Being Picked Last In Gym Class Hurts, But Here Are 34 Adult Situations That Are As Painful
Whether your school years are long gone by now or you are still studying, I think most of us know what it means and how it feels to be picked last in gym class. If we don’t know the actual feeling as we may have never been in such a situation - well, it’s not hard to imagine.
However, when you don’t need to avoid gym classes anymore, there appear to be many different situations that make you feel very similar. And unfortunately, there are a lot. For example, being one of two people who order a taxi and realizing that everyone else wants to go with that other person. Or finding out that your friends have a group chat in which you are not included. You understand the feeling.
Recently, one Reddit user popped the question online, asking folks to share what is the adult version of being picked last in gym class. The thread gained a lot of attention and different opinions, so scroll through and share your thoughts below!
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Being well liked but never reached out to.
If you don't keep up the effort, everyone just fades away.
Finding out your co-workers are all going out for drinks that you are not invited to.
Basically you do something that everyone has a problem with for some reason and then someone else does the same thing and people are fine with it.
Trying to share an idea in a work meeting but no one acknowledges that you’re trying to speak.
You have to be vocal and persistent in these settings. If you are a shrinking violet, you WILL get drowned out.
Walking behind the group on the sidewalk because there’s no room for you to be next to them
Sidewalks are meant to be shared. Don't be that selfish group.
When the group chat goes silent after you suggest something.
Or even better (worse), when you find out there's another, identical group chat, just without you in it ...
That's when the other people made a different group chat to talk about that suggestion.
And then you realize 1 month later they formed a new all - 1 groupchat...
Watching people plan an event in the same room as you but not inviting you
That sure makes it easier than coming up with an excuse as to why I can't attend.
Seeing everybody in the office return from a lunch outing you were never told about.
And the even worse flip side, arriving at the location for a group outing, and nobody else shows up because it was cancelled but nobody told you.
Being part of a critical department in your company, but never getting invited when the rest of the company caters lunch. They sure don't hesitate to call when their equipment goes down.
being invited to a social event but not really being completely welcome. like, everyone is nice to you but it feels like it’s out of obligation.
When your best friend mentions their best friend and it isn't you
That's why I don't have a best friend. I have really great friends but I can choose just one person to be the best it's not fair. Either everyone is my best friend or everyone is a good friend
When you ask someone if they want to do something on a certain day and they go
“Yes but I’ll let you know if something else props up”
As in “I will but only as a last resort in case someone even better wants to hang out”
In a group chat everyone wishing the respective birthday girl "Happy Birthday" and forgetting yours three years in a row!
I've had mutual friends tell my twin happy birthday and not me, fully aware we are twins and have known the person for years
Last resort friend because someone is bored and no one else will hang with them
Everyone knows about something important, and you're the last to find out.
I knew stuff had been going on but no one told me anything. I didn't pry because I thought it was insensitive to do so. A year later I found out from a mutual friend that my friends ex had been making death threats. I'm pretty sure I could've at least supported her in that time
Your supervisor quit
You weren’t considered for promotion because “something something HR says we’ve got to hire someone from outside”
You get asked to train the new hire to be your supervisor
No one laughing at your joke and someone repeats it and everyone laughs. Yeah pretty hurt about it lol
I went to my son’s Halloween class party last year and all the moms stood in the complete opposite corner of the room and I sat by myself the whole time. No one said a word to me and I’m not sure why. That one kinda stung.
This one actually sounds like a "you" problem. You chose to sit opposite of everyone, and you expected them to come to you.
Being turned down for a job you’re very qualified for and you can tell that it’s because they just don’t like your personality or style or don’t think you’ll fit in.
This always happens to me with promotions. They always end up hiring a buddy or family member that they end up having to let go...
Not being in a group chat.
I had one friend group who made a group chat specifically to plan a surprise birthday party. I couldn't make it to the party so I wast part of the chat which was fine. A few weeks later the conversation in the group chat I was on with the same people had almost gone silent. Then someone told me that the people in the party group chat had added the.person they were throwing the party for after the event and that was pretty much the main group chat now. So basically instead of removing me from a group chat they just made a new one and abandoned the one I was on
Out of all the people at work doing very little/ nothing at all, and being the only person to get a very s**t task, while the others have no tasks assigned. That's me.
