shadow wolf
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I like music, standing up for what I believe in and most importantly...
trying to make a change
shadow wolf • upvoted 2 items 6 days ago
Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
Stereotypical (non-American) high school teacher. I run on coffee and stress, my fingers are permanently coated in marker dust, I own a dozen laser pointers (non of them work) and hate grading papers. I can make a barely passing grade feel like a medal or a 95 feel like a gut punch. I can silence an entire classroom with a glare and make you love my favorite book. I tear up as my students graduate, heard every I-swear-I-had-my-homework-here story and written more report cards than I can count. After 20 years of teaching I feel somewhat worn-out, and I am always complaing about kids talking too much, cell-phones, tik-tok trends, over-protective parents, bratty teenagers and school budgets. Still, I wouldn't do anything else in the world. shadow wolf • upvoted 5 items 1 week ago
Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. I don't bounce of the walls a lot -- I'd prefer looking at a computer or reading a book to going outside -- but my attention is a cliche. A few months ago I was distracted by a squirrel outside the window, and that's just the most cliched one I can remember.Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. I don't bounce of the walls a lot -- I'd prefer looking at a computer or reading a book to going outside -- but my attention is a cliche. A few months ago I was distracted by a squirrel outside the window, and that's just the most cliched one I can remember.Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
I'm the typical blonde ditz!!! Like technically I'm intelligent but dang can I be dumb 🤣Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
Introvert. Also probably neuro divergent. I treasure my solitude, my few friends, my books and time to think. Now that I am retired, I allow myself measured doses of social contact. Always got overloaded easily: too hot, too bright, too noisy, too many people. Had to get away. Nature and time alone are absolutely necessary for my mental and physical health. So, yes, I too, live alone with my cat.Show All 5 Upvotes
shadow wolf • upvoted 9 items 3 months ago
Work & Money
"Customer Threw Their Hot Coffee At Me": 30 People Share What Made Them Quit A Job The Fastest
Christmas, Occasions
Woman Doesn't Get A Single Real Present From Family, Goes No-Contact, Asks If She Overreacted
Entitled People, Social Issues
“Please Stop”: Man Endures Horrendous Treatment By Entitled Woman On Flight, Ends Up Bruised
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shadow wolf • upvoted 15 items 4 months ago
Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
I love this story just because it's so petty~ I had 2 adult men in a comment thread quite viciously attacking me, since I had the audacity to comment on a picture with a good-looking man in it that the man was good-looking. They were calling me a $lut, a wh*re, a b!tch, every derogatory name men use to dehumanize women, they used it. They were also spewing a lot of really misogynistic nonsense. I was bored, so I had some fun counter-trolling them, asking them to define what those terms meant (acting like I genuinely had no idea), and when they contradicted themselves, grilled them on how their double-standards couldn't possibly exist (my favorite being "so, by your logic, was your wife a b!tch [virgin] or a $lut [not a virgin] when you married her?"). What really cracked me up were other commentors jumping in and laughing about how I wasn't taking any of their horseshit and leading them around in circles with their own words. Eventually we were stuck in the same loop, so I went onto their profiles (everything was visible to the public), contacted their wives with screenshots of their virulently misogynistic comments, and expressed concern for their wellbeing at their being married to someone who talks about women like this. The comments IMMEDIATELY ceased and began to be deleted. What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall to see the wives confronting their husbands.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
I love this story just because it's so petty~ I had 2 adult men in a comment thread quite viciously attacking me, since I had the audacity to comment on a picture with a good-looking man in it that the man was good-looking. They were calling me a $lut, a wh*re, a b!tch, every derogatory name men use to dehumanize women, they used it. They were also spewing a lot of really misogynistic nonsense. I was bored, so I had some fun counter-trolling them, asking them to define what those terms meant (acting like I genuinely had no idea), and when they contradicted themselves, grilled them on how their double-standards couldn't possibly exist (my favorite being "so, by your logic, was your wife a b!tch [virgin] or a $lut [not a virgin] when you married her?"). What really cracked me up were other commentors jumping in and laughing about how I wasn't taking any of their horseshit and leading them around in circles with their own words. Eventually we were stuck in the same loop, so I went onto their profiles (everything was visible to the public), contacted their wives with screenshots of their virulently misogynistic comments, and expressed concern for their wellbeing at their being married to someone who talks about women like this. The comments IMMEDIATELY ceased and began to be deleted. What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall to see the wives confronting their husbands.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My ex husband was scared of the dark, so when I discovered he was cheating on me I took all the night lights when I moved out of our apartment.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
