“I Know He Can Afford So Much More”: Woman Checks Her Engagement Ring’s Hallmark And Finds Out That It’s “Cheap”
Many ponder whether the material value of an engagement ring truly matters.
Some believe the “your ring isn’t what matters – it’s what it symbolizes” notion, while others lean toward the mythical requirement that folks must spend at least two to three months of their income.
However, in reality, it all varies.
Splurging on your forever partner’s engagement ring should be an individual thing that depends on a couple of factors: your earnings, pre-existing financial responsibilities like debts, the time you’re willing to spend on saving up, and perhaps whether or not you or your partner have a particular ring in mind that you’re determined to get.
That said, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. At the end of the day, it all comes down to the nature of your relationship – but that doesn’t change the fact that catching your financially stable partner cheaping out on you is the last thing anyone would want to deal with.
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The whole “Does the cost of the engagement ring matter?” question has been hotly debated for what seems like forever
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“Engagement ring expectations” – a woman who was recently proposed to took to one of the UK’s most popular websites for parents to debate her feelings and seek advice after her now-fiancé, who’s allegedly pretty financially stable, popped the question with a cheap and ill-fitting ring. The post managed to garner 217 replies that mostly sided with her disappointment.
Woman seeks advice online after discovering her relatively moneyed fiancé proposed with a cheap silver cubic zirconia ring
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The woman began her post by revealing that she got engaged approximately two months ago. She then went on to say that although she hates to admit it, when she first saw the ring, she couldn’t help but feel disappointed. It looked very inexpensive, costume jewelry-like, and didn’t resemble what she had anticipated at all.
Although the soon-to-be wife despises to admit it, she was disappointed when she first saw the ring
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It looked like costume jewelry, and when she looked up the hallmark, it turned out to be sterling silver with a cubic zirconia stone(s)
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She then added that she’s not a big jewelry wearer and that her expectations were, in fact, fairly low. Moreover, when she tried the ring on it was too big, and although her now-fiancé promised to have it adjusted for her, nothing about the ring or its fixing has been brought up since that initial chat.
But here’s the thing, the woman stated that she knows that her now-fiancé can afford so much more, as he’s “extravagant” in his own spending
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Additionally, the woman said that, out of pure curiosity, she had looked up the ring’s hallmark. She found that the stone(s) was cubic zirconia, which is essentially a cheap man-made diamond substitute, and the base was sterling silver. To give fellow non-jewelry wearers a more illustrative example, according to IGS, an International Gem Society which is the largest online gemology resource and community whose mission is to make gemology accessible and affordable, a cut and polished one-carat cubic zirconia stone will cost about 20 bucks, whereas the price for a one-carat diamond usually starts at around $1,800.
Finally, the soon-to-be wife (or not) stated that she knows that an engagement is not about money; however, she’s well aware of her partner and she knows that he can afford so much more – plus, he’s pretty “extravagant” in his own spending on himself.
So, the question stands. Does the woman’s concern scream “entitled” or should the ring price matter? What do you think?
Fellow online platform members shared their thoughts and opinions on the situation
Personally I think it's weird men are still expected to shell out a significant amount of money on a ring purchase for an engagement and women don't get men something as a signifier that he too is engaged. The ring is basically marking her as taken and is just a ploy by diamond companies to sell their ridiculously marked up wares. But in this case the lack of communication from both parties is a bit worrisome. The ring thing is still weird though
Yes. The only modern reason for a costly ring is bragging rights... spend it on a house downpayment instead. Go to local craftsman and have 1-of-a-kind ring made for comparatively few bucks.
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I think if it was a really beautiful ring that fit perfectly, it wouldn't matter what it had cost. But it wasn't. When my husband asked me, my ring was a very cheap silver band with a teensy-tiny gold triangular on top encasing a diamond splitter. Because my husband was broke back then. But it still was beautiful and fit perfectly. He had roped my grandmother in to get my ring size without me knowing. She asked me for help cleaning her jewellery and asked me to try on her rings for fun, I had absolutely no idea it was for my ring size! She had gotten some cheap plastic rings with the sizes inside she told me they'd come in a promo and let me try them and joked she might get me a ring for Christmas. I absolutely had no idea at all she was doing this for my then-bf. But this guy put in absolutely no effort to find a nice design and doesn't even seem to care that she can't wear the ring because it doesn't fit. He's definitely NOT a keeper.
Yeah, i wondered that. There's been no word on the resizing. Idk i need more info.
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Funny, I remember an article about a woman who was pissed that her fiance proposed with a lab grown diamond ring instead of a real diamond and the comments were universally about how the price of the ring shouldn't matter, yet this article it's the opposite?
I remember that one, too. I think the focus of this article is the line about how the fiancé spends a lot of money on himself on expensive things, but isn’t giving any thought or money towards his future wife’s ring. I think she starting to see red flags 🚩 but is second guessing herself.
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I feel the price of the ring shouldn't matter, but... if it's a matter of him cheaping out on you and lavishing himself then that's sort of different than 'just' the ring and deserves some reasoning.
I don't think she is hung up on the price, she is hung up on feeling like an after thought. 2 months and still not even trying to get it resized for her sends the message that this isn't a priority. THAT'S really the problem. I understand the sentiment that engagement rings shouldn't have to be super elaborate and expensive. However, proposing to your partner is one of the biggest life decisions you'll ever make. Imo, the ring signifies how this person means to you. It shouldn't be an after thought. It shouldn't be bare minimum effort or cost. It literally sets the tone for what your partner can expect if they spend the rest of their life with you.
Yet women don't buy rings for the man no matter what the price is.
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I hate to sound materialistic, but he does sound like he's going to be stingy when it comes to her. It would be a little different if he was also stingy with himself, but that's not the case. Maybe he was swindled by a shady jeweler that works on commission? I feel like more context is needed. Like, did he genuinely not know what he was doing when buying the ring, or did he know and just not care that much? Personally, if I am ever to be married, I would be happy with a simple gold band, no stones, but that's just me. She doesn't sound like she wants a three carat diamond set in platinum, just a proper engagement ring. I don't think she's being unreasonable, but, like I said, I think we need more information.
I got married in 2000. He made less than i did, so it didn’t bother me that all of our dates were cheap. Come to find out, he had a laptop, which in those days wasn’t cheap, but he couldn’t be bothered to buy me an engagement ring when he proposed. I wish I had known better because his cheapness in regards to me carried into our marriage. He spared no expense on things he wanted, but the few gifts he bought me were things like Payless shoes and cheap jewelry that ate through my skin, meanwhile he complained about the price of the diamond ring I bought him, then called himself getting mad at me for deciding to not buy him anything else. That cheap ring is a red flag. Pay attention.
Also, let me tell you... a $2000+ ring isn't going to make a marriage better or make him love you more! Just fyi. Even women with $50,000+ rings get cheated on... so I'm not sure why you think that spending more means he loves you more... if he's a good dude he's going to love you no matter what & money shouldn't factor into how much you love someone. That's not love. That's materialism. Lol. The only reason men spend as much as they do on rings is because most of them don't actually know a damn thing about these types of things & they just believe whatever stupid a*s "tradition" they're told to follow... these rings all look the same to a lot of men.. honestly, I think they'd probably love you more if you didn't throw a fit because they didn't spend a years salary on a fucken run of the mill, mass produced, unoriginal ring that holds no significance to your relationship or the value of your love other than the materialistic weight you force upon it. Just saying.
All of this! The ring is the least important part of the relationship. I love jewellery. However, I didn't have expensive expectations of an engagement ring. I've had more expensive jewellery since - as gifts from my husband and jewellery I've bought myself. Their problem is that they have very different attitudes to the situation. He might see jewellery as a worthless thing but she sees the value of the ring as symbolic. That he can afford more doesn't mean he should but getting a CZ? They don't last well. He might not know that though. His not getting the size sorted? Should go together - ideally the jeweller will want her finger there to confirm. They don't sound a very couply-couple. My husband would want me to love the ring, I do think that bit seems to be missing, but the value should be the least of it.
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I bought my own engagement ring($1500CAD). He had just finished his schooling & couldn’t afford anything, so I paid, which I absolutely did not mind. He proposed twice before I said yes, & we’ve been married for 11.5 years 🥰
Y'all have been brainwashed by De Beers to believe that the more money spent, the more he loves you. That was literally a marketing campaign to manipulate people into buying basic a*s diamonds because they not only weren't really worth anything... but they were boring & people didn't really buy them before. Not to mention.... they're not even rare. (Don't get me started on how they're mined or blood diamonds in general.. but I don't want someone losing their life just so I can have a shiny rock on my hand) its 100% all lies. Diamonds aren't actually worth anything other than the idea that they're special. Why do you think that the second you leave the jewelry store... your diamond ring isn't even worth 50% of what you paid? Also, lab grown diamonds are much cheaper & ethically sourced... can't even tell the difference.. but then again I bet 90% of you who think this woman is right can't even tell between cubic zirconia & a diamond... it's all a scam dude. Read a damn boom.
Also, don't get me wrong. My ring isn't "original" or like... better than anything mass produced. It's a ring. I talked about my ring in another novel comment I wrote. My point wasn't to s**t on anyone who loves diamonds. My point is that you only love diamonds & want them because of a very successful marketing campaign launched in 1947. But why not save some money & find a ring that's unique to you that you don't have to break the bank on that isn't unoriginal or mass produced & actually does hold value because it's special & curated to you!? That was the only reason I talked about my ring because it was cheap yet it's beautiful & I get so many compliments on it. You can literally design your own engagement ring for less than a basic a*s real diamond ring. You can use lab grown or cubic zirconia (which you can't tall apart anyway) & create something truly beautiful that represents you & your love more than a mass produced diamond ever could. That's all I'm saying. Sorry to be a sick
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Imagine being so caught up in wanting an expensive ring, that NOT getting one influences how you feel about your relationship. Instead of being excited that the person you're in love with just asked you to be their partner **for the rest of their life**, you're upset because they didn't spend what you deem to be enough money on an overpriced ring. Oof.
