Guy Dumps GF After No Longer Being Attracted To Her, Feels Betrayed Once She Loses Weight
Interview With Author
Trying to lose weight without success can be a nightmare, especially if you feel like your quality of life and your relationships are suffering. However, it can come as a massive relief when you finally figure out exactly what was causing your health issues.
One anonymous redditor shared a very sensitive story with the supportive r/TrueOffMyChest online community. She opened up about how her ex, who left her because he no longer felt attracted to her, is now upset that she’s solved a health issue and lost weight. Read on for the full story.
Bored Panda got in touch with the author of the story, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. She told us just how much her life changed for the better once she figured out what was behind her health problems. She also shared her thoughts on why her ex reacted the way that he did and what advice she’d give anyone who struggles to lose weight. You’ll find our candid interview with her below.
Rapidly gaining weight and being unable to figure out the reasons behind it can be very scary and extremely frustrating
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One woman opened up about how her ex had a very immature reaction after she finally figured out her health problem and lost weight
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“I had been trying to lose the weight way before he left, and he knew that, so why would he be angry I succeeded?”
The author of the viral story told Bored Panda that life is great now compared to when she was struggling with losing weight.
“It’s strange, but when I was with him, I only ever had time for him and for trying to figure out my health,” the OP shared with us. “Now, I go out with friends. I am not embarrassed to eat in public or to dress in clothes that fit instead of oversized. My energy is so much higher, and I feel like a whole new woman, honestly.”
Bored Panda asked the author why she thinks her boyfriend reacted in such a negative way to her losing weight instead of being happy for her. She told us that she was not entirely sure.
“Some people insinuated he felt entitled to my thinner body. Others said that he had tied his self-worth to my weight and losing it only after he left hurt him. What I will say in response to that is that I had been trying to lose the weight way before he left, and he knew that, so why would he be angry I succeeded?” she said that her ex’s reaction angered her.
According to the author, if you’re struggling to lose weight, then you should definitely talk to your doctor. Your particular issues may be related to the medication you’re taking or something linked to your general health and lifestyle.
“I had never been overweight in my life before that period of time, and it was horrific for me,” the OP opened up about her experience. She was very honest: her weight gain happened so fast that she felt like her life was in danger.
“Instead of internalizing that and thinking I was a lazy hog, maybe if I had gone to the doctor, I could have figured out the problem before I gained all the weight I did. For something so intrinsically tied to our health, I’ve been really thinking about how we separate the two and think of our weight as only a show of our willpower.”
A person’s weight has a huge impact on their health, but it doesn’t show the complete picture
The reality is that someone who is overweight or obese lives a lower quality of life and is more susceptible to illness and injury than someone with a healthy weight. This does not mean that someone bigger cannot be healthy or energetic. Nor does it mean that someone’s weight is the only important factor: you need to look at the full picture. However, once a certain weight threshold is crossed, you should be aware that you may massively increase the risk of health problems.
According to the CDC, someone who is overweight has a body mass index (BMI) of 25 or higher. Meanwhile, someone who is obese has a BMI of 30 or more. A person’s BMI is calculated using their height and weight.
Of course, these are general guidelines and won’t tell you specifics about, say, someone’s body fat percentage composition or how (in)active they are in their day-to-day lives. If you genuinely want to know whether you’re at a healthy weight, you’ll probably have to talk to your doctor so that they can refer you to specialists who can run some in-depth tests.
The CDC reports that being overweight or obese raises the risk of all causes of death, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, coronary heart disease, stroke, breathing problems, many types of cancer, mental illness, body pain, and other serious conditions.
There are lots of different factors that potentially influence a person’s weight gain
Figuring out why you can’t lose weight can be really frustrating. Especially if you’ve been trying for a long time. If this is happening, your best course of action would be to talk to your doctor. They can take a look at all the things that you’ve been doing and give some objective feedback. Not only that, but they can offer you some advice that you might not have been able to find on your own.
