, it's just the people that came before us didn't fix it, and now it's our responsibility. Expecting politicians, athletes, and celebrities to influence positive change is [useless] when so many of us don't take extra steps to contribute positively in the world.
I don't quite see how this is true. It may be partially true and very true that we all need to do more to fix things. But, if someone hands you a pile of s**t, it is that person's fault. We were born into a world of nuclear weapons and countries that hate each other. By the logic of this post, we're just supposed to easily fix these huge problems?
Newsflash... with or without your help, the world is going to end one day... the Sun, over which we have zero control, is going to die one day and every planet that orbits around it, will be destroyed in the process. Fact: 240 million years ago, the bottom of the ocean farted (released a whole bunch of methane gas as the result of a massive earthquake) the resulting conflagration that occurred when lightning ignited the gas after it reached the ocean's surface wiped out 95% of all life on Earth. 65 Million years ago, a giant asteroid (roughly the size of Mount Everest) struck Earth near what is known as the Yucatan Peninsula... the impact and resulting "nuclear winter" wiped out almost all land dwelling life at that time, along with a large amount of ocean dwelling life too... The point? Regardless of what we do to try to mitigate our impact on this planet, at any moment, Mother Nature can say "F**k it! I've had enough of this sh*t!" and wipe out most of life on this planet.
The world hasn't been what it "was supposed to be" since we were hunters and gatherers, before agriculture began. Preserving our genes and propagating those genes (survival and reproduction) are the basic imperatives. They are hard-wired into the genetic code. It has been many millennia since H.sap. began to modify the earth to serve those two needs. This will continue to its inevitable conclusion. I truly believe that we passed the point of no return some time in the last 600 years. I truly believe that we, _as a species_, do not have what it takes to ensure the survival of the species. Our history argues strongly for that conclusion. 600 years is not enough time to effect change in our genetic imperatives.
Anything about someone's dream. The MLM will never make you money, Britney. Although your parents say so, you cannot sing, Amy. You are not the smartest person in the world, Brandon. (Names random)
And that's why MLMs, songcontests and "Get your PHD here" websites exist.
Having a culture that is so focused on getting high or drunk squanders much of the time in our youth that we need to develop into thoughtful, pragmatic, and mature adults.
I got raging drunk in my late teens-early 20s plenty of times, and it didnt prevent me turning into a mature, responsible, thoughtful person who only drinks occasionally. I don't think it was healthy, but noone makes healthy choices 100% of the time anyway.
FFS: Let people enjoy their youth without forcing them to be "mature adults" before they even had the time to be immature carefree children.
Not true. It's part of growing up in many cultures. As long as people don't carry on doing this their whole life and keep acting immature beyond, say 25 years of age, then you'll probably grow out of it.
All children are innocent, but they’re not all good. Some people will grow up to be [friggin] [arseholes] regardless of what they’re exposed to.
I believe there will be something in their life that makes them that way. Whether they were a child whose parents didn't say 'no' enough, or they weren't taught to accept that others sometimes get it better than you, or other life lessons. They don't just turn out arseholes for absolutely no reason. They may, however, choose to stay that way rather than try to improve when they realise it's not a good way to be.
Some children are “Bad” and it doesn’t necessarily mean it is always on purpose. Some people are born with things like Oppositional Defiant Disorder which is a neurological disorder, same as ADHD, ASD and more. The brain is a very complicated thing and some people just don’t have the proper understanding or control of their actions etc and can come across as “Bad”.
Load More Replies...Children are actually born sociopaths - they have no real emotions beyond "I'm hungry", "I'm tired", "I'm uncomfortable"... they learn their emotions, and how to interact with others, from us. Fact: the part of the brain that governs reasoned thought, and emotion is called the prefrontal cortex and is not properly developed until we reach around 25-26 years of age... this is why seemingly bright young adults make stupid mistakes... and why voting ages were dropped to 18 years of age, and why the military only enlists between ages 17 and 26.
Costco has tubs of 7lb Nacho cheese for sale at $6.50 a piece. 7lbs of Nacho Cheese works out to about 2,800cm3 . A typical bathtub has a volume of 160,000cm3 . Here are your volumes based on weights (approximately) and how many bottles you would need to fill up the tub: 120lbs = 50,000cm3 means you need 40 tubs for 255 dollars 150lbs = 70,000cm3 means you need 32 tubs for 208 dollars 200lbs = 90,000cm3 means you need 25 tubs for 162.5 dollars 250lbs = 110,000cm3 means you need 18 tubs for 116 dollars See the trend? The fatter you get, the more cost effective it becomes to bathe in cheese.