No matter if people agree or not, if something matters deeply to you, then you have every right to have expectations and feel disappointed if those expectations are not met.
Only if those expectations are properly articulated. It doesn't sound like she talked with him about what she wanted
Load More Replies... Why obsess with a costly ring? For status? Bragging rights? It doesn't prove anything except a willingness to go into debt.
I mean, whether or not your partner treats you with respect is important. If what she says is true and he spends much more money on himself than he did for something so special AND said he would resize it but didn't that's two things right there that show his lack of respect for her.
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Hard to judge this issue. I don't know how much did ring cost, and how extravagant her boyfriend is if he's spending money on things for himself? Is he spending money for designer clothes, expensive game consoles, cars? I personally don't think that engagement rings are necessary, and they're often overpriced, but since OP's boyfriend bought one, he should choose something decent. I don't know, perhaps he didn't know what would OP like. Or did he choose cheapest option available? They should talk about it.
my first husband {we are both males} bought a 30-buck ring from Walmart and told me it was 300 bucks, The reason? was he didn't want me to think he was poor at the time and when he saw that ring he felt that it "belonged to me" ...... HE WAS RIGHT, I love that ring, and I don't care that he lied about the price, He has since bought me one that was 3K but I made him take it back a week later cause it just didn't compare to that one he gave me that night long ago............ I don't care if you are male or female or anything else, there is NO PRICE ON LOVE OR MEMORIES
I wouldn't mind a cheap ring, if was sentimental or not a diamond (i prefer other gems). And also not gold (some gold gives me bad skin reactions). Other than that it could be cheap af and it would matter how the guy went about it. I'm unsure about this one. On one hand, she has valid concerns. He spends a lot on himself. Does he also spend a some of that on his fiancé? Not similar amounts but does he spoil her with love or gifts or both? Because you can be cheap with money but not love. And it can show in various ways. It also matters what he spends his stuff on. Is it necessities like hobbies? Family? Debts? And it matters if she does the same back, is she cheap with love and gifts? Or is it just one side? Is it no side and just miscommunication? Need much more info.
Unless if he got scammed thinking it was an expensive/decent ring, but in reality, it was fake, he's probably not the greatest person you want to be spending your whole future with. He spends a lot on himself but finds the cheapest ring for you for pretty much the most important question of one's life, that's definitely not a good quality to have.
The thing that should matter is the honesty and sincerity related to the ring. Did he lie and say it was a diamond? If he told the true about the ring, would you still have accepted? When my now husband bought my ring, he spent what was for us at the time a lot of money - we shopped for it together and he insisted we pick something that I would be proud of for my whole life (we've been married almost 30 years and I still love my ring, it is perfect for me). But when he told his brother what he spent, brother laughed and admitted that the ring he gave his wife is fake and he's never told her. They've been married longer than us, she still has that ring and doesn't know. I know they love each other and are happy, but I can't believe that the relationship started with a lie.
Seriously though…talk it out people! Almost all couples I know talked about the ring to some extent before the proposal. Or if it was a surprise they make it clear its a temporary ring and it can get resized or replaced (and then follow through with it, unlike this guy). Like a few comments said, if they are not comfortable expressing themselves to each other, then its a huge red flag. She needs to tell him how the cheap ring made her feel. And he needs a chance to explain his reasoning for it. I think she is seeing some red flags, but questioning herself. Please talk to each other.
So I guess if I had spent 10k on my ex's rings instead of 2k we would still be together? FFS people get a grip. Doesn't matter that he can afford better it is HIS bloody money, he can spend it or not. You try controlling anyone at this stage if the relationship you might find yourself a lonely person. The ring is nothing but a damned symbol anyways and a useless one at that.
cept he wasn't even upfront about it, and can't be bothered to get her a ring that fits the fact its equivalent to a ring for a child kinda bugs me but tbe bigger thing is he doesn't even care to make sure it fits, you know? tbh idc about diamonds, I'd be sad to get one cuz clearly they dont know me.well, I'd rather it be amythest or something, which is cheaper but eh I'm not big on diamonds
Load More Replies... Giggle, snerk... my ring is sterling silver and CZ...and I love it. I HATE gold, Love silver and really don't give 2 craps about the whole DeBeers Diamond marketing. If your special person knows *you* and what you like, and gets you what you like, that's what should matter.
Lol. I got my wife a $100 ring. We were both making minimum wage at the time and it was that or a $500 ring and no honeymoon. She went with the cheaper ring and honeymoon. Now (16 years later) we're much better off and I've broached the subject of upgrading her ring a few times. She's always said how much she loves her old cheap ring and suggested using the money on vacations or repairs/upgrades to the house. It's not the ring that matters. It's the time spent with the person you give the ring to that does.
Back in the olden days couples used to go ring shopping together, and the woman got to choose the ring she wanted. But Hollywood films have made it normal that if a man purposes he has to do it with a ring.
I would talk about it. Maybe he's planning on using his money for other things, like their wedding. My now-wife and I talked about it, and she flat out said she didn't want an engagement ring. Plus, her logic was that we were going to have wedding rings anyway. She doesn't need two rings to remind her of the same thing.
Maybe this ring is a test to see if you're just after his money. Seems like you failed.
It's very immature to test your intended life partner I think. But it was one of my first thoughts too
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I could see if it like looked nice maybe, or with a non-Diamond, but still pretty, stone- but she said it looked cheap. By no means do I think you should spend thousands on a ring, but for something like a wedding ring, there should at least be some thought out into it!! Seems like he didn’t care enough.
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Strike one. He deceived her. She didn't seem to know it was a fake. Then he's cheap and selfish. She should tell him she hates it. Or just dump him.
The key words that struck me were that he is extravagant when he spends money on himself. That is a red flag for his future spending habits. Let him know you are getting the ring appraised for insurance purposes and see how he reacts. Nothing wrong with wanting a nicer ring, doesn't have to cost a fortune but $1000.00 budget would be nice, since he can afford it. Cost of the ring shouldn't be a deal breaker but you should wake up and smell the roses before you get married at how little he values you when he spends so much on himself. Have an honest talk with yourself about the pros and cons of this relationship.
Um, hallmarks tell you about the metal of the ring, not the stone. I had no idea what my wife would like for a ring, so I proposed with a very cheap costume jewelry ring, with the promise that we would go and choose one together. The one she liked was gold with a small diamond and we were both happy with it.
What many people don't realise that there a great many additional marks that can, and are, added to rings. CZ is frequently stamped on the inside - unsurprisingly to prevent it being sold as something it isn't. When dealing with diamonds or gemstones of considerable size, it is normal to see a stamp with the weight of the centre gemstone.
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Sterling silver is durable and pretty, it's not in any way in poor taste to use. Cubic zirconia on the other hand is usually pretty cheap, and that ring most likely went for under 30 euros, way less if he got it on sale. I don't dislike zirconia in any way it can look great in jewelry and is way better for your budget than blowing money on the same ring but with overprized diamonds instead, but in an engagement ring? If he does indeed have the money it is a bit cheap. Then again, does it really matter? If they love each other and the relationship is working this shouldn't be a dealbreaker.
Sterling silver is lovely. Many prefer it. I have silver rings with some high quality gemstones in them. Can have a ring made with diamonds in silver. Jeweller's don't mind! Problem with CZ is that it doesn't last well, contrary to popular belief. It looks good to start - too good to be honest. Perfect inclusion-free diamonds don't tend to be affordable for most of us! If someone really wants a diamond then lab grown is a great option - or go second hand. If they have the money they can get a ring made using an older stone. If they don't have much money I'd still avoid CZ and just go for a pretty coloured gemstone instead. If people want CZ that's up to them, just don't wear it all the time and be prepared for it to go cloudy and need replacing.
Load More Replies... This whole post is a fake. The hallmark on precious metal pieces doesn't tell you anything at all about what stone is or is not mounted in it.
Some rings are stamped with a CZ inside the ring - I have one myself. You can look at this list to see common markings on rings: https://www.jewelry-secrets.com/Blog/marks-stamped-inside-rings/
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Its not the price of the ring, but you have to like it. I told my ex if he got me a ring i didnt like, it was a no. I was expecting a pink heart shaped stone (not my taste). He actually picked a beautiful ring and didnt spend a fortune.
I think you should wear a ring that you're comfortable wearing for the rest of your life - I mean, it should FIT, at the very least. Talk to him about resizing it. When doing that, if it really matters to you, discuss different materials (a diamond, etc).
...... honestly all of the people agreeing with her are unhinged. "Money doesn't matter! But he can afford a nicer ring!" .... so money DOES matter? My husband spent more Money that I wanted him to on my ring. But it was beautiful. He spent $300 on it. He didn't tell me... the dope forgot to take the receipt out of the car so I was cleaning the car & found it. I just wanted something that was unique. No diamonds. But he had it custom made for me. It's a gold right square cut (idk s**t about jewelry so sorry if my terms aren't correct) citrine with tiny little cubic zirconias bordering it. & more cubic zirconias on the top of the band. It's very "art deco" looking. Which is my favorite. It's perfect. Just because he didn't spend more on it, doesn't mean it isn't beautiful. & yes. My husband could have afforded to buy me a basic a*s diamond ring worth thousands. Why spend a ton money on something when it's literally not necessary & you can't even tell the difference without google' lol.
