With sheer horror I remember the moment we had to make our own knit “couture” in home ec class. It could be anything, from a tote bag to a pair of socks, or a scarf, or a tiny doll... the list goes on. I thought that a knitted bow tie for Father’s Day was a great idea, but expectation vs reality hit and the final result looked like a pastel wool blob asking to be tacitly discarded.
That’s when I came to the conclusion that not everyone is born a knitter, and our grandmas are the blessed souls. But some people are willing to enter the knitting game, or should I call it a league, and make needlework great again.
And oh boy, they do. Thanks to the r/Knitting subreddit, which is all about “warm, fuzzy, sometimes tangled” stuff, people from all walks of life can now proudly show their mad knitting skills, and some of it is surely leaving everyone in awe, from handmade ponchos to socks and sweaters that put all the mass-produced knitwear to shame.
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Thought You’d All Enjoy This!
I would have destroyed half of my home with those needles...but I want such a fence
😅😅😅thought the same! Disaster!! And i would poke many people as well
Load More Replies...This is the lady I hope to be when I reach her age: crafty, ambitious, and wielding large sticks. What an icon. 🧓🏻👑🧶
Knitting used to feel like something made for granny souls. But the times are changing and as the world is shifting towards a more sustainable lifestyle, slower consumption, and homemade goodies, knitwork is back in the much-deserved spotlight.
So in order to find out what it takes to master knitting skills and become a proud knitter, Bored Panda talked to Ida, a knitwear and pattern designer from Lapland, Finland who runs her website “Knitgrammer.” Ida said that in Finland, kids are taught how to knit in school already, which makes knitting an essential part of education. “Since I'm in my 30s I have been knitting for more than 20 years,” she added.
Ida explained that during the COVID-19 pandemic, people were forced to stay at home, due to which knitting became incredibly popular. “For instance, Finnish yarn company Novita reported that their sales increased 18% compared to the previous year, being approximately 24 million euros,” the knitwear designer told us. Moreover, “Here in Finland, people also got so excited about knitting traditional Icelandic sweaters that last spring I couldn't find an online store that had the yarn available,” she added. It turns out, even the factory didn't have the yarn in stock.
I’m A Guy Who Normally Knits Socks And Scarfs And Hats For My Family. I Finally Knit A Sweater For Myself
Next level to men who cook: men who knit! Definitely a keeper
You did a fantastic job! Your tension is so smooth and the fit looks great!
A Wedding Dress For My Sister I Knitted Last Year
Now THAT is a dream wedding dress - something made with love by someone you love.
That is so, so beautiful. You are so talented and you have a very beautiful sister. She looks like a woodland sprite.
Ida assured us that anyone can learn to knit. “In Finland, it is taught in elementary school and if it is not a school subject in your country, nowadays there are plenty of videos online from which you can learn.” She also said the knitting community is very friendly and the more experienced knitters will be very happy to share their wisdom with beginners.
Meanwhile, “A pro knitter knows the technique, understands how different materials and stitch patterns affect the fabric qualities, and also knows the math behind knitting.” Having said that, Ida added that you can still “knit beautiful and usable things if you learn the basic techniques and follow good patterns as well as use the yarn recommended on them.”
I Finished A 1940s Sweater A While Back And Wanted To Share!
1940s sweaters are the best sweaters! They really made fabulous ones in that era. Clothing from the 40s is amazing.
I really like the structure around the shoulders, and those leaves are beautiful.
I Made A Lacy Shawl For My Mom, But I Had To Try It On For Myself First
but black, with the punisher symbol on the back :P
Load More Replies...What isn't there to like about a creative guy who's good with his hands...
I Made These Socks That Turn Feet Into Paws. Also, How Does Anyone Even Do Sock Photography
Where can I buy these?? I've been looking for a decent pair of socks to potter about in for ages.
“The first thing you need to learn as a beginner knitter are the two basic stitches: knit and purl as well as how to cast on and bind off. Good beginner projects are for instance a garter stitch scarf, basic hat, hot pad, or dishcloth.” After mastering the basics, you can move on to more complex techniques “such as colorwork and lace,” Ida said.
But don’t expect to learn everything instantly. “As with many skills, knitting takes practice. Learning the basic stitches does not usually take more than a few hours, but developing your muscle memory might take a while. After you have practiced enough, your knitting becomes more even and you don't even have to watch your hands when you knit.”