Broadly speaking, you can gain weight for many reasons. You may be moving too little and burning too few calories. You may be eating too much food and consuming too many calories. You might be genetically predisposed to gaining weight, so what fitness and dietary advice works for others might not work (as) well for you.
There might be issues with your metabolism or a hormonal imbalance due to your lifestyle or what you’re consuming, from medication to alcohol, etc. Or you may be living a very stressful life, which impacts not only your hormones but your dietary habits.
Healthline suggests that if you feel that you’ve gained weight due to the birth control you’re using, you may want to give it some time to see if it’s temporary. “It’s possible you’ll experience a slight increase in weight immediately after beginning birth control. This is often the result of water retention, not actual fat gain.”
Aside from that, you may want to increase the frequency of exercise or embrace a healthier diet. Alternatively, you may want to consider changing your birth control. Your doctor should be able to advise you there.
The author of the story shared some additional information in the comments of her post
Most internet users who read the story were wildly supportive of the woman
However, some readers had a completely warped understanding of what happened
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I don't even know how you can possibly blame OP. It's well-known that birth-control pills can wreak havoc with a woman's hormones and can lead to weight gain. I'm surprised that when they were still a couple, they didn't explore this possibility. Perhaps out of fear the male partner had to become responsible for birth-control? This, by the way, just goes to show that weight gain or weight loss is never straightforward for anyone. Therefore, be careful in your judgement about weight loss and weight-gain. Oh, before I forget, I admire OP for not letting anyone b******t her.
Those last 2 comments are obviously from incels who live in their mom's basement and refer to women as "females". Gross.
**Why is that my problem?** It isn’t. Good riddance to that shallow, self-absorbed douchecanoe.
Sooo....she was on birth control so HE didn't have to, her body spiraled down and he left and blocked her? Yeah, he can pound sand and those dudes saying it's something you can control can pound even harder.
I've also felt that , when someone pushes you too much, you get worse instead of better. My husband pushes me for self improvement a lot. To be fair, I messes up and is not productive many a times. It all started downhill once I developed depression. But him telling daily (even though indirectly) that I'm a useless pos has not done any good. It's just pulling me down and increasing my risk of relapse. Ive felt at times that, if he just let me be my self, I might feel and do better
You need to tell him to back off. That s**t gets in your head, and is always there saying you're not good enough. How does he self improve? Tell him he needs to improve by being an understanding, supportive husband instead of a broken record.
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The lack of basic human decency on his end. If you got sick or crippled he would have left then too.
So it was a medical issue an not a diet issue and bf scrammed and blocked her. She finds out oh the pill did this when I stopped it so that's why I was holding the weight. Not because I didn't try to lose it. I just lost bf. Then the pill. Then the bf. Now bf wants what he can't have an thinks I lost it to spite him. I would have told the friend not that it matters but it was medical and he needs to get over himself as I'm over him. Mic drop a still block. Good for her. Two weights lost.
Her statement of something along the lines of 'tbf I gained the weight etc.' nah that's his problem. He bailed because he's a vain a*s. He definitely encouraged the the self shaming🤢
I feel like that was unclear: I feel angry when I hear someone is in a position that they feel they have to apologize for something out of their control.
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Typical cisgender heterosexual male behaviour. If he doesn't want to screw her, he doesn't want to see her. Only when she's "hot" is he interested.
This is unfortunately very typical when two 'fit' people get together. Unfortunately, most men are completely unaware of how female hormones react to weight. Birth control can absolutely wreak havoc with your system, and most men are brainwashed into believing that women are just tiny men and if they are struggling to lose weight they are simply not trying hard enough. This man would never have understood you. He never would have any compassion for how your body worked. And he absolutely would do this again if your hormones changed, and I hate to break it to you but they will. Whether through pregnancy or menopause, almost 90% of women will experience a major hormonal problem in their lifetime. If someone will leave you over it, you're better off without them.
