If you go far enough back in time, Americans and Europeans are virtually of the same blood. Heck, they still are without the time travel, but other factors played a role in why there’s a certain kind of cultural and social divide. The big pond between the continents being one of them.
Still, differences ought to be celebrated and folks online choose to do that by pointing out what’s normal in Europe (and other places, really) but might look weird to the average American. As per this Reddit thread.

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I am American, living in Germany. I never realized so many American-artist songs have the work F**K in them until I moved here lol...all the "bad" words are edited out in the U.S. on the radio. Here, nope, uncensored. Americans are numb to gunned down children, but bring out the F word and oh we cannot have that! Idiocy.
its the same with movies and video games people getting chopped up fountains of blood yeah why not but put a swear word in ooooh big no no
F**k was originally a early 16th centuryGerman/Dutch word (compare Swedish dialect focka and Dutch dialect fokkelen ); possibly from an Indo-European root meaning ‘strike’, shared by Latin pugnus ‘fist’. See https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4argVWl8AAE. Nicolas Cage's History of Swearing. Swearing is not that bad because it can relief tensions that otherwise could lead to much more dangerous situations.
We’re sadly too familiar with situations where children are gunned down, but I don’t know if we can say numb yet.
It's also with nudity, I only see Americans complaining about it, while being okay with extreme violence (like it was in Game of Thrones). It's just insane that someone can be offended by boobs.
I’m an Aussie living permanently in Switzerland, and I also realised this some years ago.
I didn't know Australia had censorship at an american degreee?
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From the UK, where there is no gun culture. There are no gun shops. You cannot defend yourself with a gun, largely because the other guy won't have a gun either.
Yes, Spain too. And about knives it is illegal to carry them in the street or public places (obviously you can use them at restaurants :D).
Load More Replies...I suppose the difference is that you can't buy a gun without a purpose in the UK. You need to apply for a licence, part of which is explaining why you want the gun. Pest control, clay shooting, target shooting are generally deemed legitimate uses. The types of firearm are also all very limited in ammunition capacity, and almost all long barrelled so hard to conceal. To those that say people will just use a kitchen knife or a bat, or run you over with a car - those objects all have a primary purpose that is not to harm humans. A Glock or an AR-15 are miltary weapons, designed to kill human beings. Its very hard to kill 20 people from 50 metres away with a baseball bat in less than a minute
I'm from the UK and that's not strictly true. I was on a rifle team and shot in the Queens Tournament at Bisley. Farmers will often have shotguns. Anyone can buy a gun but there is a strict vetting process (which is what is lacking in the U.S.) it's just that it's not as common and the UK doesn't have the NRA and other gun rights lunatics.
....and here I thought....if we outlaw guns, only outlaws will have them. you're saying if there are no guns, no one will have them? I need to check with the NRA and the gun lobby here, that just can't be right. would they lie to us just to make money?
D***s are illegal, and yet people still get them. There are still lower rates in Europe. It's a cultural thing mainly
Load More Replies...Yes I can think of a rare couple of gun shops (and firing/shooting ranges) but the licensing laws are thorough and few people know anyone with a gun or rifle unless they have a good reason for having one (farming, for example). The things we really don't have in the UK are guns openly for sale in supermarkets!
There are gun shops. There's one near to us. However it sells two bore shot guns only (as far as I can tell, I haven't been in) as well as accessories and clothes for things like a pheasant shoot or clay pigeon shooting, plus for farmers controlling rabbits etc on their land. Of course no gun or ammo will be sold without proof of a licence. I imagine the ethos being very, very different to an American gun shop (?)
Depends on which ones. In many US states you do need a license to purchase, especially handguns.
Load More Replies...We don't have guns in the Netherlands with the exception of people with a license.
Our country (USA) is full of men with small penises...so we have sooooooo many guns.
England: The number of people including politicians who are publically atheist. Not saying all Americans are crazy religious I’m sure for most it’s just something you put on a census and go to church maybe once a year. But I’ve heard it’s very taboo in the US to nonchalantly say you don’t believe in god, which is sort of the default here if you get chatting about religion.
The strangest thing is the number of american, especially on Quora, that think that without a God there is no morality. I'm Catholic, but I try to do good things because it is more beautiful that doing bad things, not because I fear the punishment in this or the other life...
My family in law are muslims, although not strictly. I am an atheist, but they agree that from my behaviour I am a better "muslim" than many people that call themselfs so. And I agree with you: If somebody needs a God to not be a s****y person, they are already a s****y person.
Load More Replies...Please take a bible and beat that into the heads of the so-called christians who want to take away rights of people who think or act differently than them. These people get elected to office, or greatly influence those in office.
Load More Replies...If you need religion to be a good person then you are not a good person.
An ethical atheist is morally superior to a religious person who acts the same to get to heaven or avoid hell. The former is doing so because it's right, not for eternal self-interest.
Load More Replies...I would LOVE to live in a country where religion has not infiltrated politics! Just today, I saw a short PSA where Trump was hawking bibles. He said "Every American home should have a bible". How he manages to keep lowering the bar on decency and common sense is astonishing.
Let's hope this goes the way of every other thing he has tried to sell, cigars, steaks, etc.
Load More Replies...There are quite enough americans who claim to be "christians" and a lot of them get elected to positions, who want this country to become a theocracy. These right-wing conservatives are trying to take rights away from anyone who is not a bible-thumping christian. Abortion, women's rights, LGBTQIA2S+, even reading any book that isn't christian enough, or that mentions Abortion, women's rights, LGBTQIA2S+. There was even a book that was banned because the author's last name was "Gay" Me, as an athiest, this stuff scares me, Just be a good person, don't just read a few parts of some book and misinterpret stuff to deny rights that you don't like.
In fact they ought not to call themselves Christians, because they only use the Old testament in their argumentation, not what Christ said in the New testament.
Load More Replies...American here, and I’ve witnessed a dangerous rise in white Christian nationalism during my lifetime. It’s getting worse, and they’re gaining more power. Look around- they’re using quotes and principles from their Bible to justify outlawing abortion, contraceptives, LBGTQ+ rights; to condemn immigrants and other religions; and to worship power and $$$. There is absolutely NOTHING Christ-like about these fake “god, guns, and freeeeeedom” hypocrites. “Christianity” is simply the tool they use to gain power and to stay in control, all while crying that THEY are the victims, the oppressed.
I heard a saying recently that religious people do good so they don't go to hell, atheists do good because it's the right thing to do. Sounds right to me (atheist here who just tries to treat others how I want to be treated)
I admire the Quaker way, which is that you do your best to live your values day to day. For example, here in the UK if they're called as a witness in a trial, they don't swear to tell the truth as that implies they might not at other times.
We dont like peoples imaginary friends who put people to death running countries
So, what is culture? In the most simple of terms, culture is everything that a group of people are and know.
In less simple terms, culture is a sort of an identity that a group of people—a community—has that manifests itself through things like language, religion, cuisine, social behaviors and habits as well as the arts.
I'm a Finn, we go to sauna, naked. It's normal you've seen your friends and family members naked. It's not sexual nor is it embarrassing.
i really hate what i call the psuedo-puritanical attitude america has about nudity. growing up, my mom was very much a prude when it came to nudity and i made the decision that i would not raise my child in the same manner. turned out to be a good thing as i have an only son and when i became incapacitated for a while he was the only person i had to help me with all of my self care. i know that some people thought it was weird that we are so comfy with each other but once you realize that the body is just a body sexuality doesn't become an issue.
"Puritanism. The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy" H.L.Mencken
Load More Replies...Don’t forget public saunas, swimming halls, spas... As a Finn, I’ve probably seen more naked people than any American people. Young people, old people, people missing body parts, extremely thin and obese people etc. Sometimes I think how it would affect my body image if I hadn’t seen all those bodies. Would I think some of my body features like my sagging breasts aren’t normal?
That's also weird to Europeans from countries that don't normally have saunas in houses.
But there are so many countries even in Europe who don’t know how sauna really works. You should wash yourself first, go in naked and pour löyly on the stoves. It’s not meant to be a hotroom where you sit in your robe and the air is super dry. That is not sauna.
I have two daughters, now both in their fifties. I am 78 and a bit wrinkly, but we are still totally OK with our nakedness. When does this prudishness start? You do not bathe a baby with its clothes on, so at what age, and why, is it suddenly wrong?
I was stationed in West Berlin years ago. Next to where I worked was a nude beach. Entire families came there. There was a school next to the pond where the children & teachers sat out on the lawn naked & conducted classes. It was very natural & free. Yes, we Americans are very damaged.
One is supposed to bring a piece of cloth to sit on (“pefletti” or “persletti” as in “assie” or “arsie”) 😬
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Holidays/Vacation/Paid Time Off - Call it what you like - but Americans simply don’t understand it.
Not to mention workers rights that don’t require you to be part of a Union to have. We just have them as standard.
From dating an American who came to the U.K. to study, she was shocked by how much holidays we get and how secure our rights are as employees.
I was shocked when I learned that many employees in the US don't even have contracts.
American Union employee here. This is why those of us with contracts push hard to get everyone to have unions here. But really difficult to get through the 40 years of Regean/Republican/Corporate brainwashing in America.
Load More Replies...We understand it, we just get very little. Here it's take what you are given. We claim to be the land of the free, and yet we have so little freedom in reality...
