Often, I intuitively know something but realize it only after someone says it out loud. If it's a movie insight, then there's no big deal. But if we're talking about an important life lesson, I sure as heck would've liked figuring it out by myself earlier rather than later.
So when I saw this post on r/AskReddit by u/PeakABoo_IFKU, I knew I was in for a treat. The Redditor asked: "What is the best advice you can give someone?" And after scrolling through some 2,000 comments, I think you'd like to see the best ones as well. From taking care of your body to working on your mind, continue scrolling and check them out!
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Imagine all the time that you spend worrying about your embarrassing moments. Now understand that almost everyone else does the same. Nobody is thinking about your embarrassing things. Just their own. I find this idea freeing.
Actually, I remember both the embarassing things that I did and that others did...realizing that everybody is continuously doing mildly stupid things is freeing as suggested above, though. Moreover, I guess we tend to overrate the "level" of embarassment of stupid things, i.e. the same mishap we would find more embarassing when happening to ourself to when we observe it from others.
Be careful who you have kids with.
They should use a different picture. The Bundy's raised two very successful kids. Both are actors.
Expect nothing, and appreciate everything.
You are only responsible for yourself . You cannot and should not try to control others even if you think you're being charitable. Similarly don't let other people control your emotions.
Unfortunately personal responsibility isn't something people are taught anymore. It's easier to blame someone else.
Document everything. A lot of people have bad intentions and are looking to screw you over for their personal gain. Having things documented and on paper will prevent them from taking advantage of you.
Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean it’s inherently bad. Don’t s**t on someone because they find joy in something you don’t.
I’m referring to things like movies, music, art, food, etc.
It's okay to not be okay
I don't mind people telling me how they're not ok, it can be therapeutic for them to share what they're feeling. Sometimes all someone needs is some compassion to realize that it's ok to not be ok. But when they're always talking about their problems, aren't helped by a compassionate listener, and never do any thing to address their problems, then I feel that type of "not ok" is not ok—for them or for me.
Don't be so hard on yourself, sometimes life gets complicated, is not your fault, just do your very best in every situation, and let things go as they should
Drink water
It's amazing to me how many actually don't. I worked with a woman for years who drank nothing but diet Coke. Never saw her drink anything else.
Learn skills to make yourself as self sufficient as possible.
Yea this became glaringly obvious when the pandemic hit. Things everyone should know: how to sew, basic woodworking (you should be able to cut 2 pieces of wood and screw them together), and how to dress a chicken.
Never put anyone on a pedestal, they will have no choice but to look down on you.
This one I learned the hard way. Treat everyone equally as we all have the same value. No life's worth more or less. We all exist and each life is valuable. There's nowhere that states that a life is worth more because of skin color, gender, money, education, nationality, culture, success, etc.
If someone really loves you they won't intentionally hurt you.
You are only young once, but you can be immature forever.
Try it. Whatever it is you are debating, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone, and isn't illegal, try it.
Not trying it is going to weigh on you far more than any minor embarrassment you may get from trying it.
Take responsibility for your actions.
3 rules I found in life that have found should followed...Dont lie, don't steal, and if you screw up admit it.
Is there anything you can do about it?
No?
Then don't worry about it.
Never lose sight of the parts of life you're absolutely clear about. The truest part of ourselves is found inside that clarity.
Also, never ever ever be afraid to start over. You will NOT be starting from scratch, you will be starting from experience.
Treat yourself as if you’re someone you’re trying to help
Don't go to college UNLESS you are REALLY READY to do so.
I strongly reject this one. There might be some truth for countries like the US where tuition will cost a fortune, but in general, I strongly believe that lifelong learning is essential, that it is *always* the right time to try out learning something new, and that *any time* in life is the right time to find out what you want to do; taking up studies may well be part of this process, regardless of whether you retain these or soon give them up again.
You can learn without going to college. I tried college 20 years ago when I wasn't ready. NOW I'm acing it. It's so unfair to kids this emphasis on further education. I think it should be either for those who are extremely passionate about the subject, or those who are extremely gifted. Soooo many kids have spent 3+ years grafting, racking up massive debt, and can't find work, because they were sold a dream about going to college. Lifelong learning and study? I'm all for that, but it doesn't have to be college.
