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A wedding is a beautiful thing. When done correctly, it's a personal celebration of love; a proverbial fusion of two souls into one.
At its worst, however, it can morph into a money-hungry industry, chasing after every penny in your pocket.
This is largely because there are a lot of outdated and quite frankly superficial customs that have been carrying on for far too long, mainly due to social inertia.
Interested in these cases, Reddit user u/mathsoprano17 posted a question on the platform: "What's the dumbest wedding tradition?" And they got plenty of replies.
Below, you will find some of the most popular ones that should make you rethink what a typical modern ceremony ought to look like.
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#1
Bachelor parties at strip clubs/ Vegas hotel rooms with a private stripper.
Your last hoorah was before you started dating her, not the night before you get married. Stop acting like being faithful is some kind of funeral.
troufaki13 3 years ago
It's getting more absurd with each passing year. It went from a night out with the guys/girls to one-week vacation abroad. Why??
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#2
Going deeply into debt to make it happen in the first place.
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
American bride fantasy. Growing up believing the wedding has to be a princess fairytale.
#3
Expecting your friends to spend thousands of dollars on you with stupid destination bachelor parties, dress/tux rentals, hotels, miscellaneous b******t.
#4
Smashing a cake in the groom/bride face. Seen too many where they really smash them with the cake
#5
Rehearsal dinners and all the pre-wedding events are b******t. They are unnecessary money spent. If you need to rehearse getting married, then you've complicated your damn ceremony. Get engaged, walk up to your fiance/finacee, say "I do", eat and end the day. S**t.
#7
Removing the garter, the following garter toss, and application on another woman. That s**t is just weird.
UpupaEpops 3 years ago
This is the one I hate the most. Especially when the groom climbs under her dress and removes it with his teeth. Luckily, I've only ever seen this in a wedding photo and have never had to suffer through it in real life. It's such a crass thing to do. Especially in front of your older relatives.
#8
Color matching outfits for the attendants. Those dresses are always ugly and can never be worn outside the wedding. When I got married, I chose an easy color scheme and told my bride maid and maid of honor to match it with whatever they had. They looked lovely.
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
It's not that they can't be worn outside the wedding it's that normally the bride picks ugly dresses so she looks pretty. So how about these brides cowboy up and stop with the ugly dresses.
#9
Diamond rings. Didn't become a thing until the 30s when DeBeers made it a thing and had been profitiing ever since.
#10
I feel like I'm gonna be one of the very few people to think this, but I think the whole 'be given away at the alter' thing is weird. When I get married, I'm walking myself down the aisle.
This is probably because I'm just not close with anyone besides my boyfriend (and obviously he can't simultainiously walk me down the aisle and be at the alter), but I've just never liked that tradition.
#11
Maybe this is just me, but the wedding cake.
Over priced, silly, they all pretty much look the same. They're like 90% frosting, and even if you try to get a nice cake, they taste like sandpaper after the six hours they have to be out to be decorated. No one at the party actually wants to eat it, so you end up with about eighty pounds of left over cake.
My husband and I went to a local cupcake shop and order cupcakes, all different varieties. They were made fresh and decorated the morning of, low on frosting because we asked. We put them nicely on the table and when the party was done, we had boxes for everyone to take some home in. People took them into work or school the next day, and it was like we were sharing our happiness with the whole world.
#12
Wedding showers. Being a female person, I get invited to a lot of these, and they're all pretty much the same: sitting around eating finger sandwiches, tentatively sipping white wine, and watching the bride open boilerplate registry gifts and Bed Bath & Beyond gift cards for 3 hours. No thanks.
#13
I've been a bridesmaid in 3 weddings. In all of them, I had to "pair up" with a groomsman, who I was expected to flirt with and "act like a couple" with. This was usually for photos, but also for walking down the aisle. In all three cases, I didn't know the groomsmen and didn't appreciate the implication that we were a couple just because we had to walk together down the aisle.
For example, i had to take group photos where the groomsman I was paired with had to dip me and look lovingly into my eyes. I don't even know that guy's name. At my sister's wedding, I had to walk down the aisle arm-in-arm with my brother-in-law's brother (I was 13, he was 22) and he had to kiss my hand. This was all orchestrated by the mothers-in-law who thought it was precious.
I also had to take pictures where all the bridesmaids would swoon over the groom (and vice versa with groomsmen and the bride), with the implication that we are all jealous that the bride got such a great catch and we wish WE were getting married to him. I was there to support my friend on her wedding day by being her bridesmaid - I am NOT there to secretly undermine her or feel envious.
When I eventually got married, I had a consultation with my photographer. I whipped out these photos and said, 'I don't want THAT.' She laughed and said she hated those too.
#14
Having only girls on the bride's wedding party and only males on the grooms side.
#15
Asking the father or the parents for their permission or blessing. I'm not marrying a child here. I'm marrying an adult who can make her own decisions.
David H 3 years ago
Nothing wrong with asking for a blessing, it's a sign that their family is accepting you in. The Permission is a relic from a different time when a fathers permission was required. But what is wrong with a blessing of support? You want the other family to show full acceptance.
