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Mom Cancels Sleepover And Brings Daughter Home Because Of Friend’s Stepdad, His Wife Loses It
When it comes to protecting their kids, nobody can come close to the defensive power of mothers. They can literally turn into dragon-slayers if it means that their child will be safe. Besides, moms have really strong instincts as they can sense danger from miles away.
Even this woman started getting a negative vibe after meeting her daughter’s friend’s stepdad, as the guy flirted with her. She immediately cancelled their sleepover and spoke to another mom about it. Little did she know that it would spark drama with the man’s wife! Here’s what actually happened…
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The poster’s 13-year-old daughter wanted to have a sleepover with her school friend, so she went to drop her off at the girl’s house
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However, she was creeped out by the girl’s stepdad, who was drinking, flirted with her, and also told his stepdaughter to change her short clothes
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The poster refused to let her daughter stay in that house, and also shared how creepy the guy was with another mom friend who was concerned
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However, she was shocked to face backlash from the creepy dude’s wife, who accused her of isolating her daughter from the other kids
Be warned, folks, because today’s story is quite disturbing, as the original poster (OP) tells us about the conundrum she was stuck in. Her 13-year-old daughter (Elena) wanted to have a sleepover with her school friend (Kennedy), so OP agreed and went to drop her off. However, the moment she met Kennedy’s stepdad, she was instantly weirded out in her gut.
The guy was drinking and flirting with her. Also, he told his stepdaughter to go and change her clothes as they were too short. Obviously, the poster was disturbed, so she spoke with her husband, they made some excuse, and got their child out of that house before the sleepover. She didn’t think much of it until she ran into another of Elena’s friend’s mom.
When the woman asked her why her daughter wasn’t at the party at Kennedy’s house, OP spilled the truth about how creepy the stepdad was. Well, even this mother was concerned for her child and refused to send her to that house. Little did the poster know that it would anger Kennedy’s mom so much that she came and confronted her about it.
Apparently, she accused our lady of being a snob and claimed that her actions had led to other kids isolating her daughter. However, that was never the poster’s intention, but she could see how upset the other woman was. At that moment, in public, OP couldn’t really say what she felt about the lady’s husband. However, she still wondered if she shouldn’t have said anything to the other mom.
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Netizens instantly sided with OP and reassured her that she did the right thing. Considering the horrific news that keeps circulating these days, we can completely understand the mom’s concern. Data shows that at least 1 in 4 minor girls in the US experience physical violence. Also, 90% of this violence is perpetrated by someone known and trusted by the child or the child’s family.
It’s pretty obvious that any sensible parent would think twice before just leaving their child with someone they find suspicious. Sadly, researchers also speak about the “Cinderella effect,” claiming stepfathers are far more likely to harm children, as opposed to their biological fathers. Moreover, if the stepdad is creepy, like in the story, then trusting such a guy isn’t possible.
Folks online were also horrified by Kennedy’s mom’s reaction and claimed that her ignorance was enabling his behavior. Even experts stress that when people enable their family members’ toxic habits, it can adversely impact the whole family. Netizens were worried about what the stepdad might be doing to Kennedy behind her mom’s back, and honestly, we could never know.
They advised that the poster should sit her daughter down and ask her if she has experienced something untoward while in that house. It’s really awful that little kids have to suffer because of their parents’ actions, don’t you think? Also, if you were in the poster’s shoes, what would you do? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Netizens applauded the poster for trusting her gut, and they called out the angry wife for glossing over her creepy husband’s behavior
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Sylvain 3 weeks ago
You are not isolating the daughter, you are not preventing your daughter from socializing with her or anyone else. You are protecting your own. Your opinion is also not unfounded, and you've made it clear it was an opinion when asked by that other mom. The problem is both the creepy step-dad and the woman who enables him. Honestly there needs to be discreet inquiries if the friend is safe with that man.
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago
That’s my worry to, ok he might just be all mouth , but when it comes to our kids ,if it feels wrong or bad believe it, sod what other think least ops child’s safe ,if the other mum is selfish to see it then yup there’s gonna be problems for her poor lass
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R Dennis 3 weeks ago
I think OP could have handled it better, but she wasn't wrong. I told my daughter that if she ever felt uncomfortable somewhere to leave or call us to come get her. She has called a couple of times and said she "felt stupid" because nothing happened, she was just uncomfortable. I told her that leaving after something happened was too late and to trust her intuition. I probably would have just told the other mom that I was uncomfortable having my daughter at a house with a man I didn't know very well. How to address it from there, I don't know.
R Dennis 3 weeks ago (edited)
CP, I am a father and I wouldn't leave my daughter in a place she, I, or her mother felt was unsafe. I am a man, so I don't have to worry about possibly being attacked every day like women do. You sound like a pos. Do better.