For The First Time I've Been Forced To Admit I Might Actually Know What I'm Doing!
My Brother Challenged Me To Make More Animal Socks!! Had A Lot Of Fun Making These Guys
My First Finished Object: A Happy Colours Bubble Stitch Blanket
Ida explained that selecting a suitable yarn for your project is also an essential skill. It’s because “the aim of knitting is usually to produce some item that can be worn or used otherwise. For instance, if you pick a yarn that is not suitable for socks, they get worn out really quickly or make your feet sweaty. Also, there are certain types of yarns that are not good for colorwork or cable knitting. Before you learn this skill, you can always select the yarn recommended by the pattern.”
My Dog And I Now Have Matching Sweaters
Never Doing Two Color Brioche Again But At Least She's Done
I love that, never seen anything like it. You may never do it again, but I'm glad you did it once.
It's not crazee beautiful if it isnt blood sweat and tears to make!!!! Gorgeous...
That is gorgeous! Actually got curious about this stitch and I watched a YouTube video on how to do it. Now I understand the frustration!! But it looks like a nice challenge, might try it
Yes, but you now have two sweaters for the "price" of one. If you seamed it well (or it is a seamless pattern) you should be able to reverse in and wear it with the pink as the dominant color and white as background.
World’s Largest Roly-Poly Bug
I want this sitting next to me while I watch TV. Also, very kind of the people on some of these reddit posts to leave the patterns. I cannot knit, but I may mosey on over the crochet board and see what kind of projects they have that I would never finish.
The bug's name is Roland and "Huge & Huggable Mochimochi: 20 Supersized Patterns for Big Knitted Friends" book by Anna Hrachovec is where the pattern is.
https://www.amazon.com/Random-House-Huge-Huggable-Mochimochi/dp/0385344570 He is in this book.
“Lastly, if you want to be able to design your own knits, knit without a pattern, or adjust existing patterns, you need to learn a little bit of knitting math,” Ida said and added that “In knitting there is always a formula for everything.”
“For example, there are only a handful of ways to construct a sweater or sock. When you learn the steps and math behind a certain construction method, you can easily knit items without a pattern. For instance, a formula for sock toe decreases could be something like decrease every other row until approximately 50% of the stitches are remaining, then decrease every row until 30% of the stitches are remaining, graft the toe,” Ida concluded.
After The Dark Year We Had, I Wanted Some Light Going Into 2021
When I win the lottery, I'm going to commission this person to make another net of fairy lights like this... but one large enough to cover the ceiling of the living room!
same; (knitting with christmas lights, who thinks of that)
Load More Replies...I've Been Knitting For Years But Only Recently Learnt How To Knit In The Round. This Is One Of My First Projects And I Love Him!
I Finally Finished The Massive Star Wars Double Knit Scarf
These days, knitting has become a DIY fashion statement, community activity, educational device, and healthcare tool, so it’s fair to say it’s having a renaissance. “It's about bloody time," American-born textile artist Kaffe Fassett told The Globe And Mail.
However, he added that “It has taken people a long time to appreciate that sitting down and rubbing two sticks together with a string of yarn between them not only creates something beautiful and truly creative, but is one of the most life-enhancing activities around. It just makes you feel good."
Wish I Had A Better Camera And/Or More Light To Show Off This Dress! Vintage Pattern From 1958 (Slightly Modified)
Silver Tree Rings Blanket - A Wedding Gift For My Brother And His Husband
The World Is A Nightmare. Self Care Is Important. So With That And Lenny Kravitz In Mind, I Took To Youtube, Taught Myself To Knit, And Present To You All My 2nd Ever Project!
If I wore this it would like a mouse wearing a human’s scarf. But Lenny wears it and he looks like a god/goddess just eluding style. Feel like he could wear anything and always look good.
The word you want is “exuding”. Personally I agree: eluding style.
Load More Replies...Obviously you are a natural! Safe to say, Lenny would be proud as you should be very proud of your work
In addition, knitting is back under the fashion radar too. Vogue has just released an article “Clingy, Stretchy, Meshy—This Spring Is All About Second Skin Dressing.” Turns out, due to the pandemic, we all grew accustomed to a more casual wardrobe. But designers and fashion aficionados are aware that the age of sweats is coming to its sunset.