You made valid points. In the 1950s and 1960s women would grab the newly engaged woman's hand and examine the ring. I saw it happen to my Mom... once ...when she wore an inherited ring. Those old women at her work place were catty. So Mom had her jeweler friend make custom rings for her. One was a stunning raw emerald set in gold posts.. Those old bats quit judging her.
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After my ex gave me my engagement ring he told me that he had taken his son with him when he was shopping for it. He had found a beautiful (his words) ring bit it was a bit expensive. His 12 yo son convinced him not to buy it and to buy me a "cheaper" one. It wasn't like he couldn't afford the first one, he just let his kids influence every single aspect of his life - and not in a healthy way. I didnt truly understand the scope until after he revealed his true self after the wedding. ***Notice I said ex***
His kids were already counting money in daddy's estate. Yikes!
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and 0 women featured in these comments said "why is there still a need for the man to buy an expensive ring for me while i get him nothing", says allot of equality doesnt it. equality only when it suits them.
how about making a way less expensive but costom, unique looking ring instead at a craftsman ? wouldnt that have more value ? these women and their need to have expensive material things as a sample of how their relationship is.
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My husband could afford a very expensive ring. We were in our 60’s when we got engaged. He designed a ring (he’s no artist believe me), with our center birthstones surrounded by the birthstones of ALL of our children. I cried. I’m sure he paid under $2000 for it, but I wouldn’t care if he gave me a foil ring he made himself. He’s a kind and thoughtful husband for seven years now. Are you going to expect only expensive gifts from your fiancé your entire life?
It's the entire lack of thought. He didn't get her a ring in a style she liked, it's the wrong size, he never followed through on having it re-sized, he mislead her on the quality, conveniently allowing her to believe it was a diamond/ white gold instead of being honest, he spends a lot on himself, and it's cheap. That's a whole string of red flags.
Just another imbecile man being dominated by a woman who demands he shoud take care of her. Oh but women nowadays call themselves "angels of light-warriors-independent" and other idiotic descriptions. Independent my a s s and hope this imbecile remains free to do whatever he wants. If the fiancee didn't already took his balls.
I admit that I rolled my eyes the first time I read this because I thought she was just whining that the ring isn't expensive enough. But seeing as how he has no problems spending lots of money on himself and he got her a ring that doesn't even fit (and seems he couldn't care less if it even fit her), there's a bigger issue here. It's like he just shoved a ring at her without much thought put into it. I couldn't care less about the price of a ring and I frankly think money could be better spent on something else than am engagement ring, but if you're going to give someone a ring without any thought put into it, then why bother?
I was given a ring that belonged to my now husband's grandmother it was small not fancy but gold band with small stones probably not real diamonds either but it was beautiful to me and what it signified made it priceless. He eventually bought me a fancy silver ring with small diamond flowers that matched the wedding bands because I don't wear gold never have don't particularly care for the way it looks with my skin tone and we put his grandmother's ring away for safe keeping.
I love sterling silver jewelry my sons birth stone is cubic zirconia. So when my now Husband asked me about what type of style of ring I want I described that. Vintage style. He thought I was testing him. He said no women wants a ring cheap. I looked at him and said this women does. That is my style. I don't like gold. I don't wear gold. He found a ring that is so me simple vintage and beautiful. I cried when he put it on me. I seriously hate how females have destroyed getting engaged and married making it all about money expensive stuff. Putting yourself into debt. This is suppose to be a special emotional moment in your life not a who has the most money.
Well, if it was a test, that girl just failed. Your love isn't determined Il karats. When my parents got engaged, my father couldn't afford much. Her diamond came from a small town jewelry store, and he was told it was of very low quality. He promised my mother that, as soon as he could, he world replace it. Seven years later, and he could buy her whatever she wanted, but they had the old ring appraised for insurance purposes. It's nearly perfect and ridiculously valuable. It always had been. They just didn't know it
We've been together 15 years, married for 1. My ring is rhodium coated sterling with a cubic zirconia. It's gorgeous and cost around $60. My wedding band is just a plain gold band that belonged to my great grandmother. I'm not a jewelry person, I'd rather spend my money on our home, plants or books. His ring is black titanium with a sterling braid in the middle. His was actually more expensive.
If this person can't have a conversation with her fiancee about this, why is she marrying him?
Smart man. The only diamond I would ever purchase would be the ones at the end of a cutting bit. At least they have a practical use other than feeding someone's ego.
So i work for the precious metal industrie and gemstone industry and some silver/cubic zerconia pieces that look quite plain can reach well around the 1200$ US mark. It depends on a few factors. Main one being retailer of purchase. My fiance and i are looking at a .925 sterling with 5 cubics for 2100$ CAD/1800$ US. Our other option is silver with 2 amythests and a cubic for 3000$ CAD.
Just cause its silver and cubic doeant mean its cheap. Maybe not as expensive as an 18k gold with a cubic (90% of real diamonds in circulation are lab created or cubic zirconia. Not really real so the joke can stop and unless she has a lazer coder to scan the diamond/ cubic she really shouldnt be able to tell them apart other than maybe a low qualiy. Rings dont have a stone code only an alloy code. the stone itself is stamped and can only be read by a laser scan
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When I got engaged 37 yrs ago,He did not have the money for My ring. I purchased a ring that We both liked. I spent 4000.00 for 1 and a half carat diamond shape, S1 very little inclusion and very clear. That is What We both could afford. Now he has a great job, He paid me back. But I do not think that the Entitled woman wanted a real ri g she wanted to complain that He thinks more if himself instead of her. Honey if he is tight now with u this will never change. It will get worse when you want to buy lipstick or take a trip. He is all about himself. Make sure you Have your own bank account just for you, it's called Just In Case. Money to put there for you. I do not bring having one account have 3 of them.
Tell him you are going to get it resized since he will not do it. Maybe your wedding ring will be extravagant, please keep us posted.
I'm sorry what does blowing an excessive amount on money on a ring have to do with love? Does she only love his money? If she was so "disappointed" why did she say "yes" when he proposed? Did she yes because she actually loves him? Also nobody is forcing her to stay in this relationship- correct? Maybe she should have sat down and discuss this with her future husband. Instead she chose to go online and put him on blast. In reference to a comment that was posted in the article- maybe this is a sign of things to come? If she can't handle a simple discussion over a ring- what happens if a real situation were to arise? What is she going to do? Just sweep it under the rug?
My ring came from p**n shop for less than $100 because regular jewelery stores tried to bait/switch or upsell us. Face saving for this case, he got duped and thought he was buying real thing.
I'm surprised not to see many people talking about the deception involved here. I picked out my own ring - a vintage piece that cost a few hundred dollars, and didn't feature a diamond - because I didn't want my (now ex) spending a fortune on a piece of jewelry. I loved that ring, though. But doesn't everyone know that engagement rings are typically diamonds, unless the woman wants something else? He knew enough to buy something that looked like a diamond, so it seems he's trying to pass this ring off as something it isn't. His lack of follow up on the sizing may or may not be related, but it's also a red flag. We can all agree that the value of an engagement ring shouldn't matter. Honesty and transparency absolutely do.
When my husband proposed to me decades ago I was a bit disappointed in my ring. I noticed the diamonds in his ring were a bit larger than mine and that stung a bit. It doesn’t mean he thought less about me though. He just didn’t know much about the matter. I will say that when he asked me if I wanted to pick out my own ring I should have said yes. But I was young and the romantic in me wanted him to choose a beautiful ring. I would advise any woman today to tell her man to give the jeweler a price range for him to show the bride and let her pick the ring she likes. That way the groom stays in budget and the bride gets something she prefers. I’m not a materialistic person. But if you have to look at that ring every day it should make you smile. As a side note… my husband has bought me rings since our wedding and those I wear often. But I do wear my original wedding band.
Personally I love Sterling silver jewelry. I have always been in love with gemstones so we found a gorgeous ring that was actually on clearance at the department store and bought a band to match. It's unique and fit my personality. Maybe she should find a cute gemstone and call it a day.
To me this story screams:Dude values his personal self indulgence above the woman he proposed to.I too believe that it's insane to spring for a hugely expensive engagement ring,but being given a cheap plated cz that doesn't even fit is like a slap in the face.There are much,much nicer diamond stimulants out there.Or natural zircon.You can't resize plated silver rings,either,and I wouldn't be surprised if he knows it,too,which would explain why he hasn't even attempted to set a date to get the resizing done.He values his own self indulgence more than he values her.I'd give him back his cheap-a*s ring and tell him that if he thinks a cheap,tacky piece of costume jewelry is where I rate with him,the engagement is off.That she doesn't feel that she can talk to him about this is also a red flag.
I don't believe it has to be 2 months salary. Many live paycheck to paycheck and a few thousand $ goes a long way towards a future wedding or savings. It doesn't have to be a diamond either. Many get other gemstones. But CZ/ SS is what you'd give a child because it's so cheap in case they lose it...
I'm not one for jewelry either and I'm a super saver since I had nothing growing up. I feel like big diamond rings and fancy weddings are a waste of money. Why have a ring when you can have a life of memories. We had a wonderful time at our wedding and on our honeymoon all on the cheap. I held onto those memories when my husband was diagnosed with cancer and nearly died just 7 months later. He's now in remission over 10+ years. The ring doesn't matter. Get over it.