One of the best acts of revenge I have ever done is "living well". Let me explain. Growing up, I was the victim of horrendous abuse at the hands of a cruel and vicious stepmother. She was relentless about destroying my self confidence, my self worth and my relationship with my father who as his only child and very much loved, she was jealous of. Over the years, I developed a lot of trauma and as many people do, I turned to rebellious means. I also developed an addiction to substances. She had a daughter from her first marriage and together, they had my half sister. Both of them could do no wrong in life.. (I am the oldest daughter in this blended family.) Over the years, I'd heard anything from me being a "pi**e of sh*t" to never amounting to anything in my life. These mantras stuck with me and I carried this with me for decades. It became my identity. Now, fast forward to the present and cue revenge: the daughter of my step mother has had 10 kids and my parents were forced to take care of and raise them because her and her deadbeat husband were so neglectful and lazy that the kids were living in squalor and filth. My husband and I shelled out $5,000 to help them with getting everything the kids needed in 2008 when my parents took custody of them. My younger sister had to stay living at my parents house to assist with caring for so many kids and it caused her and her husband to split up and her son wanted to live with his Dad instead of having to share his life with a bunch of kids. (I love my nieces and nephews but they're a handful since they are all autistic and have special needs.) I did end up spending time in the correctional services in my home state but today, I have graduated college with a 3.9GPA, I have a successful career in behavioral health and my own side business. (The stepdaughter never graduated from high school and the other one did). My husband and I own not one but two Harleys and we bought a sailboat in 2021 and are planning to move to the ocean in 6mos. Meanwhile, the stepsister is living in a tiny converted shed on my parents property because they would be homeless due to wrecking their lives all the way around and my youngest sister is still living at home. Basically, I am the only one of the daughters who has done anything successful in life. I've been married for 23 years now to the most amazing Man who believes in my success and never gave up on me. I've got really great relationships with my children and I am over 5yrs clean from substance use. I've overcome the trauma and now help others do the same thing for a career! Anyone who might relate to being told that they are never going to amount to anything and they will never succeed, I am living proof that it can happen, just believe in your own abilities and "live well"...Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My old neighbor called the city on us multiple times. We kept our grass short, but let it grow naturally, as in not a monoculture lawn. He yelled at my kids for playing outside in our yard and called the cops on a birthday party. So when we moved I took a trip to my dad's house in the middle of Monsanto cornfields. I gathered up dandelion seeds from the heavily chemical laden fields. Then I seeded his lawn. Last time I drove past he still had yellow spots all over his precious, perfect lawn.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
3 years out of nursing school, it was my last shift working for a manager I despised. At the end of my shift, I tucked a travel alarm clock with alarm that sounded just like the IV pump alarms in the ceiling tiles over her office door.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
Wrote a bunch of 'fiction' books where I reveal the 'behind-closed-doors' actions of toxic family, backstabbing friends, and scheming employers. Then subsequently unalive those characters.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My ex-husband was mentally and physically abusive. After 18 months of hell, I finally had the courage to leave. I soon found out he had a girlfriend. Afraid for her I tracked her down and told her everything I could about her new boyfriend. Thankfully she kicked him out later the same dayHey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
Idk if this counts… a year ago a friend betrayed me and we’ve lost contact. I signed them up for duolingo so they would get spammed w emails about practicing. I actually use the account so they can be lured into a false sense of security when the emails stop for a couple of days… before BAM. They also get weekly updates on a website about tissue paper. Yes, I’m aware they could stop the emails at any time. Yes, I’m aware they probably don’t care. But it’s fun and feels like a small victory on my part.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
An ex boyfriend of mine s**ually assaulted me when I was injured after a car accident. I reported, but he got away with it. A few years later he was convicted of a similar crime towards a minor. After he was sentenced and imprisoned, I went on his Facebook wall (as myself) and shared the links to the newspaper reports of his conviction. All his friends, family and work colleagues saw, but he had no internet access so could not log in and remove it. 100% legal in my country. It's not slander or libel if you're sharing a publicly available conviction. I did not add any commentary on my own to the link. His wife was livid with rage at me though, and abused me severely. Still no regrets
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shadow wolf • upvoted 5 items 5 months ago
Hey Pandas, When Have You Been Singled Out For Being Different?