So, “spring 2021’s knitwear and ready-to-wear trends offer an easy transition out of it,” writes Madeline Fass. According to her, the three new big knitwear trends are clingy sweats, mesh pieces and stretchy suits.
Knitted This Sweater For My Daughter
Wohoo, Raindrops from Tincanknit. In my Queue for 6 years. So Nice. I knitted it three times.
Ha! I've knit the FLAX sweater for 5 or 6 people now, from child to big adult. They're a great company.
Load More Replies...Awwww!!! This dad needs a bib! look at that cute face of love coming all over the place for her daughter!!
5 Years And 1200 Hexipuffs Later, My King Size Beekeeper’s Quilt Is Finally Finished!
And it must be seriously warm, too, with all that puff!
Load More Replies...That would be perfect for when the electricity went out, you'd be able to wrap it around yourself and be warm until it came on again. Eat some milk and cereal. It also looks like a weighted blanket too.
With A Face This Cute, How Could I Not Put Him On A Sweater!
Ma'am, you need to open a custom cat sweater Etsy shop TODAY.
We have 20 cats. We'd keep her in bus for an entire year!
Load More Replies...Bored Panda also talked to Nancy Queen, a knitting and crochet expert and book author who fell in love with knitting 20 years ago. Now, Nancy helps people with the same passion to improve and grow as knitters with her awesome “NobleKnits” project that provides knitting and crochet tips, inspiration, and tutorials to more than 300,000+ needle crafters online every month.
“A ball of string and two sticks is all you need to create fabric. You can knit sweaters, hats, toys, mittens, socks and so much more. My first project was a vest,” Nancy recounted. “I still remember how excited I was to meet my parents for lunch to show off the vest I had just completed and was wearing. I was beaming with more pride than a Girl Scout donning a sash full of badges.”
“Most knitters start with a skein of acrylic yarn from their local craft store. But once you get the hang of knitting, you’ll be amazed at the feel of a skein of silk, alpaca, cashmere, yak, or linen yarn in your hands. Each type of fiber has its own unique properties it brings to a completed knitted garment.” Nancy continued: “Imagine wrapping yourself in a shawl you knitted out of cashmere, a cropped top you created out of silk, or a beach cover-up you made out of linen. The possibilities of what you can create are endless.”
After 16 Months I Finally Finished This Blanket
Ooh, I wanna make this but with one rainbow sheep hidden in there. That’d be adorable!
Not that I have any talent for knitting, of course.
Load More Replies...I sheepishly admit 🐑🐏 I'll never be able to corral enough talent to manage this. Flock it all 😾
I Made This Amazing/Ridiculous Zebra Sweater From A Pattern From 1987!
Here you go! https://www.ravelry.com/projects/phoebemay/wild-stripes?hcb=1
Load More Replies...Aah, my mom knitted me an Elephant one when I was little, with the one sleeve the trunk. Mid 1980's.
To me that was not so long ago and this looks amazing keep the pattern too
Adorable Bears Wearing Hats. What Else Do You Need To Know?!
When asked why knitting has had a huge resurgence over the past years, Nancy said it’s mostly due to the fact we’ve been stuck at home. “People have been looking for ways to keep busy and challenged—knitting solves both those needs. You can knit while watching TV, on a Zoom call, hanging out with friends, waiting in a doctor’s office, or even at a sporting event.”
Nancy added that there are good reasons why celebs like Cara Delevigne, Krysten Ritter, Julia Roberts, and Dakota Fanning knit. “It’s a great way to relax, unwind, and make something cool with your own two hands. The act of knitting is very rhythmic, which helps control your breathing, so it provides many of the relaxation techniques also found in yoga,” she explained. “Not only that, if 2020 taught us anything, it’s that having hobbies and creating provide a sense of achievement while being good for your soul.”
I Made A Little Whale Today
So cute! I am seeing so many things that I'm sure would sell really well; this is definitely one of them.
Which One Of You Did This?
When your mum is worried that even the street signs will get cold😅😅
Load More Replies...I've seen the knit-graffitied poles, but it's the first time I've seen one with leaves. Nice!
Broadleaf Sweater In The Stunning Maple Trees Of Vancouver, Bc
You perfectly captured the spirit and coors of the area. And the design is GORGEOUS
Wahine ataahua, mahi ataahua! (Beautiful woman, beautiful work!)
ooh i love the pattern and the colour!