The trend is also that the fatter you get, the more likely it is you die while you're bathing in cheese.
Make your own: INGREDIENTS 2 Tbsp butter ($0.22) 2 Tbsp flour ($0.02) 1 cup whole milk ($0.30) 6 oz. medium cheddar, shredded (about 1.5 cups) ($2.25) 1/4 tsp salt ($0.02) 1/4 tsp chili powder ($0.02) INSTRUCTIONS Add the butter and flour to a small sauce pot. Heat and whisk the butter and flour together until they become bubbly and foamy. Continue to cook and whisk the bubbly mixture for about 60 seconds. Whisk the milk into the flour and butter mixture. Turn the heat up slightly and allow the milk to come to a simmer while whisking. When it reaches a simmer, the mixture will thicken. Once it's thick enough to coat a spoon, turn off the heat. Stir in the shredded cheddar, one handful at a time, until melted into the sauce. If needed, place the pot over a low flame to help the cheese melt. Do not over heat the cheese sauce. Once all the cheese is melted into the sauce, stir in the salt and chili powder. Taste and adjust the seasoning as needed. If the sauce becomes too thick, add milk
It started to sound like a very angry man trapped in a fortune cookie factory. This is why no one should text after drinking.
Many of these are not absolute truths, quite a few are not even true but some some contexts or with assumed connotations. Negativism does not lead you anyway; cloaking it as "brutal truths" does not make you or the world any better. Now that is an absolute truth, isn't it?
Not really, you still need the right context for virtually all of them. These read more like "how to speak like an asshole" more than hard-to-swallow truths. If we want to be kind, these read more like "consequences of standing idly by instead of taking action".
Load More Replies...So many people are missing the point of the post. Its hard truths. Ofc its not going to be all bright and positive.
They take stuff from Twitter, Tumblr abd Reddit all the time.
Load More Replies...Things I don't understand as an American. Age of drinking and smoking cigarettes are 21 because the brain isn't fully developed until then, but, 18 yr olds are allowed to sign contracts that literally put their lives at risk to join the military. There's kids being tried as adults on courts, and the parents aren't allowed to be involved because they're being tried as adults. Some adults don't even understand they're legal rights and they expect kids to on a situation that could literally mess up their whole lives of they don't have a competent attorney? Lastly, just from my experience and what I've seen with my little brother, nephews and cousins kids. Little kids are being out on psych meds left and right, sometimes just so the parents can get a fan disability check. These psych drugs can and does mess the chemicals in their brains up if they're not needed. And all the parents have to say is that they can't sit still or concentrate and the kids are given a cocktail of psych meds.
It started to sound like a very angry man trapped in a fortune cookie factory. This is why no one should text after drinking.
Many of these are not absolute truths, quite a few are not even true but some some contexts or with assumed connotations. Negativism does not lead you anyway; cloaking it as "brutal truths" does not make you or the world any better. Now that is an absolute truth, isn't it?
Not really, you still need the right context for virtually all of them. These read more like "how to speak like an asshole" more than hard-to-swallow truths. If we want to be kind, these read more like "consequences of standing idly by instead of taking action".
Load More Replies...So many people are missing the point of the post. Its hard truths. Ofc its not going to be all bright and positive.
They take stuff from Twitter, Tumblr abd Reddit all the time.
Load More Replies...Things I don't understand as an American. Age of drinking and smoking cigarettes are 21 because the brain isn't fully developed until then, but, 18 yr olds are allowed to sign contracts that literally put their lives at risk to join the military. There's kids being tried as adults on courts, and the parents aren't allowed to be involved because they're being tried as adults. Some adults don't even understand they're legal rights and they expect kids to on a situation that could literally mess up their whole lives of they don't have a competent attorney? Lastly, just from my experience and what I've seen with my little brother, nephews and cousins kids. Little kids are being out on psych meds left and right, sometimes just so the parents can get a fan disability check. These psych drugs can and does mess the chemicals in their brains up if they're not needed. And all the parents have to say is that they can't sit still or concentrate and the kids are given a cocktail of psych meds.
