Loving Dad Starts Documenting Unique Habits Of His Autistic Son, And It Changes Their Lives
Loving father and photographer Thimothy Archibald started capturing his autistic child's unique habits on camera as a way of dealing with his son's diagnosis. But, what was supposed to be a simple documentation, turned out to be much more. Not only did he learn more about his son's unique world, but the father-son photo project brought them closer together. Thimothy, as a pro photographer, had to learn to stop trying to control situations by letting his son take the lead.
The then 5-year-old autistic boy named Elijah was obsessed with mechanical objects, had a need for repetition and was socially withdrawn. Each shot that his father took reflects both Elija's unique habits and his interaction with the world around him. "I never wanted [Eli] to think that he was normal. I wanted him to be aware of how different he was and see that as an asset," Archibald said.
The whole photo series has been turned into a book titled 'Echolilia'. You can purchase it through Archibald's website.
More info: timothyarchibald.com | echolilia.com (h/t: mymodernmet)
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Our authistic son also like te smell everything: flowers, foid, driks, earth,... Beautiful photo!
Well, of course you sit on the table sto smell flowers! How many are jealous because they don't feel free to do this?
I agree with Dorrine Fisher, beautiful. He is focused on beauty. I would frame this and display it, if he, the son, would allow me..
It works wonders! Also helps people with anxiety and panic attacks! My husband holds me really tight when I'm having one and it helps like you would not believe. I learnt this technique from a little man I worked with who had aspergers. He taught me so much and how to control my own emotions. ❤️
Load More Replies...Yeah, I've always loved small enclosed spaces, I can block everything out and relax. A few months after receiving my second diagnosis I also found out that I have an aversion to yellow light and that's why I can't stay outside for long before getting headaches from over stimulation. I like to withdraw to small dark spots so much so, I've designed a fully enclosed computer cabinet that hopefully I can build one day.
There was an autistic kid that came to our pool when I was a lifeguard. He would go underwater smiling and stay under for so long that I had to watch him to make sure that he was OK. I heard that it had something to do with the pressure on her ears, but now I'm wondering if it had anything to do with stimuli, you can't hear much when you're underwater .
My daughter did this... Very calming. We built a special room just for her and her different ways of dealing with the world. It was heaven sent. Beautiful photos that tell a powerful story.
Not autistic but when I get very stressed it calms me to curl up in a snug space
I'm also not autistic but I still find myself curling under my dresser in the dark when I can't handle my emotions.
Load More Replies...Temple Grandin an autistic lady invented an enclosed walkway which calmed the cattle, as they walked to wherever, she went to college and built herself a wooden crate that she would get in when feeling stressed.
This shot is so beautifully poignant, capturing the person seeking solace and peace from the outside world.
Once you really understand autism, you'll realize he's showing you how he feels out in the world/society. It's really tragic, actually
what gives you the right to decide he is tragic? and you don't know this child so you can't know what he was trying to express at all.
Load More Replies...Does he have any words for this picture? It would be interesting to hear them
Love the hoodie style! I can totally relate to that style.. But probably not in what goes through his mind.. Still cool..
It certainly wouldn't if it was your child.
Load More Replies...I used to do this as a kid, too. I'm not on the Autism spectrum.
Actually they say everybody is somewhere on the spectrum. OCD is the most common autistic trait.
Load More Replies...I have bi polor and when I was little I would breath in to the hose like that till I fall sleep its calming
Is it that 'sound of breathing' thing? Like listening to a heartbeat?.... I think that is said to be, yes, very calming, ...your mind is nowhere else.... :)
Reminds me of what it mustve sounded like listening To the fluids moving through umbilical cord -pre born baby
It doesn't claim everything he does is unique. It's not meanty to be literal.
Someone got the wheaties peed in this morning....dang...it's an article...not written in stone for how it HAS to be. Pull your big girl panties up....and stop showing your butt.....