#16
Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a stupid ceremony that is nothing but a showboat of gaudy excess and barely anything to do with the relationship.
#17
The bride being expected to wear white. I've told people I don't want a white wedding dress when and if I get married and you wouldn't believe the looks of disbelief and horror I've gotten in return.
ScarletRos 3 years ago
Wear whatever colour you want, it’s your wedding not theirs. I wore a red.
#18
That the brides family should pay for the wedding. I know it's becoming less common. I have a single mom (dad passed away when I was little) and I know she felt terrible about not being able to contribute more to my wedding. I, knowing my mom has a single income, would never expect my mother to pay for my wedding. I'm not putting down any bride whose family is fortunate enough to pay for their wedding, i just don't think it should be the expectation anymore. Anyways, we had a beautiful wedding and we paid for the majority of it on our own.
#19
Throwing confetti (or rice) at the couple outside the front doors of the church after the ceremony to wish them "good luck."
The pastor of one church asked those in attendance to "please throw $20 bills instead to spare the sexton a huge clean-up job."
Jill Rhodry 3 years ago
I think it's meant to symbolise fertility - rose petals, blowing bubbles are some ways it can be done without the clean up or ill birds.
#20
This is a bit late but there is a tradition in Sweden where if the groom leaves the room without the bride every man in the formentioned room is allowed (or have) to kiss the bride.
I would to so far as to say that it's a bit weird,
#21
For me, wedding itself is a pretty dumb tradition.
You're going to start a life with your future partner and you toss all you life savings on a one night celebration.
Ripley 3 years ago
My partner and I got married at the registry, essentially for a work visa (so romantic!). 10 years later to the day, we had a party as a "reception". It was fun, we got to have a bit of a fancy party and get dressed up, and our marriage had 10 solid years behind it, so it wasn't wasted effort.
#22
Forcing several of your closest friends to spend hundreds of dollars on a dress, or a tux rental, to literally stand in the front of the church with you. Other than the best man and maid/matron/man of honor, there's no purpose.
If you go casual and let people wear their own stuff, it's not so bad.
Foxxy says goodbye. 3 years ago
We asked our groomsmen to just wear a white shirt, black pants and a black tie. We offered to pay for them but all the groomsmen already had them. So easy done.
#23
The idea of throwing a party for gazillion people, because 'they are family!'. No, if I haven't seen them for last 20 years they are not. The whole general social concept of a modern wedding is just stupid. People spending much more they can afford on one night, that is stressful and makes them hate each other and scream at each other. Blah. edit: grammar
Summer Mason 3 years ago
My father flew up, my brother drove down. All others where my husband's family and our kids. Total 20 people. It was beautiful. We paid for food and our clothing, mil paid for decorating, and everyone brought their own booze.
#24
Inviting people you don't like, who you never see and have a greater than 50% chance of ruining the event. Then paying $250 a head for the privilege.
#25
Apparently there is a weird tradition that it's bad luck for the bride to walk down the aisle at the rehearsal and some other girl/woman is supposed to walk down and stand with the groom. My wife said "screw that" and walked herself. Why would she want to sit and watch some other girl our age stand up there with me and the preacher the day before the wedding?
#26
Engagement rings. Obscene waste of money to support an evil industry.
Biliegh Berrie 3 years ago
It could be basic design to match the lady's personality. Doesn't have to be full of diamonds.
#27
I'm getting married next month.
I think most of the traditions are dumb. - I don't want to do a first dance with everyone staring at me. Awkward and unnecessary. - I don't want to take the garter off of her and throw it to some dudes. - The dollar dance is dumb - I wish "Give me money" was an acceptable registry for wedding gifts. No, no gift cards. Money. I've been hassled relentlessly for months about what gifts I want. I want money because this wedding is expensive. That's it. - The tradition of pricing everything up once the word "wedding" is mentioned. Great photoshoot for your family -- $300. Wedding photos of the same quality and quantity -- $1500. Yeah, I'll gladly just have friends whip out an iPhone and take pics and edit them myself.
Isabella 3 years ago
A good professional photography is not about the portrait or group photos. A good photographer is in the middle of the event, knowing when and what to capture, things for which friends won't have time or a trained eye. A good photographer makes a huge difference.
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
While that's true if you want the photos to look textbook-good, I personally think the attendees' photos would be a much more authentic portrayal of the event. I was always alienated by studio-quality photoshoots of weddings- it often makes the event look sterile and cookie-cutter. I wish there was a cheap but eco-friendly alternative to disposable cameras- giving those out to the wedding party and asking them to just take photos of whatever they think is interesting would result in a very colorful record.
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Foxxy says goodbye. 3 years ago (edited)
I'm not a fan of gift registries. If people ask for suggestions, then give them some options but doing an actual gift registry is like your expecting gifts. It's not the point of a wedding.
Aunt Riarch 3 years ago (edited)
A friend of mine had a small ring bound notebook with a present suggestion on a page, if someone asked her if there was anything she wanted, she gave them the book and told them to tear out the page of the gift they were getting her. And if they didn't ask, she didn't mention it at all. Discreet, and helpful to those who wanted to get her a gift
Load More Replies... troufaki13 3 years ago
Makeup € 30. Bridal makeup € 500. Same for the hair, dress, shoes... it's just ridiculous!
