Healing after a breakup takes time. And it doesn't matter if you were dumped or did the dumping or that everyone is telling you that you will eventually start feeling better, you can't help but think that no one could have ever experienced the things you went through. So give yourself the green light to get over it your way.

Bored Panda has compiled a list of ways people are dealing with their exes and it proves that there is no perfect recipe. From passive-aggressive gestures to constructive conversations, scroll down to check out the entries and upvote your faves.

#1

Found The Heart Of My Ex

Found The Heart Of My Ex

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
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2 months ago

That actually looks cool.

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Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D., a Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, said there’s very little scientific evidence on that emotional limbo in which separated couples find themselves. However, one recent study by psychologists David Sbarra and Jessica Borelli does stand out.

#2

My Uncle's Halloween Costume Is The Scariest Thing He's Ever Known, His Ex-Wife

My Uncle's Halloween Costume Is The Scariest Thing He's Ever Known, His Ex-Wife

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Emerald Joanna
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2 months ago

That is nice make up skills!

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The researchers explored the question of which partners are able to reorganize their sense of self during the separation and which are not. The 89 adults who participated in the study (two-thirds female) were separated for about 3 months from their partners. Their marriages had lasted on average 14 years and they were about 40 years old. Roughly half had initiated the separation. Also, the participants were tested more than once. A few months after completing the initial study, they returned to allow the researchers to evaluate how they were adapting to their separations throughout the time.

#3

When Love Is Over

When Love Is Over

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Lauren Caswell
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2 months ago

Ok that 'after' tattoo is really cool

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The follow-up showed that attachment style and emotional self-control did, in fact, influence self-concept outcomes. "The partners whose sense of self remained in disarray were the ones who were high in attachment avoidance (i.e. who preferred to remain distant) and who also had difficulty regulating their emotions while completing the lab task measuring their distress when talking about their partner," Whitbourne explained the results. "In contrast, the avoidantly attached who could control their emotional responsiveness were able to reorganize their sense of identity more successfully over time. Attachment anxiety, somewhat surprisingly, did not play a significant role in determining the adjustment to separation."

#4

It's Valentine's Day And My Ex-Girlfriend Sent Me This, So I Replied With This

It's Valentine's Day And My Ex-Girlfriend Sent Me This, So I Replied With This

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2 months ago

Hahaha in many cases this is so true.

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When you think about it, if a person is high on avoidance, why should he or she suffer any ill effects at all during a separation? Wouldn’t the person who tends to remain cold and distant do OK after the relationship ends? "This is where emotional control comes into play. If you can keep your closest relationship from penetrating your sense of self, you can survive the breakup, but only if you can also keep thoughts about your partner and the relationship out of your awareness," Whitbourne said. "Otherwise, they’ll haunt you, threaten your sense of self, and prolong your sense of distress. The only way that a highly dismissive person can survive a breakup is if that person can also “deactivate” or turn off all thoughts of the partner."

#5

Came Across A 10-Year-Old Photo That Had My Brothers Ex-Wife In It And My Ex In It. Instead Of Deleting It I "Fixed" It

Came Across A 10-Year-Old Photo That Had My Brothers Ex-Wife In It And My Ex In It. Instead Of Deleting It I "Fixed" It

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Supac Takur
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2 months ago

help, I shrunk my brother

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Basically, the study suggests that people high in attachment avoidance don't really make great marital partners. "They can be cold and distant, especially - as we’ve just learned - if they can also switch their emotions to the off position when things become stressful."

Once the breakup happens, however, this research shows that it’s vital to find a way to put the pieces of your identity back together. "If you can’t find a way to incorporate the breakup into your sense of who you are as a person, moving on will become even more challenging than it might otherwise be. As distressing as your thoughts may be, by allowing them to filter back into your consciousness, perhaps ever so slowly you will be able to move on and emerge with a new – and stronger- sense of self."

#6

Netflix & Zero Chills

Netflix & Zero Chills

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Hermione Granger
Community Member
2 months ago

This is so smart

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#7

Best Ex Ever

Best Ex Ever

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

That is actually quite a nice gift from an ex unless it is poisoned or laden with spit or other bodily fluids.

