Women Are Saving Time On Dating Apps By Asking For Controversial Opinions As The First Thing And These Are 30 Answers They Got
The internet can be a wonderful tool to use to connect with people that are like-minded, that can help you with your problems or that can become your romantic partners in the future. There are numerous apps which can assist you with the latter. But if you have any experience with those apps, you realize that there are so many people who don’t share the same values as you and it turns out that you just wasted your time getting to know a person with whom you can’t see yourself.
But after some time, you find some tricks and control questions that immediately reveal if the conversation is worth continuing. TikToker Amanda N went viral with 9 million views for sharing her method of asking the other person to tell their most controversial opinion and showing their answers. Other TikTokers joined the trend too and we found out that this simple question actually reveals a lot about a person.
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Amanda N posted her video earlier this month and 9.4 million people were interested to hear what she said. And apparently people thought that her advice is really useful and is a time-saver when it comes to finding out if the conversation is worth continuing and if the person is worth their time because the video also has 1.4 million likes and has started a bit of a trend.
Other people on TikTok started creating videos similar to Amanda’s using the same song in the background and showing what their matches on dating apps were saying were their most controversial opinions.
The "Unwind" Series is based kinda like a what if around this opinion. Very good and thought inducing
I will probably get downvoted, and I’m sorry if I am misinterpreting this, but I kind of agree! (I swear that I don’t mean to say anything rude, ever!)
We can’t know if those people who were sharing the answers showed everything they received or just the ones that were actually controversial and borderline concerning, but even if they showed the worst messages they got, there were too many of them.
Some of the answers were more lighthearted, like liking a specific movie or having an opinion about food. But others were highly political, racist or sexist, immediately indicating that person's core values.
Too bad that wouldn't work for many jobs like construction, transit, people on call etc.
Yeah, I'm a woman and I don't get the almost comically long nails some women have. The ones about as long as half their finger again. They're not practical for anything; you could literally have someone's eye out and fingernails on a keyboard is way more annoying than fingernails on a chalkboard - the latter is limited by the size of the board, you'd have a brief pause while they reposition their fingers. But on a keyboard they could theoretically be at it for 8 WHOLE HOURS (theoretically, because I'd have thrown their damn computer out the window before the first hour is up)
Not really controversial. We all land on a spectrum in oh-so-many areas. :-)
People are often skeptical towards the odds of finding a long-term relationship through dating apps. But both in real life and online, there are different people who you just wouldn’t get along with and people who you really click with.
According to Imperial College Business School’s data, in the UK, 32 percent of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 originated online. This is quite a significant increase from 19 percent during the period recorded earlier between 2005 and 2014.
The Imperial Business School predicts that by 2035, more people will be in relationships that started online rather than meeting through friends, family or at other social gatherings. Online dating definitely has its pros and cons and to make the experience smoother, tips like Amanda’s will surely come in handy.
What is your experience with dating apps? Will you be trying to ask for controversial opinions from now on? What is your take on the answers TikTokers got there? Leave us your thoughts and reactions in the comments!
probably not as evil and bad as "the purge" style of no government, though
As a cyclist who has been hit by a car, AND lived in the Netherlands, I agree that we can't safely co-exist on small roads - car drivers get impatient when they have to (god forbid) slow down to safely pass a cyclist. But it's not like they are suffering - they're just sitting there in a comfy seat, shaking their fist at someone who ALSO pays taxes for the same road.
Depends on the country, here in the UK cyclists more often than not ignore the rules of the road, and historically they didn't pay any taxes towards the roads because it was all *supposed* to be funded by taxes that they don't pay like fuel tax and road tax.
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Worldwide, we inherited a road system used by carts pulled by animals. Without significant changes, several ton vehicles hurl along soft-skinned humans. A minimum trajectory deviation will result in death or crippling wounds. Statistically, with 1.2 billion vehicles circulating without a physical separation with cyclists and motorcyclists, contact it's going to occur. It's a scientific fact; inertia, mass, force, and kinetic energy do not know or respect human laws. Good intentions or moral restraint can't stop 2 tons of steel.
Cyclists make me nervous. It's ok in town where we're all going slow, but on a winding 50mph road I don't want to turn a bend at the speed limit and find an unprotected human panting up the hill at a fraction of the speed I'm doing. Factoring in a vehicle to your braking distance is one thing
Cyclists where I'm at love to get on these winding back roads that have no shoulder forcing me into oncoming traffic blindly. Seems very dangerous to me. Can't they bike on a road that's safer for everyone?
You do know that you're supposed to stay behind the cyclist until you can see far enough ahead to pass safely, right? I mean I know that cyclists can be a pain, but you sound dangerous!