Ripley 3 years ago
And I've heard stories of venues cracking the shits when someone holds an engagement party and whoops! A celebrant happened to be there and they got married! The venue misses out on all that lovely wedding markup . . .
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MelO 3 years ago
The guests "pay" to dance with either the bride (or groom, in modern weddings) for a short time. Usually a dollar, although it can be whatever you want. Apparently they used to pin the money to her dress, but the times I've seen it it was just given to a member of the bridal party. I think it's a more regional tradition, in the US. Only two times I've seen it was in Pennsylvania in families of polish descent, but my sample size is low, so I might be wrong.
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Emmydearest 3 years ago
Personally I think asking for money is incredibly tacky. If you need money so desperately, maybe you shouldn't throw such an expensive wedding; just go to the the church/town hall with the closest family members/friends, wear something simple, and maybe go have dinner at a regular restaurant. You don't have to spend thousands so you can justify your request of money. And besides, the whole concept of giving to the newlyweds is outdated. In the past it made sense: people used to merry young and up until the marriage they lived with their parents so presents were a way to help them "build" their new home, they needed plates, pans, etc... Now people often live together for a while before getting married or at least they already have a furnished house because they live alone. So alright, I get that it's ok giving them a present to celebrate, after all we give present at every important milestone (birthdays, graduations...) but should I give you money?
Josurf 3 years ago
My advice: Don't spend so much on your wedding. It's over after one day, at most a weekend. The idea of asking every attendee to take pics with a cellphone is actually great AND original. I understand people preferring to give a gift. I also prefer it because it leaves a memory. Just giving money will leave you no memories.
DonS 3 years ago
Unlucky enough to catch the goddamn garter at my best friend wedding. Coming back from the bar with a cocktail and I saw from the corner of my eye something white coming in my direction. Wanting to protect my drink, I tried to swat it but catch it with a look of disgust on my face (freaking weird tradition). Drink was safe though, so there's that.
Pittsburgh rare 3 years ago (edited)
Asking for money (as it's done where l live) is and will always be tacky. If you are so up to your eyeballs that you need to ask for money, downsize. Guests aside from the closest family shouldn't have to pay to attend a wedding. The usual "fee" now is already at 150€ here. I'm turning down invitations that include a bank account number and asking the couple if they don't.
Linziaj 3 years ago
It's so wrong and embarrassing if you can't afford it as well
Load More Replies... ScarletRos 3 years ago
I think it’s becoming more acceptable to ask for money in lieu of gifts these days, particularly now that people tend to live together before marrying.
Monday 3 years ago
Yeah when a friend of mine got married a few years ago her invitations specified no gifts, but if people really wanted to give them something they could give money. Just about everybody gave money and they spent it on stuff they needed.
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Anne Mitchell 3 years ago
It is considered very I’ll mannered to ask for money as a wedding gift. If your wedding is expensive beyond your budget then cut back and accept any gifts graciously.
Richard Smith 3 years ago
Advice: 1. Simplify. A wedding/reception should not be expensive. It should be small, dignified and sacred. It's about the marriage, not the wedding. 2. Do you own thing. Ignore any tradition you don't like, start your own. If someone doesn't like it, tough, it's not their wedding. 3. I don't see anything wrong with requesting cash donations in lieu of gifts. Newlyweds need cash, not a half a dozen toasters.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
The dancing thing makes me absolutely cringe. I would never have a dance at a wedding. People get so gross and half the time you just want to know how long you have to stay before you can leave without it being rude. Plus people bring kids a lot and it's just a cluster. I hate dancing and I'd rather dance with my partner alone or at least not in front of everyone I know. Garters are just weird and creepy if you really think about it. To each their own but weddings just feel like an overly expensive party that almost no one enjoys except the bride/groom and their immediate family. And even then sometimes it's a disaster. Unless it's really important to you, save your money and just elope and have a nice vacation together.
kath morgan 3 years ago
We did a first dance but I didn’t want to be the centre of attention for the whole song so I asked my parents and bff to get up and start the dancing a little while in.
Mabelbabel 3 years ago
I married quite a few years after most of my friends did, so by the time I came to organising our wedding, I knew exactly what I didn't want. I wanted the ceremony and the reception on the same site, no sit down dinner, no first dance, no giving away, no formal cake. We had a photographer who took very few formal shots, mostly candid. I didn't want any of me getting ready, and I didn't have the big gown-I went for a cocktail length instead. I know everyone is different, but I saw it as a one day event, a wedding isn't a marriage, what cones after a wedding is far more important.
Jaya 3 years ago
In my country it is accepted to ask for money as a wedding gift. And wedding registries aren't really a thing in my country, you either give money, a gift you've picked out yourself, or you ask if there's something they want/need. If you want money as a wedding gift, you simply write on your wedding invitation: gift suggestion *envelope icon*
Bella V 3 years ago
If you want to get money do what we did. We already bought our house and raised kids and all that so we didn't need blenders and c**p so we said on our invitations "Your presence is a gift enough however, if you do feel inclined to get the Bride and Groom a present, a donation to their honeymoon fund would be appreciated" EVERYONE obliged and our honey moon was paid for and then some. It was awesome. We went to Puerto Rico for a week and then to New York (his home town) for a week to see the family that couldn't fly down to see us get married.