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#8

My Wife Sent Me Our Son's Music Results With The Comment "I Can Think Of, Like, 7 Ex-Boyfriends Who Needed A Scoresheet Like This"

My Wife Sent Me Our Son's Music Results With The Comment "I Can Think Of, Like, 7 Ex-Boyfriends Who Needed A Scoresheet Like This"

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Radek Suski
Community Member
2 months ago

that cracked me up

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#9

I Kicked My Loser Ex Out Of My House And Got A New Piece Of Art

I Kicked My Loser Ex Out Of My House And Got A New Piece Of Art

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Asi Bassey
Community Member
2 months ago

Here in Nigeria, all our walls are made of cement blocks and mortar. Partners learnt very long ago not to kick or punch them when angry.

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#10

Ex-Fiancée And Ex Best Man Are Now Dating. He Left His Wii At My Place. I Made Sure To Get It Back To Him

Ex-Fiancée And Ex Best Man Are Now Dating. He Left His Wii At My Place. I Made Sure To Get It Back To Him

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
2 months ago

hmmmm...glitter bomb

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#11

I Am Not A Graphic Designer. I Needed To Remove My Ex-Wife From A Vacation Picture In Mexico. How Did I Do?

I Am Not A Graphic Designer. I Needed To Remove My Ex-Wife From A Vacation Picture In Mexico. How Did I Do?

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Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
2 months ago

My longest and best relationship so far

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#12

I Went To A Party Where My Ex Girlfriend Was Present With Her New Boyfriend. This Was What I Was Wearing

I Went To A Party Where My Ex Girlfriend Was Present With Her New Boyfriend. This Was What I Was Wearing

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Emerald Joanna
Community Member
2 months ago

Bahahahaha...thats grand

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#13

My Favorite Picture Of My Ex-Wife

My Favorite Picture Of My Ex-Wife

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Monty Glue
Community Member
2 months ago

She is a keeper! (The photo that is)

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#14

Found My Ex In The Natural History Museum

Found My Ex In The Natural History Museum

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Iris
Community Member
2 months ago

Good one 😂😂

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#15

Wish You Were Here

Wish You Were Here

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
2 months ago

Made me laugh so hard .... I should feel guilty now :-)

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#16

I Split Up With My Boyfriend Yesterday. I Fell Asleep While He Was Packing And He Stole My Toilet

I Split Up With My Boyfriend Yesterday. I Fell Asleep While He Was Packing And He Stole My Toilet

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chi-wei shen
Community Member
2 months ago

Now it requires expert level aiming skills, and flushing is a problem.

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#17

My Friend Was Just Cheated On. This Is The Valentine's Card She's Sending Her Ex

My Friend Was Just Cheated On. This Is The Valentine's Card She's Sending Her Ex

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That one marvel fan
Community Member
2 months ago

Genius

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#18

Damn Ex-Wives

Damn Ex-Wives

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Id row
Community Member
2 months ago

Ouch. Hope he actually deserved it.

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#19

Bitter Man Buys The House Next Door To His Ex-Wife And Installs An Interesting Sculpture

Bitter Man Buys The House Next Door To His Ex-Wife And Installs An Interesting Sculpture

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Olga Antonova
Community Member
2 months ago

Looks like he has sick obsession with her

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#20

My Ex-Wife Just Gave Me This For My Birthday

My Ex-Wife Just Gave Me This For My Birthday

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D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 months ago

Omg. I need that mug. Uncle Iroh is. the. BEST.

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#21

This Guy Had Pictures Of Him And His New Wife Printed On His Checks So He Could Write His Ex Alimony With Them

This Guy Had Pictures Of Him And His New Wife Printed On His Checks So He Could Write His Ex Alimony With Them

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Tiari
Community Member
2 months ago

Checks seem like such an outdated concept to me. Why would anyone use them?