I love all the butthurt guys in the comments telling on themselves. Making her weight loss effort and success allllll about them. Good for her.
I lost 150 pounds. His name was John. 😁 Seriously though. Sounds like a case of "sour grapes".. he needs to move on and if he doesn't, can we say restraining order boys and girls? He sounds uber manipulative and she's better off without him.
I wouldn't normally say this, but it sounds like she should talk to him she should pick her words carefully and should make him feel like it was 100% his fault for being inadequate petty selfish and a terrible person gaslight the s**t out of that bastard. He wants to do that to her, smack him down hard and aim to break him. So he treat anyone else he's with in the future better.
I wanna punch the last two guys who commented. And probably also the boyfriend. Ew.
Thanks everyone for your kind words. This is a new experience for me. Sharing something with people whom I don't know and getting so much support . As of now, I've accepted that I won't have an emotionally supportive husband. At places where non abusive husbands are a rarity, I can't complain much. I'm trying to improve myself, and at the same time ,trying to be kinder to myself. My husband has got problems with understanding others as well as his own emotions. He had very traumatic childhood too. He is also working on it and taking baby steps. I hope, even if it takes a long time, I'll be able to find happiness and get this disease under control. Once again thanks to everyone. This means a lot to me
Do you have a circle of female friends irl that you can confide in and lean on for support?
Load More Replies... He felt betrayed? Angry with himself, more like, but some people have yet to learn that they're responsible for their own feelings and actions.
Don't let him consume one more minute of your time. He wasn't going to love you anyway, either way. I went thru the same thing except I fought to lose the weight before. He still could not be nice, just nice to me. So I dumped him. He about lost it. Some people just think more highly of themselves than others do.
It took trying 5 different birth control pills to find what worked for my body. It was months at a time to see side effects. Some people need to try even more, which can take years to find the right one. Others might not be able to take it at all. If he cared, he should've recommended to go to the doctor. Even asking if he could go for support could have helped
It's definitely not perfect, but it beats having an unwanted parasite growing inside you.
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Good for her getting rid of that prick, but losing 40-50 kg / 100 lbs in 'months' isn't healthy either - not in terms of what she did but how her body responded. I'd still check with the GP what's going on.
Idk my brother went off of a certain medication and lost over 100 pds in a few months. A lot of medications just seem to wreak havoc on your metabolism.
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The title of the article is very clear as to its content. Nobody forced you to read anything.
Load More Replies... I don't even know how you can possibly blame OP. It's well-known that birth-control pills can wreak havoc with a woman's hormones and can lead to weight gain. I'm surprised that when they were still a couple, they didn't explore this possibility. Perhaps out of fear the male partner had to become responsible for birth-control? This, by the way, just goes to show that weight gain or weight loss is never straightforward for anyone. Therefore, be careful in your judgement about weight loss and weight-gain. Oh, before I forget, I admire OP for not letting anyone b******t her.
Those last 2 comments are obviously from incels who live in their mom's basement and refer to women as "females". Gross.
**Why is that my problem?** It isn’t. Good riddance to that shallow, self-absorbed douchecanoe.
Sooo....she was on birth control so HE didn't have to, her body spiraled down and he left and blocked her? Yeah, he can pound sand and those dudes saying it's something you can control can pound even harder.
I've also felt that , when someone pushes you too much, you get worse instead of better. My husband pushes me for self improvement a lot. To be fair, I messes up and is not productive many a times. It all started downhill once I developed depression. But him telling daily (even though indirectly) that I'm a useless pos has not done any good. It's just pulling me down and increasing my risk of relapse. Ive felt at times that, if he just let me be my self, I might feel and do better
You need to tell him to back off. That s**t gets in your head, and is always there saying you're not good enough. How does he self improve? Tell him he needs to improve by being an understanding, supportive husband instead of a broken record.
Load More Replies... The lack of basic human decency on his end. If you got sick or crippled he would have left then too.