Himory TheDreamer 3 years ago
IMO if you don't want to do it you shouldn't do it. And if you don't want it and your partner does then either 1. you shouldn't be getting married as you clearly aren't on the same page regarding communication or 2. you communicated about it and decided to compromise in which case you shouldn't be complaining about it still.
Conny Dickow 3 years ago
Money is the most common and perfectly acceptable wedding gift here in Germany. People usually come up with all kinds of creative ways to design the gift and work the money in as props.
Heather Daniels 3 years ago
The dollar dance may be dumb, but it paid for our gas and food on our honeymoon!
Helen Waight 3 years ago
Only good thing about being disabled that day was me having a very very good reason why there would be no dancing at all, let alone a dance with me! I can’t do it!
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
On the above. 1. We did this, it was ok. 2. We didn't do that. 3. What is that? 4. We did money. 5. We got a family member to do photos.
Jason Melvil 3 years ago
The registry thing always seemed weird to me. In my country the common thing to do is to leave money indeed.
#28
The over the top spending in general. I'm now divorced; however, when I got married... I was excited to BE married... I wasn't excited to GET married. I think there's too much of an emphasis on rings, gowns, and impressing all of your guests. I walked into the bridal shop, tried on ONE dress, and said "Ok, good to go!" I believe it was maybe $250. We ordered our rings off of Amazon for probably $50-$75 each, at the most. A wedding should be about celebrating a commitment to one another, not spending a down payment on a house to throw a party, in my opinion. This holds true, especially, for those people that spend money they don't have on it. I could have just walked down to the courthouse with my ex and been just as happy. I would rather have the money to save for a home for a future family or a college fund for future kids than on a single day of my life.
Richard Smith 3 years ago
"A wedding should be about celebrating a commitment to one another, not spending a down payment on a house to throw a party, in my opinion." AGREE!
#29
The woman buying her dress. I mean why? In theory you will only wear it once. It makes more sense for the guy to buy his tux, there's at least a chance he'll wear it again.
Foxxy says goodbye. 3 years ago
I have been with my hubby for 20 years and he has never worn a tux. Not even for our own wedding.
#30
All the flowers arrangements. I have been to so many weddings where there are amazing, expensive displays on all the tables, down the aisle, etc. etc. It's a lot of money to spend, and totally not worth it (put it toward the food!). Though it can be amusing to see people fight over them once the event is over.
Monika Rhodes 3 years ago
I had someone use food tins, cheap yellow flowers and leftover ribbons tied on the cans, taken the labels off, of course. Loved how amazing it looked.
#31
Just had my wedding back in May. It was AWESOME because if I don't know you, or talk to you, or visit you, and you don't know my birthday, where I work, that I'm even engaged, what state I live in... no, I'm not inviting you. Sorry.
My best friend got married over the weekend. I didn't get to see or talk to her at all during the reception because they were stuck walking around talking to extended family. F**k that noise. I wanna get wasted and dance. It's a party! She did get a f**k ton of presents though.
#32
Brides jumping into water with their wedding dress on. You could drown idiot!
#33
Registering for gifts. Giving gift cards instead of cash, although this applies to more than just weddings.
I mean, we eventually spent the $1200 in Target gift cards, but it would've been cool to spend it at other places as well.
Mohsie Supposie 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, cold hard cash please! Not just for the wedding, you can give it to me ANY time!
#34
Buying a ring then struggling to be financially happy
#35
Being expected to have a dance. I hate dancing I've never ever liked it (no not even as a child) and basically everyone tells me that ill have fun dancing because it'll be my wedding day blah blah. Seriously. I always think it'd be fun to go bowling or something but get a third degree burn for not wanting to dance on my wedding day. Maybe the rest of the people there could dance while i enjoy spending time with all the people who came to my wedding
#36
Just about all of it. I have very little concern for standard traditions. I pick the ones I like. We celebrate Halloween and kinda celebrate Christmas but thats about it. Even Christmas we don't get a tree, we get one big present each and take a vacation. For our wedding we basically just through a party. No one brought gifts they all just brought a bottle of liquor and we got a keg. We invited all our friends and immediate family and just ignored all the stress and flare of organizing a wedding and making sure people do certain toasts and dances at particular times. just have fun.
#37
Registries, honey funds, and wishing wells. It's just begging.
#38
Personally, I've always thought that it's pretty dumb that some people have to invite their parents' friends and coworkers who they don't know to their wedding just because their parents are paying for it and want to host their friends. Host your friends at your own party, mom.
Shell Shelly 3 years ago
"JUST because" they're paying..? If you don't pay for your own wedding, be grateful enough to let your parents invite few of their friends as well. I mean, what does that cost YOU?
#39
Getting married after just a year of dating. That's a lifetime commitment, you gotta be SURE you're ready.