Yep, almost 9 weeks of PTO for me ( 5 mandatory by law weeks+ ''RTT'' of France, basically overtime above 35 hours a week legal working time is taken as holydays unlimited paid sick days+ 8 children sick days a years+ unworked days like Christmas etc...) Perfect work/life balance
Irish people swear and curse creatively, it’s like punctuation and emphasis in normal speech. And our religious comments are also not appreciated.
“Christ on a bike”
“Jesus, Mary and St. Joe”
“F**k him and the horse he rode in on”.
I'm Northern Irish, and you can tell when we're annoyed because we stop swearing and become precise and polite....
A very sheltered Catholic high school student of mine was going to Dublin for the summer, taking classes and working in a pub. I warned her that the Irish drop an f-bomb about every third word. When she returned, I asked her if my warning had been correct. "No, sir", she replied. "It was every third syllable."
It's definitely more for emphasis. It's to fill in the gaps that there are no words for, but we need to really emphasise (strangely, it doesn't always work when written). Eg. There is a difference between 'I was chased by a big dog', and 'I was chased by a big f**k-off dog'.
....here in the US, the far right religious folk are a clear minority.... they're loud and insistent....but they're not representative of the country.
that's why so many minorities are loud and insistent - because they know they're a minority and fear being marginalised
Load More Replies...And in Irish pubs, if a group is playing, you shut the f*ck up and listen. If you want to talk, you go in another room.
To make it even less simple, a huge chunk of what culture is deals with shared patterns of behaviors and interactions, cognitive structures and understanding learned through socialization. This further brings home the idea of culture being an identity all the while also explaining that it’s an organism of sorts—it grows, it develops, and it reproduces through being passed down to other generations.
Germany: Children in primary/grade school walk to school by themselves or in groups each morning, unsupervised.
We have ~~naked~~ nude areas at lakes and beaches. Or in parks, very rarely. .
This is the strangest list. Listen, children in the US walk to school all the time. There are some that don't/can't, but walking/bike riding to school is still very much a thing. My partner & I have lived in the US for a while, and our old house was near a school. I guarantee every morning the streets were filled with all the little neighborhood crumb-snatchers hoofing it to school.
We did too when we were kids but by the time I had one of my own there was no f*****g way they were allowed to walk alone. Too many go missing in our area.
Load More Replies...And we have giant problems with "parent-taxis". They endanger the children, because they drive and park carelessly.
In parts of Canada women can go topless in public, but it's rarely seen outside of a beach. There are nude beaches in BC, but I don't know of any others. Re walking to school - we lived too far to walk in our rural area but we had a dedicated school bus.
In Germany there is a growing number of helicopter parents who not just drive their offspring to schoon in their family's suburb-tank (SUV) but also carry their schoolbag to the classroom and have to be asked to leave at the beginning of the lesson.
Yeah, that's a bit silly. I think people do not understand how spread out many of our communities are. I walked to school (about one mile each way). As an adult, I lived five or more miles from schools so my daughter traveled by school bus. I think the rule in my county is that bus service is provided for students who live 1.5 miles or further from their school.
In my area, high school students must live more than 3 Mi away to take the bus. We live two and a half miles away. It takes my son's over an hour to walk to school in anywhere from below freezing to 100° f. Many parents carpool so our kids don't have to walk in that
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Religion not being a thing that comes up, ever, unless there is a very specific reason for it. It doesn't matter if you're atheist, christian, Catholic or muslim. Finns don't care about what anyone else believes, and even those of us who do care, consider it a private issue that you shouldn't pry into unless the person you are talking to offers that information voluntarily.
I would love to live somewhere where religion doesn’t matter and never comes up in conversations. I live with my boyfriend of 23 years and I lied to the elderly couple across the street that we’re married and Christian, as it was easier than listening to lectures on morality and living in sin and/or dealing with attempts at “converting” us (I’m entirely non-religious.) It’s already bad enough here that my boyfriend isn’t white and I am - we get nasty looks and sometimes outright harassment from some of the older residents here.
For a nation founded by people fleeing religious persecution, we sure love to persecute people who want freedom FROM religion.
Load More Replies...I am a practicing Muslim and Irish. I live with Christian Hindu and atheists. We all get along religion doesn't come into it. We are friends and help each other and that's what's important
Same in Germany. No one cares. Halve of us are Atheist / Agnostic anyway.
Americans love to tell you, apropos of nothing, that they go to church. They can’t just say they know someone, they know them from church. They have to tell you the friend is someone who goes to their church. They met so and so at church. They love you to know they go to church. It’s smug and annoying.
New England is like that in the US, really shocking to New Englanders when they travel to the Midwest or South.
Same with the West Coast. Moved to the South from the Bay Area and was really put off by all the religion in business settings. This is a major faux pas in CA.
Load More Replies...Go Finland! I'm atheist and try not to bother people about their beliefs, but if someone starts trying to proselytise anywhere near me they're going to get a 'full and frank exchange of views'. Golden rule, people.
Finns value their personal space. This includes both physical space but also verbally. Let me explain:
If you’re waiting for a bus, for example, stand a few meters apart from other people at the bus stop when possible. Do not sit next to anyone on the bus either if there are still empty pairs of seats. I can easily tell who is foreign when I’m in line in a grocery store because they tend to stand so uncomfortably close to me.
We also appreciate being left alone when out and about (but are happy to give you directions or help in any other way if needed). There’s no need to initiate small talk if you’re alone in an elevator with a Finn because to us awkward silences aren’t generally awkward at all. In general, we value silence and converse in more hushed tones compared to people outside of Finland/northern Europe, especially out in public spaces.
I have never, will never sit next to a random human on public transport when there are other seats available, even if I have to walk all the way to the back. I also strongly dislike small talk. Finland sounds so lovely.
We value our personal space plenty! Have you seen how spread out our cities and houses are? How we prefer to drive alone in a car than to get on a bus or train with other people - and to reference another entry - private property - we don't want other people walking around our homes.
Just like people in everywhere else. If we don't like to talk with absolute strangers, that doesn't mean we don't talk with schoolmates, colleagues, neighbours, people that share same hobbies or common interest. I don't think many people meet their best friends by sitting next to stranger at a bus anyway.
Load More Replies...We sure do like our space, but it's done with respect for other peoples privacy and not ment to be rude. Like OP said, we are happy to help with questions or direction and we DO talk to each other. Like someone said to me during Covid that they were sniffeling because of allergy not Covid, so I wouldn't worry about my health. When I took off my braces and the dentist cut my gums I was sitting afterwards at the buss stop eating ice cream in the middle winter. It was so cold that I had my mittens on and the woman next to me looked at me behaving strange. So to make her at ease and not to feel uncomfortable I explained that my teeth hurt and why. Then she looked relaxed and we both went back to our own business.
And there’s loads of these cultures. Each country has at least one, and if it’s a bigger or more ethnically diverse country, there can be more (in the thousands even). And that’s just one aspect. Cultures can form among regions, districts, or communities that can all focus on the various aspects of identity—communities based around political beliefs, religious ones, hobbies and interests, and the like.
We have Right to Roam in Scotland and whenever I've seen this discussed on Reddit, what I assumed to be a near-universally popular policy has been torn to shreds by Americans. It's anathema to them, it fries their brains.
"So a homeless person can just pitch a tent in your yard and you can't get rid of them???!!!!"
"So people can just come onto a farmer's land and destroy his crops????!!!!"
"So people can just get access to military installations and airports??!!!"
No amount of explaining that's not how it works will calm them.
Right to roam roughly boils down to: you're allowed to freely explore, as long as you respect the environment, the land and any specific boundaries or restrictions that are in place, as far as I know.
But it means you can't just shoot at people on your ground...SOME people have trouble with that idea.
Load More Replies...It seems what they cannot fathom is that people will behave appropriately out of their own will, without external regulation.
It seems like the most difficult place to actually make a libertarian utopia
Load More Replies...In England you can't access land unless the law says you can (public rights of way) whereas in Scotland you CAN access land unless the law says you can't.
In Finland we have every man’s rights. But research thoroughly (Visit Finland is a good site) before you use them, not everything is allowed.
I think a big part of the problem with this in the US is that people have abused any rights they have been granted. If someone popped a tent in my yard, I'd have a legit fear that they will destroy my property and or attempt to claim it as theirs. Farmers also have a legit worry about people stealing their crops out from under them even with trespass laws in place, never mind if people were legally allowed to enter their property. And Lets not even talk about the liability concerns. Someone could sue you for injuring themselves while on your property, and they would go after you for everything. I really wish it wasn't like this.
Informality, especially with service workers. Used to work in a supermarket and an old American guy was complaining about something. I tried to help him and he began ranting, told me I was rude and demanded to be addressed as “sir” to which I burst out laughing, enraging him further.
Same here. OP apparently took an isolated incident and assumed all Americans act the same way. In all my 62 years I have never even expected, much less demanded, that I should be addressed as sir.
Load More Replies...He was upset because he's an A$$, this isn't a thing in the US. People might say sir, but it's to address someone when you don't know their name. Like, sir, calm down.
If you call someone sir (herr) or mam (dam) in Sweden you are more or less calling them an old fart, a 90 year old, walking with canes, old furcoat and hat wearing, probably dying any second from old age. It's very old-fashioned and not seen as especially polite either. We might look like a cold people, introverts not small talking or sitting close to each other, but language wise we are all the same and we adress one another the same. Kids, parents, boss, store customer, teachers, priest, doctor, they are all "you" and maybe first name basis if it's someone you meet alot.
