Woman Is Forced To Skip Her Friend’s Wedding When His Previously Nice Bride Turns Into A Nightmare
Relationships of any kind are a tricky thing. Basically, it’s an act of people who are different on some levels trying to co-exist with each other in their lives. What makes it even more difficult is that there are other people in these lives, too. Sometimes, one party in a relationship feels threatened by some of these other people to the point that it not only causes strain to their relationship but also to the one they’re jealous of.
And that’s today’s story — a woman developing a dislike towards her fiance’s friend and ruining their friendship, as in the end, that friend refused to show up to the couple’s wedding.
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Sadly, in life, not all years-long friendships last, and sometimes, it’s not actually due to the people in those friendships but more due to the people around them
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A woman who always got along with her friend’s girlfriend suddenly noticed that his girlfriend became very cold toward her after getting engaged
She learned it was because her friend’s fiancee thought that she was in love with her friend and wanted to steal him
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Since this wasn’t true, the woman tried to deny it and make-up with the woman her friend was about to marry, but she was uninvited from the wedding by the bride
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The groom still wanted her at the wedding, but after being mistreated by the bride, she decided not to go
One of the OP’s good friends, Matthew, whom she has known since high school, will be getting married to a woman he is madly in love with named Jennifer.
Up until the couple’s engagement, the post’s author got along with Matthew’s future wife, but after it, her demeanor towards the OP drastically changed. Soon, Jennifer let it slip that, in her opinion, the author is in love with Matthew, which shocked the woman, as it wasn’t true. In fact, she even had a boyfriend, who was very much not Matthew.
Later, she was made to apologize. Additionally, to patch things up between the women, Matthew’s sister invited both of them to come and help her pick her dress for the wedding. During the dress shopping, the original poster found a dress that fit her perfectly and matched her boyfriend’s bow tie.
This infuriated Jennifer, so she proceeded to call the OP slurs, uninvite her from the wedding, and get them thrown out of the store. After such a rude experience with the bride, the author decides not to go to the wedding, just as Jennifer wants.
Yet, Matthew really wanted his friend at his special occasion, so he begged her in many ways to come, but the woman didn’t plan to give in. After all, the bride made it very clear that she didn’t want her there.
The majority of people online agreed with her decision. In their eyes, Jennifer’s behavior is very two-faced. She acts one way in front of the OP and then tells a different story to her fiance. Some suspected that the post’s author might not have the full information about what made the friend’s fiancee switch up her behavior so drastically, and they thought that someone must have told her something. Typically, random assumptions about someone being in love with a person don’t come out of thin air.
Maybe jealousy from Jennifer plays a part here, don’t you think? Especially, just as netizens suggested, if someone told her something suspicious, she might feel insecure about her love’s friend. Granted, being jealous is a completely normal human emotion. But some of its expressions might not be as normal, especially those that hurt others. And, well, in today’s story, people are definitely getting hurt, and a friendship is crumbling right in front of our eyes.
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When a person feels jealous, the best thing to do is “talk to yourself.” Basically, you need to reflect on what is causing this intense feeling, as without getting to the roots of it, it might be difficult to work it out.
Then, if the jealousy is related to, for example, a partner’s friend, just like in today’s story, a conversation with said partner is the next step. Yes, the same old tale of “communication is key.” It wouldn’t be a tale if it didn’t work, would it? Also, relationships are basically a form of communication, so it shouldn’t be a surprise that resolving issues in them revolves around it, too.
Yet, even communication wouldn’t work if people weren’t honest, which seems to be the case for Matthew and Jennifer. The OP said Jennifer blames her behavior on stress, and Matthew is in denial about his fiancee’s improper actions. Just as it’s advised with jealousy, coping with denial comes with accepting your feelings, and it appears that Matthew hasn’t done that yet.
And while we can’t be absolutely sure that Jennifer’s actions come from jealousy, we can’t write it off either. She surely isn’t acting rationally towards the OP. And since nobody can tell what the future holds, we can hope that they will be able to solve this relationship riddle someday.
Like some people in the woman’s life, the netizens also thought that this was a good choice, as it looked like the bride had unresolved issues, which caused her to act out toward the woman
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I completely understand the OP - my BF from High School was separated from me by his fiancée then wife.....she would delete my phone messages and even binned a present I sent them on the birth of their first child. They are now divorced but too much time has elapsed and we don't speak :(
A question about your pseudo: Briards? The inhabitants of La Brie, the French region east of Paris where I live, and where the Brie cheese originates, are called Briards. Has it got another meaning in the USA? Anyway, I agree with you: Briards are best!
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took those 'beware his girl best friend' warnings a bit to seriously...
my best friend had a bf that was like this chick, the day my mom died, i called my best friend {who is female, and I'm male, but I'm Gay and married} and my friends BF gets on and starts telling me that .... its a good thing my mom died {was with her, this was 5 min after, in a sheet by me still warm} and telling me how she died to get away fro mme and otherstuff, i told my friend to make him stop, and she said "I'm not holding leashs" so i said Fine I'm telling them to F*cking stop, and she said "you cant talk like that to them lee" I told her "you wont hold "Leashs" but you will keep me quiet while HE is allowed to say this..... How would you feel if he said this about your dad?" then i told her it was over, I was no longer her friend and the reason was HIM, and i said "no matter what people tell you, that its no your fault, that it was me, just know IT WAS YOU NOT PUTING A STOP TO ABUSE, AND IT WAS FAULT THAT WE WILL NEVER TALK AGAIN" and then i blocked everything
Good thing you did there. Don't accept abusers just because they are with a friend of yours.