Bringing in some homemade treat for the office to share, and nobody eats it.
Awkward. But tbh, lots of people don't like to eat homemade foods in these settings anymore due to not knowing the environment or conditions in which they were made. I'm a little skittish of this myself these days.
Having your tinder date leave the bar with someone else
Being invited to a party as an afterthought
Once got my older cousin to get some adult beverages for a party for a "friend" of mine. Set it up, got the order delivered to my place and he comes by to load it up in his car. We have a short conversation and he was on his way. The only real friend I had at the party asked why I wasn't there several hours later, well guess who was never invited. That one made me cry a little that night alone in my room. I was young and naive and was hoping that the invitation would come at some point.
Getting skipped when someone brings a birthday card for everyone to sign. Not just once, every time. I worked there long enough that I knew the birthday person way better than the person bringing around the card to be signed.
Then of course there is the "hey let's order pizza" day but they don't ask if you want to go in on it.
The best one is when someone tell you about something that happened and you were there and saw it yourself. You say I know I saw it. Their response "You were there?" Yes. I was standing right next to you.
Texting all your friends merry Christmas and not a single one of them texting it to you first.
Being dared to go home, while playing Truth or Dare!
Getting the mail and finding wedding invitations for all of your roommates, but not for you, for a friend you all knew from college the year before.
Having two ubers to get somewhere, being someone who ordered one of the Uber, and everyone obviously wanting to ride with the other person.
I'd be headed in the other direction, or home. Pick some different "everyones".
Every year, my father and stepmother host Christmas dinner. We all get assigned something: appetizer, desert, sides, etc. I always get assigned cheese. I have never, in my entire life, enjoyed cheese. And I'm a pretty good cook (nothing special, but just sayin' I could put something together).
Every year, they give me f**king cheese. And they bring their own, so why bother even giving me cheese?
Show up with a bottle of your favorite booze. Pour yourself a glass, smile, and say, "cheese!"
Going to the bathroom with the girls and then they leave you in there alone hahahahaha
Some of these just sound like straight FOMO. But you can't expect to be a part of everything. You are not the center of the world. People's lives don't revolve around you. I have good friends that do stuff without me. That's perfectly fine. I've done stuff without other friends, too. Can't involve everyone everytime. And sometimes you have to take the initiative, if you want to do something. I understand it is hard sometimes/all the time. I'm an introvert, so I understand. And I know how much rejection hurts. It causes me to shy away from doing things sometimes. But you can't expect people to put in the effort if you are not willing to do the same. And you can't be a part of everything all the time.
Yeah honestly I’ve known people who were not well-liked for legitimate reasons (they’re a jerk/racist/make other people uncomfortable, etc) and I’ve heard them make a lot of the arguments presented in this post. It’s not always everyone else’s fault if they don’t enjoy your company! But sometimes you can be a lovely person but introverted just stay in the corner without h letting anyone else get a chance to get to know you. Human interaction is annoying and complicated, and we all deserve friends, but you can’t always just wait for friends to just happen sadly :(
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When those things happened to me, with hindsight I often realized that I kinda was annoying or unfriendly that time.
If this kinda thing consistently happens to you perhaps look within. These kind of things happen to everyone once in a while but I have worked with people that were purposely not told about get togethers etc. but it was never because they were too shy or introverted or awkward. If you have terrible hygiene or constantly creep on people or insult others nobody wants to be around you...those are the only scenarios I can see of this happening time after time with different groups of people in the adult world. There was one person that would never pay for themselves etc...sometimes there are reasons.
