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Keeping a diary is a common and therapeutic habit, allowing an order to the cluttered thoughts and emotions that occur throughout our daily lives. Naturally, if you are a Disney animator, your diary can take on a visual format to become a 'doodle diary.'

This is what former Disney animation professional Gary Andrews started doing on his 54th birthday, as a happily married father-of-two, documenting the joy of family life with his beautiful wife and children. Sadly, tragedy was to strike, and Gary would become a widower and a single parent within three years.

While away on a work trip to Canada, Gary's wife Joy fell ill with what they thought was a simple flu. However, it soon became apparent that it was much more serious than that, and Gary rushed home to be near his beloved. On arrival back in the UK he received the devastating news: Joy had passed away from sepsis.

Completely shell-shocked from the sudden death of Joy, Gary struggled to find a way to respond to his overwhelming grief. He opened up his notebook and let his emotions pour out onto the pages. “I was crying so hard it was difficult to focus on the page. I was drawing through tears,” he told the Daily Mail. “Joy had been my soulmate for 19 years. She was beautiful, kind, generous and funny. We did everything together. When I lost her, I felt half of me had gone.”

Through the stages of grief, Gary continued with his doodle diary, recording the ups and downs, the good days and the bad. The process of putting his thoughts and emotions down on paper helped him to cope, by allowing him to vent his feelings. Joy is a recurring part of his doodles, and he also manages to capture the continuing happiness and fun that his children bring to his life, navigating the world of being a single parent.

Sepsis is a silent killer, and cartoonist Gary hopes to raise awareness for an illness that is often regarded as an afterthought for many doctors. Its symptoms, including fever, sickness, blotchy skin and dizziness, are often mistaken for other illnesses and not recognized until too late. If captured early on, it can be treated with simple antibiotics. Gary doesn't blame anyone for Joy's death. However, it was merely bad luck. “From the minute Joy was admitted to hospital, specialists from every department tried to find out what was wrong,' he says. “They couldn't have done more. It wasn't until the post-mortem that they narrowed it down to sepsis.”

“Blame and 'what ifs' won't bring Joy back. Would she still be alive if I hadn't been to Canada and a doctor had been called a day earlier? I can't think about things like that. What happened has happened, and you have to come to terms with it. I want to move forward, to honor Joy's memory and bring up our kids in a way she would have approved of.”

Scroll down below to see some of Gary's poignant doodles for yourself on how to deal with grief, and let us know what you think in the comments.

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Shell-shocked from the sudden death of his wife, Gary struggled to find a way to respond to his overwhelming grief

He started drawing some doodles in his journal to document the daily life without his soulmate and found that expressing his emotions helped a bit

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SBW71
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so heartbreaking yet the picture is great. Mom (spirit) laughing at the daughters poem!

Carmen Elena
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus, I¨m just like smiling... shouldn´t I?

Lee from Phoenix
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with that. This one made me smile, too, which was nice after the others.

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Eileen Brown
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

watched you on The One Show and immediately went to my computer - omg how tragic for you all - your mind set and courage is just beautiful thinking of you all god bless you all from an admirer of your courage = eileen

Angelique Rosa-Bartolone
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally sad and beautiful <3 fierce daddy heart

Ruth Beaty
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I couldn't get past this one--broke my heart because my husband died three months ago and that is exactly how I feel.

Don Flynn
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my eyes are leaking but this one made me laugh out loud. I am so sorry for his loss but also happy that he has his daughter. The wife in the drawing is so cool

Pamula Furness
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7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Straight to the point and honest - I Love children's open-hearted logic

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    Joachim Rimer
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    14 Years. Some days it's still hard to process. It took me the first 4 years to really learn, that she will never come through the door again. #widowerlife #cancersucks

    TommyDAQ
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been six month since I lost my 18 yr old son. I constantly think I see him walking down the street, or in a shop window. So hard...

    adoracat
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A little over 12 years. I still smell his cologne sometimes, and I know there isn't a bottle of English Leather anywhere near, or another human in the house. It happens. I say "I still miss you too" and it fades.

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG. I wish this could be real for people who have lost someone dear to them.

    KT Trondsen
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Losing a loved one is so f*cking hard. My brother, I was so close to him, and he died very unexpectedly. I cried for YEARS after. I still do when something reminds me of him.

    Oscar
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So beautiful, but so sad.