So it was a medical issue an not a diet issue and bf scrammed and blocked her. She finds out oh the pill did this when I stopped it so that's why I was holding the weight. Not because I didn't try to lose it. I just lost bf. Then the pill. Then the bf. Now bf wants what he can't have an thinks I lost it to spite him. I would have told the friend not that it matters but it was medical and he needs to get over himself as I'm over him. Mic drop a still block. Good for her. Two weights lost.
Her statement of something along the lines of 'tbf I gained the weight etc.' nah that's his problem. He bailed because he's a vain a*s. He definitely encouraged the the self shaming🤢
I feel like that was unclear: I feel angry when I hear someone is in a position that they feel they have to apologize for something out of their control.
Load More Replies... Typical cisgender heterosexual male behaviour. If he doesn't want to screw her, he doesn't want to see her. Only when she's "hot" is he interested.
This is unfortunately very typical when two 'fit' people get together. Unfortunately, most men are completely unaware of how female hormones react to weight. Birth control can absolutely wreak havoc with your system, and most men are brainwashed into believing that women are just tiny men and if they are struggling to lose weight they are simply not trying hard enough. This man would never have understood you. He never would have any compassion for how your body worked. And he absolutely would do this again if your hormones changed, and I hate to break it to you but they will. Whether through pregnancy or menopause, almost 90% of women will experience a major hormonal problem in their lifetime. If someone will leave you over it, you're better off without them.
I love all the butthurt guys in the comments telling on themselves. Making her weight loss effort and success allllll about them. Good for her.
I lost 150 pounds. His name was John. 😁 Seriously though. Sounds like a case of "sour grapes".. he needs to move on and if he doesn't, can we say restraining order boys and girls? He sounds uber manipulative and she's better off without him.
I wouldn't normally say this, but it sounds like she should talk to him she should pick her words carefully and should make him feel like it was 100% his fault for being inadequate petty selfish and a terrible person gaslight the s**t out of that bastard. He wants to do that to her, smack him down hard and aim to break him. So he treat anyone else he's with in the future better.
I wanna punch the last two guys who commented. And probably also the boyfriend. Ew.
Thanks everyone for your kind words. This is a new experience for me. Sharing something with people whom I don't know and getting so much support . As of now, I've accepted that I won't have an emotionally supportive husband. At places where non abusive husbands are a rarity, I can't complain much. I'm trying to improve myself, and at the same time ,trying to be kinder to myself. My husband has got problems with understanding others as well as his own emotions. He had very traumatic childhood too. He is also working on it and taking baby steps. I hope, even if it takes a long time, I'll be able to find happiness and get this disease under control. Once again thanks to everyone. This means a lot to me
Do you have a circle of female friends irl that you can confide in and lean on for support?
Load More Replies... He felt betrayed? Angry with himself, more like, but some people have yet to learn that they're responsible for their own feelings and actions.
Don't let him consume one more minute of your time. He wasn't going to love you anyway, either way. I went thru the same thing except I fought to lose the weight before. He still could not be nice, just nice to me. So I dumped him. He about lost it. Some people just think more highly of themselves than others do.
It took trying 5 different birth control pills to find what worked for my body. It was months at a time to see side effects. Some people need to try even more, which can take years to find the right one. Others might not be able to take it at all. If he cared, he should've recommended to go to the doctor. Even asking if he could go for support could have helped
It's definitely not perfect, but it beats having an unwanted parasite growing inside you.
Load More Replies... Good for her getting rid of that prick, but losing 40-50 kg / 100 lbs in 'months' isn't healthy either - not in terms of what she did but how her body responded. I'd still check with the GP what's going on.
Idk my brother went off of a certain medication and lost over 100 pds in a few months. A lot of medications just seem to wreak havoc on your metabolism.
Load More Replies... The title of the article is very clear as to its content. Nobody forced you to read anything.
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