I understand her to a point, yet she does still come off as a bit of a gold digger. Maybe it's because I don't expect a man to spend the equivalent of six paychecks on a stone when it could go to something useful, but sterling silver is perfectly ok for a ring. Sorry it didn't come drenched in the blood of a bunch of impoverished African kids.
IF he knows what he got them this is how your life will always be. Everything you buy will be argued over and he will spend a fortune on whatever he wants for himself. Meaning you are less than in his eyes IF he was scammed and doesn't know it's not gold and a diamond that's a whole other situation. HIS reaction after you tell him it's not real is the key here. Upset it's fake and wants to replace it: green flag OR knows: RED FLAG But remember NEVER start a Convo with an accusation. Start the Convo by telling the truth. You need to get the ring sized and checked online what you needed and in the process discovered it's not a real diamond?? Not accusing but concerned he got scammed... Like I said his reaction to that is what you need to know!! N
I feel like nowadays, if someone is going to propose to their fiancee, they should do it with a simple, inexpensive but still nice, placeholder ring. That way, there's a ring to present at the proposal, the surprise isn't ruined if they like surprises, and then they can go ring shopping together for the "real" engagement/wedding rings and then the placeholder ring can be worn on a different finger or rehomed. I was lucky because my fiance put some stealthy effort into getting my ring size and also just knew me as a person and at least used that to pick out a ring that he was confident I would like. And no, its not a diamond. He knew orange is my absolute favorite color basically since I was a child, so he picked a fire opal which is gorgeous! That ring doesn't currently fit so I bought a similar one for myself, same cut and color, from Etsy for $30, sterling silver with a citrine stone. So yes, the money spent shouldn't decide if the ring is likeable, but the effort put in.
My rings were really cheap, silver and clear crystal, but I absolutely love them and never take them off. We sold our original wedding rings to help pay a deposit for a house so neither of us has one for a while, my one was bought for our 15th anniversary and means so much more than the original ring ( we still live in the house we bought).
Here's the deal, if she did get a more expensive ring, how easy could she get an exact copy if were too get lost, stolen, destroyed,etc? I literally asked for CZ ring because I had to have rings removed with a ring cutter because of medical emergencies. Btw, costume jewelry is easier to remove then the more expensive s**t. That s**t broke a damn finger being removed.
Doesn't sound like she'd get it copied at all as she said it looked cheap to her. She didn't like it from the start. Finding out it was CZ didn't help - though think she already suspected otherwise why be reading the ring's hallmarks and marks? Though I don't quite understand your point regarding the ring removal - probably my fault (tired!). Why would the stone make any difference in that scenario? A stone can be reset - CZ or diamond. Though you might not bother with CZ as they don't last well. How thick and sturdy the metal, yes, I get that. The softer and slimmer the metal the easier it will be to cut. Fortunately when I had an accident the ambulance staff were on top of that and got my rings and watch off before my arm/hands swelled from my injuries. How on earth did they break your poor finger??!!
Load More Replies... Part of me thinks this may be a test for OP....to see if she complains to him about the price of the ring. If it were me....I'd feel like it was a test.
Could be. Though if you're not sure about them, don't ask to marry them. Shouldn't ever be a test! Doesn't say if she complained about the price or the ring to him - just the size. Though if you surprise your partner with a ring the one thing you should surely do is make sure they love it. That is irrelevant of price. He doesn't seem to care which is odd. Could be an expensive ring but still be flipping ugly or simply not your taste. Better really to agree a budget for a ring and look together - even if it's just to give him an idea of preferences if someone is hung up on the idea of a 'surprise' proposal.
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As a woman, I dont understand some of us expecting a huge expensive diamond ring, like, tells really something about for valuing material and thinking it tells the love of another person. Be grateful he doesn't spend too much money, there's more than for future. A ring is a ring, or no ring at all. Get more expensive one yourself, its not his duty
He does seem to spend a lot of money though. Just not on her. And she doesn't seem to be expecting a super expensive ring, just not a toy ring.
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Wow, I'd be really seriously looking at who I'm considering marrying. Why are some woman just so ungrateful. If it was the wedding ring I'd understand, but it's not. If it was the other way around the guy would be getting litterally roasted from everyone woman that read this. Red flags on the rise already. To the Groom, think about your next step in life very very seriously. The rest of your life depends on what you do.
It probaby varies from country to country but in mine the wedding ring tends to just be a band, most likely gold (white or yellow). Sometimes patterned or engraved. Some more expensive ones might have small stones. The engagement ring tends to be the more expensive ring of the two and you should match the metals - silver engagement ring, silver wedding ring. 18ct gold engagement ring, 18ct gold wedding ring. That's not to be materialistic or just to be fussy about matching, but one metal can wear another more - 18ct up against 9ct isn't going to do very well as it is softer. All that said, mine wasn't an expensive engagement ring because we didn't have much money. Still love it.
Load More Replies... I do pretty well, so my now ex wife and I talked about what was most important, considering I was paying for our wedding. She found what she wanted on Blue Nile, and I was able to pay as we went for our wedding and an awesome delayed honeymoon skiing in the Italian Alps
Cubic zirconia is much clearer than diamond and doesn't lose its shine with time like diamond does. So he wants it to look good too. There are no diamonds in my ring and I love it
I'm sorry but that is mostly inaccurate. CZ is clearer to start. The cheaper the diamond the more inclusions it will have & the poorer the colour. Quality should improve with price. Very expensive & you'll only have inclusions that can be seen with a jewellers loupe not by eye. Diamonds do not lose their shine over time, just clean them. They're the hardest of all the gemstones. With ordinary care it will last your lifetime & still be okay to leave to a family member! CZ, on the other hand, will lose it's shine. They can go cloudy over time & will get micro-scratches. With reasonable care & infrequent wear you'll find it lasts very well but for an engagement ring? Not recommend unless you are happy to get the stone replaced in the future, which won't cost much at least. I've studied gemmology & own a great many pieces with different gems, fake & real. The only one that's clouded is the CZ. Don't want a natural diamond? There are better options.
Load More Replies... Ffs. Can’t believe people actually agree with her. Rings are a symbol and cost is not important. Halfway through my own wedding reception I said to my husband, “why did we spend so much? This is only a party, we could’ve done this at home in the garden”. The only important thing about an engagement is that you choose the right person, everything else is immaterial. A rich man that spends 10s of thousands on a ring could lose his job and/or go bankrupt and your fancy ring goes to a p**n shop
The ring is a symbol of their life-long partnership. It's not unreasonable to expect it to be durable and not a toy ring
Load More Replies... The only problem here is the lack of communication. And you. Do you spend money on him? What did you buy him? If he spends HIS money on him, it's his right to do so. It's not your money. Learn to talk in relationship. And you need to get your head out of your a*s and wake up, you bash your fíancee because he didn't spend as much on you that you wanted. What the f**k is wrong with you?
Holy gold digger Batman!! If she loves him then why worry about the ring costs? What next? Is she going to demand an expensive house? Or an expensive car?
You can't tell me this woman doesn't spend money on herself. Who cares if he treats himself? I find this woman greedy as most are. Play butt hurt when it's not what she wants. It's a ring, if you allow this to defy your relationship then you're in for alot of disappointment in life. As you won't always get what you want. This is exactly why rings are stupid.
If you complain I would not marry you, if he has money this is a great way to see how much risk he is taking, as even here you say he has money...that comment alone is a red flag. If you are right for him then it's not about what you get from him, it's about him and after marriage you will have a shared life so can get whatever you like then.
You buy a ring without her input - it's a surprise! You propose. She's delighted and accepts. You wouldn't ask 'do you like the ring?' If she said 'sorry sweetie, but not really' would you really mind? I can understand you might be disappointed that you got it wrong but you also have to be realistic and you surely want to please her. People have different tastes and what you might think is pretty she might think is fugly. Does it matter? Yes! She has to wear it and look at it day in/day out and you do not. Should it be expensive - no. However, if he is unstinting with his own purchases all the time it might make a person blink a bit at being given something so very cheap in comparison. It should not be a measure of his love but not caring how she feels about it? I think that might be. Love is about wanting to make the other happy. I'd suggest to anyone to buy any rings together and agree an affordable (for them) budget first.
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My ex. girlfriend "informed" me that when we get married, her engagement ring was to be worth "6-months of my salary". So glad that relationship fell through because she immediately hooked up with some other guy, had two kids with him, they got married.....aaaaaand then got divorced shortly after that. Bye bye b***h.
Whoa... that girl had a SCRIPT. Good on you for bowing out of that audition. Lucky escape.
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Wow, what a disgustingly selfish convetsation. I'm appauled. My first marriage didn't work out, but I bought a near flawless 1ct solitaire. Spent way too much on it, was divorced 9 years later. So much regret. Second and hopefully final time, I went with a high quakity 2ct solitaire. I'm also 20 years older and wiser. I had it comissioned in another country where Women don't have as much say in society and paid about 30% of the appraisal value. Guys. If she talks like the woman in this article...Run! Run like it's on fire, she's gonna be spending your money on stupid stuff till you finally lose half of what she hasn't squandered. My Wedding cost me 30k, my Divorce cost almosy 100k. Stay single young bros, aquire assets and let them chase you. Have them Ubered away in the norning. The one who is worth it, won't bring this grief into your life.
wow reading all those comments above from the woman. Once again you expect the best of everything on the wedding day. So tell me what do you give the Groom as a ring, anything.?? I bet you don't. Going back 20yrs or so woman were never like this, they accepted what they were given, even a tab off Soda can. Nowadays woman want and expect the world for a rings and b***h & moan if they don't get it.what a sad society we have become.