About 30 years ago I was in North Dakota, and happened to reply "Yes, ma'am" to a lady about my age, or maybe a little older. She was taken aback, like I had offended her somehow. Apparently saying sir or ma'am is uncommon there, but where I was raised and had spent my whole life it's just being polite.
Load More Replies...Don't know which country this is, but in Sweden the "sir" part doesn't exist. If you were working at a supermarket and went to help someone instead of saying "can I help you, sir?" we would just say "hi, can I help you?".
Load More Replies...I was on a cruise to Helogoland. There was a group of Americans on board. Loud & rude. Tourists. I avoided them. It was nice when the leader of the group gave me a slight insult believing I was Canadian. I almost said thank you. I do get overly polite & respectful when I travel.
Swedish elevator etiquette:
1. if I can hear you breathe, your presence is too intrusive
2. if you look directly at me, I will mentally stab you
3. if you engage me in small-talk, you are no longer welcome in the country.
You should share an elevator with my parents. Shock therapy guaranteed.
Don't ever visit the South in the USA then. They'll talk to you for any reason.
I have an English friend who travels for work to the US. People often suggest visiting him if they're ever in the UK. He'll say something like, "Yes, if you're ever in London(or wherever) you must drop in". That's English polite-speak for "If you ever show up at my house I'll stab you in the f***ing heart and bury you in a shallow grave".
Swiss elevator etiquette: you must exchange a greeting with other occupants. Nothing more required, just "gruezi", "bonjour" or whatever ideally while making eye contact. Sharing an enclosed space with a stranger is uncomfortable, but if you've said hello then you're not a stranger. Same is true in restaurants and bars, even grocery shops. A supermarket cashier will always say hello, and expect you to return the greeting (and this latter not just in Switzerland, also true in France, Germany and other places).
Det hör liksom till vanlig hyfs tycker jag. Fast man behöver ju inte hälsa på ALLA i en hel buss till exempel, men definitivt om man måste dela säte med någon.
Load More Replies...To some, being stabbed a thousand times by deep-frozen icicles, would be considered a too warm welcome among the nordics... Should tell you something about the social culture in public.
In Canada, I've found that people basically keep to themselves in elevators, except in apartment buildings where you see a familiar face and nod or say hi in passing.
That is very defensive and my wife did not experience this behaviour when in Sweden.
One of the key aspects that explain why there are so many cultures out there is the idea of ecology. In different parts of the world, people are surrounded by different physical and social conventions.
While we are all the same as a species, we all have mechanisms that allow us to adapt to our immediate surroundings in different ways.
England: I have witnessed Americans fume at the way service works when eating food at a pub. No one will greet you when you walk in, no one will come to your table to take your order. Find a table, read the menu, order and pay at the bar.
The Irish/Scots (both have pubs) will also kick you out if you yell at them in their own pub instead of putting up with the bûllshit
and why should the Irish/scots/english/welsh have to put up with the bullshite of people yelling at them? if you want a waiter, go to an actual restaurant, but if you have the kind of attitude that gets you kicked out of a pub I wouldn't want to recommend any restaurants either tbh
Load More Replies...I'm a Brit living in California and find most Americans to be very insular. Many of them haven't left the U.S. and, if they do, they expect everything to be the same as it is at home. One coworker who was going on a trip to London stared and me in disbelief when I told her to take some GBP. She said, why, don't they take dollars?
That's wild. I worked in Washington DC for a couple of years, and I once overheard a co-worker say he had never left the CITY in his life! As to foreign travel, of COURSE you bring at least some of the local currency. (Although in most places, you can use your credit card and the bank will convert currency for a fee.) If it's a place where they don't speak English, of COURSE you make the effort to learn at least a few key phrases in the local language. What is wrong with people?
Load More Replies...I will gladly follow your rules - so please tell me what they are. A sign by the door "Find a seat, order at the bar" would be ideal. In some places, it is frowned upon to order at the bar, so we default to "sit & wait for staff to appear".
you actually ask someone if your unsure, it works.
Load More Replies...Maybe thats because of our American "tipping culture." We have become so accustomed to expecting good service because if its bad the person doesn't get a tip so servers sometimes bend over backwards giving good service to even a*****e customers. Personally I never stiff a server unless they are actually mean to me because I was once a server and know how much they rely on tips because they are probably being paid peanuts.
i mean we have bars that work that way in the US, there's just usually signs posted so you know that's what to do
When in Rome! Why would anyone expect to be waited on? Why is it necessary to force servitude onto anyone?
Just like in the Long Branch saloon in Gunsmoke. Miss Kitty will even find you a friend for the evening.
Load More Replies...They don't realize that many places have just one person working at a time. They are the waiter, bartender, cook, & cashier.
Germany: Standing at a red light in the middle of the night on an empty street waiting for the light to turn green. We do not question the meaning of rules.
It's much less common than it used to be, but I do recall the shocked faces of my hosts when I first visited Germany as a 13-y-o and proceeded to cross the road on a red man. There are rules and then again there are _rules_. It's important, IMO, to know which is which.
Load More Replies...Yeah, about that… picture a dark and empty street in the middle of nowhere Germany. Gets fed up waiting for the little green man to light up and walks over on red…. And gets flattened by a cyclist. I have the scars to prove it.
If I'm walking, I would just cross. If I am driving, I always obey traffic laws even if nobody is around. I think I would just feel so guilty not doing so. Its just ingrained.
I obey driving rules even when no one is around. Except no u-turn signs. And once when my puppy was dying. The police were gonna have to catch me if they had a problem. Fortunately I didn't get stopped.
Load More Replies...I dont get the post. People do not wait for the light to turn green then proceed? (european here)
Apparently some nations are more lenient when it comes to crossing on red light, even within Europe, when no one is around. But I also don't get it, I also wait for the green light even when nobody is watching, but maybe it is a personal thing
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Belgium: My brother In law once held a bottle of wine in an American supermarket ("Can you put it in the cart, son?") and all of the Americans looked shocked. The idea of a child holding a bottle of alcohol...
They were much more lenient regarding guns though.
Only in America is it easier to buy a gun than a Kinder egg. Guess which one Walmart sells?
No way! You're saying they sell actual firearms in frigging Walmart?!
Load More Replies...I remember that while children, during our trip to US in the 90's ( we are French) , boss of a restaurant almost called the cops because we innocently crossed the line near the bar just to watch TV closer.... Also being lectured by the cops who asked my mom to remove her red bandana and leave because apparently we got lost on a bad neighborhood and that bandana color was gang related😬
Gang known as The Bloods. There is also Blue representing a gang called The Krips. This is likely due to the location you were in as majority of places in the US would not automatically associate either color with gangs unless the gang is in that area
Load More Replies...When I was around 10 I usually bought beer for dad. Went to the store, took around 6 bottles, payed, left. No issues.
Same, I used to go buy wine and cigarettes as a kid... 40 now, I don't smoke, and only occasionally drink
Load More Replies...Haha, as a kid in the 90s I used to buy my dad alcohol in the US with a note he'd written vouching for me, if he wasn't going to be able to get to the store before it closed. Also kids are usually the ones bringing people drinks at Christmas parties/neighborhood parties. I can't imagine more than one person in the store was shocked, it's very normal. There are enough people who order alcohol for their kids at restaurants, that you get trained on it when you get certified to serve alcohol. It's not as common as in Europe, but it's not shocking.
But would they still give a kid the booze now? In the Netherlands, during the 80's and early 90's, I could buy cigarettes for my dad, no problem at all. But that's totally unthinkable now.
Load More Replies..." all of the Americans looked shocked"? I very seriously doubt it. But then we are back to rumors rather than facts. Why is America bashing so prevalent, do you feel deprived? Are different culture too much to bear? We are used to different here in the U.S., all our neighbors are different colors, different cultures, different religions and all of different opinions.
Belgian here. When I was in primary school my dad would send me to the nearest shop to buy him cigarettes. I had nips of wine around that time. Unthinkable nowadays fortunately lol
A tradition of frontiersmen/women that is mentally engraved on American brains, allows them to have guns. All sorts of guns, but be seen with a bottle of liquor on the street...
We've only had wine and beer in the grocery store in Ontario, Canada for a short time, and now it's going to be available in corner stores in a couple of years. Hard liquor will still be sold in liquor stores only. (Each Canadian province is responsible for their own liquor control issues)
The phenomenon is called adaptive phenotypic plasticity and it’s basically the idea of the same genes leading to different human traits depending on the environment.
And the body is going to keep it that way because evolutionary theories suggest natural selection favors flexible behaviors that are sensitive to such environmental changes. And if you pair that up with the idea that we are stronger and more fit to survive in groups, it only solidifies the role of culture in evolution.
In the Netherlands we have something called a 'dropping', which is where we pull our kids out of bed in the middle of the night, dump them in the woods without phones and make them find their own way back. This is very common to do at school camps and with the scouts. Its is completely normal and dutch kids find it rather exciting and not traumatizing at all.
Considering many Americans consider letting your kids play in the front lawn unattended, or letting them cycle around the suburbs by themselves, negligent parenting this is probably quite shocking to them too.
I have to note however, we have no large predators, only a couple wolves, but in very confined areas. Also, the optimal route is commonly only about 30 mins walking, which never happens ofc, and it is hard to not hit a road with signs or a village by walking in an arbitrary direction for half an hour in the Netherlands.