When asked if anyone can become a knitter, Nancy assured us it’s a hobby that anyone can do. “When my daughter was four years old, the Montessori school she was going to taught all the kids how to knit. So if four-year-olds can learn to knit, you can, too!”However, when it comes to becoming a good knitter, you’ll have to adopt several habits.
Here are some tips Nancy shared with us:“Tip #1 - Give yourself time to learn. As adults, we think if we don’t know how to do something in less than a minute, we’re not good at it and we should immediately quit. Stick with it.”
“Tip #2 - It’s okay to make mistakes. We live in a perfectionist world and think that nothing can have mistakes in it. Guess what, when you’re knitting, mistakes will happen. However, the beauty of making mistakes is that they help you understand the construction of the stitches and how to avoid making those same mistakes in the future.”
After Over Two Years Of Knitting, The Only Thing Left To Is Block My Persian Dreams!
WOW. The love and commitment in this blanket is clear and the colors are absolutely radiant! How did you manage to keep such smooth tension for two years?! I am in awe!
I've been working on this pattern a little at a time for years. So much blocking!
Where can I find the pattern? It's gorgeos and I need one!
Load More Replies...Quarantine Blanket Completed! Excited For How It Turned Out
This is a masterwork in stitch variety. All the cables alone must have taken forever but then all the other textural stitches?! I've been knitting for 14 years and I'm still trying to pick my jaw up off the floor. This is gorgeous!
I clicked on OP's Reddit link and she says its a slightly altered version of this pattern. https://freevintageknitting.com/afghan-patterns/coats142/isle-of-aran-afghan-pattern
Load More Replies...So Proud Of My Mom And Her Designs. “I Found My Art During The Pandemic” She Says
She just started knitted during the pandemic?? She is wildly talented!!
Yay! I started embroidery and wanted to felt but now I think I need to step up my art game.
“Tip #3 - Relax. If you’re learning to knit and you notice your stitches are getting so tight you can barely knit the next stitch, you’re either stressed or knitting too tightly or both. Your knitting should be able to glide smoothly across the needles so that you can easily knit the next row of stitches.”
“Tip #4 - Enjoy the process. When you learn to knit, you’ve given yourself the gift of a hobby you can do for the rest of your life.”
“Tip #5 - Have fun. Many people get into knitting and think they have to conquer everything there is to know about it. They look to see what others are making and try to one-up each other. But you know what? Knitting is not a competition. It’s a hobby meant to be enjoyed.”
It's Lesbian Visibility Day, So There's No Better Day Than Today To Share The Rainbow Shawls I Knit For Our Big Lesbian Wedding!
Congrats! From your flower crowns to shoes, I love the whole ensemble.
Beautiful couple, beautiful location, amazing shawls... Congratulations!
All The Mushrooms I Knit In The Past Year In One Picture
if you put this on your mantle piece there wouldn't be mushroom for pictures
Cool! I was obsessed with mushrooms afew years ago. The ones on the right look like Boletes, the middle ones are Morels, the left ones are Chantarels(probablyspelt this one wrong), the red ones are Fly agarics, but idk what the other ones are.
Knitted Monopoly Board Blanket
Next, the tokens? And then the chance and community cheat cards....wait, where will they go??
I Got Married Yesterday And I Made My Own Wedding Shawl!
Finished My Knitorious Rbg For The Tribute Kal
Actually it's not, it's the Knitorious RBG pattern by Park Williams
Load More Replies...May be a stupid question, but is there a zipper in the back? I can't imagine trying to get that over my head. Yarn doesn't stretch......does it?
Frog And Toad Are Done! Not Quite The Same As The Pattern But I Love Them
I saw a pattern online … it’s gone on my presents for Christmas list.
Load More Replies...Oh, I love these. They have a certain charm by not being obviously perfect.
I Knit A Giant Sock For My Sister!
the new snuggie. What a swell idea. When I saw this as a preview thumbnail, I thought it was a mistake gone too far to equal a joke. I can't seem to make a sock by knit or crochet so I've given up. I'm going to try again by making both at the same time. Whatever type of knitting that's called again.