I agree that expectations with some people are ridiculous. If you're spending several months salary on a ring then I'm just glad you can bloody well afford it! No way we could! My sister gave an ex fiancé an engagement ring - mine barely wanted a wedding ring and said the cheapest band would do. Though changed his mind when he saw some of the designs and got a much more expensive one instead, his choice. It should be discussed between people and both should be happy. I'm not a fan of the man getting all the say in a ring I'm wearing for the rest of my life but then I also wasn't expecting it to be expensive.
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To all the women who are upset about this, did you spend just as much money on your husband's ring or a gift for him as he did on your ring? If not, then shut up...
This post is literally not about the money spent but the lack of care from her fiancé.
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"Im not materialistic, but let me tell you why I'm materialistic." Hate people like that. He could have spent 5k on a ring, and she'd be mad that he didn't spend 15k.
So, she wants him to take it to be fit because she's forbidden to leave the house? She wants a ring that she thinks is a reflection of her value and that's exactly what she got. She's a narcissist who craves monetary validation she can flaunt. That's it. His love should be enough. This is setting off red flags for me. He is allowed to spend his hard earned money on whatever he wants, so maybe she should buy something she wants with her own damn money and be happy he tolerates her archaic materialistic b******t. She might get a nice ring at the wedding but if she keeps bitching, I would break it off.
Personally I think it's weird men are still expected to shell out a significant amount of money on a ring purchase for an engagement and women don't get men something as a signifier that he too is engaged. The ring is basically marking her as taken and is just a ploy by diamond companies to sell their ridiculously marked up wares. But in this case the lack of communication from both parties is a bit worrisome. The ring thing is still weird though
Yes. The only modern reason for a costly ring is bragging rights... spend it on a house downpayment instead. Go to local craftsman and have 1-of-a-kind ring made for comparatively few bucks.
Load More Replies... I think if it was a really beautiful ring that fit perfectly, it wouldn't matter what it had cost. But it wasn't. When my husband asked me, my ring was a very cheap silver band with a teensy-tiny gold triangular on top encasing a diamond splitter. Because my husband was broke back then. But it still was beautiful and fit perfectly. He had roped my grandmother in to get my ring size without me knowing. She asked me for help cleaning her jewellery and asked me to try on her rings for fun, I had absolutely no idea it was for my ring size! She had gotten some cheap plastic rings with the sizes inside she told me they'd come in a promo and let me try them and joked she might get me a ring for Christmas. I absolutely had no idea at all she was doing this for my then-bf. But this guy put in absolutely no effort to find a nice design and doesn't even seem to care that she can't wear the ring because it doesn't fit. He's definitely NOT a keeper.
Yeah, i wondered that. There's been no word on the resizing. Idk i need more info.
Load More Replies... Funny, I remember an article about a woman who was pissed that her fiance proposed with a lab grown diamond ring instead of a real diamond and the comments were universally about how the price of the ring shouldn't matter, yet this article it's the opposite?
I remember that one, too. I think the focus of this article is the line about how the fiancé spends a lot of money on himself on expensive things, but isn’t giving any thought or money towards his future wife’s ring. I think she starting to see red flags 🚩 but is second guessing herself.
Load More Replies... I feel the price of the ring shouldn't matter, but... if it's a matter of him cheaping out on you and lavishing himself then that's sort of different than 'just' the ring and deserves some reasoning.
I don't think she is hung up on the price, she is hung up on feeling like an after thought. 2 months and still not even trying to get it resized for her sends the message that this isn't a priority. THAT'S really the problem. I understand the sentiment that engagement rings shouldn't have to be super elaborate and expensive. However, proposing to your partner is one of the biggest life decisions you'll ever make. Imo, the ring signifies how this person means to you. It shouldn't be an after thought. It shouldn't be bare minimum effort or cost. It literally sets the tone for what your partner can expect if they spend the rest of their life with you.
Yet women don't buy rings for the man no matter what the price is.
Load More Replies... I hate to sound materialistic, but he does sound like he's going to be stingy when it comes to her. It would be a little different if he was also stingy with himself, but that's not the case. Maybe he was swindled by a shady jeweler that works on commission? I feel like more context is needed. Like, did he genuinely not know what he was doing when buying the ring, or did he know and just not care that much? Personally, if I am ever to be married, I would be happy with a simple gold band, no stones, but that's just me. She doesn't sound like she wants a three carat diamond set in platinum, just a proper engagement ring. I don't think she's being unreasonable, but, like I said, I think we need more information.
I got married in 2000. He made less than i did, so it didn’t bother me that all of our dates were cheap. Come to find out, he had a laptop, which in those days wasn’t cheap, but he couldn’t be bothered to buy me an engagement ring when he proposed. I wish I had known better because his cheapness in regards to me carried into our marriage. He spared no expense on things he wanted, but the few gifts he bought me were things like Payless shoes and cheap jewelry that ate through my skin, meanwhile he complained about the price of the diamond ring I bought him, then called himself getting mad at me for deciding to not buy him anything else. That cheap ring is a red flag. Pay attention.
Also, let me tell you... a $2000+ ring isn't going to make a marriage better or make him love you more! Just fyi. Even women with $50,000+ rings get cheated on... so I'm not sure why you think that spending more means he loves you more... if he's a good dude he's going to love you no matter what & money shouldn't factor into how much you love someone. That's not love. That's materialism. Lol. The only reason men spend as much as they do on rings is because most of them don't actually know a damn thing about these types of things & they just believe whatever stupid a*s "tradition" they're told to follow... these rings all look the same to a lot of men.. honestly, I think they'd probably love you more if you didn't throw a fit because they didn't spend a years salary on a fucken run of the mill, mass produced, unoriginal ring that holds no significance to your relationship or the value of your love other than the materialistic weight you force upon it. Just saying.
All of this! The ring is the least important part of the relationship. I love jewellery. However, I didn't have expensive expectations of an engagement ring. I've had more expensive jewellery since - as gifts from my husband and jewellery I've bought myself. Their problem is that they have very different attitudes to the situation. He might see jewellery as a worthless thing but she sees the value of the ring as symbolic. That he can afford more doesn't mean he should but getting a CZ? They don't last well. He might not know that though. His not getting the size sorted? Should go together - ideally the jeweller will want her finger there to confirm. They don't sound a very couply-couple. My husband would want me to love the ring, I do think that bit seems to be missing, but the value should be the least of it.
Load More Replies... I bought my own engagement ring($1500CAD). He had just finished his schooling & couldn’t afford anything, so I paid, which I absolutely did not mind. He proposed twice before I said yes, & we’ve been married for 11.5 years 🥰
Y'all have been brainwashed by De Beers to believe that the more money spent, the more he loves you. That was literally a marketing campaign to manipulate people into buying basic a*s diamonds because they not only weren't really worth anything... but they were boring & people didn't really buy them before. Not to mention.... they're not even rare. (Don't get me started on how they're mined or blood diamonds in general.. but I don't want someone losing their life just so I can have a shiny rock on my hand) its 100% all lies. Diamonds aren't actually worth anything other than the idea that they're special. Why do you think that the second you leave the jewelry store... your diamond ring isn't even worth 50% of what you paid? Also, lab grown diamonds are much cheaper & ethically sourced... can't even tell the difference.. but then again I bet 90% of you who think this woman is right can't even tell between cubic zirconia & a diamond... it's all a scam dude. Read a damn boom.
Also, don't get me wrong. My ring isn't "original" or like... better than anything mass produced. It's a ring. I talked about my ring in another novel comment I wrote. My point wasn't to s**t on anyone who loves diamonds. My point is that you only love diamonds & want them because of a very successful marketing campaign launched in 1947. But why not save some money & find a ring that's unique to you that you don't have to break the bank on that isn't unoriginal or mass produced & actually does hold value because it's special & curated to you!? That was the only reason I talked about my ring because it was cheap yet it's beautiful & I get so many compliments on it. You can literally design your own engagement ring for less than a basic a*s real diamond ring. You can use lab grown or cubic zirconia (which you can't tall apart anyway) & create something truly beautiful that represents you & your love more than a mass produced diamond ever could. That's all I'm saying. Sorry to be a sick
Load More Replies... Imagine being so caught up in wanting an expensive ring, that NOT getting one influences how you feel about your relationship. Instead of being excited that the person you're in love with just asked you to be their partner **for the rest of their life**, you're upset because they didn't spend what you deem to be enough money on an overpriced ring. Oof.
No matter if people agree or not, if something matters deeply to you, then you have every right to have expectations and feel disappointed if those expectations are not met.
Only if those expectations are properly articulated. It doesn't sound like she talked with him about what she wanted
Load More Replies... Why obsess with a costly ring? For status? Bragging rights? It doesn't prove anything except a willingness to go into debt.
I mean, whether or not your partner treats you with respect is important. If what she says is true and he spends much more money on himself than he did for something so special AND said he would resize it but didn't that's two things right there that show his lack of respect for her.