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I doubt if this is going to get back to OP, would she should do is get with her boyfriend and the two other females that backed out, if they have boyfriends and on the day of or night of the wedding go to a restaurant and have a good time. Plus wear the dress you bought for the wedding.
NTA... obviously she was his very FIRST at anything relationship related including sex. He is beyond blind & drunk in love with her. Sadly, out of pure desperation & to avoid lonliness he'll definitely choose her over you. It most definitely wont last though, someone that causes a scene in a store showed their true colors. It'll only get worse!!
All you can do for people with controlling partners is tell them to call when they want out. If OP were to go to the wedding, there would certainly be a scene and then that would be the justification wife needs to cut them out. This won't control the narrative but it mitigates somewhat. Hopefully friend gets out and finds a kind person.
Clearly, Jennifer was the first person Matthew ever had sex with... and he doesn't want to lose that dopamine fix! 🤣🤣🤣
You might be onto something - the dopamine fix. His excuse for staying is "I love her too much". I had to learn that being in love with the wrong person can feel like an addiction. I remember the first time I broke off with someone unsuitable despite my feelings. Sometimes one has to go cold turkey. Met my husband soon after.
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This will only escalate further. Sad to lose a friend over this but the bride to be will never relent.
Love is blind. And hearing-impaired. And intellectually challenged. And psychologically disadvantaged. And...
"Not fighting hard enough" to want to be invited. What the f-ing f? This is a wedding, not a gd throne! How conceited and self centered the groom is to think OP is DYING to attend his wedding?
I do not get the idea, that it is the groom that thinks she should fight over it, but some other people.
Load More Replies... This feels like something is missing. Either Jennifer is literally crazy, or something is causing this. Such as, but not limited to: a misunderstanding (like Jennifer thinks something happened which didn't) Matthew or the OP behaving in an inappropriate way that is causing doubt and insecurity from Jennifer, Matthew's family has been acting inappropriately, such as favoring the OP over Jennifer, or Jennifer has had significant issues with the OP and Matthew all along and it wasn't until becoming engaged that she finally felt secure enough to actually object. The comments about OP stealing Matthew and being a w---- makes me lean misunderstanding.
I completely understand the OP - my BF from High School was separated from me by his fiancée then wife.....she would delete my phone messages and even binned a present I sent them on the birth of their first child. They are now divorced but too much time has elapsed and we don't speak :(
A question about your pseudo: Briards? The inhabitants of La Brie, the French region east of Paris where I live, and where the Brie cheese originates, are called Briards. Has it got another meaning in the USA? Anyway, I agree with you: Briards are best!
Load More Replies... took those 'beware his girl best friend' warnings a bit to seriously...
my best friend had a bf that was like this chick, the day my mom died, i called my best friend {who is female, and I'm male, but I'm Gay and married} and my friends BF gets on and starts telling me that .... its a good thing my mom died {was with her, this was 5 min after, in a sheet by me still warm} and telling me how she died to get away fro mme and otherstuff, i told my friend to make him stop, and she said "I'm not holding leashs" so i said Fine I'm telling them to F*cking stop, and she said "you cant talk like that to them lee" I told her "you wont hold "Leashs" but you will keep me quiet while HE is allowed to say this..... How would you feel if he said this about your dad?" then i told her it was over, I was no longer her friend and the reason was HIM, and i said "no matter what people tell you, that its no your fault, that it was me, just know IT WAS YOU NOT PUTING A STOP TO ABUSE, AND IT WAS FAULT THAT WE WILL NEVER TALK AGAIN" and then i blocked everything
Good thing you did there. Don't accept abusers just because they are with a friend of yours.
Load More Replies... I doubt if this is going to get back to OP, would she should do is get with her boyfriend and the two other females that backed out, if they have boyfriends and on the day of or night of the wedding go to a restaurant and have a good time. Plus wear the dress you bought for the wedding.
NTA... obviously she was his very FIRST at anything relationship related including sex. He is beyond blind & drunk in love with her. Sadly, out of pure desperation & to avoid lonliness he'll definitely choose her over you. It most definitely wont last though, someone that causes a scene in a store showed their true colors. It'll only get worse!!
All you can do for people with controlling partners is tell them to call when they want out. If OP were to go to the wedding, there would certainly be a scene and then that would be the justification wife needs to cut them out. This won't control the narrative but it mitigates somewhat. Hopefully friend gets out and finds a kind person.
Clearly, Jennifer was the first person Matthew ever had sex with... and he doesn't want to lose that dopamine fix! 🤣🤣🤣
You might be onto something - the dopamine fix. His excuse for staying is "I love her too much". I had to learn that being in love with the wrong person can feel like an addiction. I remember the first time I broke off with someone unsuitable despite my feelings. Sometimes one has to go cold turkey. Met my husband soon after.
Load More Replies... This will only escalate further. Sad to lose a friend over this but the bride to be will never relent.
Love is blind. And hearing-impaired. And intellectually challenged. And psychologically disadvantaged. And...
"Not fighting hard enough" to want to be invited. What the f-ing f? This is a wedding, not a gd throne! How conceited and self centered the groom is to think OP is DYING to attend his wedding?
I do not get the idea, that it is the groom that thinks she should fight over it, but some other people.
Load More Replies... This feels like something is missing. Either Jennifer is literally crazy, or something is causing this. Such as, but not limited to: a misunderstanding (like Jennifer thinks something happened which didn't) Matthew or the OP behaving in an inappropriate way that is causing doubt and insecurity from Jennifer, Matthew's family has been acting inappropriately, such as favoring the OP over Jennifer, or Jennifer has had significant issues with the OP and Matthew all along and it wasn't until becoming engaged that she finally felt secure enough to actually object. The comments about OP stealing Matthew and being a w---- makes me lean misunderstanding.
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