Andy Smith 3 years ago
My parents met July 4th 1976, dad proposed 3 days later and they were married December 11th of that year. They were married 29 1/2 yrs when dad died. Sometimes you just know.
#40
A friend of mine and I argue about this because she did it at her wedding and I had never seen it before, but apparently it's very common and popular. The unity sand bottle thing. It's just extra time in the ceremony. I asked her what they did with it and apparently it was just put in some box somewhere.
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Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
One I loathe is the clinking of glasses to get the couple to kiss. I hate the noise. I hate the spectacle. I hate the "command performance" feeling. We told everyone we weren't going to do it, but a few of my aunts tried it, anyway. George planted a smooch on his best man's cheek, and I kissed one of my pals on the top of the head. They didn't clink glasses any more after that. Guys, if a couple says they don't want to do a thing at their wedding, don't try to force them to do the thing.
James016 3 years ago
Wedding speeches: I hated writing it, I hated saying it. The fact I had to stand up in front of everyone and speak with all eyes on me was just horrible and made me anxious. Rest of the night was great though.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I didn't write it - I just ad-libbed on the day, as if I was having a funny chat at a bar with friends. Needless to say I said some off-colour stuff but who cares. It was just for laughs.
Load More Replies... Aunt Riarch 3 years ago
Do it Amanda. My goddaughter is getting married in Vegas next month, she has my wholehearted approval, all I ask is photos!
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Pirates of Zen Pants 3 years ago
My husband and I had a $100 wedding, but his brother's weddings were much more lavish. The brother (let's call him Mike) got married to the same woman three times on two different continents. To raise money, the bride shook her behind at the New England wedding and invited people to stuff money in her garter, all while chanting, "Money! Money! Money!" If that's not a sign of the Apocalypse, I don't know what is.
Nicole Herron 3 years ago
It doesn't help because people lie. It happened to me and now I'm stuck.
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And i was like WTF!! 3 years ago
Let me add some from Serbia: On the day of the wedding, groom needs to go to pick up his best men and then the best men and family need to have some food/drinks - stupid and unnecesary expence. Then they go to get the bride and then to "buy her" from her brothers (also there are food and drinks) - so r******d. Inviting some people just becouse "they are family" - f**k that i dont even know them, no i do not need them. This will be a day for my future wife and myself. WE talked it out, and no unnecesary guests, no expences, no stupid things. P.S., just to add, people tend to make a big weddings just to "earn" some money (as presents, mostly it is custom here to just give money, tho there are people that do not sign the envelope and just give it empty)
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago
I think what these people want is a village style wedding. They are usually held outside in a clearing in the woods or town square which is free. And the only requirements are music and food and seating for the elderly. No formal wear required. Lots of dancing, socializing, and eating - good times all around. Bonus if the village has some interesting/wacky wedding traditions. I went to one were instead of wedding gifts, the bride and groom are given jackets made up of money (gifts from the attendees) and they are paraded around the village on horses.
Alejandro Reyes 3 years ago
Why label them as dumb? Many may have had a had a reason to exist in the first place, others may be very questionable, if you don't like them just don't do them, but don't judge people for doing them. I don't believe a did any of them in my wedding, but I don't label the traditions as dumb just because I don't like them or disagree with them.
Lea S. 3 years ago
Don't waste your time 'hoping these will disappear.' Do what you want at your wedding. I've been to many the last few years that adhered to NONE of these things. Also - some people do things differently. At the last rehearsal dinner I went to? It didn't cost 'thousands,' we ate at an Applebee's and we all paid for our own meal. I've NEVER, NEVER spent *thousands* on the newlyweds. If they expected it - I ignored it. If I can't afford something - I don't do it. I own one of those 'ugly' bridesmaids dresses. I wear it out at least once a month, and it wasn't chosen to make me look ugly. These sound like over-the-top couples and bridezillas.
Christy Thompson 3 years ago
The vows: "Til death do us part." How morbid! How about, Through life, one at heart."?
Tamra 3 years ago
Yeah, I insisted on deleting the "I promise to obey" BS from the vows. I did not promise to obey then, I do not promise today, and probably won't in the future. Best he knows what he's signing up for, I reckon.
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Adam Belaire 3 years ago
I find it interesting that the whole garter tossing thing is mentioned twice but no mention of tossing the bouquet.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
I threw the bouquet. All of the women just stared at it and watched it fall to the floor. It was one of the funniest moments I'd experienced until then, and it was perfect commentary on, well, everything!
Load More Replies... Jason Melvil 3 years ago
Weddings are a terrible tradition. The only thing important is that your partner is someone you want to share your life with. Everything is just LEGAL issues. Marriage is important. Weddings are stupid.
Alice 3 years ago
In Malta they have something called Stand Up weddings - it means weddings with no seating. People just mingle and dance all night. I found myself pregnant this year, and we had 3 weddings. Standing up all night looking all nice and fancy is fun, but doing that and being pregnant is hard. Honestly I had to leave the most beautiful wedding I ever seen early, as it was too difficult for me not to have a seat. My legs were so swollen, that people started to point it out.