Oh, I remember doing a 'dropping' when I was 12! I was equal parts excited and terrified (and soaked because of course it was raining).
I wouldn't even do that to my German Shepherd here in the Colorado woods (Rocky Mountains). Cougars, bobcats, bears, wolves, and coyotes!
Load More Replies...In North America it's considered terrifying because we're taught our largest predator is other humans.
Unfortunately in the US our largest predator IS other humans.
Load More Replies...I can imagine me going on the news "idoit me has died after failing to complete a dropping"
Many americans do not consider letting their kids play in the front lawn as negligent. This is purel ignorance.
There is a vast difference between what the American public thinks should be legal, and what the cops actually enforce
Load More Replies...I loved the droppings when attending MAVO (1972 - 1976). Being dropped in the woods with nothing but a compass and a flashlight.
literally any and every country outside of NL finds droppings weird though, that has nothing to do with americans. None of my european colleagues have heard of it or are comfortable with the idea either.
We do have things like “the path of the brave” where kids are dropped off in the woods and have to find their way back, often with obstacles and even adults scaring them in masks. It mostly happens at camps etc., though. We loved it as kids.
Load More Replies...Well it's not like you get dragged out of your home - it's most likely at a scouts camp and people will know it happens. There are also adults driving around to keep an eye on the kids. My daughter (11) recently almost had a ditch-walk (greppeltocht) (she was sick so didn't go) - here the kids are dropped off and have to walk back to the campsite, but cars with adults drive around the route and if the kids are spotted they have to get in the car and are brought back further up the route, so the kids need to hide from cars etc. (although I also think someone from staff went with each group).
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PDA and a lack of prudism. I saw a tiktok of a guy freaking out because a girl was sitting on his boyfriend's lap at the train. If he ever came to Spain he’d leave traumatized due to the huge amount of people that shamelessly make out on the streets, sunbathe naked, etc.
Wait - the guy was freaking out because a girl was sitting on his boyfriend's lap? Or did the OP mean 'her' boyfriend's lap. Because those are very different situations.
Yes, you should read it as her. Clearly a non-native speaker of English; many other languages including Spanish use the gender of the object word to determine the possessive article.
Load More Replies...While in Germany my GF & I just got done being intimate & wandered out onto the balcony naked. People in the apartment building across the street had to comment on what a lovely looking couple we were . So anything like that & SWAT would kick in the door & haul us off to prison.
Mmmm in other parts of the world PDA are not widely accepted. You won't find people snogging in the street commonly in Japan
But they have this whole weird thing of porn stars dressed in schoolgirl uniforms.
Load More Replies...Sometimes comes across that way. It's like they think because it's what they believe the whole world should follow them. Thanks. I like my freedom of speech. And knowing hate speech isn't freedom of speech and is illegal. (Canada)
Load More Replies...Because nobody can mind their own business anymore. Stick your nose in your business and keep it there. Try and do right by others by respecting their lives. Remember, you might end up on the wrong end.
Load More Replies...I would sit on a lap of a foreigner if it would help one more person to get on the bus/train. Thats normal....
If you're so terribly bothered, why did you read so many of the entries??
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I’m non-European but once studied & lived in both US and Europe. Based on my observations of a few European countries (disclaimer ahead: not all
European countries are like this):
- Home schooling being illegal except in very narrow and absolutely necessary cases.
- Surrogacy being illegal
- Good public transportation, which leads to
- Very young kids take buses, trams, underground, or ride bicycles to school and go home
- drinking alcohol at 18 or even younger
- wearing school uniforms
- No AC in the house
- not allowed to talk loudly in public
- parents allow their kids to stay overnight at their partners’ houses & vice versa
- Religion being a personal thing that doesn’t shove down other people’s throats; openly saying you are non-religious/agnostic/atheist
- Comprehensive sex ed > abstinence-only
All I can think so far.
Yes, the homeschooling part! It is super weird to me that people who can barely manage their life can decide to homeschool their children andcteach them a lot of mumpitz. We have mandatory curriculums and you have to pass certain tests ever so often to finish school. And not every Tweedledee can call themself teacher.
Homeschooling is also unfortunately often used as a way to hide child abuse. :( I do believe it should be allowed but in a very controlled way.
Load More Replies...Homeschooling in America should be more regulated because right now there are a ton of kids not getting properly educated at all. It's amazing how unsupervised and unregulated the current homeschool program is in my state. I know this is a state by state thing, and my state is one of the worst.
The US is the "poster child" of how absence only sex ed and "just say no" to d***s do not work. I know, I'm a US citizen.
In Ohio, most of our "homeschooled" kids actually went to/go to a virtual online school where they still have teachers, they just do it online from home. My kids did it during covid. The virtual academy even sent us computer, printer, all text books and workbooks and other learning things they would need like science experiments, number counting blocks, etc. It was really great and kept them from falling behind. My youngest would've started kindergarten during COVID and had we not done that, I'm not sure he'd be where he is now academically. It was still hard and they definitely still required help, but worth it
Their attendance was also reported by when they logged on. They had to log on daily through the week and if they missed it was still reported to the state and could still warrant a visit from a truancy officer if necessary
Load More Replies...Wearing school uniforms - does that not happen in the USA? In my mind it's a typical British thing. Maybe French as well? certainly not Dutch.
school uniforms in the US mainly only happen in private schools I believe
Load More Replies...I loved sex ed in Germany. Education, Contraception, Responsibility. We raised our daughter with the same concept. Never had to have the talk with her. She observed the birds & bees & we just told her the truth very early on. Here in the US, that German mantra is met with tons of resistance. Not only from religious groups but from extreme feminists as well.
I think they meant that teenagers can sleepover at their girlfriends/boyfriends houses
Load More Replies...AC is actually pretty common in many European countries. The "no AC in the house" thing is a myth that stubbornly refuses to die. Same with "no window screens."
Yes I was wondering about that too. If by AC you mean alternating current that is what drives our freezers, washing machines, TV's and lamps
Load More Replies...Surrogacy and home schooling are both perfectly legal here in the UK but with restrictions. Surrogacy cannot be done for profit and if a child is being home schooled there is a minimum number of hours that they must spend on structured learning and they must be taught to an approved and appropriate standard.
This is the ideal for home schooling, but it is very bady supervised and there are not even any firm figures as to how many children are being home schooled.
Load More Replies...As such, that which makes us all similar and psychologically tending towards the same things is expected of humans sharing similar ecological conditions.
To keep it clear, the idea of environmental conditions isn’t just weather patterns—it’s also things like the social, physical and a slew of other climates, conditions that force us to react in one way or another.
I'm am American living in Portugal and one thing that surprised me is you just take off your clothes in front of the doctor.
In the US, they give you privacy and you take off your clothes and put on a gown. Then the doctor or nurse knocks and comes in. Here, you go the gynecologist and you just take off your pants and undies and hop right up into the stirrups. A friend said she was shocked to not be given a robe for her mammogram. Just shirt and bra right off and letting it all hang out.
Makes sense! They're going to see your bits and bobs anyway! It's more efficient to not have that extra step in between.
To be so ashamed and concerned about your own body is inconceivable to me. The doctor has seen every size and shape of body, yours is no different. The fact that children in the US (and increasingly in the UK) are being trained to have this hangup is so sad.
I don’t think it’s ashamed, maybe just modest. Conversely, how do you reconcile this viewpoint with the absolute horror most Europeans have about door gaps in US restrooms?
Load More Replies...When my wife was pregnant with our first child, I remember going with her to the gynecologist. There was a doctor, a nurse and a student. At a certain point (I don't remember for what procedure), they asked me to turn away for my wife's privacy. I find it's a beautiful way of proving respect for someone's privacy.
Bwhahaha 🤣 🤣 🤣 they asked you to turn away for your wife's privacy.. But you made her pregnant right? I mean, this is funny? Right? Sorry if I'm wrong but I am just giggling on the couch now 😅
Load More Replies...Portuguese here. You usually have a screen to undress and a chair to lrave your clothes on, because it's the act of undressing that may make you feel vulnerable, not the fact of being naked. And fancier places have a small room with a gown to put. But just for the vulnerability part, not because we are naked in front of a doctor who has probably seen every kind, type and shape of a body
Yeah this is my experience in the UK, for example when I had my cervical smear test. They close the curtain to let you take off your bottom half and put on a chair, you hop on the bed, put paper over your lower half, and then tell them you're ready
Load More Replies...Maybe its a "me" thing but I strip in front of the nurse/doctor with no second thoughts. They've already seen so many disgusting things, including parts of me, that I don't understand the point of pretending to be shy. Why should I care if you see my twig and berries if you are about to shove a camera up my backside for 60 minutes?
In the UK they definitely draw a curtain across and you take only the necessary clothes off. If it’s a gynaecologist exam, they usually give you a wide paper towel to cover yourself, the same paper you’re laying on anyway. All my chest X-rays and heart CTs have been with a gown on my top half, but you keep your trousers on.
i seem to surprise the radiologist when i go for my mammogram and just take off my shirt and bra after the door is closed. seems kind of foolish to get into a gown when the technician is going to be pulling your nipples into profile.