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Sadly, in the U.S. it seems a college degree is the new high school diploma. Jobs that can be done without a degree often require one, but the pay doesn't reflect that. It's ridiculous. I'm glad that I work in the trades and I encourage anyone to do so.
Exactly this. College has become a pyramid scheme to an extent. There are too many "degrees" that will never offer a return on on investment.
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At 37 I was ready. Finished my certification and moving on to a higher qualification in my field. Loving it.
My mom really needed to hear this when I finish high school and I didn't want to go to college. I am 23 right now and going on my first year of what I hope is the one where Im going to get my degree. I feel old and all I wanted (and still want to do) is painting. But well, I need to finish my degree so I can be finally free and do what I really enjoy to do.
I'm all for life long learning, but I can't handle the whole college thing of assignments, reports, essays, exams, all those kinds of things. I want to learn about things I am interested in but simply for knowledge's sake. I would love to go and take classes in what I'm interested in and have the opportunity to research what I have heard in lectures. All for learning sake. If it turns out to be not what I thought it would be, I can walk away. I'd be willing to pay for this, but at a lot less cost than actually "going to college". There are things that I know very well and am capable of learning at a college level. Dont count me out on that.
I recently returned to school, 15 years after my original attempt. I only went to college after High School because I thought that's what I was supposed to do. I didn't have any idea what I wanted to study, and I wasn't in any way ready to be attending. All of these years later, I actually appreciate learning and being a student. I strive to do well, and I understand the financial sacrifice. I am ready now; the only qualifier I previously had was being the right age. It is such a vastly different experience, and I'm glad that I went back! I believe that is what this commented was intending to mean...
I agree. If you don't know what you want to do don't waste people's(parents that take loans out for you, grants/scholarships of people that take things seriously) most kids go because it's "expected" of them and to continue to party. Personality I think the beginning of college"required" classes should be high school classes or free due to every student having to take these! But don't go to college just to say you've been to college there are plenty of jobs-vocational schools that are better. Especially if you don't know what you want to do as a job.
I was practically forced to attempt 3 times!! Failed out all 3 times... Had a mental breakdown... Now Im struggling to come back from it all. I wish I waited. (Crazy life situation) and had my fun before and prepared myself mentally because of learning disabilities. Everyone is different, but some of us need a minute from those 13-15 straight years of school/learning.
You can have life long learning without going to college. College isn!t for everyone
Love how the collegiate think that college is essential. Be an electrician and make 80K a year. Colleges are little more than indoctrination centers now.
If you never did anything new until you were really ready you would end up not doing much at all. How can you be completely ready for something you don't yet know?
Not only ready. There’s people who shouldn’t go. It’s be better for them a “professional school”. Learn a trade. Not everyone is designed to go to college. Nothing bad with it.
Lifelong learning doesn't always include/start with college. I know many people who never attended college but are hands-down more educated/intelligent than those with masters degrees.
YES! There are many other ways to learn, and get valious experience than going to college. Just DON'T WASTE your time and your youth pursuing a degree you internaly hate. Better use your time, habilities, interest, passions without massive debt or unnecessary headaches
I disagree with this, but I think more people should consider trade schools, community colleges, and going to school later in life.
I waited till I was 30. I am glad I waited. I took it a lot more serious then I would have when I was 18.
Agreed...couldn't wait to get out of HS and hit College and expand my horizons, then found out I had to take two years of the stuff I hated in HS. For some a Vocational School might be a better option...my kid did & makes more a year than I did in 2/3 of my best paying jobs.✌
I have 36,000 in student loan debt and I've quit every college I tried. The bad thing is, is that I owe every college money and they won't release my transcripts unless it's paid. So I literally can't even take credit for the classes I've completed.
Downvote. College teaches you more than the course content. It provides you with (a) critical thinking skills (b) a social network which helps you find work, friends, etc., (c) potentially a smart/intelligent life partner.
It also leaves you with crippling debt..... all the things u listed can be attained without college
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I agree that going to a 4-year university/college right after high school is not always the best. However, I would also say that if you aren't ready for a 4-year college (which costs the big bucks), try going to a community college before choosing to delay higher education. For me, I had no idea what I wanted to study, so going to a 4 year right away was just not going to work. By going to a community college (at least in USA) Classes are less expensive and you have more freedom to explore different subjects, accumulate credits, and even learn a trade without the hefty price.
