“She Threw A Fit”: Dad Tells 12-Year-Old She’ll Have To Give Up Her Room And Move In With A 4-Year-Old, Looks For Validation Online But Gets Called Out Instead

Yes!! Spot on.

I’m wildly confused by this level of hostility against parents with many children. The culture differences are most likely to blame why I’m so surprised. Should they have like a 6 bedroom house, or they have no right to have a 4th child and have their elderly and sick MIL live with them? Should they ask their daughter if they can have the 4th child? In my opinion it is not too much to ask the kid who stays there only 7 weeks a year to make some adjustments. The adjustments should be handled delicately, because she can easily feel left out because of the family situation. I think she maybe already feels like the odd one out because she stays in her room so much. Personally I think it’s best to move in the boys together and keep the baby with the parents until they're at least 2-3. But after that the same thing will arise again: where to put the toddler? The daughter is then maybe 15. Keep the toddler in daughters room 45 weeks a year and 7 weeks in parents room, maybe.

You realize, in many places, all over the world, and even in the US, lots of children don't have their own rooms?

This is a short sited and incredibly rude statement. It just screams I’m judging you for your life. OP is asking for HELP. And all you’re folding out is judgement. Give yourself a pat on the back. Now YTA. In my opinion 4yr old should move to brothers room when sister comes to visit. It just isn’t appropriate for a girl her age to be sharing her room with a male sibling that young.

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It's their business how many kids they have. However there is a simpler solution to the problem. Put the two boys 2 and 4 in a room together.

How is it too ma y kids to have kids sharing a room? That's not even close to too many

Not all kids are planned? Should they have an abortion because it'd inconvenience their daughter? It's not like they are asking her to help raise their other kids. Not every family is the same and people need to understand that.

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Not that many years ago, kids would have a drawer to sleep in. And they build the world as it is now. ou're all a bunch of spoiled pussy's

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There's more than enough space. What are you talking about. There's enough space to have a separate office 45 weeks a year. Divorce sucks, but being part of a family is not being entitled to a certain amount of square meters. If she is in her room for most of the time, why be there and not just at home with mom anyway? Of she's not constantly there, it's no problem to make more temporary arrangements for when she's there.

Pissed? I'd be gone. She's with her mom most of the year, and now that her dad has clearly demonstrated that she's a burden and has no place in his new family, I doubt she'll be using that bedroom anymore.

So put the boys together and the 12yo room can sit empty 45 weeks out of the year? Perfect.

My brother had to share with my two year old brother at the same age bc they were the boys. And he didn't throw a fit although it was definitely not an ideal arrangement for him. Everyone on this thread has daddy issues

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Why should the 14 year old get a shrine that is sealed off and not used for 45 or so weeks out of the year?

This. The daughter may not use the room more than a few weeks a year, but it is being used as a home office when she's not there. So, it's not going unused in her absence. Why is it that the two and four year olds can't share a room? How does it make any sense to put a preteen girl and a preschooler in the same room? Two preschoolers, one room, equals a common sense solution. But hey, if you're itching to let your first born child know she's not all that important in the total scheme of your new family, by all means, carry on. Absolutely, YTA OP!

I agree. Keep your sperm out of the vagina if you don't have the means to support it.

That's a good idea actually. Group of 3 gets a bigger room out of the group of 2. Parents move to a smaller room because there's fewer of them. Makes sense to me.

Wow. What abitch! The wife obviously. Actually, AND the husband for letting her do that.

My ex's new wife kicked my kids out of their house. People are crazy.

That's trauma on trauma. Made homeless and then in a war. All because two people couldn't behave like decent adults. The step mother could have worked things out to everyone's advantage, including hers - a sweet teenage boy could have been a big brother and helped out on occasion. When my sister-in-law (part-time stepmom to three) got pregnant, she used that to persuade her 6-year-old stepson to do better in school: "If you learn to read, you'll be able to read to the baby."