    Rebekah
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I have so much to tell you..." Totally get this.

    Siddharth Rath
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the first time in 7 months when tears have told down my eyes... Especially this one, holding hands...

    Mer Kin
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...and that's why I am avoiding women and joined ISIS.

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    Imma Letchofinish
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one got me. I can't imagine the grief and the strength this man has. God bless him

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are all there for eachother it will get better.

    Lu
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Life...you never know when, gotta remember and just smile at whatever comes.

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many of us take it for granted.

    Bev Veep
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I would feel exactly the same way. :(

    Michael Weinberg
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I lost my wife in 2015. She left me our two beautiful girls, now 4 and 7. Thank you so very much for sharing these intimate moments. The past couple months have been especially difficult. This particular one, I really relate to, and completely feel the same. I let my dog Rosie start sleeping in our bed so its not as lonely.

    Destini Mattocks
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After we lost my dad to cancer a few years ago, mom has not been able to sleep in the bed anymore...she only sleeps on the couch. This breaks my heart.

    Kim Lorton
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To hear your soft breath, feel the warm air on my ear, these are things I miss most Your hair tangled in my hand, your arm across my chest, yo dark lashes on your alabaster cheeks, looking at our girl, reminds me of you she looks just like you! One day, we will sit and hold each other as I tell you about our life, after you went. I know you watch us, love us and... miss us, and we? Well, you are always with us And will never be sorry for missing what could have been. KLL 2018

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    again feel your pain it is so so natural

    Artahmiss
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dear god that's heart breaking..

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    Kjorn
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that''s the hardest one... hear the kids missing mommy...

    Guy Williamson
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Youth are resilient, they are stronger than we are sometimes

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dont let them miss daddy too. Be there for them. Im sure you will.

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you are an amazing dad to your beautiful brave children

    Aşh Lęę
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This brought tears to my eyes, no joke

    Nicole Bowman
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    😭😭 like, sitting in the break room balling. Losing family is *so* hard. :'(

    Jo Dempsey
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My children lost their father at age 5 and 7. I can relate. These are fantastic!

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    Kim Lorton
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You will always have the words, but they will be written in your heart, hold them close. One day, you will be able to share again.

    therealpixie
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, I had a trickle of tears before, but Lord, this caused a gusher!

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is so tragic - i understand the pain my beautiful husband passed away at twenty five years of age my son was 6 months old i truly feel your pain just wonderful how you are trying to deal with this situation can hardly type cor crying take care

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    Dian Ella Lillie
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I saw the title I thought "oh no, another Sad Panda post." I couldn't look away though, and of course I'm crying for the family, especially for the kids. If only I could magic their mother back... And all because of sepsis - if only they'd pinged it a little earlier, there'd almost certainly have been a different outcome. I know now what superpower I'd want - to be able to make the pain better for people who've had to suffer too much through fate's fickleness.

    Saubia Fatemi
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband died of sepsis. Out of nowhere. Friday he’s fine. Monday in the hospital. Thursday gone. We have 2 kids.10 and 7. Each illustration is a window into my life.

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    Laura Perkinson
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boy it does! it knocks you off your feet sometimes. a horrible rush of pain!

    justagirl
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is beautiful but oh so sad...

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    grief cerainly is it creeps us on us when least expected

    WellSea7
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this pain, all to well, you see the world walking on, you see people moving, talking, smiling, living... then you see your self, from the inside and you'd like to scream so loud it would shake the planet, I'M NOT OK TODAY~ instead you just walk on, oh the tears that fall, the heart that, amazingly beats, while lying in pieces, forever.

    Artahmiss
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you lose family you are close with, you know what this means. You don't know what triggers grief: a song, a smell, a color.

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man I feel so bad for this guy. I don't know if the drawings make him feel better or worse...I hope better.

    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    she is, are you not aware she is always there for you?

    Kiahna
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how he shows her in his comics. Just because they aren't here in body, doesn't mean they aren't here in spirit.

    I_AMAFACE
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The ones with the ghost affect me the most. wow.

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    Guy Williamson
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Scattering ashes around a tree, brings her to you through a living monument!!

    Leah Marie Jeppsen
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It will get better just have faith in god. He loves you.

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it will come so slowly watching your children you had with your lovely wife will fill you with so much pride - she will be looking down and warching

    Khat Aroo
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grief never ends, but it changes. It's a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness or lack of faith. It is the price of love.