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Dude honk the s**t out of me because I was riding in the lane on a road that has "BICYCLES MAY USE FULL LANE" signs. Also had someone who was in the left turn lane, suddenly pulled to the right lane in front of the bike lane and the bicyclists when the light turned green. Not all bicyclists are breaking traffic rules, but some drivers are sure as hell ignoring them.
Maybe if the US pulled its head out of its ass and overhauled the infrastructure and putting in bike lanes, it wouldn't be a problem
For me it depends what kind of cyclist they are. If they cycle to work/school etc. they're never a problem. If they cycle purely for sport they're horrible. Here they ride almost as fast as cars, even in blind turns, which causes a lot of accidents and near-misses. They hardly ever watch out for anyone else and pass you super close. It pisses me off to no end that the cyclist in my city insist on using the crowded sidewalks for exercise instead of the countless park/forest trails that have been set up specifically for that purpose.
Cyclist here agreeing wholeheartedly. Worked in a very progressive town that passed a law where bicyclists could ride abreast even when they blocked traffic flow. Choose one or the other, but both together is infuriating and causes road rage.
I have no trouble sharing the road, but unfortunately a lot of cyclists here in the states are just entitled a**wipes. I understand Some of it, but they are supposed to follow the same rules as vehicles. So when tbey ride through stop sign, fail to signal, etc. It just makes things more dangerous and difficult. Plus, everyone has to give right of way to pedestrians. But the cyclist, pretty much never do.
I think that's a bit extreme - I agree to some degree though. They should only ride on bike trails. Where I live the roads are narrow and winding with blind hills, blind curves, and no shoulder. There are literally 100s of miles of bike trails around here, but at least once a week I almost accidentally kill a cyclist who is riding on the roads. And you can't pass them either or you'll end up crashing in to another car coming over a blind hill/curve. Do they have a death wish? It's dangerous for everyone and I think it should be illegal. I really just don't understand why anyone would want to ride a bike where it's extremely likely that they could be run off the road or killed!
The whole issue with cyclists depends on the country. In a country where they're the majority on an inner-city road (e.g netherlands, vietnam, etc.), it's fine. But in others it's not so cool. For example, we have heavy traffic here, sometimes four lanes (inside a city), with a cyclist on it, it's super unsafe, becasue everyone's moving too fast for him to transition lanes safely. Also, no bicycle lanes or almost none. On top of that, many reckless drivers - particularly public transport! - one guy recently got dragged under a minibus for 0,5km. Dead obviously. Lastly, cyclists here are generally upperclass twits in spandex getting their exercise while the rest of us have to commute to work, so, actually, no, they're just pretensious roadhogs. Most cyclists here are sport enthusiasts, not commuters. Commuters on bicycles here are poor, and they keep off the main roads, because they know the risks.
Ah yes, bringing squalor on people with an awareness for the environment, less money, and/or a lack of a drivers license, just the world's best thing (obviously sarcasm)
Some cyclists have more money spent on their bikes and gear than I pay in rent.
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at least the fights between the cyclists and the person they almost wrecked are enjoyable
(First let it be known I do not have anything against bikers this is just my few personal annoying experiences with them) Ohhh boy can i tell you . I live in a town in Scotland that is really well known for cycling and it is a PAIN I have nothing against cyclists but GOD when you are stuck on a street that’s full of bikes or you’re already late for an audition for a play and you get caught behind a group of bikers like again nothing against them I know most of them are respectful but some don’t even PEDAL like seriously I am going to a town twenty mins away am already late can you at least pedal please and there are also the ones that are on the paths on streets and they leave rubbish and all the public bins full and when I want lunch on a Friday afternoon when I get home from school. Nothing. No sandwiches no salads no Pringles no nothing the entire place looks like it’s been looted. Like I have nothing against cyclist and I encourage anyone who likes it to cycle but these piss meoff
They aren't going to know that, they can't read minds.
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Yes, until there is a road dedicated to them, stay away from the main roads!
I have no problem generally with cyclists, but I’ve been almost hit by them like a dozen times, ON FOOT AS A PEDESTRIAN. They need to stop being d***s if they want everyone else to stop.
Well, are you moving around confusingly or refusing to move, or standing directly in the middle of the path? Because that can be part of the problem.
Load More Replies... Someone once said "Give a cyclist an inch, and they'll take the whole mile." And it's so true. Cyclists expect the same benefits as drivers but still break basic traffic rules.
It is deeply hilarious to hear a car driver whining about bicycles not respecting basic traffic rules. Where I come from, drivers treat traffic laws like mere suggestions. Cars are the problem, not cyclists.
Load More Replies... It’s so beyond stupid to me that they want to share the road with vehicles. You’re going like 2 miles an hour on a 40mph road. What the fück is that. Why is everyone against just biking on the sidewalk? Walkers and bikers are way more similar than drivers and bikers. Dafuq.