🤣 true, our mammo room has the changing cubicle directly connected. No such thing as a papergown 😅 whatever for? It's uncomfortable enough without those weird thingies 🙈😇(Switzerland btw) edit: is the radiologist IN the room when your mammos are done? Ours usually are not.
Load More Replies...not to mention the waste of money on paper gowns or laundry costs for cloth gowns that wear out very quickly.
I would prefer that cos 1. I wear really simple clothes, it doesn't take me a full 7 minutes to slip out of some yoga pants and a pair of knickers and 2. I am deaf, so it's really impossible for them to know when to come back in, they always knock and shout and things and I don't know they're doing it. If I could just whip my clothes off we could get everything done so much quicker.
We call each other c**t, often as a term of endearment. Eg: "Ah Tommy you're some mad c**t."
I am led to believe the Yanks do not particularly like that word.
Australia, Scotland and Ireland. The 'c word' is not used offensively, generally used to men and often used as a compound word eg 'madcunt' or 'goodcunt' It's either said as a compliment or, at worst, mild ribaldry..
I suppose that's the difference. In the US, it's generally understood to convey the maximum amount of possible venom toward a woman. Personally, I love the way it's used in other countries as a term of endearment or, as you say, mild ribaldry.
Load More Replies...Depends on the context, it's a term of endearment to my best friends and a lovely insult to the person who cut me off in traffic.
oh, yes...that word is considered particularly offensive in the u.s. personally, doesn't bother me at all. i remember seeing 'the vagina dialogue' and there is a part of it in which the actor/speaker uses the word freely. the audience was appalled with some people walking out.
I can, as a woman, tell you that most of us consider that about THE most insulting word out there
You know what's hilarious? Many Americans think that Britain and Europe are full of prudish (and snobby) people. But Americans seem to be the most prudish (and snobby) by far.
Yeah, every time there's a nipple to be seen, it's blurred.
Load More Replies...There's two words a majority of Americans are never allowed to say. This "C" word and the "N" word.
Denmark: Babies sleeping outside. In particular babies sleeping alone in public outside restaurants or shops for example.
Is there no bad people in Denmark,surely through out history a baby must have been snatched in almost every country in the world
There has only been a handful of baby snatchers in the 1900s in Denmark, actually. At least that I know of. And the worst one is now at a closed institution where he cannot do anything unsupervised. He didn't do the babies any harm and there was no sexual motif for him. Still scared the parents an understandably whole lot! I know this because I grew up as a sorta step-little sister to him.
Load More Replies...I saw this in Germany too. It was also practice in communist East Germany. The scary part there is that everything was standard. Everybody owned the same buggies, clothing, & blankets. One has to wonder how many babies went home with the wrong parents.
Boomer here, born and grew up in NYC. As infants and babies, both I and my younger brother were left outside stores in our carriages or strollers. In fact, when I was still a very small infant, my mother did some shopping, kept thinking she was forgetting something, counted her bags, and said to herself, "No, everything's here". When she got home -- about three blocks minimum -- my grandmother said, "Where's the baby?!" "That's what I forgot," she said, slapping her forehead. She raced back to the last store she'd shopped at, and there I was, with people cooing at me as they went in and out of the shop. (Later, probably in my teenage years, she joked that her mistake was going back and getting me.) I doubt that things would be different in that neighborhood -- now filled with hard-working Latino families -- but the culture has changed, and people probably wouldn't even think to do it.
they'd toast over here in too many places assuming some druggie didn't steal one & try to sell it
And all of this is important why? Because, tl;dr, we’re better off closer together.
By learning who the other is, we empower ourselves to learn more about what the world is like, and education never hurts anyone (getting hit by a book isn’t an argument against it, Tim).
As such, this way we build trust and respect, and if a particular place becomes rich in multiculturalism that way, it just makes it more interesting to live there.
Netherlands: Children from around the age of six being able to play outside on the streets and in the woods and meadows with other children on their own, unsupervised. At least in the villages. As long as they are home before supper and the parents have a general idea of where they are.
I let my nephew and niece (age 6 and 8 respectively) roam around the neighbourhood unsupervised when I babysit (the parents know this and agree). They know where they are allowed to go, and I'll stay home until they are back, but I trust them and they know it. They're smart little kids.
I have no idea where the attitude that Americans don't let their kids play outside alone. That is totally not true overall.
Agreed. My son roamed our "back 40", took his boat out alone from the age of 10 after completing a course, snow shoed, etc. We had him outdoors and learning from birth.
Load More Replies...That was the way I grew up in America. I think Boomers were the last free generation. Then came the serial killers, stalkers, pedophiles, and more. Our pervasive gun culture encourages this craziness. I think America will totally collapse before guns are outlawed. We'll crumble from the inside-out. I'm glad I have no children to leave in this hellscape.
Nope last free generation was Gen X. We left home in the morning and came back when the street lights came on.
Load More Replies...I used to do that when I was a kid. There was a park around our house that the kids can go by themselves too. But that was the 80s
Sweden:
* The ability to immigrate to a non-Swedish citizen who lives in Sweden, as a partner in a same-sex, unwed couple.
* No screens on the windows and no AC in homes, businesses or public transit (and yes, it does get hot here).
* In Stockholm, it takes an average of 9 years of waiting in a rental queue to be able to rent an apartment (or you can sublet for hugely inflated prices). Once you sign a rental contract, your waiting time starts over again. People trade rental contracts in order to be able to move apartments, and rental contracts are sold on the black market.
* University is free.
* TV dramas about teenagers having lots of great sex, shows about sex are shown on national public television.
* Servers/waitstaff are paid a living wage. Tips are not required or necessarily expected.
* A visit to the doctor costs about $25. All healthcare is free for a year after you’ve paid $140/year in fees. Giving birth is free. Cancer treatment is free (once you've paid $140/year).
* Everyone eats mushrooms and berries they find in the woods. Wild foraging is a very common pastime
* Taking a dip in a hole in the ice of a frozen lake is a relatively common winter weekend activity.
* Your running water/warm water/heating is usually paid for by the rental company.
* Salty, ammonia-flavored licorice is considered delicious
* Carrying pepper spray requires a permit
* Carrying any size of knife or sharp object in public is illegal, except when required by work, or some other justifiable purpose (like mushroom hunting).
* Only 6% of the Swedish population has a license to own a firearm
Did you forget, * Open a can of surströmming if you want to be alone? [Fermented herring. Some say it smells like a dead body. Others liken it to a dirty nappy. In other words, it reeks.]
I'll never forget the time I was first given surströmming after moving to Sweden. I basically ate it as is without the other stuff swedes usually used, like the hard bread etc. After eating it I asked for seconds and looked up to see others just looking at me with their mouths open, completely shocked. I didn't know I wasn't supposed to eat it like that 😆
Load More Replies...Why is not having air conditioning a flex? I live in Florida and from Texas, where not having air conditioning can be a death sentence. You have to do what you have to do make your life comfortable and survivable. I wouldn't think I'm better than someone that lives in a cold location that I don't own winter clothes. Makes no sense.
"Salty, ammonia-flavored licorice is considered delicious" isn't a flex, it's just a fact. Why assume the comment about AC is a flex and not just a statement of fact? Sometimes comments are just neutral information (like the hot water being paid for by the rental company - who will be getting it covered by the rent they charge, they're not giving it away!). Oftentimes it is the reader who is applying the bias.
Load More Replies...Hottest recorded temperature in Sweden was in 1947 when it got to 38 °C (100 °F). However, generally it rarely goes above 30 °C (86 °F) in the summer.
Load More Replies...I've never seen teenager having sex on teve. Most people buy their house and appartments so the renting market is not that big and the capital is obviously rather popular to live in. (If you have an appartment you can swap it to a bigger/smaller in some places) And buisnesses and public transportation absolutely has AC. Maybe not effective AC on busses if the doors open and closes all the time, but it's there.
Wow It was a ritual of growing up to get your first pocket knife. I remember when I was given my first knife. Every male and most of the females in my family have carried a small folding knife of some kind. My father and I both carried Swiss army knives of one kind or another. It is so weird to me that a government wouldn't trust it's citizens with a knife.
America really needs to take a page out of the books of the countries that have universal healthcare. An annual fee sounds great, especially if it's less than $200. And $25 for a doctor visit? Awesome. And cancer treatment should be free, for f's sakes.
Swedes pay 52.2% personal income tax, which pays for these benefits. Come for 50% of an American's paycheck and watch what happens.
Here is the official statistics bureau for Sweden. I brought out the income tax per municipality for you so you don't have to go around bro-guessing. Personally I make 2x the median income in Sweden. I pay 32% income tax up to 66k(which would be about 80k in purchase power parity in the US), after that I pay 50% on anything I make over that. https://www.scb.se/hitta-statistik/statistik-efter-amne/offentlig-ekonomi/finanser-for-den-kommunala-sektorn/kommunalskatterna/pong/tabell-och-diagram/totala-kommunala-skattesatser-2024-kommunvis/
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The Netherlands: Drinking alcohol around children is very normal. On a nice day you see families sitting comfortably in the park with a glass of wine in their hand and the children playing around them.
As Jrog explains, this "culture" of alcohol has the advantage of demystifying its consumption and therefore making it generally safer by allowing you to have a healthier relationship and to know your limits (at least for Most people and that doesn't mean you'll make children drink). And conversely, I'm always surprised to see that in American films and series the slightest occasion seems to be an excuse to have a drink, all the time, at any time of the day or night.