Fourth grade. We came back from summer recess. Math teacher gave us a blank 10X10 and then told us to fill in random numbers to refresh our multiplication. Pretty much everyone failed. I waited to say anything because I got 100%. I still suck at math even though I passed Ph.D stats.Hey Pandas, When Have You Been Singled Out For Being Different?
Fourth grade. We came back from summer recess. Math teacher gave us a blank 10X10 and then told us to fill in random numbers to refresh our multiplication. Pretty much everyone failed. I waited to say anything because I got 100%. I still suck at math even though I passed Ph.D stats.Hey Pandas, When Have You Been Singled Out For Being Different?
I grew up in a violent, dysfunctional family and learned to walk on eggshells and constantly be on "survival mode". Most of my reactions when interacting with others were trauma responses. I was isolated, gossiped and judged for that: "she's crazy and weird, didn't you see she talks all alone, we don't want her here". So, I spent my free time alone and didn't get invited to any group activities. But I was asked to give money for other colleagues' birthday present, for example (because "it's common sense to do that"), while nobody bothered when my own birthday came.Hey Pandas, When Have You Been Singled Out For Being Different?
A lot of the time bc I'm a brown girl who wears a hijab. Sometimes it's harmless but a lot of the time it's really unwanted attention and singling out. But I won't complain, I haven't had it too bad compared to the horror stories I hear sometimes.Show All 5 Upvotes
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shadow wolf • upvoted 7 items 5 days ago
Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. I don't bounce of the walls a lot -- I'd prefer looking at a computer or reading a book to going outside -- but my attention is a cliche. A few months ago I was distracted by a squirrel outside the window, and that's just the most cliched one I can remember.Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
Stereotypical (non-American) high school teacher. I run on coffee and stress, my fingers are permanently coated in marker dust, I own a dozen laser pointers (non of them work) and hate grading papers. I can make a barely passing grade feel like a medal or a 95 feel like a gut punch. I can silence an entire classroom with a glare and make you love my favorite book. I tear up as my students graduate, heard every I-swear-I-had-my-homework-here story and written more report cards than I can count. After 20 years of teaching I feel somewhat worn-out, and I am always complaing about kids talking too much, cell-phones, tik-tok trends, over-protective parents, bratty teenagers and school budgets. Still, I wouldn't do anything else in the world.Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
I'm the typical blonde ditz!!! Like technically I'm intelligent but dang can I be dumb 🤣Hey Pandas, What's A Stereotype That You Actually Fall Into?