Who's going to pay for it? This isn't an option for a lot of ppl and many are very successful without it
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Take care of your teeth and body when you are young.
47 year old dude with bad knees from playing sports.
Every time my kid doesn't want to brush her teeth I tell her that she needs to look at the brown spots on mine
Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it
Don't react. Respond. The difference is reacting is a visceral emotional automation, whereas responding means to think and give an appropriate reply.
Not sure where i got this from but: If you were able to believe in Santa for 10 years or more, you can definitely believe in yourself for 10 minutes.
At a minimum, at least be honest with yourself. At least be true to who you are. And if you don’t know, figure that out.
Don't stay up late doing something that you would not wake up early for.
Meditate. Try. Every morning. It has freed me from some of the dark side effects of my mental illness.
Also, establish a great morning routine and night routine and stick to it. Practice gratitude every day.
Let go of resentment and hatred you have for others. No matter what they’ve done. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive does not mean you tolerate what they’ve done or that what they did was okay- but it is meant to free YOU. So you can move forward and reclaim the power you feel you’ve lost. You can be compassionately wrathful and stand up for what’s right without hate in your heart. Hate only hurts you in the end.
Ie. My brother was murdered- but I have never hated the man that killed him. I don’t have to live with that resentment in my life
Take advantage of health insurance when you have it
As in get regular physicals and preventative care, address small problems before they potentially turn into bigger problems at the same time as you lose your insurance. Sneaking suspicion that you might be pre-diabetic, or have the family high blood pressure? Get it checked out. Small painful lump, or mole that's looking different than it used to? Don't ignore it.
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A lot of these would be great printed on a throw pillow or kid's shirt, but if you're living your life by words from a fortune cookie . . . let me hold your wallet. You look look really tired.
It's more like "be kind but don't be a mug, and always put on your own lifejacket before helping someone else into the lifeboat".
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When you get the chance to sit it out or dance. I hope you dance.
Here's my tip. Don't have the audacity to post a bunch of two bit cliches and think they're interesting.
Honestly, why did you give a platform to these two-bit hacks? They're mostly pretentious simpletons saying the most obvious things and trying to come across as clever.
I loved every one except the covid shot. That will be determined if people look back and appreciate it. A lot of people have died from the shot and this is disturbing to their families.
A lot of people have died from COVID, not the shot, karen.
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Have a sleep schedule - keep it EVERY day for LIFE. Well rested, organized people are SO ahead of the game - it is staggering.
Yes, I'll just tell my insomnia and chronic pain to knock it off.
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Admit mistakes. Don’t justify, deny, or give excuses. Be constructive. With practice it gets easier and it takes a huge burden off your conscience. If you do this, the consequence will more likely be positive rather than punishment. It demonstrates you are willing to learn and improve, which is an admirable quality. Everyone makes mistakes - owning up is what makes the difference.
A lot of these would be great printed on a throw pillow or kid's shirt, but if you're living your life by words from a fortune cookie . . . let me hold your wallet. You look look really tired.
It's more like "be kind but don't be a mug, and always put on your own lifejacket before helping someone else into the lifeboat".
Load More Replies... When you get the chance to sit it out or dance. I hope you dance.
Here's my tip. Don't have the audacity to post a bunch of two bit cliches and think they're interesting.
Honestly, why did you give a platform to these two-bit hacks? They're mostly pretentious simpletons saying the most obvious things and trying to come across as clever.
I loved every one except the covid shot. That will be determined if people look back and appreciate it. A lot of people have died from the shot and this is disturbing to their families.
A lot of people have died from COVID, not the shot, karen.
Load More Replies... Have a sleep schedule - keep it EVERY day for LIFE. Well rested, organized people are SO ahead of the game - it is staggering.
Yes, I'll just tell my insomnia and chronic pain to knock it off.
Load More Replies... Admit mistakes. Don’t justify, deny, or give excuses. Be constructive. With practice it gets easier and it takes a huge burden off your conscience. If you do this, the consequence will more likely be positive rather than punishment. It demonstrates you are willing to learn and improve, which is an admirable quality. Everyone makes mistakes - owning up is what makes the difference.