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FreeTheUnicorn 3 weeks ago
So awkwardness just isn't important. Your kid is 13, there's no amount of awkwardness that will top whatever she has to deal with on the regular, so butch up. What is important is talking with her daughter and making sure she understands what's going on. That'll be awkward too but the more open you can be the less awkward it gets and as she gets older it's even more important to have good communication and trust between parents and children. What if OP hasn't seen creepo? Does the daughter know where her lines are? Does she know what she should do if they are crossed or even approached? Don't think twice about if parents are offended, they have to make their own decisions.
Fungus John 3 weeks ago
notice how the mother assumed ulterior motives when they picked the kid up? If the parents came to me and said "we're so sorry, somethings actually come up for tomorrow so my kid can't stay" I'd be like "ok". The "you don't like us cause we're poor" routine is her lashing out cause she knows her husband is skeevy.
Melinda Landis 3 weeks ago
Reminds me of something a co-worker told me about another co-worker’s husband. V married this guy she met online, in a big hurry, he moved in with her before they’d ever met in person. Many of us felt she was not being…thoughtful enough but she got really upset when I mentioned that maybe she was in too big a hurry to get married and it seemed less than safe. So P goes over to her house to drop off something when V isn’t there and R, the husband, is sitting around in his underpants, doesn’t put anything on, talks weird to P…sleeved her out. Ultimately it turned out he was cheating on V, saying he was working when he’d lost his job, gave her an STD…of course they divorced but she was so defensive about it before when we tried to warn her. She wasn’t that all young but most of us had been around the block a few more times and knew when things were weird. It ruined friendships at the time and they never really recovered but…we were right to worry and to try to tell her. Good for OP being.
June 3 weeks ago
I'll probably get downvoted to the 7th circle of hell but how could being snob be better than protecting your child? At some point, get yourself a backbone. Imo as she didn't bother to tell the truth to the mom it would have been better to ask friend about her own opinion about / experience with creepy stepdad. If she has some common sense she will want to meet stepdad and make her own opinion before leaving her daughter there again. Also, I would have no problem telling someone "ok I'm sorry but I'm feeling very uncomfortable with your husband making these remarks to / about 13yo girls". If OP thinks being seen as snob is better than protecting her child, then I tend to think she is actually snob too.
Beth Wheeler 3 weeks ago
NTA. You got major creepy vibes from this guy. I wouldn't have let my kid even go in the house.
bElLa sTairZz 3 weeks ago (edited)
parents canceling or not allowing sleepovers is very common no? everyone ive ever known with strict parents wasnt allowed to at all, especially not if the parents didnt know eachother, people would just rather be safe than sorry, i dont get why the other mother wouldnt just let it go
Laura Gillette 3 weeks ago
As a parent, I wouldn't let my child sleep over at anyone's house except family and possibly friends I know very well and trust. Certainly not at a house where I hadn't even met all of the adults who live there. Beyond whether he may have been a predator, there are other concerns. You don't know if they keep guns in the house (more of an issue in the US, I guess), or d***s, or even easily accessible alcohol that the kids might sneak and pressure your child to drink after the adults are asleep. Sleepovers were common in the 90s and 00s (maybe even in the 10s?) but I think parents are becoming less blasé about it, and for good reason. Something I say to my siblings and siblings-in-law sometimes: "we weren't raised in the 90s. We survived them." (No offense to my parents, who were genuinely awesome, but there are things they did I definitely will not do with my kid. Although my mom's overprotectiveness seems perfectly logical to me now.)
K Barnes 2 weeks ago
I have no issue with OP taking her kid home, but I do take issue with her saying that it wasn't gossiping when she told the other mom why. She mentions it wasn't a good friend and that person then went around repeating what she said, which is gossip. It's not like she told a close and trusted friend in confidence.
Dragon Ashes 2 weeks ago
The other mom is the gossiper, not OP. OP merely answers a question honestly. The other mom is the one who spread it around. Furthermore, the kids mom knew her husband came off as a creep. That's on her for marrying a creep.
Load More Replies... Jonas Fisher 3 weeks ago
Immediately disliking a person based only on his appearance is called bigotry. Why are we celebrating this person? Everything that happens from that point that "confirms" her first reaction is literally -- like it's the actual definition -- confirmation bias. OP isn't some intuitive mother. She's a bigot.
Dragon Ashes 2 weeks ago
She didn't dislike him for his appearance. She disliked him for his character (ie, how he was acting and what he said.)
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Sylvain 3 weeks ago
You are not isolating the daughter, you are not preventing your daughter from socializing with her or anyone else. You are protecting your own. Your opinion is also not unfounded, and you've made it clear it was an opinion when asked by that other mom. The problem is both the creepy step-dad and the woman who enables him. Honestly there needs to be discreet inquiries if the friend is safe with that man.
Crystalwitch60 3 weeks ago
That’s my worry to, ok he might just be all mouth , but when it comes to our kids ,if it feels wrong or bad believe it, sod what other think least ops child’s safe ,if the other mum is selfish to see it then yup there’s gonna be problems for her poor lass
Load More Replies... R Dennis 3 weeks ago
I think OP could have handled it better, but she wasn't wrong. I told my daughter that if she ever felt uncomfortable somewhere to leave or call us to come get her. She has called a couple of times and said she "felt stupid" because nothing happened, she was just uncomfortable. I told her that leaving after something happened was too late and to trust her intuition. I probably would have just told the other mom that I was uncomfortable having my daughter at a house with a man I didn't know very well. How to address it from there, I don't know.