Load More Replies... Hard to judge this issue. I don't know how much did ring cost, and how extravagant her boyfriend is if he's spending money on things for himself? Is he spending money for designer clothes, expensive game consoles, cars? I personally don't think that engagement rings are necessary, and they're often overpriced, but since OP's boyfriend bought one, he should choose something decent. I don't know, perhaps he didn't know what would OP like. Or did he choose cheapest option available? They should talk about it.
my first husband {we are both males} bought a 30-buck ring from Walmart and told me it was 300 bucks, The reason? was he didn't want me to think he was poor at the time and when he saw that ring he felt that it "belonged to me" ...... HE WAS RIGHT, I love that ring, and I don't care that he lied about the price, He has since bought me one that was 3K but I made him take it back a week later cause it just didn't compare to that one he gave me that night long ago............ I don't care if you are male or female or anything else, there is NO PRICE ON LOVE OR MEMORIES
I wouldn't mind a cheap ring, if was sentimental or not a diamond (i prefer other gems). And also not gold (some gold gives me bad skin reactions). Other than that it could be cheap af and it would matter how the guy went about it. I'm unsure about this one. On one hand, she has valid concerns. He spends a lot on himself. Does he also spend a some of that on his fiancé? Not similar amounts but does he spoil her with love or gifts or both? Because you can be cheap with money but not love. And it can show in various ways. It also matters what he spends his stuff on. Is it necessities like hobbies? Family? Debts? And it matters if she does the same back, is she cheap with love and gifts? Or is it just one side? Is it no side and just miscommunication? Need much more info.
Unless if he got scammed thinking it was an expensive/decent ring, but in reality, it was fake, he's probably not the greatest person you want to be spending your whole future with. He spends a lot on himself but finds the cheapest ring for you for pretty much the most important question of one's life, that's definitely not a good quality to have.
The thing that should matter is the honesty and sincerity related to the ring. Did he lie and say it was a diamond? If he told the true about the ring, would you still have accepted? When my now husband bought my ring, he spent what was for us at the time a lot of money - we shopped for it together and he insisted we pick something that I would be proud of for my whole life (we've been married almost 30 years and I still love my ring, it is perfect for me). But when he told his brother what he spent, brother laughed and admitted that the ring he gave his wife is fake and he's never told her. They've been married longer than us, she still has that ring and doesn't know. I know they love each other and are happy, but I can't believe that the relationship started with a lie.
Seriously though…talk it out people! Almost all couples I know talked about the ring to some extent before the proposal. Or if it was a surprise they make it clear its a temporary ring and it can get resized or replaced (and then follow through with it, unlike this guy). Like a few comments said, if they are not comfortable expressing themselves to each other, then its a huge red flag. She needs to tell him how the cheap ring made her feel. And he needs a chance to explain his reasoning for it. I think she is seeing some red flags, but questioning herself. Please talk to each other.
So I guess if I had spent 10k on my ex's rings instead of 2k we would still be together? FFS people get a grip. Doesn't matter that he can afford better it is HIS bloody money, he can spend it or not. You try controlling anyone at this stage if the relationship you might find yourself a lonely person. The ring is nothing but a damned symbol anyways and a useless one at that.
cept he wasn't even upfront about it, and can't be bothered to get her a ring that fits the fact its equivalent to a ring for a child kinda bugs me but tbe bigger thing is he doesn't even care to make sure it fits, you know? tbh idc about diamonds, I'd be sad to get one cuz clearly they dont know me.well, I'd rather it be amythest or something, which is cheaper but eh I'm not big on diamonds
Load More Replies... Giggle, snerk... my ring is sterling silver and CZ...and I love it. I HATE gold, Love silver and really don't give 2 craps about the whole DeBeers Diamond marketing. If your special person knows *you* and what you like, and gets you what you like, that's what should matter.
Lol. I got my wife a $100 ring. We were both making minimum wage at the time and it was that or a $500 ring and no honeymoon. She went with the cheaper ring and honeymoon. Now (16 years later) we're much better off and I've broached the subject of upgrading her ring a few times. She's always said how much she loves her old cheap ring and suggested using the money on vacations or repairs/upgrades to the house. It's not the ring that matters. It's the time spent with the person you give the ring to that does.
Back in the olden days couples used to go ring shopping together, and the woman got to choose the ring she wanted. But Hollywood films have made it normal that if a man purposes he has to do it with a ring.
I would talk about it. Maybe he's planning on using his money for other things, like their wedding. My now-wife and I talked about it, and she flat out said she didn't want an engagement ring. Plus, her logic was that we were going to have wedding rings anyway. She doesn't need two rings to remind her of the same thing.
Maybe this ring is a test to see if you're just after his money. Seems like you failed.
It's very immature to test your intended life partner I think. But it was one of my first thoughts too
Load More Replies... I could see if it like looked nice maybe, or with a non-Diamond, but still pretty, stone- but she said it looked cheap. By no means do I think you should spend thousands on a ring, but for something like a wedding ring, there should at least be some thought out into it!! Seems like he didn’t care enough.
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Strike one. He deceived her. She didn't seem to know it was a fake. Then he's cheap and selfish. She should tell him she hates it. Or just dump him.
The key words that struck me were that he is extravagant when he spends money on himself. That is a red flag for his future spending habits. Let him know you are getting the ring appraised for insurance purposes and see how he reacts. Nothing wrong with wanting a nicer ring, doesn't have to cost a fortune but $1000.00 budget would be nice, since he can afford it. Cost of the ring shouldn't be a deal breaker but you should wake up and smell the roses before you get married at how little he values you when he spends so much on himself. Have an honest talk with yourself about the pros and cons of this relationship.
Um, hallmarks tell you about the metal of the ring, not the stone. I had no idea what my wife would like for a ring, so I proposed with a very cheap costume jewelry ring, with the promise that we would go and choose one together. The one she liked was gold with a small diamond and we were both happy with it.
What many people don't realise that there a great many additional marks that can, and are, added to rings. CZ is frequently stamped on the inside - unsurprisingly to prevent it being sold as something it isn't. When dealing with diamonds or gemstones of considerable size, it is normal to see a stamp with the weight of the centre gemstone.
Load More Replies... Sterling silver is durable and pretty, it's not in any way in poor taste to use. Cubic zirconia on the other hand is usually pretty cheap, and that ring most likely went for under 30 euros, way less if he got it on sale. I don't dislike zirconia in any way it can look great in jewelry and is way better for your budget than blowing money on the same ring but with overprized diamonds instead, but in an engagement ring? If he does indeed have the money it is a bit cheap. Then again, does it really matter? If they love each other and the relationship is working this shouldn't be a dealbreaker.
Sterling silver is lovely. Many prefer it. I have silver rings with some high quality gemstones in them. Can have a ring made with diamonds in silver. Jeweller's don't mind! Problem with CZ is that it doesn't last well, contrary to popular belief. It looks good to start - too good to be honest. Perfect inclusion-free diamonds don't tend to be affordable for most of us! If someone really wants a diamond then lab grown is a great option - or go second hand. If they have the money they can get a ring made using an older stone. If they don't have much money I'd still avoid CZ and just go for a pretty coloured gemstone instead. If people want CZ that's up to them, just don't wear it all the time and be prepared for it to go cloudy and need replacing.
Load More Replies... This whole post is a fake. The hallmark on precious metal pieces doesn't tell you anything at all about what stone is or is not mounted in it.
Some rings are stamped with a CZ inside the ring - I have one myself. You can look at this list to see common markings on rings: https://www.jewelry-secrets.com/Blog/marks-stamped-inside-rings/
Load More Replies... Its not the price of the ring, but you have to like it. I told my ex if he got me a ring i didnt like, it was a no. I was expecting a pink heart shaped stone (not my taste). He actually picked a beautiful ring and didnt spend a fortune.
I think you should wear a ring that you're comfortable wearing for the rest of your life - I mean, it should FIT, at the very least. Talk to him about resizing it. When doing that, if it really matters to you, discuss different materials (a diamond, etc).
...... honestly all of the people agreeing with her are unhinged. "Money doesn't matter! But he can afford a nicer ring!" .... so money DOES matter? My husband spent more Money that I wanted him to on my ring. But it was beautiful. He spent $300 on it. He didn't tell me... the dope forgot to take the receipt out of the car so I was cleaning the car & found it. I just wanted something that was unique. No diamonds. But he had it custom made for me. It's a gold right square cut (idk s**t about jewelry so sorry if my terms aren't correct) citrine with tiny little cubic zirconias bordering it. & more cubic zirconias on the top of the band. It's very "art deco" looking. Which is my favorite. It's perfect. Just because he didn't spend more on it, doesn't mean it isn't beautiful. & yes. My husband could have afforded to buy me a basic a*s diamond ring worth thousands. Why spend a ton money on something when it's literally not necessary & you can't even tell the difference without google' lol.
You made valid points. In the 1950s and 1960s women would grab the newly engaged woman's hand and examine the ring. I saw it happen to my Mom... once ...when she wore an inherited ring. Those old women at her work place were catty. So Mom had her jeweler friend make custom rings for her. One was a stunning raw emerald set in gold posts.. Those old bats quit judging her.
Load More Replies... After my ex gave me my engagement ring he told me that he had taken his son with him when he was shopping for it. He had found a beautiful (his words) ring bit it was a bit expensive. His 12 yo son convinced him not to buy it and to buy me a "cheaper" one. It wasn't like he couldn't afford the first one, he just let his kids influence every single aspect of his life - and not in a healthy way. I didnt truly understand the scope until after he revealed his true self after the wedding. ***Notice I said ex***
His kids were already counting money in daddy's estate. Yikes!
Load More Replies... and 0 women featured in these comments said "why is there still a need for the man to buy an expensive ring for me while i get him nothing", says allot of equality doesnt it. equality only when it suits them.
how about making a way less expensive but costom, unique looking ring instead at a craftsman ? wouldnt that have more value ? these women and their need to have expensive material things as a sample of how their relationship is.