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#22

Finally Found The Perfect Gift For My Ex

Finally Found The Perfect Gift For My Ex

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A Water Bottle
Community Member
2 months ago

Gold digger

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#23

My Ex Was Bitter About Our Break Up And Started Comparing Me To Taylor Swift. This Was My Response

My Ex Was Bitter About Our Break Up And Started Comparing Me To Taylor Swift. This Was My Response

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Beeps
Community Member
2 months ago

Nice handwriting!

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#24

My Friend Received Some Flowers From Her Ex The Other Day

My Friend Received Some Flowers From Her Ex The Other Day

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
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2 months ago

Pffft bahaha

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#25

My Ex Sent Me A Postcard

My Ex Sent Me A Postcard

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Karen Dyer
Community Member
2 months ago

Why even stay in touch, or send them anything? Be done with them as soon as you walk out the door.

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#26

While Preparing For My Garage Sale, I Found A Pendant My Ex Gave Me. I Decided To Be A Little Creative With Selling It

While Preparing For My Garage Sale, I Found A Pendant My Ex Gave Me. I Decided To Be A Little Creative With Selling It

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Laura Zappenduster
Community Member
2 months ago

I dont´t like that one. I woul´d have sold it for the real price. A better "revenge" in my opinion.

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#27

Paid For My Ex’s Glasses And Decided To Spend A Little Extra For An Engraving

Paid For My Ex’s Glasses And Decided To Spend A Little Extra For An Engraving

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Supac Takur
Community Member
2 months ago

but can he/she read it without glasses?

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#28

Just Returned My Ex-Girlfriend To The Store

Just Returned My Ex-Girlfriend To The Store

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Jace
Community Member
2 months ago

From what I’ve seen, usually it’s the guys who call women “hoes” that are the problem...

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#29

When You Get A Divorce

When You Get A Divorce

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

Getting a tattoo of your significant other or their name is silly. I am happily married and I would never do it. You never know what the future holds and tattoos are forever. This person was lucky that the tattoo was able to be covered up but it’s not always the case.

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#30

Pulling The Plug On My Ex-GF

Pulling The Plug On My Ex-GF

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ƒιѕн
Community Member
2 months ago

All you have to do is log everyone out and change the password.

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#31

Instead Of Deleting Pictures Of My Ex, I'd Rather Just Do This

Instead Of Deleting Pictures Of My Ex, I'd Rather Just Do This

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
2 months ago

Omfg best ex edit method ever!!! XD

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#32

My Ex Loves Hot Sauce And I Finally Found The Perfect One For Her, While Traveling In Korea

My Ex Loves Hot Sauce And I Finally Found The Perfect One For Her, While Traveling In Korea

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

Poifect

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#33

Ran Into My Ex At Lowes

Ran Into My Ex At Lowes

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

Obviously you didn’t see the red flags BEFORE you started dating them.

#34

Finally, A Card For My Ex

Finally, A Card For My Ex

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Kevin Donegan
Community Member
2 months ago

Now you know why "cursive" handwriting is being phased out ... too many examples of misinterpreted information. Special Aunt or Special Cunt? You get to pick!

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#35

My Ex-Husband Said He Found The Perfect Product Line For Me

My Ex-Husband Said He Found The Perfect Product Line For Me

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Amy Frank
Community Member
2 months ago

LMAO

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#36

Sure, My Ex Totally Didn't Mean To Send Me A Selfie With Her Marriage Certificate

Sure, My Ex Totally Didn't Mean To Send Me A Selfie With Her Marriage Certificate

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Francis
Community Member
2 months ago

sorry, i opened our chat by mistake, even i deleted everything and had to reopen our chat or had to scroll faar down to find it again, and then i sent you this also by mistake.. so sorry :D

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#37

My Soon To Be Ex-Wife Brought Me A Cake For My Birthday Today

My Soon To Be Ex-Wife Brought Me A Cake For My Birthday Today

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Hańka
Community Member
2 months ago

Something is wrong with that picture - tiny lady with huge arm and hand...