R Dennis 3 weeks ago (edited)
CP, I am a father and I wouldn't leave my daughter in a place she, I, or her mother felt was unsafe. I am a man, so I don't have to worry about possibly being attacked every day like women do. You sound like a pos. Do better.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 3 weeks ago
So awkwardness just isn't important. Your kid is 13, there's no amount of awkwardness that will top whatever she has to deal with on the regular, so butch up. What is important is talking with her daughter and making sure she understands what's going on. That'll be awkward too but the more open you can be the less awkward it gets and as she gets older it's even more important to have good communication and trust between parents and children. What if OP hasn't seen creepo? Does the daughter know where her lines are? Does she know what she should do if they are crossed or even approached? Don't think twice about if parents are offended, they have to make their own decisions.
Fungus John 3 weeks ago
notice how the mother assumed ulterior motives when they picked the kid up? If the parents came to me and said "we're so sorry, somethings actually come up for tomorrow so my kid can't stay" I'd be like "ok". The "you don't like us cause we're poor" routine is her lashing out cause she knows her husband is skeevy.
Melinda Landis 3 weeks ago
Reminds me of something a co-worker told me about another co-worker’s husband. V married this guy she met online, in a big hurry, he moved in with her before they’d ever met in person. Many of us felt she was not being…thoughtful enough but she got really upset when I mentioned that maybe she was in too big a hurry to get married and it seemed less than safe. So P goes over to her house to drop off something when V isn’t there and R, the husband, is sitting around in his underpants, doesn’t put anything on, talks weird to P…sleeved her out. Ultimately it turned out he was cheating on V, saying he was working when he’d lost his job, gave her an STD…of course they divorced but she was so defensive about it before when we tried to warn her. She wasn’t that all young but most of us had been around the block a few more times and knew when things were weird. It ruined friendships at the time and they never really recovered but…we were right to worry and to try to tell her. Good for OP being.
June 3 weeks ago
I'll probably get downvoted to the 7th circle of hell but how could being snob be better than protecting your child? At some point, get yourself a backbone. Imo as she didn't bother to tell the truth to the mom it would have been better to ask friend about her own opinion about / experience with creepy stepdad. If she has some common sense she will want to meet stepdad and make her own opinion before leaving her daughter there again. Also, I would have no problem telling someone "ok I'm sorry but I'm feeling very uncomfortable with your husband making these remarks to / about 13yo girls". If OP thinks being seen as snob is better than protecting her child, then I tend to think she is actually snob too.
Beth Wheeler 3 weeks ago
NTA. You got major creepy vibes from this guy. I wouldn't have let my kid even go in the house.
bElLa sTairZz 3 weeks ago (edited)
parents canceling or not allowing sleepovers is very common no? everyone ive ever known with strict parents wasnt allowed to at all, especially not if the parents didnt know eachother, people would just rather be safe than sorry, i dont get why the other mother wouldnt just let it go
Laura Gillette 3 weeks ago
As a parent, I wouldn't let my child sleep over at anyone's house except family and possibly friends I know very well and trust. Certainly not at a house where I hadn't even met all of the adults who live there. Beyond whether he may have been a predator, there are other concerns. You don't know if they keep guns in the house (more of an issue in the US, I guess), or d***s, or even easily accessible alcohol that the kids might sneak and pressure your child to drink after the adults are asleep. Sleepovers were common in the 90s and 00s (maybe even in the 10s?) but I think parents are becoming less blasé about it, and for good reason. Something I say to my siblings and siblings-in-law sometimes: "we weren't raised in the 90s. We survived them." (No offense to my parents, who were genuinely awesome, but there are things they did I definitely will not do with my kid. Although my mom's overprotectiveness seems perfectly logical to me now.)
K Barnes 2 weeks ago
I have no issue with OP taking her kid home, but I do take issue with her saying that it wasn't gossiping when she told the other mom why. She mentions it wasn't a good friend and that person then went around repeating what she said, which is gossip. It's not like she told a close and trusted friend in confidence.
Dragon Ashes 2 weeks ago
The other mom is the gossiper, not OP. OP merely answers a question honestly. The other mom is the one who spread it around. Furthermore, the kids mom knew her husband came off as a creep. That's on her for marrying a creep.
Load More Replies... Jonas Fisher 3 weeks ago
Immediately disliking a person based only on his appearance is called bigotry. Why are we celebrating this person? Everything that happens from that point that "confirms" her first reaction is literally -- like it's the actual definition -- confirmation bias. OP isn't some intuitive mother. She's a bigot.
Dragon Ashes 2 weeks ago
She didn't dislike him for his appearance. She disliked him for his character (ie, how he was acting and what he said.)
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