When I was struggling with depression, I felt unwelcomed or unliked, but it was probably mostly in my head. I watched this with a loved one as well, we'd go out to eat and he would complain that people were giving him dirty looks or being rude - nope, most people aren't paying attention to you, and even if they are, don't base your self worth on their opinions
Here’s one: supporting your friend during the long breakup on daily basis. Planning to see each other when he comes to town. Rescheduling my day so we can spend time together, calling him to check how the train ride is going only to find out he is not coming because he made plans plans with his new boyfriend. Didn’t bother to tell me. After this happened more than once I bailed out.
Not once in any of these stories did anyone say, "Hey, maybe I'm the problem!"
Well, most were one-liners, not deep, introspective essays, so...
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Having a friend confide their drama to you and say "I could never tell my real friends about this."
Wow, just....wow. What are you, then, a mannequin?
Load More Replies... So many pathetic, whinging, needy people. Maybe there's a very good reason others don't you around.
Hell has no fury like a Bored Panda Admin that decides it doesn't like you.
If you aren't included, maybe there is a reason, maybe you should seek the answer from within.
A lot of self indulgent whining here IMO. If people are treating you like s**t, there is a reason and you need to figure out what it is. Either some aspect of your personality is off putting and you need to reflect on how you land on people, or the people are a bunch of mean girls and why would you want them as friends anyway? Boo hoo.
Some of these just sound like straight FOMO. But you can't expect to be a part of everything. You are not the center of the world. People's lives don't revolve around you. I have good friends that do stuff without me. That's perfectly fine. I've done stuff without other friends, too. Can't involve everyone everytime. And sometimes you have to take the initiative, if you want to do something. I understand it is hard sometimes/all the time. I'm an introvert, so I understand. And I know how much rejection hurts. It causes me to shy away from doing things sometimes. But you can't expect people to put in the effort if you are not willing to do the same. And you can't be a part of everything all the time.
Yeah honestly I’ve known people who were not well-liked for legitimate reasons (they’re a jerk/racist/make other people uncomfortable, etc) and I’ve heard them make a lot of the arguments presented in this post. It’s not always everyone else’s fault if they don’t enjoy your company! But sometimes you can be a lovely person but introverted just stay in the corner without h letting anyone else get a chance to get to know you. Human interaction is annoying and complicated, and we all deserve friends, but you can’t always just wait for friends to just happen sadly :(
Load More Replies... When those things happened to me, with hindsight I often realized that I kinda was annoying or unfriendly that time.
If this kinda thing consistently happens to you perhaps look within. These kind of things happen to everyone once in a while but I have worked with people that were purposely not told about get togethers etc. but it was never because they were too shy or introverted or awkward. If you have terrible hygiene or constantly creep on people or insult others nobody wants to be around you...those are the only scenarios I can see of this happening time after time with different groups of people in the adult world. There was one person that would never pay for themselves etc...sometimes there are reasons.
When I was struggling with depression, I felt unwelcomed or unliked, but it was probably mostly in my head. I watched this with a loved one as well, we'd go out to eat and he would complain that people were giving him dirty looks or being rude - nope, most people aren't paying attention to you, and even if they are, don't base your self worth on their opinions
Here’s one: supporting your friend during the long breakup on daily basis. Planning to see each other when he comes to town. Rescheduling my day so we can spend time together, calling him to check how the train ride is going only to find out he is not coming because he made plans plans with his new boyfriend. Didn’t bother to tell me. After this happened more than once I bailed out.
Not once in any of these stories did anyone say, "Hey, maybe I'm the problem!"
Well, most were one-liners, not deep, introspective essays, so...
Load More Replies... Having a friend confide their drama to you and say "I could never tell my real friends about this."
Wow, just....wow. What are you, then, a mannequin?
Load More Replies... So many pathetic, whinging, needy people. Maybe there's a very good reason others don't you around.
Hell has no fury like a Bored Panda Admin that decides it doesn't like you.
If you aren't included, maybe there is a reason, maybe you should seek the answer from within.
A lot of self indulgent whining here IMO. If people are treating you like s**t, there is a reason and you need to figure out what it is. Either some aspect of your personality is off putting and you need to reflect on how you land on people, or the people are a bunch of mean girls and why would you want them as friends anyway? Boo hoo.
