Guy Turns To The Internet After His Pregnant Wife Suddenly Disappears From The Airport And Texts Him To Never Look For Her
You never know what the other person is truly thinking, even when it’s your better half. Neither did the Reddit user Enclosed_Box, when his wife decided to flee right before a flight and leave him in the airport alone and confused.
The heartbroken man tried making sense of it all and contacting his pregnant wife. She eventually replied, but the message raised more questions than it provided answers. The guy, looking for some sympathy, poured his heart out to the ‘True Off My Chest’ community, where his post evoked controversial opinions.
A man was left confused after his pregnant wife abandoned him at the airport
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He tried getting in touch with her to find some explanation to the situation
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Eventually, she got back to him with one message, raising even more questions
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OP’s relationship coming to an end is unfortunate as it is, yet to make matters worse, his wife left the already baffled guy over a text message. According to Pew Research Center, only 14% of Americans think it’s acceptable to break up with someone over a text. The vast majority (97%) agree that ending a romantic relationship should be done face to face.
Breaking up in person allows the couple to talk it out if needed. When the end of a relationship is sudden and unexpected, the person with a broken heart might have quite a few unanswered questions, which prevent them from getting closure. Social psychologist Arie W. Kruglanski defined it as “a desire for definite knowledge on some issue”. When it comes to relationships, lack of closure might make it difficult to end the chapter and move on, let alone start a new relationship.
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Another distressing factor in the OP’s case was his wife’s pregnancy. By ending their relationship and disappearing at the airport, she cut his ties with the unborn child as well. Pregnancy might have had a strong role in the situation, too, as it might be a joyous yet difficult time for any couple. During that time, women feel a strong sense of responsibility for the well-being of both—herself and the baby. In addition to that, hormonal changes affect their emotions as well, and make it completely normal to feel more vulnerable and anxious during pregnancy. It might make the woman look at situations and relationships in a different light, whether there is a basis for worry or not.
The OP answered some commonly asked questions in the edits
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He then responded to some of the comments, as the community members tried to figure out what could have happened
If this guy is really innocent, I feel very sorry for him. *However*, no abusive partner ever describes themself as an abusive partner. I was in a relationship with someone who was extremely emotionally abusive, but he was sooo proud of himself that he "would never hit a woman like his stepfather did". Apparently he was under the impression that as long as he wasn't hitting me, treating me like s**t was just fine. Tbh a lot of the manipulative, please feel sorry for me, I am the victim here, I love her and I am so worried about her, language that OP uses reminds me way too much of my abusive ex. I find it very fishy.
Very sorry you can identify that through experience. You're right - So many things fit the pattern of what an abusive spouse would say. I wondered why they haven't looked at surveillance footage of her at the airport or leaving the airport. That would provide some answers right there. I can't imagine that airport police wouldn't take this seriously. Also, OP claims that "She was literally asking when we are going to have the next baby". 28 weeks pregnant and asking that? Unless she was using statements like that to lure him into a false sense of complacency, it just doesn't sound plausible.
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The last comment on the post seems pretty likely. With how quick and smooth her escape went, and the full cooperation of all of her family, this was very much planned ahead of time. Whatever her reasons, she needed out. I’m wondering if the airport police knew or realized what happened and were giving her more time to get away. (Honestly, I hope this is what’s going on and she is safe)
Now that you speak about airport police, can't they check up security cameras to see if she met with someone and their encounter looks or surprising or frightening to her or she looks whiling to go.
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This is 100% escape from an abuser. They all respond this way when the abused spouse leaves - drives them mad they lost control, go around telling everyone how perfect everything was and they don't understand, it came out of the blue etc, they'd never hurt them bla bla bla....exact same response from the abuser. Every time.
It could also be a case of avoiding local laws. in some countries, a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children to him.
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If this guy is really innocent, I feel very sorry for him. *However*, no abusive partner ever describes themself as an abusive partner. I was in a relationship with someone who was extremely emotionally abusive, but he was sooo proud of himself that he "would never hit a woman like his stepfather did". Apparently he was under the impression that as long as he wasn't hitting me, treating me like s**t was just fine. Tbh a lot of the manipulative, please feel sorry for me, I am the victim here, I love her and I am so worried about her, language that OP uses reminds me way too much of my abusive ex. I find it very fishy.
Very sorry you can identify that through experience. You're right - So many things fit the pattern of what an abusive spouse would say. I wondered why they haven't looked at surveillance footage of her at the airport or leaving the airport. That would provide some answers right there. I can't imagine that airport police wouldn't take this seriously. Also, OP claims that "She was literally asking when we are going to have the next baby". 28 weeks pregnant and asking that? Unless she was using statements like that to lure him into a false sense of complacency, it just doesn't sound plausible.
Load More Replies... The last comment on the post seems pretty likely. With how quick and smooth her escape went, and the full cooperation of all of her family, this was very much planned ahead of time. Whatever her reasons, she needed out. I’m wondering if the airport police knew or realized what happened and were giving her more time to get away. (Honestly, I hope this is what’s going on and she is safe)
Now that you speak about airport police, can't they check up security cameras to see if she met with someone and their encounter looks or surprising or frightening to her or she looks whiling to go.
Load More Replies... This is 100% escape from an abuser. They all respond this way when the abused spouse leaves - drives them mad they lost control, go around telling everyone how perfect everything was and they don't understand, it came out of the blue etc, they'd never hurt them bla bla bla....exact same response from the abuser. Every time.
It could also be a case of avoiding local laws. in some countries, a woman can't leave her husband without losing her children to him.
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