Um ..no peep holes or are those tiny ones it? Very novel and great knitting skills
I Don’t Knit, But My Wife Is A Very Skilled Knitter. This Is Something We Made Together. One Is Trimmed In Fir, The Other In Cedar
These are so stylish and special all the better when created together.
Shawl Collar Cable Sweater Done!
Beautiful! Job well done! 😊❤🤗 Your model is very handsome as well! 😊
I always wanted one of these I saw a pattern and gaped..it was another language of the amazing knitters..
I'm so jealous. I must knit myself into a corner. And finish what I'm working on.
After Nearly 2 Months, I've Finished Knitting My First Dress!
That only took you 2 months? Looks like it took a lot longer than that!
As Promised, Catch Of The Day Is Finished And Listed On Ravelry!
Summer Sorrel
Those colors and that design and the framing of this photo and the model. An utterly gorgeous image!
I want it! I also want to look as good in it as this gorgeous lady, but that's not going to happen.
Nimbus Sweater. It Is So Light You Can't Feel That You're Wearing It. Soft Like A Cloud, Cool Like A Rainy Weather
Oh I thought it a girl until I saw his beard!!!! A special sweater
I'm itching just looking at it. It pretty, but wool on bare skin.... I can't
Knit The Solar System For A 3 Year Old Who Just Discovered “Planets”. Used Scrap Yarn, No Pattern — Just Winged It. I’m Weirdly Proud And Want To Keep It
What a wonderful gift to give your child and a brilliant job at knitting 🧶
What an amazing collection. Any three year old will treasure these forever. I have friend who calls it yarn doodling - you're obviously very talented!
When You're Both Biologists And One Of You Knits
I must be tired because when I read "both," I assumed him and the tiny orange tree.
Love is love! If the tie-wearer is the biologist, that makes the orange tree the knitter. Impressive...
Load More Replies...Remind Me To Take This Off Next Time I Facetime My Mom. She Keeps Saying She Wants To Steal It
Someone with bad taste wouldn't want to steal it, that's who.
Load More Replies...I do not blame her do you? So stylish wonderful colours cool design
My Wednesday Addams Sweater
It's creepy and it's kooky; mysterious and spooky; it's altogether ooky...neat, sweet, petite. Should be in a museum, so people'll come to see 'em. 😻
Listen, I Love To Pose Nicely When Trying To Photograph My Fos, But I Had To Do Something To Fully Show The Drama Of These Sleeves
I have a summer cotton blouse with sleeves like that! I shall wear it tomorrow.
Channeling My Inner Bernie
I Made A Fairly Accurate Baseball
Yes, you did. And it looks great! That baseball is a home run!! ( had to say it!)
now it wont hurt when it lands on my head ;)
My Boyfriend's Grandma Knit These Super Thick Sweaters/Hats For Our Trip To Iceland. They Kept Us Warm And Cozy!
A Few Months Ago I Posted My Finished Skirt For My Wedding Dress. Y’all Asked To See The Finished Project, So Here It Is! This Is A Knitting And Sewing Project Combined
School Has Been Cancelled For The Last 12 Days. I May Not Finish 8th Grade But I Finished My First Blanket!
This is great! I would love to make it. Do you know where I can get the pattern?
The people who write the posts won't necessarily see this page, because they are taken from Reddit etc. But I looked at the link and the OP linked the pattern >> https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/fishermans-throw
Load More Replies...For All Those "I Did This In 3 Minutes", These Socks Took Me 40 Days, With No Other Projects, In Lockdown. And I'm Super Proud
It Took Me Over 160 Hours, But I Finished Knitting My Brother's Christmas Present This Morning!
From the original post: Is it knitted or crocheted? It's knitted. I used size 13 needles, bernat blanket yarn, and garter stitch all the way. I knitted the blanket in 75 separate horizontal strips, each made of 75 "pixels". Each pixel consists of 3 stitches and 4 rows of knitting. Then I sewed all 75 strips together using a mattress stitch.
Load More Replies...Made A Sweater For Myself
Well Here It Is: 2020's Weather. 3m, 732 Rows (2 Rows=1 Day), 70,368 Stitches, 1kg Of Wool. My Small World And I Have Sat Together Every Day; I Witnessed Its Dramas And Joys And It Witnessed Mine. Now I Get To See This Cycle Play Out All Over Again, All New. What A Gift That Is
Wow, a very cool concept , a weather scarf. Good choice in colors too.