Load More Replies... My husband could afford a very expensive ring. We were in our 60’s when we got engaged. He designed a ring (he’s no artist believe me), with our center birthstones surrounded by the birthstones of ALL of our children. I cried. I’m sure he paid under $2000 for it, but I wouldn’t care if he gave me a foil ring he made himself. He’s a kind and thoughtful husband for seven years now. Are you going to expect only expensive gifts from your fiancé your entire life?
It's the entire lack of thought. He didn't get her a ring in a style she liked, it's the wrong size, he never followed through on having it re-sized, he mislead her on the quality, conveniently allowing her to believe it was a diamond/ white gold instead of being honest, he spends a lot on himself, and it's cheap. That's a whole string of red flags.
Just another imbecile man being dominated by a woman who demands he shoud take care of her. Oh but women nowadays call themselves "angels of light-warriors-independent" and other idiotic descriptions. Independent my a s s and hope this imbecile remains free to do whatever he wants. If the fiancee didn't already took his balls.
I admit that I rolled my eyes the first time I read this because I thought she was just whining that the ring isn't expensive enough. But seeing as how he has no problems spending lots of money on himself and he got her a ring that doesn't even fit (and seems he couldn't care less if it even fit her), there's a bigger issue here. It's like he just shoved a ring at her without much thought put into it. I couldn't care less about the price of a ring and I frankly think money could be better spent on something else than am engagement ring, but if you're going to give someone a ring without any thought put into it, then why bother?
I was given a ring that belonged to my now husband's grandmother it was small not fancy but gold band with small stones probably not real diamonds either but it was beautiful to me and what it signified made it priceless. He eventually bought me a fancy silver ring with small diamond flowers that matched the wedding bands because I don't wear gold never have don't particularly care for the way it looks with my skin tone and we put his grandmother's ring away for safe keeping.
I love sterling silver jewelry my sons birth stone is cubic zirconia. So when my now Husband asked me about what type of style of ring I want I described that. Vintage style. He thought I was testing him. He said no women wants a ring cheap. I looked at him and said this women does. That is my style. I don't like gold. I don't wear gold. He found a ring that is so me simple vintage and beautiful. I cried when he put it on me. I seriously hate how females have destroyed getting engaged and married making it all about money expensive stuff. Putting yourself into debt. This is suppose to be a special emotional moment in your life not a who has the most money.
Well, if it was a test, that girl just failed. Your love isn't determined Il karats. When my parents got engaged, my father couldn't afford much. Her diamond came from a small town jewelry store, and he was told it was of very low quality. He promised my mother that, as soon as he could, he world replace it. Seven years later, and he could buy her whatever she wanted, but they had the old ring appraised for insurance purposes. It's nearly perfect and ridiculously valuable. It always had been. They just didn't know it
We've been together 15 years, married for 1. My ring is rhodium coated sterling with a cubic zirconia. It's gorgeous and cost around $60. My wedding band is just a plain gold band that belonged to my great grandmother. I'm not a jewelry person, I'd rather spend my money on our home, plants or books. His ring is black titanium with a sterling braid in the middle. His was actually more expensive.
If this person can't have a conversation with her fiancee about this, why is she marrying him?
Smart man. The only diamond I would ever purchase would be the ones at the end of a cutting bit. At least they have a practical use other than feeding someone's ego.
So i work for the precious metal industrie and gemstone industry and some silver/cubic zerconia pieces that look quite plain can reach well around the 1200$ US mark. It depends on a few factors. Main one being retailer of purchase. My fiance and i are looking at a .925 sterling with 5 cubics for 2100$ CAD/1800$ US. Our other option is silver with 2 amythests and a cubic for 3000$ CAD.
Just cause its silver and cubic doeant mean its cheap. Maybe not as expensive as an 18k gold with a cubic (90% of real diamonds in circulation are lab created or cubic zirconia. Not really real so the joke can stop and unless she has a lazer coder to scan the diamond/ cubic she really shouldnt be able to tell them apart other than maybe a low qualiy. Rings dont have a stone code only an alloy code. the stone itself is stamped and can only be read by a laser scan
Load More Replies... When I got engaged 37 yrs ago,He did not have the money for My ring. I purchased a ring that We both liked. I spent 4000.00 for 1 and a half carat diamond shape, S1 very little inclusion and very clear. That is What We both could afford. Now he has a great job, He paid me back. But I do not think that the Entitled woman wanted a real ri g she wanted to complain that He thinks more if himself instead of her. Honey if he is tight now with u this will never change. It will get worse when you want to buy lipstick or take a trip. He is all about himself. Make sure you Have your own bank account just for you, it's called Just In Case. Money to put there for you. I do not bring having one account have 3 of them.
Tell him you are going to get it resized since he will not do it. Maybe your wedding ring will be extravagant, please keep us posted.
I'm sorry what does blowing an excessive amount on money on a ring have to do with love? Does she only love his money? If she was so "disappointed" why did she say "yes" when he proposed? Did she yes because she actually loves him? Also nobody is forcing her to stay in this relationship- correct? Maybe she should have sat down and discuss this with her future husband. Instead she chose to go online and put him on blast. In reference to a comment that was posted in the article- maybe this is a sign of things to come? If she can't handle a simple discussion over a ring- what happens if a real situation were to arise? What is she going to do? Just sweep it under the rug?
My ring came from p**n shop for less than $100 because regular jewelery stores tried to bait/switch or upsell us. Face saving for this case, he got duped and thought he was buying real thing.
I'm surprised not to see many people talking about the deception involved here. I picked out my own ring - a vintage piece that cost a few hundred dollars, and didn't feature a diamond - because I didn't want my (now ex) spending a fortune on a piece of jewelry. I loved that ring, though. But doesn't everyone know that engagement rings are typically diamonds, unless the woman wants something else? He knew enough to buy something that looked like a diamond, so it seems he's trying to pass this ring off as something it isn't. His lack of follow up on the sizing may or may not be related, but it's also a red flag. We can all agree that the value of an engagement ring shouldn't matter. Honesty and transparency absolutely do.
When my husband proposed to me decades ago I was a bit disappointed in my ring. I noticed the diamonds in his ring were a bit larger than mine and that stung a bit. It doesn’t mean he thought less about me though. He just didn’t know much about the matter. I will say that when he asked me if I wanted to pick out my own ring I should have said yes. But I was young and the romantic in me wanted him to choose a beautiful ring. I would advise any woman today to tell her man to give the jeweler a price range for him to show the bride and let her pick the ring she likes. That way the groom stays in budget and the bride gets something she prefers. I’m not a materialistic person. But if you have to look at that ring every day it should make you smile. As a side note… my husband has bought me rings since our wedding and those I wear often. But I do wear my original wedding band.
Personally I love Sterling silver jewelry. I have always been in love with gemstones so we found a gorgeous ring that was actually on clearance at the department store and bought a band to match. It's unique and fit my personality. Maybe she should find a cute gemstone and call it a day.
To me this story screams:Dude values his personal self indulgence above the woman he proposed to.I too believe that it's insane to spring for a hugely expensive engagement ring,but being given a cheap plated cz that doesn't even fit is like a slap in the face.There are much,much nicer diamond stimulants out there.Or natural zircon.You can't resize plated silver rings,either,and I wouldn't be surprised if he knows it,too,which would explain why he hasn't even attempted to set a date to get the resizing done.He values his own self indulgence more than he values her.I'd give him back his cheap-a*s ring and tell him that if he thinks a cheap,tacky piece of costume jewelry is where I rate with him,the engagement is off.That she doesn't feel that she can talk to him about this is also a red flag.
I don't believe it has to be 2 months salary. Many live paycheck to paycheck and a few thousand $ goes a long way towards a future wedding or savings. It doesn't have to be a diamond either. Many get other gemstones. But CZ/ SS is what you'd give a child because it's so cheap in case they lose it...
I'm not one for jewelry either and I'm a super saver since I had nothing growing up. I feel like big diamond rings and fancy weddings are a waste of money. Why have a ring when you can have a life of memories. We had a wonderful time at our wedding and on our honeymoon all on the cheap. I held onto those memories when my husband was diagnosed with cancer and nearly died just 7 months later. He's now in remission over 10+ years. The ring doesn't matter. Get over it.
I understand her to a point, yet she does still come off as a bit of a gold digger. Maybe it's because I don't expect a man to spend the equivalent of six paychecks on a stone when it could go to something useful, but sterling silver is perfectly ok for a ring. Sorry it didn't come drenched in the blood of a bunch of impoverished African kids.
IF he knows what he got them this is how your life will always be. Everything you buy will be argued over and he will spend a fortune on whatever he wants for himself. Meaning you are less than in his eyes IF he was scammed and doesn't know it's not gold and a diamond that's a whole other situation. HIS reaction after you tell him it's not real is the key here. Upset it's fake and wants to replace it: green flag OR knows: RED FLAG But remember NEVER start a Convo with an accusation. Start the Convo by telling the truth. You need to get the ring sized and checked online what you needed and in the process discovered it's not a real diamond?? Not accusing but concerned he got scammed... Like I said his reaction to that is what you need to know!! N
I feel like nowadays, if someone is going to propose to their fiancee, they should do it with a simple, inexpensive but still nice, placeholder ring. That way, there's a ring to present at the proposal, the surprise isn't ruined if they like surprises, and then they can go ring shopping together for the "real" engagement/wedding rings and then the placeholder ring can be worn on a different finger or rehomed. I was lucky because my fiance put some stealthy effort into getting my ring size and also just knew me as a person and at least used that to pick out a ring that he was confident I would like. And no, its not a diamond. He knew orange is my absolute favorite color basically since I was a child, so he picked a fire opal which is gorgeous! That ring doesn't currently fit so I bought a similar one for myself, same cut and color, from Etsy for $30, sterling silver with a citrine stone. So yes, the money spent shouldn't decide if the ring is likeable, but the effort put in.