Yes omg we were debating this at school last year and it never did get resolved
I guess you're allowed to feel weird if you get hit on by someone from the same gender? I mean, as long as that doesn't become a reason to treat someone else like crap.
Also could be viruses and diseases which have been frozen in Antarctica which are melting, but sure, real estate is a priority as opposed to a second pandemic and destroying the planet
when someone says "free will is a lie", run away! They are just laying the groundwork for not having to take any blame or responsibility for their actions. And don't we all know at least one person who is NEVER to blame?
don't worry, I won't get you started because I know all I need to from that one statement.
All you need to do is look at the statistics to know this is false.
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My controversial opinion is that it's okay to not have an opinion about something that has no impact on your own life. You can say "I don't have any opinion on that" and that's acceptable. NOT acceptable is saying you don't have an opinion on something while forwarding an agenda that clearly demonstrates that you do have one, however. That's just denial.
It's disgusting when people's opinions are just flat out misogynist, racist, homophobic, etc.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: I believe that every person on this planet needs therapy to some degree.
My controversial opinion: Space aliens are really us from the future, who've invented time travel to come back here to ensure some major event does/does not happen to ensure their own future.
Many of these were disgustingly misogynist, racist, homophobic etc. And of course untrue.
My most controversial opinion: oreos are disgusting and so are m&m's and come to think of it most American candy
Remember Harambe? He wasn’t the one who should have been shot. No one is special. You’re a terrible person. A hot dog is neither a sandy or a taco. Fight me.
I think this is a great idea to screen potential dates and save yourself a lot of time and energy.
They will quickly learn this is a test and they will learn to pass it. So, it can't be anything more than a passing fad.
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Absolutely agree with you until I tried the roasted garlic flavor.
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I know, tik tok is a thing now, but, never seen a youtube trend talking here. Wonder why. Feels uncomfortable every time, i see a article about tik tok here.
Controversial opinion: Opioides can be good for some people and work, kind of, opposite to what is expected. When I started using them for a chronic pain, I also recognized something had changed in my thinking - I can now focus on stuff. If all your thoughts are read of and written into a book, my book stood next to an open window for more than 20 years, and now, I closed this window, get things done, am pretty good at my job, regardless of having very low experience in that specific field, and therefore, should not have to lie in order to get proper medication. But ... but, if I do tell this, it won't be believed by many, seen as an excuse to get high ... high? As a daily user, I never get high. Haven't been for years now - totally fine. May not be for all people, but ... I don't fug with other people's needs and beliefs, yet mine likely are taken as an excuse just to get high, regardless of daily use prevents even slight highs from happening.
@ DC yes, my comment is only meant to help if I can I'm a healer it's in my nature and I'm always happy to share the things I've learned in my 22 years in healthcare. I'm not judging you nor do I think any less of you for needing medication. I know some physicians just prescribe medication instead of doing tests to find out the cause of pain and while that's not doing any harm it's not doing everything that can be done. I only wanted to help you if that's the case. Over 20 years a lot of advancements have been made in treating chronic intractable pain. I wish you well and nothing but the best!
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Probably, but in large state societies, there has not yet been found a system that results in a higher standard of living or happiness index. My bigger problem with it is that it has the side effect of destroying the environment. And because we are reaching a point of non-fixable destruction, that makes capitalism and the human species in general basically more evil than anything we've seen since the asteroid destroyed the dinosaurs.
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A hot dog is, in fact, a taco. A taco is the only other food that has meat held by the shell/bun on three 'sides'. (Yes, I'm mostly joking, but I will stand by this.)
My controversial opinion: You can be anti-religion without being a bigot. In other words, you can be against the dogma and controlling aspects of a religion (any religion) and not hate the adherents of said religion(s). So saying "XYZreligion is dangerous mind control with violent features" is not analog to XYZreligion-phobia or hating against XYZ-ers.
These questions are saving time for both the woman and the man.
My controversial opinion: staunch heartedly labeling yourself and things puts a further divide between people. It breeds mistrust/racism/civil unrest/intolerance. Instead of shutting down at dividing lines we should be having open and honest communication even if it ends in a non hostile agree to disagree.
I'm curious what they would get if they asked women their most controversial opinion.
Jaffa cakes are a biscuit! You can dunk them in tea and everything. Although personally, those dunking Jaffa cakes in tea are hell bound anyway. The only decent dunking biscuit is a squashed fly biscuit. Full stop, end of discussion.
Cakes go hard when stale and biscuits go soft. What does a Jaffa cake do? It's a teeny tiny chocolate covered cake and the sooner you come to terms with it the better you'll feel. Although a I agree there's a special circle of hell for people that dunk them in tea. Custard creams kick the s'"+ out if any other tea dunker.