    Chris Miilu
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wondered if the doctors ran every possible test available to diagnose sepsis. Sepsis has been around for a long time; combat medics know about it, and how to test for it, and how to catch it early and treat it. I am a bit amazed that the medical doctors this woman saw did not run every test. They missed something. Sepsis is treatable if caught early enough and aggressive treatment started. A friend developed Sepsis in a clinic in Mexico; she was in a lot of pain, went to a doctor here, and Sepsis was found. The infection left her sterile, but not dead. There is a missing part in this story.

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can start to feel more positive then you are winning. There's no rush.

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    Moo Jar
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its amazing that he still has stuff like that to remember her even better

    Eileen Brown
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my heart still breaks with certain memories after 59 years - you cope but a part of her will be with you always

    Kristin Connon
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is sad, but what really did me in is when I noticed that he still wears his wedding ring, and includes it in the drawings. For some reason that broke me.

    David Tottman
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are a wonderful human being , God bless you and your daughter .

    Judy Hofer
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very touching and genuine. The drawing and comment are from the heart.

    Bev Veep
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to stop here. My heart can't take this sad/beautiful/amazing story. My blessings to your sweet family. Xoxoxoxo

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know it's tempting but you are right. Don't do it until you are strong enough to cope with the feelings that will be dredged up.

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    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    now you've got it.. one day at a time... sometimes one hour at a time.. all will get better . in your own time..

    BusLady
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She will always be with you.

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    Deadpool
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is just so sad, and now I’m all depressed in guitar class 😞

    DancingToMyself
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just move away from that glass of wine, I had some bad experiences.

    Merieme Belhaj
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Grief is one the step of the healing but try to look to the bright side of your life is two beautiful girls that is proof that she still with body in your kids and soul in you heart and every beautiful moment you have together, cherish every moment with your kids and celebrate your wife legacy every moment you can

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    Kikka io
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    accepting loss is the most painful thing. but only after the recovery starts. without acceptance, the wound remains open.

    Reike Räubertochter
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother died when I was 7 and my sister was 10. This picture reminds me a lot of the time after her being gone. That‘s 26 years ago now... it gets better of course, but there will always be an empty spot in my heart...

    Heather Kong
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm crying and thinking of us human beings. Isolated as we are in our shells, atomic as we are in an overwhelmingly large world... we still naturally feel other's pain and feel together

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cry as much as you can and then all go to bed together. Tomorrow will be a tiny bit better.

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    PRATIK GHADAVALE
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The star that glows the brightest and that catches our eyes when we look up,.....it is the only star that relates to our loved ones .....so we know they are looking and shining upon us

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    Pamula Furness
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now I'm crying. How beautifully he has drawn her, captured her essence.................,

    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He loved his wife soon much. This is hard to even read. Imagine how much it hurts him??? Amazing he is getting through it.

    Erin Sheppard
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one has me crying alligator tears at work!!!

    Peter Kealey
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, but you have the wrong expression. It's 'crocodile tears' and that is probably not what you meant either, because it means an insincere display of emotion.

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    sharron lynn parsons
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The picture of your wife is lovely, she was a very beautiful lady, and you will see much of the mother in the children, it will warm your heart !!!

    NWB
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I need to stop cutting onions at my work desk!!!!

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    SillyPotato_Wolfhard
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whisky and stranger things... sounds like a good night to me... but im 14 so lets make the whiskey orange juice.

    BusLady
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like a full, busy day. It helps to take your mind off the grief. Getting done what needs to get done.

    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it will be more fun if the kids get involved and you all work together . great bonding and terrific life skills. involve them in all you can. tip. if you do it all you are taking away there power . teach them independence. and the work will be done faster [after a bit] and they off you guys go to do some fun stuff.

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    KT Trondsen
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't keep looking at these, I'm going to cry at work. They are beautiful

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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She really is amazing, isn't she? (I'm guessing she's a lot like Mum?) x

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    Aine
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    from one Pagan to another, Samhain is always hard, yet comforting at the same time... all the best, fellow traveler!

    LeilaOdinis
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are always with us. This day makes it a bit easier. I always light a candle for them

    Karla Thompson
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Merry meet and merry part until we merry meet again

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey man you are doing a 3k run with your kids!!! Lesser men (like me) would be getting drunk or nursing a hangover. You are stronger than you think! Keep going!