Asked My Grandma For One, But She's Too Kind And Knit Me Two
Can’t Wait For It To Be Cool Enough To Wear My Lush Lemonade Socks!
I Love Basquiat Art And I Created A Sweater Based On His Paintings
[fo] Just Some Kitty Socks I Knitted This Week
I generally hate wearing socks, but if they teamed up with the paw bottoms from above, I'd flaunt these cool cats on the regular
It Took Four Years And A Quarantine For Me To Get Around To Finishing This Vintage Sweater Kit
Nordic Sweater My Mom Designed. Thought I'd Share
My Finished Wool Sweater And I Will Just Wait For Winter Now
I Made The Botanical Yoke, And I May Never Get Over It
If Only I Didn't Have To Take It Off To Finish The Last Sleeve
I love this style of sleeve, but I don't know what to call them so I never know what to look for. Any ideas?
Found it! https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/fine-line-sweater
Load More Replies...Finally Finished My Winnie The Pooh Baby Blanket
My Sister Has The Most Vibrant Personality, So I Made Her A Sweater To Match!
I Knit My Graduation Cap Decoration!
Im A Personal Believer The Right Way To Pose With Fo Socks Are Like A Boy Posing With A Fish He Caught
My First Coordinating Hat/Mittens Set!
I Saw The Adorable Knit Fox Stole, And Thought "You Know What Would Be Even Cuter? A Possum!" I Was Wrong
I know possums pretend to be dead....not sure that they pretend that they cough out their guts to do this.
Sorry, we're out of cute and pretty. Still got some unique, quirky and distinctive in stock, though.
I Made A Jumper For Sitting On The Beach On A Chilly Evening Once This Is All Over
I don't think I have ever upvoted this much on a post before - what a wide range of talent, skill and ideas. Amazing!
Those are some really astonishing knitting projects there. Every time l see a lovely sweater or dress l feel the urge to knit the respective sweater or dress. But then l take a look at all the UFOs (unfinished objects) in my room and think to myself: well, finish them first before you start a new one! But on the other hand: give me those patterns so that l can start a new knitting project and go shopping for some fancy yarns! I don’t care if those UFOs a piling up in my room. Anyone else with the same kind of ‘addiction’?
Read Barbara Sher's "Refuse to choose"... it will change your life... ;)
Load More Replies...My daughter taught herself to knit last year from watching YouTube tutorials. She made a king size blanket for me and my husbands xmas present as her first project. It's beautiful warm and heavy. She's made two more so far.
Youtube is just amazing for these types of things. I am so jealous that I didnt have it when I grew up.
Load More Replies...I was so proud I learned to crochet in lockdown, and now am thinking, dang, I didn't even *try* anything difficult! These are jaw-dropping amazing. I salute them ALL.
So awesome! This reminded me that I had two people promise me knitted baby blankets when I was pregnant...my son is 11 years old now and still no blankets lol!
I freaking love these posts, more of these and less am I the asshole ones please!!
I don't think I have ever upvoted this much on a post before - what a wide range of talent, skill and ideas. Amazing!
Those are some really astonishing knitting projects there. Every time l see a lovely sweater or dress l feel the urge to knit the respective sweater or dress. But then l take a look at all the UFOs (unfinished objects) in my room and think to myself: well, finish them first before you start a new one! But on the other hand: give me those patterns so that l can start a new knitting project and go shopping for some fancy yarns! I don’t care if those UFOs a piling up in my room. Anyone else with the same kind of ‘addiction’?
Read Barbara Sher's "Refuse to choose"... it will change your life... ;)
Load More Replies...My daughter taught herself to knit last year from watching YouTube tutorials. She made a king size blanket for me and my husbands xmas present as her first project. It's beautiful warm and heavy. She's made two more so far.
Youtube is just amazing for these types of things. I am so jealous that I didnt have it when I grew up.
Load More Replies...I was so proud I learned to crochet in lockdown, and now am thinking, dang, I didn't even *try* anything difficult! These are jaw-dropping amazing. I salute them ALL.
So awesome! This reminded me that I had two people promise me knitted baby blankets when I was pregnant...my son is 11 years old now and still no blankets lol!
I freaking love these posts, more of these and less am I the asshole ones please!!