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My controversial opinion: Posting screenshots of private conversations online is beyond rude. Preventing imminent harm to others is the only exception.
If you identify the other person, sure. These do not.
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My controversial opinion is that it's okay to not have an opinion about something that has no impact on your own life. You can say "I don't have any opinion on that" and that's acceptable. NOT acceptable is saying you don't have an opinion on something while forwarding an agenda that clearly demonstrates that you do have one, however. That's just denial.
It's disgusting when people's opinions are just flat out misogynist, racist, homophobic, etc.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: I believe that every person on this planet needs therapy to some degree.
My controversial opinion: Space aliens are really us from the future, who've invented time travel to come back here to ensure some major event does/does not happen to ensure their own future.
Many of these were disgustingly misogynist, racist, homophobic etc. And of course untrue.
My most controversial opinion: oreos are disgusting and so are m&m's and come to think of it most American candy
Remember Harambe? He wasn’t the one who should have been shot. No one is special. You’re a terrible person. A hot dog is neither a sandy or a taco. Fight me.
I think this is a great idea to screen potential dates and save yourself a lot of time and energy.
They will quickly learn this is a test and they will learn to pass it. So, it can't be anything more than a passing fad.
Load More Replies... Absolutely agree with you until I tried the roasted garlic flavor.
Load More Replies... I know, tik tok is a thing now, but, never seen a youtube trend talking here. Wonder why. Feels uncomfortable every time, i see a article about tik tok here.
Controversial opinion: Opioides can be good for some people and work, kind of, opposite to what is expected. When I started using them for a chronic pain, I also recognized something had changed in my thinking - I can now focus on stuff. If all your thoughts are read of and written into a book, my book stood next to an open window for more than 20 years, and now, I closed this window, get things done, am pretty good at my job, regardless of having very low experience in that specific field, and therefore, should not have to lie in order to get proper medication. But ... but, if I do tell this, it won't be believed by many, seen as an excuse to get high ... high? As a daily user, I never get high. Haven't been for years now - totally fine. May not be for all people, but ... I don't fug with other people's needs and beliefs, yet mine likely are taken as an excuse just to get high, regardless of daily use prevents even slight highs from happening.
@ DC yes, my comment is only meant to help if I can I'm a healer it's in my nature and I'm always happy to share the things I've learned in my 22 years in healthcare. I'm not judging you nor do I think any less of you for needing medication. I know some physicians just prescribe medication instead of doing tests to find out the cause of pain and while that's not doing any harm it's not doing everything that can be done. I only wanted to help you if that's the case. Over 20 years a lot of advancements have been made in treating chronic intractable pain. I wish you well and nothing but the best!
Load More Replies... Probably, but in large state societies, there has not yet been found a system that results in a higher standard of living or happiness index. My bigger problem with it is that it has the side effect of destroying the environment. And because we are reaching a point of non-fixable destruction, that makes capitalism and the human species in general basically more evil than anything we've seen since the asteroid destroyed the dinosaurs.
Load More Replies... A hot dog is, in fact, a taco. A taco is the only other food that has meat held by the shell/bun on three 'sides'. (Yes, I'm mostly joking, but I will stand by this.)
My controversial opinion: You can be anti-religion without being a bigot. In other words, you can be against the dogma and controlling aspects of a religion (any religion) and not hate the adherents of said religion(s). So saying "XYZreligion is dangerous mind control with violent features" is not analog to XYZreligion-phobia or hating against XYZ-ers.
These questions are saving time for both the woman and the man.
My controversial opinion: staunch heartedly labeling yourself and things puts a further divide between people. It breeds mistrust/racism/civil unrest/intolerance. Instead of shutting down at dividing lines we should be having open and honest communication even if it ends in a non hostile agree to disagree.
I'm curious what they would get if they asked women their most controversial opinion.
Jaffa cakes are a biscuit! You can dunk them in tea and everything. Although personally, those dunking Jaffa cakes in tea are hell bound anyway. The only decent dunking biscuit is a squashed fly biscuit. Full stop, end of discussion.
Cakes go hard when stale and biscuits go soft. What does a Jaffa cake do? It's a teeny tiny chocolate covered cake and the sooner you come to terms with it the better you'll feel. Although a I agree there's a special circle of hell for people that dunk them in tea. Custard creams kick the s'"+ out if any other tea dunker.
Load More Replies... My controversial opinion: Posting screenshots of private conversations online is beyond rude. Preventing imminent harm to others is the only exception.
If you identify the other person, sure. These do not.
Load More Replies... What if the death row inmate is later found to be innocent?
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