    BarryAllenTheFlash
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She sounds wonderful. The world needs more women like her 💔

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    sharron lynn parsons
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There will be many happy, sad times with the memories !

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    K. LNU
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Friends are the family we get to choose.

    sharron lynn parsons
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    Children give the comfort and love, that only children can give !!!

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    The Gumnut Flock
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg I have been literally sobbing while reading this. You guys are so strong, I know that you will make it through this ❤️❤️

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    sharron lynn parsons
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first year seems to be the worst, after that you gradually get stronger, the children and the memories will be more comforting !!!

    Karin Morris
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been on that rollecoaster for the last 18 months. The up's start lasting longer and longer, but it's a good 14 months before it does

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    PRATIK GHADAVALE
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    presence are comforting .....even when ppl are not around us.....we feel them , and miss them ....but we smile as we know they are here somewhere

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    Ruth Olson
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    tears are flowing thru this whole story. thank you for sharing

    Pamula Furness
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They certainly are! I feel so much for this guy and his little family - wishing them all all the very best in Life, and inner Peace. Beautifully written, cathartic and healing. Thank you so much for sharing! xx

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    sharron lynn parsons
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Each tear shed is filled with love for your lady !!!

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    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you are doing great.. she is always there...trust it. trust her..

    Renae Foottit
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This really explains the feeling of losing your life partner. My husband died on New Years Day. Your line of "with whom it all made sense" is so true. The inside jokes, the person to share the silly stories about your kids with, someone to just empty your heart to. It leaves a void that no one can fill. But we find new ways of sharing, and new people to share with. I have loved your pictures. They are a wonderful illustration of this strange new life we are in. Thank you.

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    Audra Granath
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Mother passed away when I was 10 as well. I'm now 52 & still not over it.....

    Felicia Dale
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry. My mother died when I was 56. I still miss her every single day. And no, I won't "get over it" either. I'm not sure I need to. <3

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    Felicia Dale
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A very dear friend of mine died just a month ago. All the songs are sad right now.

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    PRATIK GHADAVALE
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    stay strong brother......she is always there and always will be .......ur love and bond is pure......

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    Kikka io
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    when I happened to be in mourning, one of the fundamental foods to cure depression and pain was Nutella. it is a pain reliever, an antidepressant, a painkiller for the brain. and it's very good

    Rakshya A Bhujel
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the old humors are back though you're still grieving "grieving humor"

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup! You gotta stick around for the kids!

    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    gotta remember to love yourself as well.

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can totally relate. It's the dreams that kill you. Some natural sleep aids can help but don't drink till you pass out. I did that and it took years to break the habit.

    adoracat
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Melatonin is excellent. I don't drink often due to family history of alcoholism, but yeah, it can be a terrible habit to break.

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    Jon Chevalier
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if you work out during the day outside long walks etc. you will be able to sleep I keep a pillow at my back it helps.

    Sasy
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If each day could end with him going to bed to share with her his day, talk to her as he does in his doodles it might help. It was a space they shared it can also be a comfort maybe one day.

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    PRATIK GHADAVALE
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ohh stop it man...u are making me cry with all this post.....its such a beautiful feeling ur are passing to me....i never wanna lose the person that i love the most.....RIP for your wife.....she seems a kind hearted person and ur love shows in all the post......may god bless u and ur family

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    Sande Knight
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The candor is refreshing giving me a bittersweet smile!

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    Randy Inbred
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it helps, buy something for your little girl and explain why.

    Chris Miilu
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The inability of medical doctors to discover sepsis is puzzling. Sepsis has been around for a very long time; combat medics are familiar with it and how to catch it early and treat it aggressively. There are many forms and manifestations of sepsis. The doctors missed something; they didn't run every test out there. Sepsis is not a mysterious illness. It can start from a small cut. This was a death too soon, preventable and tragic.

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    Anny Seavey
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was great Grief is so long it does get better but tears and that chocking feeling are never far away my grief is my son. This is a club no-one should ever join!

    Pamula Furness
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's been over 12 years since I lost my Mum, but I feel I never had a chance to grieve properly. I had a 15 month-old daughter, so had to let it slip in whenever there was a 'free' moment. It's always around, and I am hopeful that it will get easier. I miss her so much!

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