Almost every movie featuring a desk/officehas a bottle of whisky somewere and a character WILL pour a glass, chug it down and make a telieved sound before said movie is over.
Load More Replies...I'm French, I thought it was normal ? I mean, kids drink juice or soda and the adults alcohol when at the restaurant, parks or family dinners ?
It is very normal for adults to enjoy a cocktail or a glass of wine or beer at a restaurant or private event when their kids are with them. I commented elsewhere that the difference is that alcohol is prohibited in public spaces like parks, playgrounds, sports fields, public transportation, the beach, etc. People absolutely do break these laws, but they have to be sneaky about it. If you’re sitting on a bench at the park, with what is obviously alcohol in your hand, you’re getting a citation and a hefty fine (the last time I paid attention to one of the warning signs, the fine was $300 for the first offense IIRC, which is about €277).
Load More Replies...Yes, parents drinking their sauna beers or having a glass of wine at nice meals is completely normal. That does not mean they are drunk. Generally drinking doesn't mean getting drunk, so it's safe around children.
French here and it's the same, I would never hide to my kids for drinkink alcool, that's pretty normal to them.
I chalk this up to different laws concerning drinking/having an open bottle of alcohol on public property. I can’t think of one single public space where alcohol is allowed- state parks, city parks, playgrounds, tennis and basketball courts, swimming pools, baseball fields, boat-launching ramps on the river, ocean beaches and boardwalks. Don’t get me wrong- people absolutely do break this law, but they have to sneak it- IOW, no one is gonna sit there in the open with what is obviously a glass of alcohol in their hand. OTOH, in my large city, having weekend Brunch at a trendy brewpub is popular nowadays, and the city’s subreddit is full of patrons who are outraged about parents who bring their infants and toddlers along. They claim the issue is more about huge strollers taking up precious walking space in small rooms, but there is definitely a whiff of ‘drinking in front of your little kids makes me uncomfortable.’
People in the States drink around their kids. Fewer of the young ones because they grew up with drunk adults.
This is also why we ought to support cultural diversity, and there’s a number of ways of doing it. First up, plunge into the pool of diversity as living in one rubs off on you. This is quite literally how culture works.
All the while avoid imposing values that others may have trouble accepting or it’s inconsistent with their own.
France. Eating proper meals at school and not snacks. I wouldn't have imagined eating a pack of chips, pizza or industrial slices bread. Lunches were cooked on site and consisted of proper dishes like a restaurant.
Also, non overly friendly staff in shops or restaurants that don't treat clients like royalty. You won't have a waiter come to you ask if everything is fine every 2 minutes. Or very polite staff in shops, quite the opposite. There's a reason French people have the reputation of being rude. ;).
Pizza is available as a proper course in Spanish and (of course) Italian schools. But chips and ultra-processed food is, indeed, banned.
I imagine you also get a proper meal break. When 400 students have a 25 minute lunch break, chips and processed food is the only thing they have time for.
Load More Replies...Oh my goodness I would LOVE to be ignored while browsing shops or market stalls. I feel so uncomfortable when staff members try to chat with me, or keep coming back to see if I need help after my saying "no thank you" the first time. If I want your products, I promise I intend to pay for them. Please leave me alone so I don't have to keep pausing my headset.
Some store I was in recently had two different color shopping baskets. Take this one if you want to be "helped," or take that one if you want to be left alone. It's a beautiful system that more stores should adopt.
Load More Replies...In Belgium ttoo, a waiter interrupting your meal to ask if "everything is alright?" would be considered intrusive and extremely rude. This question is only asked by the end of the meal when they retrieve the empty plates
It is not rude to allow a customer to browse in a shop. America relies on the servitude to the customer, regardless if it's the boss or a customer. Why would any modern country want to return to the fiefdom of old? America is an oxymoron. Religiously, all men are born equal, and yet in real life if you have the money you are the boss. The customer has money and has to be served by someone on minimum wage who then has to grovel for the tip to be able to live. This is NOT right.
I have lived in the usa for 24 years now. I always found it annoying how intrusive wait staff are here. Not snobbery, just don’t want any third party interrupting all the time. I was recently back in the uk and went out for dinner. Noticed (and enjoyed) the fact the wait staff weren’t in your face all the time. Order, bring the food, eventually bring the check. Peaceful.
Honestly as a kid who grew up on American lunches you clearly have never tasted them. At 8 years old I would infinitely prefer mini corn dogs, square pizza, or chicken nuggets over a "proper meal" anyday. They may not be healthy but American kids (at least in the 90s) loved school lunches
When I went to school they cooked on site, but it was not all that good, or healthy.
Austria: As an assistant manager I regularly had to calm American customers down because the staff in our souvenir shop told them that they are busy at the moment (not with other customers) and can't help them with finding certain items. Never any other nation had a problem with that.
(But Americans are usually the only ones anyway asking for the manager. Only once in my career one Chinese woman asked for one but that was it).
I'm a 50 yo Spaniard, and never in my life asked for the manager. Unless I knew the manager and I was there to have a coffee together...
I've asked for a manager a number of times. However, it has been to let the manager know their member of staff has been exceedingly helpful.
Load More Replies...I swear not all Americans are like this. I'd gladly wait for someone if they were busy unless it's a medical emergency
As an American, I'm betting MOST Americans are not like this. It's the few that give the rest of us a bad name..
Load More Replies...IMO the only reason to ask for a manager is if you've had amazing service and want to let them know.
I did that once - to compliment the produce manager on the beauty and variety in the store.
Load More Replies...I can't Imagine that happening in Germany (staff saying they are busy and cannot help a customer), that would be extremely rude. However, a German customer would not ask for the manager. Some would lose it, yell and swear... but the majority would quietly leave and never come back.
Aren't customers the reason for the store in the first place? If you work at the store, are there more important things than the customers. To ignore a paying customer is stupid and rude. What? do you wait in line until a clerk has finished their private business and has some free time to wait on a customer?
It isn't private business that they are busy with.
Load More Replies...Canadian here. If I'm looking for something in a souvenir shop - or, indeed, any other shop - and I can't find it, I'll ask a worker of the shop where it is. I expect only a description (halfway down aisle 3 toward the top) and not to be taken there. However, if I get "I'm busy at the moment" and the staff is NOT with a customer, I'll wait about 10 seconds for them to finish up quickly what they're doing before walking out and finding another shop that actually wants the sale.
I attended university in 3 different European countries, got my masters, and just paid about 50 euros in total fees for 10 years of studying (I wasn't in a hurry to finish, as classes were interesting, I learned a lot and had fun) And all these universities were better than expensive private colleges in USA (I work as IT in expensive private college in NYC so I know).
I paid zero fees for my degree in the UK, but that was in an age where a smaller proportion of students went on to university. Fees are still paid by the government in Scotland.
I think it was in 1998/9 fees came in, as I started in 1997 then had a year out after my first year, and remember being relived I dodged that new system of fee-paying. But I think at the beginning it was about £1k a year. No idea what it is now!
Load More Replies...Well, the powers that be want all the citizens to be dependant on them. Via educational debt, healthcare option only available through a company, unions are the beginning of a socialist nightmare etc. It is strange the American people do not object ot that.
In Ukraine, the state paid me while I was studying. Basically, every student in a state university was paid a small scholarship, except those who got really low grades.
What's costed me money when I was in higher education was money for school books and then rent/food because I couldn't live at home. My kids will have 3 very prestigious schools in 1h radius from our current home. I think it's great that you can educate yourselves even if you are from humble beginnings. (You also get some money from the state to study and if that isn't enough for housing and so on, you can also take a small state loan if you don't fail classes totally)
Your education was paid for by your taxes, it wasn't free. Most "expensive private colleges" in the U.S. are for profit not for education. Regretfully American Universities are ripping of the public, but don't get too cocky, they usually give a more useful education than a European university. European are very academic but not very student friendly nor productive. What do you do with a heavy European education, but teach?
Ten years of college courses for free is the problem, not the solution. Get a job. Be a maker, not a taker.
A lot of what accepting other cultures is can be defined as education and understanding. So teach yourself and learn to understand the concepts that describe these other cultures. In turn, learn to respect and accept them, and this will show a good example to others.
By proxy, push away the tide of ignorance and stop folks from exercising insensitivity, bias and prejudice. Being proactive in all of these things will solidify the experience.
Poland:
Married couples often refer to their parents in-law as just "mom" and "dad".
Everyone is sir/madam until you both decide otherwise. Calling adult person you just met "you" or their name is a big no-no.
Pasta or rice with strawberries and cream is a summer dessert.
Majority of people here would hate the idea of store staff smiling at them and offering help all the time.
Eating inside with your hat on is considered rude af.
Risotto alle fragole. But it's a first course, not a dessert. https://www.cucchiaio.it/ricetta/ricetta-risotto-fragole/
Load More Replies...American here! I refer to my in laws as mom and dad and happily, but my sister does not. Might just be a relationship thing.
I’m Canadian; I calm my in laws mom & dad. My parents also called their in-laws mom & dad, so it’s totally normal for me. The other 2 who married in (sil from Hungary; bil from Scotland) use our in-laws’ first names. It’s weird being the only one, but I was the first to marry in, it’s been over 15 years, I’m not about to change it.
Load More Replies...'Eating inside with your hat on is considered rude af.' It totally is.
To be fair I know a ton of Americans who would love to be left alone by staff while shopping.