Makes my heart weep, but thankfully by use of photography, it seems it has brought down invisible barriers between father and child.
This makes me laugh.... looking at life through a funnel... seeing the miniscule.... lovely
focus! i wonder if it's the sight or sound or both. my son has done this too though. totally normal kid stuff
A unique view of the world. Bet he sees something different in each and every square
I get this, my son loves different visuals and looks at things at different angles.
looking through stuff is great! i am a photographer and i never grew out of this one
That's one beautiful shot the calmness and natural comfort with nature-
Please have the father and others join us here: autism360Cy.com My non-profit just organized an international photo contest in NYC; I wish I knew earlier :-) Thank you!
I can't help but think of David Lynch and Twin Peaks' The Lark Woman. This photo somewhat gives Lunch's caracter a poetic dimension.
The lark woman is also known as the The Log Lady
Load More Replies...oh yes! I am 64yrs old, and still love doing this! .... you are in bodily contact with the earth, the world, and the view of the sky is huge and wonderful.... it is a great feeling....
My son who turns 32 at the end of the month sleeps like this ...I always want to put my arms around him and tell him it will be ok
The reason he is naked is likely because of the sensory overload the different textures and fabrics do to him. It can be really overwhelming
And you think that horribly scratchy rug isn't a sensory overload?
Load More Replies...So very touching, you want to reach out and protect this wee human being ❤️
I''m autistic and 23 years old. Haven't slept like that since I was seven. Seeing this made me remember how peacefully I slept back then...
This broke me. My son has autism and this is the position he'd be in after an episode at school while still in fear. I'llpray for both boys nightly now.
This immediately makes me feel 'that looks chilly'.... is that a door he is lying near? is he waiting?
Btw James I will make sure that you cry anu tine you see my name. You just made me your worst nightmare. There are people out there that shiver when they see it... I have tongue so sharp that will make swprd castration seem like heaven.
Bless your heart. You know nothing about nothing. Go suck your bottle and grow up. I am high functioning Aspergers. I know more about this than you ever will. Make sure you tell your mama that you got good and whipped so she will not have to do it ahsin asswhole.
Outside looking in to an empty contained space. Where it was comfortable predictable
Very raw emotional photos, You captured the isolation but yet your son's connection with nature shines through at the same time <3
Why is it heartbreaking? He just has a unique perspective on the world, embrace it
Load More Replies...I can't think of the name of it at the moment, but there is a designer who has created a clothing line specifically for children on the autism spectrum who are very very particular about clothing textures. My brother was similar growing up. He's open to more textures and stuff now that he's an adult and better at managing the various parts of his ASD, but for years it was a challenge to dress him. He wouldn't wear jeans, collared shirts, anything stiff etc. He would only wear the softest of fabrics and things like seamless socks. If this is a big problem you might want to google clothing for autistic kids (if you haven't already), there's some cool stuff out there now made specifically for kids with this problem.
Load More Replies...try deworming because it seems like his stomach has a lot of it..Many Autistics have good result after deworming.so pls try...
That must really portray the essence of autism, as many might experience it.
His belly is bloated/distended. Does he have IBD as a comorbid condition of his autism?
I saw it too! Maybe also an allergic to something?
Load More Replies...Many autistic people do not like the texture or feel of clothes.
Load More Replies...My girl who is also autistic, paints my nails and does make up and my hair. Love it,, but I sometimes forget I have it on me so I go grocery shopping with 20 pins/clips in my hair. I'm a 40 year old man, and my wife doesn't warn me before I leave the house.
I sit a boy who's autistic as well, and be loves his nails painted! I think it's the way the Polish feels and smells, but maybe it's just another way he understands to connect with the world
I don't know, but for some reason this makes sense.