My rings were really cheap, silver and clear crystal, but I absolutely love them and never take them off. We sold our original wedding rings to help pay a deposit for a house so neither of us has one for a while, my one was bought for our 15th anniversary and means so much more than the original ring ( we still live in the house we bought).
Here's the deal, if she did get a more expensive ring, how easy could she get an exact copy if were too get lost, stolen, destroyed,etc? I literally asked for CZ ring because I had to have rings removed with a ring cutter because of medical emergencies. Btw, costume jewelry is easier to remove then the more expensive s**t. That s**t broke a damn finger being removed.
Doesn't sound like she'd get it copied at all as she said it looked cheap to her. She didn't like it from the start. Finding out it was CZ didn't help - though think she already suspected otherwise why be reading the ring's hallmarks and marks? Though I don't quite understand your point regarding the ring removal - probably my fault (tired!). Why would the stone make any difference in that scenario? A stone can be reset - CZ or diamond. Though you might not bother with CZ as they don't last well. How thick and sturdy the metal, yes, I get that. The softer and slimmer the metal the easier it will be to cut. Fortunately when I had an accident the ambulance staff were on top of that and got my rings and watch off before my arm/hands swelled from my injuries. How on earth did they break your poor finger??!!
Load More Replies... Part of me thinks this may be a test for OP....to see if she complains to him about the price of the ring. If it were me....I'd feel like it was a test.
Could be. Though if you're not sure about them, don't ask to marry them. Shouldn't ever be a test! Doesn't say if she complained about the price or the ring to him - just the size. Though if you surprise your partner with a ring the one thing you should surely do is make sure they love it. That is irrelevant of price. He doesn't seem to care which is odd. Could be an expensive ring but still be flipping ugly or simply not your taste. Better really to agree a budget for a ring and look together - even if it's just to give him an idea of preferences if someone is hung up on the idea of a 'surprise' proposal.
Load More Replies... As a woman, I dont understand some of us expecting a huge expensive diamond ring, like, tells really something about for valuing material and thinking it tells the love of another person. Be grateful he doesn't spend too much money, there's more than for future. A ring is a ring, or no ring at all. Get more expensive one yourself, its not his duty
He does seem to spend a lot of money though. Just not on her. And she doesn't seem to be expecting a super expensive ring, just not a toy ring.
Load More Replies... Wow, I'd be really seriously looking at who I'm considering marrying. Why are some woman just so ungrateful. If it was the wedding ring I'd understand, but it's not. If it was the other way around the guy would be getting litterally roasted from everyone woman that read this. Red flags on the rise already. To the Groom, think about your next step in life very very seriously. The rest of your life depends on what you do.
It probaby varies from country to country but in mine the wedding ring tends to just be a band, most likely gold (white or yellow). Sometimes patterned or engraved. Some more expensive ones might have small stones. The engagement ring tends to be the more expensive ring of the two and you should match the metals - silver engagement ring, silver wedding ring. 18ct gold engagement ring, 18ct gold wedding ring. That's not to be materialistic or just to be fussy about matching, but one metal can wear another more - 18ct up against 9ct isn't going to do very well as it is softer. All that said, mine wasn't an expensive engagement ring because we didn't have much money. Still love it.
Load More Replies... I do pretty well, so my now ex wife and I talked about what was most important, considering I was paying for our wedding. She found what she wanted on Blue Nile, and I was able to pay as we went for our wedding and an awesome delayed honeymoon skiing in the Italian Alps
Cubic zirconia is much clearer than diamond and doesn't lose its shine with time like diamond does. So he wants it to look good too. There are no diamonds in my ring and I love it
I'm sorry but that is mostly inaccurate. CZ is clearer to start. The cheaper the diamond the more inclusions it will have & the poorer the colour. Quality should improve with price. Very expensive & you'll only have inclusions that can be seen with a jewellers loupe not by eye. Diamonds do not lose their shine over time, just clean them. They're the hardest of all the gemstones. With ordinary care it will last your lifetime & still be okay to leave to a family member! CZ, on the other hand, will lose it's shine. They can go cloudy over time & will get micro-scratches. With reasonable care & infrequent wear you'll find it lasts very well but for an engagement ring? Not recommend unless you are happy to get the stone replaced in the future, which won't cost much at least. I've studied gemmology & own a great many pieces with different gems, fake & real. The only one that's clouded is the CZ. Don't want a natural diamond? There are better options.
Load More Replies... Ffs. Can’t believe people actually agree with her. Rings are a symbol and cost is not important. Halfway through my own wedding reception I said to my husband, “why did we spend so much? This is only a party, we could’ve done this at home in the garden”. The only important thing about an engagement is that you choose the right person, everything else is immaterial. A rich man that spends 10s of thousands on a ring could lose his job and/or go bankrupt and your fancy ring goes to a p**n shop
The ring is a symbol of their life-long partnership. It's not unreasonable to expect it to be durable and not a toy ring
Load More Replies... The only problem here is the lack of communication. And you. Do you spend money on him? What did you buy him? If he spends HIS money on him, it's his right to do so. It's not your money. Learn to talk in relationship. And you need to get your head out of your a*s and wake up, you bash your fíancee because he didn't spend as much on you that you wanted. What the f**k is wrong with you?
Holy gold digger Batman!! If she loves him then why worry about the ring costs? What next? Is she going to demand an expensive house? Or an expensive car?
You can't tell me this woman doesn't spend money on herself. Who cares if he treats himself? I find this woman greedy as most are. Play butt hurt when it's not what she wants. It's a ring, if you allow this to defy your relationship then you're in for alot of disappointment in life. As you won't always get what you want. This is exactly why rings are stupid.
If you complain I would not marry you, if he has money this is a great way to see how much risk he is taking, as even here you say he has money...that comment alone is a red flag. If you are right for him then it's not about what you get from him, it's about him and after marriage you will have a shared life so can get whatever you like then.
You buy a ring without her input - it's a surprise! You propose. She's delighted and accepts. You wouldn't ask 'do you like the ring?' If she said 'sorry sweetie, but not really' would you really mind? I can understand you might be disappointed that you got it wrong but you also have to be realistic and you surely want to please her. People have different tastes and what you might think is pretty she might think is fugly. Does it matter? Yes! She has to wear it and look at it day in/day out and you do not. Should it be expensive - no. However, if he is unstinting with his own purchases all the time it might make a person blink a bit at being given something so very cheap in comparison. It should not be a measure of his love but not caring how she feels about it? I think that might be. Love is about wanting to make the other happy. I'd suggest to anyone to buy any rings together and agree an affordable (for them) budget first.
Load More Replies... My ex. girlfriend "informed" me that when we get married, her engagement ring was to be worth "6-months of my salary". So glad that relationship fell through because she immediately hooked up with some other guy, had two kids with him, they got married.....aaaaaand then got divorced shortly after that. Bye bye b***h.
Whoa... that girl had a SCRIPT. Good on you for bowing out of that audition. Lucky escape.
Load More Replies... Wow, what a disgustingly selfish convetsation. I'm appauled. My first marriage didn't work out, but I bought a near flawless 1ct solitaire. Spent way too much on it, was divorced 9 years later. So much regret. Second and hopefully final time, I went with a high quakity 2ct solitaire. I'm also 20 years older and wiser. I had it comissioned in another country where Women don't have as much say in society and paid about 30% of the appraisal value. Guys. If she talks like the woman in this article...Run! Run like it's on fire, she's gonna be spending your money on stupid stuff till you finally lose half of what she hasn't squandered. My Wedding cost me 30k, my Divorce cost almosy 100k. Stay single young bros, aquire assets and let them chase you. Have them Ubered away in the norning. The one who is worth it, won't bring this grief into your life.
wow reading all those comments above from the woman. Once again you expect the best of everything on the wedding day. So tell me what do you give the Groom as a ring, anything.?? I bet you don't. Going back 20yrs or so woman were never like this, they accepted what they were given, even a tab off Soda can. Nowadays woman want and expect the world for a rings and b***h & moan if they don't get it.what a sad society we have become.
I agree that expectations with some people are ridiculous. If you're spending several months salary on a ring then I'm just glad you can bloody well afford it! No way we could! My sister gave an ex fiancé an engagement ring - mine barely wanted a wedding ring and said the cheapest band would do. Though changed his mind when he saw some of the designs and got a much more expensive one instead, his choice. It should be discussed between people and both should be happy. I'm not a fan of the man getting all the say in a ring I'm wearing for the rest of my life but then I also wasn't expecting it to be expensive.
Load More Replies... To all the women who are upset about this, did you spend just as much money on your husband's ring or a gift for him as he did on your ring? If not, then shut up...
This post is literally not about the money spent but the lack of care from her fiancé.
Load More Replies... "Im not materialistic, but let me tell you why I'm materialistic." Hate people like that. He could have spent 5k on a ring, and she'd be mad that he didn't spend 15k.
So, she wants him to take it to be fit because she's forbidden to leave the house? She wants a ring that she thinks is a reflection of her value and that's exactly what she got. She's a narcissist who craves monetary validation she can flaunt. That's it. His love should be enough. This is setting off red flags for me. He is allowed to spend his hard earned money on whatever he wants, so maybe she should buy something she wants with her own damn money and be happy he tolerates her archaic materialistic b******t. She might get a nice ring at the wedding but if she keeps bitching, I would break it off.
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