That's why those baskets are a good idea. Two different colours. One for leave me alone and one for yes, I'd appreciate some help. Should be a worldwide thing.
Load More Replies...Perhaps a Polish speaker can help me out. My gf is Polish and she is often referred to as "Pani Gosi", which I can only translate as "Mrs Gosia". Is this being slightly formal, like the UK thing of referring to parents' friends as Aunty and Uncle even though they are not relatives?
The default is calling someone sir/madam (Pan/Pani) and then both parties have to agree to switch to first name basis. And we also call our parents' friend aunts and uncles
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Living comfortably without a car or a driving licence. Even if someone has a car, they only use it for transporting something heavy or going for journeys outside of town, not for daily commuting.
Daily commuting by trains and train stops in every other village.
Parents and other family members letting little children drink alcohol. I'm pretty sure I was a toddler when I had beer for the first time. On the weekends we all had a glass of beer after lunch, and at the family gatherings everyone got a glass of alcohol for a toast. (I hope most young parents nowadays wouldn't do that. I'm 30.).
Anyone over 45 in Spain had a shot of sweet wine given by their grandmas to boost their appetite. The only thing that divide is is what brand we were given 😆
Kina San Clemente? Well, I only got it twice. Mom was worried I was too thin, and someone told her this wine could help. I didn't like and she didn't insist. My big brother and little sister were never given that wine. By the way, I'm 50.
Load More Replies...USA here. I have to drive 40 miles to find a passenger train station. Or an airport with passenger service. Cars are necessary where I live.
Cars are necessary in most of the US. They don't understand the vast expanse and lack of public transportation.
Load More Replies...Europe is made of cities that were traversable on foot or in between by horses. So developing public transportation wasn't so hard. New York is a nice walkable city with great public transportation. I never had a car there. And the eastern shore cities all link up nicely by bus or train. The West Coast is not like that. Everything is spread too far apart. It was mainly developed post car. It's designed for cars. The subways would have to stop so many times just to go to Target. To get to the next city would take 1/2 hour on the express. It's really a shame.
Ik heb nog nooit alcohol gekregen op jonge leeftijd. Ik woon in Nederland.
We also use cargo bikes to get around and transport the children! (In Denmark at least)
In the '60in the French countryside, it was not uncommon for children to get offered a "rouge-lime", that is a mix of red wine and lemonade (safer than water at that time)
There appear to be few things as confusing to Americans as a "if you meet the minimum education requirements you're just in" policy in higher education admittance.
What I really don't get about US education system (apart from ridiculous tuitions of course, this is just bonkers) is the legacy status. Accepting students based on where their parents studied just gives me monarchy vibes, I think all people should be judged on their own merit and actions, not their parents. I fear many talented students lost their places because some entitled rich kids took their spot only because of who they were born to.
Bols you do get the US education systems. All those things you list that foster class privilege are there quite deliberately. How else would people like George W. Bush and Dan Quayle earn MBAs or law degrees?
Load More Replies...This American in the comments doesn’t understand that size matters. Of course USA has more high ranking universities than any European countries. Most are too small to even have more than 5-10 in total.
The "legacy" status is only an American thing. In Canada you can go wherever you qualify for and can afford. and yes we have to pay tuition, unless you're over 65, then it's free - which seems a tad bass-ackward to me.
Thanks for the reminder. In just over a year I'll finally be able to afford university.
Load More Replies...I think we have so many people who want spots in our universities that we couldn't just admit whoever met basic requirements. So slots go to top spots. Junior college is for anyone who meets the basic requirements. You can always start there and transfer to University. University of California schools have a contract with the junior colleges that if certain requirements are met the students must be admitted. Not sure how it works in other states. But UC schools are some of the top in the nation. So there are ways in without being legacy or ultra amazing.
I admit I don't understand this. What does 'just in' mean? As opposed to 'in'.
"just" is just emphasis. The sentence makes perfect sense without it.
Load More Replies...So, what are your thoughts on any of this? What are some differences that you think are worth mentioning here? Share your takes and stories in the comment section below!
Oh, and before I forget, there’s more where that came from.
Sweden: The lax attitude to nudity, religion and Disney.
Also that dad has the right to stay home with the kids when they are under 1 year and get paid to do so and men does this because they want too. Yeah, I have male friend been told they are "gay" and not manly for doing normal house chores and being a sane parent.
Being married to a woman and having a child is now gay? To quote Inigo Montoya: I don't think that word means whst you think it means.
There are men that think making certain the woman has a good time during sex is gay.
Load More Replies...It's called PARENTleave for a reason. You have some weeks locked in for either parent and the other you can split however you want. The first weeks you both have paid leave though, just to bond. I've never ever heard someone be called gay or unmanly for being on parentleave or doing chores at home. That's a ridiculous thought of not cleaning your home and can't be the norm among younger generations.
How serious? Well, the governor of Florida is waging a "war" against Disney. And he isn't even good at it...
Load More Replies...France : the owner of the shop/restaurant refusing to do something for a customer he doesn't agree with (like ice in your wine). Customer is not king here.
If you insist in France that the customer is king, remember what they do to kings there.
As a french i agree with that, i witnessed some american pissed off cause he could not have ketchup with his meal. They told him it's not a meal to be eaten with ketchup. The dude starts to ask for some manager blablablabla and they just basically told him to leave the f**k out.
There's a difference between "customer is king" and ",l won't do that because that's not how I like it". Both are just as obnoxious
You just don't put ice in wine! It waters it down and fúcks up the flavours!
Load More Replies...I've seen Americans break down because they thought everyone was beeing mean and short with them , when it's just that Dutch culture is less ambigious. Like when someone doesn't think a idea is very good they will say it's a bad idea , not as like a personal judgement but just that one idea just now.
Crotia:
We learn how to drink really early in life. By the time we're legally allowed to, we have a tolerance and culture of drinking to we don't pass out so easily.
Kids don't drive. But these are boring examples.
How about supermarkets not working 24/7, not everyone speaking English, especially elderly who usually rather speak German or Russian, not having highways of US scale, people walking around towns, kids going to profession-specified high schools, foxes walking around towns like domestic animals and deers in people's yards.
>500 y/o buildings still in use, gas stoves, turkish coffee, 7-15 work hours, more than 2 parties on political scene, smoking being popular, majority using android devices...
It kind of is. Young (western) Europeans on average have a much better relationship with alcohol than Americans. In Europe it's common to partake in a glass of wine, or a taste of beer, in family gatherings from 14 years old or so. Being introduced to alcohol by your father kills a lot of the mystique, and you quickly learn your limits. Also, often helps in learning to drink less but better. Consider this, and keep in mind that Tuscany is the second region in Italy for alcohol consumption: in 2018, two thirds of the people that ended up in any hospital in Florence for alcohol abuse were foreign, half of them were Americans.
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Germany: Keeping a separation between work and real friendships. Americans chit chat at work and talk about personal things. Currently working in US and am a bit socially awkward at work here.
I dont experience this at all. work is work, home is home. 2 different things.
Calling cigarettes "f**s". Saying "I'm going for a Chinese", "I'm going for an Indian" Then names of Chinese and Indian restaurants like "Oriental Pearl" or "Bombay Spice". Black people with standard regional British accents.
"Black people with standard regional British accents." Wow, being shocked by that is... quite interesting.
The guys seems shocked that they are just normal people with accents
Load More Replies...What the hell is going on in this one? Feels like someone is very mad at england having multiculturalism
What does the color of their skin matter? People use the standard regional dialect because they happen to live there. Why make the distinction between black and white people?
The last one! An American friend joined me on a trip to England to visit my parents. He couldn't get over Black people talking with posh British accents.
Britain jammed a large chunk of Africa into her empire and kept it there for generations, yet people are astonished to find a black face with an English accent.
Load More Replies...Just you wait for the phrase "I could múrder a Mexican"... It doesn't mean what you think it does!
Load More Replies...Wow, go figure that regional slang differs in different *checks notes* regions. A fåņny pack means different things in the US and UK as well. Edit: apparently fäńņy is edited, which proves my point.
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In Slovakia, men throwing buckets of cold water on women on Easter Monday. And then the woman thanks them and offers them a shot of vodka.
I googled it and it seems to be the Czech Republic. Apparently whips were involved in the past so I guess it's an improvement?
Load More Replies...Are women reputed to have caused the crucifixion as well as the fall from Paradise? FFS. What are we like?
It's a pagan tradition incorporated by Christianity actually
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There are certain non-PC jokes and phrases regarding different racial groups that would probably offend the sensibilities of many Americans. Danes have a much different mindset when it comes to such things.
Also, the more relaxed attitude towards alcohol. This includes younger people being much more able to consume it. A lot of people tend to start drinking alcohol around the age they are confirmed.
Hmm, do the members of these racial groups feel the same way, or do they have to put on a smile and pretend if they want to have friends?
There's a lot of unaware/unconscious racism in some countries imho. Especially in places where people don't see/get to know people of other origins. It just doesn't seem to spring to mind that some jokes or gags are racist. We need to build a lot of awareness to change this. (Dutch myself) Edit: Satire is a form of humour that US doesn't seem to grasp though. Afaik we also don't have people making a fuss about cultural appropiation if they're not personally from that culture.