Jaya 3 years ago
Interesting, sounds fun. Although they should have a couple of chairs around for people who can't stand for long.
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ADHORTATOR 3 years ago
American "traditions".... they don't apply in Europe. We had a small wedding with 50 people, family and friends from Germany, France, Italy, Norway and it was 1. not so expensive 2. most important it was fun!
Warrior Mama 3 years ago
I'm American and loved the European weddings I attended! I don't know if it's the norm, but for a family friend in Germany there was no expensive catering - a bunch of families each brought a lovely cake (there were at least 20 cakes) and the brides mom and aunts made a simple and delicious buffet meal. No bridal party, no speeches, just the ceremony and then eating, drinking, and dancing
Load More Replies... Niall Mac Iomera 3 years ago
Honestly: just the entire concept of marriage. Why does anyone need to get the government involved and sign a legal document declaring your romantic partnership?
Hey! 3 years ago
I think the more the years pass the more people don't realize all those traditions come from far away. The bridesmaids are supposed to be ugly in order to keep the evil spirits away from the bride. Now it either means you have a lot of friends and want to show off or you have a lot of money. Some of the weird traditions above I've never heard of, like relocating the garter on someone else's thigh.
Bri Nicole 3 years ago
Every wedding I've been to makes me not want to have one of my own. I'd probably just do a backyard wedding with a potluck. I don't understand the need for so much fancy nonsense..the most I'd want to spend is for the photographer.
Jolie McCleave 3 years ago
We had our wedding at our favourite provincial park, camping! My dress was $10 from Wish and we had a taco bar. Everyone floated down the river on fun floats (unicorns, dragons, donuts, pizza, you get the idea), flowers were fake, no stupid garter. Free wine and beer for the guests and it was marvellous!
Jason Marin 3 years ago
Here's two traditions not on the list that I never saw a purpose to. 1. Needing to get down on one knee to propose. Why? If someone is going to propose, just do it. There's no reason to get on a knee. 2. The groom not seeing the bride before the wedding. That one makes no sense at all.
Aubrie Allen 3 years ago
Just getting married in general. You can be in a relationship for as long as you want. You don't have to bring a piece of paper into it. And if it doesn't work out, divorces aren't expensive! Break ups are free! Been with my dude for over 6 years, and I would never dream of getting married. I don't see the purpose or the need to.
All's Gravy 3 years ago
These are mainly US "traditions" dreamed up by capitalism to rid as many people as possible of their $$$. You indulge yourselves in such privilege and expectation that couples use weddings as self-indulgent money-making events - always finding another thing to tag on to the build-up for the bride's ego. The evidence of this is how the US couples seem to offload the cost of wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen/ushers) outfits on to the individuals and not picked up by the bride/'s parents. A gift registry is sensible to avoid 10 toasters, and in the UK couples generally have them at John Lewis (Never knowingly undersold), and have a range of priced options from a can opener to a whole dinner service (or even a single side plate) - so pretty egalitarian. And there's still the option to go off-piste with a hand-carved rocking chair. Generally speaking, if close family have travelled some distance and are gathered in the same city or even hotel for the nuptials, then lunch or dinner the day/eve before the wedding is usual as an ice breaker for the families to meet, usually hosted by the bride's parents. But there is no 'rehearsal' of anything. (I think that might arise when weddings take place elsewhere than churches?) Showers are just a 'give me attention' moment for a needy, insecure woman who is about to realise disappointment begins here. It's one tradition to throw the bouquet, something else entirely for a male guest to be cajoled into removing the bride's garter with his teeth as a showpiece! (I had to do that in Canada, traumatising). Of course, the father giving away his daughter was part of the financial transaction of a marriage before the church took control of marriage. The father would jointly hand over the bride and the dowry.
Shelby Jackson 3 years ago
A lot of these have been faking by the wayside for decades. Like seriously. If you don't want to spend a ton of money then don't. You aren't being forced into doing anything at all that you don't want to do on your big day. You want a red dress a'la Blanche Devereux by all means have that red dress. Just do what you want to do and don't listen to anyone else. Some of these "traditions" are ones I've never heard of. Like making the bridesmaid and groomsman flirt with each other. If that's what it takes being in your wedding no thank you I'll sit in the audience. And you don't have to spend a fortune either. My wedding with everything included (my dress, his tux, food, venues, bridesmaids/groomsmen) was less than $1500.
Islandchild 3 years ago
If you don't like the tradition, don't do it. It's that simple. Or modify it to suit yourself. I was 'given away' by my sister, who was delighted to do so, she'd been trying to do that for years (sibling jk
Islandchild 3 years ago
Teasing) only things about weddings I don't understand by people do is the strive for bride (princess) perfection at other's expense, and going deep into debt.