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#38

One Year Later And I’m Still Happy About My Divorce

One Year Later And I’m Still Happy About My Divorce

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Hańka
Community Member
2 months ago

This picture is sad...

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#39

My Ex's Heart

My Ex's Heart

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Giovanni
Community Member
2 months ago

So cold it broke physics

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#40

My Boyfriend Ordered A Cake For His Ex-Wife

My Boyfriend Ordered A Cake For His Ex-Wife

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Carol Emory
Community Member
2 months ago

Why do people bother with this...are they really that petty?

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#41

So My Roommate's Ex-Girlfriend Pranked Him A Few Years Ago, But We Didn't Find Out Until Game Night

So My Roommate's Ex-Girlfriend Pranked Him A Few Years Ago, But We Didn't Find Out Until Game Night

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Nicole Blomkamp
Community Member
2 months ago

Yikes how much did she spend on all those packs?!

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#42

I Found The Temperature Controls For My Ex's Heart

I Found The Temperature Controls For My Ex's Heart

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Lily Mac Dennard
Community Member
2 months ago

no, its still missing one setting. Frozen.

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#43

Wicked Ex

Wicked Ex

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Blue Shadow
Community Member
2 months ago

Thats some honesty right there

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#44

Man Steals Construction Equipment, Flips Over Ex-Girlfriend’s Car

Man Steals Construction Equipment, Flips Over Ex-Girlfriend’s Car

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Mommyofboth
Community Member
2 months ago

Hah, it was in local news for my area that a woman tased her husband after catching him in a nightclub with another woman. Made me laugh.

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#45

Got This In The Post From An Ex

Got This In The Post From An Ex

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chi-wei shen
Community Member
2 months ago

This letter is outright pathetic.

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#46

When I Was Still With My Ex GF, I Kept Losing My Phones Around The Apartment. After We Broke Up, I Found A Package On My Doorstep Saying “Here Are Your Phones Back, Jerk”

When I Was Still With My Ex GF, I Kept Losing My Phones Around The Apartment. After We Broke Up, I Found A Package On My Doorstep Saying “Here Are Your Phones Back, Jerk”

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

Wait, was she stealing the phones? Dodged a bullet there bud.

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#47

Looks Like My Ex-Wife Started Her Own Bottled Water Company

Looks Like My Ex-Wife Started Her Own Bottled Water Company

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Lily Mac Dennard
Community Member
2 months ago

Congrats for her lol

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#48

My Ex-Girlfriend Sent This To Me The Other Day

My Ex-Girlfriend Sent This To Me The Other Day

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 months ago

So she followed him on facebook and noticed he looked better that when they were in a relationship. I would have answered: "Thanks, for noticing."

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#49

Changed My Ex's Contact Picture On My Phone To Remind Myself Who I'm Dealing With When She Calls

Changed My Ex's Contact Picture On My Phone To Remind Myself Who I'm Dealing With When She Calls

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Amy Smith
Community Member
2 months ago

Ouch Verruca

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#50

A Piece I Made Inspired By My Ex-Boyfriend

A Piece I Made Inspired By My Ex-Boyfriend

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EtherealSponge
Community Member
2 months ago

Nice skill at working with that whateveritiscalled.

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#51

A Good Present For An Ex-GF

A Good Present For An Ex-GF

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ZoeIsHahaha
Community Member
2 months ago

I actually laughed out loud

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#52

Proof That My Ex-Wife Was Wrong And That I Do, In Fact, Have A Spine

Proof That My Ex-Wife Was Wrong And That I Do, In Fact, Have A Spine

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 months ago

I'll bet you were a catch.

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#53

Spotted My Ex-Girlfriend Meandering Through My Neighborhood

Spotted My Ex-Girlfriend Meandering Through My Neighborhood

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Marcellus the Third
Community Member
2 months ago

Well YOU decided to go out with her so your point is??