Load More Replies...Maybe he likes the pressure on his eyes? I do this kind of thing when I'm stressed
Load More Replies...My 15 yr old son is autistic. Every autistic person finds their own way to interact with and cope with the world. I wish I could be my son for even one day, so I could better understand how he perceives the world. I know it is a constant struggle for him, but I dont know why. He can speak, but cannot put into words how he feels. I STILL search for the way that I might be able to help to ease his burden, but each time I have tried, I only make things worse or frustrate him. Thank you for sharing these very personal moments with us.
The world as we know it is a collection of things we learned. It's not ours. I believe autistic people just see it as it is, feel it as it is and communicate with it - without boundaries of imagination and without boundaries of society. Just be there for him and let him know that you love him. That's all you can and need to do. The question I always ask myself is if we live in the real world or they do...
Load More Replies...Thank you so much for sharing these, and for allowing your child to be his own unique self. The majority of my family has autism to some extent, and I wasn't diagnosed until I was 45. I was blessed to have a parent who loved me and helped me interact in the world, but who also told me to march to the beat of my own drummer.Your son is blessed to have you!
These are some of the most moving and powerful photos i have seen.
This may not be, but I feel like he is uncomfortable with the overcast. I'm very sensory, and overcast is unbearable.
In what way is overcast unbearable to an autistic? Is it the high amounts of white and pale light reflecting off of everything? Or is it air density?
Load More Replies...My nephew has played with tools since he was 2. He's now 6, and was recently diagnosed as high functioning autistic. Tools are his love language. :)
You need to relax. Children aren't just that- they're people and scissors pliers whatever are not always a hazard. Stop being so afraid
Load More Replies...To me, one of the interesting things is that I've done all of those at least a couple times when I was a kid. I presume that Elijah does it a lot more, but it makes the point that autism can be part of the normal human variation -- sure, pretty far off on one end of the bell curve, definitely different than most of us, but still within the normal range of human experience.
Amazingly emotional & sweet! a real insight into his world of isolation.
Very powerful. Father and son are equally as lucky to have each other
I know nothing about autism, I have a grandson that is going on 17,I think may have it , but doc's say no, his has an anti social problem. He does so many of what this child is doing..instead of the naked an curling up, he wraps tightly in a blanket.For some reason he has been drawn to me, I am his step grandma,, and never seen me till last year. he does not like been touched or hugged, yet he will sit next to me and put my arm around him and play with my hair, he calls me every day when not around me, and wants me to help him with his problems, as he says everyone is fake but me,, I don't understand this..but give him the love i can,and when around the other kids, he gets a little upset if i hug them longer seem to pay them to much attention.i have told the other kids,when he isn't around, that I Love them all just as much, but when he is around please don't get upset with your brothers he has some problems you don't have. and needs the attention.
An inspiringly poignant work of art. Deserves a spot at a photo gallery.
I don't see what's so special about these. I think people all just assume it's profound or feel they have to like it.
This is a very pretty boy (: I hope he finds a way to alleviate his loneliness. It hurts to see.
Amazingly emotional & sweet! a real insight into his world of isolation.
Very powerful. Father and son are equally as lucky to have each other
I know nothing about autism, I have a grandson that is going on 17,I think may have it , but doc's say no, his has an anti social problem. He does so many of what this child is doing..instead of the naked an curling up, he wraps tightly in a blanket.For some reason he has been drawn to me, I am his step grandma,, and never seen me till last year. he does not like been touched or hugged, yet he will sit next to me and put my arm around him and play with my hair, he calls me every day when not around me, and wants me to help him with his problems, as he says everyone is fake but me,, I don't understand this..but give him the love i can,and when around the other kids, he gets a little upset if i hug them longer seem to pay them to much attention.i have told the other kids,when he isn't around, that I Love them all just as much, but when he is around please don't get upset with your brothers he has some problems you don't have. and needs the attention.
An inspiringly poignant work of art. Deserves a spot at a photo gallery.
I don't see what's so special about these. I think people all just assume it's profound or feel they have to like it.
This is a very pretty boy (: I hope he finds a way to alleviate his loneliness. It hurts to see.