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Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
Have your wedding the way you want, none of these are compulsory. I've had a big wedding the first time, hated it, ended in divorce. I'm now married and did the wedding our way - literally just us, our 4 kids and both our mums followed by a lovely meal and a surprise announcement to our family - no-one knew that that we were getting married that day, they were tricked into coming to the right place and told the kids it was a family members wedding we were heading to - they were told 5 minutes before it happened. Wouldn't change any of it. But, yeah, you don't have to do any of these traditions if it doesn't appeal to you - nothing bad will happen if you don't
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
One I loathe is the clinking of glasses to get the couple to kiss. I hate the noise. I hate the spectacle. I hate the "command performance" feeling. We told everyone we weren't going to do it, but a few of my aunts tried it, anyway. George planted a smooch on his best man's cheek, and I kissed one of my pals on the top of the head. They didn't clink glasses any more after that. Guys, if a couple says they don't want to do a thing at their wedding, don't try to force them to do the thing.
James016 3 years ago
Wedding speeches: I hated writing it, I hated saying it. The fact I had to stand up in front of everyone and speak with all eyes on me was just horrible and made me anxious. Rest of the night was great though.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I didn't write it - I just ad-libbed on the day, as if I was having a funny chat at a bar with friends. Needless to say I said some off-colour stuff but who cares. It was just for laughs.
Load More Replies... Aunt Riarch 3 years ago
Do it Amanda. My goddaughter is getting married in Vegas next month, she has my wholehearted approval, all I ask is photos!
Load More Replies... Pirates of Zen Pants 3 years ago
My husband and I had a $100 wedding, but his brother's weddings were much more lavish. The brother (let's call him Mike) got married to the same woman three times on two different continents. To raise money, the bride shook her behind at the New England wedding and invited people to stuff money in her garter, all while chanting, "Money! Money! Money!" If that's not a sign of the Apocalypse, I don't know what is.
Nicole Herron 3 years ago
It doesn't help because people lie. It happened to me and now I'm stuck.
Load More Replies... And i was like WTF!! 3 years ago
Let me add some from Serbia: On the day of the wedding, groom needs to go to pick up his best men and then the best men and family need to have some food/drinks - stupid and unnecesary expence. Then they go to get the bride and then to "buy her" from her brothers (also there are food and drinks) - so r******d. Inviting some people just becouse "they are family" - f**k that i dont even know them, no i do not need them. This will be a day for my future wife and myself. WE talked it out, and no unnecesary guests, no expences, no stupid things. P.S., just to add, people tend to make a big weddings just to "earn" some money (as presents, mostly it is custom here to just give money, tho there are people that do not sign the envelope and just give it empty)
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago
I think what these people want is a village style wedding. They are usually held outside in a clearing in the woods or town square which is free. And the only requirements are music and food and seating for the elderly. No formal wear required. Lots of dancing, socializing, and eating - good times all around. Bonus if the village has some interesting/wacky wedding traditions. I went to one were instead of wedding gifts, the bride and groom are given jackets made up of money (gifts from the attendees) and they are paraded around the village on horses.
Alejandro Reyes 3 years ago
Why label them as dumb? Many may have had a had a reason to exist in the first place, others may be very questionable, if you don't like them just don't do them, but don't judge people for doing them. I don't believe a did any of them in my wedding, but I don't label the traditions as dumb just because I don't like them or disagree with them.
Lea S. 3 years ago
Don't waste your time 'hoping these will disappear.' Do what you want at your wedding. I've been to many the last few years that adhered to NONE of these things. Also - some people do things differently. At the last rehearsal dinner I went to? It didn't cost 'thousands,' we ate at an Applebee's and we all paid for our own meal. I've NEVER, NEVER spent *thousands* on the newlyweds. If they expected it - I ignored it. If I can't afford something - I don't do it. I own one of those 'ugly' bridesmaids dresses. I wear it out at least once a month, and it wasn't chosen to make me look ugly. These sound like over-the-top couples and bridezillas.
Christy Thompson 3 years ago
The vows: "Til death do us part." How morbid! How about, Through life, one at heart."?
Tamra 3 years ago
Yeah, I insisted on deleting the "I promise to obey" BS from the vows. I did not promise to obey then, I do not promise today, and probably won't in the future. Best he knows what he's signing up for, I reckon.
Load More Replies... Adam Belaire 3 years ago
I find it interesting that the whole garter tossing thing is mentioned twice but no mention of tossing the bouquet.
Mrs. Jan Glass 3 years ago
I threw the bouquet. All of the women just stared at it and watched it fall to the floor. It was one of the funniest moments I'd experienced until then, and it was perfect commentary on, well, everything!
Load More Replies... Jason Melvil 3 years ago
Weddings are a terrible tradition. The only thing important is that your partner is someone you want to share your life with. Everything is just LEGAL issues. Marriage is important. Weddings are stupid.
Alice 3 years ago
In Malta they have something called Stand Up weddings - it means weddings with no seating. People just mingle and dance all night. I found myself pregnant this year, and we had 3 weddings. Standing up all night looking all nice and fancy is fun, but doing that and being pregnant is hard. Honestly I had to leave the most beautiful wedding I ever seen early, as it was too difficult for me not to have a seat. My legs were so swollen, that people started to point it out.
Jaya 3 years ago
Interesting, sounds fun. Although they should have a couple of chairs around for people who can't stand for long.