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#54

Sold The Ring I Used To Propose To My Ex-Fiancée, And Bought Myself Something Nice With All The Cash

Sold The Ring I Used To Propose To My Ex-Fiancée, And Bought Myself Something Nice With All The Cash

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Francis
Community Member
2 months ago

i don't mind a cheap ring, but wow.. or was the meal really expensive? :D

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#55

My Ex-Girlfriend Morphed Into A Parking Sign

My Ex-Girlfriend Morphed Into A Parking Sign

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How Terribly Unfortunate
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2 months ago

I don't understand ?

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#56

I Never Knew My Ex Made Oil Products

I Never Knew My Ex Made Oil Products

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How Terribly Unfortunate
Community Member
2 months ago

You learn something new every day!

#57

Made My Ex A Valentine Cookie. Nailed It

Made My Ex A Valentine Cookie. Nailed It

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Martti Laurson
Community Member
2 months ago

You have a lot of anger inside you. Get help!

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#58

My Ex Finally Opened Her Small Business

My Ex Finally Opened Her Small Business

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ZoeIsHahaha
Community Member
2 months ago

Send it to her saying “Congrats on your new business!”

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#59

My Ex Dumped Me, So I Quite Rationally Stole A Giant Watermelon From Him. I Then Did What Any Sane, Well-Adjusted Person Would Do

My Ex Dumped Me, So I Quite Rationally Stole A Giant Watermelon From Him. I Then Did What Any Sane, Well-Adjusted Person Would Do

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RJ
Community Member
2 months ago

😀

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#60

He Hates His Ex

He Hates His Ex

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Tiny Dynamine
Community Member
2 months ago

Judging by the stickers on the car, the ex is potentially better off.

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#61

Came Across Some Of My Ex-Girlfriend's Stuff At The Thrift Store

Came Across Some Of My Ex-Girlfriend's Stuff At The Thrift Store

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#62

I'm Pretty Sure This Is My Ex-Girlfriend's Favorite Drink

I'm Pretty Sure This Is My Ex-Girlfriend's Favorite Drink

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

Good people drink good beer. Raging B!tch.

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#63

My Ex-Girlfriend Made Me A Birthday Cake

My Ex-Girlfriend Made Me A Birthday Cake

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How Terribly Unfortunate
Community Member
2 months ago

It's the thought that counts ?

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#64

The Women In My Ex's Family Were All

The Women In My Ex's Family Were All

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 months ago

bad douchebag photoshop

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#65

Had To Double Take, While Walking Past This, Thinking It Was My Ex-Girlfriend

Had To Double Take, While Walking Past This, Thinking It Was My Ex-Girlfriend

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

Apparently Hong Kong are starting to remove the word cum from their bins because of the alternative meaning across western countries.

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#66

Apparently My Ex Owns A Coffee Company

Apparently My Ex Owns A Coffee Company

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#67

I Saw My Ex Today

I Saw My Ex Today

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Tiny Dynamine
Community Member
2 months ago

Your ex is dead?

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#68

So Your Cheating Ex Sends You A Snapchat With Her New Boyfriend? Send Her This

So Your Cheating Ex Sends You A Snapchat With Her New Boyfriend? Send Her This

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No you didn't
Community Member
2 months ago

Or don't. It's not that clever a response really.

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#69

My Ex-GF Sent Me This Pic Of Her New Tattoo On Her Hand. Thanks For Reminding Me To Not Get Back Together

My Ex-GF Sent Me This Pic Of Her New Tattoo On Her Hand. Thanks For Reminding Me To Not Get Back Together

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I’m Foxxy and I know it 😉
Community Member
2 months ago

What is that meant to be? Whatever it is the tattooist did a shit job.

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#70

Advice My Ex-Girlfriend Followed

Advice My Ex-Girlfriend Followed

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ZoeIsHahaha
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

The crossed-out part says “equipment in hole.” I don’t know if anyone would for some reason want to know that, but I took a while figuring it out so I just wanted to throw that out there so people who wanted to see it wouldn’t have to take that long.

#71

This Guy Keeps Commenting On My Cousin's Pics, Because His Ex Is Now My Cousin's Girlfriend

This Guy Keeps Commenting On My Cousin's Pics, Because His Ex Is Now My Cousin's Girlfriend

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