Load More Replies...The culture shock for me in Denmark was having a vending machine for beer in the office. I understand that this is not entirely normal, but there are companies that allow drinking at work. It was a nice way to wind down the day and chew the fat over a beer. Oh, and the beer was cheaper than the water. LOL
Danes and beer... I was very impressed with the amount of beer a Danish training tall ship was restocking in Amsterdam at Sail '85. This was done by boys and girls in training who didn't look older than 16.
90% of American comedians make non-pc jokes...40% of Americans under 18 have reported they drink, with the actual number suspected around 60%... do Europeans not know anything about Americans?
I'm curious about where you obtained these stats, especially the first one.
Load More Replies...The US Catholic bishops identify 16 as the ideal age for confirmation. Starting drinking about that age is not unbelievable.
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Turkish people will stare and get into your personal space. Men kiss other men to greet, best guy and girl friends walk arm in arm or arm on shoulder and nobody thinks they're gay. People send little kids to buy cigarettes and alcohol.
Covid killed french "bise" but we used to kiss each other on the cheeks even between men or at work
Spain
Eating rabbit and snails.
Babies/small children staying out until past midnight in the street while their parents are eating taking a drink on summer nights.
Out meals hours.
Persianas (blinds that fully block sunlight).
Probably, because all of these things can be seen in Italy too.
Load More Replies...We eat these in France, too. And frog legs, as well, sautéed with à lot of butter, garlic and parsley, yum! Those are traditional dishes because poor people had to find their protein where they could. As for Persianas, blocking sun rays instead of letting them glare into the house cuts back the need for AC. It's been the traditional method for millenaries, long before AC was invented.
I remember an american couple in Cordoba, they asked to eat but at 8pm. They could not understand that the kitchen was not even open yet.
I truly miss living and working in Spain. It was such a gorgeous country and wonderful lifestyle.
Not easy to source. My gf has cooked if for me a few times.
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Belgium: Waiters in restaurants won't constantly bother you, and you have to actively wave them down if you want to order another drink. This might be seen as lack of engagement by Americans.
Also no free water in restaurants here, which I myself don't particularly like, because ordering these tiny 20cl water bottles that are gone in two gulps is a giant waste of money.
Free tap water must be available in restaurants in Spain. It was a habit, now it's a law.
Also completely normal in Belgium, this poster just hasn't learned how to ask for it.
Load More Replies...And in many countries tipping is not needed because the waiters receive a full salary.
Disproportionately grateful to see "This might be seen as lack of engagement by Americans" instead of "Americans can't understand this." 👍
Czechia: We make a procession where three men dress up as the three kings who visited Jesus in Betlehem. One of them is painted black.
Yes, the Three Kings/Wise Men, every 5th of January. In Spain, being painted black wasn't considered offensive (the other 2 kings had beards and fake beards didn't offend bearded people). But now the Spanish black population is much bigger than in the past, so the "blackfaced" option is less common.
No need for 'blackface' when there are actual black people..
Load More Replies...Bringing the "blackface" sensitivities over to countries who did have nothing like Minstrel Shows or Slavery is getting out of hand.
Note also the number of pictures of a blond blue-eyed Jesus. There is a tendency to make everything look like we do ... although I've never tracked down a verified source for that old claim that "Jesus spoke English, it's in the Bible ! "
It's a yearly occurrence in all of Spain (look for the "Cabalgadas", it's a 8-century old tradition) and part of Italy. Blackface is socially unacceptable in the US because of slavery and segregation (blackface especially is a heritage of racist minstrel shows), a phenomenon that lasted in some form until a few decades ago. Europe did away with that a few centuries ago, and the scars are well healed, so it's not a big deal. We will respect US culture and not do this in the USA, but please leave our cultural traditions out of your prudishness.
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Slovenia: It was pretty common to go drink a beer or two with classmates and friends in senior highschool years. This was a while back, I am a millenial, not sure if it is still common. We also had a party with soft alcoholic drinks at the end of elementary school.
Legal drinking age is 18, but it's not like the police are chasing around kids drinking beer. Bars and grocery stores require an ID tho, if you want to buy alcohol.
When I lived in a small, rural town we had 4 pubs. One pub was known for its slightly lax approach to checking ID. The local Police would drop in there a couple of times on a Friday / Saturday night to see how everything was going, we’d see them in our local too but that was for them to get a brew! The wisdom was that 17s and an odd 16 year year old in the pub being watched over by locals was better than them hiding the booze and drinking too much whilst sat in the park. Never had any bother and their pub was a calm place.
Same at a place I used to go to. Only pub for 5 miles out so and the landlord would let some of the under age kids drink. His opinion was that they were better off there than going mad with a bottle of vodka in a barn somewhere. The police agreed.
Load More Replies... Czechia: Paying for public toilets, apparently.
Dogs allowed in pubs/shops.
And I've seen a lot of surprised comments about old and/or disabled people just walking/riding around in wheelchairs on the streets and taking public transportation.
What are people in wheelchairs supposed to do, if being on the street or taking public transport is weird?
Similar to this is to read how Americans are surprised that in Spain they see many elderly people walking in the street or in bars/cafeterias alone or with friends of the same age. It seems that there they are used to take them to residences. There is a logic behind it. There it is not common to walk, there are almost no sidewalks except in big cities and it is more common to go by car.
In the UK, the default in parks is dogs can be off-lead. Americans seem to think it's very irresponsible to let dogs off in public areas, except in dedicated, fenced-off dog parks.
That’s because there are irresponsible owners who do not train their dogs at all. So your dog might be well-behaved, but someone else’s dog will run up and attack it (or you!) Or the untrained dog will run off after a squirrel and won’t listen to recall/commands to come back, and they could run into a road/street and be hit by a car. Depending on where you live in the US, there might be very little public transportation available, so there are a LOT of cars around. Also, at least where I live, people are horrible slobs in parks and will leave their trash thrown on the ground. I don’t want to risk either of my dogs eating something they shouldn’t before I could stop them, or stepping on broken glass, etc. It’s a bit of an oversimplification, of course, but many Americans think dog parks are the only safe place to let your dog run off-leash outside of one’s own yard.
Can we have one of these that isn't US vs whomever? WTF is it with you people pitting the one people against another in so damned many posts ? I GUARANTEE you that your people don't occupy a space in our heads the way we seem to in yours. Unless we're talking the whole "low hanging fruit" thing in writing posts 🤔. If you're just not that creative perhaps you should touch some grass and reevaluate your chosen career.
I'm so tired of these articles too. I think we all realize that other countries do things differently. Yes, we're aware other countries have free heath care and college. Do you think we have a choice of how things work over here? I assure you, we don't and voting for one vs the other won't help because all politicians are bought and paid for. Also the people that always shouted 'USA is best!' are from 50-60 years ago. The vast majority of Americans today are just trying to get through the day, just like everyone else.
Load More Replies...I admit I couldn't finish reading all these, because I found those I read to be mostly untrue.
I saw a post the other day comparing the size of the US to European countries. The comparison showed the dramatic difference of US travel distances vs. European travel distances. It's pretty different, to say the least. And, yes, I've lived an traveled in both
Let's leave Americans alone. They are already suffering a lot. How about some other ethnic/national group? I am Polish, there is plenty to make fun of in my country. Have a go!
In Sweden Healthcare costs are a maximum of 1400sek (€125/136usd) in a 12 month period, once you reach it your healthcare is free for the remainder of the 12 month period. Costs for being admitted to hospital is just 130sek per day (€12/13 usd) which includes all treatments, whether it's all the tests needed, cts, MRI, operations plus all medication and food. Prescriptions cost a maximum of 2600sek (€231/252usd) in a 12 month period, mine took 3 months to hit the cap and that means 9 months of free meds. Insulin including all the apparatus such as needles, blood sugar measuring device, insulin pump is all free.
Can we have one of these that isn't US vs whomever? WTF is it with you people pitting the one people against another in so damned many posts ? I GUARANTEE you that your people don't occupy a space in our heads the way we seem to in yours. Unless we're talking the whole "low hanging fruit" thing in writing posts 🤔. If you're just not that creative perhaps you should touch some grass and reevaluate your chosen career.
I'm so tired of these articles too. I think we all realize that other countries do things differently. Yes, we're aware other countries have free heath care and college. Do you think we have a choice of how things work over here? I assure you, we don't and voting for one vs the other won't help because all politicians are bought and paid for. Also the people that always shouted 'USA is best!' are from 50-60 years ago. The vast majority of Americans today are just trying to get through the day, just like everyone else.
Load More Replies...I admit I couldn't finish reading all these, because I found those I read to be mostly untrue.
I saw a post the other day comparing the size of the US to European countries. The comparison showed the dramatic difference of US travel distances vs. European travel distances. It's pretty different, to say the least. And, yes, I've lived an traveled in both
Let's leave Americans alone. They are already suffering a lot. How about some other ethnic/national group? I am Polish, there is plenty to make fun of in my country. Have a go!
In Sweden Healthcare costs are a maximum of 1400sek (€125/136usd) in a 12 month period, once you reach it your healthcare is free for the remainder of the 12 month period. Costs for being admitted to hospital is just 130sek per day (€12/13 usd) which includes all treatments, whether it's all the tests needed, cts, MRI, operations plus all medication and food. Prescriptions cost a maximum of 2600sek (€231/252usd) in a 12 month period, mine took 3 months to hit the cap and that means 9 months of free meds. Insulin including all the apparatus such as needles, blood sugar measuring device, insulin pump is all free.