Load More Replies... ADHORTATOR 3 years ago
American "traditions".... they don't apply in Europe. We had a small wedding with 50 people, family and friends from Germany, France, Italy, Norway and it was 1. not so expensive 2. most important it was fun!
Warrior Mama 3 years ago
I'm American and loved the European weddings I attended! I don't know if it's the norm, but for a family friend in Germany there was no expensive catering - a bunch of families each brought a lovely cake (there were at least 20 cakes) and the brides mom and aunts made a simple and delicious buffet meal. No bridal party, no speeches, just the ceremony and then eating, drinking, and dancing
Load More Replies... Niall Mac Iomera 3 years ago
Honestly: just the entire concept of marriage. Why does anyone need to get the government involved and sign a legal document declaring your romantic partnership?
Hey! 3 years ago
I think the more the years pass the more people don't realize all those traditions come from far away. The bridesmaids are supposed to be ugly in order to keep the evil spirits away from the bride. Now it either means you have a lot of friends and want to show off or you have a lot of money. Some of the weird traditions above I've never heard of, like relocating the garter on someone else's thigh.
Bri Nicole 3 years ago
Every wedding I've been to makes me not want to have one of my own. I'd probably just do a backyard wedding with a potluck. I don't understand the need for so much fancy nonsense..the most I'd want to spend is for the photographer.
Jolie McCleave 3 years ago
We had our wedding at our favourite provincial park, camping! My dress was $10 from Wish and we had a taco bar. Everyone floated down the river on fun floats (unicorns, dragons, donuts, pizza, you get the idea), flowers were fake, no stupid garter. Free wine and beer for the guests and it was marvellous!
Jason Marin 3 years ago
Here's two traditions not on the list that I never saw a purpose to. 1. Needing to get down on one knee to propose. Why? If someone is going to propose, just do it. There's no reason to get on a knee. 2. The groom not seeing the bride before the wedding. That one makes no sense at all.
Aubrie Allen 3 years ago
Just getting married in general. You can be in a relationship for as long as you want. You don't have to bring a piece of paper into it. And if it doesn't work out, divorces aren't expensive! Break ups are free! Been with my dude for over 6 years, and I would never dream of getting married. I don't see the purpose or the need to.
All's Gravy 3 years ago
These are mainly US "traditions" dreamed up by capitalism to rid as many people as possible of their $$$. You indulge yourselves in such privilege and expectation that couples use weddings as self-indulgent money-making events - always finding another thing to tag on to the build-up for the bride's ego. The evidence of this is how the US couples seem to offload the cost of wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen/ushers) outfits on to the individuals and not picked up by the bride/'s parents. A gift registry is sensible to avoid 10 toasters, and in the UK couples generally have them at John Lewis (Never knowingly undersold), and have a range of priced options from a can opener to a whole dinner service (or even a single side plate) - so pretty egalitarian. And there's still the option to go off-piste with a hand-carved rocking chair. Generally speaking, if close family have travelled some distance and are gathered in the same city or even hotel for the nuptials, then lunch or dinner the day/eve before the wedding is usual as an ice breaker for the families to meet, usually hosted by the bride's parents. But there is no 'rehearsal' of anything. (I think that might arise when weddings take place elsewhere than churches?) Showers are just a 'give me attention' moment for a needy, insecure woman who is about to realise disappointment begins here. It's one tradition to throw the bouquet, something else entirely for a male guest to be cajoled into removing the bride's garter with his teeth as a showpiece! (I had to do that in Canada, traumatising). Of course, the father giving away his daughter was part of the financial transaction of a marriage before the church took control of marriage. The father would jointly hand over the bride and the dowry.
Shelby Jackson 3 years ago
A lot of these have been faking by the wayside for decades. Like seriously. If you don't want to spend a ton of money then don't. You aren't being forced into doing anything at all that you don't want to do on your big day. You want a red dress a'la Blanche Devereux by all means have that red dress. Just do what you want to do and don't listen to anyone else. Some of these "traditions" are ones I've never heard of. Like making the bridesmaid and groomsman flirt with each other. If that's what it takes being in your wedding no thank you I'll sit in the audience. And you don't have to spend a fortune either. My wedding with everything included (my dress, his tux, food, venues, bridesmaids/groomsmen) was less than $1500.
Islandchild 3 years ago
If you don't like the tradition, don't do it. It's that simple. Or modify it to suit yourself. I was 'given away' by my sister, who was delighted to do so, she'd been trying to do that for years (sibling jk
Islandchild 3 years ago
Teasing) only things about weddings I don't understand by people do is the strive for bride (princess) perfection at other's expense, and going deep into debt.
Load More Replies... Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
Have your wedding the way you want, none of these are compulsory. I've had a big wedding the first time, hated it, ended in divorce. I'm now married and did the wedding our way - literally just us, our 4 kids and both our mums followed by a lovely meal and a surprise announcement to our family - no-one knew that that we were getting married that day, they were tricked into coming to the right place and told the kids it was a family members wedding we were heading to - they were told 5 minutes before it happened. Wouldn't change any of it. But, yeah, you don't have to do any of these traditions if it doesn't appeal to you - nothing bad will happen if you don't
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