Introvert. Also probably neuro divergent. I treasure my solitude, my few friends, my books and time to think. Now that I am retired, I allow myself measured doses of social contact. Always got overloaded easily: too hot, too bright, too noisy, too many people. Had to get away. Nature and time alone are absolutely necessary for my mental and physical health. So, yes, I too, live alone with my cat. shadow wolf • upvoted 13 items 3 months ago
Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
I love this story just because it's so petty~ I had 2 adult men in a comment thread quite viciously attacking me, since I had the audacity to comment on a picture with a good-looking man in it that the man was good-looking. They were calling me a $lut, a wh*re, a b!tch, every derogatory name men use to dehumanize women, they used it. They were also spewing a lot of really misogynistic nonsense. I was bored, so I had some fun counter-trolling them, asking them to define what those terms meant (acting like I genuinely had no idea), and when they contradicted themselves, grilled them on how their double-standards couldn't possibly exist (my favorite being "so, by your logic, was your wife a b!tch [virgin] or a $lut [not a virgin] when you married her?"). What really cracked me up were other commentors jumping in and laughing about how I wasn't taking any of their horseshit and leading them around in circles with their own words. Eventually we were stuck in the same loop, so I went onto their profiles (everything was visible to the public), contacted their wives with screenshots of their virulently misogynistic comments, and expressed concern for their wellbeing at their being married to someone who talks about women like this. The comments IMMEDIATELY ceased and began to be deleted. What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall to see the wives confronting their husbands.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My ex husband was scared of the dark, so when I discovered he was cheating on me I took all the night lights when I moved out of our apartment.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My old neighbor called the city on us multiple times. We kept our grass short, but let it grow naturally, as in not a monoculture lawn. He yelled at my kids for playing outside in our yard and called the cops on a birthday party. So when we moved I took a trip to my dad's house in the middle of Monsanto cornfields. I gathered up dandelion seeds from the heavily chemical laden fields. Then I seeded his lawn. Last time I drove past he still had yellow spots all over his precious, perfect lawn.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
3 years out of nursing school, it was my last shift working for a manager I despised. At the end of my shift, I tucked a travel alarm clock with alarm that sounded just like the IV pump alarms in the ceiling tiles over her office door.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
Idk if this counts… a year ago a friend betrayed me and we’ve lost contact. I signed them up for duolingo so they would get spammed w emails about practicing. I actually use the account so they can be lured into a false sense of security when the emails stop for a couple of days… before BAM. They also get weekly updates on a website about tissue paper. Yes, I’m aware they could stop the emails at any time. Yes, I’m aware they probably don’t care. But it’s fun and feels like a small victory on my part.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
One of the best acts of revenge I have ever done is "living well". Let me explain. Growing up, I was the victim of horrendous abuse at the hands of a cruel and vicious stepmother. She was relentless about destroying my self confidence, my self worth and my relationship with my father who as his only child and very much loved, she was jealous of. Over the years, I developed a lot of trauma and as many people do, I turned to rebellious means. I also developed an addiction to substances. She had a daughter from her first marriage and together, they had my half sister. Both of them could do no wrong in life.. (I am the oldest daughter in this blended family.) Over the years, I'd heard anything from me being a "pi**e of sh*t" to never amounting to anything in my life. These mantras stuck with me and I carried this with me for decades. It became my identity. Now, fast forward to the present and cue revenge: the daughter of my step mother has had 10 kids and my parents were forced to take care of and raise them because her and her deadbeat husband were so neglectful and lazy that the kids were living in squalor and filth. My husband and I shelled out $5,000 to help them with getting everything the kids needed in 2008 when my parents took custody of them. My younger sister had to stay living at my parents house to assist with caring for so many kids and it caused her and her husband to split up and her son wanted to live with his Dad instead of having to share his life with a bunch of kids. (I love my nieces and nephews but they're a handful since they are all autistic and have special needs.) I did end up spending time in the correctional services in my home state but today, I have graduated college with a 3.9GPA, I have a successful career in behavioral health and my own side business. (The stepdaughter never graduated from high school and the other one did). My husband and I own not one but two Harleys and we bought a sailboat in 2021 and are planning to move to the ocean in 6mos. Meanwhile, the stepsister is living in a tiny converted shed on my parents property because they would be homeless due to wrecking their lives all the way around and my youngest sister is still living at home. Basically, I am the only one of the daughters who has done anything successful in life. I've been married for 23 years now to the most amazing Man who believes in my success and never gave up on me. I've got really great relationships with my children and I am over 5yrs clean from substance use. I've overcome the trauma and now help others do the same thing for a career! Anyone who might relate to being told that they are never going to amount to anything and they will never succeed, I am living proof that it can happen, just believe in your own abilities and "live well"...Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
Wrote a bunch of 'fiction' books where I reveal the 'behind-closed-doors' actions of toxic family, backstabbing friends, and scheming employers. Then subsequently unalive those characters.Hey Pandas, What Act Of Revenge Are You Most Proud Of?
My ex-husband was mentally and physically abusive. After 18 months of hell, I finally had the courage to leave. I soon found out he had a girlfriend. Afraid for her I tracked her down and told her everything I could about her new boyfriend. Thankfully she kicked him out later the same dayThis Panda hasn't followed anyone yet
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