Boundary-Pushing Grandma Won’t Drop Popcorn Obsession For 13MO, Fed-Up Daughter Walks Out

Families are supposed to be there for one another in times of need, rather than being a source of pain or discomfort. Unfortunately, some folks have to deal with troublesome parents or meddling relatives, which can end up being a thorn in their side.

This is what one woman kept facing because of her mean family members, and she was even more shocked when her toxic mother tried to feed her 13-month-old popcorn despite being told not to. This pushed the woman to her limit, and she ended up causing a scene at a family dinner.

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When loved ones keep disrespecting boundaries, it can cause a lot of pain and strain in relationships

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The poster shared that she usually avoided meeting her family, but since her husband was out of town, she decided to attend a dinner with everyone and take her baby along

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At the family dinner, the poster’s toxic mother kept trying to feed her 13-month-old baby popcorn even though the poster had told her many times not to do that

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The pushy grandma got mad at her daughter for not letting the baby have popcorn, and couldn’t understand why she was making such a big fuss about things

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Eventually, the poster decided to walk out of the family dinner, but she was criticized by her dad for causing a scene and told to apologize for her actions

Right from the start, the poster had decided to keep her family members at bay because of the long and complicated history she had with them. She knew that they didn’t respect her boundaries, which is why she had been “gray-rocking” them for almost a decade, in order to protect her peace.

When a person decides to gray rock a relative or loved one, it often means that they are trying to keep interactions with that person to a minimum. Professionals explain that this is usually done if the other individual is a narcissist, manipulator, or toxic in any way and has been causing the person pain or discomfort.

This is definitely what had been happening to the OP, which is why she had decided to set firm boundaries with her relatives. Unfortunately, she let her guard down one day and took her baby to a family get-together, which is where her pushy mom tried to feed the little one popcorn even though she had been told not to.

According to experts, it’s not advisable to give popcorn to little children below the age of 4, as they might end up choking on it. That’s why parents need to pay attention to their kids’ eating skills and judge whether or not they would be able to handle this food item. Clearly, the OP wanted to do just that and keep her baby safe, which is why she had kept the popcorn aside.

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The problem is that the grandma felt that she knew what was best for her grandkid and didn’t see how a few popcorn pieces could hurt the baby. As the OP had mentioned, her mom kept overstepping like that a lot and had even kicked up a fuss before about the little one’s hygiene and food habits.

As parenting experts have pointed out, some grandparents might feel like they know what is best because they have been through many of these stages before. Even though they might have valuable advice to share in certain situations, it’s also important to have an honest discussion with them about your parenting style and your non-negotiables.

That’s exactly what the OP had been doing when she told her mom that the little one shouldn’t be given popcorn. She also didn’t waver when the toxic grandma tried to compare her to her cousin, who was allowing her 18-month-old to eat the popcorn. This persistent back-and-forth must have been tough for the poster to deal with, but she tried her best to stay firm against her mom’s pushiness.

Eventually, she couldn’t take it anymore and decided to leave the family dinner so that she wouldn’t have to deal with her mother’s boundary-stomping anymore. This obviously didn’t go down well with her relatives, and her father told her that she had embarrassed everyone by being overdramatic.

What do you think about the woman’s actions, and what would you have done in her place? We’d love to hear your honest thoughts on this situation.

People sided with the woman and felt that she did not overreact by walking out of the dinner, and that her mother deserved it

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